Know your boundaries 🚧 and enforce them without guilt.

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2022-02-26T02:32:52+00:00

There are so many boundaries pushers, not just partners I have coworkers and friends often pushing my time boundaries.

I've had to learn to grey rock, make up prior engagements or deadlines to not have work that isn't my job dumped on me or constant phone calls that last way too long.

askmeabouttheforest · 2022-02-25T19:54:49+00:00

Ooooh this is good and important. I'm saving this and taking notes.

alpinepunch2021 · 2022-02-25T21:24:47+00:00

Eh, I can think of plenty of avoidant men who have a great sense of personal boundaries and have no problem respecting yours - but as a result, they're just shit partners and you're barely in a relationship with them to begin with. I think it's probably better just finding someone who establishes a similar degree of boundaries as you do, rather than taking boundaries to be intrinsically valuable.

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2022-02-26T17:51:10+00:00

This is so important to know. Time boundaries are one that a lot of people are unaware of. I’ve had friends (usually the unhealthy codependent extrovert types who can’t stand to be alone) who would get mad at me if i wanted to go home because i had to be up early tomorrow. And then insist that we set up the next time we were going to hang out before i leave. I used to wonder why simply having one friend took such a toll on me, that i was unable to spend time with anyone else. It took me a long time to stop feeling guilty about not dropping everything to spend time with energy vampires.

Title	Know your boundaries 🚧 and enforce them without guilt.
Author	w0rmsongs
Upvotes	351
Comments	11
Date	February 25, 2022 6:13 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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