On throwaway account, just because I thought it might be a good idea. (damnit, posted this on my main, welp, here we are)

I didn't know the right term, which is why I through all those '/'s in the title, but my S.O. have been saying some weird things lately. Stuff like was said by Anita Sarkessian types and recently she was talking about race mattering in TV shows. (I think most people kind of know what I am talking about here in terms of media criticism coming from kinda a critical theory-neoliberal clusterfuck perspective)

She also said a few things that were kinda antimale, not just the Anita sarkessian stuff but also the (debunked and disproven) "studies" that come from modern psychology departments about men and women (also note this stuff is a curriculum that her teachers have chosen to cover in class. This is important as we are both in college right now and she is taking a bunch of psychology classes, and they sound like they have been pretty feminist/woke (which honestly shocked me more than it should've). At first, she criticized them a lot, then that stopped and I didn't think much of it, but now I am not so sure. She told me recently that it was all emotional for her and about her experience, so whenever I talk about the evidence that disproves it she gets hurt. (not just this topic, there is also economic stuff that I am to her left on and she kinda gets angry about it when I talk about it) I am clueless on what to do next to show her what I mean and also not get her in that angry state again. I also want to make clear it seems that she is not "fully" in that ideology, but she is kind of slipping into it (maybe that is a good thing, as I was "slipping" into that kind of ideology as well right before my curiosity led me to the Red Pill movie and I started to feel better about the sexism I had faced in my past and continued to face, and I stopped blaming myself for it) but I don't want to lose her to that...

Any advice on how to convince someone who is finding their conclusions emotionally and try to show them that it isn't right to take these woke/feminist positions would be appreciated, as I said, I am clueless in this area. (if you need more details I should be able to provide them in the comments)

I also would like to make this not just about me here. Though the help is appreciated, perhaps it is a good idea to work on more general tips and tricks. How do we convince people of (let's say for the sake of brevity) anti-woke leftism who are not fully into woke politics or feminist politics but are facing emotional pressure (internal and external) to be woke and don't have strong opinions on leftism, but are sorta against it?

if you describe yourself as a liberal or left but not leftist or something akin to that, then of course just mix words around, the same principles should apply, the reason I used leftism is because I think when you are really a leftist you tend to be super antiwoke and resiliant against that set of ideologies (not necessarily feminist yet though)