Day Two Update

whinemoreplease · 2015-02-03T20:26:12+00:00

Fuck. Stop texting. Goddamn. If your text game sucks, don't do it. It'll hurt you more. Keep texting to logistics. Turn off your text notification.

If you really have something to say, pick up the phone and make the call.

It's a lot easier to misinterpret text to fit a mood than conversation.

Countpudyoola · 2015-02-03T20:52:15+00:00

At this point the only good text is an informational text.

Her: Going to the grocery store, any extras to pick up? You: milk

Or

(Maybe) You: Going to swing by gym on way home. Will be an hour later.

That's it. At this stage. Since a fuckup is invariably going to occur given enough texts or phone calls...avoid like the plague.

So

Pressure switched that with this, I am not giving you attitude, I am busy with two deals.

Nope, you got defensive. A pressure flip is actually something else entirely.

From illimitablemen..click here for full article

'A pressure flip is where you reverse the social pressure put on you back onto the originator of the social pressure. So in relation to the shit test at the beginning of this section: “I bet you think everything’s a line because you’ve got trust issues.”

Agree and pressure flip is the same as a pressure flip except you precede the flip with agreement. So in relation to the shit test at the beginning of this section: “Yeah I do, I’m sorry, did you think you were special or something?”

Disagree and pressure flip is the same as a pressure flip except you precede the flip with disagreement. So in relation to the shit test at the beginning of this section: “Nah you’re too ugly for me to be dropping lines on.” '

You need to engage less, respond to bait less, go more radio silence, and have a lot of outcome independent things to do.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-02-04T03:17:22+00:00

Welcome Bro,

Slow the hell down. This is not a race and there is no finish line until you are dead.

You are supposed to roll out the Dread over MONTHS not weeks and the ultimatum is the final step in a long journey. Athol Kay (MPBUH) says it is 6 months to a year before you introduce Option A or B. Others say it is 1 month for each month you have been married before you issue ultimatums.

You need to improve yourself and your relationship first to have a fighting chance or else this is going straight to divorce-rape. Work out, read the books- I would hit up the MAP and MMSL after you finish NMMNG. START responding to Shit Tests. Do that for a month. Then START getting in shape and so on. This is a carefully planned battle strategy not a blitzkrieg.'

This is going to destabilize a marriage that is already not very good and you need to approach it like a quiet home robbery where you are picking the locks and sneaking in and out while everybody is asleep. You are not charging in a frontal assault with all guns blazing.

strategos_autokrator · 2015-02-03T20:58:11+00:00

Keep texts for logistics only. Trying to pass these shit tests over txts or email is stupid because you really can't use your body language and eyes to pass shit tests. It comes off pissy right now. Set the frame by deciding txts are only for logistics, not stupid crap.

To pass, ignore.

exbp · 2015-02-03T20:59:05+00:00

Fake that Outcome Independence until you have it for real. It helps me to remember that I am the prize now. When we were 25 the prize was anything decent looking with a vagina. But now its a man, a real man with a job and a track record of taking care of his shit. You're the prize, don't forget that and don't quit improving it.

It also helps me to remember that it's all about improving me so I can control everything that matters.

Lastly remember that if you really do these things and she still doesn't come along, you're primed and ready for the dating market.

theultmatecad · 2015-02-04T00:42:08+00:00

Slow down my friend

You are half a book and two days into learning of the red pills existence...you are far from ready to be going nuclear and showing her the door.

And yes..stop texting back. Part of the new you is "being unavailable". You are feeding her desire for drama now.

I think you need to go into a semi monk mode. Read all the books and top posts on TRP. Lift. Eat well. Sleep. Think.

As far as your wife..be firm but not so adversarial for now.

The "right" way for newbies is to be immersed in self improvement and a bit distant. Kind of emotionally shellshocked where she can't easily "reach" you.

Private message me if you want to talk more

trendynamegoeshere · 2015-02-03T20:21:30+00:00

I want to text her back but I know I shouldn't and I won't. I have to focus on the fact that I am right about the respect issue AND that I will survive ANYTHING that is thrown at me, something that she should respect (kind of circular logic, which is probably good to focus on right now.)

Mybicepshurts · 2015-02-04T03:32:30+00:00

Fuck that shit. You need to make yourself #1. Stop talking to her. Go find something to occupy your time. Enrich yourself. You're number 1. You call the shots. Don't engage her shit fits.

Title	Day Two Update
Author	trendynamegoeshere
Upvotes	8
Comments	25
Date	February 3, 2015 8:19 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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