I've stopped approaching, and things have been going great.

There are two very popular ideas on this subreddit that I'll deal with. One is approaching and getting over approach anxiety. The other is learning to stop seeking women approval and being independent from outcome. There is a fine line between being aloof and expressing interest that is difficult to get.

When I first got on this subreddit, approaching was emphasized as very important. So I took this to heart and approached lots of girls at party's or during the day. The problem with this was then I appeared to be expressing too much interest or neediness. Being independent from outcome and living in the present is probably the most important part of game. So by forcing myself to approach I was breaking this key rule. It projected slight neediness.

Now, I make a conscious effort to go to partys and meet people. But I don't approach women. I focus on having fun with the first people I meet. Then other people see that we're all having fun and come over to join. Then instead of approaching girls, they are approaching me. I get into a natural conversation with a girl who I like and then kino and isolate her. This is how I game when I'm in a social group who I'm going to be seeing regularly.

However, there are good times to approach. Mainly when you're not in a house-party type setting. Times I approach is with strangers on the street and when I'm out at bars. In both of these situations it is harder to get a girls to approach you, so you should take the initiative. But in smaller get togethers, I think non-reactiveness takes priority and you should be seeking to enjoy your current environment instead of going up to girls.

edit: I think it needs to be repeated that I'm talking about a specific form of approaching that's bad. The type of approaching when you go to partys and approach one girl after another without building connection. The type of approaching where it makes you look like you're trying to force your way into the girls world while she's busy. Good types of approaching are approaching girls on the street or approaching girls at clubs.