I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for several months. There was a lot of chemistry at the beginning but now stuff only happens when I initiate it and it’s often me just giving. It’s fine, I enjoy doing that for him but It makes me feel sad he’s not trying to jump me or something. I feel like he’s never initiated fully more than a few times maaaybe or at least not in the last couple months. I sent him some of my ideas on how he could initiate in the future and I’m hoping he tries some of it.

I know he’s tired. He’s been working late and weekends this month and tells me he’s just really tired and that he finds me sexy. I even get H word and he’ll reject advances with the tired excuse(not every time, but sometimes we have to plan for later if it’s night time and he’s tired). I know he doesn’t do stuff on his own, he used to but stopped at my request. He even told me to take care of myself while we are cuddling instead of doing something together. I get his work is demanding, it’s going to be this way for years, it just really hurts my feelings that he’s not initiating more, that he doesn’t seem to want me. Anyways, any tips? I feel like he’s the type where if I moped about feeling undesired in the moment he’d just do it to make me happy, but then I’d feel bad cause I’d know he didn’t really want to do it then.