"Can I bring a friend?"

SwirlATL · 2018-03-14T16:48:14+00:00

This is one of those times where you need to alpha up and shut it the fuck down.

Tell her no because you want to go on a date with her not her and her friend like you’re all 12. Express that you’re not looking to circle the drain of a real development in your relationship. Do not put up with that shit

Either she will respect you for it and agree, or if she’s too immature she’ll call you a loser and think you’re lame. In the second case you need to recognize she wasn’t worth your time all along. But no matter what you can carry this experience of standing up for yourself to future similar situations. Good luck!

Blackmagic213 · 2018-03-14T17:08:40+00:00

Simple answer....reply "can I bring my probation officer?" She'll realize how ridiculous her request was and come solo. Very simple shit test to overcome

KingSol24 · 2018-03-14T18:00:15+00:00

Man the fuck up and tell her no.

ImJustSo · 2018-03-14T19:49:28+00:00

"Is she hot?"

LingeringGnome · 2018-03-14T21:21:15+00:00

Any time a woman asks me that, this is my stock response (with a sly grin if in person):

"Only if she gets naked too".

This falls back to what I talk about on this forum * a lot*, and that is what I call "shocking honesty". Shocking honesty does several things AT ONCE, with very few words:

It conveys dominance and confidence.
It obliterates the weak and lame nice-guy filter.
It's playful.
It sexualizes.

It's very attractive to just speak what's on your mind. When a woman asks "can I bring a friend", the first thing I think is not, "oh no, this is going to go badly". It's "I'd love to see both of them naked". This is just me being congruent with my wishes.

zfgee · 2018-03-15T00:26:27+00:00

SHIT TEST FAILED.
That's a classic shit test women pull to see how easily they can bend your will.

The correct response is a very direct and clear "No, just us." type response. That's it. 95% of the time she'll back down on her request. 5% of the time she won't and you just tell her "Ok Sarah, I'd love to meet but we'll have reschedule for a time when it's just us.".

Motecuzma · 2018-03-14T16:52:44+00:00

Is the friend a girl? Game either way. The friend I mean. She might be thinking its gunna be free a meal, why add not add a friend or bring the friend to lessen the intensity. Not sure, you didn't provide a lot context here.

TheXXL · 2018-03-14T17:29:19+00:00

Yeah that sucks, but next time a girl does that, try the following: she "can I bring some friend?" you "sure, if she a hot girl..." then if she actually brings a girl friend, give her more attention than the girl you invited. Whatever happens, have fun with both. In the worst case you would have some fun with new people, in best case you convince her friends to give her a "go". Girls are very conscious about what their friends think, and if you win over her friends, you will have it a lot easier with the girl.

Edit: also, never pay for a girl you aren't dating exclusively, or you aren't close friends with. This prevents being used for a free meal. And if a girl throws a temper tantrum about it, next her. She wasn't interested in you rather than exploiting you for a fee meal.

i_need_help_bro · 2018-03-14T18:46:43+00:00

Friendzone bro.

Forget her.

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-03-14T23:43:01+00:00

Sure why not. If it doesn't work out with your date you have a 2nd option.

super_thowaway · 2018-03-15T07:03:12+00:00

Some will say this is a weak response but you can start with "the reservation is for two." Which she should be able to figure out, and if she doesn't then go for the direct method.

changeIsTheWay · 2018-03-15T11:37:11+00:00

"No" would be my literal response.

Chamizo4 · 2018-03-15T19:54:05+00:00

Update: I'm gonna bring a friend as well, I lost at lot of interest in this girl, so I'm just gonna have a good time, I love korean food after all.

Because I was unable to avoid her shit test, now this is a friend meeting.

Lesson learned.

Chamizo4 · 2018-05-04T02:03:41+00:00

It's been 1 month, but just to sum it up:

I was right, she was just being shy and she didnt know how to act or respond

The event was fine I had a lot of fun tbh.

After the event, she asked if I was upset because she bring her friend..I said: "yes, cuz I wanted to know you more, im interested in you"

After that she invited me to watch a movie and we ended up having a relationship

It's over now but we had a lot of fun and good memories.

Chamizo4 · 2018-08-24T09:34:40+00:00

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dixtyvine · 2018-04-09T22:42:34+00:00

This need not always be a bad thing, I once asked out a girl who was into me. She asked if she could get her friend too. I didn’t give it much thought. We ended up having a great time and later went out without her friend. Maybe this girl is just shying out.

Title	"Can I bring a friend?"
Author	Chamizo4
Upvotes	8
Comments	38
Date	March 14, 2018 4:36 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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