Should I do a tinder test-run?

TheBlackWidow777 · 2019-11-24T21:20:10+00:00

I wouldn’t try tinder. It’s full of some real creeps. I stick to just meeting people when I go out. If you have confidence people will come to you. Just do your own thing. Men like women who are independent and have their own things going on. Work on yourself. When the right guy sees you, they will talk to you.

silvernikki · 2019-11-24T22:09:22+00:00

I met my man on hinge. A lot of men approach me in real life but they're never my type physically so online dating is better for me

jewdy09 · 2019-11-25T01:18:20+00:00

If you do try Tinder you need to figure out what you are looking for and kinds of things are dealbreakers. Let them initiate conversation. Get a Google Voice number so you don’t have to give out your number. Always meet in public the first time, NO EXCEPTIONS. Let him suggest the place so you can gauge his intent. A parking lot means he has no respect for you. Alcohol will lower your inhibitions, but that’s your call. Protect your drink no matter what you are drinking. Don’t find yourself alone together if you definitely don’t want to have sex.

Don’t send photos by request and if you need more pictures from them, ask them to post them to their profile. The excuse that it’s a small town means they are not single or doing something suspect that they want that kept private. His mom, coworkers, and pastor want him to date and it’s Tinder, not Grindr.

Don’t make any exceptions for anyone who makes an effort to try and convince you to change your mind about anything concerning the two of you. If you decide a man is hot enough that you just want to get on top of him, that should be all your call, not something he talked you into doing. But, don’t expect anything to come of it if he says he’s not looking for anything serious. You don’t need to explain to anyone why you aren’t interested or if you lose interest before the second date and they done owe you anything before that either. It’s not ghosting, it’s avoiding the conflict that might arise from rejection and sometimes it’s safer to avoid that conflict.

silvernikki · 2019-11-24T21:33:34+00:00

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134340-92494 · 2019-11-24T22:45:51+00:00

I have used tinder on and off at various weights (130 to 175), and I can tell you that my experiences were equally underwhelming if not all-out terrible, whether I was thin or bigger. It doesn’t matter how big you are; guys on that app are thirsty as hell and will swipe right on anything. So you might get a few okayish dates but I really don’t think you need to practice as long as you’ve got this sub to guide you when the time comes for a real relationship.

I totally get the frustration of not knowing how to date; I’ve been there. But you’re really not missing out.

ptlvrthrwwy · 2019-11-25T01:12:03+00:00

Tinder absolutely sucks! If you are looking for hookups only, go ahead, but Tinder is garbage!

friends4fanz · 2019-11-25T15:12:11+00:00

Going against the grain here. Tinder is great if you are a conventionally attractive woman and know what you’re doing. Everyone is on Tinder, so you’ll have a bigger selection — that means more trash to weed through, but also a lot of HVM.

I’m 5’7” and 26. My experience using OLD 5 years ago at 180# is drastically different than it is now at 130#. Granted, this may just be a cultural shift over time and generally matching with an older crowd, but I attribute quite a lot of this the weight loss. It’s true that men will swipe right on anything, but being “hot” is what makes them message you first and actually feel like they need to try. I swipe left on probably 99 out of 100 profiles for various reasons (not attractive enough, uninteresting or red-flaggy bio, red flag pics like ex or fish pics, can tell they’re short, grammatical errors), never message first, and only exchange numbers or meet when the man asks, and my schedule is booked with dates with attractive, well-off men. I don’t think I could make this happen if I were 50# heavier. FDS queen shit keeps them hooked, but being the best possible version of you will get them on the hook in the first place.

Weight is extremely important to how attractive people are perceived to be, and being a thin woman is a powerful thing in the dating world. It’s not something anyone will tell you to your face, but it’s absolutely true. If you’re overweight, it’s worth it to work on you and get in shape and then jump back into the pool. Don’t listen to the libfem nonsense about how fat is beautiful and it’s impossible to lose weight. Neither are true. Being fat doesn’t reduce your worth as a person — and if you’re trying to attract sexual or romantic partners, it matters a great deal in this specific realm.

When using Tinder, just remember to take no shit. Ever. “Never, ever chase a man” goes triple for OLD. If you’re on the fence, always swipe left. They take the initiative. They plan the dates. They ask you out. If he’s inconsistent or not replying or otherwise not impressing you, you drop it. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.

normabelka2 · 2019-11-25T13:02:25+00:00

I think you should, I learned a lot on dating from Tinder. Just be careful and weary

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Title	Should I do a tinder test-run?
Author	silvernikki
Upvotes	10
Comments	22
Date	November 24, 2019 8:50 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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