Hi, I've been in an LTR for 7 years and I can't tell if it's going the way it should.

I've been seeing some red flags. Like sometimes she doesn't answer my calls for a few weeks. And on a few occasions when I want to Facetime she won't do it, always saying her makeup doesn't look good or something. I get it, women want to look good for their men.

We were supposed to move in together in my state, but at the last minute she said her allergies would flare up here. WTF?

She's got a lot of good things going on. She's subserviant. She likes Marjorie Taylor Green. Everytime she visits me she always leaves my apartment cleaner than when she arrived. Plus, she is a pretty good cook.

But holy christ, jesus jumped, the blatant disrespect I deal with is just too much. Her family loves me and they're rooting for me. But it's like she doesn't understand what a good thing she has.

It's got me so up in arms that I've been talking to this girl on Tinder for a couple months, and she's visiting Miami where I live at the end of the month. We're planning to get together but I keep thinking of my mean girlfriend and how much she's been hurting my feelings lately. So I'm torn: do I fuck around with an easy thing or make things work with my fiance?

What do you think I should do? Everytime I propose to her or tell her I want to take things further, she just gets distracted and says she's got a call or something to do. I don't know. It feels forced.

Can you give me some guidance? I'm afraid I'll do something stupid and my mother keeps telling me not to blow it.