Saw the title and thought this is going to be about men victim-blaming women? If you did, I wouldn't be surprised, because that's how our culture works doesn't it? As a gender, men are generally responsible for all of the wrongdoing and shitty behavior in society, or at least that's the atmosphere we live in.

But no, today we're going to talk about the tendency of women to "stick up for each other" and defend other women automatically, even at the expense of justice or decency, in occasions in which men are victimized by women. And the easiest way to do that is to blame the male for his outcome, and with little to no shred of consideration.

Over the course of time, and especially in my online forays, I have witnessed that whenever a woman comes forward and recounts that she bad experiences with men, or she has some gripe with men, or underwent events that made her distrustful of men, or has encountered malicious/unfair behaviors by men towards her in any context whether it be dating, work, socializing.. which I don't think I need to elaborate on because everyone is probably aware of the list of complains that women have concerning attitudes and actions that apparently only flow forth from men to women, a variety of which women have even come up with special terms for, usually attributed to the innate sexism or awful personalities that so many men possess ( But don't even try looking for female parallels ), and whenever that happens, when a woman brings up her issues with men or talks about "all those jerks" she dealt with, the indoctrinated male reaction is to apologize and stress how sorry they are for what happened, that they fully understand her pain, condemn those males, and distinguish themselves from all those other male scum that infest our population. Because there's just too much of them, and it's a real shame. And of course, we're all going to take her word for granted as to who's the guilty party in the story must be, unless it's so exceptional that the woman is not the saint by default. And in our liberal, feminist, progressive society, taking the woman's side is always the right thing to do, and will solidify your social status.

When a man complains that he has had bad experiences with women, that has been bullied or detested for petty reasons by them, that he feels women have been insensitive or callous to him, or if he does anything the woman did for that matter, the first instinct of the women hearing that, and by proxy their male orbiters and vigilantes, is to become defensive, hostile and frigid. In their minds that male has done the unforgivable, he has asserted victimhood for himself and defamed a woman, or several women, or his impression of the opposite gender in general due to repeated offense ( But remember, it's only generalization when he does it. There are numerous stereotypically male behaviors out there that women need to be wary of, and society needs to teach men to fix! ) , and the female crowd is out for blood. First of all, there's no sympathy or comfort, no matter how severely you were abused or how cruel they were to you. They will personally attack him, invalidate everything he says or the very notion that any woman could ever be guilty of doing something to a man, they will allocate the blame to him and twist everything to paint him as having provoked or deserved what happened to him, regardless of the proportion of the harm that's been inflicted on him. They will have no empathy or encouragement to the distress he's facing, at best he will be deflected, his suffering minimized, his character criticized, and the females involved in the story absolved of any guilty whatsoever. And at any rate, he should just suck it up. That's the appropriate response to any man who has been wronged by a woman in our society, and you will get many brownie points or le upboats on reddit for putting that filthy male peasant in his place for voicing dissent.

Even aside from personalized scenario, it is much more acceptable for women to express some negative views of men, or say they are distrustful of men, or make different assertions in a roundabout ( or not ) kind of way about men acting badly, men doing this badly, men this and men that. One favorite way of women to do that indirectly is classifying an ill-defined, neatly labelled "male demographic" that she just invented who all have shitty, horrible characteristics she maintains to judge them by. Oh, and there are like, 10,000 of those male demographics who are all shitty in their own way. What, what did you say, "female demographics"? Of course not, don't be silly. Even suggesting you know or had to deal with a lot of bitches makes you a shitlord.

To put it simply, "something something male something something bad" is progressive, brave and calling valid attention to a problem, while "something something female something something bad" will earn you the ire of everyone and expect to be ostracized and persecuted forever. I'm sure many of you looking at popular magazines, communities, media or social situations, but particularly women's circles and/or feminist spaces ( Yes, the mainstream ones, not the KillAllMen variety. At least the radfems have some honesty. But mainstream feminism will pump out dialogue about terrible male entitlement and terrible male objectification and terrible male shaming and terrible male rape-yiness, and men did this, and men did that, and oh we found this new toxic male behavior, and oh let's talk about all the awful males we met in our lives, and sisters I'm so fucking pissed right now because I had this bad experience with a male again, continue ad infinitum. Male always comes along with bad, it's just never explicitly stated. And females always comes along with something good or not at all. ), but this trend is widespread in non-political pop magazines, social environments, the web, and even newspapers. Say whatever the hell you want about men, nobody is going to squeak. Make a tiny misstep from the angel narrative when talking about women and you get crucified in a national sensation. The most draconian fact about this all? All men are afraid to speak out for fear they will be targeted next.

This effect is felt both overall and in interpersonal arguments or grievances that men have as well. And I think that might resonate with a lot of men based on similar situations you might've been in, so I would like to hear some feedback on my feelings. As for women who are no doubt going to deny any of those observations about the social fabric, maybe you could share a few instances with me, in which you stood up for a male against other women, in order to dispel my cynicism. The more dramatic it is, the more you had to lose from doing what is right, and the more women you had to conflict with, the better.

It only needs to resonate with your experiences