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| 2 | My [31F] relationship w bf [41M] lacks intimacy, stable future and I’m unsure what to doThere is porn use and porn addiction, and these are two different things. The guy himself said it’s an addiction and he has professional help so I’d trust he has better insight to his own life than you/us. Just like an alcoholic may need to avoid alcohol entirely to stay sober while others can drink reasonably, the same can be said for porn use. This guy admits he can’t use in moderation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/26 09:06 PM |
| 1 | My [31F] relationship w bf [41M] lacks intimacy, stable future and I’m unsure what to doSure thing, and I don’t think it’s eye rolling regarding your comments. These are real considerations. People love to say leave but none of us have guarantees it’s better out there. And people do have companionate marriages that aren’t about sex. But most people don’t want that. You have to weigh the risks and what you really want. Even if he begrudgingly had a child with you… you have to have lots of well timed sex to make that happen which sounds like isn’t really happening. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/26 09:02 PM |
| 4 | My [31F] relationship w bf [41M] lacks intimacy, stable future and I’m unsure what to doHow long have you been together? what do you know about sex addiction? because this does not sound like a guy who is doing well in recovery. And remember, just because they are in recovery and working on it doesn’t mean they are being successful at it. I think the reality here is that he is not capable of having a normal healthy sex life with a partner. There’s nothing you can do to change that because it’s not about how you look or what you’re doing in bed or who initiates, he is most likely in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/26 05:19 PM |
| 3 | I listened to the advice here and started communicating my needs and boundaries clearly and have realized a huge difference in my dating lifeBingo! It’s one thing if relationships develop organically but if a guy this age is looking so much younger on apps, he’s likely unserious. If he really wanted to get married, it would be very easy for him to find someone who same age who wanted to. And all men love novelty - it’s the trick to find the ones who decides that is worth giving up for a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/26 05:12 PM |
| 18 | I listened to the advice here and started communicating my needs and boundaries clearly and have realized a huge difference in my dating life👏👏👏 Love to see this! I know women your age love older, I did too at that age, but to me a 35 yo with a 25 yo isn’t ideal. You think you are on the same levels but once you are older, you’ll see this differently. If you want to go older, I’d recommend more like a 30/31 yo. While it’s easy to think oh a 35 yo is more open to marriage because he’s establishes, that man is likely picking a 25 yo because he thinks he can buy time without getting marriage pressure. Not all, but many. Just beware. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/26 04:16 PM |
| 8 | Italian girl, trying to learn about patriarchyCheck out our wiki page in the about section. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/26 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Argument with spouse over financesIt is the sub you are on. Take a look at the wiki. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/26 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Argument with spouse over financesI see, it sounds like YOU are the leader here. On this sub, we focus on finding men who are the leaders so it doesn't sound like your relationship is a fit for what we are selling here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/26 03:55 PM |
| 11 | How to be submissive and feminine All the timeHow do you think this guy would react down the road when you are a doctor? What is his career? Really think through the long-term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/26 03:54 PM |
| 5 | How to be submissive and feminine All the timePerhaps he just cannot "attract" a submissive woman. Please consider that. It may very well be somethings he is doing is making submissive women turn the other way, I would if some guy 3 months in was talking to me about Tate or RP stuff. He probably has come across submissive women who decided he wasn't they leader the needed and moved on. So he at 26 thinks "ok if I go for a 19 yo, she will be submissive. I will just go younger." You are young, you have time to search for the right fit. And yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/26 03:51 PM |
| 7 | How to be submissive and feminine All the timeThe couples therapy request for a 3 month relationship is shocking. This relationship is barely even a relationship yet! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/26 03:48 PM |
| 4 | How to be submissive and feminine All the timeSo I get this is a value of yours but you need to begin to separate work from relationships. What works great for you in your career and workplace may not always work well for you in a relationship. Work on learning how to turn it off. Stop and think "what emotion is he trying to get across to me right now? What message does he want me to take away?" rather than focusing on that he used the wrong word. You are clearly smart, you know what he is trying to say, it's just pedantic to argue that the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/26 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Argument with spouse over financesIs he overall a good leader in other areas of your life? Would you overall say you agree with his other decisions and are comfortable following him? Is he a competent person or a trainwreck? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/26 02:47 PM |
| 3 | How to be submissive and feminine All the timeHow do the fights go? Can you outline the pattern? It may help me see where you misstep. My husband is an attorney and takes words SO literally. It is exhausting to experience as sometimes he's focusing on the wrong thing rather than the actual message of what I or anyone else is trying to get across. It makes our conversations SO slow because he is focused on every word and thinking through his response in detail. However he's patient and we don't explode on one another, and we are both aware o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/26 02:43 PM |
| 5 | F23: How do I decenter men when I was raised by women who centered them?What is your ultimate goal when it comes to relationships? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/26 02:01 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend never compliments meCongrats to him on his conversion! Big step. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/26 05:27 PM |
| 7 | My boyfriend never compliments meThis is in line with what I was going to say. Some men see it as too vulnerable to do, giving away too much power. I don't think it's healthy to think like this but I would suspect this is the reason and it has nothing to do with if he finds her attractive or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/26 03:26 PM |
| – | Should I just leave him alone?I see. I promise I am not trying to pick on you, I am more so just trying to understand. I was 21 too and out late. I too went to guys houses at all hours of the morning, and I can promise you it got me no where good. It's best to set boundaries like - real dates at reasonable hours, planned in advance. If a guy cannot meet something so simple, then he is not serious or good for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/26 03:20 PM |
| 3 | Should I just leave him alone?But if you were there at 11:30, why stay until 4 am? Sorry I don’t mean to pick on this point, I’m just confused. And if there is no dates, how is he sexually pleasing you? The whole thing seems confusing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/26 03:45 AM |
| 13 | Should I just leave him alone?I admit I’m kind of confused what is going on here between you two. Why are you going to anyone’s house at 4am first off? I admit this whole thing sounds like 21yo behavior, which you are, but he’s not, he’s 30 so it’s kind of odd he’s engaging in this sort of thing. Do you all go on actual dates, like at normal hours? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/26 03:29 AM |
| 14 | I (22F) feel extremely insecure about my boyfriend's (23M) group of online friendsYou need to work on your anxiety and need to control. And most women do, it’s embedded in us to be like this for all the evolutionary reasons around trying to secure a partner for our security and that of our offspring, but in the modern world it’s going to cause problems in your relationship. We have tons of books and posts here you can read about how to do this, but you can’t control his hobbies. And the more you try, the more he’ll become unhappy in the relationship and see you as emotionally… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/26 09:16 PM |
| 5 | If you had to remove all of your "Non-Negotiables" and keep only three, which ones would they be?Dying that hairy was on the list haha. I admit I love a hairy man though! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/26 07:16 PM |
| 9 | If you had to remove all of your "Non-Negotiables" and keep only three, which ones would they be?I had a list on my phone of my 5 before I met my husband. I didn't add attraction though because I took that as a "given." Mine were: Physically affectionate Passionate about career Good sense of humor Willing to make relationship commitment/marriage High sex drive If I were to do this now, my religious values would be top of the list. It wasn't a priority at the time, and we do align on this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/26 04:07 PM |
| 3 | Kevin SamuelsYeah, I realize my advice is very much “do as I say not as I do..” but there’s a very high cost for what I did. I didn’t get married until I was 42 and I most likely will never have children given my age unless I get blessed with some miracle 40s baby. I also experienced a lot of pain along the way. And I also was not looking for financial support as I was lucky enough to have this on my own even though again, I got blessed to end up with a high earning man. This is why I definitely don’t recomm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/26 05:38 PM |
| 6 | Kevin SamuelsI think I understand and agree with the overall point you are making in the final paragraph which is that we shouldn't aim for perfection in partners and sometimes a less than ideal partner is better than none at all. As someone who lived alone and was single for many years, this was how I felt personally. I was lonely and the challenges of marriage I have found to be better than the challenges of singlehood which for me was not financial but lonlieness. However I don't think the data points you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/26 03:27 PM |
| 2 | disappointed with adviceOh, I haven’t seen that. Glad you clarified! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/26 01:46 AM |
| 11 | disappointed with adviceI don’t think it was obvious in your post. You said you were disappointed in advice that said to look for “more than money” in a man so not sure why that’s disappointing advice if you agree other things matter too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/26 01:16 AM |
| 15 | disappointed with adviceFirst off, not all advice here is equal. Look to the ECs and starred contributors for reliability. Second, you can choose a man based on money alone. But there is a reason most women don’t do this. If it was a successful formula, we’d all do it. But we care more about attractiveness than we’d care to admit and things like shared values, compatibility, religion, etc matter a ton. You are not the first woman to come up with this idea, but again there’s a reason it’s not the predominant model and i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/26 01:07 AM |
| 0 | What do I do in my situation if I'm caught in the older sister zone and how to get out?We can't know how he feels or what he thinks... But I'd take the whole "older sister" thing with a grain of salt. It doesn't mean he is or is not attracted. It could mean either, it could be a way of him flirting. Or he could legitimately not want to date someone older. We can't know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/26 03:27 PM |
| 4 | What do I do in my situation if I'm caught in the older sister zone and how to get out?You are focusing on appearance here when men don't work like that. He's decided long ago if he finds you attractive enough to date or not. You need to focus more on your strategy here - how to go about letting him know and making sure you are in the best position for him to accept it. I think the point Ark was trying to make is - it can ruin your chances with this guy if you pursue him while you are seeing (causally or otherwise) this current guy. From a man's perspective, it will make you look … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/26 03:12 PM |
| 0 | regarding past history: Clean men vs. used men?It sounds like you don't know much about RPW and instead presume we support everything RP men do. First off, we don't brutally judge women with a past here. I have quite an extensive one myself given I didn't marry until 42 and we have had sex workers participate here as well. Of course we have the other side of the coin, the virgins and low n-counts, and we talk about the benefits of this approach for women. Second, we don't advocate for women to date RP men here. We also don't advocate for wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/26 03:00 PM |
| 14 | I’m a virgin waiting for marriage, but my BMI was last recorded at 34. LamentCalorie tracking. It all starts here. It works. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/26 05:36 PM |
| 5 | Help me get standards for menMaybe first focus on improving the way you think about men, I get that you’re hurt, but this attitude is not going to get you a good type of guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/26 04:34 PM |
| 5 | Help me get standards for menThe red pill woman philosophy would be to focus on improving yourself rather than coming up with the perfect list of what you want in somebody else. You can come up with all the lists you want, it doesn’t mean you are going to find it or protect yourself in the way you think. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/26 04:32 PM |
| 29 | I can’t stop thinking about a man I only went on one date with. Did I ruin my chancesLooking back, I think I became emotionally invested way too quickly. I also think telling him to stop talking to me probably made things worse, especially if he was already pulling away. You think? I don't mean to be rude but you told him to stop talking to you, and he did. Why would he do otherwise?? This shows him you are emotionally immature or unstable to play games and especially so early, after only one date. You messed up, and will mess up again on the next one if you don't find a way to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/26 08:50 PM |
| 8 | How can we internalize the gaze of the other gender as a good thing?I wrote about the RPW “Hopeless Phase” here and how to combat it. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/9iWNcManve | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/26 06:17 PM |
| 7 | How to handle "dread game"I see, this does change things and I'd edit your post to include this. Most of us have many options in comparison to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/26 02:35 PM |
| 1 | 10-Yr Husband is LeavingI had a similar experience where I was in college when I was dating my ex, now I have a very successful career but he never was able to see me as the "grown up" woman I am now. He would attribute my success to him, that he "encouraged me to do better" and "I would have been a nanny forever if he hadn't pushed me." In reality, I was doing well before him, I was just still young and building things. And his influence was very little. But he attributed it all to himself. Needless to say, it didn't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/26 02:29 PM |
| 1 | 10-Yr Husband is LeavingIt could have been me last time :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/26 02:25 PM |
| 5 | How to handle "dread game"Bury the lede .... | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/26 02:24 PM |
| 7 | How to handle "dread game"Is this Alaska or something? Do you live in an area where there are no other men around? These details matter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/26 02:19 PM |
| 8 | How to handle "dread game"It really doesn't matter if it's RP or not, the result on you is the same. Some label on his behavior isn't going to make any difference in how you should react. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/26 02:16 PM |
| 1 | 10-Yr Husband is LeavingThis text sounds like classical manipulation. He's already trying to get you back without actually taking full accountability for his actions by continuing to blame you. I really do feel bad for you, these sort of mind games are hard. I recommend reading "Why does he do that" if you haven't already, it's about abusive people, why they do it, the tactics they use, etc. You seem to have a really clear view on what happened to you and why it happened and I think you could have a wonderful new relat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/26 02:15 PM |
| 55 | How to handle "dread game"It’s probably not dread game, this is giving him too much credit, he’s just likely young and dumb. This is such a waste of your time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/26 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Need advice for navigating a cross culture relationshipI cannot fatham being attracted to a man this age... and I use the term man lightly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/26 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Need advice for navigating a cross culture relationshipEw... I'm bummed I missed this one! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/26 01:45 PM |
| 4 | 10-Yr Husband is LeavingI don’t know that he will ever manage his anger or take responsibility for how he’s reacted to my disrespect (this topic I don’t understand but it seems like us women do have the power to shame our men easily if they love us so much, but how do HV captains deal with that maturely?). This is a fair topic and I think what you've stated in your post is that you think you did a poor job vetting. Actual HV captains are mature enough to maintain their composure. If they are truly being disrespected on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/26 01:44 PM |
| 5 | 10-Yr Husband is LeavingAgreed, she really did put the work in to the best of her ability I think! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/26 05:37 PM |
| 12 | 10-Yr Husband is LeavingI remember your first post and glad you followed up. I think in your case, two things can be true at once. Those two things are: 1) You were disrespectful for many years, and 2) your husband is overly controlling and unreasonable. I do not think your disrespect caused him to be how he is. His actions are insane and no one would be able to rightly deal with a life like this. On the flip side, you sound like you have some challenging medical issues with your cycle and rage problems. This can come … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/26 05:31 PM |
| 9 | Movies that awaken feminine energyI can always count on you to say the things I wish I would. I’m very tired of the feminine energy phrase, let’s just be more practical with our wording and say what we mean. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/26 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Need advice - finance has given upI think most of the examples you shared are unreasonable. With your daughter, you maybe could have STFU and let that go, if he is going to be her parent, you have to let him parent and in his way, but much of this doesn’t sound like you disrespecting him to me. How does he lead you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/26 10:44 PM |
| 8 | How do you actually STFU??I leave the room. In good weather, specifically going to sit on the patio outside. Fresh air and sun helps with a reset. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/26 10:40 PM |
| 3 | Is this a dealbreaker?I never heard this quote, glad you shared and I learned something new. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/26 01:44 PM |
| 6 | Need advice - finance has given upSo this is why I asked for examples. Do you think your partner is a good leader? Do you think what he’s asking of you is reasonable? Because we don’t advocate just blindly following, the first step is vetting - selecting someone who is a good leader, makes good decisions, reasonable, etc. Is he that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/26 01:32 PM |
| 18 | Is this a dealbreaker?The pregnancy is not really as bad as his reaction to it. The reaction shows a man who is taking zero accountability. And he had sex with this person in the past three months, max. He’s not even remotely ready to get into a new relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/26 11:13 PM |
| 5 | Need advice - finance has given upI think providing some concrete examples would help. Even “not listening to him” is pretty generic. What are the sorts of topics? More detail will help us help you. I’ve done a ton of work to overcome these things you are talking about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/26 08:50 PM |
| 13 | Spending Money on LooksIf I had a couple grand extra, it would go straight into savings unless I had a substantial amount saved up (like enough for me to independently support myself for a year if I got laid off). It cannot be overstated to make sure you have savings. But everyone has different financial goals. Regardless, I would not spend it on looks right now. You have a fiancé, he’s agreed to marry you, and you don’t know if you may have to use the funds for a wedding or potentially maybe getting a place together.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/26 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Shallow (shorterm) LDR CallsWell when you were talking about the situation, you were talking about your wants and needs - how you want to get the most out of it, etc - but what about his needs and desires? From his side, he probably feels like he’s spending over backwards to try to meet your needs to have a phone call and it’s still not good enough. We have to try to see things through another person’s perspective. You are young and it takes time to learn more about how men are. Try to read “for women only” and “empowered … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/26 07:28 PM |
| 5 | Shallow (shorterm) LDR CallsI will add to this, men don’t feel the need to talk talk talk like women do. Many of them find it exhausting. It’s also not how they bond, they bond through shared activities. So you are looking to connect through talking while that doesn’t really probably work for him and he’s just doing it to make you happy, which is why it seems an inauthentic, because it is. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or doesn’t want to talk to you, it just means that men are wired differently. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/26 05:05 PM |
| 7 | Shallow (shorterm) LDR CallsHonestly, you need to get away from trying to control him. There’s a lot of books and materials here we recommend on doing that. You cannot control how he talks to you, when he talks to you, and what he does while he’s talking to you. I don’t even know how you would go about giving him this sort of feedback if you wanted to. I suppose you could tell him you feel like he’s preoccupied during your calls and you would rather have a 10 minute video call than a one hour voice call, but then you would… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/26 05:01 PM |
| 3 | Shallow (shorterm) LDR CallsLDRs just suck, there is no way around it. If you are looking to get married, it sounds like you have a plan to close the gap. So if that is the case, then you basically just have to endure this until you relocate closer to each other. Telling him what he needs to do differently is not going to work - he is who he is and who he is is legitimate. Having to sustain a relationship over the phone isn't natural for anyone and so it's not really a fault of him but rather of the situation. Focus on hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/26 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Llevo casi 4 años con mi novio y quería saber si soy la única a la que le pasa esto.You said “I don’t want him to think I want to change him” but you do want to change him. And change is OK, we should all be willing to change and grow when we want to, but this falls into the category of respect his decisions about himself. You have mentioned what you would like, he has responded that he does not want to do it, you just have to leave it there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/26 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Is it just me, or do men still have a long way to go when it comes to emotional maturity and accountability?He's from Bangladesh and we are going for my first time in September, I am psyched! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/26 06:35 PM |
| 3 | Is it just me, or do men still have a long way to go when it comes to emotional maturity and accountability?If we are generalizing (me as a white American married to a Desi) - Indian mothers do a lot for their sons so the sons aren't really self sufficient when it comes to household stuff and overall life stuff (like scheduling appointments and tasks like that). Also many Indian households have staff, like folks I'd consider middle class in the US, so these staff do everything, like even making and serving coffee, so the men don't lift a finger. That being said, it's a high achievement sort of culture… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/26 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Is it just me, or do men still have a long way to go when it comes to emotional maturity and accountability?This is universal. This is a men thing. This is where, if you believe in RP theory, you will understand that emotionality is not a strength of men ... and come to accept it. That is a strength of us as women, and expecting men to be like women and have the same strengths as us is pointless and will only set us up to be disappointed. Men bring their own strengths, but this is not one of them. These skills are also something men learn over time with age. A guy in his 20s is going to STRUGGLE here.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/26 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a guy with a lot of female friends that sees as "sisters"?That's good he has solid male groups. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/26 02:43 PM |
| 11 | Would you date a guy with a lot of female friends that sees as "sisters"?He sounds like a beta orbiter. If it was just one or two close friends, at 18, I get it but if it's him with big groups of women, it's a red flag. Most men I've seen like this are either gay and don't know it yet, have masculinity issues that make them insecure around other men so they hang out with women, are otherwise very feminine, or are orbiting women to hope to get one but they have to play the friend card because essentially all these women have friendzoned him. As a 20 year old, I wouldn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/26 02:05 PM |
| 6 | Would you date a guy with a lot of female friends that sees as "sisters"?I assume you mean prude, but I like prune too :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/26 02:01 PM |
| 6 | Would love to hear opinions on this relationshipSo where is the relationship at now? Does he want to move forward? Or he isn't sure? What about you? My thoughts are: 1) This is why quicker marriages are ideal IMO. I understand given how young you both were, it may have been too young, but it's common for people who date for a long time to start to get annoyed and pick apart their partner. It's not nice, but it's life. The love and infatuation is strong in the first couple of years, and that's why I personally believe people should be marrying… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/26 05:29 PM |
| 3 | RestraintI leave the room, I go outside if I can or busy myself with some task. It's self discipline at its core, just like any other kind. You have to build a habit or place a bad habit with a healthy one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/26 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Communication changed immediately after our first date. Am I overthinking this, or should I step back? (27F dating 28M)I also want to say, I agree, this guy may be not a good catch, but she honestly won’t ever know based on the way she’s reacting so quickly! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/26 11:20 PM |
| 2 | Communication changed immediately after our first date. Am I overthinking this, or should I step back? (27F dating 28M)It has been one date - if this was a theme you’ve seen across three or more dates, then you can consider it a trend but right now it’s been one date so you really don’t know what’s going on and you are jumping to conclusions. You have to give things time. Not years time, but like more than three days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/26 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Communication changed immediately after our first date. Am I overthinking this, or should I step back? (27F dating 28M)You don’t need to leave him on read, but you don’t need to end things with him or constantly text him either. I don’t mean this to be rude, but I’m not quite sure why the two options I see so often for younger people are to either completely ignore someone or want to text all the time. Balance is needed in life. If you are interested in the man and he texts you, respond, it’s pretty simple. Don’t initiate too much in the beginning stages, but once in a while is OK. Definitely don’t ask tons of q… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/26 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Communication changed immediately after our first date. Am I overthinking this, or should I step back? (27F dating 28M)Ok yeah that maybe was jumping the gun. Why not just let it play out instead of feeling like you need to end it? What did that accomplish? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/26 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Communication changed immediately after our first date. Am I overthinking this, or should I step back? (27F dating 28M)How long was it since the first date? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/26 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Communication changed immediately after our first date. Am I overthinking this, or should I step back? (27F dating 28M)This is true, there are so many posts where they are just seeking validation or permission to leave and it is so obvious! But there are others like this one where truthfully no one knows what is going on because it is so new and there isn't enough info, and an anxious women can't be patient so tries to figure it out when really there is no answer but to give it time and make the right moves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/26 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Communication changed immediately after our first date. Am I overthinking this, or should I step back? (27F dating 28M)This is SUCH a jump, wow. You know literally none of this. This is bad advice OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/26 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Communication changed immediately after our first date. Am I overthinking this, or should I step back? (27F dating 28M)I might disagree with this one. We see a lot of anxious women who do overthink things sometimes. Trusting an anxious gut isn't always ideal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/26 05:22 PM |
| 3 | Communication changed immediately after our first date. Am I overthinking this, or should I step back? (27F dating 28M)How long ago was your first date? It's best to let him ask you out and not to ask. You have to work on being more chill and patient. I know it's so hard but this is how you play the game so to speak. Right now, if you are asking him if he lost interest and are asking him out, you are pursuing him and you want it to be the other way around. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/26 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Being my disabled fiancé's carer and also the homemaker. I somtimes feel like I don't do enough, yet I feel stressed.I’m glad it’s working for you both, did you have some sort of questions we could help with? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/26 05:40 PM |
| 6 | Being my disabled fiancé's carer and also the homemaker. I somtimes feel like I don't do enough, yet I feel stressed.I think the very large majority of women are not going to be able to relate to your situation so you might be better getting advice from other caregivers. Our primary premise here is men as leaders, and while I suppose he can be a leader mentally still, the fact that you need to do so much for him is going to change your dynamic and put you in more of the leadership role, even if you don’t want to be. I still think there’s things you can take from this sub, like respect, but some of the other gu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/26 04:14 PM |
| 4 | Vetting for porn useThanks for the write-up and I fully agree here. Uses (hopefully sparingly) is different than addicted. But never uses is a tough ask I think. Growing up I was given the impression that porn is great, it’s just another tool to use, no problems! The 90s and 00s … but now I see all the problems. I read a case on Reddit the other day of two virgins who got married but the man was into porn and he’s totally disappointed by actual sex, he says it’s not what he expected and he doesn’t even want to do i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/26 04:06 PM |
| 1 | My past is actually dictating my future and I need to stop itOk fair, if you search for nun mode, we have tons of materials on this. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/975AsPZ4UB Personally I think it should be used sparingly for serious cases only and most women we see here have the opposite problem of hiding away from dating or expecting the dream man to magically come to her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/26 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Vetting for porn useVaz, as a man do you think it’s realistic to try to even try to find a guy who doesn’t watch porn? Personally I always looked for men who at best said their knew it was bad and tried their best to limit use. But 0 porn just seems unrealistic to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/26 03:10 PM |
| 12 | Respecting a manListening and being quiet goes a really long way. If you disagree, you do it calmly and carefully choose your language. I feel like 90% of respect is simply what comes out of our mouths (…or doesn’t). | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/26 04:31 PM |
| 43 | Why do men settle for and appear unhappy in their relationships so much?My take is that while female hypergamy is very active and discriminatory in the beginning of a relationship, many women will get past this once they make a commitment and fall in love with the guy. But I think very often, men’s attraction works the opposite way, where they are crazy attracted to the woman in the beginning and then their interest declines over time. This is not always or even often because the woman is doing anything different, it’s largely an evolutionary drive for variety. That… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/26 11:04 PM |
| 2 | How to get a man talk to you, when their personality is very quiet?I see, well it's good he's talking about the future. At 3 years in, hopefully this is becoming a reality sooner rather than later unless you are super young. Your example sounds like he just isn't detail oriented. Maybe try expressing your needs. Like instead of asking him when we are coming home, tell him you need to be home by X time. And maybe try to be more flexible - you can order food in or pick something up if needed, don't try to control everything so much. But ultimately this is who he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/26 04:11 PM |
| 8 | How to get a man talk to you, when their personality is very quiet?Is he like this only when you talk about the future or about every topic? How long have you been together? Because it could be he just doesn't want to talk about the future, which could be not ideal depending on how long you've been together. Then again, maybe you are pressuring/it's too early, or maybe there is a way you are asking that could improve. My husband is a man of fewer words. He especially struggles to talk about his feelings so if I ask him how is feeling about something, he will te… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/26 02:48 PM |
| 80 | Is this what most men would consider the female equivalent of getting flowers?I agree with the cooking him a meal option. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/26 03:17 PM |
| 3 | not sure if i like/love a guySounds like it to me, you aren’t into him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/26 08:46 PM |
| 3 | As an unattractive woman, will I never be loved because of my looks?This sub isn't really the place for that. We are a space focused on helping women achieve successful LTRs with men so that is our aim here in all the advice we give. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/26 08:00 PM |
| 4 | As an unattractive woman, will I never be loved because of my looks?Then you really have to decide how badly you want a relationship or if you prefer to be alone because you won't accept an unattractive man. But giving up at 24 years old is taking the easy way out. I didn't get married until 42 (last year), had many failed relationships before that not because of attraction but my point is everyone has their issues and it takes hard work and the right attitude to get what you want. I am not going to be like the others here and tell you you aren't ugly or whateve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/26 05:32 PM |
| 7 | What characteristics would I need to have in order to attract a PROVIDER?Ok so you are 25. How long have you been looking for this man? Because to say you "can't attract a provider" makes me wonder how long you have even been looking considering how young you are and depending on how old your child is, I presume you were in some sort of relationship and then later preoccupied with child rearing so maybe couldn't focus on the relationship stuff for a period of time. So how long have you realistically been looking and putting in effort? You already know not everyone wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/26 04:53 PM |
| 1 | New here and need some dating guidanceYou probably aren't getting many responses because this stuff is on the wiki. Have you read through it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/26 04:45 PM |
| 3 | not sure if i like/love a guyThis is a very unusual response on your part. It sounds like you are either just not into him at all or trying purposely to not get attached to him too closely. Do you have attachment/vulnerability issues? Either go all in or get all out. I personally think you are wasting your time as it's clear you just aren't into this guy. A girl who is into a guy is going to jump at any opportunity to have a date with him. However if this is a YOU issue, meaning you aren't into anyone or are just scared to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/26 04:43 PM |
| 13 | As an unattractive woman, will I never be loved because of my looks?Honestly, I’m more concerned about why you are calling a 43-year-old woman “bruh.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/26 11:25 PM |
| 22 | As an unattractive woman, will I never be loved because of my looks?There are plenty of ugly men out there who want companionship. Are you willing to accept them? Do you feel you have reasonable standards? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/26 09:28 PM |
| 3 | I can't handle my annoyance and angerMeditation, prayer, therapy, mindfulness, reading, etc. You really have to do a complete overhaul of yourself internally. You really have to work on giving up control, you don’t control everything and you definitely don’t control him. The readings on the wiki are what got me here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/26 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Found 🚩 info about a guy I’m talking to- How bad is it?It’s almost like people are actively looking to ruin their own options. I suppose maybe I would have done something like this as a young woman who still has that feeling of unlimited options, but it really doesn’t make sense to go looking for trouble. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/26 09:49 PM |
| 2 | Feeling insecure about ending up alone and not finding a suitable partner (25F). How do I improve my approach?Read my post from a while ago here about confidence and risk taking: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/nPR8MX9PJT | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/26 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Feeling insecure about ending up alone and not finding a suitable partner (25F). How do I improve my approach?A nun mode may work but also you are 25… I’d recommend trying to figure out how to improve while dating in a healthy way if you want kids. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/26 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Feeling insecure about ending up alone and not finding a suitable partner (25F). How do I improve my approach?So what do you plan to do about it? You really didn’t answer the previous questions I posed. I’m not trying to be difficult, but I learned in therapy we have to come up with our own answers, nothing’s going to change otherwise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/26 06:41 PM |
| 15 | Found 🚩 info about a guy I’m talking to- How bad is it?Why even post on these groups? I don't think you helped yourself at all here because you don't even know if it's true or not. Now if you go out with him, you have to hide this from him and someday may tell him and piss him off. I may get downvoted but I put this in the "play stupid games, win stupid prizes" category. You don't know if any of this is true or not but now have the info. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/26 06:29 PM |
| 0 | Feeling insecure about ending up alone and not finding a suitable partner (25F). How do I improve my approach?And this fear is helping you how? How is worry improving your situation? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/26 03:27 PM |
| 10 | Feeling insecure about ending up alone and not finding a suitable partner (25F). How do I improve my approach?According to you - you are not flirty on dates and keep your distance. You are guarded and not vulnerable. This is what needs to be fixed. You can be flirty on a date and not have sex but men are driven by sex. If they aren't attracted to you in a sexual way, meaning not only are you pretty but they feel like you would be fun and receptive in bed, they aren't going to commit to you. Do some research here on girl game and how to introduce playfulness and joy into your dating opportunities. But yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/26 03:06 PM |
| – | Who Are The Best Trad Husbands?Muslims can only marry women who practice abrahamic religions so those are out. Given your post history, it seems a religious guy is just not going to jive with your beliefs. I can’t imagine you would want to have your kids raised in that faith either as an ex-Christian. You can find a non-religious man to pursue these things with but you may have to go for a guy who is not as attractive. It’s doable but religious is the cheat code because it can sometimes take a lot for men to override their na… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/26 10:10 PM |
| 2 | I (29f) am struggling to support my bf (36m) when he is in crisis. Perspective/ advice would be really appreciated.It is good to be open to influence of your partner *when you have a healthy partner*. You don’t have a healthy partner. I’m not saying he’s a bad partner, I’m sure he’s great in a lot of ways or even in most areas, but he has a mental illness so allowing someone to influence you who cannot even manage themselves is following someone who you should not follow. If there are other areas you trust his guidance on, then of course be open. Maybe these are financial matters or planning dates or whateve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/26 04:59 PM |
| 2 | I (29f) am struggling to support my bf (36m) when he is in crisis. Perspective/ advice would be really appreciated.Your reactions are natural reactions to experiencing what you are. Normal people should and do become disregulsted or walk away in a situation like that, you are not supposed to be calm and just take it. The fact that you think this is a reasonable expectation of you is part of the problem and why he keeps doing what he’s doing, because to some extent you allow it. If this was a one time incident, of course I would say be overly accommodating. But at this point, you’re not looking to de-escalate… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/26 04:53 PM |
| 3 | I (29f) am struggling to support my bf (36m) when he is in crisis. Perspective/ advice would be really appreciated.I know I keep responding with similar comments to myself and the other ECs but I just want to make it very clear that: this is not about you not providing him the care he needs or wants. This is about him choosing to lash out at you because he wants to, because he gets something out of venting, being angry, or hurting you. You really need to understand this for what it is. It isn't some failure on your part to do the right thing and there is no magic comforting tactic that will solve this proble… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/26 02:55 PM |
| 3 | I (29f) am struggling to support my bf (36m) when he is in crisis. Perspective/ advice would be really appreciated.It is not your job to support his every emotion. Your job is to support yourself. Why do you think it is your job to comfort him when he can't tell you what he needs? This is why I really think you need a 12 step group, to figure out how to remove the focus from him to yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/26 02:49 PM |
| 5 | I (29f) am struggling to support my bf (36m) when he is in crisis. Perspective/ advice would be really appreciated.So this sounds like he is codependent to me. The issue isn't that he wants support because if that was the case, he could just tell you what he needed. He doesn't really need anything or he would ask, he is depressed/angry/irritable/discontent (add whatever emotion here) and wants to take it out on you. He's using you as an emotional punching bag. He won't ever be able to find a women to meet his needs because he can't even express what those are and really it isn't about that. Unfortunately all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/26 02:28 PM |
| 15 | My past is actually dictating my future and I need to stop itThe Monk Mode comment made me think it was also a RP man considering "he" knows that term but not Nun Mode. I also don't think most women would call it the CC, they may say they were going from man to man but who knows.... | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/26 02:17 PM |
| 16 | My past is actually dictating my future and I need to stop itCock Carousel - a crude RP men's term for women who are sleeping with many men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/26 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Exclusive with a man, but…I think 5 dates to exclusivity is the right timing for me personally. My comment was more aimed at the commenter who I think expected far too much in only 5 dates. Asking a guy if he sees the future with you on the 5th date seems intense to me personally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/26 01:29 PM |
| 4 | hard for me to want to be in a relationship while knowing the true nature of menWell stop reading that crap, start dating in the real world, and focus on self improvement efforts that aren’t about your looks but are mental/emotional/spiritual in nature. Volunteer. Do things good for the soul and you’ll see the bigger picture in life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 11:36 PM |
| 5 | hard for me to want to be in a relationship while knowing the true nature of menExactly why we tell women to stay away from men spaces. You damaged your own thinking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 11:04 PM |
| 4 | Exclusive with a man, but…They’ve only been on 5 dates… there’s only so much vetting you can reasonably do in that amount of time, as well as only so much commitment to a future you can realistically expect in 5 dates… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 10:49 PM |
| 11 | hard for me to want to be in a relationship while knowing the true nature of menOk so I just told you what to focus on then. Acceptance. Maturity. Tough choices. Realism. I am more than JUST how hot I am to my husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 10:21 PM |
| 9 | hard for me to want to be in a relationship while knowing the true nature of menNo, men are not ONLY attracted to young women. If there were, cougars wouldn’t be a common fantasy. Men are, on the whole, more attracted to young women. That doesn’t mean EVERY young woman is hotter to a man than every older woman. How much have you read the wiki here, not the men’s? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 10:16 PM |
| 15 | hard for me to want to be in a relationship while knowing the true nature of menWell are you ok with being single forever then? Life is a series of choices and most times neither are perfect. You pick the one that is “better.” For me, being in a relationship with a flawed human (being a flawed human myself) is better than being single, even with its challenges. You learn to focus on yourself and not obsess over what your partner is thinking. Because it is truly obsessive to be constantly focused on how hot your partner thinks you are for your whole lifetime. Life is full of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Exclusive with a man, but…Well any girl you marry you will know less than your parents. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 10:07 PM |
| 12 | Where to start?What skill is the hardest? Most women should start IMO with the self focus and STFU. Focus on your own happiness and disconnect to an extent from engaging in fights and worrying about him. It starts here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Found evidence of my husband cheating (?) with another woman a few years ago. Need some help on how to proceed from here.Why does it sound like your goal is to leave? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 10:00 PM |
| 3 | Found evidence of my husband cheating (?) with another woman a few years ago. Need some help on how to proceed from here.I would agree. You aren’t trying to “win.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Found evidence of my husband cheating (?) with another woman a few years ago. Need some help on how to proceed from here.No where did I say it’s an unconscious choice. But I get the point you are making here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 08:56 PM |
| 6 | Found evidence of my husband cheating (?) with another woman a few years ago. Need some help on how to proceed from here.She can’t search for evidence on his phone until he’s home though. The snapping part was the piece I think is poor advice. Snapping is not good for us even if it feels good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 08:54 PM |
| 12 | My past is actually dictating my future and I need to stop itI understand this but it’s about maturity. Marriage isn’t about sex, there’s so many things that are more important and I say this as a highly sexual woman. So to some degree, yes you have to settle. There’s sex god on one end of the spectrum and bad in bed on the other. Go for the middle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 07:10 PM |
| 6 | Found evidence of my husband cheating (?) with another woman a few years ago. Need some help on how to proceed from here.Why do you think this advice is beneficial to her? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Found evidence of my husband cheating (?) with another woman a few years ago. Need some help on how to proceed from here.I’ve had this conversation with my husband too. I’m like you don’t get to relieve your guilt by putting the burden on me of your fuck up. He’s very black-and-white so he was like so how is that not the same as giving me permission? And I said I’m not giving you permission to do it, do you want to be monogamous with me and he says yes. So I said OK so we are agreeing to monogamy. What I am saying is if you screw up, you should live with the guilt rather than put that on me. I’m not saying you can… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 05:44 PM |
| 17 | Found evidence of my husband cheating (?) with another woman a few years ago. Need some help on how to proceed from here.So here is what I would do in your case: I would look into his phone to see what you can find. If it’s clean and just this one past incident, i’d take time and speak as calmly as possible to him about it. He needs to know that you know, and he needs to explain himself. He needs to know that your trust has been damaged and come up with a plan for how he can repair that. If you find in his phone that other things are going on currently, then that’s an entirely different case and you have to decide… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Exclusive with a man, but…Yeah there are certain guys like my husband that just did not want to marry into their own culture, arranged or not. That being said, then they have to get the balls to go against their parents if they want to get married at all. Or they stay unmarried and just screw around, I’m sorry to say you have the latter case. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Exclusive with a man, but…I don’t agree that’s the case, but if we go with your premise that it is, in this specific case, it’s pretty clear his parents are not going to accept. I suppose if she’s willing to convert, she could give it a try, but I would not get very far along without meeting the parents because it’s most likely not going to work. I think this specifically because of his statement that his parents have the final say. This tells me he’s giving them too much power. I’m speaking from experience here as a whi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Exclusive with a man, but…Yeah see that’s a bit different as they are all still Muslim though. Very different than an Arab Muslim man and white non-Muslim woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 05:11 PM |
| 1 | When You Speak is Not When He HearsThis is such a great write up Ark!! It’s such a challenge to stay composed in heated moments (I’m heading home from a Yellowstone vacation with my husband where we navigated the logistics so well but got a rough heated start when we were running late for our flight so I had much practice in keeping cool this weekend!). Some things I try to do: Silence can say more than words. Not silent treatment games but walking away rather than exploding, or in my case on a plane, putting in my podcasts or me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Exclusive with a man, but…Cheers to the 1% over here 😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Exclusive with a man, but…What ethnicity and religion were the woman? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Exclusive with a man, but…Well he’s 40, his parents have told him it’s time for marry for probably 15 years now and he hasn’t listened. So this guy is unlikely to marry anyone at this point. He’s already gone against his parents in not marrying at the proper age for his culture (late 20s, latest early 30s), he for sure won’t go against them now for her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Exclusive with a man, but…As a white woman married to a Bengali man, you have to understand a few things (ps. I converted to Islam): Many men won’t go against the parents preferences which are always someone from their country and by default, Muslim. My husband went against his parents, marrying a white Christian woman in his first marriage so that made them more able to accept me (they fought his whole first one). They love me because I converted and I think feel they know he’s going white so at least he got a Muslim (i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 03:43 PM |
| 8 | Where to start?Have you read and implemented surrendered wife? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/26 03:36 PM |
| 5 | one sided open relationshipYou could try it but I’m 99% sure you’d be miserable. These things may feel ok in theory but in practice, every night you are lonely and don’t hear from him, your mind will go imagining where he is and you’ll drive yourself crazy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/26 07:21 PM |
| 5 | When he doesn't pay for the first (coffee) date?I get it, all of it. I admit it’s weird but the cut him off people here and getting a little extreme if you liked him otherwise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/26 03:57 AM |
| 3 | at times it doesn’t feel worth it to partner with men because of their natureWe call these “wife goggles” 😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/26 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Should I give up?Yeah the live with the family made me wonder too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/26 11:34 PM |
| 5 | When he doesn't pay for the first (coffee) date?I think your reaction confused him. When he offered to pay, you should have just said “aw thanks!” We talk about graciously accepting here and he offered so help the guy out and say yes. I kinda feel you set him up for failure a bit by your response and not just accepting, especially if that’s really important to you which it is. Also on another note, if you hadn’t met him before, bad idea to share a car anywhere. I’d always recommend going on your own first. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/26 11:23 PM |
| 7 | My fiance watches red pill content and it makes me sadThis is it. Guys that obsess like this aways think they deserve “better” (by which they mean hotter) than their current partner. It’s 100% sour grapes but the truth is they would never be satisfied with any girl, they always want better and better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/26 01:32 PM |
| 8 | Why do you date/marry men older than you?I was into older men…. until I myself got older. In my mid 30s, it somehow flipped. My husband is 7 years younger and it’s fine. People can like whatever they like, dating younger isn’t the disaster people make it out to be and dating older isn’t the magic answer people think it is. Honestly, with age, just date who you like and that’s it. Know the risks of going older or younger yes but don’t select based on age. Select who is a good fit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/26 12:00 PM |
| 5 | Are women meant to be alone in the end after all?It's not, and that isn't really the point for them. They are focused on their own goals and happiness. Which is their right to do, it's fine. But it's why I have no idea why women get so hung up on what RP men specifically think and take it SO seriously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/26 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Are women meant to be alone in the end after all?Is this what you believe, what you are saying RP men believe, or what all men believe? Because those are big differences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/26 02:56 PM |
| 2 | He became distant after a car accident and increased intimacy. Have I done enough, or should I keep reaching out?A lot of times as women, we spend all this time looking for the REASON something happened. But really the reason doesn't change your approach. Even if it is the accident, there is nothing you can do about it. I would say it was worth it to put extra effort in right after but it's been a while now and you have dated him for a short time. You've done what you can. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/26 12:45 PM |
| 15 | Are women meant to be alone in the end after all?Why are you listening to Red Pill men? They are pushing their own agenda, which is fine but it's not what is best for US. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/26 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Petty ArgumentsWhat do you think you could do differently in this scenario? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/26 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Petty ArgumentsHow long was the silent treatment from him before you made the comment about him not making it about himself? Because my husband also uses a silent treatment, but it happens for days. I guess I don’t consider taking space for an hour or two or something like that really the silent treatment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/26 01:06 AM |
| 5 | Petty ArgumentsSo here is where I think the trajectory of this conversation could’ve gone differently. He says “you did a good job, but it’s still not what he wanted.” You then just say “ok” and leave it there. Do something else. Instead you turned this into a fight by saying don’t make his first day of school a bad day. This was a good place to just STFU. Same as when he says he wants the kid to have his dreadlocks, just say “OK” and then don’t do it. Don’t argue with him about it, and don’t commit that you w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/26 11:39 PM |
| 6 | Feminism and Independence but only if you are smart and able bodiedThis is an interesting take because we hear the men say all the time that they don’t care about a woman’s career, it is irrelevant. Which I strongly disagree with, and it seems like you do as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/26 11:30 PM |
| 5 | He’s on the path to be a multi millionaire but I found him boringOK, how do you know this business idea is actually going to work out? People have ideas all the time that fail. My point is not to say he’s going to fail but that if you’re not even interested in him or attracted to him for anything but his money, and he doesn’t even have that yet, then it seems like you’re putting your eggs in a risky basket. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/26 11:23 PM |
| 3 | He became distant after a car accident and increased intimacy. Have I done enough, or should I keep reaching out?You've done you part to be supportive and understanding, now it's time to stop initiating and let things go where they may. There are a lot of factors here but also... 3 months is a time when many new dating scenarios fail to progress. It's make or break, the 3 - 6 month range, you get more serious or things end. Maybe it has nothing to do with the accident and more to do with him contemplating if he wants this to become serious or not. Either way, remind yourself you can't control the outcome. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/26 03:42 PM |
| 16 | He’s on the path to be a multi millionaire but I found him boringDid he tell you this about himself? Just wondering how this came up. And no, attraction can’t be negotiated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/26 03:12 AM |
| 5 | Was he only looking for sex?I’m glad you didn’t take my comments poorly. They are given with love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/26 01:41 AM |
| 3 | Was he only looking for sex?Yes you can change it. You can not sleep with a guy on a first date who hasn’t committed to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/26 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Was he only looking for sex?I was going to say this but decided my other comment already went hard. I’m glad you did. Again victim mentality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/26 09:43 PM |
| 5 | Was he only looking for sex?If we don’t look out for ourselves, no one else will. It doesn’t help to see ourselves constantly as victims either, this leads to depression. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/26 07:04 PM |
| 5 | I don’t see the relationship I’m in being marriage materialYeah something in this story doesn't add up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/26 04:21 PM |
| 33 | Was he only looking for sex?I don’t mean to be rude but play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Head to the sidebar and start reading. You never should’ve had sex with this guy, honestly what were you thinking? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/26 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on 5”7-5”9 menPosts like this are what give women a bad name. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/26 04:13 PM |
| 4 | The guy (M32) I (F25) have been seeing has started wanting to see me at night only and keeping things surface level. I’m thinking of calling it off. Am I overreacting?If he works until 10 every day as you say, there’s no chance of the early dates you are looking for. He simply doesn’t have room/time in his life for a relationship. Thats what it boils down to. Nothing you do will make a difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/26 04:11 PM |
| 10 | Thoughts on 5”7-5”9 menI’m sorry but what?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/26 03:46 PM |
| 4 | The guy (M32) I (F25) have been seeing has started wanting to see me at night only and keeping things surface level. I’m thinking of calling it off. Am I overreacting?Start just not even responding to say you have plans. Silence and space/time are such powerful tools. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/26 10:08 PM |
| 19 | The guy (M32) I (F25) have been seeing has started wanting to see me at night only and keeping things surface level. I’m thinking of calling it off. Am I overreacting?This is exactly it! OP made the wrong moves here. She should have absolutely not even picked up the phone or texted him back. Wait until the next morning and say oh I just saw this sorry I was asleep. He will get the message really fast! OP, boundaries are put in place by your actions, not your words. Don’t beg to be treated a certain way. That doesn’t work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/26 03:46 PM |
| 1 | How do you become more desirable again in a long-term relationship?You are really jumping to conclusions here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/26 05:17 PM |
| 4 | How do you become more desirable again in a long-term relationship?If the rest of the relationship is ok then I would say this seems like a normal change out of the honeymoon stage, especially if you are living together and sex is still happening regularly. I share the concerns of others on the age gap but you didn't ask about that so just focusing on the question you did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/26 02:28 PM |
| 2 | How do you become more desirable again in a long-term relationship?Is he engaged with you otherwise - like going on dates, talking to you, laughing and joking around, etc? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/26 02:21 PM |
| 2 | How do you become more desirable again in a long-term relationship?To address your actual question: this sounds normal to me in terms of a drop off after 1 year. It won't be like in the beginning. How often are you having sex and is he still initiating? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/26 02:15 PM |
| 9 | All I wanted was to be a wife but now idk what to doSo what does he have to say about the affair? Because this is most likely not the first time he’s done this, it’s just the one you found out about. What actionable steps has he taken to actually improve himself so this doesn’t happen again? Edit: I just realized you haven’t actually told him yet? What exactly are you waiting on? No one should be a doormat; being a doormat results in you being treated like a doormat. Will you be OK if he gets another woman pregnant? This is only going to escalate… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/26 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Update : Bf asked for a 3-5 day breakIt may be that he’s freaking out things are getting more serious. If you improve and his commitment doesn’t then you will have you answer that it wasn’t about the nagging after all but fear of commitment. But all you can do is control what you can in yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/26 10:08 PM |
| 3 | Update : Bf asked for a 3-5 day breakI wish you luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/26 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Update : Bf asked for a 3-5 day breakPeople get married without living together first all the time, including myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/26 04:57 PM |
| 5 | Update : Bf asked for a 3-5 day breakThis may hurt to hear but he did not “make you go through this,” this sounds like it was the natural result of years of nagging. This is why you have to take accountability for the consequences of your actions. So you need to start talking to yourself differently and not make yourself the victim. Could he have maybe done things differently? Sure, we always could, but if he had, he probably would have just broken up with you and went no contact and you wouldn’t even be back together. The fact tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/26 04:56 PM |
| 8 | Update : Bf asked for a 3-5 day breakThere’s a lot of random timelines in the story - first it was five days, then it was 10 days, then it was three days… it makes me feel like your relationship is very formal? This is a sign to me that he feels a ton of pressure to make a bunch of decisions immediately rather than both of you giving things time to resolve naturally. Regardless, you got a second chance, now you have to make the changes immediately. I don’t want to scare you but in this sensitive stage, one wrong move could lead to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/26 04:50 PM |
| 5 | Am I just going to have to put up with my husband flirting with other women?This is a sex/love addiction. Please do some research for yourself and name it for what it is. Regardless of if there is physicality, there is a pattern of behavior and it won't change unless he really sees it as a problem and decides to change. And even then, it's a long road and he'll always be an addict. They never change to just become normal. You will spend the rest of your life worrying about this if you stay. You are only 23, if you don't try to start over you will regret it when you ente… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/26 04:54 PM |
| 2 | How can I still be feminine while dealing with anger over injustice?I have a lot of anger. It doesn't come out very often and in fact people at work on my team tell me I am the calming energy of the group. I have learned to manage it well. How? I do a TON of self care. Like a lot. Prayer, yoga, meditation, reading, nature walks, just sitting out on the poarch with a book. I try to keep my life as zen as possible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/26 03:39 PM |
| 10 | He says no future but still wants physical access. Did I lose my power and am I right to walk away ?From a man's POV, many would argue that sexual access is a form of leverage, and that the more sexual access a man receives without commitment, the less incentive he has to commit afterward. I'm worried that I may have gave up my bargaining power a bit early. This isn't a situation like if you waited on sex, he may have committed to you. This is guy who is young, relocating, and doesn't want a relationship right now. That is all. There is not a way to win them all over, either by withholding sex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/26 03:31 PM |
| 1 | RPW maintenance - how do you keep the knowledge fresh?Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/26 05:15 PM |
| 3 | When Your Husband Doesn't Initiate Sex Anymore (And You Feel Stupid For Trying): How To Find The SolutionNo RPW is not for “unpleasant relationships.” Are you a man or an AI? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/26 06:38 PM |
| 2 | When Your Husband Doesn't Initiate Sex Anymore (And You Feel Stupid For Trying): How To Find The SolutionSo every man may be different. What works for me is the independence tactic though my guy is and has always been the initiator. The more I do my own thing, the more he’s drawn to me. I do passive acts like making sure I look good and sometimes wearing cute sleep wear but overtly trying to initiate, get very sexual doesn’t work for me. I have been trying to objectify him more in a good way outside of sexual situations and he likes it. Things like a slap on the ass when he’s wearing workout shorts… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/26 06:10 PM |
| 8 | AITAH for having a baby my ex-bf doesn’t want…at all.Multiple = the one you had before and the current one | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/26 12:15 AM |
| 6 | I (28F) are at loss as to how to help my boyfriend (28M) that has fallen to the recent redpill content craze. How do i pull him out of it?So many men just enjoy arguing for arguing sake, and I have to protect my peace, I can’t do it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/26 07:06 PM |
| 8 | I (28F) are at loss as to how to help my boyfriend (28M) that has fallen to the recent redpill content craze. How do i pull him out of it?Is not just single men who embrace RP. Many coupled men do for various reasons, to cope with uncomfortable feelings, vulnerability or the conflict that comes with being in a relationship. There’s a married RP page for married men looking to manage their relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/26 06:04 PM |
| 16 | I (28F) are at loss as to how to help my boyfriend (28M) that has fallen to the recent redpill content craze. How do i pull him out of it?I think the best move here is to grey rock him on this topic (look it up). Essentially don't engage with him about it, don't argue with him, just give short one-word answers (like "ok") and almost ignore him - go to another room, busy yourself with cleaning or some other task so he can rant to you all he wants but you are really only half listening and not reacting. The more you engage with him, the more you are adding fuel to the fire. To make a fire go out, quit adding fuel. Men who find RP go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/26 05:15 PM |
| 5 | what is a hypergamous foid?Correction to say yes, female hypergamy is completely natural and evolutionarily yes it is a good thing for the species… but individually for many women it is not a good thing and leaves many women single. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/26 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)Yes they love to screw around with you, but not marry you. Big difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/26 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Curious about male attraction in modest culturesThis is answered above. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/26 04:26 PM |
| 4 | RPW maintenance - how do you keep the knowledge fresh?Haha yes I have, looking forward to it. /s | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/26 01:17 PM |
| 5 | RPW maintenance - how do you keep the knowledge fresh?I’ve seen some interesting studies on menopause and how many women lose their submissive and supportive nature with the loss of estrogen. The science behind it is fascinating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/26 03:51 AM |
| 2 | Are there ny marriage material men on tinderWell it depends on your religion… I have no experience with Christian sites if that’s what you are looking for, but maybe someone else could chime in. Muslims mainly use Muzz or Salams and Indians have Shaadi or Dil Mil. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 09:52 PM |
| 7 | Are there ny marriage material men on tinderBumble and hinge. And perhaps religious sites if you are religious. Only date people who say they want a long term relationship as their flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 05:06 PM |
| 3 | My (24F) bf (29M) asked to take a 3-5 day breakGood luck, it’s a great journey you are starting and if you commit to it, I have no doubt your relationship can recover. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 05:01 PM |
| 3 | My (24F) bf (29M) asked to take a 3-5 day breakRead the book and follow it. It seems you are new to these concepts - there is no shortcut. You have to learn a new way of being as a partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 05:00 PM |
| 4 | My (24F) bf (29M) asked to take a 3-5 day breakWhy does it matter to you if he was with this colleague? Why do you think it is your place to tell him if he is spending "too much time" with this guy? Why do you feel it is your place to "let him" do anything? He is an adult, he can do what he wants... This is the root of the issue. You can't control him. Please read the book or listen to the podcast. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 04:26 PM |
| 12 | Are there ny marriage material men on tinderMany of us here have gotten married from online dating (though not tinder, I'd go for more serious minded apps), but it is not easy. You have to have a solid strategy and thick skin. And being introverted and shy will still be a challenge as you have to meet them in person some time. If you can't make friends in real life, you will face whatever struggles you have when you meet someone in person. So focus on improving your social skills overall. Online dating is in no way a solution to the probl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 04:22 PM |
| 12 | RPW maintenance - how do you keep the knowledge fresh?For me, there are a few things I do that help me maintain my serenity and self care which are the core of me being able to be the kind of wife I want to be. Most of them are rooted in my religion, spiritual practice, and self development pursuits. My week after work is booked with various community groups/classes/activities so I am fairly busy. The days I don't have my groups, I try to get in some physical activity or work on a project around the house. I keep busy, I focus on my own schedule, I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 04:17 PM |
| 11 | My (24F) bf (29M) asked to take a 3-5 day breakI agree OP, if the arguments are you micromanging who he is with, where he is, that he isn't texting fast enough, you need this book. You need to back WAY off of him and give him more freedom. To be blunt, a man is not going to marry when this is the situation because he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life like this. Yes it's rude if he is 2 hours late. I am not saying your beefs aren't legit. But fighting him over it all is only going to make him withdraw more and eventually leave all to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 04:10 PM |
| 3 | My (24F) bf (29M) asked to take a 3-5 day breakYou left out what specifically happened in this most recent argument. What was it about, what was said? Be introspective and honest on what parts you may have done wrong? This will help us guide you. Right now we are missing the context. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)What? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/26 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Giving up on finding a husband as I approach 30This is a bad tactic. To men, it’s reads “I’m ok if you date/fuck me occasionally. I require nothing of you. Because I don’t believe I’m worth it.” Men want to work to earn a woman. Working to earn something means it’s hard to get = high quality. Something they have to give little effort for is easy to get, anyone can = low quality. I don’t mean unnecessarily hard/game playing, I mean you have standards for the relationship and hold him to them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 08:49 PM |
| 11 | 34F dating 39MCan I ask what cultures you both are in? Does this have any impact on the pace of dating? Because that can vary a lot culturally. For what it's worth, I got married after only 9 months. I am not saying this it the best route for most, it isn't and it has it's challenges, but I personally believe at 30+, quick courtships are a green flag, not a red one, if there aren't other red flags to go along with the quickness. Just be smart and protect yourself and your child legally, don't go into it dumb … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 03:42 PM |
| 9 | Giving up on finding a husband as I approach 30I don’t agree this is true, old men like everybody lol. The women who are dating them are just the ones who happened to say yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Giving up on finding a husband as I approach 30I don’t actually think this is true, my husband owns his own law firm and is 36, he married me who is 42. The idea that any guy in his 30s who has wealth is just looking for the youngest hottest chick is definitely not the truth. They want the best woman, the most well-rounded woman, and age is a factor, but there’s a lot of other things that are factors too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 03:36 PM |
| 27 | 34F dating 39MSo you don't say what your issues are with this guy other than his face is not that attractive. Are there any red flags? You say you "may not be able to expect to do any better" - what sort of better are you looking for? Is it just hotter you want? Because he is 39 and wants kids - it is understandable he'd be eager to settle down so this makes sense to me. I don't see this as a red flag in any way. He is willing to take care of your 6 year old, allow you to have more kids, be a SAHM and treats … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 02:56 PM |
| 4 | Giving up on finding a husband as I approach 30But then men you are dating 15 years older are ending up being just this. So... you have proven to yourself your bias is just that. At 30, I am not saying you should go much younger, maybe you could do 28 or so, but age does not at all equal maturity. In fact, older guys who haven't been married (red flag) or have a string of messy marriages and kids behind them could be in worse shape than a younger guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 02:49 PM |
| 11 | Giving up on finding a husband as I approach 30I consistently attract men who are way older than me, 13-15 years older. Sometimes even 20-30 years older but I don't really entertain gaps that wide. So maybe I still need to do more work on that. Again, you don't "attract" these men, you chose them. I am sure you attract men of all ages, but you chose to date the old ones. That is on you. (I say this kindly, but how we word things to ourselves matters. So stop telling yourself you only attract these kind of men and realize that's not true, you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 02:45 PM |
| 7 | Giving up on finding a husband as I approach 30Yet, without fail, the only men I seem to attract are emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, and evasive. No, the men you CHOOSE have these qualities. He is - literally - a multimillionaire, incredibly successful, and on paper, you would think he had his life entirely together. I genuinely thought okay this is someone mature, established and ready for something real. Jump to the next line where you say you chose a multimillionaire - this tells me you are prioritizing on paper success and money r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 02:41 PM |
| 4 | How can I be more feminineHow old are you two? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/26 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)I figured!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/26 10:07 PM |
| 6 | Talking with a guy onlineEveryone should be dating locally only. I get so sad seeing young women waste their value and fleeting youth on guys who want nothing more than to pass the time chatting and nothing more. The whole reason you think it might work is because you actually don’t know this person, it’s a fantasy only. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/26 06:38 PM |
| 3 | Talking with a guy onlineSo what are you hoping to get out of this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/26 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Talking with a guy onlineAnd is he local to you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/26 06:11 PM |
| – | Vetting is tough 😩, what do you use to make it easier ? Any tips and tricks welcomeYou don’t do all your vetting before agreeing for a date. You do enough, you have a low stakes date in person, and you vet while dating in person over a period of weeks/months. You will have dates in person that are a flop, that’s just part of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/26 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Talking with a guy onlineHow old are you? And is this some guy from Reddit? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/26 06:03 PM |
| 6 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)I like that edit, “better” could give the wrong impression, “excel” makes sense. But I admit, something about the harshness of the word “better” did kind of slap me across the face in a good way that I needed when I first read it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/26 03:31 PM |
| 6 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)No one is talking about calling someone bad. Your obsession with these terms is very weird and not what we are talking about here at all. You are either trolling or just not able to read and understand nuance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/26 03:26 PM |
| 2 | How much does being 30+ matter to guys?Just date men in your age range and you’re good. Even if a guy wants a younger woman, most can’t get that. Most guys want a woman their age or at most a handful of years younger, not much more. That being said, I married a younger man so you never know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/26 03:21 PM |
| 6 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)I didn’t say make them feel bad? I don’t know where you’re coming up with this stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/26 03:35 AM |
| 4 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)I didn’t say “act” morally superior to them, I said “be” morally superior to them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/26 03:32 AM |
| 5 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)Yes this is a really good summary. We both need to be better in certain ways, at certain things. This is how we can build a good team! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/26 05:31 PM |
| 7 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)Yes this is very much what I also thought we should do at first. The damsel in distress, the vulnerable woman who needs a big man to help her sort of thing. And I think this can work for some men and in some situations. I know some men who love to help their women fix things in the house or on their car (not my husband lol) and this helps them feel masculine. And most men don't necessarily want a woman who makes more money than him as another example. But my take away when I read this book (the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/26 05:29 PM |
| 7 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)I was thinking the same, both genders kinda agree the other wants more than they deserve or give. It always feels unfair from the other side! I don’t know though, this was a revelation to me when I read it the first time. Kind of like if I am better, he will strive to be better sort of thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/26 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)You don't HAVE to do any of this. You really don't. You can just spend your life single, no one is forcing anyone to do anything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/26 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)Ok “shabby jerking.” Something tells me your comments here may not be relevant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/26 07:19 PM |
| 20 | Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”)It all comes back to their mothers (Freud is calling), I am convinced! I just think because men are more slaves to their base instincts than we are (likely due to testosterone and of course social conditioning), it is so gross to them when women do the same because it reminds them of men and they don't want us to be like men, they want to believe there is a better way, a better life, and that better life is us. I really struggled with this concept and still do. It makes me resentful sometimes, l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/26 06:54 PM |
| 5 | He didn’t offer to take me home after date, I feel disappointed but don’t know if I’m being too pickyOP needs to listen to this part of advice. These comments are ridiculous. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/26 03:06 PM |
| 10 | Men Care Way Too Much About Female ValidationThis is why people married in the past. Most men can’t get casual non committed sex, it isn’t how society is intended to operate and isn’t healthy for people which is why people married and had families young. People acting like casual sex is normal and the goal is what the problem is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/26 04:14 PM |
| – | What do you think about men who practice visual restraint/modesty?I don’t think it does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/26 04:09 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about men who practice visual restraint/modesty?We are both. Most Muslims would consider us moderate/lenient, I dress western and don’t covet except for mosque, but we do our best to follow what we should. I’m more into it than my husband right now but these things eb and flow as with all things in life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/26 06:11 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about men who practice visual restraint/modesty?Ah you’re a single man who dates older women so it’s a sure thing that they will put out. Got it. Not sure why you are here. And yeah, I’m in a cult. I’m going to the spa today after my morning workout and then I’m going to come home and cook a nice meal for an upcoming religious holiday for my husband and me. We’ll watch tv and have great sex and cuddle ourselves to sleep. Sounds like a real horrible cultish life. /s | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/26 06:08 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about men who practice visual restraint/modesty?I married a Muslim man but it was not a requirement from him that I converted. In fact sometimes these days, I think he might’ve been more happy if I didn’t! It’s something I wanted to do because of my belief, something I had considered doing for almost a decade before, and something I knew would really help with his family. I also wanted to have shared traditions, holidays and celebrations with my husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/26 05:54 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about men who practice visual restraint/modesty?Oh it’s not uncommon. I go to a class at my mosque where there’s maybe 30 of us. 1 in 5 muslims in the US is a convert. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/26 05:28 PM |
| – | Leaving a woman is not trying to control a womanIt’s exactly these type of guys who give actual red pill men bad names. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/26 05:02 PM |
| 0 | What do you think about men who practice visual restraint/modesty?I see, then I would go back to the point wife and mama made - I think you know what sort of reaction you would expect to get on a sub like this from women who prefer more conservative or traditional relationships, of course they are going to admire men like this. I would really love to know your personal situation and what you are looking for in your life relationship wise and what you were trying to get out of this question. We may be able to help you, but we can’t unless you are transparent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/26 04:58 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about men who practice visual restraint/modesty?Yes, did you have a question about that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/26 04:56 PM |
| 7 | What do you think about men who practice visual restraint/modesty?See this is where I think you are assuming wrong. Just because Muslim men are not lustfully looking at women out in public does not mean they don’t care about looks in their wife. They care about attractiveness in their spouse as much as anyone else because they are going to have sex with her and look at her all day long in the home. Yes of course they care about other qualities like religiosity too but don’t take this to mean looks don’t matter for them and they will just marry someone based on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/26 03:55 PM |
| 0 | What do you think about men who practice visual restraint/modesty?As a modern Muslim convert, I think this conversation is kind of pointless without talking about the actual religion. Specifically, what religion are you? Because the whole point of doing all of this is for Allah, not for any other reason. What people think about men who do this or not is kind of irrelevant. It’s not a dating strategy or anything like that, it’s for God. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/26 03:48 PM |
| 9 | Dating a Great Guy but Feeling Less Attracted the More I Get to Know HimBingo. Seriously, it shouldn’t have gone past the first date or two when she found out he was unemployed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/26 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Leaving a woman is not trying to control a womanI mean, you say leave their wives over it, but why are you marrying someone when you know these things? Pretty sure for example you know what sex she did with her ex before you marry her. I swear people have no morals today, marrying and divorcing like it’s nothing. And I mean both genders here. Leaving her girlfriend is one thing, leaving a wife is an entirely different thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/26 05:05 PM |
| 8 | I date multiple suitors simultaneouslyAre you looking for a long term committed relationship? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/26 02:58 PM |
| 13 | How do you know if something is traditional or mysoginistic toxic?So why are you talking to him?? It’s common sense if they are name calling women that’s a red flag. Traditional men aren’t telling a new woman they are interested in dating all other woman are whores. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/26 12:46 AM |
| 14 | What would happen If science someday proved or suggested that housewives were healthier and lived longer than women who go to work and are finantially independent?Why is living longer the goal always? Honestly who cares if you live to 85 vs 95? Those last years are miserable anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/26 12:41 AM |
| – | Women have very little to gain from heterosexual sex & relationships and men don't careMy husband sees me as a good friend, the best actually, and got into marriage for companionship. I don’t think that’s at all rare. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Advice please?Are you the same poster who has posted this question many times on different accounts and then deleted it? Because if so, we’ve given you a lot of advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/26 05:04 PM |
| 4 | Sex is a reward (and men know it)The problem is that there are plenty of men who don’t want sex with their partners, they prefer porn or infidelity. We see SO many women wanting more or better sex than they are getting. So this may be true for a single or newly dating man, but in long-term relationships, withdrawing sex can lead to some of them saying I don’t care I don’t need it anyway (from you). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Orgasm gap is not caused by men, its caused by women because they don’t close the gap of effort gapThat’s unfortunate!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Single and Happy? Are they?That’s a fair point, I was in and out of early relationships. I think Relationships are hard and makes sense to wonder if other people found some different, better route to happiness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/26 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Single and Happy? Are they?I say in my post I’m asking specifically because I was single and alone for 20 years so it’s surprising to me given it wasn’t my experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/26 11:04 PM |
| 10 | Musings on happinessThis is a really good reminder about something that is so very hard. I’ve been talking to my husband a lot about living a meaningful life in a similar way. He’s struggling with “happiness” as he ages, wondering what the purpose of life is and how he can’t “be happy” and I keep asking him if happiness is the goal. It definitely feels like it should be the goal, and none of us want to be miserable, but chasing happy is bound to fail because no one is really happy for any sustainable amount of time… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/26 10:37 PM |
| 2 | I struggle to express curiosity even when I genuinely feel itThere is no real easy answer, you fake it when you don’t feel like it and it does take a lot of effort (at least for you that is the case and many other others). You can find someone who doesn’t want to talk a lot, that’s one option. Or maybe you find someone who prefers to do more activities together rather than talking dates. But in general, you have to ask lots of questions, share and be vulnerable about yourself, and put in effort to make a connection. There’s no short cut. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/26 10:31 PM |
| 8 | Excited to be hereWe get you 🤗 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/26 05:50 PM |
| – | "Women are people too. Just treat them like they are human". Is such anoverblown, and hella misleading advice for menI agree with this post and I think the majority of dating advice out there in the world is bad. It’s truly just that simple. This is why in our space, we recommend women give advice to women and men give advice to men. Although it seems on the face of it it would be a good idea to get advice from the opposite gender, they generally cannot relate in the majority of their advice is crap because it’s based on their own gender experience, which is not going to be your own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 05:33 PM |
| 23 | Excited to be hereI am liberal but also agree the political correctness stuff has gotten out of control. It’s mostly just about virtue signaling and it’s exhausting. Our space is a safe haven for people who want to have realistic and nuanced conversations. If you follow the advice of other subs, you will either never be in a relationship or skip from relationship to relationship because you will leave the first time someone offends you (and this will happen in every relationship because people are human and falli… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/26 03:41 PM |
| 21 | Orgasm gap is not caused by men, its caused by women because they don’t close the gap of effort gapI’m pretty confident this guy has never had sex or maybe had sex with one person. They clearly have no clue what’s going on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 03:34 PM |
| 17 | Orgasm gap is not caused by men, its caused by women because they don’t close the gap of effort gapSo when my husband and I have sex, we make out, I jerk him off, I blow him, and then I get on top of him and he cums. How exactly is he doing 80 to 90% of the work? this is most women’s experience. Maybe some guys are more likely to do missionary instead. However, this is the most ridiculous take. I’ve probably ever seen on here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Boundaries around textingHave you just asked him “hey when are we meeting to next?” I wouldn’t recommend this on a first or second date but if you are longer in, don’t leave it up to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Help with anger in submission!This was kind of my thought, sometimes rage is unhealthy but other times it’s assigned to us telling us in our body that something is wrong. It’s important to know the difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:53 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop being the red flag in my relationship?I want to learn how to do my own yardwork but I’m too scared to learn. This motivates me to think I can do it! My yard is really not that large. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:46 PM |
| 5 | How do I stop being the red flag in my relationship?That’s all we can do! I think it was Michael J Fox who I heard recently say that worrying about a thing is just experiencing the pain of that thing twice and that really made sense to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:44 PM |
| 1 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?Ok I’m glad that works well for you. To each their own :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:42 PM |
| 5 | How do you feel more confident/feminine?I see! In that case, maybe more flowy clothes will help hide any clunky movements. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:40 PM |
| 7 | How do I stop being the red flag in my relationship?You can’t worry about things that might happen. Don’t lie to him about your past but you also don’t need to dump your history on him. Trust yourself that should this topic come up, you can calmly explain yourself to him at that time. We can’t control everything about how life unfolds and worrying about something you can’t control is just causing you more pain. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:38 PM |
| 4 | How do I stop being the red flag in my relationship?For real, I burn so many calories cleaning and doing home projects. And I track them! It’s more fun than working out to me, I get a clean/better home, and I look like a superstar wife. Win win win! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:36 PM |
| 8 | How do I stop being the red flag in my relationship?I see! These are pretty normal things to have to figure out when you are young. But it’s not easy, it takes a lot of work. Different things work for different people - therapy, religion, 12 step groups, fitness classes, self help books, medical care, etc. You have to figure out first what is the root of causing you to not be able to control your urges. Is it addiction, coping mechanisms you learned as a child, some medical thing, etc? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:34 PM |
| 21 | How do you feel more confident/feminine?I’m not sure of your size but if you are larger, losing weight helps a lot with this. It’s very difficult to be feminine and delicate when carrying extra weight. Otherwise, things like dance classes/ballet and yoga may help. Also wearing heels forces you to walk more feminine. I personally don’t wear them anymore but did in my younger years and that’s how I learned to move. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:27 PM |
| 26 | How do I stop being the red flag in my relationship?What is stopping you from improving in your executive functioning/day to day life? What do you see as the reason that you can’t be a little more active, lose a little more weight, clean your home, manage your money, etc? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Boundaries around textingHow often are you getting together in person? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 03:32 PM |
| 3 | Boundaries around textingFor me, if this is someone I met online then I would allow about a week for back-and-forth texting. Even I found to be long though and most guys would ask about a date in the first 3-4 days. If he wasn’t asking after a week, I would end things. If this is after we have already gone out on a date, and he continues to text without planning next dates, again in the beginning stages I would give it a week in between. Anything more than a week of just texting is someone who’s not serious about buildi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 03:31 PM |
| 0 | Tired of my boyfriend’s mental games.I see, yeah that’s wild! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Single and Happy? Are they?Ah I see, yeah the RP men stuff is for sure newer in the dating market. Agreed many of them aren’t conservative. It’s like the trad wife who thinks she’s trad because she dresses feminine and bakes bread while neglecting other parts of traditionalism. Many of these men want to act like they’re conservative in a macho man way but lack doing the hard part of those values like having upstanding morals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/26 03:15 PM |
| 5 | Tired of my boyfriend’s mental games.You are so much more patient than me to write this out. Kudos! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 11:20 PM |
| 10 | Tired of my boyfriend’s mental games.If they were married for years I could see this being a shock but for such a short time dating, it’s not worth the effort. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 11:13 PM |
| 49 | Tired of my boyfriend’s mental games.It’s been 4 months and your boyfriend is gay. Why even waste your time with this post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 09:23 PM |
| 0 | Single and Happy? Are they?I can imagine there are plenty of things that cause happiness that are unhealthy for example. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Curious about male attraction in modest culturesSource please? Not saying you are wrong, just curious! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Single and Happy? Are they?I’m 42. How old are you can I ask? I’m at an age where friends are disappearing into their families of school age children despite the efforts we make to stay connected and parents are getting older and sick. I have some pretty great networks, but even then, it’s a challenge and I see that this will probably just get more challenging as we age | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Single and Happy? Are they?I'm seeing this trend in the comments that women in relationships are saying they were happy single... yet they weren't SO happy as they still entered into relationships. I find this so notable that I edited my post to note this. I feel like perhaps it's looking back with rose colored glasses. Not saying it isn't true, but saying it's interesting how so many women in relationships claim they were very happy single. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Single and Happy? Are they?I do think the women live longer stat, while true, is one of those things where living longer may not equal happiness. I know they say single and childfree women rate the happiest too - not sure if that's really accurate or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 03:09 PM |
| 3 | Single and Happy? Are they?This is really true. I have leaned into my faith over the past year and am seeing how appalled so many people are when religion is even mentioned in any way as a guiding force in life. I understand religious trauma, I have my own as well, so in some ways I get it but I totally agree doing something because you believe it is the moral thing religiously is totally different than just hating on a gender. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Single and Happy? Are they?I'm curious what you think the "different pool" is? I am not saying you are wrong, I've also seen dating change a lot in the past 10-20 years, but I see this as more a change in culture, values and practices, not really the "pool." I am curious how you think the pool has changed? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 02:46 PM |
| 8 | Red pill isn't as manipulative as I thoughtThere is actual RP for men and then there are all the influencers who high-jacked it like Tate to turn it into this manipulation, pick-up artist, women hating thing. The actual RP focused around improving oneself overall, your confidence, leading a full life, letting go of codependency, and being more realistic about women, relationships, and life overall ARE good messages. It's too bad the influencers really ruined it because that message is one many men need. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Did couples therapy help you?This is a protection tactic they use. Instead of engaging, they shut down to protect themselves emotionally. Not saying it's good, but many men either default to anger and rage or shutting down (fight or flight). | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Did couples therapy help you?I also have a robot husband!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 02:19 PM |
| 3 | Did couples therapy help you?As someone who newly married an attorney and also just started therapy, I don't think it helps (the therapist even called him on being "an attorney" based on how he was answering questions in a vague and non-accountable/non-emotional way). A logical person going into therapy will continue on that logical path, therapy won't change that. It may make him sit and listen to your feelings, but therapy is only an hour and whatever reaction he has to your conflicts he is likely to still have after the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Curious about male attraction in modest culturesTo a potential spouse you mean? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 01:14 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend giving silent treatmentI recently posted on silent treatment here. It's something my husband does and it pisses me off to be honest. I think how you handle this with a BF you don't live with (not sure if you do or not) may be different than a husband. In regards to the rest of it, some of this is just natural in terms of how relationships change over time. Almost no long term relationship will maintain that early relationship sex schedule or type of sex. But 3 times a month does seem low to me unless you are both much… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/26 09:35 PM |
| 3 | Single and Happy? Are they?I kind of disagree, I don't think just because someone decides to not have children, it means they are happier alone. I almost wonder if it is the opposite, if women without children put more emphasis on their partner to fill those needs. I say that as a newly married woman without children. I had an ex once tell me "if we had kids, you wouldn't care so much about me, you'd be obsessed with the kids and not worried about what I do so much" and I wonder if that is true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/26 05:46 PM |
| 3 | Single and Happy? Are they?Thank you for sharing, I appreciate this very vulnerable share. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/26 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Single and Happy? Are they?I really appreciate this take, I hadn’t connected it these examples but it makes sense in that it may not be anything new. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/26 05:27 PM |
| 5 | Single and Happy? Are they?I agree with this take entirely. To me it seems like largely a trauma response, which I can honestly understand. But I also presume most of these women are young and have done this for a short time. I take it more seriously for those who are in their 60s and 70s and still say this was the right life choice. And I do see some of them on the women over 60 groups, but even most of those women were often married for decades and now are just happy to be alone because it's not worth the effort to try … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 09:14 PM |
| 3 | Single and Happy? Are they?But the 4B ladies are committed to being single. They believe in no relationships or sex with men. This is really where I am wondering about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Single and Happy? Are they?I know you can be single and happy, I don't doubt that. My question is around the people who are dedicated to this as a permanent lifestyle choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Single and Happy? Are they?I thought this too - but then again, I think isn't that what we are doing here? I suppose we aren't just talking about how happy we are, but discussing more problem solving and self improvement techniques. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 09:05 PM |
| 5 | Single and Happy? Are they?Well of course, not being with toxic people makes sense. But you are seeing a guy so you wouldn't fit in to the "single and happy" group I am talking about. I am talking about women who are committed to living their entire lives single, no men, no dating, no sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 07:01 PM |
| 4 | Single and Happy? Are they?This is very much how I felt too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 06:54 PM |
| 6 | Single and Happy? Are they?This is probably true and I also think a lot of them are young, like 20's and 30s. And yeah, it is fun to be single and living alone in your 20s when you have a wide social group, people are going out on weekends, etc. But I think the picture will be much more bleak for these women into their 50's + | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 04:55 PM |
| 7 | Single and Happy? Are they?Yeah I do get that. I have had some BAD relationships where I enjoyed my post relationship time alone. I totally get the benefits of it. But after some time, that feeling always wore off for me. The last time I was single before I met my husband, I was alone for about a year and I kept thinking "I should really start dating but ugh, I don't want to" and I put it off for months. The idea of the work involved just wasn't appealing. But I guess I wonder will these women feel like that after 10-20 y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 04:30 PM |
| 5 | Single and Happy? Are they?I think this is true, but I do see married people post about their marriage issues and mothers post about the hardships in specific groups. Yet the single and happy group are outspoken that they have found some secret to life. They have entire groups dedicated to it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 04:24 PM |
| 2 | How come Men (statistically) want children more than Women?Ok but the question was "why do men want kids more than women." Your point, while maybe true for you, has nothing to do with the question OP asked. It seems every response on here from men is "but women do it too!!" without even looking at the post topic. Yeah, men and women both suck, sometimes in the same ways and sometimes in different ways. But let's stick to the discussion topic at hand rather than an immediate "but the other gender also does that too!!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 04:11 PM |
| 6 | Single and Happy? Are they?Life was very peaceful. But it also had loneliness underneath all of that peace. This was exactly my experience. I agree it was more peaceful than married life, but the loneliness was hard. I suppose if you had a big set of friends and family, it could fill that need, but what about when these women get older and the friends disappear and the family dies off? That is bound to happen? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Woman of Reddit. What is your usual response or reaction when you hear guys say "Women are too much work"?I’m RPW - I cook, clean, work a six figure job and suck him dry every night he wants it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 03:40 AM |
| 8 | Woman of Reddit. What is your usual response or reaction when you hear guys say "Women are too much work"?Because he lacks desire to put in effort to achieve something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 11:34 PM |
| 9 | Woman of Reddit. What is your usual response or reaction when you hear guys say "Women are too much work"?Honestly, my first thought is “he must be a weak lazy man then.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 10:36 PM |
| 1 | What is the average female sexual experience like?How does it not make sense - I said very clearly she’s not pursuing good sex, that’s not her end goal only. So many other things are more important. What you’re describing is the fact that men and women have different goals and yes, we know that’s true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 04:55 PM |
| 1 | What is the average female sexual experience like?The problem for women is pursuing good sex hoping it turns into our relationship very rarely works out. Most guys are just in it for the hook up so then they are just wasting their time. Women now have to be much more forward about their intentions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 04:01 AM |
| 3 | How come Men (statistically) want children more than Women?Yeah I was assuming the mom gets custody when I said this. Sorry I didn’t clarify. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/26 03:56 AM |
| 1 | What is the average female sexual experience like?Well most women desire marriage and kids so casual sex doesn’t give that. We aren’t getting into relationships for the sex lol. Thats not the driving factor. We want a life partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 04:37 AM |
| 18 | How come Men (statistically) want children more than Women?I think many women want kids in their heart but most can’t find a man they trust enough to do his part so we don’t. It’s far too risky. And we don’t want to end up single moms. Much harder to be a single mom than a single dad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 04:33 AM |
| 4 | What is the average female sexual experience like?It sucks. In my experience, they give it their all the first 3-4 times and then become selfish. Their all = passionate making out, clitorial pleasure, oral pleasure to me, finger banging, dirty talking, multiple positions, and overall kink/dominance (which is my thing). Becoming selfish = no touching my genitals and just wanting hand job, blow job, and PIV (some even don’t want to do the work to get on top and make me do even that), no dirty talk, no kink. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 07:26 PM |
| 6 | What is the average female sexual experience like?They are always already hard!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/26 07:21 PM |
| 9 | Spiraling and questioning my entire relationship after people online called my boyfriend controlling over clothing opinions?Seriously, it is like she is LOOKING to create problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/26 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Curious about male attraction in modest culturesWell he doesn’t want her to cover her face because he’s attracted to it. Men who want a niqabi want it for religious reasons and they don’t want other men looking at her. And women are allowed to dress however they want in the house so he gets to see her every way he wants, she can wear lingerie or be naked with him for that matter, he just doesn’t want other men to see her. My personal opinion is I think it’s totally wrong, but I think you’re looking at the specific situation the wrong way. Wan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/26 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Curious about male attraction in modest culturesI believe I answered that, in the most strict settings then yes the hair would not be shown. And for a very religious man, he may accept this, but even many of those religious men may want to see her uncovered, even though it’s not religiously allowed. He could also have someone like his mother or sister look at her uncovered to verify that nothing is wrong. But again, all of this only happens when you’re basically ready to get married, this is like a final check the box. However, even countries… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/26 04:30 PM |
| 20 | Curious about male attraction in modest culturesAttraction is still attraction. You can tell a beautiful face from a less attractive one even in hijab and even in Islamic clothing, you can tell a smaller or fitter woman from a larger one. Sure you can’t see the details of the figure as much but it’s not too difficult to tell if a woman is built more skinny or curvy or just fat. Many marriages are still arranged but it’s less and less. Either way the man will usually see the woman without a head covering before marriage, like in a pic or FaceT… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/26 04:02 AM |
| 1 | How to correctly interpret the fact that most find most women attractive, but most women don't find most men attractive?It’s very true, I feel like this person has never been to a Walmart before and actually looked around to see if he would sleep with 80% of those women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 07:43 PM |
| 11 | Women have very little to gain from heterosexual sex & relationships and men don't carePeople saying they have nothing to gain is completely a cope. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 07:26 PM |
| 1 | how to be more feminine and attentive?What do your evening conversations look like? Are you asking him questions about his day? My husband and I have the same conversations where he feels like I talk too much and don't give him enough space to speak, yet from my side I see him as SO quiet, I talk to fill the space as otherwise we'd sit in silence. So I have been trying more just to ask him LOTS of questions. Not just "how was your day?" but things like: "How are you feeling today?" "What is something good that happened today?" "What… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/26 05:33 PM |
| 5 | Women have very little to gain from heterosexual sex & relationships and men don't careNo, everyone doesn’t. Not in my life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 05:11 PM |
| 6 | Women have very little to gain from heterosexual sex & relationships and men don't careI agree sexually many of them get lazy. Many women do too. This is the problem with gender wars, not everything is gendered, some of these things are just the nature of relationship challenges and life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 05:09 PM |
| 11 | Women have very little to gain from heterosexual sex & relationships and men don't careMen on this sub are not representative of most men. The good men have no idea what red pill, purple pill, or any pills are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 03:57 PM |
| 15 | Women have very little to gain from heterosexual sex & relationships and men don't careNo, they truly are not. There are lots of women who are in relationships and want more sex than the man wants. Yes every man wants sex to some degree but companionship and a family is a driving factor for marriage for many men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 03:55 PM |
| 18 | Every christian dating site feels like tinderDo you follow RPW? Have you read the articles here or books to understand what drives and motivates men? Because religious or not, men are attracted to youth, beauty and sex. Religious men want to be attracted to their wives too and they have a right to choose just as we do. I get online dating is hard, all dating is hard… but blaming men for their desires isn’t really fair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/26 11:42 PM |
| 3 | Every christian dating site feels like tinderBumble | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/26 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Has Red Pill Advice Made You More Successful in Sexual/Romantic Relationships / Dating?Yes, it’s worked for me on the female side. I got married, my first marriage at 41 by working on and improving myself and by vetting men better. I’m very blessed! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 11:21 PM |
| 3 | Widow of 4, provider husband passed last yearI’m sorry for your loss. It has to be devastating, and so sad for kids too. I hope you find peace. However expecting a man to want to provide for you and 4 kids is an extremely high bar, like crazy high. Men are unlikely to care so much if you are fertile and can provide sexual comfort when they also have to give SO much to be with you. Most men don’t want 4 kids TOTAL. Even if you add only one of their own, that’s now 5. Many men don’t want to be in a home with 5 kids period, not theirs or anyo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/26 11:00 PM |
| 3 | Why do Men degrade and insult Women who have sex with them?I don’t think this is why women don’t want to date bi men though. I think it’s more so a fear he can’t be monogamous and content with her, a woman, and also a fear of STDs/sexual promiscuity. Maybe a small bit is a feeling he’s too feminine but I don’t think it’s that he’s degraded from being penetrated per se. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 09:17 PM |
| 5 | Any chronically depressed RP women found a way to get the light back in their eyes they had when they were younger?I do use a tinted SPF daily. I do worry about sun damage because I know it’s not so great but I also really believe in the benefits of vitamin D so I feel like the benefits outweigh the risks for me! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/26 07:23 PM |
| 8 | Any chronically depressed RP women found a way to get the light back in their eyes they had when they were younger?I love this and pretty much the formula I use for myself as well. What is a nonnegotiable for me is sunlight. It does miracles for mental health, especially depression. I legitimately have to spend an hour sitting in the sun daily and it makes me feel like a new person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/26 05:25 PM |
| 6 | Any chronically depressed RP women found a way to get the light back in their eyes they had when they were younger?Hey, I’m 42 and have depression and anxiety problems, it runs in the family. First, I am on antidepressants and it’s absolutely something I need. I know everyone has their own opinions about it but I’m a very strong advocate. I just got married seven months ago, I had many long-term relationships that failed that devastated me. My father died when I was 18, I didn’t graduate grad school till 29 and had to go into massive loan debt to pay my way though (which ended up being worth it). I spent mos… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/26 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Can The Empowered Wife help this?No the empowered wife probably is not the tool to fix this because this problem is not based on disrespect issues. Reading the books never hurts, but these books don’t address sexual issues directly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/26 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Can The Empowered Wife help this?They are pretty much the same, they empowered wife is the updated version, but I wouldn’t read both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/26 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Why do women claim they are being used for sex once a man realizes he is incompatible with her?This was not my experience at all from living it. How old are you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 04:52 PM |
| 3 | Why do women claim they are being used for sex once a man realizes he is incompatible with her?All of the conversation around shaming women for body count has made this problem much more severe. I don’t feel like this was so problematic when I was younger and dating in my 20s in the 2000s. People kind of accepted that was part of dating, trying out sex, and seeing what worked. But the way body count is used against women today makes this extremely problematic for them because they see basically they are going to suffer for having an additional “body” when they really didn’t end up even ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/26 05:23 PM |
| 5 | My husband's flexible job are making me lose attraction and making my life harder, what do you suggest?Now you said that he told you could be a stay at home mom if you want, you just don’t want to because you don’t want him to be in the house when you are there all day. So he has made being a stay at home available to you, you just don’t like the set up. We don’t get 100% of everything our way in a relationship. It is his home too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/26 04:05 PM |
| 2 | 23F and I find it hard to not dislike redpillYeah dating is a totally different thing because eventually men and women want to get together in person because they want physical affection. That’s not a driver in friendships so there’s less of a motivation to get out of the online space and in person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/26 03:58 PM |
| 1 | 23F and I find it hard to not dislike redpillYeah start meeting people in person. I honestly don’t have close friends that are girls that I’ve met online at and I don’t even think it makes sense to try honestly. Don’t blend online and real life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/26 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Sometimes feelingweird about the fact my boyfriend has a “line” with revealing clothes even though we mostly agree on it?I feel like it’s a skort if it’s all one piece but sometimes I put like bike shorts under a skirt and I wouldn’t consider that a skort. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/26 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Sometimes feelingweird about the fact my boyfriend has a “line” with revealing clothes even though we mostly agree on it?I also thought of the speedo scenario as a comparable example. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/26 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Sometimes feelingweird about the fact my boyfriend has a “line” with revealing clothes even though we mostly agree on it?Look, this is a green flag, not a red one. You’re being indoctrinated by blue pill culture that tells “you go girl, you can do whatever you want, have your ass and pussy out!” Men that are OK with that usually have some sort of fetish for other people checking out their women. Unless he has that sort of fetish, most men are not going to want this. Not big on the whole “provide and protect” thing, but really, most men feel like they need to protect you at least to some degree and it’s not protect… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/26 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Can The Empowered Wife help this?This is all super common and very relatable for me. I also feel bad asking for what I want and I don't get turned on because I think "he doesn't want to do it." Lately when I have that feeling, I say to myself in my head "I've earned this, I'm going to lay back and enjoy it." I have to actively tell myself that. And I also just let him go and will tell him to stop if I've had enough. Again they would do the same thing. I have no solid answers, only understanding. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 05:02 PM |
| 2 | My husband's flexible job are making me lose attraction and making my life harder, what do you suggest?It's good you proposed to him some ideas. Did you really clearly say to him that you NEED these things though. It is one thing to "propose" an idea but another to say "I am struggling for XX reasons and I really need to do XYZ." Men respond well to vulnerability so be vulnerable, really make sure he knows you are struggling. I would NOT tell him it's impacting your attraction but you can tell him you feel like you don't have enough alone time with your child and you feel it would benefit the rel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 04:47 PM |
| 7 | Can The Empowered Wife help this?Why don't you initiate? Does he ever turn you down when you do? So you have been married WAY longer than me so I am not going to act like I am an expert in marriage but I DO expect making out to always lead to sex. I'd love the perspective of other women but this has been my experience in all my relationships where we are having sex. Making out leads to sex pretty much 100% of the time. I honestly would be upset if my husband started making out with me and then didn't want sex; I'd be annoyed he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Lost my long-term boyfriend in a car accidentExactly, yeah I wouldn't call my many years on the apps "fun" either, just like my job isn't always "fun" but I do it because I need to make money and it has many other pay offs. And yes, many many guys are shitty there, but that's just life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 03:35 PM |
| 5 | Can The Empowered Wife help this?So you both say you want more sex, but neither of you is initiating. Does that sound right? Has he said what he wants out of sex that he feels he's not getting? If he thinks you are low libido, does he just want you to initiate more? Or are you turning him down when he initiates? I think focusing on bringing fun and playfulness back into the relationship is a first step. It sounds kind of heavy right now and sex should be fun and playful. I had to look up what these patches are but if you go to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 03:23 PM |
| 3 | Lost my long-term boyfriend in a car accidentBad advice - from a woman who met her husband on bumble. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 03:13 PM |
| 20 | 23F and I find it hard to not dislike redpillFemale friendships are not like dating. You don't match online, text all the time, and deep bonds are created. The best way to make girl friends, or any friends for that matter, is to meet organically in real life through activities where you have something in common. That is why school friendships or work friendships work out so well, you bond naturally over shared communities and go from there. The fact you talk about texting so much is odd to me, I rarely text my friends and it's usually eith… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 02:53 PM |
| 6 | My husband's flexible job are making me lose attraction and making my life harder, what do you suggest?I mean, have you talked to him about this? Have you calmly proposed a way there could be more balance? Have you asked him if he can do some chores while you spend quality time with the baby? What has he said? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 02:31 PM |
| 7 | My husband's flexible job are making me lose attraction and making my life harder, what do you suggest?And this helps her how though? What is your advice? She decided to marry and have a baby with the guy so...? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 02:28 PM |
| 12 | My husband's flexible job are making me lose attraction and making my life harder, what do you suggest?Ok real talk, what you think men are like "in the world" is extremely rare. I am referring to these statements:" "...but a man even more structured than me, that is what I find attractive." "I think what I need is having examples that I can admire in order to know that what I want exists in the world and there is plenty of it. And also knowing that there are men who if they knew my real thoughts, like the ones that i have shared he would admire me or see me as perfection. That would make my husb… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/26 02:22 PM |
| – | Loud + combative does not equal masculine & quiet + submissive does not equal feminineThe majority of people right now are doing this performative masculinity or femininity which is essentially just cosplaying. Women who think all they need to do to be feminine is to act like a trad wife and bake all day while they let their man walk all over them and men who think acting like a Chad proves masculinity. It’s embarrassing. And it’s because no one wants to do the actual hard work of legitimately improving themselves which takes time and more effort than putting on this costume. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 03:21 PM |
| 4 | What if the man I'm searching for simply doesn't exist?It makes you feel sad now because you’re thinking about what you perceive you won’t have, but once you fall in love with someone who treats you well, those thoughts won’t be relevant anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/26 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Teaching or Nursing?Find a new company who will take you in at a junior level and teach you these things. Benefits in particular tends to have more entry-level type of roles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/26 02:52 PM |
| 11 | What if the man I'm searching for simply doesn't exist?That’s helpful! Honestly, I think shared interests are way overrated. I think you need to look for someone with shared values first and foremost. Most couples spend their time watching TV and having meals together, you don’t have to enjoy the same activities. In fact, it can be good to have different hobbies so that you have some things to do that keep you individual in your alone time. Besides that, make sure you’re being realistic. Everyone wants the charismatic fit guy, so you’re going to be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/26 01:32 AM |
| 3 | What if the man I'm searching for simply doesn't exist?Yeah I don’t open up my chat, sorry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/26 10:16 PM |
| 3 | What if the man I'm searching for simply doesn't exist?Who have you dated for any amount of time that it went well with? What were they like? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/26 10:01 PM |
| 7 | Teaching or Nursing?HR director here - I also hate recruiting and could never do it, have you thought about transitioning just to a different type of HR? That could be a much easier transition, wouldn’t require much schooling, and there are lots of different specialties that are very different than recruiting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/26 06:00 PM |
| 33 | How do you find a conservative/right wing man?You gotta be religious mostly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/26 01:04 AM |
| 1 | I am very inexperienced!I hear you but this is the problem, you say “by chance” but if you are meeting them online, it’s not chance. These are men who are messaging thousands of women and are just looking for someone to bite. They aren’t legitimately building a relationship with you, they’re entertaining themselves. Think about it, what does a good 34-year-old man who has something to offer want with a young woman across the world? This isn’t a movie, they’re not going to wife you up and sweep you away to another count… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/26 08:53 PM |
| 28 | Subreddits for women?I like a lot of the subs for older women, like women over 60. The older women tend to have a much more open-minded and nonjudgmental view of things and I find I get a lot out of their wisdom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/26 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Am I petty?You are asking the wrong question. It’s not about “am I petty,” it’s about if you want to be in this relationship. If yes, and you don’t want to get married, then he can accept it or leave. I’m married, we don’t have kids, and it’s important to me because I see it as a religious commitment. I also did not change my last name. There’s lots of different ways to go about things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/26 08:43 PM |
| 1 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?I’m truly happy you have a marriage like this, and I wish mine was more like that, but my husband is not driven by sex in that way, not from me. He would be like “you are weird, what are you doing.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/26 05:59 PM |
| 3 | I am very inexperienced!No, I don’t think he’s serious and I don’t think you should waste three years of your life on this. Why not just meet men in your area that you can actually go grab a coffee with or dinner with? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/26 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Staying With HimThere is a difference between deciding to stay and work on relationship issues then how she words it in this poem “does it matter?” That’s the difference. Yes some couples work through infidelity and sex addiction. But this only works when both people are really willing to work through it. The tone of this poem like oh I love him and he’s great so it doesn’t really matter if he cheats is definitely NOT IT. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/26 05:45 PM |
| 3 | I am very inexperienced!I’m sorry, I don’t mean to be rude, but this sounds like an online flirtation only. You two are on different continents and have never met? These things never progress to anything real. I’m sorry, I think you are young and naïve. Dating should always be kept local and in person excluding an extreme circumstance where perhaps in some cultures families are arranging a connection and it is someone already known from social circles. The amount of time women waste on these silly online long distance … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/26 05:27 PM |
| 4 | I have been told by my friends that I don't have boundaries and am "too nice" I have started reading the book "Why Men Marry Bitches" but I'm not sure it resonates with me. I would appreciate any help!First off, let’s remove what your friends told you from a picture. Were you taken advantage of in your previous relationships? Did you feel like you had a lack of boundaries that led your partners to walk all over you? Did you feel like you were the one that was overly eager, you were the one always initiating or you were always waiting for their response? Personally, I think there’s a difference between the boundaries you have in a dating relationship and the boundaries you have in other relati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/26 04:42 PM |
| 16 | 29F met 36M - early dating; he says he is looking for a family, but unsure about meHe’s just not that into you. If he’s not planning dates, there’s nothing to see here. He’s using you as an emotional texting buddy for now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/26 12:36 AM |
| 2 | Am I(20f) being too naive about a man I’m seeing?It’s not dumb, you are just young and like him. When we know better, we do better :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/26 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Graduating soon! Getting so anxious for new relationship/life dynamics, please help.You’re not silly and immature. It is in our nature as women to enjoy clinging to the men we love. However, the relationship you have is not healthy and sustainable long-term. It actually sounds codependent. For both people to thrive, there needs to be space. You are already experiencing anxiety probably because you are so tied to him, you aren’t sure how to operate on your own. If you plan to work, you need to figure out how to operate in the real world by yourself. And even if you plan to have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/26 03:57 PM |
| 6 | Am I(20f) being too naive about a man I’m seeing?So first mistake is going to his home on the first date. Do not ever do this, in any scenario. Accepting an invite to a man’s home is basically telling the man you are willing to have sex with him unless you say otherwise (and I would honestly not say that on a first date anyway because it’s awkward to say “hey I’ll go to your house, but I’m not having sex with you! “, just don’t go). Think of it from a man’s perspective: you have met him once , for only a couple hours, and now you agree to go t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/26 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Am I(20f) being too naive about a man I’m seeing?This is mostly true, however there are certainly other countries that are far more conservative about sex than ours as well. Funny enough, sometimes men from those countries can come to America and think all the women are more loose about sex here so they treat it like a sex playground; they see American women on TV and think we are all party girls! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/26 03:35 PM |
| 5 | I’m 23F and my bf 23m shouts at me often and has anger issuesYou are 23 years old, don’t waste your youth on this person and find somebody better. Will you be happy if you are 40 and finally leaving this guy and starting over? Or would it be better to do that now? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/26 03:26 PM |
| 14 | Good first date but low effort after-worth a second date or not?If he’s not initiating first at all, then he’s either not interested or you’re not giving him enough time and space to allow him to. You also keep saying you have something in mind for the second date, but he should be planning a second date, not you. At this point, back off. If he initiates and if he plans a second date, then great but if not, you have your answer. I feel like this is a classic example of a woman pursuing a man too hard which is going to make him think you are overly into him. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/26 12:14 AM |
| 5 | Dealing with LTB relationship with substances?This is one of those things that you have to vet for if it's important to you in the beginning. It sounds like he's always been like this and you accepted it at first, but now that you are more serious, worry about it. It doesn't sound like it's negatively impacting him so he's not bound to stop just because it's not the best coping mechanism in theory. People who drink a few beers a day every day are indeed dependent on it so you have to come to terms with that. He is dependent, but it isn't ne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/26 04:03 PM |
| 2 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?Yeah, that’s basically what I did, spent a lot of time out of the house doing my own thing. We are back to normal now but I’m just going to do my best to avoid the controversial topics altogether. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/26 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Eight years in and things have changed.He didn’t say that though. I took it as he didn’t care about it but would do it for her, not that he was revolted by the idea. He proposed to get after all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/26 03:10 AM |
| 4 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?So you are married to a perfect human with no flaws? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/26 03:08 AM |
| 13 | Is there any way I can get him to want to pursue a relationship with me?I agree and also would add that I think he would probably entertain seeing her casually if she will drive to him and do the pursuing work but otherwise it’s not worth the effort to him of driving the other way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/26 10:22 PM |
| 9 | For those marriage-minded women looking to find a husband, are you really dating only one person at a time?At 6 months, if you’re not exclusive, then that’s really its own problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/26 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Eight years in and things have changed.I’m sorry you’re being downvoted but I basically responded the same thing. She wants it, he’s willing to do it even if he’s not excited about it, so she needs to take his yes as an answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/26 03:06 PM |
| 7 | Eight years in and things have changed.So you are going to get a lot of leave him comments but I get the impression that’s not what you want to do. The alternative here is to marry him. He says he will do it for you even though he’s not that excited about it so have him do it for you. Most men are not excited about the idea of marriage even when they do think marriage will benefit them, that it’s the right thing to do, and that they have the right woman. Even then, many times they feel like they’re giving their power away and are not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/26 02:56 PM |
| 15 | For those marriage-minded women looking to find a husband, are you really dating only one person at a time?It’s not just a moral reason I did the above, but more for my own emotional health. Juggling many guys is hard and can cause confusion and prevent you from bonding with anyone. It makes you think you have unlimited choices. I like my approach as it’s a nice balance. It also encourages you to hold off on having sex too quick and really think if you want to quit dating others before you jump into bed with someone. Not sure I know of many if any women who were dating a ton of guys at the same time … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/26 05:43 AM |
| 25 | For those marriage-minded women looking to find a husband, are you really dating only one person at a time?My rule when dating was - I only sleep with one person at once. So even if we didn’t have “the talk” yet, if I decided I would sleep with him, then it didn’t feel right or healthy for me to date other men (not fair to them, not emotionally healthy for me). If there was no sexual interactions or exclusivity yet, then I would date other people (again, just dates). But again once sex came into the picture, I’d focus on that guy only. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/26 05:34 AM |
| 3 | How to break up with no family supportThis is a situation I’ve been in and I applaud you for recognizing it. 5 years ago in your early 20s, you may not have understood the impact the lack of attraction could have long term. Have you decided you for sure want to leave or are you still considering staying? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/26 05:14 AM |
| 1 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?Yeah this is a reasonable idea and is what he wants honestly. He wants me to have a “neutral or positive” reaction to his comments. He wants me to be non-emotional. I try, I try for 30 min to an hour sometimes but eventually I lose it specifically because his past behaviors were horrible things that led to his last divorce and it hurts to hear about it and him playing around about serious topics that could theoretically happen to us/me like his ex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/26 02:46 AM |
| 4 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?This is a great response, very helpful and IMO is red pill friendly. Not all situations require submissiveness to win out and too many women here think that is what red pill women means when it does not. Thanks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/26 02:42 AM |
| 1 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?Thank you, I’m curious how your husband eventually came to realize this wasn’t going to work on you? Could you share an example of what you did? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/26 05:17 PM |
| 1 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?I know, it’s not a good quality in him. Luckily it only comes out infrequently. That’s why I’m trying to nip it in the bud now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 09:59 PM |
| 4 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?I agree, I heard on a podcast to just think of it as a week of meditation, like a personal spa week, relieved of wifey obligations, so I’m trying to go with that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 09:56 PM |
| 1 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?Awesome advice, totally agree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 08:37 PM |
| 1 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?I am 42 and he is 36 so we are no spring chickens :) He honestly is a great husband, this is just a flaw and we are newly married after a quick courtship so are adjusting to our new life together. He knows he has personal issues he works on actively so is aware of his flaws but also struggles to improve and not give in to negative behaviors. And on my side, to own my shit, I do lose my cool and get angry. Not immediately, but when pushed, and I wish I could keep it more chill and not go there. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 08:07 PM |
| 4 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?I have asked that and he feels that is restricting him and "we can't talk about anything." I think it's a power and control thing - he simply doesn't like being told no and he wants me to be like him. I said "what should I do then when these topics upset me?" and he says that I need to learn to not get upset by them. I told him I can't change my feelings, I feel how I feel, and he wants me to feel nothing. Again, I feel like it's a control thing somehow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 07:59 PM |
| 2 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?I thought about this before. Even book an AirBnb or something but I think that might escalate things. I do think this is my move though, just make myself busy out of the house as much as possible. I do think it’s a power thing for him and all I can do is match that energy and act unbothered. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 07:22 PM |
| 6 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?I kind of agree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 07:19 PM |
| 2 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?I have done this in the past, I have had the vulnerable moments, I've cried and been distraught. He will as he says "do the right thing" by talking to me/listening/giving me what I ask for in this scenario, but it makes me look frantic and to me feels like I'm just creating a ton of drama. It's also not sustainable. He knows it scares me and upsets me at this point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 07:10 PM |
| 3 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?Thanks, going forward I agree will simply refuse to engage in these conversations. Funny enough he never volunteers his opinions or POV on these topics unless I ask and even then he says little, he really just asks me questions and wants to do the devil's advocate thing. I do worry about the cycle of I chose to not engage and then he withdraws and we go around and around. I like the idea of setting a time limit, but I don't think he will agree. He will say "I don't know how long it will take, I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 07:08 PM |
| 1 | You’re not marrying a rich manSo what is your actual advice here to women? I don't disagree with all of you points, but it would help to tell them what they should do instead. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 07:00 PM |
| 1 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?Oh he is not asking for sex. In fact, I feel he is punishing me by disengaging which includes removing sex (from me). | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 06:45 PM |
| 6 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?I do believe he loses affection as in part 1 but it's mostly part 2. The topic is one that comes about often and is his desire to debate about sexual and gender topics. He says he wants to talk about his past sexual experiences and I don't react well to it and he's right - his past sexual experiences were some really bad things. He has admitted in the past he likes to get a rise out of me, he is entertained by getting me worked up, and I told him I don't enjoy it and it hurts me. Topics like sex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 06:43 PM |
| 2 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?Thanks, I was hoping you would respond! What about a time limit? My concern is I feel like he could go for a week or two. What should I do in that case? The same? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 06:36 PM |
| 7 | You’re not marrying a rich manSounds like a recent post from my friend u/Wife_and_Mama https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/mtKKfgHiDo. Solid points on both accounts! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 02:52 PM |
| 8 | This dread game makes me want to die...Could you share some examples? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Newly wed needs help navigating relationship with mother in lawYou said this so clearly and eloquently, nicely done. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/26 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Husband is avoiding meYour marriage started under false pretenses and a lie. I agree it can be legally annulled. And if you both completed Nikah too, you have grounds for Islamic divorce as he lied about his ability to provide which is required and fully his responsibility as the husband. From an emotional standpoint, I know you’re attached but it would be better to cut your losses and find someone who is honest and upstanding. I read now there’s a whole private investigation boom in India where they follow the men w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/26 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Newly wed needs help navigating relationship with mother in lawThis is bad advice. It’s sad for him to experience this but not a good strategy for her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/26 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Newly wed needs help navigating relationship with mother in lawThanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/26 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Newly wed needs help navigating relationship with mother in lawGot it. Then I’d give it some time and trickle feedback to him slowly. Newlywed tone is stressful (I’m on it too 6 months) so give it time. Not saying she gets better but perhaps he will see or more or you just start to care about it less. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/26 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Newly wed needs help navigating relationship with mother in lawI see. I'm relieved for you that at least you aren't living together. Is he a good leader other than this topic? Like in his job and with you? Has she been this way his whole life? How serious do you think this is for your attraction to him? Ideally, you would leave it alone, let him do what he wishes which is manage it on his own. When she complains about him to you, set your boundaries. Defend him and make sure she gets the message it is not ok to speak disrespectfully about him to you. Tellin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/26 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Newly wed needs help navigating relationship with mother in lawWhat cultural and religion are you living in? I take it you agreed to move into the family home with them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/26 04:01 PM |
| 3 | Is this the truth of people?Humans are flawed. We just are, and we all are. Age is realizing that, accepting it, having realistic expectations of others and not expecting to gain happiness through anyone else, even your husband. Once you get here, every relationship you have improves. People will hurt us, even the ones who love us most, and we will hurt them. This isn’t a negative view, it’s life. But people also bring joy so we forgive and accept and invest in ourselves and, if you believe in it, a higher good/power. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/26 06:55 PM |
| 1 | What Letting Him Lead Really Looks LikeThank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/26 03:17 PM |
| 5 | Polygamy… 💕💀Sorry but what do you mean by polygamy? Did you actually marry this man? Because that’s what polygamy means … marriage, not affairs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/26 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Should guys pay first date or should the bill be split?Does he want to see you again, because to me this specific scenario is a sign that he doesn’t want to see me again or he’s only interested in sex and doesn’t care if I think badly of him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 08:53 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about men involving their parents in finding a partner (arranged marriage)?I'm in an intercultural relationship. We are in the west and a "love marriage" (my husband would never in a million years be in an arranged process, he's fiercely independent) but my husband's brother is in SE Asia and is currently going through the arranged matching process (the oldest brother was a love marriage as well but within his own culture). Over there, it's standard. You'd have to ask the women in that culture how they view men who go through that process. Their answers probably depend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 02:34 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about men involving their parents in finding a partner (arranged marriage)?I’m curious why the question “what do you think about men who…” vs. a more general “what do you think about arranged marriage.” Why did you ask it in that way? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 02:28 PM |
| 1 | How do I turn down an invite to his home?That’s really your reason not to do this? Do you even support RPW? What is your proposal then in the beginning of a relationship? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/26 02:28 AM |
| 1 | 29F dating 28M unsure about shared futureAlso I ask about the doctor thing because sometimes doctors use their on call schedule as an excuse when dating. I've been out with doctors and it reminded me of a story: With one guy, turns our we had a mutual acquaintance. This guy frequented the same bar the doctor frequents and took me to on our first date. Turns out the guy has heard the doc tell another girl he took there on a date that he "might have to leave if he gets a page from the hospital" and then legit faked a page to get out of t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/26 03:52 PM |
| 6 | How to properly vet men, & not go by potential? + How do deal with the heartbreak if values etc don't align?...and if they don't tell you from the start (as in before or on date 1), they will sure make it known by say date 3. If we read the signs honestly and without letting our emotions cloud us, it is usually pretty clear within the first handful of weeks what each guy is about. But yeah, you have to TALK to them and DATE them to find out, there is no magic fuckboy flag they fly to let us know :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/26 03:45 PM |
| 4 | Maybe I’ve decided that either I’ll be single and have a career or get married and be a homemaker. I think I won’t be able to do both together.You have one life, and it's yours to live. And the older you get, the less you will care what other people think. Living that way is a trap and road to unhappiness. You can have marriage without children (as I do) - this is becoming so much more common. However I recommend just keeping an open mind and seeing where things go when you meet someone. Life changes so quickly and unless you 100% know what you want, without a doubt, it's best to let life take you where it does. We as people change qui… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/26 03:41 PM |
| 1 | How to properly vet men, & not go by potential? + How do deal with the heartbreak if values etc don't align?There is unfortunately no trick to tell right off the bat if he’s a fit. Of course he can do things right off the bat that exclude him (red flags) but if there’s potential, the only way to know is to give it time. RPW accept that heartbreak it part of it and that to build a relationship requires risk of our hearts. I recommend reading Surrendered Single (we had a book club last summer where I summarized it you can find on my profile or via search). | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/26 01:57 AM |
| 3 | 29F dating 28M unsure about shared futureYes but if this is what he needs, how is the relationship ever going to progress? Stress only increases in a marriage, people need to learn to deal with it, or your relationship won’t progress, you will stay how it is now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/26 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Confused in masculine spaceOK so next time he tells you she’s talking shit about you, stop him and say “I don’t want to hear it. It stresses me out and upsets me and I trust you to manage it and help protect me from that.” And then repeat anytime he starts to involve you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/26 04:32 PM |
| 3 | 29F dating 28M unsure about shared futureHonestly this sounds very complicated. You guys need to have a conversation about the road forward because otherwise you are wasting your time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/26 04:05 PM |
| 0 | 29F dating 28M unsure about shared futureThat part I agree with | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/26 03:29 AM |
| 2 | 29F dating 28M unsure about shared futureI think you’re jumping to conclusions without knowing all the facts and yes I’ve been strung along plenty in my life. It sounds like she’s really into the guy and wants to give it a shot so “block him, you owe him nothing” isn’t helpful to her when she likes the guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/26 10:40 PM |
| 2 | 29F dating 28M unsure about shared futureSeems a little quick to just end it without trying to understand what happened and course correct. Agree the chances of success are low, but ghost and block seems premature. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/26 09:57 PM |
| 6 | 29F dating 28M unsure about shared futureAre you different religions or ethnicities? I ask because I’m in an interracial relationship and maybe I can help in that regard. Your dad is wrong, what he’s doing isn’t “normal” for a relationship, to have a one hour sex date. When I’ve had exes try to do that, I’d say something like “Aw I want to have sex SO bad but it makes me so sad if we do and then you don’t spend the night. I just can’t do it” and I make a sad face. By doing this, I make it clear what I expect while putting it on ME, not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/26 09:55 PM |
| 3 | 29F dating 28M unsure about shared futureBefore that how long was it since you saw him? Is he a doctor? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/26 09:50 PM |
| 8 | 29F dating 28M unsure about shared futureLet me ask some timing questions: How long was the going out on dates period and how long has the distance been happening? Because you say you’ve been seeing each other for three months, but you also say that sometimes you go a month without seeing each other which if true for one month is a third of the entire relationship!! So I’m trying to understand the timing. Regardless, I’m afraid you’ve become way too passive in this relationship. It is on us as women to make sure the dating and courting… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/26 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Confused in masculine spaceI second this, you absolutely would benefit from implementing everything in this book. Empowered wife should be your handbook for handling the situation. If you do everything you read and things still don’t improve, then you have your answer, but I would guess your situation improves because you are focusing on yourself and what you can control versus focusing on your partner and his situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/26 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Confused in masculine spaceBut here’s the problem, how do you know she’s demonizing you and calling you names? Is he telling you she said this or how are you two interacting? I married a divorced man who has a ex stepchild and it has its challenges, but even if this woman ever said anything to him about me, I would never know because he would never subject me to that and tell me. And I’m also 100% confident he would put her in her place and tell her that’s not appropriate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/26 04:28 PM |
| 3 | Differences between your first love and your last?Well I think that just happens over time as life takes hold. My husband was intense and exciting at first as well but living with someone will zap that right out and forces you into stability. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/26 02:25 AM |
| 3 | What Letting Him Lead Really Looks LikeThis is hard, I have seen my mom do the same for decades. What I would say is that people have to make their own choices, and also there are degrees to these things. A man who splurges on desserts a few times a week but is otherwise healthy and in shape is the type of thing where a women should let him do his own thing and ignore but I personally would say something about a major health issue. There are ways to do it that are supportive vs. nagging. But again ultimately, none of us can make anyo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/26 04:50 PM |
| 1 | What Letting Him Lead Really Looks LikeSo what is letting him lead? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/26 04:32 PM |
| 4 | What Letting Him Lead Really Looks LikeYes, this is not their strong suit either. This is a skill women are talented at, not men, so we can't expect it from them. Now I don't want some women to take this to mean "I'm dating a guy and he won't define the relationship, I guess he's just incapable." No, that is not what I mean. They can do that. What I mean is a situation like "You are feeling sad, you complain to him, and you want him to act in a way like a woman would where he listens to you vent forever, tells you you are so right an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/26 03:06 PM |
| 1 | What Letting Him Lead Really Looks LikeI’ve not heard of this. Try the men’s page. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/26 03:49 AM |
| 2 | What Letting Him Lead Really Looks LikeWhat is he into? Sex? Food? Adventure? Relaxation? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/26 03:48 AM |
| 2 | What Letting Him Lead Really Looks LikeThe hanger problem so many men have I swear is like 90% of their moodiness! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/26 02:57 AM |
| 3 | What Letting Him Lead Really Looks Like👏👏👏 | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/26 08:31 PM |
| 8 | What Letting Him Lead Really Looks LikeThis is such an important call out. I’ve learned recently how important it is for us to all be responsible for our own happiness/moods. Also, what we often want to do to “fix” it often doesn’t and can even end up making things worse. I’m guilty of the constant “are you ok?” checking in with my partner which drives him crazy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/26 08:30 PM |
| 1 | 29F, 39M: Lately I've been feeling the want to check in where he's at with things.Enjoy it!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/26 08:27 PM |
| 2 | 29F, 39M: Lately I've been feeling the want to check in where he's at with things.So it sounds like you just want to know in general where this relationship is going which is fair. I would agree that you should really decouple that from the planning dates topic as one really has nothing to do with the other. Have you two talked about where this is headed? Do you both want to be married? Has he asked you what you want and have you asked him what you want? A year is quite a way down the road to be in for this to not have come up at all yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/26 07:19 PM |
| 1 | 29F, 39M: Lately I've been feeling the want to check in where he's at with things.Is this about the planning dates or something else? Because in your posts, the only thing you point to is the date planning. Are there other things he's doing that are making you doubt? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/26 06:03 PM |
| 3 | 29F, 39M: Lately I've been feeling the want to check in where he's at with things.I plan every outing with my husband (together total for 1.5 years). He tells me when he has time, he pays for the date, and shows up - that's all. He is very busy and doesn't need to be bothered with this. I keep a list in my phone of ideas of things we can do and places we can go. Then when he has time, I throw out some options. I know what he likes so take that into consideration. I have never felt any bad way about it and actually love it as I can do the things I want to do anyway. It was lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/26 05:58 PM |
| 11 | I don't think I can live the life I want or be the woman I want to be if I have kidsThere is not one way for everyone. I am childfree and I also worked with kids in my 20s. I wanted kids badly in my 20s and early 30s but I never found a partner to marry until just last year at 42 and I was not going to have children outside of marriage. My husband now doesn't want kids which is good for me given my age and honestly he's too work focused to help out and I know I'd be resentful having to do it all while I work too. Overall I am happy with being childfree. I love that I can focus … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/26 05:41 PM |
| 17 | Think I found the right one. How do I keep him?This is exactly it. This is how women get themselves in bad situations, they decide that a guy is the one before they’ve even vetted. Then once he does something they don’t like, they excuse it because they’ve already decided he’s the one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/26 02:30 PM |
| 1 | I have the red/black pill mentality even though I'm a woman.You can throw yourself a pity party or you can try to improve. I’m not trying to be insensitive to your issues, they are I’m sure real, but to check out at only 19 is taking the easy way out. This isn’t the place for that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/26 02:52 AM |
| 2 | worth wasting time with 20y guys?You know nothing about this page if you think we are here to man shame. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/26 02:39 PM |
| 3 | How can I [F25] learn to be vulnerable and build and emotional connection with men instead of pulling away and playing it cool?Ok then yes you have to work on the vulnerability. Also the self control to not end relationships so quickly, or rather, we end the ones that have potential but let the friends with benefits stick around forever when we should end those! 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/26 07:36 PM |
| 6 | How can I [F25] learn to be vulnerable and build and emotional connection with men instead of pulling away and playing it cool?Agree, this guy is playing some weird mind game to make himself feel better and keep her on the hook, so she sticks around to keep trying and hoping. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/26 04:54 PM |
| 9 | How can I [F25] learn to be vulnerable and build and emotional connection with men instead of pulling away and playing it cool?Ok so men don't fall in love like women do. Look at how they bond with one another - it's through shared experiences together doing activities and such, and TIME. For many of us women, we can fall in love with a guy who has great sex with us, hangs out with us cuddling watching Netflix and ordering in. Most men don't work like that. I would take this guy's feedback a bit tentatively as I think he's a guy who wants easy sex and there is nothing you could do to make him want you. He's trying to ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/26 04:51 PM |
| 4 | worth wasting time with 20y guys?I'm not assuming anything, she says he is offering to support her. A newly divorced 35 yo offering to support a 22 year old is leading with money. Regardless, we aren't here to argue with men who aren't really supposed to be here anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/26 03:09 PM |
| 9 | Help me decideWhy aren’t you in a relationship after five months of dating? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/26 10:37 PM |
| 7 | worth wasting time with 20y guys?Meh, this guy is 35 and is going for a 22-year-old where he’s leading with his money. He knows it’s a risk so I’m not really crying myself a river for him if it doesn’t work out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/26 07:50 PM |
| 5 | worth wasting time with 20y guys?Well it depends on what your life goals are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/26 07:46 PM |
| 15 | I want to make sure he is serious about marrying me before I get any older. How do I broach the subject again for real this time?10 years from 18-28 is way different than 20 years from 28-38 for example. It’s normal for people who start dating in their teens to take a long time to get married. That being said, you are at the age where you need to know if continued investment is worth it. Ultimatums don’t work, also pushing him into it by asking about going to the store would feel weird and manipulative. He needs to decide willingly he wants to marry you and because he’s ready. You can’t convince this. Have you shared your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/26 07:54 PM |
| 2 | ResourcesThe wiki on this page :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/26 07:48 PM |
| 3 | New here, married, still dreading the wall?What is the plan to close the long-distance? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/26 10:49 PM |
| 7 | Lessons you wish you knewThat’s sad! Life is hard either way. Being single isn’t easy either! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/26 03:44 PM |
| 11 | Lessons you wish you knewIf we are talking beyond vetting and after marriage, the idea of giving up control is life changing. So many women think they can control their man into what they want by nagging, guilting, tracking him, or whatever methods. This always backfires as men need freedom like air. The more you control, the more they resist and try to assert themselves to prove to themselves they aren’t trapped and it’s a never ending power struggle. The move is acting unbothered by what they do. Don’t let them get un… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/26 03:39 PM |
| 14 | Lessons you wish you knewI read somewhere that divorced women 2 years out from a divorce are not happier than women who stayed in the marriage and that stuck with me. There can be an initial happiness rush upon leaving because it feels like freedom and empowerment but years down the line, it’s not this wonderful thing people make it out to be. Unless there is abuse or something extreme, leaving is not a magic cure all, you just have a new set of problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/26 03:33 PM |
| 13 | Do you tell people about your relationship issues ?I only seek advice from clergy. And they specifically tell me not to discuss with anyone else. No good will come from it, other people have horrible advice, or self-centered advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/26 01:37 PM |
| 6 | Did I hit a dead-end?Yeah I don’t think there’s one right way, people need to be flexible! I manage getting the bills paid and the budget to take it off my husband’s plate and he transfers me the funds every month. Works fine for us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/26 05:37 PM |
| 5 | Did I hit a dead-end?I agree that seeking legal advice is the best answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/26 03:34 PM |
| 42 | Did I hit a dead-end?Why is this so important to you that your finances are combined? My husband and I keep everything separate and I prefer it that way. It seems to me like you may be reading meaning into this, you say lack of trust and partnership, where that may not be the case. Do not, I repeat do not throw away a good thing over something like this. This is where the compromise in relationships comes in, we don’t get everything we want. As long as you think the financial arrangement itself is fair in terms of w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/26 03:23 PM |
| 5 | I'm 20 years old and I dream of being a 100% traditional and submissive wifeYou cannot promise her she won’t feel the same way when she’s in her late 20s. Maybe her perspective will change, but maybe it won’t. You truly don’t know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/26 02:48 PM |
| 52 | I'm 20 years old and I dream of being a 100% traditional and submissive wifeIt’s fine to have this goal but I hope you realize the reality is not likely what you are envisioning. The unspoken piece of this is that usually women expect to have a fulfilling love as part of it. That romantic part. What you could get instead is a narcissistic asshole who bosses you around with no love. Many men may not have your best interests at heart when they hear this. So be careful and be very smart as you look. Good luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/26 01:38 PM |
| – | Question about masculinity in the “red pill” space?Do you feel like he has to be the masculine one? If so, why? Not every relationship is going to follow red pill principles and that's just fine. This is just one model for relationships, it's not the ONLY model. We ladies here believe it's usually best but only because it's what most men and women want. Not ALL of them want it and there's plenty of successful relationships where the roles are reversed or more 50/50. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/26 09:15 PM |
| 4 | Told my fiance he's weak, can we get back from this?And this is the hill you decided to die on? If you want him back, apologize profusely and tell him it won't happen again. This is his mother figure. Unless she's being blatantly disrespectful to you, you let these things ride. I promise a wedding is one day, changing small details is not worth losing the marriage over. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/26 01:34 PM |
| 11 | No desire to do anything, possibly related to femininityThis sounds like depression. I was more like this in my 20s than 30s and now 40s. Being an adult is hard and perhaps it’s just hit you. Now …. Figure out how to make the best out of life and be your authentic self. It’s work, but it’s worth it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/26 03:18 AM |
| 9 | How do you even meet people to date?So you can’t say it doesn’t work if it hasn’t been up more than a week, it’s more like you just don’t like it. Finding a relationship takes work and commitment, just like finding a job, losing weight, getting fit, learning a new hobby, or something else we humans pursue. The large majority of people are not going to meet their perfect match without effort, whether it’s in person or online. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/26 07:14 PM |
| 10 | How do you even meet people to date?Say more about your experience on dating apps. Are you initiating conversations and asking them questions? Have you gone out on dates and how have those gone? I married my husband from dating apps and every serious long-term relationship I had from 25 on was from the apps so I never quite understand when people say it’s impossible to meet someone there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/26 03:05 PM |
| 8 | AITAH am I the villain for asking someone if they can afford to date??If it’s giving you the results you want then continue what you’re doing. If it’s not, there’s a better way, which is to actually just continue to date the guy and see what his actions are. If he pays for dates, you gave your answer. Super easy and polite. Then again I’m not sure if you know what the sub is about or our perspectives here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/26 09:07 PM |
| 12 | AITAH am I the villain for asking someone if they can afford to date??Do you think there’s a way you could figure out this information without asking it in that sort of direct way? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/26 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist?It’s good to be cautious. Casual dating and such harms women, period. But having such high expectations is likely to leave you single and lonely. Life isn’t a movie and to find that love, you have to go on dates, you have to be vulnerable. This love of your life isn’t just going to show up at your door someday. Also when you do find that guy, he IS going to have flaws. Your high expectations may leave you disappointed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/26 04:17 PM |
| 6 | Realized I’m the problem.. What’s one thing you swear by that made you a better wife?I still think empowered wife would be worth the read for you. I don’t see it as working woman specific. I’d call this priority #2 after fascinating womanhood. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/26 04:12 PM |
| 45 | Realized I’m the problem.. What’s one thing you swear by that made you a better wife?STFU. Seriously just be quiet. When we feel the need to complain, just be quiet. Quit constantly sharing how I feel, what I need, etc. It’s not all about me and honestly my husband needs quiet time. I’m working on just shutting up. Also it’s simple and effective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/26 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend doesn't want to be a providerWell what is a wife to you? That’s the agreement of marriage generally - financial provision, sexual provision, partnership. That’s why people get married. That’s why they negotiate that legal and religious agreement. That’s its purpose. If you don’t want to be a maid, don’t do it. No one can force you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/26 05:52 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend doesn't want to be a providerHonestly, this whole thing is weird to me. I never expected any financial exchange until marriage. In fact that’s a big part of getting married to begin with. You are doing things for him expecting something in return and that’s usually a recipe for resentment to build. Don’t do things expecting something in return. Honestly just pull back if you need. You aren’t his wife. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/26 04:59 PM |
| 19 | 24F. I am not sure if I want to continue my relationshipSweetie, you said the six months you lived with him were worst of your life. That’s all there is to say, there is no going forward from this. At this point, you are just wasting your own time and youth. Please save yourself more lost time and end it. If you don’t, you will be 40 years old saying the 15 years you lived with him were the worst of your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/26 08:29 PM |
| 19 | am i (24F) running out of time?So even if you could skip to marriage, it would not solve your problems because marriage is a ton of work and you have to actively choose it every day. Marriage is not the security people think it is, people end marriages every day. It takes effort to keep it going. Your avoidant, lazy dating behavior would just become avoidant, lazy behavior toward your husband. So this is something you need to fix not just to find a husband but to make sure that if you do get married, it will be successful. Fi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/26 05:04 PM |
| 3 | How do I (24F) ask a guy (28M) I've been talking to for 6 months “what are we?” without ruining things?YOU shouldn't want to be exclusive in this situation with a guy you haven't met or even know there would be some real world opportunity to make work. There is no benefit in this to you other than wasting your time and limiting your opportunities to actually find someone local who you can have a real relationship with. Women think they have some sort of security with exclusivity but if you are long distance, you don't. It means nothing without a plan to actually be together. All it does is calm y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/26 04:11 PM |
| 1 | What Phases Do Men Over 40 Go Through?The downvotes may be because no one asked about only single men in their 40s, the question was about men in their 40s in general. Many are married with families. If the context is dating, then yeah many 40s men you will come across seem nuts... but that's not because most men in this age group are nuts, that's just because dating is wild and people act crazy online/in dating scenarios. This is true of men in their 20s, 30s, and I'd bet 50s and 60s as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/26 03:49 PM |
| 1 | What Phases Do Men Over 40 Go Through?I believe there is truly no one size fits all, or even trends here. When I was younger, I had hopes that men would mature and grow into their 40s, grow up so to speak, but when I look at the men I've known (e.g. exs), that really didn't happen. Mostly they doubled down on who they were and their bad habits even more so into the 40s. For example, my non-committal ex of 10 years at 31 said he wanted marriage and kids and had a kind loving heart but his actions never lined up with that. He was a se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/26 03:31 PM |
| 5 | Red Pill Men Experience the Anger Phase. Red Pill Women Experience the Hopeless Phase.It’s not sunshine and rainbows, marriage is proving to be hard work and even harder I think being older. But there’s never “no one out there.” Men always want women, even in the nursing homes lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/26 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill Men Experience the Anger Phase. Red Pill Women Experience the Hopeless Phase.Have you indeed become a single mother by choice? How is it going? Have you self reflected on what your flaws are/were in relationships? I admit I struggle with the same feelings you do even though I married. The feelings that women have to compromise so much for men, the resentment toward the previous men who’ve been outright abusive or even just shitty partners. On my bad days, I still feel this way. But on my good days, I look at myself and realize I’m not perfect either and contributed to my… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/26 11:26 PM |
| 5 | Red Pill Men Experience the Anger Phase. Red Pill Women Experience the Hopeless Phase.I did think about body count and purposely left it out because I hate the topic, but you are absolutely right for many women this is a huge obsession during this phase. Probably should add it with an edit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/26 11:57 PM |
| 8 | Red Pill Men Experience the Anger Phase. Red Pill Women Experience the Hopeless Phase.I hear you. I came here at 37 and also thought it was too late. Now I’m 42 and married for the first time, thanks to this group. Step back and realize that RPW is a recipe to improve your LIFE and that can be done at any time. In the grand scheme of life, 28 is young. Do at 28 what you think you might regret not doing when you are 38. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/26 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill Men Experience the Anger Phase. Red Pill Women Experience the Hopeless Phase.Thanks for chiming in. The last paragraph really brings it home! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/26 03:29 PM |
| 7 | Red Pill Men Experience the Anger Phase. Red Pill Women Experience the Hopeless Phase.The correct answer indeed is usually the middle ground which of course is not as sensational and therefore may not always get as much traction as the nuanced truth! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/26 10:06 PM |
| 1 | [30F] with [40M] feeling checked out after years of imbalance and broken trust. Do I try again or prepare to leave?So what stood out to me is you said you want him to be who he SAID he would be in the beginning. But has he ever actually been that person? Sex addiction is very serious. Is he committed to changing for himself though and not just for you? Because if it’s for you alone, he won’t conquer it. Men can make promises about who they want to be either because they know it’s what you want to hear or because in their mind somewhere they think they want to be that person but they are either not capable or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/26 04:08 PM |
| 26 | Oral sex vs. penetrative sexI don’t need to read a sub, I’ve sucked plenty of dicks to know at my age, I’m assuming more than you. Sorry to be graphic but we value actual real world experience here, not just what people are reading on Reddit subs or one man’s perspective on his own body or preferences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/26 05:09 PM |
| 17 | Oral sex vs. penetrative sexNo it’s not. Some men can struggle but most make it to the finish line just fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/26 05:04 PM |
| 58 | Oral sex vs. penetrative sexOral is just about him - you are servicing him, pampering him. He doesn't have to do much work, he just lays back and gets taken care of. WIth penetration, he has to do more work and also tries to make you feel good. This is more of a mutual act of enjoyment you experience together so is about both of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/26 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Finding my footing again (23f)🩷 | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/26 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Finding my footing again (23f)All you can do is keep trying and give it time. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Go slow, take a date or two at most a month, and keep focusing on yourself and your life. You are not going to be able to replace this guy right away which we tend to want to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/26 04:14 PM |
| 13 | Trying to discern prudence vs fear in a post divorce leaderEh, I don't want to say anything bad about your partner but this would give me the ick. It would make me feel he is not a confident, in control man, that he'd trust Chat GTP over his own judgement. It sounds like a hurt man who is thinking that if he uses some model for relationships, he can avoid the reoccurrence of another failed relationship. And while learning to improve is good, unfortunately we also can't prepare for everything in life. Some relationships just fail. What you need to ask yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/26 04:06 PM |
| 5 | Wait for a better environment to date, or try it out here?Yes 100% be honest with guys. Let them know you are new to dating. I do think at 19 in college, a lot of people know that their paths are going to go a lot of different directions and life circumstances are pretty temporary at that point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/26 04:56 PM |
| 13 | Wait for a better environment to date, or try it out here?I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, dating is a skill that you need to learn. Start dating and get practice with how that whole process goes so that once you’re serious, you’ll be more ready. We see so many posts from women who say oh I’m 30 something and I’ve never dated and now I have no idea what I’m doing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/26 10:01 PM |
| 1 | My husband says he is done and has nothing to give.….. and you don’t get to hug or be intimate with office workers :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/26 09:55 PM |
| 14 | My husband says he is done and has nothing to give.I’m glad things are improving on your side, give it time. Things like loading the dishwasher should not blow up into major fights. Honestly, if he’s loading the dishwasher at all, just shut up and don’t say a thing. These are the sorts of controlling behaviors we just have to let go off, that is it if you want that hug. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/26 02:02 AM |
| 12 | My husband says he is done and has nothing to give.What are your "blow ups" about? What reoccurring topics? Also, it's been 3 weeks. You've been this was for 9+ years. It's going to take a long to time to rebuild. Quit thinking you have to "exit this marriage now if it's not going to work." We all want quick fixes but this type of thing just isn't going to be that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/26 07:10 PM |
| 26 | 29F dating 28M – am I giving “GF benefits” without the title?This sounds like a lot of words for excuse making. Just discuss it. Nothing good comes from not doing that. It really should’ve been done before sex. Truthfully even when I was engaged I wouldn’t have my fiance coming in at 11pm. I’d just be sleeping. You are sending the wrong message without boundaries in place. And everyone knows needing a bedtime is a reasonable boundary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/26 10:52 PM |
| 42 | What do you think the problem is with current women's media, and what do you wish it was like instead?The problem is really the extremes. You’re either a tradwife or a boss bitch who needs no man, there’s no in the middle which in reality is where the majority of women stand. There’s no nuance allowed. The only views celebrated are at the extremes. As an older person I can see through the bullshit, but I worry for the younger women as it’s very damaging. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/26 04:36 PM |
| 2 | New To ThisYou’ll be reading for a long time now lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/26 03:21 AM |
| 7 | Do men resent women who help them some way?You have two different questions here: 1) Does he resent you, and 2) Did you make a mistake helping him because now he seems to be taking advantage of it and not giving back to you/the relationship? On 1, you don't say anything about him expressing resentment. You'd need to give more detail on why you think this. On 2, yes if he's not giving back to you, you may be creating a mother/child dynamic by caring for him and not expecting or demanding anything in return. This isn't a long term receipe … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/26 03:48 PM |
| 153 | You're not marrying a millionaire, so stop worrying about it.Dying laughing!! Here’s the thing, you could end up being married to a millionaire, but they won’t be a millionaire when you marry them. You marry them when they don’t have much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/26 06:17 PM |
| 8 | Why didn't men want to date successful women in their 30sThe issue is you not having the time specifically, not having a career. I have a great corporate career but also great work life balance and no man has ever seen it as a negative. The issue seems to be specifically the lack of time. A busy man doesn’t have the patience to try to coordinate with your schedule, they want a woman who is easily available when it fits into THEIR schedule. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/26 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Did your man want an independent woman or did he want to be needed?Glad you got valuable feedback! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/26 09:31 PM |
| 16 | Is it worth it to date as a teen?At 17, I’d say yes. At 13-15 I’d say no. Just really set your boundaries and hold firm because when you start dating, you will believe every word that comes out of a man’s mouth and we are so naive and hopeful as women. Take dating very slowly at your age, get to know someone and become friends first. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/26 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Did your man want an independent woman or did he want to be needed?A BDSM page is probably better to help with this. While there can be overlap with red pill ideologies, it’s not as much as you might think. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/26 07:05 PM |
| 2 | At what age do you think a woman’s “sexual market value” is highest and why?21 | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/26 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Did your man want an independent woman or did he want to be needed?It depends on how you define "independent." If you define it as earning your own money and working, then no not all men will expect that. But if by independent you mean competent and capable, and not needy, then yes most if not all men want this. Stay at home mom's require independence - they are running a home daily and need to be able to get shit done on their own while the husband is at work. Unless you have more of a BDSM dynamic where a man wants to be in total control, then it's unlikely m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/26 05:31 PM |
| 2 | Is the break up a blessing in disguise? Seeking advice.So again, why buy property with this man? Sounds like he left you and your problem is solved as far as the relationship goes. Figure out the property and move forward, prioritizing shared values in your next partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/26 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Can a man be “too sexual”? Worried about mismatched libido at some point in life and many fetishesI agree with that. It doesn’t make someone an addict for requiring a certain kink, but then they should select a partner who shares that kink and not try to expect that from someone who does not. I feel like it is on the kinky partner to select for that, not try to convince someone else to do it if they’re not interested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/26 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Is the break up a blessing in disguise? Seeking advice.I’m sure you are aware of the religious guidance for Muslims marrying non-Muslim men (not halal) as well as the guidance on living together before marriage so I won’t get into that. If you want a traditional relationship, why for the life of you would you buy a condo with someone you are not married to? This is a massive commitment and provides them with no incentive to actually marry you or have children with you. I do have to believe there’s some disrespect on your part to him for him to end t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/26 06:25 PM |
| 8 | Can a man be “too sexual”? Worried about mismatched libido at some point in life and many fetishesUnfortunately I know far too much about this. There is a thing called sex addiction and it's a very rough road. Now I am not saying he has it, I couldn't tell from this, but I would say really look at how it impacts your relationship and lives. If he's just kinky and wants to try lots of things, and you are onboard, then great! That sounds like fun to me but I know not all women would love it. But if he HAS to have it, gets angry at you or neglects you if you don't provide it, turns to unhealthy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/26 03:37 PM |
| 1 | How to be happy when emotionally depleted/burnt out?Please don’t come at me for saying this, but perhaps you are depressed and need some help with. I don’t mean this as a judgmental thing, I’m someone who requires an SNRI to function. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/26 06:29 PM |
| 4 | How to be happy when emotionally depleted/burnt out?What do you like to do on the weekends when you have downtime? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/26 05:14 PM |
| 5 | How to be happy when emotionally depleted/burnt out?The answer to issues like this is always self-care. I know that probably feels like just another thing to do on your list, but it’s going to be important because you should be focusing on your happiness first. You cannot make your husband happy if you are not happy. I can’t say what this looks like for you because it’s different for everyone but you need to figure out how to make yourself happy. You need to figure out how to not take on the weight of the world’s problems. Again, I can’t quite te… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/26 04:51 PM |
| 3 | New To ThisAlso where NOT to go is the red pill men's sub. Seriously, stay away and focus on this page. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/26 04:19 PM |
| 2 | New To ThisIt is on desktop :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/26 04:18 PM |
| 4 | Advice for Tomboyish Woman Who Has Mainly Dated Other Women?Got it! Yes that makes sense, and not all men who want to be leaders are created equal in terms of what they are looking for. First, I would say you'll want to vet for a guy who is more liberal and open minded in general. A conservative guy is probably not the best fit for you and will be less accepting of your past dating history. I would tell them when it comes up naturally in conversation, not too early and not too late. In the first handful of dates I find people tend to touch lightly on dat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/26 08:46 PM |
| 4 | Advice for Tomboyish Woman Who Has Mainly Dated Other Women?I presume so too, I’m just curious about the reasons why. It can be a hard adjustment! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/26 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Waiting until marriage questionThey may date you but in my experience, men who are religious get more religious with age which makes sense given mortality and thinking about the afterlife. So you could find a younger man who is ok with you not being religious changes his mind as he ages and/or pressures you to take on his religion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/26 03:59 PM |
| 3 | New To ThisAlso start with the Beginners Checklist | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/26 03:56 PM |
| 6 | Advice for Tomboyish Woman Who Has Mainly Dated Other Women?Let's start off with - do you want a male led relationship and if so, why? Despite what you see here, you don't have to be ultra feminine looking to do it, it's not a requirement. But I am curious as to what you want out of a relationship in terms of leadership. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/26 03:55 PM |
| 8 | New To ThisStart by reading through everything on our wiki. There’s a lot and that will take you quite a bit of time. There’s also a reading guide if you’re looking for a specific books but none of those are going to give you as thorough of an overview as the wiki will. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/26 02:36 PM |
| 3 | Waiting until marriage questionWell it was his decision and I respect him so I respected it. It was pretty much that simple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/26 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Waiting until marriage questionVery true! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/26 10:41 PM |
| 1 | I’m with a good man, i’m near the wall, but he wants to continue living in the state we relocated to and it’s nearly unbearable for me. To stay and be tolerably unhappy, or go and find a man who isn’t so passive?Can you please send the link to where you saw this because this doesn’t seem true… my guess is what it says is a lot more nuanced. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/26 06:33 PM |
| 29 | Waiting until marriage questionI don’t want to be negative but it’s highly unlikely to find a non-religious man who will do this. Men are going to want to see if there’s sexual compatibility there before they make such a serious commitment. Furthermore, a non-religious man who is willing to make a commitment like this to me as a red flag. They very often have sexual issues which is why they’re willing to make this agreement in the first place - things like being asexual, being homosexual, having erectile dysfunction, porn add… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/26 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Do RP men actually treat women as disposables the way they describe it on their sub?He’s venting, that’s what RP men do over there. It’s not intended for you to read so don’t. It’s just that, an angry vent of things he can’t say anywhere else to get off just chest. And it’s likely not representative of his overall feelings anyhow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/26 04:15 PM |
| 15 | Went on a first date yesterday, not sure how I’m feelingYeah, expecting someone 6 foot at 5’3” is just completely laughable. Some of my worst dating stories were of guys over 6 foot. This is something that completely doesn’t matter in a relationship over time. I guess that it impacts initial attraction, but that goes away so fast. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/26 04:03 PM |
| 5 | I’m with a good man, i’m near the wall, but he wants to continue living in the state we relocated to and it’s nearly unbearable for me. To stay and be tolerably unhappy, or go and find a man who isn’t so passive?So … you are assuming some random guy you don’t know yet will what, only date 21 year olds? Even if he’s 30? Or 35? Men are not this simple. They don’t look for youth only and not care about anything else. They want lots of different things. Obsessing about age as if it’s the only factor in life is not good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/26 02:36 PM |
| 31 | I’m with a good man, i’m near the wall, but he wants to continue living in the state we relocated to and it’s nearly unbearable for me. To stay and be tolerably unhappy, or go and find a man who isn’t so passive?Reading nothing else, look again at this statement. "If I was younger like 25 I think I’d leave in a heartbeat. But I have very low hopes for dating at my now age (28) and feel like I have no time anyways." If you would have left at 25, leave at 28. This is a 3 years difference, I know it seems like a lot to you now but in the grand scheme of life it is not. You'll feel worse at 35, at 40, and so on. But are you being honest with yourself that you would have really left at 25?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/26 06:24 PM |
| 5 | Late 20s F — assertive, confrontational, from a patriarchal culture. Am I setting myself up for toxic relationships?Finding the right guy is HARD. It takes way more effort and emotional maturity to stay calm than to result to abusive tactics and frankly many men in their 20s just don’t have the self control yet. It sounds like you’ve had successful peaceful relationships so figure out what worked there and try to recreate it. I do bet there is room for you to improve though. Figure out when to STFU, how to deescalate. This doesn’t mean allowing abusive behavior but it does mean picking your battles, letting s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/26 04:17 PM |
| 3 | Do I stay?You asked how do you know if God wants you to be with your fiance. First, this isn't a religious page so you aren't going to get answers on religion. Best you find guidance from your faith. But second, you already had a child with your partner. It kind of seems like that ship has sailed. I am not saying you have to stay or marry him because you have a child but you are asking a question pretty late in the game where you have very few options. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/26 04:01 PM |
| 5 | 28 and still singleWhat are other ways you have tried to meet men? While we shouldn’t approach men randomly, you also can’t rely on other people to do this for you. You have to take destiny into your own hands. With this particular guy, he’s either not interested in you, doesn’t want to make a move because you two work together, or is being respectful simply because you are a Muslim woman and he doesn’t want to cross any lines. I feel like if you want to pursue him, you’re going to have to be a little direct at th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/26 01:47 AM |
| 9 | A redpill newbie and late bloomer, just saying helloWelcome Kayla! It’s never too late, I just got married for the first time at 42. Thanks for introducing yourself! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/26 01:42 AM |
| 8 | SAHM/business manFirst off, let me say your husband was wrong. I feel like he took out his anger on you on the child to prove his point and this is dangerous. That said, if you want to stay in the relationship.... You are focusing WAY too much on what your husband is or is not doing and not enough on your side. If you've read Laura Doyle, you will hear about staying on your own paper. Saying things like "he does it, so why can't I" is only going to piss you off. It's not that you are wrong in saying it, but it d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/26 06:36 PM |
| 7 | Boyfriend says he’s RP but I’m worried it’s actually toxic behaviorI agree! I would also add, they should be discussed naturally in a relationship and not called "RP values." In other words, if a guy said to me anything with the words "red pill," it would be a red flag. He should be able to talk about our relationship and our goals as two adults, not with some weird label on it. Labeling it tells me he's online too much and can't articulate himself in the real world and is a total turn off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/26 06:12 PM |
| 7 | Boyfriend says he’s RP but I’m worried it’s actually toxic behaviorI think both of you don't have a relationship based in reality. He can't provide, still lives AT HOME, wants you to "obey" (which is not words that are used in any healthy relationship), and has some fantasy about what making money would do (which it wouldn't because you are still a human being with your own preferences). The "you aren't ready to be protected" actually made me laugh. Meanwhile you have a SAHM fantasy that you aren't facing reality cannot and will not ever be fulfilled by this gu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/26 06:05 PM |
| 4 | Practical ways to show more gratitude?Hi there, I married quickly (though at more than double your age!) so here is my advice: Your goal to "remove any question from him" is not something realistic or that you should focus on. We have to stay in our lanes and focus on ourselves; you can't control how he feels. You can control how you act, but he may still feel some way at times and as long as you have done your best, it's normal for him to have some off moments. He's human. So what CAN you do? First, saying thank you is a lot. You d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/26 04:17 PM |
| 6 | Am I asking for too much? Sweet guy but gives uncertainty.You are pretending. If you have time to post and respond here, you have time to answer or return a call. But you’ll have to learn these lessons as you make mistakes and learn. At least that how I did (and continue to grow). | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/26 10:54 PM |
| 19 | Am I asking for too much? Sweet guy but gives uncertainty.You are asking too much for one month into dating. I know it’s hard and anxiety can get the best of us but he doesn’t owe you something just because you want it. I wouldn’t ask this of my husband for BV. I know you are young but this is where we have to learn to regulate our emotions. You can’t let anxiety get the best of you. And now you are playing games by ignoring his calls and pretending to be busy while posting about him here when you both promised not to game play. Just chill out, be norm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/26 07:35 PM |
| 2 | Settling: is it really what it seems?If you are happy then all good. But this page is here because we all agree that male led relationships are best - this is not just a standard dating advice page and the way you describe this guy does not make him sound like a great male leader. I did not want you to think I was coming across as judgey, again if you are happy then more power to you, but just sharing why people responding to you may have the perspective that they have, because we tend to like a certain type of guy here. Based on y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 10:43 PM |
| 3 | Settling: is it really what it seems?I will talk about settling in general and then move on to YOUR situation. Do most women settle? I don't think so. Should more women settle? Yes I think they should. Less women are getting married and having kids then ever before. Books like "Marry Him: the Case for Settling..." are being written to encourage women to be realistic if they want to be married. Most women have standards that are way too high, but in the wrong ways. They set high standards for money and looks but have low standards i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 03:25 PM |
| 10 | Hi! Do men prefer hot or cute?You can be both in different contexts. The combination is the best. Let's be real, Disney Princesses are hot, albeit in a more G rated way then some insta girl. Guys will lust over the insta girl but they don't marry her. Still too cutsey is childlike and not sexy. Also innocent IS and CAN BE hot. So based on this statement, I don't think he was calling you cute. Still the best bet is the combination. Men need to be sexually attracted to you. But so much of this is in the personality and girl ga… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 03:13 PM |
| 4 | F29 going out with M28. tattoos, RMV, and mixed signalsSo I converted to my husband's religion and it's not like yours (where you are both Christian but different denominations), I grew up Christian, stopped practicing around 18, and converted to Islam now in my 40s (with interest and exploration into it in my 30s). It's been one of the best things I've ever done, and yours would even be easier, so please don't let the older generation bias you when they don't quite get how the world is now. The biggest thing you need to figure out if the physical p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 03:06 PM |
| 2 | F29 going out with M28. tattoos, RMV, and mixed signalsThen I'd bet this is what u/RedPillDad mentioned which is inexperience and shyness/fear. I'm not sure I would say baptists are not accepting of outsiders? Probably Orthodox would be more like that than baptists... But you are both Christians that seems like a win. Then again, depending where in the world you are, these things can get complicated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 02:54 PM |
| 2 | F29 going out with M28. tattoos, RMV, and mixed signalsIs he Muslim by chance? Just asking because both physical activity and tattoos are religiously prohibited… although I don’t think the tattoos are relevant to this conversation really at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 03:55 AM |
| 5 | He isn’t sure about meMen love attention, specifically female attention. He just wants attention and companionship, it makes him feel good, and he gets it while having to give nothing or very little. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 02:53 AM |
| 3 | He isn’t sure about meI keep my DMs closed just because of weirdo guys, Sorry! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 02:26 AM |
| 6 | He isn’t sure about meI’m sorry, it seems like there’s lots of barriers. I think he’s just wasting your time. Regardless of the reasons, this doesn’t seem like it can move forward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 02:25 AM |
| 8 | He isn’t sure about meI think the first mistake you made was going to his city. You say it was a clear boundary that he come to you yet you went to him anyway, so it wasn’t a clear boundary. You showed him from the very beginning you were willing to break your own rules for him. The second mistake you made was agreeing to become exclusive again to someone who haven’t spent much time with. What did he do in advance to earn this exclusivity? Did he actually come to you in person and beg? If all he did was start talking… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 01:33 AM |
| 3 | He isn’t sure about meCan you say what your community is? Because in more specific communities like this, you are supposed to get very very quickly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/26 01:30 AM |
| 3 | How to avoid a sexual encounter when we’re gonna be at the same houseYes, this was very clearly “ hey you don’t have to sleep with me, let’s just spend time together” followed up by “ i’m not looking for a relationship though so whatever happens, don’t take it to mean anything.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/26 03:35 PM |
| 3 | Wealthy man with different valuesI think this is a little dramatic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/26 03:04 PM |
| 5 | How to avoid a sexual encounter when we’re gonna be at the same houseI disagree on this one. Her saying “I’m not staying the night” is enough. It’s weird to say “also I’m not having sex with you.” It sounds presumptive. He will know what she means when she says she’s not staying the night. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/26 11:06 PM |
| 5 | How to avoid a sexual encounter when we’re gonna be at the same houseI am unclear also what OP wants. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/26 11:01 PM |
| 6 | How to avoid a sexual encounter when we’re gonna be at the same houseThis is what we call "shit tests" in RP terminology and it's bad advice. There is no reason to set a man up for failure. Men are not bad for wanting sex and putting them through these shit tests are only bound to frustrate them and backfire on you. Best to avoid such a conflict to begin with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/26 08:48 PM |
| 8 | How to avoid a sexual encounter when we’re gonna be at the same houseI think you should have some ideas about these things going into date. Generally sleeping over somewhere means you are open to sex so I wouldn't stay over unless you want to be sexual with him. Rejecting him is going to do more damage than just not staying the night at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/26 08:33 PM |
| 9 | How to avoid a sexual encounter when we’re gonna be at the same houseWhat is your goal? Are you looking for marriage or a short-term relationship? Do you plan to or want to have sex with him? All of these factors make a difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/26 06:50 PM |
| 1 | What I’ve Learned About “Self-care” in the first 3 Months of MarriageI’m glad it helped, I also have a long way to go to become the after version of me too!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Waiting until 25 to date?It’s terrifying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 03:15 PM |
| 2 | I've been doing lots of reflections and noticing that some of the men (M30s) I (F25) date come on super super strong early on then they immediately pull back and I'm trying to understand what I'm doing wrong?I very much agree and have met men that are in their late 40s still saying maybe they want kids someday!! It’s funny as young women we are so worried about scaring men off when actually we should be scaring the right men off so we can attract the right ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Joining with a high paying job, and grew up without a fatherGo through and do all the readings of the books. Really start with the basics. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 02:13 AM |
| 8 | Waiting until 25 to date?Young women today are so confused 😕 | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 01:40 AM |
| 10 | Waiting until 25 to date?This is like us saying we’d cook and clean from 6 am to 10pm straight for our celebrity crush. It’s not real life, it’s banter. I’m honestly really worried for your generation of girls, you guys pick yourself apart so bad. It’s quite sad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/26 01:37 AM |
| 11 | I've been doing lots of reflections and noticing that some of the men (M30s) I (F25) date come on super super strong early on then they immediately pull back and I'm trying to understand what I'm doing wrong?Men don't do well with hints. It is best to be direct. There are lots of ways you can say it without sounding too demanding and if you are online dating, it should for sure be on your profile. You can say you are traditional, like traditional gender roles, are "a little old fashioned when it comes to relationships" (a line I used a lot), are "looking for your person," or whatever else. But playing the cool girl never gets you the guy. Why do you think coming off too strong is a problem? A man wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/26 07:57 PM |
| 21 | I've been doing lots of reflections and noticing that some of the men (M30s) I (F25) date come on super super strong early on then they immediately pull back and I'm trying to understand what I'm doing wrong?I'm sorry to come off as negative but these men just are looking for sex. They come on strong at first because they are trying to win you over to have a casual relationship. They back off either because they got the sex or realize they aren't going to get sex. Sure it is possible there are some that backed off for some other reason like something you are doing specifically, we can't know that without knowing you as a person. How are you vetting them as relationship material? Are you making your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/26 07:14 PM |
| 17 | Worried I will come off as career driven or too educated when I’m not. Should I avoid a masters try to change into a helping career?Look, one thing I've learned (and I recently posted about) as an older newlywed is that - relationships work best when you keep the focus on yourself. Do not change your career path because you have some idea of what a man who you don't even know yet may or may not want. DO WHAT MAKES YOUR SOUL HAPPY. If that's a helping field, great. If it's working your corporate job and just making money and spending your spare time pursuing your passions, then do that. Honestly a job like nursing is physical… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/26 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Should a guy visit your city as opposed to you going to his for a first date?Did he give you a reason why he can’t come to you? Did you ask? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/26 10:16 PM |
| 2 | I feel like not being ready to have kids is holding me back in relationshipsSo you won’t say your age or where you live… how do you expect others to help?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/26 12:53 AM |
| 8 | Should I spend more time with him or not?I think you shouldn’t expect a guy at this age to change. Change is possible when someone wants it but he’s not going to change just because he gets married and has children. This is something many men tell themselves when they aren’t serious about actually making a change - change comes from within, not because of our external circumstances. Also, he’s 44, if he wants kids, shouldn’t he be doing that like today? Sperm declines with age too. How long have you been dating? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/26 07:20 PM |
| 2 | I feel like not being ready to have kids is holding me back in relationshipsWhere are you located? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/26 05:48 PM |
| 13 | I feel like not being ready to have kids is holding me back in relationshipsThis is a very long post for something that’s not actually that complicated. The majority of people in the world want sex and love (meaning romantic love here). There’s no way around it, you are going to have a tough road if these are not things you want because this is the primary reason men get into a relationship. I don’t mean to be rude but I don’t think you’re going to find what you’re looking for on our sub. It doesn’t seem like the place for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/26 05:27 PM |
| 1 | What I’ve Learned About “Self-care” in the first 3 Months of MarriageIt is truly such a fine balance between of course caring about your husband and meeting their needs but making sure you care about yourself more and don’t make them the center of everything. It’s hard for me to do but I’m working on it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/26 05:22 PM |
| 4 | Should a guy visit your city as opposed to you going to his for a first date?I personally think it’s low effort. Unless there’s some extenuating circumstance, he should come to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/26 12:44 AM |
| 4 | Is hanging out with a guy and giving him status through having a girlfriend a value red pill women can provide men?Yeah, I can totally see a man wanting a woman who reflects positively on him in society, but I do think that that’s different than what OP seems to be talking about which is just a man being seen in public with a woman. Agree there’s a lot of nuance here! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/26 03:10 AM |
| 18 | Is hanging out with a guy and giving him status through having a girlfriend a value red pill women can provide men?For a high value man or to achieve what you are saying the men on the red pill subs want, they don’t want to be just seen with one woman, they want to be seen with many different women. They want others to know they can get lots of different women. Therefore I don’t really see this as a “resource” for us to give, at least not in a way that is beneficial for us. Because it’s very short term, they want to be seen with you once or twice but then they are over it. I’m not even sure if this is much o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/26 02:38 AM |
| 3 | What I’ve Learned About “Self-care” in the first 3 Months of MarriageEsther is great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/26 05:45 PM |
| 3 | I'm consistently being called "independent" by men I go on first dates with and I'm wondering if this is pushing them away and how to change thatI totally agree with this, she’s reading too much into the term. I’ve always been told on dating that I’m “independent” - but this was more true in my 20s because I guess it’s expected of a woman in their 30s who is single that she has to be independent where as in their 20s maybe women are still living at home or partying or whatever else these guys are coming across when they’re dating others. u/significant_cut_1092 OP, when these guys say you are independent, they basically just mean you have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/26 05:34 PM |
| 3 | What I’ve Learned About “Self-care” in the first 3 Months of MarriageThis is it. We have to make ourselves happy …. And most of the time they don’t care about the things we think they do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/26 10:52 PM |
| 2 | What I’ve Learned About “Self-care” in the first 3 Months of MarriageYes! Honestly his eating isn’t your responsibility. Best to focus on you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/26 10:50 PM |
| 4 | What I’ve Learned About “Self-care” in the first 3 Months of MarriageWe got married nine months after meeting (though we had talked for about six months before on and off) so we didn’t really have a standard western engagement period. Religiously it was important to us to get married quickly so we weren’t having (too much!) premarital sex. We were both on the same page about this so I didn’t need to convince him, there was no him running problem. That’s my biggest advice, find someone that’s on the same page with you. After six months, we started planning what we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/26 06:43 PM |
| 1 | What I’ve Learned About “Self-care” in the first 3 Months of Marriage😭😭 | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/26 06:40 PM |
| 5 | What I’ve Learned About “Self-care” in the first 3 Months of MarriageYes, exactly, this is a perfect example! I was having this reaction where when I told him I was making dinner and he told me he was going to eat elsewhere, I was so angry. Then I realized this was my problem. So now I cook what I want when I’m in the mood to. Sometimes, like last night, he came home and I was making maple baked chicken and roasted potatoes and he just happened to need to eat and we ate together, but I totally expected and made the food assuming I would eat it on my own. I make a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/26 06:03 PM |
| 11 | What I’ve Learned About “Self-care” in the first 3 Months of MarriageI feel like it’s definitely in our nature as women to lean toward the obsessive side of things while our husbands are just totally confused about what the hell we are thinking 😆 30 years is an amazing accomplishment so you clearly are doing lots of things right! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/26 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Do men really treat older women as they describe on the internet?No they don't. I got married in Sept at 42 to a 35 year old. We had a shorter than typical courtship (religious guidance) so met when we were 41 and 34. There are men that will target older women for hook-ups having some sort of cougar fantasy so you do have to be on the lookout for that, but I know you weren't asking about age gap dating here... Men will say these things online out of anger and frustration but they are not likely to treat you that way in real life. Stay off any places where you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/26 04:36 PM |
| 5 | Can RPW cause a 180° change?The good thing is, you don’t need intuition, it’s a skill you can learn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/26 02:16 PM |
| 4 | Can RPW cause a 180° change?Yes it can, but it’s a lot of work, it’s going to make you uncomfortable based on the fact that it seems like you give yourself away to easily probably to seek some sort of validation. I’m not sure if I had a 180 change but for sure close to it! But I would agree with others that RPW alone may not do it. Therapy, religion, a 12 step program, or whatever other support works for your lifestyle is something I would recommend for a well rounded perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/26 02:15 PM |
| 8 | Is this okay?You’ve come to the wrong place I’m afraid if you’re asking the question if something “is OK or not.” It’s a little bit of an irrelevant question because if we say no it’s not OK, then what are you going to do about it? The question you need to be asking yourself is what are you willing to do about a behavior that makes you uncomfortable. And that is something you have to answer, we can’t really help you with. However, you married someone 24 years older. I’m all for more minor age gaps, but somet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/26 03:09 PM |
| 15 | Had my date plans cancelled and unmatched from dating appI don’t think this guy wanted a housewife, I think he was saying that because he knows it will get him women. Even if a guy wants a stay at home mom, they’re not going to lead with that to a stranger on a dating app. My advice is see these sorts of things as red flags and hold your cards a little closer to the chest. Also, this is just how I’m online dating goes, I’m sorry to say you’re likely to experience this many many times. You have to have really thick skin. But no risk, no reward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/26 03:06 PM |
| 11 | Wanting to talk politics vs wanting to be willfully ignorantHis problem of not having male friends isn’t yours to fix. If this was me (and it is with my husband on other topics) I let him know softly I don’t want to walk about it, it doesn’t bring me joy, and then if he brings it up again I either remind him or sort of grey rock (not being rude but just say ok hon, don’t seem interested, and do something else). You will get resentful or worse, create arguments if you don’t stay true to your needs. Again don’t be rude, but also it’s ok to just say “I can’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/26 07:33 PM |
| 9 | Wanting to talk politics vs wanting to be willfully ignorantSo if I’m understanding correctly, he wants to talk to you about politics but you’d prefer not to, do I have that right? If so, have you expressed that him? Like “hey hon, I don’t enjoy talking about politics. I know it’s your thing but I just can’t.” What does he say then? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/26 07:14 PM |
| – | What do I do?Listen to Delia’s response! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/26 02:25 PM |
| 18 | What do I do?I asked because the sub focuses on relationships where the man is the leader. If you had a man who was a very strong leader outside the bedroom but had this kink inside the bedroom, we might be able to give you advice but if you are leading both outside and now trying for inside the bedroom too, the women here are unlikely to be able to relate because the only goal we all have in common is finding men who are leaders. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/26 12:02 AM |
| 8 | What do I do?What are the rest of your relationship dynamics like? Is he a leader in your relationship or do you lead outside of the bedroom also? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/26 11:55 PM |
| 5 | I sometimes feel like me and my partner are stagnantIn this case, I would just think about his needs. What does he enjoy, what does he like to do? If he likes staying in then can you get behind that sort of lifestyle? My favorite time with my husband is our time usually between 830 and 1000 when we watch a show together on the couch and occasionally pause it to crack a joke or go down some rabbit hole conversation based on something we saw. Mundane things can be great, it’s just about how you think about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/26 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Confident vixen woman needs dating help!Mic drop, I couldn't have said it better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/26 02:53 PM |
| 7 | I sometimes feel like me and my partner are stagnantI think you are way overthinking this all. It is good to be strategic but you also need to be agile and flexible. Relationships change a lot after the first few months - you go from honeymoon courting to longer-term companionship. A boyfriend of 2 years for example isn't going to send flowers constantly, these things are bound to change and it's normal. The mistakes I see you making are: Jumping to cutting things off. This is likely to have created long-term damage in his mind. Loyalty is KEY to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/26 02:48 PM |
| 3 | Confident vixen woman needs dating help!Are you sleeping with these men before being ghosted? What sort of dates are you going on? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/26 01:48 AM |
| 3 | Dealing with my husbands new panty rules and looking for adviceTry victoria’s Secret cheeky panties. I’m not sure if they will show her or not, but I find them modest and still sexy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/25 03:42 PM |
| 18 | How to find motivation to keep improving yourself for a manThe most simple answer is to improve yourself for yourself, not for a man. Yes there may be improvements you are making because it will be beneficial to your relationship, but it will also probably be beneficial to many other areas of your life as well. If you are religious, you can also intend to make these changes for God which gives you a bigger purpose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/25 04:27 PM |
| 4 | How do you see the traditional wife role—toughest job or easiest path?I was a nanny for 4 years (starting shifts in the early hours in the morning) to several wealthy families and now have a career. While I know being a nanny has FAR less demands than a stay home mom (who is 24/7 on, dealing with her children overnight, trying to meet the needs of her husband, etc), here’s my take on these paths from semi-living them: Being a mom is physically demanding in a way I don’t think a lot of people understand. The constant carrying of babies, fighting through your fatigu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/25 04:11 PM |
| 26 | Lauren Sanchez - Married 3x now to a Billionaire - strategyStrong downvote. These guys could always get a younger, more beautiful woman. The secret isn’t looks here because they have infinite options. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/25 02:06 AM |
| 8 | What is the most attractive bmi ?I mean, this is really in the eye of the male beholder. I have been with men who prefer that I’m more thick with curves and I’ve been with men who prefer a more athletic figure. Men prefer pretty different things. Of course no one prefers obese but some like very thin and some like a little more meat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/25 04:25 PM |
| 44 | I (30 F) feel like I'm running out of timeYou can take an Uber, you can order in, and no man has ever asked my credit score. Time to take the red pill and realize you are avoiding dating for other reasons than these very easily solvable ones. You have to get out there, you have to take risks, and you have to be willing to experience some heartbreak (many times a lot of it) to find happiness. The saying about kissing many frogs to find a prince is very true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/25 04:42 PM |
| 4 | Do most men really want a woman that brings them peace or do they like the chaos?Men say lots of things they don’t mean, you have to look at their actions not their words. He’s either lying to you to string you along or really thinks he wants that if he meets “the perfect woman,” which of course doesn’t exist so he will in reality remain single forever because no woman will ever measure up. In either case, it’s not about anything you can do to change things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/25 04:50 PM |
| 2 | How to show my husband respect?Did he just start watching red pill videos? When guys start talking about respect out of nowhere, this is usually why. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/25 03:38 PM |
| 11 | Do most men really want a woman that brings them peace or do they like the chaos?Look, this guy just doesn’t want a wife. That’s all there is to it. He wants to play around with little commitment fun and when it gets too real, he bails and goes onto the next one. Then after sometime he will come back to you because he knows he will give it another try and give him another couple months of sex before he can move on again and repeat the same cycle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/25 03:35 PM |
| 3 | Male friend shames me for going on dates with other peopleIf that’s the case then she needs to quit talking to him about all of this stuff if it’s working her up so much! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/25 06:23 PM |
| 6 | Male friend shames me for going on dates with other peopleDon’t be friends with men, especially young men. Acquaintances are fine, work friends are ok, but at this personal level? No. I’m not saying this from a moral standpoint that’s it’s bad or a trad standpoint, more so it just rarely works. Men are not women, they aren’t going to give you the type of friendship another woman can. We simply can’t relate to each other in terms of the struggles we go through, ESPECIALLY about dating/relationships. This is why for example we have separate red pill men … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/25 05:25 PM |
| 9 | What do we think about the « stay single in your (early) twenties » advice ?You are making so many assumptions here that are just wild. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/25 04:21 PM |
| 5 | When “normal” stops being functional and responsibility matters more than explanations?The problem with if he wants sex then he’s a fuckboi is that the men who legitimately don’t want sex at all have some sort of sexual problem that this woman is not going to be happy to receive if they get married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/25 03:54 PM |
| 5 | What do we think about the « stay single in your (early) twenties » advice ?I would love to see a picture of that tree lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/25 03:48 PM |
| 8 | What do we think about the « stay single in your (early) twenties » advice ?The most successful marriages I’ve seen are those where they meet young, specifically high school or early college sweethearts. Now did I want to do that? Hell no. I’m 42 and just got married, but this is clearly not the ideal path and wasn’t even for me. I still think if your goal is a successful marriage, it is the best way. I wouldn’t say get married in your early 20s but have a long-term partner you’re with for many years starting in your teens or 20s, this way you grow together. When you ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/25 03:42 PM |
| 3 | When “normal” stops being functional and responsibility matters more than explanations?Yeah. a common example we see here is the guy wants sex and so the woman thinks that’s all he wants and therefore counts him out. When the reality is that all men want sex and this doesn’t mean they don’t want a relationship necessarily. This can be such a common misunderstanding about what’s normal for men versus what women might think. And there’s a very good reason for women to be suspicious of course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/25 11:45 PM |
| 3 | When “normal” stops being functional and responsibility matters more than explanations?This is definitely what vetting is about, thanks for clarifying! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/25 10:56 PM |
| 5 | When “normal” stops being functional and responsibility matters more than explanations?I’m sorry, I have to say I’m not really sure what point you’re driving at. Are you trying to say select for a guy who puts in a high level of effort and has highly moral behaviors? I’m trying to understand this post along with your previous ones and admit it sounds like a rant that I’m having a hard time following… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/25 09:24 PM |
| 5 | How do you accept no physical contact before marriage when everything else feels right?I agree with this response most of all. There are legitimate religious reasons that people abstain from sex, and I will also point out that this religion could be other than Christianity, but in many cases it is the man covering up for something like being homosexual or asexual. We very commonly see posts from women who didn’t have sex before marriage and then were surprised when they got married that their man did not want to have sex with them. I totally agree with you that if he’s very horny … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/25 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Do you generally expect men to reach out to you in the beginning when online dating?I think this is why he unmatched. He took a risk trying to make it sexual, you weren’t into it, you acknowledged you weren’t into it by thanking him for his apology and “emotional intelligence,” and then you never messaged him again. He either was embarrassed or presumed his error made you uninterested. In this situation since there was a conflict, if you were interested in continuing with him you could have followed up the next day to say hi and ease the tension. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/25 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Do you generally expect men to reach out to you in the beginning when online dating?OK, this is not about initiating then, this is about an actual conflict that the two of you had. That is very different. What was the comment he said that offended you? It sounds like he just got embarrassed and men in an embarrassing situation will very often run from it. Depending on what he said, you potentially could’ve handled that much differently. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/25 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Do you generally expect men to reach out to you in the beginning when online dating?Nothing you would’ve done here would’ve changed the outcome. Messaging more or messaging less, for whatever reason this guy didn’t take it forward and would’ve done the same thing had you messaged more. I found my husband online dating and personally yes of course I engaged with him but I only engaged with guys who pursued me. If I asked them questions and they responded to me with a couple words and didn’t ask me anything back, I let it go. I let them be the ones to set up dates. I showed my in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/25 03:43 PM |
| 2 | book recommendationsOoh I just had another thought, try one of Esther Perel’s books. She is fantastic and all of her content is really intended for both genders. She will for sure get you 2 talking. I also second Ark’s recommendation on the Gottman books. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/25 03:37 PM |
| 2 | book recommendationsI think this is a great book, but just want to clarify this is not something you should read with your husband, it’s something you should read alone. If you read this with your partner and then implement the tactics, they are going to know exactly what you’re doing which defeats the purpose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/25 03:33 PM |
| 6 | book recommendationsThe majority of the books we have listed on the wiki are intended to be read by you as a woman only, it’s best not to even tell your man you’re reading them. But I think if you wanted, you and your partner could read For Women Only and even follow it up with For Men Only and discuss the items in there. This is not religious and pretty fact and statistic based. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/25 03:36 PM |
| 3 | difference between wanting to talk about how you feel vs. being emotionally draining ?Glad I hit the nail on the head! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/25 10:06 PM |
| 10 | difference between wanting to talk about how you feel vs. being emotionally draining ?Men usually want to focus on solving problems. They can get frustrated if they are just constantly bombarded with feelings that they can’t do anything about. For relationship topics, first ask yourself is this a legitimate problem that needs to be solved? Is it something he can do something about? Ask yourself what you are looking to get from him before you start talking. As some examples only - if you’re venting to him about how you fear he will leave you or cheat on you or other unfounded anxi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/25 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend won’t cook and there’s no food in his house eitherYeah exactly, and it becomes a vetting question rather than a try to change him question in my opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/25 03:28 PM |
| 18 | Boyfriend won’t cook and there’s no food in his house eitherYou are pushing something on him that he doesn’t want to do after only five months of dating. This almost never works. If he wanted to learn to cook, he would either learn on his own or ask you to teach him. He clearly is not interested in learning so you either accept that and come to a compromise or move on to another man. I love cooking and my husband doesn’t cook. He orders these premade factor meals that he eats even sometimes when I cook something and things he likes. It is what it is. I c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/25 10:36 PM |
| 7 | Boyfriend won’t cook and there’s no food in his house eitherTotally, he has no interest in learning and she can’t force him… so it is what it is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/25 10:32 PM |
| 5 | just turned 21, worried about SMV peak, hitting the wall, afraid of agingThere will always be single men in your age range no matter the age you are in. Just keep that in mind. I absolutely think it’s best to marry young and grow with a partner. I just think these are the most successful marriages. But that doesn’t mean that if you don’t get married young, you never will, it just takes a little more effort and patience. Do what you can to find your partner to the best of your ability and leave the rest to God or fate or whatever you believe in. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/25 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Partner weight gain as a way of stabilizing sex life?How much weight are we talking about? If it’s the standard freshman 15, I would just leave it alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/25 06:40 PM |
| 5 | just turned 21, worried about SMV peak, hitting the wall, afraid of agingI just got married for the first time at 42 to a younger man. Please don’t overly focus on this. I promise you you’re not going to get ugly of the day you turn 24. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/25 04:08 PM |
| 9 | My Husband’s Family is Ruining My MarriageI feel like we need more context here. How often are you interacting with his family or how often is he interacting with the family? This is going to be very different for example with a south Asian couple who lives with the family versus a more standard western couple that could live across the country from their parents and speak once a week or less. I think you need to provide more context on what exactly his family is doing and how you are interacting with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/25 06:58 PM |
| 7 | How do I turn down an invite to his home?How many dates have you been on? My personal stance was if it was the third date or later, I would invite them to my house and I would cook for them. First off I was much more comfortable in my own surroundings, second off I was in control of what was happening. And from there you just simply don’t have sex if you don’t want to have sex. If you are comfortable with a little makeout session, do a little cuddling and kissing and then stop it and just say I don’t have intimacy with someone I’m not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/25 04:58 PM |
| 7 | Am I delusional or do you just know?This is one of those things where someone who is happily married will say “I knew from the day I met him!” But that other guy who she dated that she thought was “the one” she very quickly forgot she ever thought that once she realized he was a jerk and broke up with him. These things only sound good to us when they work out, we forget all the times they didn’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/25 10:14 PM |
| 25 | Am I delusional or do you just know?No, you can’t come close to predicting the future and life is way more messy than that. Sparks may fly and you may think I could marry this man or I want to marry this man but you really don’t know who someone is until you’re with them for a decent period of time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/25 01:17 AM |
| 12 | As a girl, how do i pick up guys in bars?What is your relationship goal? Are you looking for a short-term boyfriend or marriage potential? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/25 05:06 PM |
| 3 | Is it insecure to dress for my boyfriend or ask him to pick out my clothing, what to buy?Does he want to participate in this because you say you’re forcing him to tell you what he likes? There are men who really enjoy dressing their woman and as long as she enjoys it, I don’t see a problem. But there’s a risk here that he really doesn’t want to participate in in fact, becomes annoyed by the questions. If he’s into it then by all means enjoy, but if he’s not into it, then I wouldn’t push this on him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/25 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Wasting my 20s due to depression and health issues. Ladies in their 30s, I need some encouragementI have fibromyalgia which comes along with a host of other conditions that impact me: depression and severe anxiety being two. I was diagnosed at 16 after a long search for answers. I’m 42 now so have lived most of my life with it. I’ve been able to manage it throughout my life by finding the right medications, being on a strict gluten free diet, and absolutely forcing myself to do healthy things like yoga, light lifting, walking/hiking, time in sunlight, sauna/steam room…all those the things yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/25 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Career women, do you regret it ?I don't regret my career but I also just got married at 42 and don't have kids so that may make my opinion irrelevant to you. I always wanted to be able to provide for myself financially as we worried about money growing up and the freedom my finances has given me has been wonderful. I feel truly blessed to have been given everything I have. This is not a diss to anyone else's life choices but I'm very happy with mine. If you have more specific questions, I'm happy to answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/25 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Bad friends or products of liberal dating culture?And you are?? She’s got 4 stars, I’ll take her advice any day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/25 02:17 PM |
| 3 | Am I overreacting?Just because he wants you doesn’t mean you have to want him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 11:56 PM |
| 2 | Am I overreacting?Ah I see, yeah it’s a dumb response on his part. I think you maybe should see this as a sign he may NOT care about you much. That is probably why you get upset, you know in your heart what it means. Why stick with it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Am I overreacting?Yeah meanness is not good regardless. Do you have another example of what you raised to him and what he said back? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 11:48 PM |
| 10 | Dating 1.5 years and he talks about the future… but only for himselfI think the wedding and kids comments is reasonable to say but the out of state would be a red flag for me IF a move like this is something he knows you wouldn’t be into. I had an ex who when I was presented with job opportunities out of state, would tell me I should take those opportunities, or would also hint that he would take similar opportunities. I would straight up say “why would you want me to move to another state and be away from you? Don’t you want me to stay here close to you?” He wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Am I overreacting?Have you read other RPW material like surrendered wife or materials on the wiki? If so I think this may be more clear to you. Because to me, yes I think you are overreacting. It sounds like you are overly sensitive and he’s likely getting tired of having stupid silly irrelevant arguments. It reminds me of the “would you love me if I was a worm” trend. Hopefully it wasn’t THAT irrelevant of a question. But you have to ask yourself what the goal of these arguments is? Really look deep inside at wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Bad friends or products of liberal dating culture?I LOVE this. Honestly awesome write up, it gave me a lot to think about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 02:18 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend of 3 years wants to sleep with other womenI wasn’t trying to be a smart ass, I honestly just can’t follow your train of thought on this one. All good though, I’ll refrain from further comments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/25 04:00 AM |
| 2 | My boyfriend of 3 years wants to sleep with other womenBut it’s not cheating, you are broken up? He can do whatever he wants right now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/25 05:35 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend of 3 years wants to sleep with other womenlol they are 2 years apart. Calling her an older woman at 29 when he’s 27 is actually hilarious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/25 03:01 PM |
| 7 | My boyfriend of 3 years wants to sleep with other womenI’ll go against the grain of others here. Break ups are painful for both sides and rarely are actually mutual. But let’s say that this one totally was mutual, you were giving each other time to think you said. Well, he had time to think and he realized that he hasn’t had enough experience with women yet to probably make a legitimate decision if you are the one who wants to be with forever, which sounds actually fairly reasonable since you’re the first relationship he’s been in and it has seemed … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/25 02:49 PM |
| 13 | My boyfriend of 3 years wants to sleep with other womenWho initiated the break up? I think the title here is misleading. This is your ex, not your BF. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/25 03:37 AM |
| 12 | There was a lot of redpill men under a spousal homicide IG post who defended a man’s murderous actions.“Understanding that a huge amount of men operate this way internally is part of RPW.” I couldn’t have said this better. Once you quit being surprised by this sort of behavior and instead come to expect it, then I think you’re on the next level of understanding RP dynamics. You can be saddened by it, I definitely am, but I’m never surprised. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Aw thank you for the well wishes! Jazak Allah Khairan! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/25 04:05 PM |
| 8 | How do I flirt with my husband?Try a little grinding into him to turn sweet into sexy!! Just used this move tonight and thought about this post lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/25 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)If there’s physical attraction but just not a lot of chemistry/sparks, a second chance may be worth it. But if you physically aren’t into him at all, one date is enough to know. No point wasting a second date. Just my opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/25 04:36 AM |
| 15 | How do I flirt with my husband?I also go with the old straddle hug when he’s sitting on the couch, a kiss on the neck. That’s all it takes for us! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/25 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)First was I asked for the prenup. I have my own assets to protect. Regardless if he asked, I am pro prenup and think they are smart. Get a good attorney for your side and just negotiate a good deal. The first date was good, not insane off the charts though. We both don’t drink now and looking back I think my dates where I felt crazy chemistry were really attraction plus alcohol. But we had talked a lot on the phone and FaceTime before the first date so it felt pretty natural, we had a two hour c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/25 04:32 PM |
| 5 | Feeling invisible to good menAh I see, that is hard but it’s ok to be rude in a case like this. Try to talk to other people in the room, don’t make eye contact with him, and give them the complete cold shoulder. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/25 04:26 PM |
| 6 | Feeling invisible to good menYou aren’t “setting boundaries” if you are still communicating with these men at all. You cut them off. That will eliminate your confusion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/25 02:42 AM |
| 10 | Husband’s weak characteristics and physicality turning me offI don’t think this group of women is the right one to be able to tell you to change your perspective given most of us like masculine leader type men and are all literally cringing inside reading your description of him. I have no doubt he has all the positive qualities you say but a more blue pill type of sub might be able to help you because this group of ladies here is not into the type of guy you’ve described. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 05:06 PM |
| 3 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)I’m so glad, that was my goal! I hope young women like you can learn these lessons earlier than I did! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 04:41 PM |
| 7 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)I will also add in my case, the child is not his biological child but it’s actually an ex step child. The child was five when he met the mother and the child sadly never knew his biological father so my husband is the only father he’s ever had. So even though it can be hard, I really respect him for staying so committed to the kid. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 04:22 AM |
| 2 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Sometimes things just fall into place magically! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 04:05 AM |
| 3 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Thank you! Yes he’s Bengali but has been in the US since he was 19 and he’s very Americanized. My preference is for non-American men and I’ve dated other South Asian men in the past so I’m actually much more connected with his culture than he is lol. I cook great Indian food which was definitely my little trick to impress him when we first started dating! We really haven’t had cultural differences and I encourage him to actually get more in touch with his culture. The biggest differences would h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 04:04 AM |
| 5 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Thanks for the vote of confidence! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)I didn’t know that either about baby 3, that’s so cool! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)You raise a fair point I hadn’t called out specifically in that I probably wouldn’t ever date a guy who had kids outside of marriage. Again that’s just me. I think some questions you need to ask yourself are if you want kids (in which case you really need to start to open your standards up and find someone who wants the same) and what you can attract from the market. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 11:44 PM |
| 4 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)For me I never really focused on those things since I turned 30. Now if he had 5 kids or kids he never saw or something, I’d probably nope out but I don’t think these sorts of checklists like “no divorced men” are helpful to women of a certain age. After all, when you start with something as low stakes as a first date, why not at least give him a chance? Then once you hear him talk about his ex or his kid or whatever, then you can decide, but to have rules like this and just cut people off preem… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 11:20 PM |
| 2 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Thanks and truly luck is part of it and also in my case, learning some hard lessons about relationships along the way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 11:14 PM |
| 3 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)My dealbreakers were: attraction, commitment, and being treated well. That was it. So I didn’t compromise on any. And that’s how it should be, that’s why it’s a dealbreaker. But there was no long list with height and job requirements, and ect, ect, ect. I left myself open. There are things in his past marriage I don’t love but I feel he’s learned from his mistakes and is a better man because of it. And I’m by no means without my own faults. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 10:02 PM |
| 3 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Thanks so much😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 09:19 PM |
| 3 | I read his private thoughts, he resents me for saying no to sexThat is what happened to me and then it totally flipped to pure anger. I’m sure he does not realize how big of an issue this is in your relationship either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 08:48 PM |
| 4 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Thank you so very much!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 08:39 PM |
| 6 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Good question! I don’t wear it daily, I just wear it where I go to worship at the mosque and during prayer time at home. We both dress modern, lots of lululemon and madewell in this house. Muslims differ on how they feel about if hijab is required or not but google says 44% of Muslim women don’t cover. But it’s a very controversial topic in the community. I’m very comfortable with where I landed on it religiously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 08:39 PM |
| 5 | Getting Married Over the Wall at 42 (first marriage)Thanks so much for your kind words 🥹 It’s true what you say about age. I remember feeling so behind my peers because I was in grad school at 27 and they were all 22 to 24. Now it seems completely laughable, like who cares!! I’m noticing that a lot of my friends are really struggling in their marriages so what you say rings true to me. At 62 if we’re still married, nobody is going to care if we were married at 22 or 42. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 08:13 PM |
| 2 | I’m ready to date and put myself out there, but I’m really terrified.Like many RP concepts, this is one people have taken the grain of truth in and gone overboard with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Feeling caught - it’s not feminine to be single, but it’s also not feminine to chase/pursue a man - advice?Pursue a man = show interest appropriately, seek out what you are looking for in a relationship, accept rejection gracefully moving on, keeping your boundaries in tact Chase a man = aggressively pursue someone, drop all your boundaries, don't vet, don't accept rejection and keep pushing the man, becoming obsessive Can you see how these are VERY different? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 06:45 PM |
| 2 | What Stereotypically Masculine Trait, Hobby, or Household Duty Do You Take On?For me it isn't a struggle but maybe this a cultural thing? I chose a professional white collar man, not a blue collar one so I don't expect him to do blue collar things. He is willing to pay for it so I will let him OR do it myself if it's something I want to and can do. But I'm pretty independent and often enjoy doing that kind of stuff so it doesn't bother me. Now if he wasn't willing to do it or pay for it, then I would have a problem but he offered me a solution. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 06:36 PM |
| 5 | I’m ready to date and put myself out there, but I’m really terrified.Right?!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 06:25 PM |
| 4 | I’m ready to date and put myself out there, but I’m really terrified.She was talking about her own self improvement and just mentioned she’s upgraded in her job. I don’t think your first paragraph is necessary and frankly I’m really tired of men coming in here with this line “Men don’t care about a woman’s job.” It’s fine to talk about it if that’s the point of the post but it literally had nothing to do with her post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 04:38 PM |
| 4 | I’m ready to date and put myself out there, but I’m really terrified.Also, I wrote a post about this previously, check out confidence for the single red pill woman | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 04:34 PM |
| 2 | I’m ready to date and put myself out there, but I’m really terrified.I totally agree to start dating in the religion. This is the perfect opportunity for OP to find a relationship with a man who will be open to taking it slowly which is what it sounds like she needs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 04:29 PM |
| 12 | I read his private thoughts, he resents me for saying no to sexI had a seven year relationship with someone who was extremely kinky and into the degrading, rough sex. For him, it was a must, there was no debating about it. This was ultimately the reason our relationship ended, in addition to my resentment over the fact that he never proposed. Here’s the cycle I went through: When we met, I was into it, I was 25 and it was a new adventure. We were new and exciting and it was a lot of fun and games at that point fueled by alcohol. Over the first couple years,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 04:24 PM |
| 6 | I read his private thoughts, he resents me for saying no to sexHave you told him point blank that you will say yes to vanilla sex but not kinky sex? What does he say to that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 04:04 PM |
| 5 | What Stereotypically Masculine Trait, Hobby, or Household Duty Do You Take On?I’ll do almost everything I can household wise in terms of repairs - I like knowing stuff whereas my husband is like “let’s just pay someone to do it” lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 04:01 PM |
| 6 | Nurturing a new relationship without the hamster's helpHey, I just came to answer the question you actually asked, not to say if it’s a good idea or not. I actually don’t think it’s a good idea but that’s not the question you asked :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/25 10:18 PM |
| 5 | Why men don't fully commit and waste women's time and how to partialy solve itEveryone is blasting this idea but I actually think it has relevance and I want to say I really appreciate the fresh idea! We don’t seem to get as many controversial ideas as we used to. I actually do agree that “higher quality” young men are playing around not out of immaturity but because they know they can and then settle down as they get older when they are done playing and want stability with a younger woman who they know will be attracted to them for longer. This actually makes sense to me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/25 10:17 PM |
| 4 | Nurturing a new relationship without the hamster's helpSurrendered single is still the book for the beginning stages. It is what you need, specifically these chapters: Dating the Surrendered Way | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/25 10:03 PM |
| 2 | I literally just need some clarityYou met someone who took advantage of the situation but you would’ve never been in the situation had you put clear boundaries down in the first place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/25 06:53 PM |
| 1 | I literally just need some clarityI see. As a recommendation, saying you are looking for a relationship doesn’t mean you are saying you are going to get into a relationship with any man who messages you! It just means just that that you want a relationship in your life, that it is your goal. Of course it goes without saying that you need to date a man first to decide if he is someone you want a relationship with, and they understand that. I get being burned out on dating apps, so when that happens just take a break and pause you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/25 04:43 PM |
| 6 | How to stop nagging?This “guy” is essentially a child compared to her. How does he suck?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/25 04:28 PM |
| 1 | I literally just need some claritySo sorry to be harsh but let me TL;DR this: you tried to play the cool girl who didn’t want a relationship, then your first call was six hours long, then you started talking about relationship type stuff, then you had a long make out session, then you acted all shy about it. Am I getting this right? What were you looking for if not a relationship? Casual I presume? Ok then if so, why regret the making out? You already told him from the very beginning that you were fine with casual. He now thinks… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/25 04:06 PM |
| 3 | AITA for asking my bf to talk to a therapist or else we will break up?Yes, but an ultimatum is not going to change that, it’s going to make things worse, it’s likely to make him double down on his position. On the depression issue, you simply have to give up control here. This is his battle to deal with, forcing him into therapy is not going to help, he has to deal with this issue, and you have to accept that this is part of the package that comes with him. It’s a risk. On the daughter, he’s also not going to change the way he parents because you or a therapist te… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 06:12 PM |
| 2 | How much of your life are you dedicating to the pursuit of love?Balance is always the answer. I just got married for the first time at 42 and I did have a condo that I bought on my own that I finally sold. There’s no reason to throw money away, just make smart investments that are easy to get out of if you need to; people sell homes all the time. A guy doesn’t want a woman who seems like she’s 100% focused on finding a husband, he wants a woman who has a full life but room for him in it. If you are too obsessed with dating, you might find you have nothing in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 05:43 PM |
| 6 | AITA for asking my bf to talk to a therapist or else we will break up?Regardless of who’s right or wrong here, ultimatums never work out. It’s not going to go the way you think and it is absolutely going to lead to resentment, especially when issues of a child are involved. My husband has a former stepchild he’s still involved with and I get it’s difficult, but you chose this. At your age, you can absolutely opt out but you cannot force someone to see things your way, especially a 39-year-old man. If he wants to improve or change, he will take initiative to do tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/25 10:32 PM |
| 5 | Dating with a promiscuous pastYeah he’s equally obsessive. Life is about balance! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/25 03:26 AM |
| 13 | Dating with a promiscuous pastI’ll be blunt, at this point it seems like you’re obsessing about this topic. Do you have a tendency to obsess about other things? Stop it. It’s not as big of a deal as you’re making it out to be, not even close. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/25 01:35 AM |
| 5 | Relationships: Money Pits vs Fixer-uppers vs TurnkeyI love this! I also think when you are looking for a partner it’s very similar to looking for a house - everybody wants the best house at a decent price. Everybody is essentially competing for the exact same thing and that thing you want is likely the same thing that everybody wants. The house that has some weird quirk to it that nobody wants is for sure available at a discount. That’s why you either need to be able to afford the really nice house or find some house with a quirk/flaw that you ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/25 01:11 AM |
| 2 | I was love bombed, and after reciprocating things are going downhillI always recommend Coach Lee on Youtube at this stage... He has helped me in SO many break ups, I can't even count. His advice is very balanced and helps you focus on yourself during a time when you have been rejected (and helps you see that for what it is) and teaches you how to manage these clingers-on in a way that retains your dignity yet gives you a chance to get back together down the road IF that is what you want and IF that is what is best for you. Very often once you go through this pro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/25 03:38 PM |
| 4 | Has any Bdsm-oriented ladies met their man on Feeld?Most men there are looking for fun and not a relationship. If you are looking for monogamy, I wouldn't recommend this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/25 02:43 PM |
| 8 | Loved, spoiled, and left. My 10-Month rollercoaster relationshipIf man avoids being around your family, it’s because he knows he’s not going to commit to be with you long-term. For whatever reason, this guy was never really in it for the long-term and you need to see that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/25 02:52 PM |
| 5 | Signs I IgnoredI like that book, it’s so simple and common sense but also we women need to hear that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/25 10:16 PM |
| 4 | What do men mean when they want someone with passions?If that is really what you took from my comment then you have no reading comprehension. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/25 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Husband is very deeply involved with crypto and it feels like a strain on the relationshipWell you have been married 7 years and 11 months longer than me so you have more advice than me on this matter for sure haha :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/25 06:23 PM |
| 7 | Signs I IgnoredThis was in line with what I was going to say. "Never proactively brings up marriage questions to you." If a man isn't proactively asking you about marriage, he isn't serious about you. It is not enough if you ask him questions about marriage and he responds positively or affirmatively, he should be bringing these types of things up on his own on a regular basis. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/25 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Husband is very deeply involved with crypto and it feels like a strain on the relationshipWe are newlyweds and he started his own law firm 4 years ago that has taken off. We have our own accounts and got a prenup (upon my request) that outlines the value of the business and what happens if a divorce were to happen in terms of both assets and debts (essentially everything business related stays under his name in case of divorce). Therefore I don't get involved at all in it in terms of the day to day. In terms of household expenses, we split 2/3 and I do 1/3 as I have a robust career m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/25 06:02 PM |
| 8 | Husband is very deeply involved with crypto and it feels like a strain on the relationshipGot it. My husband is an entrepreneur and has been successful so I understand completely what it’s like to live with a man who is completely obsessed with his business. It’s not for the faint of heart. But in your situation, the reality is that you are with a man that’s essentially bringing home zero income. Have you pressed him on how long he’s willing to go without a salary before he throws in the towel? I know for an entrepreneur they would be upset with that question, failure is not an optio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/25 01:45 AM |
| 4 | Husband is very deeply involved with crypto and it feels like a strain on the relationshipI’m curious what your ages are and also how long he’s been on this venture? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/25 01:35 AM |
| 12 | What do men mean when they want someone with passions?I know men are not interested in a woman’s career. They don’t care about what she wants to do with her life, if anything. I don't believe this to be true. What RP means when they say "men don't care about a women's career" is "men don't select a partner based on their career as a major criteria" (add on: "the way most women do.") Remember these are generalizations - saying no man selects fo a woman's career is like saying all women only date men with prestigious careers. Neither is true. What th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/25 04:14 PM |
| 1 | 6 Things I've Learned in 6 Years of MarriageAw thank you so much!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/25 07:03 PM |
| 16 | 6 Things I've Learned in 6 Years of MarriageAs a newlywed, this is SO helpful. I am seeing all of these come into play in my life as living with someone is a big change for me who has lived alone for 20 years! Stating the obvious really is important. When I start acting a certain way, my husband will say something like, "are you feeling frustrated?" or "are you feeling angry?" and it does make me stop and think about WHAT I am actually feeling. It puts a nice pause on whatever ranting I may have been (unintentionally) doing and makes me f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/25 03:59 PM |
| 7 | Man I’m talking to says he picks personality over looks for me.You know all of this how? I'm sorry but your post history shows just a long chain of you assuming the worst about men. Do you consider yourself a Red Pill Woman? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/25 08:35 PM |
| 7 | Lonely hate my aging appearanceWhat have you tried to not be deathly anxious so far? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/25 09:53 PM |
| 10 | How do you know if a guy is just settling for you?I kind of think this is a dangerous narrative whenever I see it. Sure men may not leave but I know many men who stay and cheat or stay and are abusive. Calling men "inherently pretty content" I do not think is accurate. If it was, we wouldn't see so many women out here trying to lock down commitment from men who fight it tooth and nail. You have to work hard to earn their "contentment," it doesn't just happen. Luckily I think we as the partner can influence this but let's not act like it's easy … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/25 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Husband wants to quit his jobI feel like this is one of those situations where he’s just going to do it, he’s going to fail and learn the hard way, and he will finally suck it up and go find another job. So many times we just have to learn our lesson than the hard way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 09:48 PM |
| 4 | Husband wants to quit his jobHR here and yes COBRA is extremely expensive. Like in the range of of $1000 plus a month for a single person expensive. And I hear it’s not even great coverage at that. And you do have to pay for it out-of-pocket, a company that you resigned from is not going to pay anything for this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Feeling an indescribable grief for never going to be a homemaker (F25 with M31 fiancé)I’m not sure that the OP has been honest about what she wants though. She makes it sounds as if she mentioned it once, he said it wasn’t reasonable, and that was the end of it. I don’t hear her saying she’s been really honest with him about the fact that she sees this as her life goal and she’s hurting every day because she can’t have it. I don’t think it’s fair to call him a bad guy for what he wants and I do think she needs to take responsibility for really making her needs known. If it was ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 09:34 PM |
| 3 | Feeling an indescribable grief for never going to be a homemaker (F25 with M31 fiancé)So what about religious people who don’t believe in sex before marriage and see it as a commitment in the eyes of God? Or just two people who want to be monogamous? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 06:51 PM |
| 8 | Feeling an indescribable grief for never going to be a homemaker (F25 with M31 fiancé)There are plenty of healthy marriages without children. People get married past fertility age, or have fertility issues, or just chose not to have children. "Is it even a marriage if there are no children" is a horrible take. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 02:49 PM |
| 6 | Not feeling Christian enoughSorry but what was the actual agreement with marriage? Did you agree to convert to Christianity, agree to only raise the kids christian, or did you just say you would go to church with him? Were you raised in any religion? No judgement from me at all, but this just wasn't clear to me. I see you say you said you would "follow him into Christianity" in which case I presume this means converting. Yet later you say you are "not Christian." Could a man leave someone because she is not of his faith? Y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 02:28 PM |
| 2 | Went on an amazing date but he has 2 kids- can it work?This was also my thought. The way he’s picking up the call and they’re arguing tells me they are possibly still together even. I don’t think he’s fully separated from his ex OP, at least not enough to enter a new relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/25 05:18 PM |
| 6 | How do we find Middle Ground between Conflicting Needs?I’ll offer a correction: red pill is not a lifestyle so yes, you can implement red pill tactics/advice/theory in your relationship if you are 50-50. I think what you meant to say is it is not traditional, which is something different (not all red pill is trad) and which I agree with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/25 03:06 PM |
| 10 | How do we find Middle Ground between Conflicting Needs?There’s also nothing traditional about living together before marriage and playing husband and wife for four years before marriage. Now if marriage isn’t the goal or you’re not traditional, then have at it, but I’m so tired of the performative “I’m traditional.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/25 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Met a guy at the club — not sure if I’m overthinking or if he’s playing some kind of gameIt’s a no all around from me, from DJ to met in the club to the “I never date club girls” - he’s using lines on you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/25 04:53 AM |
| 0 | How to match my standardsHow much have you actually dated, like put yourself out there for example on online dating and gone on dates? I’ve said it before but becoming comfortable with men and flirting actually takes practice, it’s not usually natural for most people, and if you haven’t practiced it then it’s no wonder you aren’t good at it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/25 03:56 PM |
| 7 | Can a guy truly move past a girl’s past if he really loves her?I fully agree, at only two months in, this seems like a lot to deal with. This is the sort of situation where when they are two years in, this issue is still likely to pop up and she may think man I wish I nipped this in the bud. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/25 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Having anxiety about kids and ageYes, but maturity at 25 is very different than maturity at 10. If you don’t know where you want to end up, you have no way to plan. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/25 04:58 PM |
| 4 | Having anxiety about kids and ageYou cannot imagine yourself at 30 which is only years from now? Why? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/25 04:28 PM |
| 4 | Having anxiety about kids and ageYou don't have to "be married and have kids" at 25, but do you have a plan agreed on with your partner for when you will do these things? That is really the key. When do you want to do these things and does he agree? The problem with having no plan is that when you do suddenly decide you want these things, you may find your partner does not. Even if he SAYS he does now, you really never know until the rubber hits the road and they take action. I am not saying this to scare you, but many of us we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/25 03:20 PM |
| 2 | We Broke Up and I Think I’m Actually Done This TimeI wish you the best either way | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/25 04:46 PM |
| 4 | We Broke Up and I Think I’m Actually Done This TimeThen you have to accept this sort of treatment if you aren't willing to take a risk. I get how hard it is, no one is saying it is easy, but I also think you are way over thinking things. Worried about your n-count with a child and approaching 40, already thinking about STDs if you are dating? This really isn't relevant when you have someone who basically sounds like an emotional abuser. I am 42 and just got married for the first time ever and we dated less than a year. We got a house, my whole l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/25 02:50 PM |
| 3 | We Broke Up and I Think I’m Actually Done This TimeOk you know this isn't healthy, it has nothing to do with the dog at this point. Now it's on you to decide what's next. I second "Why does he do that." It's very insightful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/25 02:12 PM |
| 3 | We Broke Up and I Think I’m Actually Done This TimeHow did it escalate from this argument to a break up? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/25 01:51 PM |
| 3 | Trying to Understand if the Interest is SharedThis sounds like a guy who you don't want IF you are looking for a man who can be a leader. Is he interested? Probably. Is he mature enough to be a in a relationship? It doesn't sound like it. This sounds like the high school boy who is mean to or shy around the girl he likes. This doesn't sound remotely like it's worth your effort and I wouldn't think any more about what he's feeling, ect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/25 02:55 PM |
| 5 | I’m not sure the man I’m dating has a romantic interest in me. How should I navigate this?That’s exactly my point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/25 01:15 AM |
| 25 | I’m not sure the man I’m dating has a romantic interest in me. How should I navigate this?He’s going out with you and not getting sex out of it - that’s enough to know he wants to keep getting to know you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/25 08:33 PM |
| 5 | Would you show up?NEVER put out? This goes down as some of the worst advice I’ve seen on RPW. Sure it’s good to be strategic about it but damn, we’re trying to get men here, and for most of us not asexual ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/25 03:58 PM |
| 5 | Early on in the dating process, how can I get over him hooking up with other girls?Sleep around is different than throwing it in your face. He knows you can access his profile and he still put it on there. He doesn’t care if you see or about your feeling and that in itself is a sign he’s not marriage material, at least in my eyes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/25 10:21 PM |
| 4 | How much should an engagement ring cost?What sort of career does this guy have? Income level? Usually the ring is commensurate with their salary. But of course if you love the ring, choose what you like, it doesn't matter but I am also sure there is a more "upscale" version of whatever you like that he could find too if he's some sort of high earning man and he wants to do that for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/25 03:00 PM |
| 3 | A married man who brought me around his close friends?Multiple things can be true at once. He could have loved two people at once - his wife and you. He could have loved you but also lied to you about his intentions. Taking you around his friends was most likely a flex to him, "hey I'm such a cool man, look at my mistress who will come around" when in your head you are thinking "oh he must be going to leave his wife or else he wouldn't bring me around." Regardless, love is nothing without action, it's just a feeling. True love is taking action and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/25 02:57 PM |
| 12 | How much should an engagement ring cost?What is exactly your concern with it? That it’s too cheap? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/25 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Pre-first date method for a 31FI’d say that’s a no go. I only went for guys who for sure wanted a LTR and knew it. They may not be ok saying marriage up front but they should know they want a long term committed relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/25 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Pre-first date method for a 31FHaha it isn't odd and YES it does give a good vision of what fun looks like! Search the wiki for "girl game" and that might help too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/25 02:49 PM |
| 5 | Pre-first date method for a 31FGot it. It is best to not bring up timelines until you are more like a couple months in, after you've established exclusivity. Men don't operate like women, they fall in love over time and based on bonding experiences together, and a woman who is asking about timelines before even meeting or upon the first few dates is going to make them feel like you would just accept any man who meets your timeline and aren't picky, therefore it comes off as desperate and since they don't love you yet, it's ea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/25 02:44 PM |
| 7 | Pre-first date method for a 31FOne of the most common complaints of men dating women in their 30s is that they feel these women only want marriage and kids and doesn't see them as people or want to get to know them as an individual. Your approach might make a man feel this way. Men want to be chosen and adored for who they are, not selected because you are running out of time and just want to be married. For the 35M, how soon were you sharing a timeline with him? It sounds like you did this before even a first date? If so, th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/25 02:23 PM |
| 2 | What is/was your personal timeline for marriage?It’s best you make a stand alone post | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/25 01:45 AM |
| 5 | Boys Sowing Wild Oats vs. Girls Staying PureI think it’s weird for any parent to tell their son to sleep around, full stop. It doesn’t matter to me the culture or religion. Now maybe encouraging them to date, yes, I’ve seen that. High-fives to the son for dating the hot cheerleader or whatever. But directly telling them to go sleep around is so odd and creepy to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/25 02:35 PM |
| 9 | Boys Sowing Wild Oats vs. Girls Staying PureWhat exactly are you trying to say here? That any woman who sleeps around must be a victim and is not responsible for her own actions? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/25 10:09 PM |
| 5 | Is he worth it?I’m not saying he didn’t have a bad relationship previously, he probably did, but if he met the woman of his dreams, he would set that aside and give it a chance. I think it’s very weird to meet someone’s family you’re not even dating?? What culture are you?? The best thing to say is something like “I really enjoy our time together but I’m looking for a committed relationship. Is that something you want?” He will probably tell you no again and then you just tell him, “well I’m sorry to hear that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/25 06:48 PM |
| 6 | Is he worth it?A guy can be a generally caring person but for whatever reason he’s just not that into you. I’m sorry, it’s hard to hear, but there’s some reason he doesn’t want to commit to you and it’s not because he just needs more time to find himself. This is what men say when they don’t want to hurt your feelings but still want to spend time with you. He does not think he’s playing you because in his mind he has told you the truth, he doesn’t want a relationship and you know so if you stay, it’s on you. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/25 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Is he worth it?Yeah I agree it’s very low. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/25 06:23 PM |
| 3 | Is he worth it?He doesn’t want to be in a relationship so what’s the point of continuing with him? I’m sorry to be so blunt but he’s seeing other women and does not want to have a relationship with you and is not going to change his mind unless you stand your boundaries, walk away, and he realizes he made a mistake and decides to commit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/25 06:08 PM |
| 5 | Blocked by my match everywhere after a deep conversation, I feel really shakenA man who was really into you wouldn’t have pursued this conversation. They would have known it could’ve scared you off and they wouldn’t want to risk that. My opinion is he was just entertaining himself by talking to you. OR he is chronically online with nothing substantial going on in the real world. OR maybe he’s in a relationship or married. Either way this guy is most likely not a good or realistic partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/25 01:29 PM |
| 5 | What would you do if you were in my shoes?I may be wrong but I wonder if this is really about the issues you two are discussing or if he’s just maybe looking for a way out for some other reason. Jumping to let’s take a break and go no contact over an argument makes it seem like he is looking for a way out and this is his excuse. At 10 months, he realizes things are getting really serious and he most likely going to need to step up and propose soon so he’s panicking and starting to bring up the little issues and making them bigger than t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/25 01:20 PM |
| 10 | I need constructive advice from the woman of this subI have a feeling you posted this here solely because you didn’t want to be told to leave. But this guy isn’t your husband, even after 3 years, and hasn’t changed since the beginning. You know the answer, this is him, and I’m not sure what else you think we could say here… You clearly aren’t happy if you are snooping so much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/25 02:52 PM |
| 12 | Feeling lost in datingSo welcome to dating men. Once you get enough experience, you aren’t upset at this behavior, you just realize that’s how the majority of men are. I don’t think badly of them for giving it a try, that’s what men do, but I would just politely say no thank you I’ll head home tonight, but it would be great to see you again (if I did indeed like them). You can’t be upset about how they act, you just have to set the boundary of how you want to be treated and they will either respond appropriately (in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/25 06:42 AM |
| 2 | Need to rant about something F25Whose generation?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/25 09:59 PM |
| 4 | How can I change my life when I’m that physically unattractive? I’ve never ever been asked out on a date and my phone is dry.I feel like I see this much more in the younger generation and I blame social media and the trad wife content. It’s true that part of swallowing the red pill is accepting that yes men value looks, yes men would prefer you to be not fat, but there are lots of other pieces of swallowing the pill such as understanding the other 90% of things you can do to be a good partner, attract a great spouse, and like you said, set yourself apart from blue pilled women. And most if not all of those things don’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/25 01:37 PM |
| 11 | How can I change my life when I’m that physically unattractive? I’ve never ever been asked out on a date and my phone is dry.Exactly regarding being asked out. OP should go around and ask all the married people she knows how they met and I bet she won’t find many who say the guy randomly approached her in public. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/25 04:48 PM |
| 11 | How can I change my life when I’m that physically unattractive? I’ve never ever been asked out on a date and my phone is dry.I don’t know when women on this page will get the message that it is not all about looks. You say “I’ve done it all” and then you talk about things you’ve solely done related to your looks. Don’t get me wrong, being fit is great, but you have to do so much more to get and maintain a relationship. Honestly, I’m not going to list all of those things here, get on the wiki and read. Our feminine behaviors, our girl game, those are the things that really do matter. Looks we’ll get your foot in the do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/25 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible for my relationship to feel like a team, while still honoring the traditional roles?Yup! This is not a traditional relationship in any way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/25 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Nun Mode?Talking to him is not making you improve yourself, you’re not teaching yourself, healthy boundaries. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Nun Mode?And how do you think talking online as friends is benefiting you both? Do you think this is going to motivate him to get back with you? Do you think this is going to allow you to open yourself up to finding someone else? How are you recovering when you continue to talk to a man who has rejected you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Lower rank in social group causing rejection of opinion?It reminds me of the guy the other day who told the exhausted mother of an 8 month old who struggled with her husband not helping with the kid and asked how she can get him to help more to hit the gym. I just can't... | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 03:33 PM |
| 3 | Nun Mode?Nun mode would require you to cut contact with him. You really should do this anyway. Right now he is having his cake and eating it too. He gets to date others while getting affection and emotional intimacy from you. If you want any chance of getting back together with him, you have to cut contact. Simply say to him, "I respect your need to recover and heal from your past relationship and understand we cannot be together right now. Therefore I will give you the distance you requested." Then you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Lower rank in social group causing rejection of opinion?Absolutely dying HAHA. I met all my best lifelong friends at jujitsu - not at work, or in grad school, or through friends of friends - jujitsu. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Complicated situation — was it cheating if we weren’t official, and is there any path to trust?Bingo!! So many women on the step need to swallow the red pill! Sometimes it’s bitter but it’s the truth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Complicated situation — was it cheating if we weren’t official, and is there any path to trust?Thanks for the lesson on consent, I didn’t know that /s. You must have missed my point where I said he should’ve provided commitment if he wanted intimacy. Regardless this is a 39-year-old woman, this is a little bit embarrassing. I see a lot of women here looking to demonize him and maybe he deserves it, maybe he doesn’t, but you’re not doing a 39-year-old woman any favors by not calling her out on the things she did wrong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 01:55 PM |
| 5 | Complicated situation — was it cheating if we weren’t official, and is there any path to trust?This was also my thought. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Complicated situation — was it cheating if we weren’t official, and is there any path to trust?Of course you should question. She’s right to do so. What I don’t see is self reflection and questioning her own behavior and her own accountability here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 10:08 PM |
| 4 | He's missing the chivalry basicsExactly! I used to date a guy who insisted I stay in the car until he came to my side to open the door. Cute at first? Yes. Annoying after 2 years? Also yes. I'm in a rush or I'm hungry, can I just get out already? haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 06:06 PM |
| 5 | He deleted his dating profile in front of me then redownloaded it behind my backYou aren’t dumb, you just got caught up in the moment which is easy to do. Next time just stick to a more solid plan - less is more on a first date, leave them wanting more!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 06:03 PM |
| 6 | He's missing the chivalry basicsHow is she being treated badly? Per her: "He genuinely seems to be very thoughtful and kind." Your response is very "you are a queen" and we don't do that here. How do you know what she deserves, you don't even know her?! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 05:56 PM |
| 9 | He's missing the chivalry basicsThese things do not even cross my mind. I do not want a guy to open my car door or care if he walks on the traffic side of the street. It's hard to find a great guy, to nitpick to this degree is just asking to remain single. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 05:54 PM |
| 10 | In the world of actual high value people, is the red pill truly valid?What an excellent and true point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 03:26 PM |
| 15 | In the world of actual high value people, is the red pill truly valid?I think this depends on what you mean by "red pill" and how you are defining that. If you mean it as having a stay at home submissive wife, then I agree, higher achieving men often but not always want higher achieving wives. But if by "red pill" you mean the man wants a woman who is submissive in the relationship and lets him lead, then I think those men DO still want that. The issue here is how you seem to be defining what "red pill" is. So I am honestly asking what you think it means? I know m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 03:25 PM |
| – | What are reasonable expectations on parenting and chores with a baby?Yeah, it is important to tell you because most men are not allowed here unless they have valuable advice. Her post had nothing to do with her physical health, you have no reason to believe it is slipping at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 03:00 PM |
| 1 | What are reasonable expectations on parenting and chores with a baby?Bingo!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 02:43 PM |
| 10 | Complicated situation — was it cheating if we weren’t official, and is there any path to trust?He is a man, men want intimacy. Just because they are pushing it does not mean they don't also want a relationship. We need to stop demonizing men for wanting sex, it's natural for them and doesn't necessarily mean it's the only thing they want. It also doesn't mean she needs to give in, she is welcome to hold to her standards to wait, but the result is what we see now where she loses the man. I don't think he just wants sex or he wouldn't go through all the back and forth with her over the many… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 02:21 PM |
| 8 | Complicated situation — was it cheating if we weren’t official, and is there any path to trust?So why was there just not an exclusivity talk so you can both be committed and physically intimate? I am not really understanding the reasons for the back and forth between you two. It looks like some sort of power struggle. What he did was not cheating. He is pursuing you but he hasn't made a commitment and from his perspective, you appear very wishy washy. You slept with him, then pulled it back, then tried to date for only 10 days then it failed for whatever reason. Now you've been cold, he c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 02:16 PM |
| 5 | What are reasonable expectations on parenting and chores with a baby?Telling an exhausted edit: new mother to go to the gym with her husband is honestly hilarious. This has nothing to do with her situation. Let me guess, you are a man? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 02:04 PM |
| 3 | What are reasonable expectations on parenting and chores with a baby?I would say I don’t see this as an American thing, my dad was a super involved father and that was 42 years ago. I think this is a your husband thing, not a cultural difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/25 01:59 PM |
| 4 | Would you move states for love?Is this place you would want to live if the two of you broke up? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/25 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Would you move states for love?What is your age and career? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/25 08:10 PM |
| 3 | Lost on how to move forward in my relationship need advice from wiser women.You cannot bully someone into meeting your needs. First off, is he really being cold or do you have unrealistic expectations? How often are you seeing each other and how often are you having texts and calls and how long have you been dating? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/25 03:34 PM |
| 8 | Lost on how to move forward in my relationship need advice from wiser women.This has young folks mistakes all over it from both sides. Emotional reactions, impulsiveness, power struggles, game playing, and the like. You both made mistakes here and either of you could have de-escalated the situation at any time but instead you both kept adding fuel to the fire. But you really made the biggest mistake in sending a long text and trying to end things. Is that really what you want, to break up? If not, then don't try to use it as a threat. It looks immature, looks like you w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/25 03:05 PM |
| 5 | How to get him to lead decision-making?This is a really good point. I don't think he really agreed to it. She told him she wants him to do this and he clearly doesn't want to. I think he's young, he's 21, and he wants to make her happy. She can help him help her but being more clear about her desires. Decision making is a burden and when it's about small matters, she could do the relationship a favor by making a few small calls every now and then. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/25 02:59 PM |
| 14 | He deleted his dating profile in front of me then redownloaded it behind my backYou moved too fast. You shouldn’t have an 8 hour first date over a bottle of wine and invite someone home with you. I’ve been there and done this so I can confidently say it’s a bad idea. It’s an incredible high and feels awesome but it’s bad strategy. It’s not you being vulnerable and open, it’s you not being strategic about dating and strict with yourself to do what is best to secure a long term commitment vs doing what just feels good in the moment. You say you are traditional but these moves… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/25 11:35 PM |
| 2 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 20 - Epilogue. THE PRACTICIATLITIES: TIMELINES, ENGAGEMENT, and MARRIAGE.I agree that 1 year seems much more reasonable to me than 6 months. You've experienced each season together, every holiday - after that, you are just repeating the same stuff over and over again! However I do think we should have more than just marriage as a *possibility* at one year in. I'd say engagement is reasonable at 1 year. Otherwise you could waste a lot of your time and youth as I see in these relationships (and the kind I had when I was younger too) where you spend years invested in so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/25 08:26 PM |
| 15 | He deleted his dating profile in front of me then redownloaded it behind my backHow do you know on a first date his salary and how does he know about your sexual partners? This is so very awkward in my opinion to know either of these pieces of information so fast. It feels like you both are trying to fit into some idea of what is means to be "traditional" like following some set of rules you both think makes you so. It feels very inauthentic to me, just my opinion. I also don't think you should have have invited him to your place after only a first date, even if there was n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/25 06:39 PM |
| 8 | I got ghosted/ slow faded after two good dates, did I do something wrong?I don’t know, I’m older and I’ve still been fooled. It’s sort of a wishful thinking thing - you put so much effort into dating and you finally find someone you’re attracted to, then they tell you everything you want to hear, all logic can go out the window. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/25 08:28 PM |
| 6 | How should dating and courting progress ideally?It sounds like you need to talk to them much longer and give them the chance to actually ask you out. In my experience, most of the time this takes four days to a week to happen. If you are only exchanging a few hellos and then asking them to go out, that is far too aggressive and may actually look desperate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/25 06:53 PM |
| 4 | How should dating and courting progress ideally?I met my fiance on dating apps and many women here advocate for them as well. How long are you talking before you bring up the meeting up thing? Personally I never would ask out a guy or hint at it. Men are opportunists, they will take a date when it's offered to them, even if they aren't that into you. By waiting for the man to ask you out, it shows they have the masculine traits of courage, planning, and executing and demonstrates they are invested in you enough to actually ask you out. I don'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/25 06:00 PM |
| 2 | How should dating and courting progress ideally?How old are you and how long are you talking on the app before going on a date? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/25 05:50 PM |
| 45 | I got ghosted/ slow faded after two good dates, did I do something wrong?Most likely he was hoping to get laid and future faking with you in order to make that happen. After two dates he realized you were not going to be easy and moved on. Now this is all speculation, you could’ve said something insane that you’re not telling us here that turned him off. It’s really impossible for us to know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/25 10:03 PM |
| 1 | The Burned Haystack Dating MethodI’m so glad to hear that!! Bad dates are not fun! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/25 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Is 22/23 too young to get married??Understood, life never goes according to our plans so if you don’t have any concerns about him, then just take it for what it is and enjoy it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/25 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Is 22/23 too young to get married??You really don’t say anything about your relationship quality outside of the age? Why is everybody else so negative about it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/25 07:00 PM |
| 3 | What to do when the man nagsUsually I would also think a phone criticism was also a bid for time but it’s definitely not that because I would prefer to engage with him but he wants time to read his book before bed so I was basically just giving myself something to do while he was distracted. When he closes up his book to go to sleep, I put down my phone and usually we have intimacy at that point (but definitely didn’t on the night of the criticism!). So in this case, it’s truly a criticism from him about how he is doing so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/25 10:22 PM |
| 3 | What Are The Best Skills A Girl Can Acquire Before Marriage?Emotional stability. It is so hard for most of us but it’s going to be the number one thing that will help you in basically every situation you have in life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/25 05:00 PM |
| 10 | Don't think I'm ever going to get married or have childrenWeed is actually really bad for people with existing mental health issues. People believe it’s going to relax them and help them but in fact if you have existing mental health issues, it may provide temporary relief, but long-term it can really worsen your mental health problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/25 03:51 PM |
| 8 | Don't think I'm ever going to get married or have childrenThis was exactly the reaction I had, it sounds like a victim story and someone acting like they are going to give up when other people have certainly had it worse and made successful relationships out of it. Of course I’m older so when I hear people in their 20s act like they are ready to give up, I kind of roll my eyes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/25 03:49 PM |
| 3 | What to do when the man nagsThanks for sharing. See I do think the difference is that some of his expectations of me are unrealistic. For example if he was just looking for improvement in some area, that I can commit to. But it feels like to me, he expects perfection, it’s all or nothing, and as soon as I achieve one thing, he’s onto something new which almost leaves me feeling helpless and like it’s not worth even trying. And let me say I’m being a little dramatic here. It’s not like these things are coming up every day, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/25 03:44 PM |
| 2 | What to do when the man nagsThanks for holding up the mirror in this way. I honestly think our situation is a combination of all these factors. I don’t think I’m better than him and I don’t think he’s better than me at the core of it, I think we’re a really good match, but he probably does feel the need to put me in my place a little bit and remind me of what I have with him. We both do a really good job of verbally appreciating one another all the time, that is for sure one of our strengths, and I think on a daily basis w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/25 04:44 PM |
| 1 | I am more successful than my boyfriend, and I resent itI went to a high ranking masters program that had high job placement rates. I was coming from a community college, so I was grateful to get in and even though I went in tons of debt, it worked out for me. The name, recognition locally alone got my foot in the door. I was 29 when I graduated with my masters and basically started with only a couple internships under my belt from there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/25 04:20 PM |
| 2 | What to do when the man nagsAnd every man is going to have things that we need to overcome in a relationship. No one is perfect, including myself! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/25 02:49 PM |
| 3 | What to do when the man nagsSo we had one fight where he did say he thought he was better than me/could do better than me. I mentioned it in another person's post. He later apologized and said he had deep dived into some male red pill rage content and it really negatively impacted his mental health that week and admitted he shouldn't have watched that stuff. I did trigger him, I can say some dumb things trying to be funny sometimes that come off not the way I intended (I said "ok Andrew Tate" in a joking way which was SO b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/25 02:23 PM |
| 0 | What to do when the man nagsIt is something to think about and if I was 25 I may see things differently but I am 42 and here the good outweighs the bad, at least so far. I do think this will be a reoccurring struggle I need to figure out how to manage better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/25 02:13 PM |
| 3 | What to do when the man nagsThank you, this is very true. Isn't it funny how the things we love in our partners (my ability to bring peace and relaxation) are also the things that cause conflict?! Ah relationships... | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/25 02:06 PM |
| 5 | What to do when the man nagsHAHA I really needed this. I really like C - I could get more X rated with this one too... hilarious! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/25 02:00 PM |
| 6 | What to do when the man nagsThanks for this, I really need to embody the spirit of being comfortable with it. I start to get upset, I start to think if this a relationship I can have for the rest of my life or someone is criticizing me, I get really worked up in my head and start to worry about the end of the relationship. Rather than just being like this is a YOU problem and moving on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:53 PM |
| 2 | What to do when the man nagsThanks for the advice. You hit the nail on the head that it's an insecurity for him, to be seen as smart, so he puts that on me. If I said "honey I'm relaxing right now" he would say "you need a lot of relaxation, you relax all the time" (he has said this before). So I feel like either ouch is all I can do or simply not scrolling at all around him and just laying there in this example??? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:47 PM |
| 2 | What to do when the man nagsHis response hasn't been much. He has said both partners should do what they can to please each other and so when he sees something, he is going to speak up. He says if I want something, I should tell him and he will do his best to do it, so he wants me to do the same. But the thing is, I wouldn't ever criticize him like that, I would only bring up something urgent. He is not like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:43 PM |
| 6 | What to do when the man nags"Bear in mind, he could be nagging because he’s sensing an incompatibility, but isn’t likely to force a relationship breakup until something better comes along." This is 100% what he would say. He doesn't like X thing from me and wants me to change it. And I am ok to change some things, and I have. But the little nitpicking upsets me because I am like geez just relax and let me be me even if I'm different from you. It does not impact you at all what I read at night. And I read deep stuff, it's n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:40 PM |
| 3 | What to do when the man nagsI think this is good advice. He has seen that being critical of me can get him what he wants - he's been effective at somewhat bullying me into making changes and I've done it. He would say these are all GOOD changes and he's encouraged me to do good things, which I agree with, but they were still things he wanted for his benefit. I need to just stop reacting and act like I don't care. This can be done on the small things, however not really possible on the bigger things when he wants to have a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:37 PM |
| 2 | What to do when the man nagsIt sure feels like criticism to me. I keep telling myself maybe I am just too sensitive but it's enough of a trend in the recent weeks, I can't really ignore it any longer. Maybe I will try this out. Last night I started to counteract this with a defense and then I just stopped and said nevermind, and then we just fell asleep, no cuddles. This morning he was all "are you angry?' and tried to be sweet and I wasn't into it. He's so moody, it's like he comes in some days in being critical mode and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:34 PM |
| 2 | What to do when the man nagsWe've talked about it in depth, how I feel like when he has a desire, I do my best to meet it, then another one comes up. We've gone into it and he knows I'm hesitant but I also think he thinks I'm not going anywhere and on that he may be right, at least for now. I am insecure for sure because he is on my case a lot. I am very comfortable in who I am and how I live but when someone tells you they think they are better than you, then of course it's natural to become insecure. :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:31 PM |
| 3 | What to do when the man nagsThe hard thing is, he is aware of this. He told me when we met how he USED TO be like this but he's worked hard, now knows what matters in life, etc. That is what made me fall for him. So it feels like old habits are coming back, which impacted his previous relationship and honestly scares me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Anxious about the content he watchesGot it. I guess I am wondering if HE thinks it's a problem. I ask because my partner and I had a fight where after he admitted he went down a rabbit hole with content and it really made him angry and he knows he shouldn't be watching it. So I have no idea how often that happens for him but I was glad at least he knew it was bad for him and was going to try to avoid it. I don't have an answer but the problem is real. This content appeals to men and really pulls them into the anger thing, I experi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 09:04 PM |
| 1 | What to do when the man nagsThanks for the reply. To point one, I have said to him that he thinks he's better than everyone else (he agrees) and he says I AM better than everyone else. Is he really? Yes and no. I don't want to list out all his pluses and minuses of him but he's built his own business and is fit. But his business is new and I think his recent success has gone to his head. On the flip side he comes with a ton of baggage many women wouldn't want to deal with (previous addition issues, in 12 step programs, div… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 08:48 PM |
| 4 | What to do when the man nagsYes I am, he is a really great person. I of course am outlining only one issue here but we have a great relationship. He works really hard to make me feel loved, is very consistent and dedicated, always there when I need him, he's a great listener. I've meet his family recently and that was a big bridge to cross with our different cultures and it went really well. We have fun and we joke. The naggings aren't daily, I would say they come up once or twice every few weeks. But I do think they are c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Anxious about the content he watchesAre you happy in the relationship? Does he treat you any differently after he’s in a heavy time period of watching these? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/25 03:24 AM |
| 10 | I feel bad for women who deep down want a soft life but media manipulated them into thinking men want another manThe sad truth is people like this aren’t really your friend. Friends support one another. She’s not doing that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/25 03:15 PM |
| 5 | I feel like a lot of messages about red pill women end up being “women suffer so men don’t get their feelings hurt”I can’t say I disagree with this honestly although I’m not really sure about the metrics of living longer having a partner versus not. On the one side you hear that unmarried women live longer, on the other side you hear women who are lonely die earlier so I think there’s a balance here. Yes you can build strong social networks outside of family and marriage but let’s be honest, it’s difficult to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 08:43 PM |
| 3 | I feel like a lot of messages about red pill women end up being “women suffer so men don’t get their feelings hurt”I don’t think this is correct, I think people in any sort of relationship for a reasonable length of time are going to hurt the other person at some point. It’s truly inevitable. Think about any major relationship in your life, your parents or your siblings for example. Have they ever hurt your feelings? I am sure yes. Now, if somebody is me in spirited and intentionally sitting out to hurt you every day, then that’s probably not a healthy relationship. But in a healthy relationship, the key is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 06:33 PM |
| 2 | I feel like a lot of messages about red pill women end up being “women suffer so men don’t get their feelings hurt”And what do you think the solution to the problem is? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 06:31 PM |
| 5 | He wants me to work and homeschoolI think you were getting down voted because telling your man to read a book in response to an argument is not realistic advice. Most women would not like it if during an argument their man told them they needed to read a book and then they’d come back talk about it later. Even if the book may be good for him, it sounds condescending and it’s really not realistic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 05:17 PM |
| 6 | I feel like a lot of messages about red pill women end up being “women suffer so men don’t get their feelings hurt”So this is where you first have to decide a few things: what is your goal? What kind of guy do you want to be with? Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? There ARE men out there who will be 100% fine with you speaking up whenever, even bossing them around. They love it. You can totally find one of those men and have a long happy relationship. However if you want a man who is a leader type (call it HVM/dominant/alpha/greater alpha or whatever), then you may need to make sacrifices t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/25 05:08 PM |
| 3 | If you want him to lead, then you need to follow - how?I don’t mean this in a rude way but do you recognize that almost all of your comments are name dropping about all the places you go in London? I know I’m coming off aggressive here, but are you trying to prove something? I would love to hear advice from you that doesn’t include some sort of name dropping. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/25 03:54 PM |
| 10 | If you want him to lead, then you need to follow - how?This is such an interesting question because it depends on the situation so much! Some situations are really high stakes and others don’t mean anything really, and yet sometimes i still cling to my need to control and be right. One thing is to ask myself if he has my best interest at heart with what he’s recommending. My second is ask myself if it really matters (in the case of sone mundane decision). And third, sometimes I can just stay silent if I don’t agree with him and it’s something I’m go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/25 01:44 AM |
| 2 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedI honestly get it about the good morning texts things. I felt like that too when I started dating my boyfriend. I thought it was kind of basic and blah. Then once I fell in love with him, I started to think it was amazing and realized it’s his way of saying “I’m thinking about you.” Once you start thinking about it that way, you realize it’s pretty sweet and it’s something that you may want If you do get into a serious relationship later down the road, so it’s good to see it in the beginning eve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/25 01:37 AM |
| 3 | How do you let a man lead in early stages of dating/ getting to know each other? I often get called uptight and reservedI’m going to go against the grain of a lot of these other comments and say I do think you need to be more submissive. Of course, submissiveness is not for every man. But in some of these examples, it seems like the guys are right in how they are assessing you. For example, someone calling and texting all day long is a no go and a red flag. But someone who wants to check in and text once a day or say good morning and good evening is pretty normal, especially in the modern dating world where not s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/25 12:20 AM |
| 5 | Dominant but traditional, can it be conciliated?We have so many men like this in the Midwest. They are generally bulky farm / woodsy type of guys who are a little bit shy and just love a woman to take the lead and will basically do anything for her. Think the type of guys who go fishing and hunting, blue collar. But this may be really unique to my area. When I’m thinking about my friends’ relationships, they are mostly in this sort of dynamic. We have so many guys like this in fact that those of us who are attracted to more dominant men strug… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 06:16 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with low self-worth, attraction patterns, and finding my place in relationshipsIt’s a super hard pill to swallow and something it took me longer than I care to admit to understand. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 06:06 PM |
| 9 | Struggling with low self-worth, attraction patterns, and finding my place in relationshipsI didn't even pick up on the non-judgemental thing. You hit the nail on the head. If they act cool like they don't care about anything she does or has done, it's because they legit don't care or plan on sticking around for it to affect them. This is really insightful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 02:47 PM |
| 6 | Struggling with low self-worth, attraction patterns, and finding my place in relationshipsAs is pretty common here, women think physical attractiveness is EVERYTHING. It is not. This gets you in the door with a guy, the rest of being relationship material is in your RMV. As is also pretty common here, women want men who are out of their league. By our of your league, I am not saying they are hotter than you/you are not hot enough. I am saying they are looking for something out of a GF/wife that you are not displaying. Things like: are you sleeping with them right away, making them th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/25 02:41 PM |
| 5 | Is it worth dating a guy who is nice and wealthy but not attractive?How do you know if there is a romantic pull if you haven’t even met him yet? It’s just a date. Yes go out on the date and see how it goes. People get way too far down the line before even giving someone a date. That is what dating is for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/25 11:26 PM |
| 4 | Relationship anxietyThat sounds promising! I’d keep working on yourself and still going on the nun mode. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/25 11:22 PM |
| 4 | Relationship anxietyOP what have been the results of your nun mode? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/25 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Why would they friend request me 5 years later?Could be this too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/25 03:30 AM |
| 10 | How to behave during longer stayWhere are you reading or getting the idea that you should be holding back from him? Genuinely curious where you’re getting this content because I think it may help answer the question. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/25 02:25 PM |
| 1 | What am I doing wrong here?I agree many men can go too much on a first date. To me the attempts to make out at the end in a public area are NOT my thing. I’m more private. But men are told they have to physically escalate quickly to get a woman so they are told to move fast. However all reasonable men will be ok if you say no to kissing on a first date. If they complain, they were just there for sex. But if it’s still no making out at least by date 3, most men will bail, unless they are the very religious type. It hurts t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/25 01:21 PM |
| 4 | What am I doing wrong here?What kinds of physical affection are you open to and when? You don’t have to have sex but men really need some sort of physical loving even in the early stages. Touches, kisses, leg rubs - at reasonable times (not a first date necessarily but yes by a second or third) are important. Men need to feel desired. We have a chapter on for women only about this on the wiki. If you come off as not being able to ever give any affection, that will be a dealbreaker for almost all men. Is that happening? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/25 06:49 PM |
| 7 | What am I doing wrong here?Why do you think none of these dates have turned into short or long term relationships? Them or you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/25 10:19 PM |
| – | How do I make my voice sound more feminine?Have you tried singing by yourself in your spare time? Sometimes working out your voice in this way can help you have a more feminine tone when you talk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/25 02:37 PM |
| 12 | Why would they friend request me 5 years later?So my ex-boyfriend who I lost my virginity to in high school sent me a message on Facebook wanting to meet up and we are in our 40s now. Men will always keep trying if they need some sort of validation or are desperate. Don’t think a second thought about it, and realize they are probably messaging every ex-girlfriend they have all at once and just seeing if anyone bites. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/25 02:31 PM |
| 2 | How to heal from my past and reconnect with my ex who told me to “please stop”I have a few ideas for you. #1 by far is self care. You should go in nun mode (search here) and focus on taking care of yourself and improving yourself. Figure out how to build a life you love. This will give you a backbone when someone else tries to take advantage of you or put you down. It will also give you healthy coping mechanisms. Therapy of course, but I realize not everyone can afford that. So free is: SLAA (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous). I know someone who has been really helped by th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/25 02:13 PM |
| 9 | how do i find a man who believes in traditional values?They are out there, they just aren’t 16. You are right, at that age they are all trying to be edgy either way. At your age, focus on a guy who says he wants a family someday. A guy who knows he really wants kids generally is going to do what it takes to be a good partner and there are definitely men who really want kids and know it even as a teenager. Both of my brothers married their high school sweethearts. I believe this is a path that absolutely works for many people, at least the people I g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 03:24 PM |
| 6 | I wish my boyfriend was more materialistic and willing to provide. Am I just being unreasonable, or are we incompatible for marriage?Ok yes, so she can walk away and find this man. Dating takes a lot of time and looking, it doesn't happen overnight. So she is 29 and sounds like she wants to be married. So she can dump this good guy other than this one minor flaw, and go back on the dating market to go on many bad dates, get dic picks, get stood up, get groped, all while getting older and slowly having fewer options as the good men get married off. All to vet for a guy that will give more gifts. She is welcome to do that. I wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 03:09 PM |
| 6 | Do you unmatch if a guy mentions anything sexual during the texting phase when online dating?Good! To me, it would be like if someone asked me how my morning was going and I talked about my other bodily functions. Like yeah you have a boner, we know that happens to men in the morning, you are not special or sexy, you are a functioning human. It's easy and therefore lame. Also one time I got a dick pic in the am, it was a little too perfect, so I google reverse image searched it and it wasn't his, it was a gay porn star. Even worse... | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 03:03 PM |
| 2 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?So then you agree there is no difference from 50s relationships and those of now in how well the women are treated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 03:01 PM |
| 2 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?I don't think it's as simple as boiling down to those two categories but I think those two are the most common. I think that many women are looking for a secular man who will lead and so there is a lot of competition for those men who are more rare to find. These are the men we see in pop culture as hyper masculine, wealthy, yet calm and composed. They are going to have their pick of women. OP said in another comment she has met a lot of toxic men. This is common when looking for a leader type b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 02:59 PM |
| 6 | I wish my boyfriend was more materialistic and willing to provide. Am I just being unreasonable, or are we incompatible for marriage?They live apart and aren’t married - are all men supposed to provide for their girlfriends now?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 12:46 AM |
| 8 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?This is sort of my thinking as well. She wants only white collar men, smart men, she wants only white men I presume (by saying no non-western), she wants him to pay, she doesn’t want him to be religious, but wants him to take charge. My feeling is this type of guy is going to be the same type of guy that most women want and she’s going to have a lot of competition. And there’s truly no easy answer for these type of situations. Even so, just expressing what you want on a dating app isn’t going to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 12:37 AM |
| 3 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?Specifically, I said “it’s going to be more rare.” That seems to be what the OP has found after dating for years and still coming here with this question. There’s a reason why it’s difficult to find this type of man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/25 12:29 AM |
| 3 | I wish my boyfriend was more materialistic and willing to provide. Am I just being unreasonable, or are we incompatible for marriage?You are entitled to feel how you are and I’m sure this thread is hard on you, but ultimately, you are not doing either one of you a favor staying in a relationship that you are not happy in. I’ll just caution you that dating sucks, especially if you are looking for a provider type, so really make sure you are weighing all of his positive and negative qualities before making a decision because he sounds like he has lots of positive qualities but it sounds like it may not be aligned with what you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 10:36 PM |
| 0 | I wish my boyfriend was more materialistic and willing to provide. Am I just being unreasonable, or are we incompatible for marriage?I see, are you considering ending relationship because of this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 10:08 PM |
| 3 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?Oh absolutely, my one side of grandparents also were the same, he had his shed outside where he would spend all of his time! My grandma would say he’s “out there in his workshop playing with his toys” (early computers, model train building sets, etc). He would basically come in for a meal, eat, and then leave again. That was it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 10:06 PM |
| 5 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?It depends on the man and the religion. I’ve dated Christian, Muslim, and Hindu men who were religious. Some wanted me to convert, others did not. None of them asked me to go to church/mosque/temple with them however. Worshiping is often a pretty independent activity, maybe not so much in Christianity but definitely in the others, it’s not the type of thing you would take your girlfriend to anyway. Obviously converting is going to be the easiest/least challenging path if you want a marriage but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 08:38 PM |
| 19 | How did you get into a male-led relationship?Most of those relationships in the 50s that we saw were religious based but I also think it is somewhat a fantasy to say the men were respectful toward the women because that was definitely not always the case. When I think about my two sets of grandparents who were in these relationships, one grandpa was pretty respectful, but the other was not. If you are looking for a leader who’s not religious, he is more likely to be a BDSM type of Dom and in my experience many of those guys are looking for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 08:22 PM |
| 5 | I wish my boyfriend was more materialistic and willing to provide. Am I just being unreasonable, or are we incompatible for marriage?You keep saying “I just assumed….” You’ve said that several times. That is called a covert contact and it’s horrible for relationships. If you are feeling resentful of the things you are doing for him, then stop doing them. Stop with the cooking, ask him to pay for takeout. I know this is easier said than done but this is what is meant by self-care and why so many women get resentful in relationships. Men need to be told things in black-and-white and they need to often be told it many times to g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 08:15 PM |
| 42 | Do you unmatch if a guy mentions anything sexual during the texting phase when online dating?Yeah, you should not have any regrets about this, he made what he was looking for pretty clear. A guy who is looking to build a relationship is not going to say that. Edit: I will also edit this to say I’ve experienced this more than a dozen times in my online dating history, specifically the morning wood comment or sometimes even a photo. This guy is not unique, this is a common move to test you and see if you will sext with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 05:26 PM |
| 62 | I wish my boyfriend was more materialistic and willing to provide. Am I just being unreasonable, or are we incompatible for marriage?You basically answered your own question at the end, he’s not that way and he’s told you he’s not that way. A big part of relationships is accepting the other person for who they are if it’s not something like abusive or a character flaw. He sounds like he’s just a practical guy. He’s willing to spend money and he’s willing to put an effort but he wants to do it for things that matter, not frivolous gifts. That is just who he is. Now you may find some men out there who are more gift givers but t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/25 04:30 PM |
| 9 | Always meeting men who only want me for sexThis is honestly it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/25 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Need help with self-esteemYeah, I remember specifically being an emotional mess around 24 and thinking my life was over. But what was different is we didn’t have Reddit and all of these ways to make ourselves feel even worse and feed into our biggest fears during that natural quarter life crisis, that’s what worries me for the youngsters. That being said, I also didn’t have older more knowledgeable women giving me advice and I wish I had! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/25 04:18 AM |
| 6 | Need help with self-esteemYou are very kind and patient to reply to these posts, I just don’t have the patience anymore. A 23-year-old who thinks they are too old for anything is going to have a long miserable life in front of her given they live to the average age of their 80s. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/25 02:43 PM |
| 31 | My (23) bf(28) seems to making slight changes to our marriage timeline, and I don’t know how to feel about itI will give my personal opinion - you’ve been together for over two years, and he says he wants time to “be sure” of his wife. The brutal truth is it sounds like he’s not sure either that he wants to be married or that he wants to be married to you and he wants a lot more time. After two years, a 28-year-old man should know if this person is going to be his wife or not enough to at least propose. Now you are young so you do have time, but you also don’t want to waste it in a relationship with so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/25 02:39 PM |
| 3 | How do I [30F] tell if my BF [40M] is growing and giving me his best or manipulating me?How often is he losing his temper and losing his cool and what does that look like? How much has he improved since you started dating? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/25 02:02 PM |
| 12 | 27F Dating for a year but no luckIf it were me and someone sent me a message like that, I would not even respond. This is not a serious, mature guy, why even waste your time?? Joking is fine but I would not paint yourself in a negative light. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/25 07:41 PM |
| 11 | 27F Dating for a year but no luckSo I don't really understand these convos. Is this the first time they contact you? If so, do not be asking them out. That is way too aggressive. The man is going to think you ask every man out right away and therefore they are not special, and they are kind of right. Men want to earn you. Engage in meaningful conversation with them. Ask them questions about themselves. Create a connection UNTIL they ask you out properly. And if they don't, then they are not the type you are looking for. And you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/25 06:21 PM |
| 16 | 27F Dating for a year but no luckSo what stood out to me is that you said you don’t get asked out often on the apps, it’s just endless conversation. So how are these conversations going once you match? What sort of things are you talking about? Are you funny and are you flirting? Granted, I’m in a different country and in a different age bracket but I didn’t have a problem getting out on dates after matching. So I’m trying to understand a little bit more about how those conversations go so you can convert matches into dates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/25 04:10 PM |
| 3 | pregnant and want to be married.I’m sorry, but you are making so many generalizations here. Is this based on your own personal experience or something? If you ask many men what the problems were with their past relationships, they are unlikely to say that the woman was too rational and hid her emotions. In fact quite the opposite, they’re likely to say the woman was too emotional, too demanding, the “crazy ex.” Now every woman is different and yes some of us may suppress our needs for others, but similarly some may freak out a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/25 03:51 PM |
| 2 | pregnant and want to be married.This is the worst advice ever. If you make a man’s life miserable either by dropping direct resentment or being passive aggressive with your hints, he’s going to think I’m not signing up for a miserable life like this and run. The best thing OP can do to make this guy marry her is make his life awesome. Be the best girlfriend possible, be sweet and loving, cook food, show him how wonderful his life will be if he marries her. Men really operate in the near term and they will forget about past or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/25 03:45 PM |
| 4 | pregnant and want to be married.Were you all talking about marriage before the pregnancy? Because I hate to say it this way but some men might think that now that you are pregnant, they have you locked down and don’t need to propose as soon as before. In his mind, there probably is no rush. Now you’re going to have a baby and be together and you’re not going anywhere. I’m not saying he’s not going to do it ever but he’s also probably not going to rush like you would like. Also, I’m going through a prenup now (my request) and i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/25 03:40 PM |
| 6 | I think I regret getting married, but I don't know if I'm not being patient enough.On the one hand you have a reliable husband here. He doesn’t sound like a bum, he’s making money, he’s helpful around the house, and he loves hanging out with you and that’s all great. My concern for you is that these issues you have are just going to get worse with age. As he ages, he’s likely to want sex less especially if he’s not into it that much now. He’s also likely to get less healthy with age and he’s unlikely to hit a sudden burst of work motivation if he doesn’t have it by 39. On the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 04:52 PM |
| 6 | I think I regret getting married, but I don't know if I'm not being patient enough.I’m really curious if you can say more about your sex life if you’re willing. Why are you only having sex once or twice a month? Do neither of you want to or is it good when you do it? I guess I’m asking because I’m trying to figure out what draws you to one another. Sex is like the glue in a relationship, it’s not everything but if the sex is good and you are connecting in that way you can put up with a lot. Without that, what I’m getting from the picture of this relationship is that you guys h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/25 11:40 AM |
| 18 | I had an amazing first date with a very ambitious man but I’m worried he will not have enough time for me , need some adviceI think you are getting ahead of yourself. You’ve only been out once. Go out again when he can and see how it goes. Maybe it’s a unique couple weeks for him, maybe he’s trying to play it cool, who knows. But don’t jump ahead to what things will look like six months from now, just focus on the next date for now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/25 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 14 - 19. HOW TO DATE THE SURRENDERED WAY.That’s awesome, reassurance are what we need! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/25 03:54 PM |
| 3 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 14 - 19. HOW TO DATE THE SURRENDERED WAY.I have a problem with being controlling (I’ve improved a lot) and this is absolutely what it is for me, it’s about feeling secure. It’s about me feeling like if I can just get ahead of an issue, I can solve it or control it and make sure no problems arise. To my partner, he calls it “my anxiety.” It truly places the burden back on the man to offer constant reassurance and I can see how exhausting that gets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/25 03:03 PM |
| 9 | How long do you ‘vet’ a guy for?Personally I think 3 months is too long to fell SO unsure. Yes we always have SOME doubts but at 3 months, you should feel excited about him, wanting to see him again, and have a solid crush going. You can have doubts, but those doubts should be overcome by how much you are into him. I don't hear you saying you feel that way about him. Based on your comments below, it sounds like you feel uneasy and I think you should be beyond that phase by 3 months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/25 02:00 PM |
| 63 | Question does being red pilled actually make any women happy?Being a RP woman does not mean being with a RP guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/25 09:48 PM |
| 2 | How do you attract an alpha male ver long distanceIf you want tips then I think you need to tell us the exact scenario. How old are both of you, how did you meet, what are your jobs, etc? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/25 07:56 PM |
| 2 | How do you attract an alpha male ver long distancePeople in the airline industry don’t exactly count however because they have free travel. I was with a pilot for many years and it didn’t exactly feel long distance because they can come see you for free on a regular basis (and you can travel to them). This is kind of a unique scenario. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/25 07:55 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with being kinda mid looking with "high standards"?You seem to be focusing a lot on looks here but I agree I don’t think that’s a problem, I think you need to focus on your relationship and emotional skills much much more. This is something I didn’t know at a younger age that I learned over time, men want an AGREEABLE wife as u/countthebees said. They want someone who does not bring drama and brings peace into their life. They want someone who is not overly emotional in a negative way or overly neurotic. Sometimes very intelligent women are not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/25 01:35 PM |
| 19 | Dealing with being kinda mid looking with "high standards"?I mean this in the kindest way - I can tell you are young. You want it all and I get it but we all have things that annoy us about our partners. Figure out what matters to you most (looks or intelligence or religion or job) and then go for that and accept the rest of who they are. Focus more on what YOU are offering them and less on what they can give you and you’ll be amazed how much better off the relationship goes! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/25 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with being kinda mid looking with "high standards"?Not to get off topic but how many and what kind of pets are we talking about? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/25 01:37 AM |
| 6 | Dealing with being kinda mid looking with "high standards"?And this is why it’s not 100% entirely about looks only. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/25 01:13 AM |
| 12 | Dealing with being kinda mid looking with "high standards"?A previous post of OP mentions a Situationship. I don’t want to assume that’s every situation she has been in but she’s also only 21 so I can’t imagine has had lots of serious relationships yet either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 09:41 PM |
| 80 | Dealing with being kinda mid looking with "high standards"?How long were you with these exs? Were you monogamous? “Situationships” are not exes and in those cases, you never “had” them. A 9 guy will sleep with a 6 girl and distorts your thinking of what you can get for a husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 07:15 PM |
| 2 | How to be your partner's support?Fascinating womanhood | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: Hen pecked, Frog Farming, Domesticated Husband?Thanks, yeah, I’m glad if she helps other people but she’s not for me. If you want to learn about love bombing and narcissism, Dr. Ramani is fantastic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Are men’s ways just hard for me to tolerate or is it the men I’m dating?I’m glad it’s working for you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 03:03 PM |
| 5 | Are men’s ways just hard for me to tolerate or is it the men I’m dating?Have you read through the wiki? I ask because this question is exactly what RPW answers. Most of us, if not all, believe relationships work best when the man leads and woman follows but we acknowledge you need a capable leader for this. We accept that men need respect most of all, more than love. We acknowledge that most men have different sexual needs and desires than women (this is a complicated topic and there are many different ways we handle this and it plays out in our relationships). Ther… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 12:20 AM |
| 0 | Are men’s ways just hard for me to tolerate or is it the men I’m dating?I admit I’m not an Allison Armstrong fan for just this reason. Even though I don’t love Laura Doyle, at least she approaches things honestly enough with a “how can women get what they want out of this.” Many may disagree but to me Alison doesn’t seem like she’s looking out for women’s best interests. There’s something about her that’s not genuine to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/25 10:43 PM |
| 5 | My mind is telling me no but my lady parts are saying yesYou can absolutely go to someone’s house and have a home date without having sex?! I actually really like home dates, it teaches you a lot about the person how they keep their home and how you both interact in that setting, which is in reality what most of marriage is like. Only you know what the right thing for you to do is here. You don’t say your age but I do think that makes a difference here too. In short, I don’t think a third date is too fast for a home date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/25 02:37 PM |
| 4 | Relocating to find a husbandI would absolutely move and choose a city you are interested in settling down in. Let’s say you did stay at home in your hometown and meet a guy there, chances are that’s where you both would live, maybe he wouldn’t want to move. Do you want to live in a town like that and stay there? Choose a place where you actually would want to settle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/25 03:30 PM |
| 5 | Book recs for new RPWI would start with For Women Only followed by fascinating womanhood (understanding it was written in the 50s). Surrendered wife is great but it’s sort of varsity level to me and I think the others will give you the basics first. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/25 01:39 PM |
| 9 | I can’t keep up with his libidoI don’t hear most stay home moms saying they want to have more sex either though. Honestly being a stay at home Mom is way more exhausting than having a full-time job with no kids. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/25 01:36 PM |
| 0 | Rough dating historyI don’t agree with this man who you responded to either but I’m just so tired of having this argument here especially with men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/25 10:27 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend lacks maturity, direction, and emotional depth — should I cut ties before I invest more?It’s going to hurt him way more two years down the road than at five months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/25 02:26 PM |
| 9 | My boyfriend lacks maturity, direction, and emotional depth — should I cut ties before I invest more?Exactly, I am seeing almost no upside in this relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/25 05:12 PM |
| 10 | Are the goals of TRP and Redpillwomen totally different and should we avoid dating redpill men?This is exactly the type of man to avoid, honestly this is so sad and just screams insecurity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/25 03:30 PM |
| 26 | Are the goals of TRP and Redpillwomen totally different and should we avoid dating redpill men?My take is it depends on what you call a red pill man. It’s hard to find a man these days who doesn’t know who Andrew Tate is and hasn’t been exposed to red pill content. What I look for is a guy who has a balanced approach to all of this stuff. The guy who can see both sides and understand the challenges on both sides of the gender war is OK with me. I don’t expect him to say everything about red pill men is wrong, I expect him to show that he values the good traits they have and talks down the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/25 03:19 PM |
| 5 | Seeking a shift in my mindsetThis is one of those things where the more you pressure him now, the more he’s not going to do it. You have twice made it known to him that you would like to have flowers. He knows and continuing to bring it up he will receive his pressure and nagging. So honestly at this point just simply don’t bring it up to him again. You ware right it is not the hill to die on and he knows that this is something you want so either he will decide to do it or not at this point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/25 02:15 AM |
| 3 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 9 - 13. FINDING A PARTNER TAKES ACTION.I love the story and the focus it puts on not going for initial excitement but going for long-term qualities. Congratulations and thanks for sharing! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/25 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 9 - 13. FINDING A PARTNER TAKES ACTION.This is definitely interesting! I’m curious are you now dating for romance and marriage or are you taking time off? How did this experience affect your dating strategy going forward? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/25 02:30 PM |
| 6 | Not being "that" special girlI mean of course it’s all super bad! I’m just an animal lover :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/25 05:54 PM |
| 6 | I'm 25 and can't find a boyfriendI see you are in Lebanon and you say you are religious so I’m going to assume you’re muslim. If you are religious, then the things you are saying did not correspond to that. Islam does not tell you to go for the most rich, handsome man. It tells you to be morally sound, be kind, and commit to a marriage with someone who has strong morals also. Yes, they should be able to provide and be attractive enough but you say you are a five so you can probably get a five or six. If you are Muslim, you shou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/25 05:04 PM |
| 10 | I'm 25 and can't find a boyfriendIf you are a feminist and unkind, why are you on this sub which is antifeminist? Not trying to be aggressive, just saying it seems like maybe not the right fit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/25 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Not being "that" special girlAbsolutely horrifying!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/25 04:36 PM |
| 2 | Not being "that" special girlKilled your pets???? I’m so glad you got away from that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/25 03:44 PM |
| 3 | Regret feigning enjoyment during intimacyThis is really helpful to know and it makes sense then why you want to abstain. I mentioned another comments that I feel like you too need a plan for marriage and a healthy way to have sexual needs met or you need to go your separate ways. Very few men will date someone for three years without sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 06:58 PM |
| 4 | Regret feigning enjoyment during intimacyI guess I missed the crying part, that’s absolutely extreme. Not to give men too much of a pass but a lot of them get the message that a woman will say no when she really means yes. So if a woman says no outside of the bedroom but yes inside the bedroom, like OP is doing, she’s essentially reinforcing that message to him that women really want it They just have to say no and act like good girls outside of the bedroom. She really should’ve held her boundaries because the no outside of the bedroom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 06:55 PM |
| 2 | He walked away for spiritual reasons, and I can’t stop holding out hope. How do I make peace with this?I think doormat is pretty extreme. She’s not saying she’s pursuing him and trying to get back with him which would be doormat behavior, she’s just asking how to emotionally deal with the rejection, which is not being a doormat, that’s asking how you can improve your emotional strength. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 06:53 PM |
| 6 | Regret feigning enjoyment during intimacyOh sure yeah he’s a 23-year-old guy fully thinking with his hormones. But after three years, I think these two need to really decide what they want to do with the relationship. While a lot of people think 23 is young to get married, I also think it’s unrealistic to date for three years without any sex. So if she is waiting for marriage, I kind of think they need to get married or go their separate ways after three years already. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 06:49 PM |
| 3 | Regret feigning enjoyment during intimacyI honestly think this is too far. Maybe I’ll be downvoted to oblivion but she is also responsible for her actions. She has to take accountability. Sure he is pressuring her, that doesn’t mean she needs to give the hand job or blowjob, she can say no. but now, there’s a pattern where he believes she’s OK with it. She has accountability here and framing him up as some sort of predator or bad guy I just don’t think it is correct. And these two have been together for three years, it’s not like they … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Regret feigning enjoyment during intimacyFirst off what are your religions and culture? This is going to make a big difference in the response you should follow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedI think they were fighting a lot about it, she was pressuring him and so he delayed out of spite. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/25 11:44 PM |
| 6 | He walked away for spiritual reasons, and I can’t stop holding out hope. How do I make peace with this?These early relationship conflicts test the relationship. You either get through it together or you don’t, and in this case for whatever reason he decided to not move forward. My guess would be he’s embarrassed, particularly if he’s a Muslim man, and decided it wasn’t worth it to overcome his embarrassment. It’s neither good nor bad, it just is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/25 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedThis happened to my friend, he bought the ring and didn’t give it to her for like a year! It became a total battle of the wills between the two of them. It all worked out for her, but sounded like a lot of drama. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/25 08:36 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedI totally agree, I think moving in before marriage is just a horrible idea all around. Besides the fact that it’s not going to make him motivated to get married, it also creates an unstable environment for you, having to move around and never feeling secure in your home. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/25 07:36 PM |
| 5 | When integrity and obedience collide...Ah I see. Personally, I don’t change my opinions for men. If we disagree on some theoretical thing and the conversation is getting heated, I will just say something like “well we don’t agree on that and that’s OK, we don’t have to agree on everything.” I will do my best to not argue and change the subject in a feminine way, usually using humor. Now if he were to say “no, we do need to agree on everything” then I would tell him I consider that unrealistic considering I’m my own person and no two … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 05:12 PM |
| 7 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedRight and it’s ok to choose the man - if you can live with the reality of what that means and not be overwhelmed by resentment. I personally fall into the resentment category, so I know myself and therefore know there’s a time limit for me! (I know this now, definitely did not know in my younger years) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 05:07 PM |
| 7 | When integrity and obedience collide...Wait, so your man is asking you to say certain negative things about this sub and its mods? Where? I don’t get it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 03:52 PM |
| 32 | Discussion: Lessons LearnedIf you want to be married and are dating for marriage, put a time cap on the relationship (in your own mind). Do not be one of these women (like I was) who’s dating for seven years and still thinks he might marry you someday. If you want to stay, stay, but don’t delude yourself about what it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/25 03:27 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend’s femininity turns me offYeah exactly, nobody really cares about fruity cocktails. If a totally masculine man orders a fruity cocktail, people would think it was cool. It only sucks when the guy is feminine to begin with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 01:42 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend’s femininity turns me offIf it was just a fruity cocktail, she wouldn’t mind it, it’s the fruity cocktail and combination with the fact that he says he’s a girly boy and all the other things that go with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 01:30 PM |
| 15 | My boyfriend’s femininity turns me offNo, it’s not petty. Attraction is critical for successful marriages. How many marriages end with cheating, even for people who are extremely attracted to each other? OK now let’s imagine your situation where you are turned off by him, how do you think that’s going to end 10 years down the road? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/25 05:39 PM |
| 39 | My boyfriend’s femininity turns me offI wonder if she has a scarcity mindset. What other reason could there be? I met Guys like this through online dating and the first date was enough to know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/25 05:15 PM |
| 8 | Should i give up on the relationship..I think we need more details on your relationship. Is this the 32-year-old and you are 22? How long have you been dating? I went to look for the dating advice post and it’s gone but I saw another deleted one where it seems like you were jealous about him attending a music festival that he invited you to that you declined. So based on all of these factors, I guess I’m asking if you have some basis to be jealous or if you are indeed looking for problems or being overly controlling? While I am a su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/25 04:32 PM |
| 323 | My boyfriend’s femininity turns me offHe’s being serious, this is who he is, and he’s telling you upfront. I’m not sure why you’re not listening to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/25 04:14 PM |
| 6 | I'm confused...So I struggle with defensiveness, negativity, and patience. And I will always be working to improve in these areas. So start by taking baby steps. One of the first steps that helps me is apologizing when I do one of these things. It is my natural response to be defensive, negative, or lash out. As much as I try to control it, sometimes I just can’t and it takes time for me to reflect and realize how I behaved wasn’t right. So a good first baby step is to suck it up and apologize later. That take… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/25 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Intro – Chapter 3. CHANGE YOUR MINDSET AND STOP GASLIGHTING YOURSELFThis warms my heart so much so thanks for commenting! It’s honestly a fantastic book for single women, I hope you will join the rest of our posts:) Also check out a post I made about this exact topic around confidence: confidence for the single RPW | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/25 03:12 PM |
| 3 | Wake up call to get out of this decades long funkBased on your words, it sounds like you are seeking some spirituality or religion in your life. While it’s not for everybody, there’s a reason the 12 step groups start with a belief in a higher power, because it’s a very helpful thing when trying to make a major difficult change. Just something to consider. After that, I would remind you that diet is about 90% of weight loss. I feel like lots of people tell themselves they don’t want to work out so they can’t lose weight and that’s really not tr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/25 03:03 PM |
| 4 | oneitis, self esteem, moving onSo if this is the case, I would not recommend dating anybody where there are obvious deal breakers that could prevent a marriage. But it’s good to be flexible in terms of minor things. But once you know, they’re not a fit, cut it off and move along. Don’t just keep seeing them for experience or entertainment because you risk exactly what happened before. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 10:47 PM |
| 4 | You Call It Empowerment. I Call It a Violation.Did you see that photo trending of women outside a club and all have on a tucked in black tank top and the same baggy light wash jeans? No creativity lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 05:58 PM |
| 6 | You Call It Empowerment. I Call It a Violation.I agree and feel like it’s either one extreme or the other. Prairie dresses and baggy jeans or full out club gear, no middle. I also kind of feel like this is an AI rant so I wanted to hear from OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 05:49 PM |
| 3 | oneitis, self esteem, moving onWhat are your long term goals? Marriage and kids? Or no? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 05:16 PM |
| 0 | You Call It Empowerment. I Call It a Violation.I mean, you are kind of preaching to the choir here. Most people here agree with you already... | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 05:11 PM |
| 12 | oneitis, self esteem, moving onFirst off, let me say empathetically I’m sorry you’re suffering, it sucks. Second though, this is a tale as old as time. By that I mean it’s a mistake so many women make and it’s exactly why women should not have casual sex. It damages us long-term. This is one of those situations though where I think until you fall for someone else, you’re going to be stuck on him. I wouldn’t say that if it was a month or two out, but if it’s been a year, you are obsessing, and it’s not healthy. Have you tried … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 03:34 AM |
| 6 | Please help what does it mean to be a red pill woman?Forget all the other responses and go straight to the source on our wiki page: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/wiki/index/. Regarding religion, some RPW are religious and others are not. RPW is amoral overall. However much of our advice aligns with how many religions outline gender roles (man as leader) so we do get a lot of religious people here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/25 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 4 - 8. CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.I personally don’t know of a PDF, I’m sorry! We’d love to have you join! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/25 01:24 AM |
| 8 | Men’s inherent value in a relationship?Yeah, most men don’t understand what it takes to raise kids and how demanding it is. They don’t get that you have to watch them and be on your feet carrying for them 24/7 in the young years, you aren’t at home watching TV and doing your own thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/25 02:30 PM |
| 28 | Is it normal to not be 100% attracted to your partner?Then you are attracted to him enough in my opinion to make this work. It’s OK for people to be different and no, no woman is going to think her man is 100% perfect. I would focus on being grateful for the good things he is and ignoring his quirks if they’re not affecting your sexual desire for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/25 04:47 PM |
| 12 | Is it normal to not be 100% attracted to your partner?How is your sex life? Are you attracted to him in bed and enthusiastic? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/25 04:21 PM |
| 4 | I’m (f22) dating a guy (m25) who won’t plan any datesSimply put, he’s not leader material. If you want a leader, it’s not him. If you are ok being the leader then this is what you’d have to do here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/25 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 4 - 8. CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.It’s a good train read, it goes quick :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/25 12:08 PM |
| 2 | No Such Thing as Red Pill Women?I think this makes total sense, especially about COVID. I can see how a lockdown would put a real focus on what matters and that’s solid reliable family. It was such a different experience going into it at 36 like I did. Thanks for sharing this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/25 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 4 - 8. CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.I would love to have you join, I think you have great insights! If you start now, I would just start with chapter 9, so you’re on track with us for the next round in mind July! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/25 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Chapters 4 - 8. CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.Exactly, it takes practice and openness, most of all. So many women will not even talk to a guy in a bar unless she thinks he’s a 10 out of 10 like you say. ladies need to talk to the fives, even if they aren’t interested initially. Sometimes you will really be surprised at how much a personality can win somebody over. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/25 10:26 PM |
| 5 | How long do you guys wait to have sex when you're dating?This is absolutely not how it works, many women have slept with guys where they fall in love and he doesn’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/25 08:42 PM |
| 7 | No Such Thing as Red Pill Women?One challenge is that there are RPW but there aren’t as many YOUNG RPW. At 35 or so, many of us begin to get it. It clicks. We see the mistakes we made in the past and that forever youth coming to an end. We can still learn lessons from it but not as much as would benefit us when we were younger. RP men have the advantage of time. It may suck for them when they are 20 but they figure it out early (because it slaps them in the face) and if they put in the effort, they can really optimize leaving … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/25 10:34 PM |
| 1 | What would be your thoughts on someone co parenting a dog?I wouldn’t personally do it but I wouldn’t NOT date someone over it either… such a minor thing, who cares. Also if they were married or lived together for a long time, I can see it. Seems like you just don’t like him that much if this is a dealbreaker. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/25 08:46 PM |
| 17 | Real Talk: What I’ve Learned About “High-Value” Men After Dating One (Or So I Thought)A high value man is not going to say he’s a high value man or an alpha. Red pill 101. This guy without a job who is unhygienic with a nasty room is definitely not high value. I’m sure this is very relatable to many women, however! The most important thing is that you are learning and that’s what dating is about! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/25 01:24 PM |
| 3 | If red pill is an amoral strategy why is it wrong with promoting gold digging, hypergamy, monkey branching and dating multiple men at the initial stage?Yes, this is a huge problem! I suppose I made the assumption they were not telling the new partner about the current partner, but for sure if the new partner knows, he’s most likely never going to trust and respect her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 05:01 PM |
| 8 | If red pill is an amoral strategy why is it wrong with promoting gold digging, hypergamy, monkey branching and dating multiple men at the initial stage?I get your point in that we say red pill women is amoral but when women come here with nontraditional strategies, they tend to get blasted. This is largely because we have a fairly traditional audience but the mods do a good job at shutting this down, however, I’m sure it does still scare people away. I know I have some personal opinions and practices I don’t share here because people do not like it because of morality (specifically in regards to white lies). So be it. Also, there are very few m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 03:25 PM |
| 10 | If red pill is an amoral strategy why is it wrong with promoting gold digging, hypergamy, monkey branching and dating multiple men at the initial stage?Again, if you are looking for the highest value man possible AND you define that as money and looks only, then yes, being the main chick and allowing side chicks maybe the best course for you. However most women don’t want that, most women want monogomy and a more traditional arrangement. Especially if they are going to have children with this man, his morals matter. To get that, they are likely willing to compromise on money and looks and look for other qualities in a partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 03:20 PM |
| 2 | If older women keep complaining about men dating young Girls why they don't date younger men too ?I mean, they do. It’s super common… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/25 09:40 PM |
| 9 | 32F How do I reframe disappointment around certain dynamics in my relationship and my previous visions of motherhood?Let me be real (if this isn’t a troll post). At 32, if you want kids, now IS the time. You need to move quickly. So you have to compromise what that looks like. The alternative may be just not getting to have kids at all because most (I stress that most really means a huge majority) men don’t make what you do and never will. At your age, going out and looking for a new guy isn’t a viable option if you want kids. You make fabulous money and can afford great help. You may have preferred to stay ho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/25 09:41 PM |
| 11 | Are other conservative women not worried about the R word?I think this highly depends on the type of job/industry, company culture, and the actual men themselves. I travel with majority men on occasion who party and I’ve never worried about my safety… but I work for a tech company where people are aware of these dynamics, and I know the men well enough and trust them. So I’d never think something bad would happen, and frankly I don’t come across as an easy target. Also I don’t stay out drinking with them. I go to dinner and then don’t go to the hotel b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/25 04:51 PM |
| 8 | What makes a man dominant to you?I couldn't have said it better. This is exactly it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/25 02:33 PM |
| 35 | How do conservative women in their 20s find spouses?If you want to seriously date, you HAVE to be more open minded. Yes you need to be attracted to your guy but only going for one specific look is SO bad. Not only is it hard to find, but it means when you do find this guy, you become obsessed. What if he treats you bad? What if he beats you? You won't leave, you will put up with it because you know how hard he would be to replace. I'm being dramatic to illustrate a point. You are focused on attraction only and nothing else. This is so problematic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/25 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Intro – Chapter 3. CHANGE YOUR MINDSET AND STOP GASLIGHTING YOURSELFIt’s a quick easy read, very practical like a users manual to dating for marriage. Pretty different than Doyle’s other books. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/25 01:43 PM |
| 4 | Surrendered Single Book Club: Intro – Chapter 3. CHANGE YOUR MINDSET AND STOP GASLIGHTING YOURSELFYou raise a good point about balance and not making it seem as if you want any man but rather the right fit. This is honestly SUCH a fine line to walk. I’ve said something similar, like “I am very blessed in my life and would love to share it with a partner.” And yes, guys will opt out. I think this point is what loses most girls. They find a guy they want who won’t commit to them and therefore compromise their goals to get a taste of him. This is one strategy to choose but of course rarely will… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/25 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Not sure if I’m being too picky and analytical after having low standards previouslyFor the drinking, did he tell you hey I did this cool funny thing or was he like hey I did this thing I regret it was so embarrassing? People make mistakes, especially at 21, and so I would not write people off for one mistake. But how they talk about it will tell you more about their character. If he thought it was cool and was bragging, that just tells me he’s immature and probably not ready for a partnership. If he expressed some sort of remorse, however, that’s a good sign of strong morals. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/25 05:53 PM |
| 5 | navigating beauty as currency when you’re just okayOP I don’t hear you saying anything about what you were doing to attract men in terms of your behavior. None of us look perfect and we have to work with what we have. So start focusing on your behavior, are going to places where you’re going to meet men? Have you mastered giving them signs you are interested? Do you have good girl game? These are the things that set a girl above the others. You should not be aiming for a guy to say you are a trophy wife or the hottest girl around, you should be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/25 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Need advice for supporting my husband through his health problemsAnd it frequently has an onset after an injury or illness too which made me think it was possible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/25 03:07 PM |
| 4 | Need advice for supporting my husband through his health problemsSame boat here, a gluten-free diet really changes things. People like to make jokes about it but it’s real thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/25 05:26 PM |
| 8 | Need advice for supporting my husband through his health problemsI have fibromyalgia, I have for 25 years, and I’m wondering if this is what he has. Regardless a diagnosis is not crazy helpful. There’s no magic answer here, all you can do is support him and offer to help where you can. For chronic illnesses, distraction really is one of the best things. Talking about the condition all the time is not the way to go, do fun things that you both can enjoy even if it’s just watching a movie and distract yourselves. Let him lead and involve you as much or as littl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/25 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Surrendered Single Summer Book ClubThank you for including all of this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/25 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Nun Mode Plan - Baby steps to Consistency and HealingI’d encourage you to also make a self care list. If you feel overwhelmed or depressed, go to the list and pick a thing. These should be FUN and EASY things you can do, simple, not something you feel you should do but don’t really want to. Whatever you love - watch a show, light a candle, read a book, take a nap, sit in the sun, go get a massage, sit by a lake… whatever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/25 05:42 PM |
| 2 | Surrendered Single Summer Book ClubSo glad to hear it!! It’s a good one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/25 06:29 PM |
| 11 | Vetting: *If he never changes*Very great write up. From a strategic perspective, being submissive immediately is not going to be your best strategy either. While men do you like some degree of submissiveness (i.e. agreeableness), a woman who is a pushover and doesn’t know herself is going to be unattractive in the initial stages of dating. We see women come in here all the time who are very submissive and quiet and have trouble attracting men because they don’t have any girl game. The skills you need to attract a man in the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/25 04:06 PM |
| – | My brief experience with dating apps as a young womanThis is exactly it, I can promise them it sucked when they could only pick from the people who live in your direct neighborhood as well because you had no exposure to anyone else as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/25 05:23 PM |
| 2 | My brief experience with dating apps as a young womanBecause you’re posting about it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/25 03:56 PM |
| 2 | My brief experience with dating apps as a young womanIt looks like you were on dating apps less than a month ago, so are you needy and afraid of accountability? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/25 03:51 PM |
| 1 | My brief experience with dating apps as a young womanNo, it’s not rare, it’s actually extremely common. People just expect it to work the first time and don’t expect to have any failures in the process. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/25 03:44 PM |
| 3 | My brief experience with dating apps as a young womanDating apps take a lot of time and effort to be successful. Logging on briefly, taking a look, and jumping off when you’re already in a relationship is not going to be a realistic experience. Yes you will find creepy guys, yes you will find losers, yes you will find men full of contradictions. I tell people all the time, go on Facebook and search for random people or look at the types of pictures of people writing an under comments and see what you find. Those are literally the same people signi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/25 12:57 PM |
| – | I’m lostI love her and she’s so right | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/25 11:49 PM |
| 2 | I’m lostI only want my looks from then, the rest can take a hike! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/25 06:23 PM |
| 2 | I’m lostI was just thinking how horrible early 20s are. The mistakes, the emotions, the uncertainty. Ugh! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/25 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Laure Doyle's Empowered Wife & Helen Andelin's Fascinating WomanhoodFascinating womanhood was written in the 60s primarily focused on stay home wives while empowered wife was written just a few years ago. It doesn’t necessarily mean one is better than the other but fascinating womanhood definitely feels dated even though the concepts still are relevant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/25 12:01 AM |
| 6 | Do men who want commitment present themselves as such right away or do some consider commitment after they've been dating a girl for a while?On average men get married around 30 in the United States, younger in other places in the world. People online want to act like this doesn’t happen but most men 40 and over who have never been married are unlikely to get married. Those who do get married over 40 generally are on their second or third marriage. Men who want to get married know it even if they are in their late 20s. Sure I wouldn’t expect a 20-year-old guy to know this but a 26 or up year-old guy probably knows. By 30, he’s sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 10:15 PM |
| 7 | How can you inspire a man to commit? To want to be in a relationship?This is all so true. Furthermore, there’s no knowing where he will actually end up living. He could very well move back home. I was dating a fantastic (Muslim) guy for five months years ago who swore to me up and down that he loved our state, he planned to stay here, he was all in. He didn’t seem very religious, he was very Americanized. He went home for a visit with his family for a month, came back and told me he was convinced to move back, and he was gone only a few short weeks later. The say… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 10:04 PM |
| 5 | How can you inspire a man to commit? To want to be in a relationship?You seem to be leaving out the very critical information around differences in religion and culture that are very relevant here, even if you think they are not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 06:11 PM |
| 3 | Do men who want commitment present themselves as such right away or do some consider commitment after they've been dating a girl for a while?Exactly what I was going to say, approach varies based on your age and I would say culture as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 06:02 PM |
| 2 | Surrendered Single Summer Book ClubUgh same, wish I had had this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 03:55 PM |
| 1 | The surrendered single Laura DoylePlease see my other post, we are moving forward | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/25 03:55 PM |
| 3 | Surrendered Single Summer Book ClubYou are very welcome! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/25 09:17 PM |
| 17 | My (F19) best friend (M20) is "not ready to be in a relationship" how do I proceed emotionally?As a Muslim man, he’s not allowed to marry a woman who’s not Muslim, Christian or Jewish. I’m speaking from experience. They will all tell you their family is open minded, but until they put you in front of their family face to face, do not believe it. Maybe they are open minded compared to other Muslims but compared to westerners they are still strict. And in my experience, Muslim men get more conservative over the years. In their 20s they are going to have fun but as the age they will return t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/25 03:58 PM |
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