My plea for help

GoGetting · 2017-10-11T22:29:53+00:00

1) How many times a week did you gym, and what was the full routine once you got in there?

2) What was your diet modification? Did you tally your calories with MyFitnessPal?

If you actually answer those, you'll be the first guy who ever did so far. I've posted similar questions to other "hey guys help me" posters in different reddits, and they never respond again.

The first thing you need to change is totally honesty with yourself. If you cannot be honest with yourself, you have zero chance. The easiest way to confirm that is to record your aggregate actions, as mentioned.

And the last part I'm pretending I didn't read.

SkorchZang · 2017-10-12T07:24:12+00:00

You are not failing, you're getting exactly what you deserve. It's commesurate to the effort and discipline you were able to put in so far.

You don't have time to be a depressed downer. Dare to go for more, solid in the knowledge that you get exactly what you put in every time. The universe does not cheat, but your ego might try to cheat a little when it imagines how you'll be getting tons of results for nothing at all, like a girl. There's the source of the bad feels too, which is really funny when you spot this "wahh I'm a beautiful flower and I deserve more" story blossoming in yourself.

amonde · 2017-10-11T22:24:48+00:00

You can't out-exercise a bad diet.

My personal recommendation is to get your ass on Keto.

/r/keto has all the details you need to read up on it and understand how and why it works.

If you have trouble with consistency, as it seems you do, make it even easier by drinking 2/3 meals.

When I was going for a recomp (shedding fat and gaining muscle) I would just drink 1/2 pot of heavy double cream and two scoops of protein powder per shake (that's 150 ml of 50% fat cream here, approx 750 calories).

I would eat a normal Keto meal for lunch. Supplement with vitamins and shit, just to have all your micros covered, and get yourself phsyllium husk capsules to get your fiber in.

Don't stress eating below maintenance, in fact, I would personally recommend going super heavy on the fat until you become keto adapted and loose cravings for carbs.

After that you can accelerate the fat loss by stacking keto with intermittent fasting.

I wish you discipline.

NobleFarore · 2017-10-11T22:31:59+00:00

First off, congrats on losing your virginity a couple of months ago (read your other post). You've rightfully come to the conclusion that... It doesn't mean anything.

As a guy, sex isn't anything special. It's just a better way for you to get off so you don't have to settle for your hand. Right now, sex shouldn't even be a priority. You're gonna focus on yourself primarily but if you get a chance to have sex, take it.

Now let's get into what you need to improve. First of all, you don't have a mission. How can you expect to improve without a reason for improving? If you've been lurking for years, then you know making women your mission isn't worth it.

What do you want to accomplish with your life here? What legacy do you want to leave behind? There are a lot of answers to those questions. You're not going to find that out immediately.

The best thing you can do to start is raising your testosterone levels. High body-fat will lead to more estrogen production and your testosterone levels are probably pretty low. Best way to raise your testosterone levels? Eat better. Don't fuck about with your diet.

Also, I've never been a fan of the 5x5 method. It just doesn't give you the gains you need to stay motivated about going to the gym. As a beginner you need consistency and to start getting in the habit of working out as much as you can. I want you to start this routine instead and start going to the gym on Sundays as day 1:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Fitness/comments/37ylk5/a_linear_progression_based_ppl_program_for/?st=j8nlr2lx&sh=92bb7ff2

Incorporate that with cardio. At the end of your workouts, walk half a mile at speed-walking pace on the highest steepness. You'll sweat like a motherfucker. If you don't start seeing good results after 12 weeks, you're not taking your workouts seriously enough.

Start with the gym and make that your primary hobby for 4 weeks. After 4 weeks, incorporate an artistic hobby into your life. Do that along with the gym for 4 weeks. Do things that will make you interesting and someone worth being friends with. Then you'll slowly become someone worth fucking.

You have no other way to go but up. Godspeed.

wombo57 · 2017-10-11T23:59:47+00:00

5x5 is good just keep consistency and volume up. That means go to the gym at least 3 times a week if you are seriously trying to gain muscle. When you do these routines make sure you go to failure on each set.

I recommend only consuming carbs before and/or after you hit the gym and cutting them for the rest of the day.

And eliminate porn. Jerk off without it.

WishingForWhiteness · 2017-10-12T05:57:15+00:00

If you can't get ahold of another person in your life, i.e. coworker, other guy at the gym, who you can keep in touch with about diet and workouts, find someone on /fit/ or r/fitness who would be willing to get hooked up with you on snapchat and keep eachother honest about that shit.

Do what needs to be done. Stop waiting for it to come to you.

Ahoymaboy · 2017-10-12T06:21:03+00:00

Motivation shouldn't be where your drive is derived from. Motivation, like all other feelings will fade over time. The first day at the gym is good, the next, worse, by the third terrible. The key to success is putting your feelings aside and relying on self discipline and good habits. Self discipline will carry you even through the hardest days when motivation will not. Find yourself getting into good habits that exceed over a month, and you will find it routine and much easier, just as it is with bad habits. The person who says they can't do it, and the person who says that they can, are both usually correct.

NitricTV · 2017-10-12T20:58:51+00:00

Keto & gym everyday cardio everyday. I had the same problems I can send you the routine I did.

BigMattyMcDaddy · 2017-10-12T01:47:41+00:00

Diet big time. I'm on Paleo and I dropped over 20 pounds from August to September. Now my weights staying the same, but I'm noticing considerable dropping in stomach fat and gains in muscle during month two.

Diet is usually about 80-95% of fat loss.

Title	My plea for help
Author	Virginator69
Upvotes	7
Comments	25
Date	October 11, 2017 9:49 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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