Went rambo

matrixtospartanatLV · 2017-11-20T21:19:09+00:00

Yes, you swallowed the pill, but it takes months to a year to digest.

I just sent this to someone a day or two ago.

It almost completely applies to you, too.

Once you unfuck yourself and pull your head out of your own ass, do NOT insert it into hers.

Here we go...

I’ve posted twice.

Go read my victim puke now.

I’ve been through some of your shit.

The point is, nobody came here because their life was so fucking great. Most of us that have stayed, did so because the praxeology worked for us and now we’re less fucked up.

I’ve been here about 6 months, and I have longer to go today than I did last week since I had a meltdown with the wife after my dad died. One would think after burying my mom and a son, I’d get better at it. I don’t want to get good at this, but I digress.

At this point I usually go on a rampage and kick some emo ass, but quite frankly, I’m too fucking tired.

The bottom line is this;

Do MRP for you and you will succeed.

Do MRP for your wife and/or marriage and you will fail.

Period.

Following is my current interpretation of the sidebar and how to maximize its presentation.

One more thing. Go to the OYS thread at the top of r/marriedredpill and look at how others are making this work for them. That post refreshes every Tuesday morning about 4:30am EST.

First, watch the movie, The Matrix. I don't give a fuck if you've already seen it 3 times. Watch it right now. 80% of the metaphors here are based on that movie.

Next, as an overview, read this:

https://illimitablemen.com/understanding-the-red-pill/red-pill-constitution/

Before you ever post again anywhere around askMRP or MRP, read this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4z84w5/posting_quality_guide_for_rmarriedredpill/

Now, go here; find out which drunk Captain you are and WRITE DOWN the prognosis/reading assignments.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2vykau/a_guide_for_beginners_to_mrp/

Next, go here, read it word for fucking word, twice, and use it as a pacing metric;

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2lpafb/the_12_step_plan_of_dread_book_excerpt_from_my/

It is said that you need to do one month for every year of your relationshit. Your marriage is probably over. Let it/her go.

If she changes her mind, Great.

If not, then fucking excellent. No rooting through the trash. You’ll figure it out in your reading.

Once a week, go here, and read a new article/book.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index

Every single time you come to an exercise in your reading, a book, or an article, fucking DO IT.

There is no skipping shit allowed.

You have two primary goals;

Develop your body in the gym.

Develop your mind/frame in the sidebar.

I have posted twice in five months.

I don't expect to see you post for another couple of months unless you have a legitimate fucking question about something you've actually read.

If you come in here complaining about her, she, or any other bullshit that is not YOU, a whole bunch of us will tear you a new asshole.

The mantra is:

LIFT

READ

STFU

LIFT: 3-4 days a week, primary lifts. No fucking talking, no fucking around, BECAUSE YOU HAVE READING TO DO.

READ: aforementioned

And just in case your relationshit has a snowball’s chance of surviving hell;

STFU: you do not talk about fight club. You do not become an asshole fucking retarded autistic moronic Rambo, go off on the wife, lay down the law, set new boundaries, or other bullshit.

It is business as usual. STFU about your changes. Let them and her acknowledgement of them be natural and organic. You will avoid a lot of shit this way.

EVERYTHING I have just written IS IN the sidebar. I just saved you an hour figuring it out.

Now, welcome to MRP.

We look forward to an awesome FR in MRP in 3 months because this shit is so awesome and you are doing it right.

So...

STFU

and...

Get to fucking work.

Edit: I’m 55. A few here are older. You have zero fucking excuses to get your shit together.

Marcus_Aurtrillius · 2017-11-20T18:04:15+00:00

My goal was to save my marriage. Think that may be impossible. This is going to be a long painful process.

MRP saves men. It doesn't save marriages.

I'm new too. Been a rough few months, but my wife is starting to come around. Even if she doesn't, though, I'm much happier with myself and the progress I've made personally.

That has to be the goal. Become the man you want to be. You can't control her. You can't fix a relationship on your own. That's why the marriage isn't the goal. You're the goal. Fix what you can control. Fix you.

hystericalbonding · 2017-11-20T20:46:53+00:00

When your self-worth is defined by other people's behavior, that kind of interaction is a crushing blow.

She was telling you about her feelings at that moment - that's it. "I don't respect you right now." Why would she respect you when you don't respect yourself?

Don't chase her or try to change her feelings.

Change if/because you want to be more attractive, fit, and confident, not because you want her to change. Beneficial changes in the relationship are a side effect.

Covert contracts only lead to resentment. It's going to take a long time for you to recognize them - you've operated this way since you were a child!

Pook is next, but focus on eliminating covert contracts as you go.

screechhater · 2017-11-20T21:48:11+00:00

quit with the Martyr shit move forward

BobbyPeru · 2017-11-20T17:10:16+00:00

Swallowed the pill a couple of weeks ago (or so I thought).

It doesn’t work that way. Swallowing the pill if more like a BOA ingesting an animal - slow process.

Focus on STFU, lifting, continuing sidebar.

She shouldn’t notice anything major in the first few months.

But, straight up, if she told you she doesn’t love you, don’t expect MRP to save your marriage. Work on yourself and you’ll be good either way.

capn_barnacles · 2017-11-20T20:57:25+00:00

Take it as a learning experience, and thinking about how the veterans on here would have handled your situation. It's a very long journey, and you will fail many many times. Just try to be a little bit better than you were yesterday.

TakeEverything · 2017-11-23T00:14:43+00:00

When I say no I feel bad.

You sure paid fucking attention to that one.

Rotten_Red · 2017-11-24T18:10:12+00:00

You have to fix yourself before you can fix your marriage. Shut the fuck up and get your shit together. Keep reading and learning and exercising even if you don't want to.

Also, the first rule of fight club is to not talk about fight club. Just work the program, don't talk about it.

SteelToeShitKicker · 2017-11-20T18:19:27+00:00

You didn't mention kids. If you don't have kids, don't bother with your wife, it's just not worth the effort. Improve yourself, get your plan together and divorce her.

Maybe she comes around, but she sounds really far gone.

yarmysmardarm · 2017-11-20T18:45:11+00:00

New here myself, but it sounds like Married Man Sex Life Primer should be next.

thegreasygerman · 2017-11-20T19:43:58+00:00

Read up on covert contracts again in wiskifg. No sense in doing all this work for someone else when you can do it for yourself. MRP can save the man, not the marriage. If the marriage is saved, that's nice but it can't be the goal you set.

Title	Went rambo
Author	gtr304
Upvotes	5
Comments	19
Date	November 20, 2017 4:47 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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