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'this is why divorce shouldn't be stigmatised' Wtf. This is like a case study on exactly why divorce should be stigmatized. I'm in no way opposed to divorce but these are literally the circumstances that give it an even worse stigma.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/16 05:09 PM
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Nope, I don't disagree one bit, which I directly state to Phantom above. Agreeing with something and being able to have a critical dialogue of it is what makes it worth agreeing with.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/16 05:10 AM
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In situations like that, putting them in a position where they have to say something outrageous and blatantly disagree with you being kind is a pretty good out...they'll usually mumble and shut up before they go so far as to suggest it's a foolish thing for you to be doing. That's a pretty difficult position for them to rationalize.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/16 01:56 AM
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Hahahaha Professor Kermit showing us how it's done
/r/RedPillWives29/05/16 08:19 PM
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That's true, as long as it's not this attitude (which is what I was reading at face value) then it's a pretty good strategy as long as it's not causing strife for her SO in his family.
/r/RedPillWives29/05/16 08:12 PM
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Lol normally yes but they are her in-laws so that wouldn't be particularly respectful to her SO. My advice is to play the fool. Big doe eyes and "but why would I not want to do nice things for him??" More questions and then "but he treats me so well, I just want him to know he's appreciated." Let them be the ones to say you're being an unreasonable idiot for treating your partner (their son!) with kindness. Ridiculous lol.
/r/RedPillWives29/05/16 07:57 PM
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Omg thank you. This is gold. Fortunately TLDR has so many videos I'm not even close to running out of material but now I can mix it up a bit #stoked
/r/RedPillWives29/05/16 01:40 AM
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The fact that you want so badly to discredit the article shows that it offended you in some way. But that's not true at all and I think I've all but directly said that. And if it's not clear I can directly say it: I don't want to discredit the article in any way. In fact, I'd prefer to see it substantiated rather than picked to pieces. I'm terrifically far from being offended as well, and even laughed at how much accuracy there was (and took the time to write about how I was laughing lol). I res…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 11:41 PM
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The one thing that did stick out mostly was the request for sources. This isn't an academic community, and it is unlikely there are papers that cover these things through kinds of lenses we use. It does make people bristle when one asks for sources etc, when by and large the bulk of everything here is experience, observation etc. Also, the "show source" is something feminists and trolls have used a lot, and the basic rule of the community is that it is not a debate sub, nor will anyone be forced…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 11:32 PM
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I'm not intending to lecture, I'm trying to discuss -- for what other reason do we post content? Is the goal for the sub to be an echo chamber of comments that phrase the word "amen" a dozen different ways? And I mean this so unbelievably genuinely I'm unsure how to convey it over a medium as fickle as text...but why are you and I are at odds with each other right now? None of this is coming from a hostile or disingenuous place on my end. That's not in any way my intention and I sincerely apolog…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 10:36 PM
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I'm genuinely not trying to sound like a contrarian (I actually do not oppose what the article is asserting; I'm more interested in what ways the assertions can be supported by some source, or scientific/biological/whatever terra firma, etc.). But this does make me wonder Actually a better and more relevant example is AWALT. Upon telling a woman about AWALT, her first response is to say "well not me." Her answer both proves AWALT and highlights her inability to understand it as perhaps one of TH…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 10:21 PM
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When I read this, I heard "we better only used well-sourced articles just in case a feminist waltzes in!" I can't say how it reads but that's definitely not my intention. I don't think we need to overly-defend everything we say in case someone who disagrees with us walks in (because Jesus lol), but I do think when users in the community finds something questionable then it's not unreasonable to find supporting evidence one way or the other. Does the "how does he know" matter if the material ring…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 07:30 PM
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But how universal can "real life" be when it's as nebulous as it is? If we are talking about biological imperatives here surely it would benefit from citations. But if this is purely observational on the part of one person, it's a pretty narrow prescription of social interactions; particularly being that it's written by a male who goes on to describe all-female interactions. Where did he get these observations on interactions without his very presence contaminating his findings? I see a lot of r…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 07:51 AM
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He does and doesn't. For a long time I didn't tell him anything because TRP stuff would make him throw up, and presented in the wrong light this sub would as well (submitting, "being a doormat", things like that). Recently though I alluded to my internet friends and explained that I stopped mindlessly Redditing but instead actively participated in just one sub. I told him it was about reinforcing gender roles (to which he replied "obviously, why do people want to fight nature?") and being the be…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 07:18 PM
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Where do alphas fit into your analogy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/16 07:00 PM
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I don't have an answer but like a total jerk, may I ask what BB cream you use? I'm in the market for exceptionally subtle makeup. I currently wear none when I can get away with it but I really want to use just enough to even out my skin tone and brighten up a little bit.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 05:56 PM
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Trollololol. HOW DARE DOTH SUGGEST THAT MY SKILL OF DESIRE SHALL BE FOUNDETH OF NO USE UNLESS I HAVE A COLLAR OF WHITE! On second thought I think my Old English skills could totally benefit from that book.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 05:53 PM
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That last part was how I got so into it. It was my only guilt free treat (and I do drink decaf for this reason!). Craving ice cream? Oh well I can have coffee. Thinking about food? I'll just have some coffee! Want to bored eat? Coffeeeeeee!!!!
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 05:07 PM
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Hahahaha yeah see I think things like baking bread can totally get bailed on. Try sorting things into the categories like this. It helps me a lot. "Important but not urgent" is the hardest one to manage.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 05:05 PM
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Disclaimer: unmarried and unmothered and a total stress ball so...take with grain of salt. Honestly I don't have a great suggestion other than I know that I have the same tendencies. Right now I keep snapping in the same way because my SO is so. damn. busy. He does contract work and there is an end in site (when they expire), but it gets to be measurably more and more busy every single day until they end..and that's not a figure of speech, that's how it works. Right now he is working 6am-12pm, h…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 01:54 PM
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That's awesome. How significant was the change for you? For me it definitely helped enough that I can't really justify getting back into it, but not so much that I can say "omg giving up coffee is the way." I did go a good 5-6 months without having any coffee but now I'm a little more permissive with it. But that's also because for 5-6 months my anxiety levels were though the roof and that was like fuel to the fire, whereas now all is mostly calm so it's more of a flicker in the night.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 01:44 PM
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Yeah precisely. I think I went maybe 5-6 months without having a cup at all and now I'll have it every once in a while guilt free. It was a huge help cutting it out, but it also wasn't a complete silver bullet which tbh I was unfairly expecting lol. If it had really sunk the anxiety ship for good it would have been 100% worth it. It was helpful but I'm still sometimes like "maybe I could just...." Hahaha
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 01:41 PM
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That's good (I guess? Hesitant to even say 'good' because it's all personal preference lol). Have you noticed any difference? Honestly for me it wasn't like "omg this is the answer". It helped but I wish it had helped more because then it would have been super worth it. I have, however, grown a newfound appreciation for tea lol
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 01:39 PM
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Have you considered dropping the coffee completely if you have bad anxiety? Trust me I'm not going to preach at you because of my own super special snowflake experiences or anything lol. But that being said, I had (have) really bad anxiety. I'm just a high stress person and it takes a lot for me to keep it at reasonable levels. And there was an extended period of time where I was not making that effort and it became a massive burden on my relationship. Anyway I was complete coffee addict (1-2-3-…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 04:30 AM
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Croissant
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 12:40 AM
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I really like how you turned a simple pragmatic action in a way to practice a gratitude attitude. I don't practice much in the way of mindfulness so I'm excited for more comments, but when I have trouble sleeping I do count the people in my life and think of a sentence or two about why I'm grateful for them.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 12:38 AM
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So I've been tearing through these ever since we chatted about TL;DR and you referred me to this post. I'm seriously obsessed and couldn't be happier when I saw how many videos he has published. This video in the sources was a bit of a disappointment to me, however. Only in that she did a really good job setting up the misinformation and citing why it's inaccurate...but then when she corrected it with the "accurate" information she didn't cite it at all. Just said it and moved on. I put accurate…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 12:36 AM
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Hahaha I'm so glad at least one person understands it in all its not-creepiness! As I was writing I was like "aw so cute rereads..erm..um..ew."
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 01:58 PM
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Wow, that was very fascinating. I watched the video and choked up a bit when she talks so devotedly about her husband and the day he made his peace with the fact she was transitioned. She sounds really remarkable and very in awe of his masculinity. The part that really made me smile when she said something to the effect of "He was a man. A proper man -- he had breakfast, lunch, dinner, and a martini at 5 o' clock. I snuck martinis into the hospital in Coca Cola bottles for him." I really love th…
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 03:23 AM
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Like the whole movie hahaha. I think she says at least three times angrily "HE LOVED ME FOR 8 YEARS!" -- at no point it registers that she cruelly kept him around as a beta orbiter (her back up marriage option even!!!) the entire time and like, maybe that wasn't particularly kind? Also that's not saying he has no culpability. I mean if you're beta enough to pursue a woman like that for almost a decade, I mean, you kind of deserved it lol.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 09:34 PM
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Holy crap so cool...teach me your ways (I won't ever use this skill but I'd like to think I might)
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 09:31 PM
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I wanted to throw every item in my room at the TV for the entire movie. I died. "He wanted me for 8 years!!! Who is she to come in and swoop him away in a few short months??" Oh..I don't know, someone that didn't reject him for 8 fucking years? Maybe? Possibly? No? Okay I'll sit down.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 09:26 PM
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Whoops I totally knew that too. Edited (:
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 05:00 PM
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BSC --blinds old hags with youthful brilliance
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 04:42 PM
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I'm breaking character here but I'm dying and wish I could upvote this twice
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 01:43 PM
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WHO LET THE OLD MAIDS ESCAPE THE CLOSET AGAIN????? This one came out and is talking to me! shivers
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 01:23 PM
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I've never seen the movie -- is this scene pretty out of context for the rest of the plot? Disappointing because if this scene was an accurate representation I would already be watching it
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 05:18 AM
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While your Captain is away wrestling grizzly bears in the mighty forest and chopping down oak trees to build arm chairs DO NOT ATTEMPT TO SIT IN THE ARMCHAIR WHILE DRINKING YOUR SPARKLING WATER. I REPEAT: DO NOT SIT IN THE ARMCHAIR.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 05:08 AM
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YES! I'm still young enough to get drunk at Canille's!!!
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 04:17 AM
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IT IS NOW A HARD DOORMAT
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:19 AM
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BRB DYING
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:18 AM
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My favourite method is the bottled variety, and tucking a straw inside and putting the lid on. When you unscrew the lid black magic (we don't believe in evolution, science, or even gravity 'round these parts) forces the straw to pop up at perfect drinking height! Sip delicately or we will revoke your feemale card.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 02:27 AM
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It sounds like you're pretty on top of it, and if you're not sure if he has aspergers then that sounds decently manageable being that it isn't painfully obvious and is more of a suspicion so that's definitely good. I think the respect thing is huge and he's lucky to have someone keeping an eye out for him in such a huge way (:
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 06:24 PM
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I've learned everything I know here <3 And wow that's very interesting to me that you say that, your kids are younger I remember..may I ask how it is you've already realized this? I'm sure you know as a mother always does but that's pretty insightful of you. I can ask HB how he manages it. I know from discussion on the subject he's incredibly aware and hyper-vigilant since he knows how addiction-prone he is (he won't try any new substances because he never knows if it'll be a 'one and done' deal…
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 04:38 PM
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He makes it easy with basically everything else he does. I just answered the one question about challenges so I guess it looks like a lot all together like that, but it doesn't hang over our head every moment of the day...what I notice is every day would be his effortless chivalry, profound sense of integrity and an iron clad moral code, lack of hesitance to do anything myself or his family needs for wellbeing, his ability to have us so unbelievably taken care of that I never have to worry about…
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 01:24 PM
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Lap-Wielders should not be allowed to have ideas...you see how that was my first mistake. Haha but in all seriousness, um it was really hard! Especially because it isn't just chairs. We don't cuddle much during sleep either and he doesn't like prolonged touching of any sort lol. It's really hard because I'm all physical touch and I do still have meltdowns if I go too long without being held or something...wish I was making that up but unfortunately no, hahaha. On the flip side, he tries to be aw…
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 12:37 AM
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HAHA! I just googled "couple in chair" ...or maybe it was "woman love raping protesting man" because that's what it's called in my house d:
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 12:26 AM
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Good catch! Both great adds that I should have hit (:
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 10:33 PM
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A lot of this has been answered before. Camille and Phantom wrote an extremely comprehensive guide on vetting that is a good place to start. And finish, perhaps. It should answer a lot of your questions. Here is a Great Field Report by VintageVee that answers a lot of your first questions, and shows in action how to subtly vet in a respectful way. I.e. You don't need to outright ask if he has an alcoholism problem, you can frame some questions to gauge is responses and get a more honest picture.…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 10:13 PM
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Bathroom time aka toilet chair. While he's eating. Aka kitchen chair. Napping. Aka the bed chair?? Oh. My. God. The problem is more pervasive than we first realized...Olympus has fallen.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 09:55 PM
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Hahaha I'm glad I could be of service d: I was reading all the chair field reports like "wow I'm so glad we've never had an issue with cha----OH MY GOD REPRESSED MEMORIES COME SCREAMING BACK"! But yes, when it comes to chairs just remember your basic chair-conflict avoidance training: SIT Smash any chairs to pieces, when possible Identify any threats, and avoid if they cannot be smashed Teach your children chair-relationship responsibility to prevent conflict at the source You're going to make i…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 09:53 PM
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This is common behaviour when their previously underground plots are brought to public awareness. The International Bureau of Chairs And Their Role In Relationships highly suggest that all humanoids of a marriageable age dispose of their chairs in order to preserve our race and ability to repopulate before they succeed in their plot to destroy all relationships, ergo humanity. You have been warned.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 08:08 PM
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This is hilarious. Im dying at the destructive tendencies chairs can have on relationships.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 07:37 PM
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That's freaking awesome! Baking is insanely hard (I don't fuck with it) and to be able to learn and apply the basic principles with enough knowledge to tweak things at your discretion is a serious skill. That's really exciting you're hot on the trail! Excited to hear what other concoctions you make (:
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 02:39 PM
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Thank you!! I mean at the time, it definitely didn't carry the weight it does now. We were mostly laughing we had gotten such a difficult task but we were assuming for no real reason that we could do it. That probably helped our confidences levels...but overall we were just shaking our heads d:
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 01:46 PM
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I misread the whole situation if that's the case. I responded to Kitten with my confusion but when I wrote my reply I was under the impression they had decided to spend her birthday together on a vacation and the only uncertainty was the destination. I thought this whole thing was just about her being worried about which destination it would be. That's a wayy different issue than what now appears to be the case.
/r/RedPillWives22/05/16 08:55 PM
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Here's my thing...I agree with everything you said if that's how it happened, but I actually read a total different series of events and now it's really unclear to me how it went. My impression when I read and commented was that they collectively decided they want to spend time together over anything else for her birthday (fact), and that they were going to go on a special/extravagantish vacation (also fact) and that was what they both wanted. The only part I was under the impression was not a f…
/r/RedPillWives22/05/16 08:21 PM
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OH! I understand now. I totally read that incorrectly. Um yes, I 100% agree. I always reiterate that your SO agreed to monogamy, not celibacy. If you're not giving it up then he should be allowed to go elsewhere, even if it's a professional if that would make it more comfortable of an exchange. But it should be available to him one way or the other.
/r/RedPillWives22/05/16 05:30 AM
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This is a very exciting comment for me. Your position then sounds like exactly what HB and I are dealing with now. In a few ways it was so much better once we were living together and I could just pick up all the slack. 100%...you have no idea how I look forward to this so I can always be absolutely positive he's coming home to a clean and comforting environment. I really crave being able to provide him with that. Trying to help can quickly cross over from actually being helpful to feeling like …
/r/RedPillWives22/05/16 05:28 AM
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That sounds like a good man
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/16 04:13 PM
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To steal another line from That 70s Show, your last sentence reminds me of Jackie's assessment "to be a good wife is easy, you just have to be a cook in the kitchen, a maid in the living room, and an acrobat in the bedroom....and I can hire a cook and a maid!" It's said in serious by Jackie but in jest by the show overall, but I think it's way more useful advice than it appears at first glance. It definitely emphasizes the point of fundamental responsibilities that are so far overlooked these da…
/r/RedPillWives21/05/16 03:48 PM
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Phase One in impersonating Sunhappy until later disposal......complete.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/16 02:49 PM
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Try to focus not on your words but on your actions. The words are good too, it's nice to reinforce good feelings and I fully endorse being sure to tell your husband how proud he makes you, etc. But, words are the easiest to write off as well, and they get more watered down the more you say them...not more powerful (which is unfortunate because I know we say these things again and again because we really mean them!). I know using actions to demonstrate your pride and gratitude can be a bit nebulo…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 03:58 PM
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I saw a lavender and I think rosemary one, but I wasn't sure about gimmicks and went with the unfragranced safe option.
/r/RedPillWives17/05/16 03:46 AM
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Huge IMO. My SO is not distractable in the slightest. Kind of like a robot? Not kidding haha. He is the most habitual person I know so he just closes his eyes and falls asleep, then opens them and get out of bed. I, however, am hugely susceptible and have started charging my phone on a dresser by the door instead of by the bed. It's a big help not messing with it at night, and an added bonus is that I physically have to get out of bed to hit the alarm which helps to wake me up. I'm the worst sle…
/r/RedPillWives17/05/16 12:11 AM
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Hahaha I saw one of those like yesterday and the consumer in me came this close to buying it...and then I was like 'wait...but I already can do it...."
/r/RedPillWives16/05/16 02:54 PM
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Oh I have been wanting to try witch hazel! I don't know much about it. Do you have a brand you suggest and then just swipe in the AM?
/r/RedPillWives15/05/16 10:41 PM
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My parents started teach me to read out the womb. I swear, I could read before I could talk. My grandma made an alphabet chart with a pointer stick (my most prized possession haha) and by the time I was 18 months I knew all the letters, their names and sounds, as well as 'ph' 'ch' 'sh' etc. They had me doing little baby books before I was 2, and by the time I was 3-4 I could read full kids stories (Boxcar kids, etc.). This trend carried me through all of my pre-university education and there are…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/16 07:44 PM
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Can you get Brazilian sugaring done in a salon??
/r/RedPillWives15/05/16 07:15 PM
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I think it's arguably overkill and not a huge deal if you skip those days, that being said I just put it on every day without thinking about it because even spending time near windows is UV exposure to avoid. Going to be young forever!
/r/RedPillWives15/05/16 03:10 AM
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Yes!!! So huge!!!! I can't even believe it needs saying but it does. I don't know why a person would even want to sleep with any gunk on their face..there is absolutely no benefit and only potential detriment. TAKE YOUR MAKEUP OFF EVERY NIGHT. I think you made the point but I thought I would emphasize again haha.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 11:17 PM
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Holy shit. I'm going to make this for HB and then he is going to propose. We will be engaged the night off, mark my words. You are a goddess. And he hates onions too so provolone it is for me as well!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 07:17 PM
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I work in dental marketing so I'm going to go do more research and then pitch doing a promotion on waterpiks to my clients (dentists) and see how well-received it is. I'll report back if they are for it or against it!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 07:12 PM
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Oh I don't know anything about cold cream! Tell me more!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 06:24 PM
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For shaving my legs, I use dollar store conditioner instead of shaving cream. So much thinner and smoother and I just really prefer it. I've been thinking of switching to coconut oil to see how that goes! Seems like the water would not wash it off so well. For my baby mustache and chin hairs, I unapologetically just shave them like a man. I used to do waxing but honestly it was unnecessarily harsh, then you have to wait for it to grow out enough to do it again..and I just don't like that. Also I…
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 06:19 PM
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Oh good point, I don't yoga so I wouldn't have thought about pressure points, which totally makes sense. I'll try the lying down one (:
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 06:04 PM
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Thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 06:04 PM
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Very, very interesting. This describes HB very well as well. He is super introverted -- like, the absolute most introverted person I have ever met. I call him "the true lone wolf". He's extremely confident and comfortable with himself and isn't in the slightest bit socially challenge, but the man doesn't need or want people. But he can deal with them so effectively, he seems like such a people person if you meet him in the right situation. Like if I take him to an event, he is boozing and schmoo…
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 06:00 PM
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Ooooooh I like this. Totally doing this.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:50 PM
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Like this? Also, would child's pose work? I mean I want to sit up because I want my posture to be well and good but right now it's way more of a pain than it should be and super frustrating. Like is my core that week? I really actually don't think so, so I'm not sure. Gah.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:48 PM
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Look at Blake Liveley for inspiration! Her eyelids are super hooded and her makeup is always perfect.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:44 PM
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Yes! I have one. Freaking love love love it.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:42 PM
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I like this, a more rudimentary thing that I use to keep things in perspective is "hey remember that thing you were upset about 5 years ago?....nope". Then try to remember this is that same thing 5 years from now. I like yours more, it's more analytical but does the same thing.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:41 PM
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Stupid question, how to you sit and keep your back from fucking hurting? I have pretty decent discipline when it comes to posture but it sure doesn't come naturally. Sitting in the meditation position is really hard for me to focus on not slouching into myself and keeping my mind off focussing on that lol.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:39 PM
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For those who are too sensitive to waxing this is an option. I have found that it hurts a lot more so I couldn't actually finish one session but the results are amazing. Just to throw out an alternate perspective, I used to wax exclusively and now I thread and I find it waayyy less painful and waayyy more accurate. It doesn't hurt me almost at all and never really has. My eyes water and stuff but it's really not a huge deal at all. I freaking love threading.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:36 PM
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Yep agree 100%, it's an absolute balancing act and weighing where you truly lie in the situation. My partner has a particular act that I really despise but it's very mandatory for his satisfaction. So, I do it. We compromise in that he isn't too pushy or over-zealous, and I go along with it a reasonable amount. If we broke up (which we won't), I would never do it again if it was up to me and would be sure to find someone who didn't care about that. But it's worth it because I don't hate it enoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/16 05:33 PM
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I am permanent Ms. Straw hair so thank you for this d:
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:29 PM
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I tried no poo and did it like....all kinds of wrong. Allllll kinds of wrong (stopped pooing cold turkey -__- my poor hair). How do you suggest weening off and those initial crappy phases??
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:27 PM
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Hahaha I used to be hardcore into bodybuilding. I always told girls "1) looking like that takes hard work and years, it's really insulting to the people who try to look like that if you think it can happen on accident; and 2), thinking if you start weightlifting that you'll look like that is the same as thinking if you go for a light jog you'll accidentally be able to run ultra-marathons. Get over yourself."
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:26 PM
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Doooo ittttttt! It is my skin's very best friend in the world. It helps so much!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:20 PM
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Okay I don't know anything about hooded eyelids (I mean I know what they are but not the logistics of working with them) so maybe this is useless but maybe not? I stick a piece of scotch tape from the outside of the outer corner of my eye, and angle it however I want my wing...usually it's to the tail end of my eyebrow. Then I either use my liner or just some eyeshadow real messy like, peel away the tape and voila -- perfect wangs d:
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:18 PM
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Omg you're telling me. It's one of those things my mom used to do and I hated it. Once before a 10 day trip I mouthed off to her during cleaning time and she full-on slapped me -- and she only did that twice my whole life. So it's serious business haha. I made so much fun of her until I left college for spring break and found myself washing sheets and dusting. That was my "oh my god I am my mother" moment.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 02:25 AM
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Do you use a powder or liquid foundation? I have recently switched to cushions which are lesser known but I'm really fond. They go on pretty sheer but are also buildable, I tend to do just one layer. Underneath that, after cleansing I first put on a Vitamin C serum. It feels like it will keep you young forever haha. Then I do the CeraVe in the tub, and then I follow it with sunscreen. Finally, I move onto the cushion. I do a light dusting with a setting powder because my makeup likes to move, bu…
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 02:19 AM
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Sephora is amazing. They will give you samples of almost anything to take home and then make a decision later on. I think that's amazing service.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 01:15 AM
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I also found this thread last night. I'm not sure there is anything specifically anti-aging but it's still a pretty awesome resource!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 01:06 AM
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It didn't seem topical in the body but a HUGE HUGE thank you to the women who agreed to help me with this madness (: It was a week and a half group effort collaborating on a Google Doc and I seriously appreciate all of their awesome contributions, and Eliza for being such a beast helping to build the whole thing. /u/eliza_schuyler, /u/MsSadieDunham, and /u/sariaru are the bees knees <3
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 12:44 AM
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I sure don't have any but I'm hoping someone else might. I think I recall /u/Camille11325 say she had switched to an anti-aging regimen so she might be able to chime in!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 12:42 AM
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I just added it to the main post! Tell us all about your magic oils and gelatins :D
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 12:20 AM
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I keep an over the door hook and lock and load at least 3 outfits there at all times. They might not be my favourites but at least in a pinch I can grab something fully assembled that's a total no brainer before I leave for work. Awesome for if I hit the snooze a few too many times!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 12:19 AM
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Thank you!! I will delete mine and redo the link in the body (:
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 12:12 AM
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Oh! I have another tip you reminded me of. I keep an over the door hook and lock and load at least 3 outfits there at all times. They might not be my favourites but at least in a pinch I can grab something fully assembled that's a total no brainer. Also I bet showering at night keeps your sheets cleaner for way longer!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 12:12 AM
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Ooooo are those apps for Android or iPhone? I know Android had some cools ones Apple didn't offer...I would think there are more options now but I haven't looked at all. I start 'getting ready' for bed about an hour and a half before I plan to sleep. I take the time to stretch, shower, lotion/fuss with my hair, then I read/or play a game. This sounds really, really nice. I bet it does wonders for your ability to fall asleep and head straight into quality rest
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 11:42 PM
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You add it! :D Just add it with the bolding and then reply to your own comment with all your suggestions! That's not something I know anything about at all and would love to learn! Maybe another category under "Food"?
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 11:39 PM
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I have heard about those! But never done any real research (which now that I think about it...is freaking weird because I work in marketing for dentists hahaha) -- you would recommend over flossing?? I love clean teeth feeling and having a healthy mouth omg
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 11:37 PM
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/u/Sariaru: Smoothies: Maybe this is my former Smoothie King retail showing, but honestly, there’s so many amazing ways to make veggies and fruits drinkable. I love using yogurt, plain rolled oats, peanut butter, banana, protein powder (for workouts), milk, and loads of baby spinach. You can’t taste the spinach, and it’s an easy way to get 2 servings of amazing veg in. It’s so easy to find a mix that you love, and have it around to drink throughout the day. Make a huge batch and put it in a pitc…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:56 PM
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/u/Sariaru: "Similarly, if you’re chopping veggies or doing other menial prep work, do enough for another meal all at the same time and save it in containers in the fridge. By doubling or tripling the work you do one night when you’re already doing it, you make the next two or three meals super easy to make by eliminating all the mundane chopping/peeling/etc. For example, I always keep half an onion, a carrot or two, and some courgette (zucchini) chopped and ready to go in the fridge. You can al…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:55 PM
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/u/Sariaru: "Slow cooking can be a great time saver and a way to make healthy meals with little or no effort. Make traditional oven recipes can be converted to a slow cooker, which allows you to start dinner in the morning, and have a delicious meal done by dinner time, with exactly one cooking dish to wash. It’s also good for making large quantities of a meal at once, which you can then refrigerate or freeze for later use. "
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:54 PM
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/u/Sariaru: "Progress photos can also be very motivational. If you’re a visual person who is more motivated by aesthetics than by numbers, then taking weekly or monthly photos can be a good way to see the progress you’re making and help you keep on track to more and more progress."
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:54 PM
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/u/Sariaru: "Yoga, Belly Dancing, HIIT (High-Intensity Interval Training"
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:52 PM
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I find it really helpful to just have a colour palette that I generally stick to. It makes my wardrobe more cohesive and shopping much easier (anyone else despise shopping??) -- for me it tends to be black, black, and more black haha, but I have began working on expanding my options to include olive greens, wine reds, and dark blues. I find having a baseline increases the functionality of a lot of my clothes and avoids the whole “well x matches with y but not z, and z can only be worn with this …
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:50 PM
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Makeup
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:49 PM
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If you leave town for more than 4 days -- clean everything. Everything. Wash sheets and towels, clean bathroom, the whole schebang. So nice to walk into...so nice.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:49 PM
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Keep a cute mess box somewhere accessible. When you are in an “I can’t even” kind of mood, throw it in the mess box. Just don’t allow the mess to grow beyond the box.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:49 PM
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Each time you cook (cook, not make a bowl of cereal) -- first wash the dishes, then wipe the counters, then sweep the floors. Wiping cleans crumbs plus splashes caused by dishes, then sweeping cleans debris plus crumbs knocked on floor from wiping counter. It takes 30 seconds and keeps you so far ahead of the messes.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:49 PM
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Baked Mozzarella Chicken -- Does it get any easier? Also pretty darn healthy as long as you don’t go crazy with the sour cream when you serve yourself. Can also be substituted for cream cheese (and for real health I bet Greek yogurt would actually work pretty well too).
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:48 PM
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Easy Broccoli Salad -- so simple, so healthy, and SO delicious: Finely, finely chop raw broccoli florets with raw red onion and tomatoes (and black olives if you like them). Dress with a homemade garlic vinaigrette that you make to your taste preferences, and let it marinate! That’s it! Just make a huge batch and watch it disappear throughout the week. Mmmm.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:48 PM
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Recipes
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:48 PM
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For regular meals, I try and stick to things that live or grow (aka meat or veggies) and their 2nd or 3rd degree byproducts (aka yogurt, eggs, bread). Once you get beyond those (cereals, meal replacements) it's mostly crap with few exceptions.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:47 PM
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Cooking
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:47 PM
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This was posted in another thread by /u/SuperSlavisWife -- so all credit to her: “Try removing common allergens like dairy, eggs, legumes, nuts, and seafood from your diet temporarily, one at a time. If any bother you when you reintroduce them, quit eating them. Sometimes an underlying food intolerance can go undetected a whole lifetime and mess with your digestion!”
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:46 PM
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'Thinside Out: Have your cake and skinny jeans too'. -- this is a great book. Calorie trackers can be helpful or harmful. Weighing yourself can be helpful or harmful. It all depends on how you do it and this book is well-written and an easy read and it does a lot for me about breaking down the psychology of poor eating habits and emphasizing balance above all else.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:46 PM
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Sugar is the devil. Some people process it better than others (from a purely aesthetic point of view), but frankly I would call it the worst thing for you in terms of health. Fruits and such are fine, but refined and processed sugars. Avoid. In all honesty, it's my greatest addiction and I suck at dealing with it sometimes, but it’s a very important one.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:45 PM
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When ordering a salad out, dressing on the side always. Restaurant dressings are often filled with more useless sugars and unhealthy fats than if you had just got the burger. Where possible, order a straight olive oil and balsamic vinaigrette or similar.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:45 PM
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On the food you purchase, the ingredients label should look like a recipe and not a science project. If you wouldn't keep sodium nitrate in your pantry, you don't need it in your chicken. Prioritize quality when you can.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:44 PM
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Principles of Food
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:44 PM
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Food
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:44 PM
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Time Management
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:42 PM
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Seriously this section is the most straightforward: brush your teeth twice a day, floss every day, and after you floss rinse with a mouthwash. That's it. Your teeth will never be so beautiful/healthy. Also, don't neglect your tongue. That's where bacteria really settle in, brush that guy too.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:42 PM
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You only have to floss the teeth you want to keep. I don’t care if you’ve heard it -- it’s true. And when it says floss, it does mean floss and not just brush. Floss your teeth by making a C-shape around each tooth, not just bring the floss straight up and down. You want contact on every surface of your tooth.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:42 PM
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Dental Care
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:42 PM
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"Consistency Beats Intensity". I think that speaks for itself, but no matter what you are doing just remember that self-care is a marathon and not a sprint. Don’t sweat the small stuff and remember it is what you do MOTT that counts (Most Of The Time!). Motivation is doing what you need to do because you want to do it; Discipline is doing what you need to do even when you don’t want to do it. It’s okay to feel lackluster, just try to keep moving forward. Again, don’t sweat the small stuff (:
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:41 PM
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I don’t have kids, but I’ve read this tip and liked it for keeping your house clean and keeping your sanity: Set a generic timer to a reasonable amount for your child to clean their room; this way they are racing an inanimate object and not an exasperated mom. You can go take care of other things, then at the end of the timer come collect any toys left out. These go into a bin that are confiscated for 24-hours, and if he/she wants a toy out of the bin they can perform a chore or similar to earn …
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:40 PM
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Do not underestimate how much a well-kept home is really a part of self-care. Nothing influences my mood more strongly than my environment; if I get home and everything is a royal mess I quickly become a high-strung ball of anxiety. If I get home and all is in its place, I feel like I’m in my sanctuary and can allow myself to unwind.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:40 PM
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Talk here with the normal chatter that would be in the comments section! This will help keep the sections easily visible and prevent them from getting broken up by generic discussions (: (PS mods, could we perhaps get this section stickied pretty please?)
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:39 PM
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I am an absolute gimp when it comes to hair styling so this will be my only tip for this section haha. I always tell my hairdressers “I own a blow dryer, a curling iron, and a straightening iron and I know how to use none of them”. Ugh. Anyway here is a quick-styling tip that is impossible to mess up! Here is an album showing the basic principle -- easy, eh? Well that quick trick can be used so many ways it’s amazing. First, it totally classes up your standard ponytail just by itself, as you can…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:38 PM
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Hair Styling
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:38 PM
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Coconut oil and Argan oil are great moisturizers for thirsty hair. Just get enough to coat your palms and lightly tease through the ends of your hair and the shaft. Avoid the roots if you don’t want greasy looking hair, but if I do it at night and know I will be showering before going anywhere then I put it all over. Someone add more tips for thirsty hair if you know any! My hair looks like straw sometimes ):
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:38 PM
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If you use heat products on your hair -- use a thermal protectant! They come as gels or aerosol sprays (I prefer the spray). Just apply before straightening/curling and it will take the brunt of the damage for your hair. Instead of trying to repair damage, prevent what you can first!
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:37 PM
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Hair Health
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:37 PM
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Hair
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:37 PM
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Really odd personal anecdote...but I am a lifelong tummy/side sleeper. Sleeping on my back has always been out of the question. However, I read a comment a few years ago by a Reddit user who switched to back sleeping and found it improved the quality of his rest immeasurably. I tried it myself….and it worked!!!! It was hard to get used to, but oh my gosh I wake up feeling so much better. It’s a bizarre suggestion that I can’t back up with any real science...but I encourage anyone to try it for a…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:36 PM
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Sleep is often underrated, and there are many things you can do to ensure you are getting both quality and quantity. Make sure you are getting a consistent number of hours each night. There are few things so powerful that they can enhance both your physical and mental health, and sleep is one of them (exercise is another). 7-8 hours a night is a good goal, and try to make it the same 7-8 hours when possible (even weekends!).
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:36 PM
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Sleep & Bedtime Routines
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:36 PM
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Workout notebooks may work for you (or not). I tend to oscillate between strategies that I love and then suddenly change to hating them haha (and then with time I go back the other way again). I used to use notebooks to track every detail and it made me feel great and loved being able to visualize my progress and success. Then one day it became too structured and daunting and I liked to be loosey goosey. Using them to stay accountable and be proud of your work may be worth considering though!
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:35 PM
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Here are some of my suggestions...comment more if you love some I missed!! Weightlifting, Running, Stairmaster (my favourite! no shame!), Zumba, Pole Dancing, Swimming, Jump Roping, Rock Climbing, Rollerblading, Biking, and good old fashioned Walking
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:34 PM
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There are so many different ways to exercise. There is SOMETHING you will enjoy. Experiment until you find that something, then do that unapologetically. It’s alright if it’s not the most efficient workout, just get moving and feeling good.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:34 PM
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Fitness
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:34 PM
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For non-facial hair I use two things that are quite different (I’m admittedly awful at remembering to lotion myself): Coconut Oil or Amlactin. The coconut oil is just luxurious, it’s a shame my face skin hates it /: That guy speaks for himself, but Amlactin is a nice lotion with a light chemical exfoliant to help clear dead skin cells -- so much healthier looking!
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:33 PM
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Wait a minimum of 1 week in between start products. It's really hard taking crap care of your skin, researching how to take better care of it, and not being able to do that all at once. But be patient and introduce one product at a time and change nothing else about what you already do. If you use everything at once and then either have luscious skin or totally break out...you won't know what caused what and back to square one.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:33 PM
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Sunscreen, wear it every day, and thank me in 20 years (many of you do this but it can really never be said enough). Also, make sure you're wearing enough. Make sure you cover sufficiently too and not just sparsely dab.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:32 PM
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I love a chemical exfoliant. I suggest Paula’s Choice but whatever works for you is fine. AHAs do my skin some serious good, look them up!
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:32 PM
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Moisturizer. Always moisturizer, if you have dry skin - moisturize. If you have oily skin, it's likely your skin overcompensating for dehydration - moisturize. I like CeraVe in the tub (but I am on the market for a new one to see how my skin might like it...any suggestions??). Any time you cleanse, moisturize right after.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:31 PM
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Keep it simple. Don't get a gimmick cleanser...Cetaphil or CeraVe are 2 good brands to start with. Only use your finger tips. Never scrub with a wash cloth (just stopping that cleared my skin up so much). If your skin feels dry and tight after washing, that isn't clean -- that's your skin stripped of oils and it's bad. I like a light cleansing in the morning and a more thorough one at night. Though just one at night and a splash of water in the AM may be good for you.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:31 PM
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Skin Care
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:31 PM
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They are my favourite RP couple ever! And then Donna and Eric make me want to throw up every scene they are in.
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 07:43 PM
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We've been together for about 5.5 months Woaaaaaahhh you need to take a HUGE step back. Actually, take like 19 giant fucking steps back. I'm going to break this down for you. He is their baby boy. Moms and their sons are their own special dynamic, and no woman will ever be good enough for them. You are immediately fighting an uphill battle; I don't mean an impossible one or an unreasonable one though. From her perspective, two kiddos get married. Who do they usually spend the most time with? The…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 07:28 PM
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Also, I just remembered you said your age (make a flair, girl!!) I think that changes this a little. Well, not changes things...but explains them. I think his age is the bigger problem -- he isn't ready for marriage and tbh there isn't a good reason he should be. He's young, male, and may have more wild oats to sow than you do. Now his comment about the 5 years is equally hurtful, and your reaction to it is equally reasonable. That doesn't change at all I don't think, nor does my advice to you r…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 07:15 PM
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I think it would be wise to collect your thoughts on the matter first. The best example I could give you is in my first field report on Wednesday where I talked to HB about his drinking. It had come up in discussion previously (much like your situation) but then I took some time to think. Really think. It took a few weeks and I thought I was going to explode with emotion. But before we spoke next I wanted to make sure the discussion didn't turn into a blubber "but this...but that...but have you …
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 07:09 PM
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Sorry for taking so long to respond! I think you have to think of it like detoxing. Take sugar as an example, the first few days without it are horrible and it's so not worth it...but then it gets easier pretty quickly and then really is laden with benefits. I think you have to just remind yourself that he needs to push back and poke holes in your efforts; and you need it too. For him, he is re-vetting you in a sense and learning what's what. You need him to do this to help you genuinely self-im…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 08:12 AM
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Please do keep us updated! I can only imagine how hard it would be end a relationship of 2 years, and I would not encourage anyone to take it lightly. What I will encourage you to do, however, is to really think about your goals for the future, in and outside of your relationship, and how your SO fits into them. Not how you want him to fit, but genuinely how he does (or does not). It will also be worth considering the timeline you have for these goals, and whether or not you can afford to hope h…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 08:06 AM
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I would like to stop playing online video games. It's a huge waste of time and I do not think it does anything to help my marriage, or any relationships for that matter. Oh, I don't know. You know yourself the best and if you need to take a step back, which may be true. But I'll say that while I am not very into that particular thing -- if that's what chills you out and you enjoy doing, I don't think there is any reason to be hard on yourself as long as it's balanced usage. I have a lot of activ…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 05:13 AM
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Thank you! It really meant a lot to me especially because he went out of his way to tell me what he tells other people -- it wasn't just to me that he said it. Sometimes little victories are the big victories; we are never going to get thrown a party for being 'Girlfriend of the Year' so things like this are big recognition that you're doing something right (:
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 05:09 AM
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My friend and I just lost it over that baby kitty! And I agree! It's absolutely nothing ground breaking or particularly insightful, but it's just nice to share a moment when my SO was clearly so proud of our relationship (:
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 11:48 PM
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It's been our running joke for a while, all the wee baby children falling in love with him when he's doing the intern work, etc -- but that was the first time it turned into an outright compliment of our partnership (:
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 05:39 PM
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Hi! I saw my bat-call in Phantom's post and wanted to add a few words. First, I entirely echo what she said as far as his statement being incredibly concerning. At a minimum that's a very hurtful thing to say to someone, at a maximum he is trying to plant the seed in your mind that he is not marriage-minded with your relationship. I'm not going to do the /r/relationships Call to Arms to just break up with the guy, but I urge you to consider that you may be a placeholder for him. I don't think we…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 05:04 PM
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Haha go team go!
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 03:26 PM
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I still have a tough time with this because I know I feel something... I just don't know what exactly I feel, where it is coming from or how to handle it. So I'd rather stay quiet about some stuff until I can articulate. Hi are you me? Haha for real I understand this waayyyy too well. The other day HB and I were talking about some things I got stressed over, and it was a very good conversation overall but he said "honey just tell me these things straight away, don't let them get to where they up…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 03:11 PM
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It's not that the situation is reasonable given the news and his reaction, but humans don't always react with reason and we have to be compassionate when we can. It's very understandable you didn't think it would be an attack, how could it be? But just from his perspective, and given everything he is going through at work, that is a lot for one person to handle and it sounds like he misplaced a lot of frustration on one situation. Simultaneously, I don't think you were wrong to throw in the towe…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 06:39 PM
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That's a bit of an intense situation, but I'm going to offer a few opinions and please bear in mind none of them are mutually inclusive, exclusive, or necessarily related to one another. Please just read them as independent assessments: He probably interpreted it as an attack on him and his ability to get you to where you need to be; if you're expressing a need to be with your family, and he can't facilitate that, it's going to make him feel criticized and failing his duties as your partner. His…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 04:11 PM
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Much appreciated (: definitely something I have been forced to spend a lot of time thinking about to help myself get over the dividing walls I brought into the relationship
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 01:05 AM
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Thank you for reading it! And I understand completely. It definitely has to be said this advice is not akin to someone who has always been thin advising people on weight loss. This isn't even akin to someone saying "I was overweight but I have lost the pounds and been healthy for years!" Nope, this is definitely more like "I was overweight but I've lost a ton of weight and am still going! (but occasionally sneak some cake..)" haha. So I may not be the master, but it's something I know I've come …
/r/RedPillWives08/05/16 11:15 PM
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Thank you! It has without a doubt been my greatest struggle, and absolutely the downfall of my previous relationships. I took pride in "not needing" my man. Not in a feminazi way but in a "it seems reasonable to make sure you will be okay without them." What I didn't realize is how much I was denying both of us by remaining insistent that I not need them, not lean on them. And if HB were to spontaneously break up with me (God forbid), that's not to say I would cease to exist or not know how to c…
/r/RedPillWives08/05/16 05:41 PM
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How did you find the red pill originally? Did a SO introduce you? Did you discover it accidentally through your SO? Did you discover it on your own? I discovered it on my own and I think by accident. I truly don't remember my first time here or how I found it. I think I found TRP first and then perhaps saw it on the sidebar? I did not like what I was seeing. It was the "anti-feminist" part that grinded my gears. I kept along though and something just sat right with me aside from that. It was all…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 10:02 PM
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I've not ever seen that put so well to words, but I would say I have shared the same goal for a while. Only in abstract thoughts. The most concrete I've ever matured the thought to is that I want my children to witness marital love and affection as a staple of the home, and I want them to have absolute confidence that their parents loved each other. Madly.
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 04:11 AM
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Mhmm. I know there are a few exceptions of women here who did have great family dynamics and role models growing up...that being said I fit squarely in your description. Parents divorced; dad very complacent and beta; mom very dominant; even though grandparents are Catholic and don't believe in divorce, they are no example to follow...my grandma I think resents my grandfather for even existing. Frankly, it's a fucking mess. I've never known a single relationship that would be desirable to emulat…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 10:07 PM
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It was outrageously unintentional hahaha, but glad my terrible jokes could be of service d: And yes indeed; I think that's a very common mentality to have about the arrangement. And honestly, I might even suggest it's only human to look out for our own best interests, right? I also though, think as humans, it's our responsibility to be aware of our own nature and not use it as an excuse for poor behaviour. Relationships are so easy to hold that "transactional attitude" toward (there was a great …
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 06:19 PM
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Haha! Well written and still a well-composed rant (no pun intended?) I think the historical element presented as a case study is a really cool concept for a post! And certainly not something I have thought of in any capacity. This woman sounds categorically horrid. Shame on Chopin for choosing her, however, I imagine his illness significantly limited viable alternate options. Either way, very illuminating and a great example! The part of her search of perfection and "perfect love" and all that r…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 06:05 PM
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I can think of plenty of exceptions to the scenarios you outlined, between a parent and a child, a married couple, and complete strangers. I'm curious when it's appropriate for a married couple or complete strangers to hit one another? If HB raised a hand to me he would not be my captain a moment beyond that. And if I raised a hand to him, the same would be true plus some. Because a tangible negative consequence can often dissuade someone from repeating the behaviour. Think about the studies wit…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 05:28 AM
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Wow, what a thorough response. Thank you! I was raised Catholic though am not much of anything these days. So I understand that perspective though I don't precisely share it. I really didn't have an answer myself in mind when I asked you, which is almost unfair to have put you on the spot like that! It was really a curiousity thing for me, and at least on this issue, my value and yours seem to closely align which made the ponder worth a discussion to me. I absolutely agree with what you said abo…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 09:17 PM
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That's how I've always viewed, well, all of those examples. Although additionally the spanking issue. Now, remembering that I'm still 100% with you, I have a question for discussion. If we are agreed it's on the wrong side of the line, does that create an obligation to intervene? Or do you still treat it as a "well I wouldn't do that but not my place"? Just a question for discussions sake because I don't think I would feel comfortable involving myself in someone else's family dynamics in that wa…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 05:16 PM
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I have always envisioned myself talking through everything, or as much as possible, with my kid. This may also be the kind of thing you say prior to being a parent idealistically and then find you fail completely...I don't know. But I firmly agree with what you're saying and that is an opinion I have long held. If my child is misbehaving, they are removed from the situation and talked to. And I want them to learn that being removed from the situation is a rational decision, not an emotional one.…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 02:08 PM
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Bravo. Well said, I think this is everything I feel said very much better than I could say it. I think this encapsulates my whole anti-spanking perspective. My only think is I'm not sure it's enough for me to get on a soapbox about it? Like to judge/shame those who do (not necessarily openly but just even in my own mind). To date I have always chalked it up to a perspective I don't agree with, and it's hard to move than into the firmly wrong territory I suppose. Either way, your assessment is a …
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 02:03 PM
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I agree with that distinction as well. I think the study was probably somewhere in the middle of those behaviours. I'm sure it wasn't so extreme as your last example, nor so docile as your first. I think the most important part was that it wasn't hard enough to make you cry -- that seems like a big part of it in a good way.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 02:00 PM
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Your whole post, I'm not saying it doesn't present a valid perspective because it most certainly does, but it really feels like you didn't even open the article. The point of the study showed that on a very large scale, spanking does not accomplish what you are saying it does. We've all thought what you are saying for a long time, but the whole point is it's much more akin to abuse that constructive punishment. The consequences of letting your children run free without learning responsibility fo…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 01:57 PM
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Also curious about opinions on this -- a comment on the article stated that "spanking out of love is different than spanking out of anger". I personally 100% agree, I still don't think that makes it an ideal punishment. But it's certainly distinct from a clearly more damaging alternative. I think there are far worse parental mistakes that can be done in the name of love than spanking, unless we are talking about frequency which would also be a variable..but I digress.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 05:28 AM
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I just reread some comments in this thread and this one hit my head like a truth bomb. Not because it's an issue we have, because it's an issue we will have. Well, thanks to you..would have had. When we move in I have no doubt in my mind this will be HB -- needing to unwind without me in the room. Your use of the word 'rejected' is what resonated with me most, as I easily make myself feel that way. I'm going to take particular care to be aware of this and follow your example of letting him unwin…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 04:49 AM
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What did the movie get right? I think the reality of divorce on the children was well represented, especially at the point where the kids go to visit their dad at his new, blank and empty apartment This is a really gear point I hadn't thought of, it definitely doesn't sensationalize that aspect of it in any way. And it was frustrating that Jacob and Hannah's relationship was so bland. I can imagine it would be a possible scenario, but not with the amount of information we were given! I agree wit…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 04:03 AM
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Holy crap, Eliza. This is absolutely insane...I hope you're proud of this baby! Thank you for such a fantastic wealth of information; it's so well structured and organized (which I guess shouldn't be surprising considering the content!). Not to mention it isn't judgmental or preachy about the non-negotiable etiquettes of proper housewifery /s. I hope it could be added to the essential posts section of the side bar? At a minimum I'm sorry I can't upvote this 5 more times.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 03:30 AM
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That's very, very relevant. Did you get that from post history or did she say something? Working 12 hour days, living with parents presumably rent-free or low-rent, and not having the financial flexibility to dial hours back is a huge red flag to me, and for potential partners. If what you're saying is accurate, something is not sitting right. That being said, I understand in some parts of Europe the rent situation can be precarious and it's not uncommon for individuals to move out of their pare…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 06:02 PM
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Hahaha trust me, mature route was not on my agenda d: I still remember the first time the subject actually came up and he said "I will never fart in front of you, there's just some things you don't do in front of your woman" and I reacted with a screeching "WHAAAAAAAT?!" with complete amused surprise. I'm telling you, "it's not love unless you can fart around each other" was an actual thing I had said many times. I couldn't picture the future logistics of hiding that forever, until I realized we…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 03:51 PM
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The first article at a glance has one part that resonates, It says it doesn't like how it does the cliche "Ryan Gosling is a player who discovers his emptiness by meeting 'the one' and realizing love is all he needs". I agree that I don't like that, but I don't feel like the movie actually did that, though it could be argued that was the framework for dynamic they were working with. I never found Ryan Gosling to be empty, or to have that feeling retroactively after realizing what he was missing.…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 03:46 PM
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I love this movie! I think it's fantastic and breaks a lot of barriers cough BP barriers lol. I love Ryan Gosling's character and I think they do a great job of showing a total beta (Steve Carrell) and a total alpha (Ryan Gosling) and how they realize there is merit to be found in both. "The war between the sexes is over. We won that war the day women started doing pole dancing for exercise". I think it's also followed by "the least men can do is not rub it in their face". Cracks me up every tim…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 03:35 PM
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Ok, I don't have as much time as I would like to comment but let me think here. You're 29, work 12 hour workdays, and are financially strapped for cash. Do you work in your industry? What is your quality of life like? What is the cost of living of where you live (not some kind of scientific index, but do you live somewhere reasonable or NYC)? Something is not sitting right about this and I'll tell you why. I feel like there is a chance you either have poor spending habits -- you work 50% more th…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 02:16 PM
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Congrats on the 14k! That's very awesome (:
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 06:46 AM
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This is awesome and hilarious. So with every other SO I've had, I've held the belief "it's not love if you can't fart in front of one another". Usually at a point in the relationship it turns into something you can laugh at, and tbh maybe that's gross but I don't think it has to be. I think it can be done with a "shrug that's how it goes!" attitude that's neither here nor there. That being said, HB is hilariously firm on this. He believes gentleman and ladies don't fart in front of one another. …
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 06:15 AM
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I think the "why you're working 12 hours a day" will really shed some light on that. Is working a form of escapism for you? How would your job suffer if you dialed it back to 8-9? Would it mean any unbearable changes to your quality of life? You and I have spoken each thread and I'm very interested in you and want to see this go well. I'm disheartened by the turn for the worse and I don't think it's necessary. There's so much potential for you. I am about to get on the road for a 4.5 hour drive …
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 12:25 AM
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Wow, perfectly played on your part. Not in the slightest bit manipulatve, but direct and honest and most importantly kind. I'm glad I'm never planning to date again, but if I found myself in that position I can only hope to handle it as poignantly as you. HB actually said the first time he took me home (by took I mean "gave me a ride") he tried to get himself invited inside. I had had a lot to drink (and still don't remember this lol) but he said something about coming in and I guess I looked at…
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 05:02 PM
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Interesting point about the allergens!!! I have never once thought of this but it seems very simple to understand. Do you have insight on the best way to know if an allergen is bothering you when you reintroduce it? Or is it one of those "oh, you'll know" type situations? Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWives23/04/16 04:58 PM
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Texts with HB. The Captain/First Mate dynamic is complete!!! *evil laughter*
/r/RedPillWives23/04/16 04:52 PM
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I shouldn't have gone back. #2 almost made my head explode with rage. It was only held together by my appreciation for the snark included by the author for #7 While it may not seem particularly radical for a feminist to have problems with strip clubs, Iceland’s strip club ban puts its feminists in the unlikely company of Saudi Arabia, which similarly bans strip clubs and porn. It also bans women from driving.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/16 04:39 PM
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I forgot to reopen it and I'm terrified of what comes out of my mouth if I read another point. There's like 100 points, right? I don't got time for that! Jk I'll look at 2 d:
/r/RedPillWives23/04/16 04:30 PM
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Wait. Okay. I just opened the second article and am already so annoyed, I couldn't even make it through the first point. That first point is everything I hate, hate about feminism. There are parts of feminism I hate. There are parts of feminism I simply don't agree with. There are parts of feminism I'll say "hm, alright I guess" to. But this may be what I loath above all else. Wtf is it with people where they can complain about how horrible and oppressive something is (even if it's something as …
/r/RedPillWives23/04/16 04:23 PM
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Whaaaaaaaaaaa? I want to describe that article but it would require a far reaching imagination and some very colourful language. My face just melted off.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/16 04:15 PM
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I'm not married and I don't have kids, but I think the bulk of the RP crossover from your relationship to your childrearing has more to do with leading by example than anything. If you want your sons to be the quality men we want to marry (which is a nice objective metric), then you need to focus on being the kind of quality partner you want them to have. Don't force them to submit to your authority, just consistently allow them to watch you submit to your husband's. Be a loving and supportive a…
/r/RedPillWives23/04/16 03:21 AM
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I cannot speak for everyone but I can enthusiastically say that I have found you to be a joy in the sub, and your unique perspective to be a wonderful voice. All your contributions are thoughtful, and I think we all have some sympathy and patience to offer on the challenges posed being a user unfamiliar with social media. You've been a fantastic presence and I sincerely do appreciate your wisdom. 35 years of marriage is no joke! I'm so happy you are feeling more comfortable, and am hoping we can…
/r/RedPillWives22/04/16 09:53 PM
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Wow, I would so love a book like this. I've tried to find this book and am waiting on word from a possible distributor. Obviously I love RPW, but I love books -- especially those that are antiquated or in other ways have character. My entire apartment is organized around having sufficient space for books, and displaying them in creative ways...I have so many it seems like the best way to avoid clutter and instead make it a staple of my decorating inspo d: Would you recommend this one to purchase…
/r/RedPillWives22/04/16 05:55 PM
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It does and thank you for writing it up (: It's like....if I'm going to tell him a problem, and then he is going to approach it rationally to help me solve it. Why bother with the useless half step, which I'm sure is nothing but annoying to him. I'm going to make that my focus thing to work on it. To just plainly say what's going on instead of the typical girly "oh it's nothing" (said in the tone of voice that implies it's clearly not nothing lol). I appreciate you sharing (:
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 03:03 AM
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I'd say no, because this doesn't sound like they're trans or identifying as that gender, they're just goofing off. Yes but you have to appreciate how difficult this would be should it turn into a lawsuit, which situations like this inevitably will. It'd be a mistake to turn our court systems into spats accusing authentically trans people as "goofing off and not to be taken seriously" and then having people who are clearly goofing off be backed by the SJW-dome of "just let people be themselves, m…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 07:52 PM
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Thank you so very much for reading and commenting. It was definitely not the experience I expected, and it was hard deciding how much to include or not, but I figured if I was going to go for it then to just do it all. I definitely feel like I learned a lot, and pretty much entirely positive things. Even if not for posting, I would encourage anyone to write down their behaviour thoroughly for a week and I think there would be more than a few surprise lessons to be found (:
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 07:24 PM
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What a different song! I'm all country nowadays but I used to love things like this, horrible at finding good music though haha. I'm going to keep listening to it and I don't think I'll have any choice but to think of you and your happy moment when I do (: I can completely empathize with (I'm sure) what this song means to you and how you feel when you hear it. I've listened to "Wrapped" probably 7-8 times each day since Sunday d: Periods totally suck + the poops man -___- On the bright side, it …
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 07:15 PM
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I don't know what that is d:
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:55 PM
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I agree whole heartedly with that, a lot. I also lived in a community with exclusively unisex bathrooms, including shower rooms, and I never encountered a single issue because of it. I mean, it was initially uncomfortable shitting next to a man peeing hahaha, but there were no legitimate problems because of the arrangement.
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:25 PM
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I have the same feelings. I do think it's important to draw legal distinction just for society to function. So I think a fair position is let people jump through whatever legal hoops can be agreed upon to legally assign the gender of their preference, and then have them stick to that and whatever privileges or restrictions come with it.
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:12 PM
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It's honestly not completely about offending them. There's a protection element involved as well. I'm afraid I don't have the statistic handy but transgenders are significantly at higher risk for sexual assault, or assault in general. So throwing a transgender woman into a man's bathroom is a different kind of safety issue. I'm not saying they should be carried with the same weight, I'm just offering that as food for thought as well.
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:05 PM
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The ethnicity and scholarship points, no absolutely not. I would definitely oppose that because as I said, that can be scientifically and objectively disproven. The age thing, no, I would also not support it if someone just says "I'm a 7 year old kid lolol". However, if they could go to a doctor and have it scientifically and objectively proven they are developmentally delayed to that age, then yes that would be appropriate. And to your last question, also no. I would not support that. You need …
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:02 PM
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Sex and gender are separate terms, so I think you mean sex, which is absolutely true and they are one and the same as the ancestry situation
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 05:48 PM
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It's really funny but regardless of where you stand on the subject, I think it's a broken analogy. We have the technology to objectively identify someone's height (a ruler) lol. And their ethnic ancestry (DNA tests). We have not yet identified hard and fast conclusions to explain the phenomenon of gender identity (not your birth sex, that's also objective) but of gender identity, same as we have not yet with sexual orientation. Again, this is absolutely irrespective of one's position on the matt…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 05:41 PM
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Having issues donating on mobile for whatever reason. Will figure it out later <3
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 04:20 PM
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My SO enjoys being involved in my decision making processes. Obviously not every little thing, but when something is troubling me he likes to be able to pose a logical solution. I benefit from his insight into a difficult situation, and we grow closer by sharing our trials and successes. He works long hours and we don't always get to spend a lot of time together, This sounds a lot like my SO and I. A lot. When I am bothered, he knows immediately. We always talk it out and work through whatever i…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 06:29 AM
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This is a great distinction between the two. I'm a fan of that phrase they mentioned, but it's not a blanket statement for any criticism to be had of every situation. Many times things need working through and it can be done constructively. Well said (:
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 04:56 AM
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I'm so glad you enjoyed! Rereading it I'm a little surprised it even made sense since I wrote it at such an early hour d: I haven't ready SW yet but I read SS and really want to move onto that one -- I keep starting and stoping it haha. Alls I know is relinquishing control over decision-making has been more like a gift to me than a loss of anything. My SO is such a capable leader and always does right by us -- it leaves me more brainpower to think of ways to show appreciation (:
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 04:54 AM
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You deserve an award!! I very much appreciate even just the act of reading, and even more so your insightful comments. We are certainly no perfect couple, but this challenge gave me great insight over how much control we actually have over moving our relationship closer or farther from the unattainable 'perfect'! And now...I need a rest from writing d: Feel free to throw your own post up this week for me to read! (;
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 04:05 AM
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Well I suppose it's the intention that changes it. Take the same situation twice: A: "Oh my god, Jenna at work was being so annoying today. She was slacking and overly chatty, which not only distracted me from my work but piled more onto my plate! It's really frustrating and I hate having to deal with it." VS B: "Oh my god, Jenna keeps being distracting and off-loading her work on me. I'm not even sure how to handle the situation, but it's completely unsustainable and affecting my performance. H…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 12:57 AM
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Haha no thank you for taking the time to read it! I have dubbed it 'The Epic Tome of Blabbery' lol. Jokes aside, it really was my hope that there is value to be found in the details. I also don't think I've seen a FR as expansive as this either, which may be good or bad lol. I do know that I learned a lot, from this exercise. Much more than I thought I would. Especially at the points where I expressed seemingly small thoughts, then later contradicted them or found then disproved by HB, and witho…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 12:36 AM
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Organize it like an essay lol. That sounds stupid but do it like this: Paragraph 1 Intro sentence: (hi how are you!) Thesis sentence: what is the main point you want to convey about your life? (I.e., it's so busy but all positive!) 3 supporting sentences: 3 sentences that demonstrate your main point (i.e., one about school and that you're getting good grades, one about family and how everyone is doing well, one about work and how you're frustrated but you think it'll pay off soon) Paragraphs 2, …
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 09:05 PM
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I am too! I was always kind of, around the other sub, and definitely loved it. But this one fosters such an awesome atmosphere that frankly just offers inspiration everywhere. I didn't know I had this much to say until all the other users were saying their own great things that really creates some creative inertia (:
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 05:11 PM
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Trust me I thought of that d: I will do P2 tonight and then give some other voices a few days to pipe up haha
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 04:41 PM
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Thank you!!! Maybe I can flesh it out a bit more and do that? Paging /u/PhantomDream09 for opinions. Perhaps in a couple weeks? I don't know. Either way I'm flattered (:
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 04:29 PM
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Practicing Vulnerability To be vulnerable is absolutely a skill (yes, a skill) that must be practiced for those of us who weren't raised already knowing it. It's a hard skill to practice, because an inherent risk must be performed, and not just any risk. It's the risk you are most afraid to take, which is how you wound up in this situation in the first place. You're afraid to open up. You're afraid to give someone the power to break you. You're afraid to trust someone else with your emotions and…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 04:04 PM
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Vulnerability can also start with step one. "I'm sorry baby, I know I've cut you off so many times in the past. Please know I am going to sit right here and listen to what you have to say, and won't interject with my own feelings. It may be a struggle at first but please support me as I try and repair the damage I've been doing to our relationship"
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 02:12 PM
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We could write usernames for PO Box numbers with no name necessary, I've done it before for the Reddit Secret Santa. If the mods okay it/can acquire said PO Box, I would be more than interested in compiling a list of items needed and seeing who here can send what.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 02:10 PM
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This is hugely great advice. When I started here at RPW I made it a point to apologize always for ugly behaviour. No matter how much time had passed. I told HB once "I'm trying here, and I'm getting quicker in my reaction time between acting ugly and apologizing. Pretty soon I'll get that reaction time so quick, I won't have to apologize because I'll catch it first!" He laughed but that's almost exactly what happened. I mean, it's not perfect 100% of the time, but it's pretty damn good.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 01:43 PM
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I think Eliza makes a great point about a week long exercise to kick your butt into high gear. I just did a one week 'No Bitching' Field Report challenge -- maybe something like that? It doesn't have to be at all like mine in how you approach it, just do your own thing and write it all down for a week to help you reflect. I found it very helpful to have an invisible audience in how I behaved my relationship, and knowing that I was going to have to share all my ugly behaviour with you guys. You c…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 01:39 PM
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Goodness, I hope everyone is safe and please let us know if some care packages are in order (if that can be done securely, I'm not sure).
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 04:54 AM
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Thank you so very much! It was my goal to basically be the RPW ideal -- even if it was incredibly forced (which, it actually wasn't that forced), but without my invisible accountabilibuddies (you guys!) I know I am much more prone to getting thrown off. I would say what I was most surprised to learn was how much better it made me feel -- and reflecting and writing every day was very helpful to that. I don't think it will be that hard to continue the No Bitching attitude, but if I find my stamina…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 04:06 AM
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Haha thank you!! I have learned to accept my verbosity (which translates into my normal speaking) as a "feature", neither positive nor negative. Our friends are the ones who view our features as good things, and there's no shame in the ones who can't stand our personal brand of crazy. So my friends love my crazy detailed stories (usually), but others have cited it as something they can't stand. Which is outrageously fair and not offensive to me in the slightest. I look forward to more stories wi…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 01:44 AM
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Thanks so very much (: It worked really well that I ended up typing out my expectations first, then what actually happened second. If I hadn't have done that even I would have forgotten that I didn't expect to have fun all day. The drinking thing has definitely been a point of discomfort for me, but aside from the thought of children I can't see a reason to be alarmed. I know many who don't drink often, but behave terribly when they do. I think that kind of wild card would be more difficult for …
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 01:38 AM
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Ohhhh my gosh haha. I can do appreciate his sense of humor (: yeah I remember you saying you did the challenge too! Shame you have much less to report because I could afford someone balancing out my word count on the subject d:
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 01:34 AM
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Thank you!! It was such a fun time haha. And it was absolutely not a coincidence; that above all else was like the penultimate example of why not bitching is always better. I can't imagine, knowing now what he had planned, if I had gotten upset at him for being terse on the phone. Who knows how often we have proactively dumped on our SO's efforts before their even given a fair chance to make them??
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 01:03 AM
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I'm always open to CC, and will still look forward to yours. But no, it didn't seem humorous to me. It just seemed critical. You have found a way to insult quite a few users since you've showed up here, and tbh you have some great insights that I would like to keep seeing. But a little kindness would be a nice addition to your content.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 12:53 AM
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I don't find it at all necessary for you to be rude about it. It's long. I get that. I've recognized that, and I've warned about it. You don't have to read it, and that's no bother at all to me. But taking time to comment on nothing but the length is needlessly condescending when you could have just moved on with your Reddit scrolling and not opened Part 2 when it comes up.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 12:44 AM
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Side anecdote I've mentioned before my handle is Beautiful Space Cadet because HB calls me that because I am the spaciest spacecase in all the lands, but here is further evidence: I'm cleaning his apartment while he is filling my tank, and I go to set my GPS and realize I can't find my phone. No big deal, must have left it in my car. HB probably already has it. I keep cleaning, then cave and call him from the landline to check. "Hey babe, did I leave my phone in my car?" "Oh, it's in my pocket."…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 12:05 AM
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Article 1 Ok, point one is off to a good start. It doesn't say anything to the contrary, so I'll be charitable and assume the best of intentions. But to make it more clear, become more confident, not more complacent. There is a huge difference. If you are overweight, lose weight and love yourself in earnest. Don't get over the insecurity and just accept it as fact. Point two is a whole lot of 'what???' I believe that we train people how to treat us. Hmm no. But again, let me be charitable and of…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 10:51 PM
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Hahaha this is great. Loving the comedy factor you were able to implement into situations to turn negative situations into not just positive ones, but funny ones. I would love to have a pillow fight with or without a preceding argument!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 06:21 PM
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Humph. I think it may be. I want to go where you go. Humph indeed lol.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 06:18 PM
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Oh! I like the last idea too! Just a gift to take whoever they want somewhere. Very nice (: And that Tile does sound better than what I had. Mine was a really cool concept but you were SOL the second the signal was lost, because you needed to have the device with you to push the button to reconnect /:
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 05:59 PM
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That could be a great idea!!! Do gardens typically do teas? I think she would love both but I'm trying to think if that's a thing around here
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 05:52 PM
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Wow, great suggestions! We actually did the painting class for Christmas (: so I'm undecided about doing a "hang out" type gift again. I know this may be silly, but it almost seems a little narcissistic to be like "you want to hang out with me for every holiday!" Less true for my mom and more for HB's mom. The tile and chargers are awesome practical gifts though -- have you used tile personally? I had a device like that but it ended up being kind of useless because if it went out of range, it di…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 05:51 PM
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He did. We didn't say it until over a year of being together. It was a really hard first year and I don't think either of us wanted to go there until the storms were over, even though we both more than knew it was true. We finally came out on the other side of it, and I think one night I was crying about how hard it had been and how relieved I was it was over and he held my face and told me he loved me and it was all fine now. I didn't say it until the next day so I wouldn't be a blubbery mess, …
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 04:45 PM
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Mothers Day is coming up! Who has ideas for things they are doing for their mother? I really want to do something nice for my mom and hFSIL (h = hopeful lol). They have both been super stars this year, and my SO's mom in particular has been kinder than words can say. The catch is, they both have enough money to buy themselves whatever they want. So it's got to be more thoughtful than anything, though I don't mind spending some money. Maybe a $50-$100 budget would be fine to spend for both of the…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 08:12 AM
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Cardigans! I am all about the cardigans. Big ones, small ones, knit ones, wrap ones, short ones, long ones, red fish, blue fish, one fish, two fish. Seriously, cardigans are bees knees. My college roommate's older sister taught her to always pack a cardigan, because it can totally save you in a bind and it barely takes up space. I try and abide by that lady law.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 08:09 AM
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Wonderfully organized and worded, I absolutely love it. When beginning my own transformation the two things I noted: I actually did the opposite of many, when they make the mistake of putting on dresses and a bow and calling it good. I never wore those things, but worked on my personality and general dispositions. Only in the last month or so have I actually thought to wear more dresses -- and it helped! I feel so much more feminine and graceful in them rather than not. It was nice doing that la…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 02:32 AM
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Kitten made a post about the book "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It" and I've found that to be a great resource. It emphasizes connecting to communicate as opposed to communicating to connect, and identifies common fears (for women this is typical isolation, and for men this is typically shame), and how to avoid fueling each others'. I'm not done with it yet but I think it's a great one for anybody.
/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 07:45 PM
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Ho buddy! This is the serious stuff. I remember this post and have actually looked for it idley a few times as I think of starting my own. It's my next project because I want to have it in order while my life is still simple and straightforward before HB and I move in together (: Thank you for taking the time to repost!!!
/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 04:48 AM
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😂
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 06:16 AM
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O: I want to say something but there are no words
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 05:59 AM
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IT WAS SO DELICIOUS YOU HAVE NO IDEA. She shared with me at work and I about died. Especially for how easy it is.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 04:29 AM
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I just made cloud bread tonight and it was really good! Word of warning, be careful the peaks are stiff otherwise it melts and you have to do it again d: My coworker just made this and it was stupid delicious. She got confused and used cream cheese and it was also good! So pick your fave haha. I'll add more later but those were so great
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 03:41 AM
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Sigh There's a lot going on here, not all of which I feel qualified to speak to. First and foremost, has your mother explicitly asked for your help in this? What about your father? Without both of them being on board with you playing Able Andy, you're going to cross very quickly into the territory of nosing where you shouldn't nose. Frankly, you have nearly no power in this situation other than to give them resources and hope they choose to use them. I would suggest RP books, because it keeps yo…
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 12:30 AM
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Right, but they just debunk other studies that may have not been conducted thoroughly and suggest an alternative correlation (or lack thereof), it's good information to be sure. But it doesn't categorically disprove it either. Actually, you and I just chatted in the IRC about it yesterday or the day before, and I mentioned feeling emotional and checked my cycle to see if I was about to start my period (and I wasn't). Whether or not we have bad moods for no reason, or bad moods caused by menstrat…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 11:14 PM
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I don't find that to be an accurate explanation for changes in emotion as it relates to hormonal fluctuations.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 10:57 PM
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I don't necessarily think it proves the theory. A lot about my periods and hormones have changed with age -- cramps have improved, hormonal acne got worse, flow has changed, etc., etc. I don't think my emotional changes are the result of marketing inundation; it's hard to say "hormones + teens = worse", it's just "hormones + teens = different". I think there is a lot of value in what your saying about the power of using our rational minds to overcome our moods and to not make excuses for them, b…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 10:39 PM
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Anecdotally, I think my PMS is somewhat authentic because It isn't severe "omg I'm PMSing go kill yourself". I actually don't even notice when it happens, it's usually the day after. So I think due to the changing hormones, some attitude changes are a reasonable expectation. I do, however, agree for the most part it is grossly overhyped. I can only speak for myself, but usually I'm just a bit more prone to snapping and definitely to crying. Just something small will get me worked up and then now…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 09:16 PM
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Point one sounds an awful lot like vanity sizing to me. We can call it whatever you want, but your love handles didn't get any smaller, girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 06:20 PM
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I've talked to you enough to know that if we are the same person, there are far worse people to be d: #twinning But yes to the last point, absolutely. It's primary focus will always be sexual strategy and the applications therein, but there are so many auxiliary benefits to be enjoyed as well -- I know overall I am a much happier person, inside and outside of my relationship, for having the support and values of this community.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 06:13 PM
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Of course, most of the times when modern women are aggressive and vying, it's not for any honorable cause but is indeed just repulsive and ugly. That was 100% what I'm referring too, thanks so much for the clarifying question. I should have made that more clear (:
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 05:50 PM
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This is a really excellent pragmatic point. Many of the points of that list have more to do with the natural flow of life than some kind of cognizant Hail Mary redemption plan.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 05:40 AM
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Please do! That would be very nifty to see; what program do you use to make them? Or are they handmade? Handmade would be wonderful but I'm not artsy enough for that...online is much simpler when it comes to "oh crap, that shouldn't go there" as opposed to having a hot glue gun involved haha.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 05:35 AM
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the outcome of your marriage is 100% in the hands of you and your spouse. This sentence is dead on and could be the TL;DR for the entire post; particularly points one and two. A marriage is not inherently negative for a man. It's also not inherently positive. It is precisely what you make of it, and if your commitment is to add value to your SO/Husband's life every day, then how, pray tell, is this a horrible deal for him? Commit to improving his life and marriage will be an improvement in his l…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 05:34 AM
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It was! (:
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 12:05 AM
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You have nice um..hmm..well...spirit, you have nice spirit.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 11:00 PM
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💪🏻😮 Unexpected badass response over here
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 10:59 PM
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Not to mention the absence of replies to what have been very poignant responses from users. Bummer, but I was happy to read a lot of the comments in either case.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 10:57 PM
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10/10, would air fist pump while reading again
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 10:52 PM
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Yes, people can change. Change does not, however, erase your history. What many men do in this situation (my own included as I can't say I lead some perfect RPW fairytale life from birth) is risk assessment. They weigh your past actions against current behaviour and then make future predictions. Nothing beats authenticity and consistency, and there will be good men who will value that.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 05:10 AM
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Habit for saying mean things instead of saying nothing at all d:
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 03:32 AM
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What a champion!!
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 03:21 AM
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Can I alpha test it though?
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 03:15 AM
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This is a great improvement on what was already an amazing post the first time you drafted it. I loved it then and I love it even more now. Especially in that it gives a workable concrete frame of reference that can be used for discussing such immaterial concepts, which will hopefully be hugely helpful for the newer users who have joined us. I know this was a massive group effort and a huge thank you to anybody who participated in its development.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 03:14 AM
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Very eloquently put, couldn't have said it better. And it is sad to me, time is one of the fundamental elements of life and it's the commodity we most often have to sell, at usually too low a price.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 03:04 AM
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Haha! Thank you for providing me with such a great laugh, so much truth happening over there
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 03:03 AM
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Well....pardon me for saying she's also an idiot
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 03:00 AM
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Yeah at the expense of literally reality. I don't know who this woman is but I'm pessimistically assuming she is also some kind of authority in her community which makes it worse.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 12:57 AM
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So much this /: I feel like I'm struggling for time constantly. And it's not because I'm particularly busy. I've seen busy. My SO is busy. I'm not busy. And yet if I had children right now, I'd have maybe 4-5 hours a day to spend with them? And that's not even quality time. I sleep 8 hours, I'm at work 9 hours, I'm getting ready for work for 1 hour, I'm commuting for 1 hour. Work just stole almost 50% of my day without even trying, then with sleeping there's 19-20 hours of it. It's just sad that…
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 12:50 AM
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Hahahaha, touché my friend d:
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 12:47 AM
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Humanity has always left behind relics for their successors. Hieroglyphics, ancient statues, texts and manuscripts...and us? We're leaving this. Smh.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 12:46 AM
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That's fair and I'm looking forward to seeing your commentary. I have no desire to get into a debate about feminism, but to clarify just slightly what I meant: The article addresses a very limited range of 'the patriarchy' (sexual strategy). Saying women need 'the patriarchy' when you proceed to address just about none of it is a little problematic. What part of the patriarchy do we need? And where does it stop? Are we limiting where I have access to employment? Should I no longer be allowed to …
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 12:30 AM
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I think the crux of my rant that I didn't flesh out so well is that this article is very much about sexual strategy, but comes with a lofty title that exceeds the premise of what it discusses. I would be very interested to see your post though!
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 11:41 PM
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Yes! 100% agree, fits the sentiment, way more accurate, and doesn't open itself to invitations for political debates that it didn't mean to start or even address.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 10:49 PM
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This is a good article, if not one dimensional. I agree with everything it says, but it really only addresses the personal/romantic side of the patriarchy, which makes the title a bit misleading IMO. From a professional side, I'm no economist or whatever the hell this expertise would be, but I think it could be argued "the patriarchy" (which turns into a little too broad of a stroke to speak accurately to, but I'll run with it) does offer negative consequences for women that don't have anything …
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 07:22 PM
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That quote is the most intentionally misleading, inaccurate, 'shock value', utter bullshit I've ever read. When a fish learns to fuck a bicycle to continue its species....I'll listen to what that woman has to say.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 07:09 PM
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Sounds like you're well on your way to be his soft place to land (:
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 05:34 PM
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<3 hahaha
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 05:21 PM
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Thanks (: My SO is going through a somewhat similar situation. No family drama really but the lack of work/life distinction is present in its own way. Those are some of the attitudes I try and be sure to contribute as he struggles through it as well. And it's authentic, I am so so proud of him. He makes it easy to genuinely feel that way. When in doubt, just listen. Let him vent, say things like "we can talk about work or put it aside, whatever you need right now." Let him dictate what you talk …
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 04:51 PM
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I wouldn't bad mouth his parents even if he's doing it. It's one of those things like it's ok for him to call his mom a bitch (just as an example) but don't you ever do it because he might take it offensively. Just listen to him and be sympathetic. Yes! From him it is venting. From you it is demonizing. And negative. He is releasing negativity by venting. You would be adding negativity by contributing to the complaints.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 04:47 PM
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I think the single most important thing you can do is constantly, constantly, constantly reaffirm your confidence in his decision-making. "I trust you to make the right decision" "I know you're capable of overcoming this" "I'm so confident in you and our future" "Whatever may come, I know you'll lead us through it" Additionally, conceding to him that you cannot fully appreciate the struggle of what he is going through, but that you understand it is a struggle "I can't imagine how hard this has b…
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 03:58 PM
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HB or I will sometimes just turn to the other and "wanna bang?"...checks watch..."ok"...reaches for belt buckle. So simple lol
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 02:48 PM
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GOFL = Goddess of Fun and Light
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 01:56 PM
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Could you please reformat your post with the questions provided for an advice thread? It will help us understand the situation and increase the quality of your responses.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 01:53 PM
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That's awesome (: glad you guys have a system. HB and I use google calendars through our company emails. I just add things willynilly to his calendar and he deletes them if it doesn't work for him haha
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 10:51 PM
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Eek. I can't even imagine dealing with the fallout from that one. It sounds like a learning experience and being that it was so many years ago, I hope it's a laughing point now (:
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 08:05 PM
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That is absolutely true. And it doesn't sound in any way manipulative to me. Firstly it shows you need is help and it's got nothing to do with your willingness to take care of the task yourself. And secondly it really cuts down on the effort he needs to exert to complete said task. Any time you can make something a team effort so that less falls onto him is a great practice to keep up.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 06:47 PM
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When HB and I live together I totally want a His & Hers 'Honey Do' list for things like that (: And it's a good rule to drop it if you've already broached it without success! A good sign it's not on his top list of things to do.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 04:47 PM
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This is also a good point. It depends on the issue and your man's competency. If you are reminding him every day to feed himself or do basic things, that's probably a not good sign. This guide is definitely targeted at the atypical event or situation, not "HONEY TAKE OUT THE TRASH!"
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 04:00 PM
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Yup! and it's forgetfulness that can really get into the gray area of "Does he need/want reminding? Should I just shut up?". And the asking about reminders and timelines for them is very helpful for me. Sometimes I ask and get "no it'll get taken care of", or "no, I'll get to it when I get to it", but other times it's "yes, check back in on Thursday so I don't forget". That's my cue to either do what he asks, or drop the matter entirely. I should add also, things can change from reminding to nag…
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 03:43 PM
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Right! And it goes without saying to use your judgment on whether you need his input at all. RSVPing for a family birthday party? Yes, he should be in the know. Sending out a card or present? Why you harassing him with mundane details though, haha.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 03:22 PM
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It is me!!! And the book is "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It" (by Drs. Love and idr the other name). Definitely not a self-help book for if you're in a bad patch, just good reading (: I haven't finished but the best summary I can provide is that it breaks down how so many of our actions (in the relationship and out) are motivated by our fears. For women, this tends to be a fear of isolation. For men, it tends to be shame. It really emphasizes that you don't need to communic…
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 04:42 AM
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OP delivers!!! Thank you thank you (:
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 01:58 AM
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Wow, lovely -- any chance you could post a photo of the cover or something so that I might optimistically search for it?? Thanks for sharing such easily forgotten and simple truths (:
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 12:26 AM
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They don't expect to win because they win. They expect to win because 'a man shouldn't fight back'. Far as I'm concerned, if a person is getting physical with you, then shut them down however necessary. Gender be damned.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:55 PM
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Thank you! I use Canva program online (: Hahah that one was probably his favourite too, cuz he was surprised I came up and executed that (I am not artsy or creative at all haha). I think his favourite image though is the fisherman one, he said he spent so long googling that phrase because he thought it would be a common derivative of the whole 'big fish/small pond' analogy and he said he was surprised when he realized I said it first and he thinks it applies so well to his strategies in business…
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:39 PM
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O.o Recipe??? (:
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:16 PM
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This is clearly a sensitive topic and I want to be extra careful being sure nobody can say we are 'making excuses', 'condoning violence', or anything that like. We above all others value our screening and the quality of our partner and doing all that is possible to ensure this situation would never arise. While your bullet points are valid, the only one that makes me thing "that could definitely lead to a physical altercation" is the woman getting physical first. Not to say the others don't have…
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:13 PM
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Omg such delicious. So fat. Yummy. Guilty. My brain just short circuited. I want some now lol.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 06:47 PM
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Oh yay! So I am actually working on twine wrapping wine bottles and crafting them to look like a little bride and groom (: That's going to be a wedding present for a friend, and hopefully she can use it as a jewelery holder or something. I don't have pictures quite yet though d: What I do have right now is this collection of cards I make for HB!. It started as just a build-my-own Valentines Day card...but now he gets one most of the times he has to leave town (: I make them myself (usually with …
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 05:49 PM
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This is a great write up. I am one of the women who excel at keeping an immaculate house because it's just easy and fun and I can't feel anything but anxious if my home is in any discord. I am not one of the women who enjoys spending more than 15 minutes in the kitchen making delicious meals. I am also not one of the crafty women, or gardening women. I try to expand my horizons, but on every activity you'll have your own personal ceiling that dictates what is and is not a reasonable expectation.…
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 11:57 PM
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I've already started my notetaking (: I included yesterday because I actually got really hamstered up over quite a few things and managed to 100% keep it to myself so it was actually a perfect jumping off point (:
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 12:57 AM
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Oh my gosh you just inspired me to do this kind of challenge/FR. This is a great idea. I know another user did it too, but phrased it has "tried to go from 80/20 no bitching to 100/0 and see what happened". Seeing that neither of you are sobbing because not bitching ruined your whole relationship.....I'm going to try it d:
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 05:40 PM
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No I'm sorry, not non-hormonal, I am wondering how hormonal BC would effect it. I wasn't very clear d: I should have said (I don't use hormones but I imagine...). That was my bad on word use 100% lol. And only because it's so open to user error. I suppose it's not that I wouldn't recommend it, but that I wouldn't as your only form of birth control (with the permanent caveat being only if there are no medical or ideological or personal causes that would prevent you from doing so). And that is tru…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:39 PM
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Wow at number 4. So wise. I think this is the most insidious of these behaviours because it is so simple to hamster yourself into the problem legitimately being your SO's lack of reaction. It's not as concrete as the others where there are some form of checkboxes you can move through to see if you're demonstrating this behaviour. It is 100% perception-based and exceeds a beginner's level of self-awareness to identify and stop the behaviour. This is a great list and there was merit in absolutely …
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 09:32 PM
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Wow!!! Insanely informative and very well written. I will not be using this method of birth control (nor would I necessarily recommend it to anyone if they have other options), but you have definitely inspired me to at least learn about my cycle, even if I'm not using the information for birth control (I don't use hormones so I would imagine that could interfere a bit if you did?) Very eloquently, simply, and above all respectfully written. Absolutely everything in here can only benefit a woman …
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 09:08 PM
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I didn't care for the fact that being self-deprecating and bitchy were the top 2 good humours. I can definitely appreciate the point they were trying to make and concede there was some excellent points, but being self-deprecating can cross into negativity awfully quickly, and if you're bonding over gossiping and putting someone else down I don't find that very noble. Many good points as well and an interesting read, but flawed and hardly a science IMO.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 05:29 PM
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Then it can lie dusty forever ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ As I said, it wasn't a particularly well thought out plan
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/16 01:54 PM
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I don't know whether it does or doesn't. This was not a well thought out plan. I just tried searching for a PP sub that was more discussion oriented vs debate oriented. It didn't exist, I made it exist, I'm now out of ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/16 07:27 AM
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/r/PPcore ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/16 07:17 AM
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/r/PPcore ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/16 07:16 AM
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Sorry, she definitely is. I just meant from their POV and those sentences in particular are shifting blame unnecessarily.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 11:09 PM
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Yes and I think it does /u/Wowimo a disservice by removing her own culpability and avoiding taking responsibility.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 11:05 PM
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Hm! Fascinating! What app is it? I wouldn't feel comfortable using the pullout method because I am firmly in the "NO kids right now" camp, but learning more about your body is never a bad thing.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 10:59 PM
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First off, good you recognize the toxic view of thinking you're somehow different than other women. You're not. And this comes from someone who thought the same for a while, and realized I'm not. It was probably a year or two ago when the crazy thought struck me that if I don't get along with women, who has the problem? Me? Or every other woman in the world? You can see which one is highly unlikely. And I don't imagine you are trying to replace your husband with your girlfriends, so please don't…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 09:57 PM
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Wow. Okay there is a lot here, your husband moved out? The topic was already serious but that's pretty bad. How has your relationship dynamic improved/worsened with him leaving the house? Look this isn't a simple situation and I'm not married and I don't have children so I don't want to over-step the authority I have to advise on the subject, but I'll throw in my two cents. You need to find out what firm boundaries need to be in place from your husband, you know, the guy you are sharing your lif…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 09:14 PM
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There's already a lot of great advice so I'll just touch on some small things. I think you should strongly reconsider your stance on birth control. The pullout method is fine..at best perhaps, but it does not sound at all like it fits with your lifestyle. If not becoming pregnant is as important to you as you say it is, why are you using the hands-down most unreliable method? I think pullout works far better with couples who don't want kids but wouldn't mind if they happened. There are a lot of …
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 09:03 PM
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Oh my gosh I just died imagining that. "What did I do to make them want to cream on my face???" -- sorry it happened but I definitely chuckled haha.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 06:59 PM
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In the book suggested by Kitten they discuss this phenomenon, called (iirc) 'emotional attunement'. All humans do it because it is advantageous to the pack -- i.e. If a cavewoman heard a sound at night and reacts in fear thinking it may be a predator, the males will awake to her sound and be on full alert guarding the women and children. They themselves have not perceived any threat, but are reacting to the danger sensed by others. Babies do it with their mothers, wives and husbands to it with e…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 05:07 PM
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I am familiar with the drop bear and just totally died reading the comments I havent had much confidence lately bt im ready to share it. Last year Me,my daughter and my husband went out on a picnic to the wombat reserve park. Was an absolutely amazing night until. My daughter went missing at about 6pm. We thought she went into the wombat forest. We called ses. We finally found drops of blo od... it lead us to the most horrible scene my daughters head hanging up in the tree clampered to a paw. he…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 06:16 AM
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All the Aussie things that want to kill you are much funnier when there is an ocean between me and them (I can't even say animals, I have to say things, even the plants want to make you dead!)
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 05:39 AM
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This is true. I suppose I'm just trying to poke the subject a little to make it jiggle and enjoy the ensuing discussion. In the same vein, I do remember once though a thread many moons ago where a poster was having doubts about her 'SO', though she was sure he wasn't seeing anyone else. One user (I think EC) said she sounded like a plate and to next him, and she asked how that could be if he wasn't seeing anyone. Poignant reply, "you can spin one plate". That conversation always stands out to me…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 05:37 AM
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Yes! You can be the person I blame when I'm trolling at 1am knowing I should be asleep but fruitlessly clicking refresh and hoping for more content. This is how I feel. You know, no pressure.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 05:31 AM
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I was actually wondering about this actually. It definitely may be less ideal than you know, not being a woman plate-spinner, but how does that tie into being a plate yourself? It seems like it's at least a step above in the short term anyway.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 02:55 AM
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For discussion's sake (dear god, discussion only), How would you reconcile this perspective if you are also in accord that marriage is a bad bargain for modern men? Is there any room for "I love him too much to ask him to marry me"? Is there a compromise to be found between being a perpetual plate and a wife (I suppose you would call it exclusivity without commitment, at least not the ultimate one). I'm not asking for myself personally nor with the intention of slinging mud. Rather just for the …
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 02:54 AM
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It can give men a marginal or slightly more than marginal boost in the dating game, that's all. What I was responding to. RPW is not only helpful if your man is a beta, at all. It helps being a quality partner to any kind f quality man, most particularly an alpha who would be quick to replace you if you did not fill that role.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/16 11:08 PM
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It doesn't do anything for him directly, he doesn't know anything about RP. It's for me and us. I'm happier for finding it, and our relationship is stronger for me have a supportive community to discuss being the best partner I can be. Moving back toward our original topic, RP wouldn't help him be a better partner to me because he already does that well, so I don't have a particular desire for him to go to TRP. If he did (although virtual clubs that give him no quantifiable benefits would not be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/16 10:52 PM
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A little different but somewhat related, Instead of saying "thank for doing x, y, z for me" I have started saying "thank you for doing that for us." Obviously if it is something that only benefits me (grabbing food if I'm under the weather, etc) then it wouldn't apply. But as an example, I know when he drives 6-7 hours to sneak home during a business trip that he isn't doing it for me, he's doing to for the entity that is our relationship, which IMO is much more powerful. I like to thank him for…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:25 PM
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"It's an objective fact" Lol. Like there is any such thing when you are describing over 10,000 people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/16 06:14 PM
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Hahaha I would be totally tempted to elope for that reason. I don't know if HB would ever agree once we are there in our relationship, but I think my secret perfect dream would be eloping quietly and then carrying on with the wedding planning as normal. I wouldn't tell anyone, at least not until years later. Not for any reason other than "gah I can't wait + it's our secret yay!"
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 07:17 AM
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I know??? Well I mean, I think they are also playing into the average woman's perspective self-delusional notion that weddings are the only thing that matters ever. "Why of courrsseeee your dress take 6 months today, we provide nothing less than the most exquiiisiite garments for your maaagical day". Lol but for real, brides don't want to hear "One dress? Yeah we'll have it in next week!". Just another example of the giant hamster wheel that is this side of the world.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 07:12 AM
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That's probably the most likely. And it is totally legal to do the Vegas thing!! On a principle level, I'm a little knee jerk offended at the idea of being told I have to apply and wait to be able to get married. But on a practical level holy crapppp that is such a great policy. People would actually think for 5 seconds (better yet, 30 days) about wtf it is they are about to do.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 07:01 AM
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Woah! Okay I learned something I totally didn't expect to. So you can't just elope on a moment's notice?? How odd! And well it sounds like your standard times are on par with ours. And I mean, I'm gauging her wedding from a FB pictures perspective, but she's a really admirable woman entirely and everything seemed so much better done given the timeline than I feel it could be done in the US with the same notice. I should admit this is all wonderfully irrelevant to me. I know I want a small and in…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:29 AM
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It's a simple question haha. I have a friend who just got married. Her and her SO are amazing and have been together some 8 years, so this is no shotgun wedding. But they announced their engagement the second week of Feb and got married the last week of March. So it was like a 5-6 week engagement. Now from the pictures, it seems like they really did the full schabang, and it didn't seem hastily thrown together. Do Aussie's have shorter engagement periods? My initial thought for that, and why it …
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:22 AM
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Seriously is. I'm debating writing down my thoughts chronologically as I move through it, and then seeing if I have enough substantive content to write a thread on it later. I'm like 5% through and if I stopped reading it forever right now, I feel like I still understand 600% more about interactions with men than I did before. Can't wait to read the other 95% haha.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:16 AM
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Actually you just reminded me, I have a really funny question about weddings for an Aussie if we can scrounge one up. I have an Australian friend that just got memories and it made me curious about a few things regarding their standard operating procedures for weddings. idealistically waves kangaroo and poisonous spider bait to attract Aussie RPWs to interrogate
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:12 AM
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It is!!! Not to disrespect the fantastic ideas Laura Doyle presents in her books, but I'm finding the "How to Improve Your Marriage" book to be much better written and more systematic with the pacing and points made. Relationships are such nebulous subjects that I can appreciate the difficulty there must be in writing a cogent piece, let alone a whole dang book, on the topic of improving them. I absolutely appreciate both authors and books, but I have started The SW and had a hard time engaging …
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:09 AM
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First off, tis more than a reasonable answer haha. I promise it wasn't a quiz and I didn't have any secret agenda. I just like feeling a sense of who people are in this community, we are all people after all and it's nice to humanize the online usernames when possible. I've also been most influenced by a number of threads that have discussed treating your SO as a "guest" and treating your SO better than you treat any other person in your life. Funny you should mention that, I just saw in a comme…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:52 AM
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Welcome! And a huge congrats on your engagement! Just to make this post a bit more substantive (not that I think there is anything wrong with a 'hello' (: ), may I ask what some of your favourite threads have been so far? And perhaps what you are most hoping to glean from the sub? Nice to meet you (:
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:29 AM
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WOW! Holy formatting batman! How long did this take you?? I have no idea how long it will take me to go through, but this is exceptionally well laid out and I am excited to get reading. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 08:48 PM
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All of their songs are like that. Joey and Rory Feek -- literally an RPW's inspo wet dream. I love watching them talk, she literally glows with feminine energy and is so clearly enamored by her husband. If you don't feel like sobbing your eyes out today though, definitely do not Google them. Edit: How They Met -- worth watching the whole thing, but the first few seconds is more than enough to show what I mean. Edit 2: It was actually my SO who introduced me to them. They are like his dream coupl…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 07:28 PM
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Aw snap. The part that got to me was when he said "you don't do x, y, and z" and she immediately comes back with "YES I DO, oh yes I do!" No. If you did he wouldn't need to say it. And if he's saying it you need to listen. And if you're listening then change your approach. The part where she straight up shuts down is a huge problem I have. I feel so instantly defeated and crushed that you can see the change in a split second. My posture folds in on itself and the light goes out in my eyes. HB wi…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 07:07 PM
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I have a new contender for the ultimate RPW theme song. Literally discovered it yesterday. Went straight onto my playlist (: Born to be your Woman
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 06:48 PM
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I think the key words here are 'willing to please him in other ways'. We are girls, and sometimes the downstairs situation is sensitive. As long as you are making your best effort, it would be downright insensitive and inconsiderate partner to demand more than what you can physically accommodate, especially if you are accommodating. If you are still introducing hanky panky outside of PiV to help keep up with his libido in addition to PiV when you can, and he still isn't satisfied, then I would i…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 02:55 PM
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Good write up. I'd like to note just plain and simple one of (in my humble opinion) the predecessor thoughts to all this: A relationship is a commitment to monogamy and exclusivity, not celibacy. Your man has committed to having sex with you and only you, he has not committed to having no sex at all. If there is not a medical or mutually agreeable reason then by denying him sex you are categorically renegging on one of the founding principles of your relationship and violating 'the terms of agre…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 02:43 PM
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Wow I would love to read this. I am an absolute "word person", and not in just the standard 'womanly way'. All my jobs have been writing-centered and my 'intelligences' (i.e. Logistical, Verbal, etc) are radically polarized. I am like, exceptionally good at doing 2 things, and then anything that is not one of those 2 things I struggle monumentally with. No balance there. So it makes it a bit trickier for me once I accepted the whole women being the master of the words arena (which is so true). I…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:33 AM
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Wow I kind of went into that expecting to hate it because of the subreddit, but not at all. That was a pretty great post, thanks for sharing it!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 12:55 AM
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Okay the stinky apple part is disgusting, but I am alllll about that empty sheath idea. So cool! Not to mention way less guesswork than modern customs. I also wouldn't mind the lovespoon (:
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 11:04 PM
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Soooo much truth here. I think they are called calling cards when they are not for a specific business? Either way I agree 100% with everything you said. They really bring an element of class and preparedness to every introduction you make with very minimal effort..and you never know who you're going to meet. Even in my above example, that lady at the grocery store could very well be an influential person in an industry that's important to you, be it for work or philanthropy or anything. Having …
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 10:07 PM
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Oh I like the sound of it! Do you have a link maybe??
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 08:16 PM
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It really is, and it's easy to default to that. You just want to get in your zone and do what you gotta do. Which there isn't anything wrong with, but that energy is so freaking perceptible to everyone that you're closing yourself off from so many opportunities without even realizing it.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 08:13 PM
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Men (or woman, really) are not complex creatures that absolutely require Cosmo's "47 simple tricks to seal the deal!" Eye contact and a smile are the most powerful catalysts for positive interactions that humans have. It doesn't need to be some forced science when just being open and pleasant will do the trick (:
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 06:03 PM
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Ah no! When you can feel him looking back at you is exactly when you want to look back and give him a shy smile. It's no big thing and definitely just nerves, but it's closing you off from being approached which is not what you want to be doing. Think of all the missed opportunities for conversations with handsome prospective suitors (:
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 06:00 PM
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That's just depressing. I'm glad you've chosen better for yourself.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 02:44 PM
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Yeah! Let me work on getting it a little less empty and I can post the link here (:
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:31 PM
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Because it freaking works. And it shows people you're united with your SO. And you're denying them the opportunity to try and 'convince' you of anything; they just got stonewalled by a non-present being that isn't around to be argued with. Their last chance is to try and convince you not to respect or listen to your SO, but that's whole other level of mastery needed to argue without looking like legitimately the biggest jerk, and most people will not go there. The farthest it ever went for me wa…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:30 PM
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I was just talking about this with a friend, peripherally anyway. I was saying because my parents are divorced, I am pretty anti-divorce. Not categorically, I recognize it as a legitimate option which I know some do not; if I had a time machine I would still want my parents to divorce. But, I take marriage much more seriously and have said "I've already been divorced once and I'm not doing it again". My parents divorcing experience was all I needed for a lifetime. That all comes together in the …
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 04:04 AM
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Dunno who gave you a downvote. Rubbish. I would compare this image to the comment "haha I'm going to be bad" as you order a slice of pizza. We've all made those comments, the 'I'm-making-a-joke-about-my-ugly-behaviour-but-I-made-a-joke-and-acknowledged-it-so-it's-not-that-bad' type of comments. Making a joke about it does not make it more excusable. Trust me, this is not coming from someone on a pedestal. I used to be disgusted by those kinds of excuses and the level of hamstering needed to have…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 03:59 AM
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Wow, great content and very well-presented, particularly on your concessions to the other user. I have (much less eloquently) thought and found that the benefits of just doing, doing, doing for my SO irrespective of what he 'does for me', actually leads to more wonderful behaviour from him than if I did not. The point is to not be counting, but if I did count it would still pencil out in everyone's favour. I will admit I have been lacking in being as giving as I could be as of late. Not neglectf…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 03:47 AM
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I'm not going to entertain your name calling, but to elaborate as to why most said no to the RP question.. If my air conditioner was not broken, you would not find me googling "how to fix an AC unit". I might improve my unit if it was having some trouble, but by and large I would not spend time (nor even think about) a component of my life that is working as it should. RPW date good men, regardless of RP or no. Quality partners will have some combination of both alpha and beta traits, though may…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/16 02:53 AM
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A longer and more eloquent way of how my SO used to say to me "something doesn't always have to be wrong". And he said it rightfully so as I am definitely guilty of emulating this behaviour. Nowadays, his catch phrase is "There's enough wrong going on in the world, our relationship is my rock so I'll just hang my hat on that then." What a compliment.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 02:38 AM
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Don't forget, more often than not Team Womyn wants you to fail. They don't like hearing you do the things they know would help them be successful, but don't want to do. They would rather you try what they want and see how it works out. It's like a fat friend wanting you to eat cake with them. They want to prove to themselves that if you eat cake and not get fat, then it's not their fault they are fat. In reality, you just don't eat cake or when you do it's much more sparingly. edit: crap I want …
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 02:07 AM
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I think it's a great guide. It's literally a step-by-step instruction manual to destroy a relationship. Just like, don't do any of these things and you are 60% of the way to having a happy one (:
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 02:01 AM
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Who is Milo Yalablalablah?
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 02:00 AM
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It's like a self-preservation strategy with a high cost. You preserve yourself, but you have no self left to offer anybody. Being a hardened bitch is like Voldemort living off of unicorn's blood lmfao.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:59 AM
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People like to be told there is nothing they can do and it's just the luck of the draw; it absolves them of responsibility for being presentable and accountable for their looks. You are a mean woman for shattering their illusions with this evil article /s.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:53 AM
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Ha! That is my go-to as well. I have an RPW Spotify list and that is spot number 1 (: By Your Side is my personal favourite.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:45 AM
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I think this post will be easier to flesh out once we have Camille's awesome post to refer to in RPW terms as opposed to TRP ones...but I would draw the analogy between the build-a-better-beta and the reformed slut. Warning, I may be all over the place with this post trying to reconcile the differing terminologies. RP wisdom cautions against the reformed slut because it's likely been constructed inauthentically as she nears the wall. The hands down best definition I've ever heard for 'the wall' …
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:37 AM
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I've gotten so much better at STFU-ing but I would still describe myself as a high-stress/high-negativity person at times. Granted, each affects the other so choosing to speak more positively has made massive improvements on my state of mind..but there is more work to be done. I notice most hours of the day I'm literally holding my breath or breathing shallowly or completely tensed. Then I have these moments of perfect clarity where I can actually smell the air and process the moment and feel gr…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:20 AM
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Excited for the crafts megathread! I've been crafting all day while sporadically commenting in IRC and now I have an excuse to take pictures and show off (: I'm trying to decorate wine bottles as a wedding gift...no idea how it'll end up lol
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:16 AM
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How it feels watching TRP members posting here
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/16 08:17 PM
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Truth in this. HB needs soooo much alone time. We are semi-LDR (our apartments are only blocks apart, but he travels so much for work it's awfully LDR-like sometimes) and his excitement to be home with me does not trump his need for his personal time. His mornings are especially off-limits, and any time he says he's spending with his brother is to be instantly respected as well. The good news is we are pretty good at taking words at face value. "I need to be alone" means "I need to be alone", an…
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 06:02 PM
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I use it to get out of invitations I know SO would not approve of. Usually a straight "Sorry, HB wouldn't like the idea of me attending without him", or if it's extra sensitive (like from a coworker I have to continually interact with) I'll pretend to ask HB. I don't actually because it's a waste of his time and I know he won't want me there, nor do I particularly care to be someone he wouldn't want me, but I at least pretend to give it consideration before replying with "sorry, I don't think th…
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 03:36 PM
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It will be. Too many people use the RPW network to keep their compass pointing straight even when life gets wearing. And you guys do a really great job with quality control, really great. I haven't necessary loved every single choice ever, but you can't please people all the time and I think for the most part you judge the interests of the sub well. This will be a great community and I'm interested to see what opportunities can be pursed with it (the April events is a great start!). If there's a…
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 06:47 AM
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Wow how long have you guys been working on this? I'm so impressed with all the material you already have...well done everybody. I can't say I saw it coming though, that's for sure.
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 05:40 AM
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I don't disagree with that assessment, but I'm not sure I would describe him as an 'addict', which is a pretty technical term and I've read enough and I don't think I've seen a single behaviour that describes him. A 'dependent' on the other hand, he fits almost all the marks for that. I don't know if it's six one way and half a dozen the other, and convincing myself there is a practical difference between the two would be working the hamster overtime...or if it is a significant enough distinctio…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/16 12:45 AM
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Fair enough. I'm no doctor but my SO attributes his drinking primarily because of his Adderal prescription, which he resents being put on so young and isn't logistically set up to begin tackling that monster. I also know he really enjoys it in a similar way people enjoy coffee, the process, etc (he exclusively drinks whiskey). I don't want to make him feel like has to quit completely, I would just prefer he not need it to wind down the way he does now (especially once kids are on the horizon). B…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/16 09:16 PM
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I appreciate your response. I meant to use "problem behaviour" to define how he acts, which is fine, albeit there could be an element of what you described with your husband also at play. I haven't given too much thought to his drinking before, and it's never bothered me. Now that we are getting closer to marriage, there are many logistical details that I never considered because they just weren't relevant. Like how this may related to children, and the fact that every night he would be incapabl…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/16 08:11 PM
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Apologies, there were other users in similar situations (from the other thread) so I did mean to generalize to address all those cases insofar as how to broach a discussion or if it's not worth it. I just added a 'worst case scenario' hypothetical comment for my own curiosities. Edit: being that you have my own personal case there in the last paragraph I sent to you, I would still appreciate any words of insight you may have.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/16 07:53 PM
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Sorry, this is a little confusing because you are addressing the post and my hypothetical comment at once. Some of your advice would make sense to me, but the hypothetical was truly a hypothetical which is why I made it distinct from the OP. My SO definitely does not need an intervention of the scale I described. He drinks 2-3 drinks each night, but it is every night. I've never seen him drink to excess and those 2-3 drinks have never caused any problem in our personal life or in his work. So th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/16 07:45 PM
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We are just dating but he exhibits no problem behaviour and does not drink to excess, ever. He has 2-3 drinks each night and that's all, but it is every night. He has never acted in any way due to his drinking that has upset me, and it doesn't affect our relationship or his work in any way. It seems excessive to just dump him without a discussion of any kind, but I don't know if I can cope with his drinking habits for life. Particularly when I entertain the idea of children.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/16 07:41 PM
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Also, as a hypothetical, say there was a situation with objective 'intervention-level' alcoholism and many loved ones were in agreement there was a problem. Would it be argued that a situation of that kind of medical severity transcends what the RPW ideology is equipped to handle and that an intervention may be appropriate? Or would it still be inadvisable to engage and rather just leave?
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/16 07:09 PM
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But he does get drunk (and seems drunk) if he's had more than his usual? 3 drinks doesn't seem like enough to get even a generally sober man drunk. If he has 5-6 he does get drunk. I don't mean to appear argumentative, you're raising some great points and I appreciate you taking the time to discuss.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/16 01:32 PM
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What is the line in drinking behaviour that makes you comfortable with your SO's drinking? Is it a concrete unit of measurement like "doesn't drink every day" or "doesn't drink excessive amounts"? Or is it something less quantifiable like "doesn't cause problems in his life or our relationship"? Because the last statement is true of my SO (I posted my own comment below), and that gives me piece of mind. But measuring it any concrete way and it's definitely not ideal and it does linger in my mind…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 09:30 PM
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Well it's much less alcohol, at least in terms of how intoxicated he gets at the moment. The fact that he doesn't get drunk almost ever is one of my greatest sources of relief. 2-3 glasses per night (averages 14-21 glasses per week) vs 4-6 bottles per week (averages 20-30 glasses per week, but is only distributed across 3 nights). Damn straight about the professional part. Don't know how I would broach that conversation though. Especially being that he's never done anything to worry me at all.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 08:46 PM
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Do you or your mother have any concerns about your father? I posted my own comment above as I'm in a somewhat similar situation to OP. But my SO's drinking is almost precisely like your father's -- two per night (it has increased at times but 2-3 is the standard for him). On the downside, it is every night. On the upside, he never binge drinks. Period. I've only seen him drunk maybe 2-3 times in our 18 month relationship. I do have concerns but being that I've truly never seen anything negative …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 08:17 PM
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Do you think the same of OP's situation? Most of the comments in reply to her are not seeing the need to sound the alarm, and they seem to have decent points why they think so that would apply to me as well.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 07:59 PM
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Edit: also pardon my manners, OP. I typed in a real rush this morning because your thread totally resonated with me (and as you can see from my own situation, I don't have any advice for you unfortunately). I should have been at least a bit more polite and said "I hope you don't mind me hijacking the thread" or honestly anything would have been better than the rude that popped out. Please excuse! I'm going to hijack your thread and post my own similar situation that I've been wondering about. It…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:01 PM
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Do they mean anything still? The ECs seem to have big ones which I totally got but now the little hearts are confusing me d: I think one of them even had a number in it? Or maybe I hallucinated haha
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 10:37 PM
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META - what is the deal with the new flairs??
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 07:49 PM
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Do you mind me asking how your figure is for no exercise? If I could have confidence in my ability to moderate my eating, and then have a balanced exercise routine (light jogs, long walks, dance classes, etc) and just keep trim....that would be wonderful. I know I have friends who do it, it just seems hard for me to walk the line.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 04:30 AM
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I think that puts you in genuinely the most ideal scenario. You can empathize with, relate to, and respect someone who is either religious or not, and present your personal position in a way that is not offensive to either. The religion thing was really only a suggestion because it would be a good work around to the virgin thing (for many men like that the virginity would be a requirement, not a drawback). But there are, without a doubt, many many men who will appreciate that about you and the a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 04:13 AM
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Oh god. Read it now. It's great and I think it will ease a lot of your concerns, and will answer your second question better than I can. Usually I don't suggest online dating, I think it can be done well, but usually I wouldn't suggest it. In this case, I might because you can find a community specific for religious people looking to date. I guess I should ask where you are on the religious spectrum? If you were vehemently opposed I guess it could be odd. I don't know what the culture would be l…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 03:27 AM
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Both! You may not be religious, but perhaps finding a religious man could be a good move for you. If you find another virgin, that would make that an absolute non-issue. Unless there's some brazen conflict of morals, I don't see that being a problem. My SO is religious and I am not, we work just great together. Use your virginity to your advantage, it well help you weed out those who aren't seriously interested anyway. Have you read the Surrendered Single? I think it would help you a lot. I love…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 03:13 AM
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I think what I'm taking away the most from these comments is getting my hair to a healthy place where I can do as little as possible. Right now my hair is absolutely disgusting air dried. I just look frizzy and homeless. It didn't always used to be that way, but I think it's dried out and the shorter length causes it to get big. I've been growing it out anyway (I only cut it because my mom had cancer, and really miss the long locks) and I think that'll help. Otherwise, it's just desperately star…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 10:57 PM
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Oh my god that scarf idea is beyond adorable. Do you have a tutorial to show that one off?? Super perfect. My hair style is pretty standard as of now. I'm growing it out from an awful hair cut, and refuse to do anything less than tame lol. It's just shoulder length with a couple face-framing pieces. If I let it air dry, it looks like this except it's shorter so it makes it even huger lol. For the soft curls, do you do like two pony tails one on top the other? That sounds like a cute go-to (:
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 05:58 PM
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I have for ponytails, etc but my hair sounds a bit unrulier than what you were bless with. Then again, I probably brought it on myself with frequent color changes /:
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 05:00 PM
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I'm pretty adept with skincare and makeup so I'm comfortable with doing a 15 minute routine that's a little more complete, or prioritizing what I do down to 5 minutes. Hair is just such a time thing, I can never get over it. And my hair texture has changed, it's probably unhealthy but I don't know how to care for it, and if it air dries it's just a dry and poofy mess lol. I also enjoy not having to wash it every day, but with exercise that seems impossible without it being disgusting. I'm hoping…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 03:57 PM
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That sounds really productive! Funny I didn't even think about it, but his attitude when you are out together is quite similar to my SO's. When we go out together his policy is "moogi butch" -- I am sure I completely butchered the spelling lol, but it means "mouse's tail", which is how close to him he wants me to stay. He repeats it before we step out anywhere busy, or if I'm getting too bubbly like you haha. Then again, he doesn't have the "separate we are separate" attitude either. He always w…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 02:16 AM
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I feel like there is a difference between "I'm not ready for marriage or children right now, but I definitely want them some day" (what she is saying); and, "I'm not ready for marriage and children right now, and I don't know if I want them at all" (what he is saying). Or am I missing something? She seemed alright with him having general insecurities and acknowledged it was human of him, it's just going from "I want to marry you and have your children" to "marriage sucks and I don't know" that s…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 01:33 AM
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I think there can be a compromise found between an immediate 'next' and being strung along. OP, do you want to be married? You say you are only slightly familiar with RPW. An RPW most certainly would want to married. If you do, and I suggest that you do, this flip-flopping business is completely destructive to your longterm goals. It enables him to have his cake and eat it too, with no need to offer the ultimate commitment. If you do want to be married, you need to tell him so. Now. Stop wasting…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 01:05 AM
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Yes there is, you can stop wasting your time and find someone who is willing to invest in you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/16 01:26 PM
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Hm wow okay that's really a bit different than I thought. I was more getting the impression you were in school and hadn't been exclusive all that long. Sorry if that sounds offensive, just giving you the vibe of it. In that case I feel like something has definitely happened. Were you 19 and been together a few months, I'd be more inclined to think he was just losing interest. This sounds rather deliberate on his end...He doesn't want you there. All I can suggest is thinking very critically on th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/16 04:54 PM
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This sounds awesome! I was hoping for prevention because right now we don't live together so just doing it daily isn't an option for me. Does the lack of mirror cause him any trouble or is it easy enough?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/16 09:40 PM
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What is a skoy cloth?? I've never heard of such a thing!
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/16 09:39 PM
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Regarding housekeeping, Who has a tip for prevention or staying on top of all the little whisker hairs that go all over the bathroom counter when your man shaves??? Prevention would be better but gosh it seems like a lost cause sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/16 04:04 PM
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Well...in that case it sounds a bit like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Rather than have a glass of beer or wine, I typically go for club soda and lime. It looks like a cocktail and nobody asks questions. Also, if he is worried about you not having a good time due to lack of drinking, you can directly express that you don't mind; i.e. "Honey I don't need alcohol to enjoy spending time with you" or something similar, stated lightheartedly and dropped. If he pushes it, then I wou…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/16 04:01 PM
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There may be some truth to what you are saying pertaining to her behaviour while drinking (hard to know). But two points to make Of course she wants his friends to like her; It's very important to me my SO's friends all like me. And they do. And all is well. That part just doesn't strike me as odd. She mentioned he won't even invite her to BBQs, even if there are other girls there. A BBQ may lend itself to light drinking, but that doesn't strike me as a boozefest. In either case, seems to me if …
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/16 07:35 AM
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It sounds like you are doing great. My SO is kind of the same, but it's even harder because we are kind of LDR. We aren't...but we are. We both live in the same city and have agreed this is where we are setting our life up, but his work takes him all over the state. His last project had him about 10 days away/4 days home; then he got it to about 10 away/7 home, which was nice; and now he's 100% gone but that's new as of this week, which I'm adjusting to. He basically took a 9-5 office job, but t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 06:28 PM
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Would you feel comfortable posting some progress photos here? Without your face of course.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 05:58 AM
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