I had two major life events (loss of close family member, and my income (our only income)) during which she's reminding me we're soul mates and all that nonsense, followed shortly thereafter by the stbx splitting me (actual diagnosed borderline, among other things). Immediate, full on 100% silent treatment for multiple months, then dropped the divorce on me. She coupled it with a near silver bullet attempt after I set a boundary about something in the house we still share.

After that, tinder, bumble, other hookup apps, and evidently she has started it will start something like onlyfans.

She bounced out of the house for two stretches in the last two months and I'm fairly certain she fucked at least one dude on those occasions.

Meanwhile, as always because she's disabled (and calls herself that), im handling the kids, her 9 year old wants nothing to do with her, and my 10 year old periodically shut down and not himself. She engages them I kid you the fuck not, maybe 30 minutes a day cumulatively. Not an exaggeration.

Make it make sense...Her mental health is shit, but financially we're fucked, the 80/20 of our support system died last year, she's literally in bed all day evidently snapping with hookups...I don't get it.

Don't get me wrong, I don't give a shit she's banging other dudes; after the silver bullet attempt I want nothing to do with her.

But how do women just nuke their entire lives and ignore the collateral damage like this? Despite her many diagnosed mental issues, she's not particularly unique in situations like this....