You've just cold approached someone and introduced yourself... then what?

StaticNocturne · 2022-01-19T06:51:58+00:00

First remember it's all about the vibe not what you say, you can say the most random mundane cringe shit but if you say it in a sexy playful way you're good.

Improvisation and thinking on the spot is a tricky skill. You're going to fuck up, so go out there and fuck up and learn through experience because this isnt something easily teachable.

Start with cold reads, pick out something about her and then go from there. Nationality is a good one, or maybe her trainers, also fashion sense. Make it about her. Women love talking about themselves so let them do the work.

Also, actually listen to what she's saying. It seems obvious but when you're present in the moment and listening, you pick up the little things from the tone to body language and you instinctively have a convo that flows. People love to feel like the person theyre talking to is really listening.

The more receptive and flirty she is, the easier it is. Some girls are great at this and it feels like a game of tennis, but many aren't at the start so you need to lead

5_7pickup · 2022-01-19T06:53:14+00:00

Lmao that was actually funny. Bring that humor and wit to your cold approaches and youll be fine.

If youre actually curious, go read my field reports. I do solo night club cold approach in vegas.

creativeoutlaw44 · 2022-01-19T17:27:58+00:00

NFTs are a fascinating, as well as the Rape of Nanking, but not conversation material.

Good vibe + talking about/acknowledge immediate surroundings as mutual interest + silly genuine compliment on something she can't control (eye color, nose, ears) + segway into anything you want to talk about, as long as it isn't TOO WEIRD or something that would off put any relatively normal person.

It's not so insane to think that an hour after you meet a girl, if you guys clicked and got coffee/vibed you COULD POTENTIALLY be talking about Mel Gibson's anti-Semitism. It's unlikely, but it COULD happen if you get to talking about films and find out your tastes are so similar that it's SCARY. But it's so UNLIKELY that you are best to avoid these topics and talk about more surface level stuff first.

Why are you in this place, talking to her?
Is it related to your hobbies/interests? Cool, what are they/expand on them.
Are you just having a stroll for exercise? Listening to a podcast? Talk about that, but CURATE it to be interesting. If it's about politics or something divisive, just skip it and default to favorite music/other topics instead.
Did you just randomly learn a cool fact that's not OFFENSIVE or OFF COLOR? "You know what's crazy? Bananas aren't even the best source of potassium! Every time I see them now, I curse those yellow bunches at the grocery store!"
If she doesn't look busy and you guys vibe, would you like to go to X/Y/Z place nearby to talk more? I'm buying coffee/ice cream/kombucha. Make it seem like you were going to go there anyways, because it's fun to indulge every so often.

Would YOU be bored talking to YOU if you met yourself as a stranger? Try that perspective shift on for size.

Now imagine that you're trying to be interesting enough so that if YOU met YOU as a stranger that you might wanna fuck your body double at some point. Curate your conversation appropriately, and always have stuff to talk about like you always have cash in your wallet: "just in case."

You fail when you don't try. Everything else is just feedback or success (however you're defining that).

Calamity__Bane · 2022-01-19T09:22:04+00:00

Talk about the things she is doing or experiencing that you find interesting.

Sidenote: you're imagining the average girl is a lot smarter and more aggressive than she will be in 99.9999% of situations. If she's throwing lines like this out for this long and not leaving, freezing you out verbally or physically, or explicitly telling you to fuck off, she probably likes you and just feels like breaking your balls for fun. You actually didn't do too badly here, but if this is the way you'd normally respond, you need to be more assertive. You're just letting her attack you with no pushback, which would just encourage a girl like this to fuck with you until she got bored and blew you out. You do have talent, you just need confidence.

Title	You've just cold approached someone and introduced yourself... then what?
Author	StaticNocturne
Upvotes	5
Comments	15
Date	January 19, 2022 6:36 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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