Throwing it in the void

1millionBURNINGsuns · 2026-04-12T03:41:55+00:00

Silver bullet survivor AMA, and btw I now have kids 50/50. Fuck being hopeless. Fuck peoples pity. Fuck people believing they know you and your situation. Get the kids back. When you’re dying this will be all that matters. Focus.

painfulletdown · 2026-04-11T16:33:17+00:00

if you have the finances to do so, lawyer up and have your lawyer set trial date asap. try to stay calm and keep your mind off it. prepare for injunction and get your valuables into storage. make sure she doesnt transfer vehicle titles into her name or steal from joint accounts. dont accept shite offers and rest easy knowing that she wont get anything extra if it goes to trial.

SeaweedWeird7705 · 2026-04-11T14:12:02+00:00

So sorry this happened. Of course you need your own lawyer, who can schedule a hearing and get those orders thrown out or modified.

Edit: And of course, obey all the orders for now, until you get them modified.

MarkAylward13 · 2026-04-11T13:52:39+00:00

Hindsight being 20/20 if I could go back, I would do 2 things differently (the list is much longer than that:). I would ask the question, "what would an experienced criminal do?" and "what is the worst outcome I could imagine coming from this action?"

I wouldn't use these necessarily to act. I would use them to prepare. I was blindsided because I could never imagine someone doing such a thing. That was naive

In closing, I would also tell all the dads...you're kids are MUCH stronger than you think. If you remain consistent with your actions and words and resist all temptation to criticize and/or contradict her, they will be better off. Confusion is their enemy. Consistency, boundaries and presence are their friends

Livid_Cabinet_9197 · 2026-04-11T13:12:12+00:00

Brother, I know the pain. My ex filed an injunction against me under false claims and I haven’t seen my children in 4 months.

If she filed an injunction against you, it’s a strategy women have been employing more and more. It’s called the silver bullet method.

I made a mistake and violated the injunction and now I’m facing criminal charges, my intent was good, to check on my children because she had been withholding them from me for several days despite our custody agreement in place.

All I can say, is be patient, do not give her any ammunition. One thing I’ve learned is women are vindictive and calculating, cold and calloused. Follow the law, and if she has made false claims about you, get concrete evidence, and stay calm. In court she’s going to try to get you to react (if it comes to that)

kg110569 · 2026-04-11T13:03:36+00:00

Hey buddy I’m 12 days into not seeing my 4 and 1 year old kids. Similar situation, it’s horrible - I feel your pain. Have tried to distract myself, go outside, golf, call and see old friends I haven’t seen.

The most therapeutic thing I’ve done is record a video every day for my kids. I want them to know I was fighting for them and remembering them every single day. Not sure if/when I can show it but it gives me a little sense of connection or contact without being able to see them.

We’ve got this, just will take time for the truth to come out.

Title	Throwing it in the void
Author	Opposite-Beat956
Upvotes	8
Comments	13
Date	April 11, 2026 5:02 AM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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