Advice for the first day of classes?

SemiautoPenguin · 2011-09-20T03:05:52+00:00

The first day of school is easily the best day to meet people! Why? because no-one knows anybody! The majority of my classes in college were 200+ students. Sure there were a few familiar faces, but odds are you didn't know the person setting their book bag down next to you.

You know that feeling of sitting in a huge lecture hall, secretly hoping someone cool sits by you? YOU CAN BE THAT COOL GUY!

This Wednesday, the social life at your school resets. Everyone wants to meet people. Hot chicks are looking for someone to date! Chill people are looking for friends! Some random guy you've never met is looking for someone he can wingman for and meet women with!

Honestly, just start talking to people. "Hi, I'm Anonymack, what's your name? What did you get up to over the summer? Why are you taking this class? What are you studying? What do you get up to for fun when you're not doing multivariable calculus? Ah, sweet bro! I've always wanted to learn underwater basket weaving, is there a place around here to do that? Hmm, you don't look like you're around here. Where are you from? Pigsknuckle, Arkansas?! No shit, I have family in Little Rock! Which section of this are you in? Tuesday, oh cool. I have Monday because the Tuesday section conflicts with my nunchaku class. Here, give me your number and email address; I don't know anyone else in this class and might need to borrow notes if I'm sick. Oh, here's mine just in case."

Or something to that effect. Just be yourself. Simply walking up and talking to people is the hardest part, but oddly enough, once you get over the approach anxiety, it's literally the easiest part.

iznou · 2011-09-20T00:27:00+00:00

I've been posting this advice on other threads but I will reiterate it since it's so valuable IMO: hitting rock bottom is the best thing you can do. Ask anyone about a time they hit rock bottom and then ask them what happened in the weeks and months immediately after. Most of them will tell you it was a time when they were able to make huge changes in their life, dropping all kinds of bullshit and finding all kinds of happiness.

So take heart, friend. You are on your way.

3109 · 2011-09-20T18:22:29+00:00

Ok man, I can relate. I went through a very similar phase.

I'll keep it short but I'm a commuter as well and yeah, it sucks. I've made one buddy (who I'm not that keen of, but he's the only guy I know here and he commutes as well) and a few acquaintances at bus stops, classes and the gym. Nothing more than acquaintances though.

Of the acquaintances I made I've asked them about residence and pretty much all of them told me "you're missing out man..." and I agree.

Let me guess, since you commute you usually go to the library and chill until your next class right? Yep, that's what I'm doing right now. And fuck the people that say "talk to anyone! You'll make friends in a jiffy!" No, fuck off. I do talk to people and I make acquaintances at best. Here's the most simple and efficient solution for a college student like you:

MOVE TO THE FUCKING DORMS! I don't care if you live 15 min. from school, move into residence. I commute for 2 and 1/2 hours every day but the thought of moving into campus next semester eases the trip. Once you move into the dorms, that's where your big challenge will come.

But for now, relax.

Talk to people and make acquaintances but don't expect to build a huge social circle. Have realistic expectations and just plow through the pain for now. But seriously man, move into the dorms next semester and you wont be able to be alone for a second there.

Anonymack · 2011-09-20T04:34:37+00:00

Antis? Lexapro, Zoloft or Prozac? In any case you should get off them, they turn your body into a human wasteland. You have a problem with being a 'wallflower' so you can always take a passive and active activity in changing that. Passive being changing your fashion into something more noticeable, and active in talking to more people in general, not just girls. Anxiety will always be there, so don't ever expect it to go away.

Marcob10 · 2011-09-20T04:03:56+00:00

Talk to anyone, including guys. That way you look like a social and fun person that's not just trying to hit on girls.

Let's say you introduce yourself to a guy before class. The girls nearby will notice it and listen to you two converse. Then just look at them and ask their names, etc... "Nice to meet you Gertrude, here's Randomguy, a really good buddy of mine, hahaha"

Just make jokes and small talk. Nobody knows nobody. Next thing you know you're having lunch with Gertrude, another girl and randomguy, but they're more interested in you cause you're exhibiting more alpha traits than randomguy.

My first lunchbreak at the university was with a bunch of classmates (guys and girls) I had just met in the morning. Turned out these girls were pretty boring...

Title	Advice for the first day of classes?
Author	Anonymack
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	September 19, 2011 11:25 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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