Hi guys. I lurk a lot, contribute occasionally. Just so you know who I am, I'm a thirty year old guy who's bedded 30-40 women (lost count), made out with probably ten times that.

At this point in my life, for where I'm at, I'm confident in my skills to be able to get what I need. I can get casual sex, with good-looking women. And if I decide I'm in a relationship mood, I know how to make that happen too, and I know what to look for.

I think I'm pretty realistic about myself, and about women. That being said, take all this with a grain of salt. It's just one guy's opinion.

Make this your new mantra: make it feel good for her.

And I don't mean sexually. Well, I sort of do. I mean OVERALL.

Women are just like men, in that we all want to feel good. We'll generally say "yes" to things that make us feel good, and "no" to things that make us feel bad.

Women, unlike men, are RE-active. They RE-act to opportunities put in front of them.

We, as men, are PRO-active. We CREATE our opportunities.

This is the yin and yang of men and women. They (women) will never be at a loss for companionship or sex. Even the most unappealing woman can still find a guy to be with. On the flipside, generally speaking, women are LIMITED in their ability to CREATE relationship opportunities. All they can do is say "yay" or "nay" to the opportunities in front of them. This is part of why they're so quick to get in and out of relationships (compared to us guys.)

What does this all mean for you?

Here's what it means: whatever you're trying to do, be it casual sex, relationship, whatever --

be dominant, and make it feel good for her.

That's your fucking mantra. You roll like that? It's incredibly easy to get laid.

Suit up, go to the bar, alone or with some friends. Do whatever you need to do to FEEL AWESOME in that moment. Then just go say hi to a cute girl. It doesn't even fucking matter what you say! Just have dominant, fun energy. Get a couple drinks in her (but no more!), and then trial close to get her back to your place. "Hey, let's go, I want to show you something cool."

Literally that's all it takes to pull a girl out of a venue. Grab her and and GO. They are submissive; IF IT FEELS GOOD, THEY WILL FOLLOW.

Have an easy excuse to go back to your place. Make sure your place isn't distractingly messy or smelly. But realistically? If you're dominant enough, it doesn't even matter. Pour a drink for each of you, put on some ambient breaks sort of music, and then just start making out. You can escalate directly to sex, and a lot of the time you'll get it. Just be smooth, fun, and outcome-oriented.

You'll see a lot of guys throw around the phrase, "Be outcome independent!"

Fuck that. It's a solid vibe if you're new to socializing with others. But beyond that? It's feel-good bullshit, and on some level, you know it is.

Here's the harsh and cold, yet massively EMPOWERING truth:

If you KNOW what you want, and GO FOR IT, YOU'LL GET IT.

Want to fuck a hot girl? GOOD. Make that your purpose. Go out with that intent. You'll fail a lot, sure! But a rock-solid resolve like that will PREVENT you from MISSING OPPORTUNITIES.

There were times in my life when I saw a girl I wanted, and said to myself, "I'm getting that girl tonight." Wasn't even a question. And each time, I did it. I made it happen. That was NOT outcome-independence. That was raw, desiring, "I WANT."

Harness that fucking feeling.

Get clear on what you want.

Do you want to be a massive extravert and socialize and be really well liked by everybody? Cool.

Do you want to have an awesome girlfriend? Cool.

Do you want to fuck a bunch of random bitches? Cool.

(By the way, FUCK all the white knighting and feminist bullshit: This is totally okay. This is who YOU ARE as a man. Even if you have the world's best girlfriend possible, if a hot piece of ass walks by, you're gonna be interested. That's just part of being male. Make no apologies for your sexual desires. Never let ANY woman make you feel bad for being a man and wanting what you want.)

So there you have it. The world is out there for the taking. Be fun, be dominant, make it feel good for her, and you will be AMAZED how easy women can be.

EDIT--------------------

Wow. Getting a lot of hate for an offhand comment about breaking up with my girl.

I'm planning on breaking up with my girlfriend soon. I love her and all, so I'm waiting to break up until after new years.

Apparently, me not dumping her right this moment has pissed off some white knights, who have hijacked this.

Guys, /r/seduction is lost. I make a quality motivational post, and got nitpicked by a bunch of white knights. I don't know why I even bother.