Gym game?

norwegiandoggo · 2024-12-17T12:45:16+00:00

Indirect approach is the way to go. Pretend you have another reason to casually chat with them. Only if you see their eyes light up can you actually be a bit more direct

AcrossTheShimenawa · 2024-12-17T21:22:31+00:00

Yo dude, great question.

As someone here said already - indirect approach.

Newsflash, if you only do direct approach that's a sure sign of a journeyman (noob).

I usually never do direct approaches anymore. Amongst many reasons, the primary one is it puts a lot of pressure on the girl to make a decision on the spot from very limited information. Not only is it reducing my chances to close, it can also backfire and give the girl negative emotion. In essence it's shooting yourself in the foot.

When guys are just starting out they opt to do direct approach because they can't handle the tension of holding court. If you get a rejection right away, atleast you don't need to stand there guessing. Advanced guys are much smoother, and are able to thread the line of ambiguity with more ease. Shit, I enjoy it at this point. I like it when a woman doesn't give all her cards away and push and pulls me back.

Back to the point, fair enough, direct approach is better than no approach. However, to the guys that think they have pick up mastered because they can do it, you still have much to learn.

The true art (if you want to call it that), is being able to manufacture genuine spontaneous reasons to engage in conversation. It makes it look like every interaction is a candid, chance encounter.

Look for reasons to talk to her without being too direct. You'll see her again, no need to be too itchy with the trigger. When you're working out the same muscle group, just go in and ask her how many sets she has left, make a joke about how tough she is and you couldn't handle as much weight, ask her for advice about the exercise, there's a million ways to go here.

KingTrey7 · 2024-12-17T15:03:34+00:00

I have a few different times before. But as another commenter said, it was better when the approach was kind of indirect. For instance, I asked a girl a question about the workout she was doing (that i already knew the answer to) just to start a conversation and let it flow from there. A different time i playfully teased another girl about how she wasn’t getting any work done by texting on her phone through half the workout and she laughed, her eyes lit up then started a conversation. I have direct approached before too but with far less success. It will only work if she already has displayed very high interest in you AND you approach in the perfect way, at the perfect time. I added everything after the and because I approached a woman who was very clearly high interest, but went about it the wrong way and completely screwed it up.

PleaseDontBeTakenPlz · 2024-12-17T19:10:54+00:00

As a woman, the best way to approach is indirectly. Say hi, ask her about her gym experience. Maybe ask if she’s doing any classes or has a gym routine worked out. Just be kind so she can let her guard down. If she’s receptive, keeps the conversation going, lingers while you talk, touches you or seems flirty - go for the close (number, or even an instant date if your gym has a cafe or something nearby).

If she’s unreceptive, leave her alone and say you’ll see her around. Don’t be afraid to say hi to her as time goes on she might warm up to you or other women will see you as a safe man who won’t hurt them or creep on them. When I see men who are clearly friends with other people in the gym, I absolutely associate them as safe “non creepy” guys - even with no prior context.

DO NOT DIRECTLY COMPLIMENT ANY WOMEN. Please for the love of God, the immediate physical compliments need to stop.

This-Point-9327 · 2024-12-17T14:11:52+00:00

I did once it was a big failure.

I approached her and sad “Hi, you have the most beautiful ass I ever saw”.

She started to say “thank you thank you”.

Then I asked her for number and she sad she has a bf.

Then I went to do squats, but I noticed that literally every guy who was not far saw our interaction and started to look suspiciously. I don’t think they heard what I sad, but they saw that I have approached her, said something and then she was gone.

I didn’t finish my squats, packed my bags and never came back to that gym.

_--Marko--_ · 2024-12-17T12:31:28+00:00

Most women dont like pervs and being harrassed at the gym

Title	Gym game?
Author	young_nautica
Upvotes	12
Comments	22
Date	December 17, 2024 12:28 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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