How to proceed?

fastfishyfood · 2025-04-05T01:34:00+00:00

You haven’t even met him & you already don’t feel good about it due to core compatibility issues. Move on.

jilll_sandwich · 2025-04-05T00:16:43+00:00

I think that's ok if he does half the cleaning and other tasks, including looking after your future children (if you want any). If that's not your view on things, then maybe you're not compatible. If he expects you to look after the house and kids and pay half the expenses, he's a jerk.

Consistent-Citron513 · 2025-04-05T07:08:30+00:00

If you don't feel good about it, it's best to move on. Going in half is fine if that's what both people want & the other person is also contributing half in cleaning, cooking, etc. It's not something I would go for & it doesn't sound like you want to either, so you guys aren't compatible.

thatcxt · 2025-04-04T21:03:43+00:00

This is such a red flag imo. These men usually sit there when you have a newborn and resent you while you are up all night changing diapers, cooking, laundry, and breastfeeding.

Jenneapolis · 2025-04-05T14:39:30+00:00

Let me remind everyone that there is no one way to be a red pill woman. Some want to be supported financially by their man and others are fine with a split financial arrangement and prefer to work. Whatever your preference is, you need to vet for it. If you don’t want 50-50 financials and that’s what he wants then it’s obviously not a match.

blondehairedangel · 2025-04-05T19:59:47+00:00

I just don't understand this mentality of being married but having "his" money vs "her" money and "splitting bills" out of those separate funds. When I was working we did money the same way we do now... All income goes into one account. All bills get paid from that one account. There is no splitting everything. The bills get paid from the shared money. That's what marriage is. What's mine is yours - what's yours is mine - it's all ours.

Having this situation where you're working full time but you only have access to what you make is just going to lead to being exploited. 30% of the income but must pay 50% of the bills and do 90% of the childcare... What a scam! 😭😬

HalfwaydonewithEarth · 2025-04-05T05:13:58+00:00

OMG

Run for the hills!

My husband hands me cash to make sure I have dinner money if I leave the house.

He tried getting me to pay some utility bills when we were young. I just let them shut the utilities off.

Now he grabs them and pays them.

Let me explain why you can't and wont:

Men that get their mules working hard will turn around and buy a more expensive vehicle, take riskier investments, and waste extra money. He does this because he has an enabler.

My BIL use to gamble and buy $500 toys for their kid. My sister would be working 50 hours a week.

Women literally become enablers.

Don't fall for the trap.

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Full text: Hey everyone, I’ve been talking to a guy. He says that I should contribute equally to the expenses after marriage and even said if we are going to buy a home in the future, I should contribute equally. I don’t feel so good about it. I’m not reluctant to support him financially but this seems more like a partnership.

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Date	April 4, 2025 8:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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