Grieving Divorce

NothingIsEverEnough · 2020-09-08T22:48:05+00:00

Time. You can speed it up some via journaling and therapy, but in the end, what you need is time.

burnedanotherbagel · 2020-09-09T16:20:00+00:00

Same! I’m going through some serious post infidelity stress disorder and I’m struggling. She did me dirty and I still am just grieving like crazy. It’s devastating.

No_more_BPD_2020 · 2020-09-09T21:21:01+00:00

I wish I had an easy answer. I'd encourage abstaining from drugs and alcohol, because that only drags out the process. I've been going to a ton of therapy, and I will emerge from this a better man. I undereatimated how difficult the emotional hangover would be after divorce, even in a clearly bad marriage. I can tell you being no contact, making plans for the future so I have some hope, reconnecting with the religion of my youth, meeting up with friends, and cleaning out everything associated with my ex has helped me. Like the others said, Time has been huge. I was a complete mess at the beginning of the year. Now, much less so. Good luck!

reacthookmebaby · 2020-09-14T07:04:57+00:00

I am wondering this too. I am "comfortable" knowing someone is in the other room and on occasion we might watch some TV or something. But all the other bullshit in the marriage is just not worth that... but I do think.. what's it going to be like back on my own being older, alone.. etc.

littleIdiotUK · 2020-09-15T10:26:56+00:00

Time, and self care. Exercise. Also find someone you can confide in who has your back and talk to them openly and honestly. I ended up using WhatsApp and an ex-work colleague/friend in another time zone - but it was someone who gave me consistency of advice and let me feel sad without trying to get me to cheer up.

It's ok to feel loss. The hardest bit for me was the broken promise. The promise I made to her in front of all our family and friends to have and to hold till death do us part etc ...that broken promise was the hardest for me.

But 1.5 years on and I am fine with it all. Totally changed - I'm HAPPY!

Title	Grieving Divorce
Author	LandOnMyFeet
Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	September 8, 2020 10:42 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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