Is this a good opener?

Lacunaethra · 2026-07-15T13:33:22+00:00

nah, comes across either as a tired pickup line or insecure validation-seeking

Independent-Bad218 · 2026-07-15T14:12:24+00:00

You need to add value on the discussion. Framing it like this (give me a value judgement) can even intimidate them if they are shy.

With indirect openers you need it either:
- funny observation (surroundings)
- gossip of the week
- something relevant to her

If you want to go direct, then you can:
- make it specifically about her (cold guess)
- an observation on her

In short, indirect means middle ground between you and her (ie neutral), but still lean into girl friendly chatter and on her turf of topics

epimpstyle · 2026-07-15T16:54:06+00:00

It's an indirect opener that gets the other person talking... it's perfect. There are 3 possible outcomes:

- She responds coldly and bluntly, just giving a short answer and maybe she doesn't even looking at you, obviously, you just say thanks and walk away.

- She gets talkative, smiles, and starts asking questions... this is the best-case scenario, and it's definitely worth pushing forward

- She doesn't reject you, but she isn't very talkative either... this is still worth a shot, but you should say again that False Time Constraint and go from there. It's a sensitive situation because you must pay attention to her and take a step back (or even leave completely) the moment you see any sign of discomfort. If you fail to do that in time, she’ll probably bring up her boyfriend / husband. It's better to watch for IOD signs so you can avoid getting an explicit rejection.

CumputerInside · 2026-07-15T14:13:10+00:00

Go watch Steven on YouTube

Nervous-Arrogance · 2026-07-15T15:29:28+00:00

You know what.... instead of asking an opinion on an opinion opener.

Go out, try it 10 times and form your own opinion.

Personally, I do not think it is engaging enough.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-07-15T16:22:10+00:00

Anything in the mystery is old hat now.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-07-15T16:28:06+00:00

I used to do something similar but it was over height. My cousin is taller than me or so he says so I got the girls to decide.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-07-15T16:29:29+00:00

The beautiful thing about women is you can say anything to them with the right vibe and attitude. Just go up and say girls do you have any holidays planned. You see a group approach like so them you see a tanned then you say youve a nice tan where were you?. Then go for the pale one and then say You and I are like a ghost..I can't tan I just turn into a lobster.

Try and border on the ridiculous. You would be amazed how women will play along with ridiculous conversations.

Open with girls I want to ask a question...... It's not a hard one.. . Keep them on wanting to know.

Back2theCouture · 2026-07-15T16:39:01+00:00

All the examples Mystery used in his books have been milked out for years by guys out there (which ones lie more men or women? Did you see the fight out there? Would you date a guy name …? Etc)

If I were you I’d just get the ideas behind his opening methods and create new examples.

messias94 · 2026-07-15T17:06:16+00:00

Es darf keinen opener geben, weil die Frauen irgendwann checken dass du den opener auswendig gelernt hast und dann wirkst du sofort unatraktiv.

Du musst die kunst der improvisation erlernen und das schaffst du nur wenn du immer wieder Frauen ansprichst, egal wo du bist.

star_wars_the_501st · 2026-07-15T17:46:59+00:00

Solid, I would switch „your“ for „a female“.

mystery wrote a book on openers btw

Spare_Air9406 · 2026-07-15T22:53:04+00:00

Well it entirely depends on wether you’re good looking or not ✌️✌️✌️

ComradeCam · 2026-07-16T01:45:36+00:00

OP. Fucking stop.

Realwoujo · 2026-07-15T14:53:17+00:00

No, that's weird. Just give them a compliment.

Title	Is this a good opener?
Author	BuffaloSpecial8596
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Comments	30
Date	July 15, 2026 1:25 PM UTC (1 week ago)
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