I Am A Fool

rp_valiant · 2017-06-16T09:35:44+00:00

I'm going to do you a huge favour dude, I'm going to break down every mistake you made and show you what you did to push this girl away. This is going to be a bitter read but read closely because it's all based on what we talk about here:

1 we had a lot of chemistry and immediately started talking every day.

If you were constantly available for girly chit-chats then you were signalling that you had nothing going on and that you placed her above yourself in terms of value. You entered her frame, and immediately lost before you even had a chance.

2 Things were great and I felt like I met my soulmate.

No, your body was flooded with hormones from being sexually excited by an attractive girl who actually talked to you. You became the nervous giddy teen girl talking to Justin Bieber. And there's nothing masculine or respectable about a man being reduced to a giddy mess by a girl.

3 After a few weeks she invited me to her house to watch a movie, me being a useless virgin I failed to escalate.

From your previous behaviour I can tell you you probably didn't have a chance in the first place. She'd already pigeonholed you as one of the girlfriends (aka friendzoned) so any attempt at shifting the context of your relationship towards the sexual would have caused her to balk.

4 We talked a few days later but something was different, the flirting had stopped, my attempts were quickly shut down and her tone of voice changed.

Sounds like she had gotten sick of your beta behaviours. Clearly she was attracted to you when you first met but your feminine behaviours around her disappointed her and made her reconsider her opinion of you.

5 I told her that I wanted to be something more than just a friend.

Attraction is not negotiable. It either is or it isn't. In fact, attempting to negotiate it just solidifies your position in the friend zone.

6 She told me that she didn't want to because she cared for me and didn't want to hurt me.

Soft rejection, "it's not you it's me". Really she didn't want to because you were no longer attractive to her due to how you behaved.

7 For the next few weeks my attempts were quickly shut down. Failed kisses, shitty hugs, kisses on the cheek, etc. I got desperate and told her that I really liked her, she responded with a "Why do you like me, I am a mess!" I accepted it

Same as 5 and 6.

8 a few days later she started talking about a guy. That's when things turned to shit.

She held the door open for you at first because she found you attractive, but you disqualified yourself so she went looking for another guy (or just left herself open/available to it).

9 My heart sank, a new guy was in the picture and I couldn't remove him. She told me the guy was just a bootycall, she told me it was just sex and that she was only taking care of her needs. She told me she had to drive to his house because his job had a weird schedule. He was a nurse. I was losing my mind, my dream girl is doing all this for him... and he is not even trying anything. What the hell is going on?

This guy is living his own life, in his own frame. He has his shit to do and she's just along for the ride. If you'd read anything here you'd realise that this guy is masculine/alpha and that she finds it attractive. What the hell is going on you ask? Natural human sexual selection. Disney lied to you friend.

10 I snapped and told her to stop talking about him.

This is omega-tier. Not a good look on any man. Don't you listen to feminists? "You don't own muh body". Except it's actually true - trying to stop a girl pursuing her own sexual interests is pointless and stupid, especially after you've already lost your opportunity. Maybe if you'd stopped being so available and needy at a point before this, you could've turned it around. It seems like the movie night was where you slammed the door in your own face, but before that she was throwing you a bone, giving you a chance to redeem yourself in case she misread your beta behaviour.

11 Then one night she told me that she was in love with him. "I know he doesn't care, I will never tell him I love him." My heart broke, I felt used, I felt pathetic, I couldn't understand anything. He easily gets her pussy everytime he pleases...how?

I hope you know the answer to this question now. If not, get reading. Start with The Rational Male (book) and and the sidebar. Learn to accept the reality of the situation, and work to correct your uninformed behaviours. No-one blames you for taking the beta approach - it's what society teaches us to do - but now you have the correct information there's no excuse for not reading it and acting on it.

12 I lost my mind, I screamed at her and told her that he doesn't love her.

I hope that you cringe when you read this. No shit he doesn't love her, and she doesn't love him. She's putting together a defense of her hypergamous behaviour ("I'm sleeping with this guy casually but it's only because I looooove him").

13 I got really desperate, what did I do wrong? He is the bad guy not me! Did this friendship mean nothing to her?

In order of appearance: you acted like a bitch, neither of you are bad guys, and yes it meant nothing to her.

14 She was very flirty, after saying hi she immediately gave me her number. She told me she wanted to go the movies with me. I was hesitant at first but I confusingly accepted the offer. I took her to the movies the next day. We texted for a few days but she slowly faded away again.

She wanted to get you back orbiting. She missed the validation and drama you provided by pining over her.

Lesson learned: Don't be like me. I am a fool with no dignity, a cuck, a pathetic beta. I will change my ways, but I doubt I will ever fully recover. Stay strong...

No. Refuse to accept this as your life paradigm. You were a fool with no dignity. You were a pathetic beta. You weren't a cuck because you never dated this girl in the first place. You will 100% recover and become a man that you (and women) can respect, but that starts with reading and then action. Consume information like it were oxygen, and while you do so go to the gym, fix your diet (if necessary, for 90% it is) and practice chatting up random girls. You have a real opportunity here to turn your shit around, don't throw it away by crying "woe is me, I was born a beta and that is who I am". You are in 100% control of your own destiny, take ownership of it and carve a path you want to tread.

88Will88 · 2017-06-16T04:08:44+00:00

You have a lot of work to do. Do you lift? Do you know anything about game? Women find neediness repulsive, stop being needy, go to the gym.

PhishPhan700 · 2017-06-16T04:03:03+00:00

This is so very tragic. She didn't fuck you over at all you acted like a bitch. In every scenario. Being inexperienced and not going for it happens to everyone at some point or another but did you expect her to fall into your arms after you screamed at her about love in a womanly, emotional fashion?

RPStone · 2017-06-16T03:44:50+00:00

I seriously thought I was the other guy until you said he was a nurse.

How the hell have you been posting in TRP for months and are asking these questions? You clearly have not read the sidebar or any TRP material. This is day 1 shit.

Rudeyyyy · 2017-06-16T04:02:00+00:00

1) Not gonna lie that was hard to read. 2) If you haven't been here before and this is your first time, then welcome.

-------->>>>>> Side bar is over there. Start reading and if you have any questions look for it in the sidebar first before posting.

3) I know you were beta in this stage but as soon as she stopped responding to your advances why hang around? I'l admit i've done it myself and realized it's only bringing me pain and agony so I cut all ties and felt much better.

At least now you've addressed and realized what's happened. Some people are blinded. Start lifting, read the sidebar, start talking to multiple women at a time to get over your oneitis....severe oneitis.

This will take time but if you want to stop being Beta Billy then this is where it starts. You may not like what is said here but it's the truth and you have to accept it. We all did.

Start lifting, start reading, cut out the porn, talk to women, eat right, meditate, and start planning your finances accordingly. Especially if you're in college or about to be in college.

Good luck

TorDZeus · 2017-06-16T05:04:04+00:00

"Why do you like me, I am a mess!"

Here is a pro-tip for you. Girls that say self-depricaitng statements like that have low self-esteem. What do people with self-esteem issues want?

She told me the guy was just a bootycall, she told me it was just sex and that she was only taking care of her needs.

Validation from the opposite sex.

He easily gets her pussy everytime he pleases...how?

Here is the question for you. Would you be happy with empty sex with this "dream" girl of yours? Is that guy happy with only getting sex?

I've ran into a few damaged goods like this. It's always the same story. Self-esteem issues. Causal sex possible if they dig you BUT relationship is impossible. They don't care about other people and aren't emotionally supportive. Love means nothing. This destroys the relationships and features lots of fights and arguments that will leave you emotionally drained. Depending on how unstable the women is, they can even be physically violent. They are a borderline. Good example: Jenny from Forest Gump.

I feel your pain because I've been in your shoes before. It sucks. But there is nothing you could have done. If you did get into a relationship then you would realize that no pussy is worth that much drama.

mushroom_overlord · 2017-06-16T09:23:58+00:00

We were all fools once. Maybe you still are, but you've identified the problem and now it's time to get to fixing it. To the sidebar you go.

I doubt I will ever fully recover

That type of thing can easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy - try to start living like it isn't true, even if you feel strongly that it is.

Snowbattt · 2017-06-16T10:52:52+00:00

This was fucking painful to read. One part of me wants to slap the shit out of you for being such a beta wimp, but the other, more compassionate, part of me thinks you learned your lesson and hopes you'll take the steps to not be like this any more.

SilverGryphon · 2017-06-16T15:07:25+00:00

she responded with a "Why do you like me, I am a mess!"

Yeah sure, bet she did not say that to the hot male nurse.

At this point I would have went into ghost mode, as in evaporate from her life.

Next time save yourself a lot of time and go for the kill. Believe me if a girl is really into you she won't feel upset by you rushing things, if anything she would be the one trying to rush. I would have asked her to hangout before she go the chance to ask you. I guess you still had a second chance when you were at her home but you blew it.

If a 9 immediately gave you attention at the grocery store, it means that you are an attractive male so you should not have issues with finding another one and go Alpha on her.

enkae7317 · 2017-06-17T00:49:21+00:00

Bro. You've got a LOT to learn. Or I pray this was like 2-3 years ago and you're coming along better now. Because reading this shit hurts me, and I'm just some random dude on the net. Lift, and read the fucking sidebar yo.

And most of all, the best cure for one-itis is more girls.

[deleted] · 2017-06-22T17:27:41+00:00

Don't ever tell a girl you want to be more than a friend that you have not yet fucked. Always fuck her first. Know this- if she agrees to go anywhere with you that you are alone with her, she is open to getting fucked.

GreenPiller · 2017-06-22T17:35:45+00:00

Btw this shit is just a part of growing up. There is no soul mate. You'll learn that. I can't tell you how many girls I thought were the one only to go somewhere else shortly after and find a sexier nicer girl.

GreenPiller · 2017-06-16T05:41:29+00:00

I think "...how hard I tried I couldn't fuck her" was the worst part for me in that scathing self-assessment chief - if you pursue A WOMAN just for the sake of possessing her without paying any attention at all to why she should be desirous in the first place then it's a near-guaranteed failure.

If I didn't know better I'd guess this had been written as a joke for people to laugh at.

Work on you to attract them, a woman's not in it for charity, you've got to bring something to the table to get her interested. So invest in yourself.
Fix ya posture, build ya muscle, fix ya diet and iron clothes and dress nicely, plenty of advice about good physical presentation online.
Develop a marketable skill or one that will increase your usefulness to your current employer, if you're in school still, think about how you could enhance your employability with extra-curric activities or maybe a course-change
Build Momentum in your life and be future-focused, suicidal thoughts are those stuck in the moment, no one with a healthy outlook puts so much stock in the present because it's literally over as soon as you've thought about it (if you think about it ;-) )
Do note EVER obsess over or project your 'dream-girl' onto any one female, it's not good for you and it's not fair on them, she isn't trying to be your everything and it's silly to expect it or demand it

ShotgunTRP · 2017-06-16T05:06:55+00:00

Next time you are with a lady, you have even the slightest inkling she is into you. Put your hand on the small of her back, above her butt. Prepare for a shit test. Most likely she will enjoy it and you can bask in the tingles.

All ladies I dropped the ball with recently i failed to escalate kino early enough.

mrbossman123 · 2017-06-23T04:07:09+00:00

We've all experienced it for ourselves at one point. But in all seriousness, READ. THE. SIDEBAR. It's time to start on your own journey to becoming the man you wish you could be. It's time to shatter your false view of the world and see reality.

GuestsGetGreens · 2017-06-16T04:15:34+00:00

Welcome. Read the sidebar and get to work

newName543456 · 2017-06-16T12:06:14+00:00

Then one night she told me that she was in love with him. "I know he doesn't care, I will never tell him I love him." My heart broke

But realistically, what did her little confession even change?

She was fucking him anyway. She wasn't fucking you. That didn't change. She could stop being "in love" with him after meeting next taller, hotter, richer Chad (remember - it would still not be you).

max_peenor · 2017-06-16T14:20:36+00:00

She told me that she didn't want to because she cared for me and didn't want to hurt me.

Which actually translates to...

She told me that she didn't want to because she about my resources and didn't want to take my toys and go home.

she told me it was just sex and that she was only taking care of her needs

Men don't understand women. blah blah blah. This is where women have no capacity to understand men. We are wired from birth to put sex above all else except basic survival needs. We think about it all the time. It really, really does matter if our dick or other dicks have been inside you. Is it fair? Is it honorable? Is it smart? Dunno, don't care. Our relentless drive for sex is one half of the equation that has promoted the human race for fuck near a half a million years.

Do you feel like apologizing for being human? I used to. I don't now. Fuck off. Yeah, your dick interactions do matter, ladies.

Oh, and AWALT: her needs must be met, but yours are irrelevant.

Conceited-Monkey · 2017-06-16T17:59:19+00:00

This happens to a lot of us early on, and on the plus side, it can be a powerful learning experience. It was eerie in that I heard exactly the same kind of lines. If you can step back, invariably you cringe over the things you did, and you start looking objectively at her, and then you cringe more. On the plus side, you probably won't do this again.

rdpislove · 2017-06-16T23:03:01+00:00

there is only one advise for you since you are here read and reread the fucking sidebar

LordThunderbolt · 2017-06-16T23:51:55+00:00

" I snapped and told her to stop talking about him. "You should stop hanging out with me everyday and start talking to him!" She quickly got upset and told me that it didn't mean anything, that it was just sex. "Our friendship is more important, you shouldn't be upset." "

Classic. "He only repeatedly slammed his dick in my pussy a few times. Our friendship is much more important to me. Lets talk talk talk about absolute fucking nonsense. Well, I mean sit here and let me ramble about shit that you couldn't possibly give two fucks about. Oops! I have to go, Chad just texted me saying he's gonna wreck my pussy and it's time to come get fucked. Bye, talk to you in a few days when I feel like rambling again"

Title	I Am A Fool
Author	GreenPiller
Upvotes	24
Comments	38
Date	June 16, 2017 3:16 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6hk0d6/i_am_a_fool/
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