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My gut says I need to decide whether I want one and if so, reframe this discussion as me making this decision for the family, etc., and try to reframe AWAY from “you really wanted me to do this so I’ll go do it now.” You could cut your balls off entirely, then she won't be able to take credit for it and your ego is safe.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 08:20 PM
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where did I show insecurities You're posting because you're afraid she's going to leave you for one of these guys. You spent most of the post tearing down her "beta" co workers to make yourself feel better. Open your fucking eyes man. You think you're more alpha because you work out a little? Because they play games? They're not the ones pissing their pants right now lmao. I asked him what he did "Playing video games on my new PC" At least he's secure enough to be authentic and honest about what…
/r/askMRP02/04/23 08:17 PM
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Should I ignore things Based on the level of hamstering going on in this post, I don't think it's possible for you to ignore it. You're insecure af.
/r/askMRP02/04/23 12:22 AM
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You don't seem to want to fog/ignore, set boundaries, or hang up. You also aren't afraid of drying up her pussy by letting her spew feelings over the phone as much as she wants. What's your goal exactly?
/r/askMRP22/03/23 11:30 PM
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I never loved you right now
/r/askMRP18/03/23 07:04 PM
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Buddy... you are the mess.
/r/askMRP06/03/23 06:40 PM
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Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong... but it sounds like you married a prostitute.
/r/askMRP06/03/23 04:44 PM
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I’m a short average looking guy with a small dick, it doesn’t matter how much I earn or how much status I get, or how much muscle I build, compared to chads I’ll just look like a kid in his father’s suit trying to act like a serious businessman - I just don’t look the part. Guess it's time for you to move over to some incel subs then.
/r/askMRP18/02/23 04:50 PM
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Now this gets me thinking,,does my wife love me more because she is having me dress up? or does she secretly want me to find another chic? (which is really strange since we had a few huge fights when she caught me cheating a couple of times even one time with her friend). I mean she isnt sabotaging it,, I researched and her advice checks out : - she wants me to wear good fitted shirts and Jesus christ man... and you're sitting around worrying about dread.
/r/askMRP03/02/23 05:55 PM
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For most people, the idea of dread is just masturbation. For example, if you're morbidly obese and can't figure out how to make the scale move..... you aren't gonna dread anyone. Ever. But hey, at least they can larp about it..
/r/askMRP02/02/23 04:41 PM
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The sub is premised on the idea of reviving a shitty marriage No wonder it seems weird to you.
/r/askMRP27/01/23 04:15 PM
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"What I’ve realized is that younger women’s farts smell much sweeter and creamier than older women. Their guts are newer and fresher, and in turn produce the most estrogenic feminine candy scented farts you’ll ever experience"
/r/askMRP26/01/23 08:35 PM
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I’d rather rub one out Seems like you'd also rather rub one out to the idea of divorce instead of actually going through with it. She doesn’t like long make out sessions. She’s not really a kisser. I only get 1-2 peck kisses a day. We went on vacation recently and didn’t even have sex Because you lost attraction, right?
/r/askMRP26/01/23 04:45 PM
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I just said it's not up for discussion now This wasn't accepted ... so I said it's time to go and finished the call. This is an enforced boundary. The other stuff... not so much.
/r/askMRP26/01/23 03:29 AM
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Block her until you are done doing what you have to do. That's a boundary.
/r/askMRP17/01/23 11:30 PM
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This.
/r/askMRP17/01/23 05:47 PM
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My wife has to tell me what to do all the time because I'm incompetent. It makes me feel like a bitch. It hurts my feelings so much that my dick doesn't even work anymore. Will acting butthurt make her respect me? Lol, what do you think?
/r/askMRP17/01/23 03:19 AM
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I bet you feel better now that you've gotten all that out. Now you can go back to doing nothing about any of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/23 07:00 PM
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Man, your post history... How do you If you put down your penis pump for a minute and post on OYS instead of PPD, you just might find out.
/r/askMRP13/01/23 08:45 AM
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No kids, no stressful jobs or relatives. Just you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/23 10:11 PM
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What about reduced initiations? She'd love that... less duty sex.
/r/askMRP05/01/23 04:38 PM
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it's generally very impolite Yeah true, gotta avoid being impolite at all costs. Great work Manners Patrol!
/r/askMRP01/01/23 12:16 AM
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I never wanted you for a visa to the US lol
/r/askMRP31/12/22 11:44 PM
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Just stop taking your birth control pills without telling her.
/r/askMRP25/12/22 05:54 PM
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so go ahead, because I'm going to need all kind of arguments For what? To convince her that she wants something she doesn't want? How do you think that's gonna work out for you? lol You think we'd want you to reproduce?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/22 05:34 PM
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This isn't you working on yourself... It's you working on your wife. Put yourself first. Or, you can just keep squeezing her for those few drops of juice.
/r/askMRP23/12/22 05:45 AM
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The fact that this is the topic of your only post says a lot. Get your shit together man.
/r/askMRP21/12/22 05:29 PM
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How do I actually act ? Indifferent ? Happy fucking birthday ? Does it matter?
/r/askMRP19/12/22 08:38 PM
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Doggy? Oh hell yeah...
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/22 10:01 PM
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Yikes indeed...
/r/askMRP10/12/22 08:21 PM
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who has many lawyers in her family (no lawyers in my family growing up When you put your wife on an even higher pedestal because she's a lawyer... It's pretty clear from this alone that the trouble you have dealing with her behavior has nothing to do with her law degree and everything to do with the fact that you haven't grown beyond your upbringing. An argument requires two participants. Creating a boundary for yourself here would solve this. You don't know how to do that though because you're …
/r/askMRP10/12/22 05:09 PM
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Thanks for telling us about what your wife wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 06:59 PM
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To my giving my last name to a woman is a big sacrifice. Its me announcing to my family, her family and the world that I'd die for this person. Me handing it to her is like saying here is the second greatest gift I can give you.. And her accepting that gift is her sacrifice... Lol, can't wait to see how this turns out five years from now.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 09:09 PM
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ETA How’s your MRP / OYS journey been going since OYS 5 18 months ago? Solid frame. Even after all your "I've gotten a bit too proud" and "Good call out on the ego"... you still had to tack this part on the end there. You didn't get a "bit too proud"... Your ego has been raging from the start. It's been almost a year now... it's time to get a handle on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 04:47 AM
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It's difficult because you're used to letting your emotions control your actions. The tricky part about STFU is learning to catch yourself before you say something. That involves recognizing when you're experiencing an emotion that wants to drive your mouth and pausing to sort that emotion rationally before acting. If you've been on autopilot your whole life, taking back some control is going to be a bit of work. Self-awarenesss.
/r/askMRP26/11/22 04:19 PM
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Go ahead and tell us how tall you are, you know you want to. You gentle giant lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/22 05:10 PM
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Say it... lmao And then log in on your alt account and back yourself up.
/r/askMRP22/11/22 07:39 AM
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Yikes
/r/askMRP22/11/22 12:03 AM
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Are you actually not attracted to her though? Because you only mentioned it after these guys started calling her a whale. Before that you were begging to eat her pussy and snapping up whatever scraps she tossed you. Now all of a sudden you need to come up with a weight loss plan for her and being all "weight issue" and "left my last wife cuz fat". first thought was to defend or shoot down with sarcasm Instead you went with, "say whatever I think these guys want to hear". This is at the core of h…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 04:54 PM
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MRP is almost wholly incompatible Got ourselves a real expert here...
/r/askMRP19/11/22 06:46 PM
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about me being afraid? I feel apprehension I feel dread Lol, you can't even say it.
/r/askMRP19/11/22 06:33 PM
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tell me how much I suck You don't suck. I think it's wonderful that your wife is your main focus and the center of your world. Some people might call that pathetic, lacking abundance, being in your wife's frame, beta, sad, etc. I think it's BEAUTIFUL 🌈
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 04:42 PM
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Your happiness is completely dependent on whether or not your wife takes birth control. And you think you solved all your problems... What happens if she goes back on birth control, or stops fucking you for whatever reason? You'll be right back here, crying about it, fucking devastated. Maybe you'll even write up OYS#2.
/r/askMRP17/11/22 04:06 AM
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Although I don't believe she's cheating she add that she has no preference regarding exclusivity Bro... This is as clear as she can be without saying, "Ill be fucking someone else during this break".
/r/askMRP16/11/22 04:34 AM
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But that's how he "Gained a few pounds of muscle mass" last week...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/22 08:00 AM
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How can I feel more confident about this situation? You can grow some balls and make a decision. You don't feel confident because you're just jumping back and forth between what ifs. Weigh the pros and cons, pick one. Accept that it may not work out, since nothing is ever guaranteed. Or... you can just continue sitting around biting your nails and clenching your ass cheeks just like every other scared mother fucker that comes here.
/r/askMRP08/11/22 10:37 PM
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Slut ex wants to fuck, must be a conspiracy. You posted about this over on r/NarcissiticAbuse too lmao. And before that you were posting all over r/ExNoContact You sound like you have a ton of options.
/r/askMRP08/11/22 07:47 PM
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Is this the same girl you were complaining about 3 years ago because she was contacting her old "ONS"? You really stuck it out and now there's a kid! Way to go! Yes no doubt possible. It’s a mini me Yeah man without a doubt.
/r/askMRP07/11/22 07:03 PM
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It's whatever he decides he wants his kids to resent him for in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 06:18 PM
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These type of chicks seem to be the ultimate red pill test with abandonment and fears always present lmao What's the test exactly? To see how long you can put up with shitty behavior while putting your needs and happiness on the back burner? The longer you last, the stronger and more alpha you are? Sounds very "red pill".
/r/askMRP05/11/22 04:43 PM
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Marry her and knock her up. Then she'll have to be faithful because you're a family now, right?
/r/askMRP02/11/22 02:24 PM
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Wouldn't hurt if it wasn't true. If you're shaken when an internet rando tells you that you suck... you're probably too fragile to accomplish much of anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/22 03:11 PM
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My girlfiriend boyfriend FTFY
/r/askMRP29/10/22 03:03 AM
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My wife lost significant respect for me today. No... she didn't have respect for you in the first place. She wouldn't have gone off on you like that if she respected you. You wouldn't be in this situation if you respected yourself. But yeah, keep worrying about what your wife thinks.
/r/askMRP27/10/22 01:38 AM
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Yeah that's the answer. You're focused on solving the wrong problem though. The idea here is that becoming more attractive (in all ways/to everyone) gives you more opportunities to get the things that you want. Just look at what happened with your career and how that has affected your social life. As you become more attractive, your wife might become attracted to you. But she might not. And if not, you'll eventually have so many options that it she won't even matter.
/r/askMRP27/10/22 01:16 AM
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"why wasn’t this done? This is wrong and needs to be xyz. Okay now you do this, you put the over here, do it like this, hold this while I do that - over here - okay now do this, etc.” Sounds like background noise to me. Who sits around paying attention to shit like that?
/r/askMRP23/10/22 04:22 PM
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did she already cheated or just going to do it sooner or later? Does the answer to this even matter? She sounds like a keeper bro... stay the course.
/r/askMRP22/10/22 11:55 PM
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I want to KNOW what went wrong. EXACTLY Easy.. You're needy with a fragile little ego. You got there because of your upbringing. You're staying there because you're retarded.
/r/askMRP22/10/22 02:14 AM
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is this purist of life experiences something that is going to get a wife wet Lol.. you got me good there. Now I see, you're just a dancing monkey. You'll stop feeling this way when you have some abundance. If you build it, they will cum. Get back to work bud.
/r/askMRP18/10/22 09:24 PM
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Sounds like you're looking for that one simple goal that makes you feel like you've got all of your bases covered. Complete. That's not how things work. You and the world are constantly changing. You're never going to be complete. Your current mission, continuous exploration, accounts for that. I think the reason you feel like your mission is lacking is because you're still stuck on the idea of one day, being able to just wrap things up and be done.
/r/askMRP18/10/22 07:22 PM
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Cut up or cancel the credit cards. Stop giving her grocery money. Don't explain it just do it. You're worried about the explanation, meanwhile she's draining your bank account. Get your fucking priorities straight. Protect yourself. That's frame. Worrying about an argument and how you're going to explain it to your wife, that's her frame.
/r/askMRP12/10/22 06:40 PM
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how do you manage to maintain frame/IGDAF with destructive wife behaviors? IDGAF only applies when you actually know you shouldn't give a fuck. If your finances are important to you and she's pissing your money away.... you absolutely should give a fuck. You can't control the way your wife behaves. If she wants to be self destructive, there isn't anything you can do. If she wants to do something, she'll do it. But, if she's doing things that are destructive to you or the kids, and you don't like…
/r/askMRP12/10/22 05:43 PM
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improve yourself / lead / frame / etc. and she'll follow She'll either follow or she won't.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/22 01:38 AM
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Lol... you're not getting it bro. Your head is so far up her ass and you can't even see it. It's lazy thinking to say I'd threaten to withdraw time What!? I was talking about the threat itself. Instead of just doing what you want (focusing on you), you're doing things to try to change her (focused on her). Your entire response is about her. Good luck with that line of thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/22 03:53 PM
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There are always more interesting things to be doing If there are always better/more interesting things to be doing, why aren't you already doing those things instead? I need to just tell her that if she's not a fun date I'll find something else to do. Instead of telling her, why don't you just do it? Why don't you just say to yourself, "I don't like this, Im going to do something I like" and just do it? I'll tell you why, It's because your focus isn't you, it's her. You want to tell her, not be…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/22 08:14 AM
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improve my ability to bend spoons If you want to use matrix analogies, you should try to understand the meaning of that scene: "Do not try and bend the spoon. That's impossible. Instead... only try to realize the truth. There is no spoon. It is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself." The idea applies here as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/22 05:18 PM
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I resent the wasted effort You see it as wasted because you're stuck on the wrong outcome. The real value comes from getting better at it, becoming desensitized to rejection, using it to figure out what you want and whether or not this relationship is something you want. If your success is dependent on her actions... is it really success? Is it even yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/22 06:39 AM
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Depends on your frame really. It's only passive aggressive when it's passive aggressive. If it's calculated and not attached to butt hurt, it's strategy.
/r/seduction30/09/22 07:53 AM
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How does pointing out someone’s dickheadedness means we are “upset”? Nobody is “upset”, chill.. Hilarious... What would you like to call it instead? Irritated? Bitchy? "I just didn't like it"? Or did you comment for no reason at all? seems to come from a position of “dismissive superiority” rather than many “tough love Again, that says more about you than it does about me. I answered the man's question in the most direct way possible. Highlighted all the ridiculous things he's doing as a result …
/r/askMRP29/09/22 06:39 AM
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Lol... man this place really is the retard playpen. Not everyone is going to sugar coat everything. Sometimes it's intentional. If you have anything to say that contradicts the points that I made for OP, please share. I'm all ears. If you're just upset about my tone and you don't get it, maybe it's time to change your tampon.
/r/askMRP28/09/22 09:32 PM
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Again... might want to ask yourself why you're so fixated on my choice of words, especially if you agree with my point.
/r/askMRP28/09/22 03:28 PM
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You're too busy being vicariously butthurt to see what I'm saying here. Might want to think about why that is.
/r/askMRP28/09/22 02:06 PM
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Maybe she notices her daughter being selfish You're trying to use this to reinforce your victim mentality. "Even her mom sees how awful she is!" I’m curious if anyone has ideas If you saw someone as sad as you, living a life as sad as yours, you'd probably feel bad for them too.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 06:43 AM
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You have genital herpes. You also don't want to infect other people. There are two options in order to not infect people: Celibacy or dating within the HSV circle. You know this. And yet here you are asking us to show you some other option while rubbing random shit on your dick, eating special diets, and waiting around for "potential human trials". How much more accepting do I have to be Accepting enough to stop all that bullshit and face reality. You have fucking herpes man and that shit ain't …
/r/askMRP28/09/22 06:16 AM
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Sounds like you're still experiencing a bit of denial. It's not going away. You need to fully accept that you have this. That's the only way you'll be able to make any real progress. it's really hard for to me to think of myself as the prize when I have herpes There is no other prize. You're the only thing you get. This life.. is it. You can either fight it and be unhappy, or you can embrace it and get the most out of it.
/r/askMRP28/09/22 04:52 AM
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Now, a month in, she is still keeping to her therapy appointments, managed to get few female friends, seems to be getting on track with becoming healthy and happy again Sounds like dropping you was a good move for her. and I know that she would be enthusiastic about any form of relationship with me Oh that's easy then... just get back with her so things can go back to the way they used to be.
/r/askMRP21/09/22 05:45 PM
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How do you guys read this stuff without your wife noticing? Sneak it in the bathroom? At night under the covers? How do you expect to get anything done if you're so scared of your wife that you can't even read a book around her? It sounds like she basically fucking hates you. You think the books you're reading are somehow going to make that worse?
/r/askMRP20/09/22 08:54 PM
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I was always validation seeking valedictorian, sports success, ivy league w/ honors Still are apparently.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/22 12:48 AM
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In-laws have never been fond of me and they express so in passive aggressive ways. They also were criticizing my being absent for work in underhanded ways. I got upset and butt hurt and got wasted Fixing this should be at the top of your todo list. Your in-laws opinions should mean nothing to you. It's your life not theirs. You're not living it for them or anyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/22 12:46 AM
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If you call being aware of the boys in my daughters social circle Not what I'm saying at all. I'm mocking you for making a shitty post based on some high school kid you have a crush on. Talking about "old timers" and "noobs" and "Shut. The. Fuck. Up." What did you do? How did you apply RP concepts? What worked, what didn't work? I thought this was supposed to be a field report... all you did was regurgitate the most basic shit from the side bar like you came up with it. This shit screams ego to …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/22 05:52 PM
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He is well over 6' and a beast in multiple sports. He's active in the local church and has all the makings of being "the guy I thought he was her type Sounds more like he's your type. I can't imagine being this involved in the local high school gossip. He sounds really hot though, I get it. But yeah... STFU, build frame. We often overlook those.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/22 03:14 PM
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37 (maybe), only married once (maybe), was lying at first but is now being honest (maybe)... She sounds like a keeper! Better knock her up before those eggs go completely bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 05:02 PM
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I fear that putting my wife's safety first has made me look like a bad guy in the eyes of her friends and family. All that... and your main concern is what her friends and family will think of you? Am I the crazy one? Nah, you're not crazy... you're just retarded. She's not crazy either... she's just unhappy.
/r/askMRP06/09/22 10:13 PM
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Don't touch others while flirting, don't dance with others, don't kiss others, and introduce yourself as being in a relationship. Do these "rules" make you feel safe? Do you think that these words actually mean anything?
/r/askMRP06/09/22 10:06 PM
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Menu bar that has links to FAQ, wiki... bunch of other useful stuff. Getting to it is different depending on what you're using to view reddit.
/r/askMRP04/09/22 11:38 PM
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"How cum there only is basic concepts!?!?" You posted your first OYS four days ago. Have you even looked at the sidebar? You're just scratching the surface of what's available.
/r/askMRP03/09/22 03:06 PM
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If you're waiting/reading first because you're afraid of looking retarded... you might want to think about that.
/r/askMRP31/08/22 03:36 PM
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Let 'em all in!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 04:22 PM
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You need to shift your focus here. oh look I did something good too This is seeking external approval. its very obvious this isn't attractive or me being a solid oak. This is the same thing except seeking to avoid external disapproval. Both are two sides of the same narcissistic coin. Stop using everyone around you as your source of self-esteem. Look internally instead. Feel like you did a good job? Great, pat yourself on the back and use it as a model for future success. Say something retarded?…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/22 04:20 AM
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She's hoping that if she plays dead you'll go away.
/r/askMRP26/08/22 04:00 PM
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What you're talking about has nothing to do with frame. It's not about getting your dick sucked or whether or not you take care of your kids.
/r/askMRP24/08/22 06:46 PM
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So here's my question: shouldn't a man's wife, and by extension his family, be his frame? This question displays a fundamental misunderstanding of the concept of frame. But hey, if you're "pretty sure" then definitely don't read more about it.
/r/askMRP24/08/22 05:27 PM
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Not enough flamboyant enough to be johnny.
/r/askMRP24/08/22 05:10 PM
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Since you're so deep in her frame, why don't you just ask her to tell you what to do?
/r/askMRP24/08/22 03:59 PM
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The hero we need.
/r/askMRP24/08/22 08:47 AM
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If you're so concerned about it... why don't you climb down out of my ass and do it yourself?
/r/askMRP24/08/22 08:18 AM
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You don't understand the concept. Read more.
/r/askMRP24/08/22 06:12 AM
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I'm poor and looking for financial advice. I worry about not having kids or a house in the future. 15,000 a year Have you tried working more than 15hrs/week?
/r/askMRP23/08/22 10:26 PM
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So no more lurking. Time to implement action and stop being a whiny beta bitch And what better way to start than by making a "whiny beta bitch" post. I'm sure it'll stick this time.
/r/askMRP23/08/22 08:06 PM
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Sometimes would criticize me to the point I would get frustrated and want to cry. This is where you need to start. Develop some self-respect and some boundaries for yourself. You're also making the incorrect assumption that when people talk to you they're automatically asking you for your opinion. Did she ask you if you thought her friend didn't invest enough? Maybe she's a know it all... but she's not the only one. She starts talking, you open your mouth because you just have to voice your opin…
/r/askMRP14/08/22 08:34 PM
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absolutely cannot fucking shake the anger. I’m fuming like a bitch for the past 3 days now. So much so that my STFU has been absolute Rambo and been mentioned. This is all bruised ego. I’ve resisted the urge but should I keep the discovery to myself? I can only imagine bringing it up would make me seem like such butthurt loser "Seem"? You are literally a butthurt loser. All you'd be doing here is verbalizing that fact to her. The problem here is that you're insecure and your self-worth is still …
/r/askMRP14/08/22 03:25 PM
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Lol.. all that and you circle back to "but do I try to have sex or not" I WAS happy but that happiness was contingent on her treatment of me You need to figure out this part first....
/r/askMRP05/08/22 11:30 PM
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Sounds draining dealing with you every day. You probably just need to give her a night off every once in a while so that she can spend some time at her boyfriends house.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/22 06:56 PM
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can’t handle any sort of intense emotional discussion Yikes....Do you find that you need to have "intense emotional discussions" with her on a regular basis? I am a bit of a needy bitch I guess that answers that question. You really expect her (or anyone) to want to sit through one of your victim puke "discussions"? You're exhausting. What I struggle with is the constant accusations of me being in a bad mood when I am actually a pretty happy guy. You're happy, just "tired" and definitely not qui…
/r/askMRP05/08/22 01:50 PM
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But anyone posting here must have other aspirations and he’s just failing miserably at them You're making the assumption that the guys who post here know who they are and what they want.
/r/askMRP05/08/22 05:04 AM
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she‘d rather suffer through frequent sex she doesn’t actually want than not get any attention/affection from her husband watch her husband pout and sulk like a fucking child ftfy You think it's the attention she wants... but really she just knows you're fragile and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. And you wonder why she can't bring herself to look you in the eye...
/r/askMRP05/08/22 04:49 AM
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My credo in life is that smart people have a duty to have as many kids as possible so as to not be outbred by idiots. I consider myself a smart person LMAO How do I spread my seed with maximum effect? Are there resources on this? Just keep lifting that 10kg dumbbell.
/r/askMRP02/08/22 06:33 AM
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First off... you're retarded. It's obvious to us from this one post... so it's going to be very obvious to your daughter after having tolerated you for so many years. Would you follow the advice of a retard? Secondly... most of what kids learn from parents comes from what is modeled for them. I'm sure this isn't the first dad chat you've had with your daughter over the course of her life... what do you think you've been modeling with lectures like these? I'll give you a hint, she's learning some…
/r/askMRP29/07/22 11:32 PM
1

What makes you think that just because you have a mission, you've accounted for everything? If you're running through bitches like this and you're still unhappy... you're missing something from your mission, and it ain't the nth woman.
/r/askMRP22/07/22 08:32 PM
6

we split most of the bills and breaking up would mean struggling for a while Oh shit, struggling for a while? Fuck that... Just start putting money towards a house now so that you'll be better prepared to help her raise whoever's kids she shits out.
/r/askMRP15/07/22 11:27 PM
18

I have already tried a few things, like snore inhibiting tools to get rid of the snoring For a problem that's affecting your life this much..... maybe try going to a doctor instead of turning to a bunch of "As seen on TV" products. Snoring isn't normal, it's usually a sign of some underlying condition. You probably have sleep apnea you fat fuck.
/r/askMRP12/07/22 02:03 PM
3

If you believe this is the only situation where you think people owe you something, you need to wake the fuck up. You're not a victim of some "story"... you chose it for yourself because it aligns with the way you already think about people in general. You're completely retarded. Everything you think you know about what people are, and who you are, and how the two interact... is wrong. Until you can wrap your head around that, you're fucked.
/r/askMRP10/07/22 06:36 PM
4

always hated this mindset You hated the idea that no one owes you anything? Yeah it's tough realizing that your covert contracts don't mean shit.
/r/askMRP10/07/22 06:01 PM
8

brutally honest Meanwhile you've been secretly snooping her phone the whole time. Why would my wife make these little lies You already know why...
/r/askMRP10/07/22 05:59 PM
108

Wow.. You really worked hard for that BJ!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/22 03:05 PM
1

Despite my efforts we still fall into some quarreling, and it’s the same old drama, snowflake-ness and fragility, unreasonable demands etc. Don't know how to STFU. No frame. Wife opens her mouth and your whole world falls apart. I know I can work harder and be more rational, and pass more shit tests, and keep it more together… but I am starting to think… do I want all to keep putting the effort? Yeah why keep working on yourself when you can just blow up your marriage and fully regress back into…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 07:42 PM
22

she freaked, threatened to throw herself off a building, broke a vase and tried cutting herself, insisted she'd kill herself now we're married Good call. she's fully consumed by the job Her job is more interesting than you are. I don't know what to do Just keep twiddling your thumbs until you're dead.
/r/askMRP07/07/22 03:59 PM
5

Ideas on what she can do? Divorce you asap. You're a fucking nightmare.
/r/askMRP03/07/22 04:12 PM
6

What am I missing? The part about accepting the fact that you can't always fix everything. In the end, she's the one who needs to make the decision.
/r/askMRP30/06/22 04:43 AM
8

I believe I will lose value in my own eyes in relation to the relationship. That the captain, in actuality, is a weak man. This isn't "in your own eyes" this is you assessing yourself through the eyes of your wife. The issue isn't your chronic condition or your depressive lows. The issue is your frame. I think my problem is the inability to vent to any male friends No man. The problem is that you think you need to bitch about something that you cannot change. You want to be a victim. You say you…
/r/askMRP26/06/22 04:07 PM
1

What do you do with the bodies when you're done with them?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/22 02:06 PM
1

Ego is wild on this one
/r/askMRP19/06/22 05:45 PM
1

Beta bucks isn't just about income. Are you a "safe" choice for her? You're posting here about her... she has nothing to worry about.
/r/askMRP18/06/22 11:23 PM
1

But I totally ruined things Crack?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/22 11:16 PM
2

Sex with you sounds like a fucking chore. I mean look at the way some morning sex ballooned into a full on crisis. everything about me is attractive Except for your gaping vagina.
/r/askMRP18/06/22 01:40 AM
14

Wife wants to fuck when life isn't boring? Idk man, sounds like rocket science...
/r/askMRP14/06/22 05:50 PM
9

Just take the same precautions you do when you're jacking off to porn.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 01:13 AM
3

I see your point. Lol, you don't. what I'm asking in this post is insight about the other option The two reasons you mention for doubting yourself are... Her problem with you seeing other women What you "feel like 99% of the people around" you would say Also yes I do "sin" by caring for a girl's feelings so I may end things sooner or decide to put other chicks on hold, but it's only because I do have morals and think that's what's right for me. "Caring".... you think that's what you're doing her…
/r/askMRP06/06/22 11:50 PM
9

becomes a problem for her Really been doubting lately So when your behavior becomes a problem for her, it becomes a problem for you... Sounds like you're ready for a relationship. Make sure to let her handle the birth control.
/r/askMRP06/06/22 01:58 PM
4

I do not give a shit. You can work on the external all you want.... get jacked, get rich, do everything you think she wants. You'll still be a giant pussy. It's obvious to us. It's even more obvious to her.
/r/askMRP28/05/22 03:40 PM
3

100% 80% 50% Lol
/r/askMRP28/05/22 03:29 PM
4

She then says goodbye and goes to kiss me and I just take a step back and say "bye". That'll show her! She could be nagging and controlling for all kinds of reasons.... I could list a bunch here and you could spent time analyzing your wife's behavior, current situation and past to figure out what her deal is. Or you could spend a whole day looking it up yourself, there's lots of great info out there. None of that is going to help you though, because here's the thing... that's HER problem. That's…
/r/askMRP26/05/22 04:01 PM
6

I don't know what's going on. Maybee I stoped caring about anything in life? Maybee I want to loose my job so that she would leave me? You don't know who you are or what you want. 40 years of walking around on autopilot has finally caught up to you.
/r/askMRP20/05/22 04:02 AM
3

Have you tried being less fat?
/r/askMRP17/05/22 09:18 PM
17

Last week I failed a comfort test and I blew up the relationship because of my anger issues Lmao. That's not a main event, that's you freaking out like a fucking child. You really think anyone would want to fuck you?
/r/askMRP05/05/22 07:26 PM
3

She would leave me tomorrow if she had an escape route. She is repulsed by me. This all just sounds like you're in a theatre watching a movie about your wife and her life... and you're sitting there rooting for her to decide to pay attention to the pathetic underdog husband again. Do you even exist?
/r/askMRP02/05/22 02:54 PM
17

Yeah man... telling mommy all about how some girl talked to you will make you look so masculine.
/r/askMRP30/04/22 05:55 PM
3

for some reason it started to annoy me You're insecure, that's the reason.
/r/askMRP27/04/22 04:21 AM
10

Boundaries, frame, and self-respect. Read WISNIFG and NMMNG.
/r/askMRP14/04/22 11:29 PM
5

irrational fear of judgement What would they judge you for? Trying to become a better version of yourself? "Look at that dumb mother fucker over there trying to improve himself lmao"
/r/askMRP14/04/22 06:52 PM
1

You talk a lot about what your wife wants and what your family wants. What do you want? Have you even asked yourself that question?
/r/askMRP11/04/22 09:00 PM
3

when you cum you gotta watch because your balls will pop back inside your body Horns has a pretty good list but holy shit... when can we get your cheat codes?
/r/askMRP10/04/22 03:36 AM
26

Sounds like you're probably retarded.
/r/askMRP09/04/22 09:38 PM
2

Dude had oneitis for sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/22 03:47 PM
6

it is important to pursue something greater and more meaningful than sex He wasn't saying that you need something "more meaningful".... you just need more things in general. Diversify your life so that your happiness isn't 100% invested in one thing (sex), because if that thing falls through, you're fucked. Also, setting up "find meaning in life" as a goal doesn't really work, it's not an outcome you control. Meaning in life is a byproduct of accumulating life experiences, in the same way that n…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/22 03:40 PM
1

A vasectomy would make your ejaculate beta... which will eventually cause your wife to leave you for a man with alpha ejaculate.
/r/askMRP08/04/22 03:31 PM
3

I lift once week (sometimes more) Right now using 20 lb dumbells That's not lifting, that's cardio. And by the looks of your routine, probably about a total of 10 mins of cardio. Oh I do have an 8 month old son so not trying to be a dad who just is self absorbed in his own hobbies That's a good justification for being clinically obese.
/r/askMRP08/04/22 02:55 PM
11

Don't listen to these other guys... you're doing the right thing here. Thinking about your life and doing things you actually want to do is NOT important. If you're looking for true happiness, you need to make sure you spend every waking moment obsessing over what she's thinking and doing.
/r/askMRP07/04/22 03:18 PM
3

Damn bro you really opened our eyes. This is some futuristic thinking here. You've clearly transcended MRP. You ARE the red pill!!!
/r/askMRP06/04/22 10:42 PM
9

I don't really get it, but she said her doctor said it was my fault Herpes is stored in the butt.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 04:40 PM
2

I always thought this was normal behavior That's because you grew up with it as your normal. You were raised to think stuff like this is okay. This is just the tip of the iceberg.
/r/askMRP02/04/22 06:52 PM
1

First I want to say I know about the dumb reddit username I was assigned. Like a lot of dudes here I lurked/still do forever and just signed up with the name they gave me Can't even sign up for reddit without DEERing
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 10:56 PM
1

I don't think either one of us are at the extremes we're painting the other Could be. Last thing I'll say is your river/resources analogy seems like being more of a leech than anything else Sounds like you might be moralizing here, but... By "leech" you mean a person who is only concerned with meeting his own needs and considers the needs of others to be their responsibility? I don't see a problem with that. Really, I think deep down we're all leeches in that sense. We're all out for ourselves. …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 04:37 AM
1

Your expectation is: in order for you to spend your time with them, someone is enjoyable to you Is that what you think "expectation" means? What you're describing is a condition or a transaction. An expectation is when you think that something should or will happen. This is absolutely a transaction, just one where you get stuff for free A transaction involves some kind of exchange. You give a thing, you get a thing back. Taking something or getting something for free is not a transaction. If you…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 02:24 AM
1

because it is OK to have expectations, and it is OK to desire some validation/appreciation in our lives It's ALL okay. Live life how you want. I'm not arguing against that. The impression I'm getting from what you're saying is that expectations and validation are everywhere, living a life without them is impossible, and if you think you can live life that way you're just fantasizing. What I'm saying that you don't have to have any expectations or any desire for validation. Those things aren't re…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/22 08:48 PM
1

What I'm saying is that not everything that shows up here is intended as gift. Some people create for the sake of creating. All people contribute just by existing. And because of that, it's possible to contribute to the world (give) without any strings attached. I used to struggle with the idea of "giving from abundance" because, I saw it as meaning altruism, which doesn't exist. But that's not what it means. Giving as a primary action is always going to come from a place of need. Living your li…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/22 05:38 PM
2

The goal of the contributors here I used to think this as well. I couldn't really see a scenario in which a poster wasn't "giving to get". But take an artist or a creative for example... anyone like that. The act of creating something and putting it out there is giving to the world. It's possible to do that without expecting some kind of return. Another possibility to consider is that some contributions may not be intended as gifts at all. Rather, the goal for some people is to test themselves a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/22 07:00 AM
1

Interesting case. Never heard of this before.
/r/askMRP27/03/22 10:33 PM
2

I see folks like u/HornsOfApathy frequently ask ("Do you even like your wife?"). It is currently unclear to me You won't be able to answer questions like these for a while. You don't know what you like. You don't even know who you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/22 07:04 PM
2

just sex in a few places that I haven't been able to do it yet. But I still felt that emotion. That insecurity about myself, and that tinge of jealousy of picturing my woman with someone else, doing those things. Just use it man. Incorporate it into your own fantasies. You talk about appreciating the feminine energy. Your wife is a slut. This is that slut energy. Absorb it.... and then nut it back into her mouth. Besides, that guy ended up being a heroin addict. He's dead now. By all accounts he…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/22 07:26 PM
4

by not being a complete retard you outweight most of the other guys Even if you're a complete retard, or the most retarded, you still have to value yourself. How else are you going want to do anything for yourself? What do you think "You are the prize" means? You're the prize for other people? You're the prize because you do great things? You're the prize because you're better than other people? Your life is the prize. It's all you get.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/22 06:08 PM
1

I like straight answers and clarity instead of vague Nah, you just want someone to spoon feed you the answers to all of the problems in your life... saddest part is that you think that would help. You cant even seem to read the sidebar on your own. You wont follow through with this. You'll never make it. Stop wasting your time here.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 11:40 PM
2

maybe I'm just blind to it You'll stay that way until you start doing the work.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 03:56 PM
4

thinking about going MGTOW You're basically celibate already so you've got what it takes.
/r/askMRP23/03/22 07:50 PM
21

You aren't really faking though, you're just practicing a new skill. When someone decides to pick up an instrument and they go take lessons, are they faking? Nah... they saw something they wanted to do and they decided to do it. It's the same with all of this. You saw the value in these things and made a conscious decision to systematically integrate them into your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 03:35 PM
5

Passive aggressive. Sulking over an apology all day. Then coming here to cry about it. You must be swimming in bitches.
/r/askMRP19/03/22 09:46 PM
10

red pill lens You're in his frame. It's a formality not a sales pitch.
/r/askMRP19/03/22 08:50 PM
4

I have other chicks Then why are you here posting about this one instead of having unrepressed sex with the others? Use your brain.
/r/askMRP18/03/22 04:37 AM
6

Oneitis.
/r/askMRP17/03/22 04:35 PM
15

what am I doing wrong? You're probably just gay. Nothing wrong with that.
/r/askMRP13/03/22 12:57 AM
1

Lol what do you think she's gonna do? Mind control you?
/r/askMRP11/03/22 01:04 AM
0

If you know you want to stop behaving that way... the best course of action is to spend time figuring out how to reduce similar "slips". I'm assuming here that you meant "what's best for me". If you meant "how do I make it up to my wife"...I dunno, maybe set up some time where you and the kids leave the house so her boyfriend can come over.
/r/askMRP10/03/22 08:11 PM
3

There was a post here once where someone compared it to providing structural support for a plant. You start out as a spineless blob. You take this stick (RP) and shove it up your ass to prop yourself up. After spending some time walking around like a man, you grow your own internal structures and no longer need the support. So shove it up your ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/22 04:16 PM
5

This whole thing is a bunch of excuses. Tell us more about how mean and controlling your wife is.
/r/askMRP04/03/22 02:36 AM
1

fighting against a natural progression of things (non-monogamous --> monogamous --> living together = no sex) The progression in your case is more like.... move in together -> she gets a closer look at who you really are -> realizes you're a pathetic fat retard -> becomes disgusted with you I can always move out and get my own place, which my instincts tell me would solve this problem pretty much overnight. Yeah that'll fix it lmao...
/r/askMRP03/03/22 01:18 AM
5

If your woman knows that you are a bitch, and you throw a huge angry fit about something.... To her, you're just being bitchy.
/r/askMRP01/03/22 09:24 PM
5

Of course that works great in parts of life that are going well (eg. work/career, friends, kids), but it doesn’t work so well in a marriage when that neediness kills any attractiveness Neediness kills attractiveness in all kinds of relationships... not just romantic ones. Think about that co-worker/friend who is constantly dropping hints about how cool or smart they are because they need your validation. Or a dad who really needs that "world's best dad" validation... and gets all butthurt when t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 06:40 PM
3

You're a frameless victim... her NPD didn't cause that. Don't believe me? Just read your post... the whole thing is you bitching about your wife.
/r/askMRP01/03/22 03:57 AM
6

You should probably start here: https://www.reddit.com/r/confessions/comments/rsgu88/i_hate_being_a_husband_and_father/ It's gonna be hard to "hold frame" as a victim who blames his wife and kids for his own unhappiness. You were unhappy long before they showed up. They can't fix that for you. Also: https://www.reddit.com/r/Spells/comments/qgixg1/divorce_spell/ WTF lol. You can't even make this decision without your wife signing off on it. Imagine feeling this out of control....
/r/askMRP01/03/22 12:52 AM
3

NPD Nice. Found something you can blame for your shitty life. So much for owning your shit...
/r/askMRP01/03/22 12:16 AM
9

Dude goes from walking on eggshells and being too afraid of his wife to initiate..... to bluffing with threats of divorce and being a dancing monkey. Life still centered around his wife. Still unhappy with no idea why. He's beating off with his other hand and thinks it's progress. And he's been at it for six years or something like that. Imagine if he actually owned his shit for a year....
/r/askMRP27/02/22 01:36 AM
2

did I do the right thing by holding frame? Frame is deciding which one you want more and going for it. Why wouldn't that be the right thing?
/r/askMRP26/02/22 01:18 AM
2

That's all well and good... but what I'm asking is if you have a plan to differentiate between actual action and focusing on insignificant details? Imagine your kid has a huge project due tomorrow. But she decides that she needs a perfectly clean and organized room/desk before she starts. So she spends a majority of the day doing that instead of just pushing shit off her desk and starting her work. It's action alright. But it's not the action she actually wants. That's you....
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/22 07:48 PM
1

Seems like a massive road block for... pretty much any kind of progress or growth. Got any plans for this after 31 OYS posts?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/22 05:59 PM
1

Me and my autism tend to get frustrated if I feel like I might not have correct numbers You're agonizing over tiny details.... meanwhile, the scale hasn't moved in a year. You could lose 10lbs right now and still be fat. Is this kind of stuff a pattern for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/22 05:31 PM
8

Like an idiot, I started projecting all of the labels and archetypes on myself and my wife and our situation in general. And, I got mad. Yeah... breaking that victim mentality goes in steps. I'm unhappy because my wife I'm unhappy because hypergamy/my upbringing/the world I'm unhappy because of me That last one is a big jump, but you don't make any real progress without it. I fell into the trap of making her my judge. I looked to mommy for a pat on the back and an atta boy and I experienced crip…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 06:12 PM
1

IKR... Pussy dried up 'cause the sex was too good.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 05:26 PM
2

How should you act Scared and worried because she's the only thing you've got going on in your life. Is this the same fiancé that "gets too drunk"? Sounds like a keeper.
/r/askMRP16/02/22 08:23 PM
2

The butthole rubbing wasn't the problem, it was the neediness attached to it. You thought you found the secret code so you went ham and squeezed the fun out of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 07:39 PM
7

But she is definitely replaceable. Clearly...
/r/askMRP16/02/22 01:06 AM
8

she must stay home and look after children and i go and work. Im a conservative person and this was one of my conditions before marriage. What is going on Sounds like she changed her mind.
/r/askMRP15/02/22 01:52 AM
32

Why are you fighting with her? Do you both have your periods at the same time?
/r/askMRP11/02/22 08:32 PM
2

I'm looking for a rope to hand my wife You can't hand her a rope because you're too busy being butthurt. You're angry at her because she doesn't do all of the things that you need her to do so that you can feel good about yourself. Angry, victim, weak frame, focused on her. Constantly using every one of her actions to either feel good about yourself or bad about yourself. Head up her ass. That's your fucking problem. You want to know how to do you do this better? You go back and actually fix tho…
/r/askMRP11/02/22 07:53 PM
8

lifting, losing weight and reading Stick to this and STFU. You aren't equipped to deal with the rest of it yet. Treat it as background noise (or background silence).
/r/askMRP11/02/22 06:19 PM
1

I don't follow your input at all Maybe you need to give it some time then. I don't see how I was kissing her ass There's a difference between kissing someone's ass and having your head up their ass. that would not bring anyone on board with my path Sounds like your path still circles around the wife.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 05:48 PM
3

Your last sentence pretty much sums it up. Advice Climb down out of your wife's ass.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 05:24 PM
3

she showed me her test pack is positive Congrats!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 04:29 AM
1

Your self-esteem is tied up in your daughter liking you and choosing you over her mother. This is so my daughter can experience how green that grass is and for her mother to feel the experience of doing everything that's required to support a kid. My daughter will dismantle this woman. I'm going to play the Disney dad role for the short term and see what happens. You aren't doing this for your daughter... you're doing this for yourself. You don't care what she wants. You've convinced yourself th…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:07 PM
2

I’m cool with it. Then why are you posting about it? You want us to tell you that you're not actually cool with it?
/r/askMRP02/02/22 03:44 AM
11

But if your wife is fucking you, don’t enjoy it because you don’t need that fucking to know your own value.” There's a difference between enjoying something and using something to determine your self-worth.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:29 PM
4

will her hurt a lot more than you might think Is hurting her when she does something you don't like a new strategy? Besides making you feel better by getting back at her when you are butthurt, has it ever been effective at anything else? Because it sounds like she keeps driving drunk.... but yeah maybe just keep doubling the amount of silent treatment each time she crosses your "boundary". Maybe that'll work.
/r/askMRP31/01/22 01:15 AM
7

this is like crazy results in my opinion You smacked your wife's ass for the first time and she liked it (shocker), then you were too nervous to get your dick hard. High five bro, you made it!
/r/askMRP31/01/22 12:47 AM
7

The issue is that she drives drunk in your car. But instead of revoking her car privileges... your solution is to give her the silent treatment? Does that make sense to you? Do you know what a boundary is?
/r/askMRP31/01/22 12:35 AM
6

Experimenting with veg diet to appease cardiologist for the last 60 days and cholesterol is now in normal range I'm sure doc is gonna be real mad at you if you die... Coming here bitching about dying and you can't even change your diet for yourself. Good luck fixing anything else.
/r/askMRP29/01/22 09:57 PM
5

I love the fun banter and creating that tension, it fits me and my style. I like initiating sex that way. It's not fun when you're disgusted by the other person. Especially when you live with this person and have to play along so that they don't get all butthurt and ragey. It's work.
/r/askMRP29/01/22 12:12 AM
5

why can’t I have the experiences I want Why is getting what you want dependent upon what she wants and how she reacts? Am I sharing this fantasy with the wrong woman You're not sharing. You're asking mommy if she will do all of this for you because you're too scared to take charge and do it yourself. It's just more work that she has to do so that you can feel good about yourself. That's why she finds it so exhausting. You can have everything you want... but you'll have to grow a pair of balls fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 08:22 PM
1

Would any conceivable answer I have change your opinion? Of course man.. I'm not here because I want to be right. In other words, is this a teacher-student conversation? Or a teacher-teacher conversation... It's neither. It's just two guys with different outlooks having a chat and seeing if anything useful comes out of it. Turning it into more than that is just ego. and anything I say from here on out look like DEERing If it's just a rewording of what you already wrote, then probably. I mean loo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 03:07 AM
1

Did we really need a post DEERing about what mods do? If you came here, you chose this. You are the one who decided that you need this. You aren't entitled to hand holding or "fairness". No one owes you anything. They don't need to understand the rationale behind mod actions so that they can be okay with what happens here... They need to understand why covert contracts like "I chose you so you should be nice to me" are fucking retarded. No amount of DEERing is going to help them with that. I'm s…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 05:27 PM
1

It's confusing because you're confused... you always have been. You don't know who you are or what you want. That didn't start when you got here. Am I cleaning this messy house up because I’m a man who doesn’t live in slop Do you not know the answer to this question? Am I throwing trash my wife left out in the garbage because I am leading by example of how we help each other out and work as a team to sail this ship. Or am I putting all the trash she leaves in one big pile to show her she’s not p…
/r/askMRP24/01/22 06:00 AM
1

It isn't just this place that's confusing to new guys. What good is focusing on comfort tests going to do for a man who is terrified of his wife?
/r/askMRP24/01/22 04:02 AM
1

Worrying about what other people think is beginner shit. Do you OYS? Did you sidebar? You won't get over this without putting in the work. The fact that you're here whining about it like a helpless victim shows that you still haven't accepted that fact. There aren't any cheat codes.
/r/askMRP24/01/22 03:57 AM
3

Any other practical/implementable suggestions? How about reframing the things you're doing so that they have nothing to do with your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 07:37 AM
1

A few words come out of your wife's mouth and your fragile little world comes crashing down... She's the problem though.
/r/askMRP18/01/22 01:37 AM
10

You're too fat for this to make any significant difference.
/r/askMRP03/01/22 12:23 AM
11

You're not that disgusting... to you. Your wife, on the other hand, is basically sexting her ex. But yeah.. you're probably right.. she's not that disgusted by you.
/r/askMRP28/12/21 02:01 AM
13

This isn't dread, it's just more disgust. Try for a second to imagine living with someone so unattractive that you can't even think about fucking them. Maybe a real whale... 600lbs, smells like salt and vinegar chips and shit, facial hair, can't remember the last time she bathed. Gets angry at you because you won't fuck her but thinks you owe it to her. Won't work on herself because [every excuse in the book]. Every single one of your ex's looks a million times better compared to this person. An…
/r/askMRP27/12/21 11:57 PM
2

She's gonna love getting railed by all those military dudes.
/r/askMRP27/12/21 11:09 PM
1

If the partner isnt passionately enjoying it, why is that a fault of OPs ego? It isn't. OPs self-worth and happiness is dependent on validation from his partner. You would've gotten that on your own... if you weren't "retarded".
/r/askMRP26/12/21 11:31 PM
3

Why is this about retardation? Because it is. And furthermore, why are you chastising this demographic? I already surrendered to the fact it’s two biological men at the end of the day. If you're dead set on being a victim... none of what we have here will help you. If you want to fix your shit... read the sidebar and own your shit. I didn't say anything about my ego You didn't have to.
/r/askMRP26/12/21 10:16 PM
4

I feel a touch dissatisfied with our agreement because my partner will not be passionately enjoying it Nah.. you feel dissatisfied because you aren't getting the attraction validation your weak ego needs. not sure what I should be using since it's technically a gay relationship You can take dicks in the ass and still be retarded.
/r/askMRP26/12/21 10:04 PM
3

Sounds like you're just trying to rationalize your need for control over the external. The real question you need to be asking yourself is "Why do I feel like I need to control everything?"
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/21 07:46 PM
3

Self-awareness and a pair of balls.
/r/askMRP18/12/21 03:26 PM
3

She basically is super jealous and accuses me of cheated with everyone Of course she thinks that. She knows how sad and needy you are... what else would she think?
/r/askMRP17/12/21 11:59 PM
1

You're a victim alright....
/r/askMRP17/12/21 05:21 PM
3

I laugh involuntarily You can't even acknowledge your own actions. You're mad because she doesn't give you enough validation. You need that because you're pathetic, but you're also too much of a bitch to leave.... Acting like this is the only thing you know how to do to make yourself feel better. Is it working?
/r/askMRP17/12/21 03:39 PM
2

This is the real problem: and i immediately felt like a chump Doesn't matter though.. you're never gonna do anything about it.
/r/askMRP16/12/21 03:54 PM
1

Yikes.
/r/askMRP13/12/21 09:39 PM
1

I can regulate my kids' emotions You think you have control over their thoughts and emotions? Regulating your wife's emotions is just around the corner then. Once you have control over everything... you won't have to worry about anything.
/r/askMRP13/12/21 07:59 PM
1

You're obsessed with what she provides you with. You need her validation to feel okay with yourself. She's your primary source. You're a fucking parasite. You're FEEDING off of her, and even if she isn't consciously aware of it, she can feel it. It's exhausting... and pathetic. How do you expect her to react? You need her to fuck you. You need her to show you respect and admiration... Because those things tell you that you have value. She can't give you that validation... and you resent her for …
/r/askMRP10/12/21 06:17 PM
3

You're here for your wife. You're pretending to be dominant for your wife. You're trying to improve yourself... for your wife. Just think about what that means for a second... Take her off the pedestal. Focus on yourself.
/r/askMRP10/12/21 09:39 AM
2

You can hide the fact that you're a bitch.... but only for a little while.
/r/askMRP08/12/21 07:36 PM
32

You stick your nose into everyone's business, try to tell them how to run their lives, and you're expecting them not to become defensive? And now, even after they've gotten upset and basically told you to fuck off.... you're here looking for different ways to get them to live their lives the way you think they should. You're clearly retarded... what makes you think you're qualified to tell anyone anything? I wish I could do this in a better way Maybe you should ask yourself why you feel like you…
/r/askMRP06/12/21 06:08 AM
2

You wrote a whole post about your wife... what do you think?
/r/askMRP06/12/21 03:44 AM
18

like he had a learning disability or something LMAO Good thing you "lift and can fight". Never know when you might need to beat the shit out of a mentally disabled person. Any advice on how to protect LTR from legitimate danger without mate guarding and beta behaviour? "How do I mate guard without calling it mate guarding?" You sound like you live a rich and fulfilling life.
/r/askMRP04/12/21 03:42 AM
19

is it appropriate to decline it because I don't want to accept trickle sex What's the strat here? You want her to fuck you, so when she offers, you're going to decline in order to punish her for what.... trying to fuck you? Great idea, that should do the trick. my experience had been that my improvement just leads to my wife being more insecure and unsafe Oh yeah it's probably the self-improvement that's doing it. I'm sure it has nothing to do with all the little passive-aggressive ways you show…
/r/askMRP03/12/21 06:04 PM
6

Quit your job and find one that pays less so that you both feel okay. Also, make sure to take turns prematurely ejaculating into each other's vaginas.
/r/askMRP03/12/21 05:35 PM
7

Cool. Looking forward to hearing about the next host you latch onto. See you in a year.
/r/askMRP01/12/21 06:47 PM
2

how do i find virgin girl? Why? You gonna abduct one?
/r/askMRP22/11/21 01:03 AM
11

What to respond back with the most frame? This is the most retarded shit I've seen posted here.
/r/askMRP21/11/21 06:02 AM
2

What else can I do to make my requests taken seriously? You could start by taking your own requests seriously. People don't care about what you say because they know you don't follow through.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 05:56 AM
2

putting strain on my lower back Interesting how you jump right to "I can't do it" if something isn't working. Especially considering that you're fairly new to lifting. You're probably extending your lower back instead of your thoracic spine. Most common reasons for this are not keeping your ribs down (rib flare)/improper bracing, and poor thoracic mobility.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 04:05 PM
3

It's a shame they don't have a pill to fix mental retardation.
/r/askMRP15/11/21 10:46 PM
2

I also sporadically take medication which I know makes me paranoid so don’t feel I can trust my judgement at the moment Maybe spend more time figuring out how to take your fucking pills instead of worrying about what she's doing?
/r/askMRP15/11/21 09:38 PM
1

a lot of people who don't understand the situation Yeah, because it's a fairly unique situation that we rarely deal with here.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/21 06:42 PM
8

Just shove your head further up her ass... I'm sure the answers are in there somewhere.
/r/askMRP13/11/21 05:17 PM
5

I am conflicted about what that actually means Means your wife was googling ways to make you less of a pussy.
/r/askMRP13/11/21 04:41 AM
0

it was all focusing on her Sex is now a performance for the most terrifying person you know. I wonder if that would affect your dick.... blame the issue on vaccination Oh ya.. it was probably all the microchips in that shit. Sorry bro, you're fucked...
/r/askMRP10/11/21 02:53 PM
1

I was kind of simp at the beginning and after 3 months I started changing and being Redpill lmao
/r/askMRP07/11/21 03:47 PM
22

Just take a moment and really try and look at yourself objectively. I mean, you're here whining to a bunch of randoms about how you can't get laid and how your wife ignores you... painting yourself as a victim. Have some fucking self-respect. leave the house someone's around 9-10 AL and not get back til about 5-6 PM Do you sit there at the door like a puppy waiting for her to walk in? Do you count the seconds until she gets home? I bet you start checking your phone like mad when it gets close to…
/r/askMRP07/11/21 09:00 AM
2

Imagine having an existential crisis every time your wife fucks you.
/r/askMRP04/11/21 10:58 PM
4

you run the risk of being labelled a creep Well then... you better do what all of those women think you should. Don't worry about what you actually want in life... that shit isn't important at all.
/r/askMRP01/11/21 10:37 PM
3

unspoken moratorium on wax for 30 days So you'll be watching porn and beating off like a madman then... That'll fix everything.
/r/askMRP27/10/21 10:48 PM
2

I like being nice You think you're being nice... but you're actually just being needy. You want to just put your little ego in her hands and have her pet it and feed it so that you feel better about yourself. You think that behavior is supposed turn her on? The first one is more aligned with my real being Yeah, no shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 07:39 AM
4

Have you done enough work on yourself to rule out the possibility that the problem is all you? Or are you still a no frame, validation seeking rambo who doesn't understand shit about what's going on with himself? Oh wait, you just recently decided to start CBT. You're basically all straightened out. Must be the wife.
/r/askMRP26/10/21 03:12 AM
1

Just piss on her bag next time to assert dominance.
/r/askMRP25/10/21 05:19 PM
6

I interpreted MRP as more of a constant state of improvement not an end goal You can fine-tune things forever... But making small adjustments as you're headed off a cliff isn't going to do anything. There is one thing that you need to take away from MRP and it's this: You are the only one that actually matters. If you can't figure that out... nothing you do here is going to make any real difference in your life. Dudes get banned multiple times for rule 9, they get told constantly to focus on the…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/21 04:20 PM
3

I thought that's how u pass shit tests like this Do you feel like you "passed" something? Did you resolve that whole situation? If everything is great and you're getting everything you want... why are you here 2.5 years later still worried about this shit? Sounds more like you failed.
/r/askMRP21/10/21 07:23 PM
3

I lowered his SMV in her eyes by saying "what kind of 30 year old needs to prey on a 15 year old to get pussy" lol, no... all you did was display how much of a bitch you are. You lowered your own SMV. You can't see it, but it's obvious to everyone else, especially her. The best part is that because of your tantrum.... she's fantasizing more than ever about getting that 30 year old guitar player to wreck that pussy. She's probably dying for a good fuck after being with you for so long.
/r/askMRP21/10/21 05:39 PM
1

There's a reason you're a control freak. You won't really be able to get a handle on the behavior it until you figure out why.
/r/askMRP18/10/21 04:44 AM
1

I'm not seeing how that's lone wolf-ish It's because he thinks the word "sorry" makes you look weak and unattractive. And any usage of the word, aside from a necessary genuine apology, is "bad"... regardless of your intent. A very black and white way to look at it. He also thinks that intent = saying whatever with no thought behind it because DNGAF. Your intent might be to apologize for something that is your fault. Or it might be to manipulate people for personal gain. It might also be that you…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/21 09:54 PM
9

I tell my pms rage filled girlfriend that currently hates my guts , that I'm reading this book This must have made her so wet. Did she tell you that you're doing a good job and that she's proud of you?
/r/askMRP16/10/21 03:13 AM
1

Nah... I only made it about half way through that paragraph. Something about not giving a fuck..
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/21 03:06 AM
4

eliminate the word "sorry" from your vocabulary. Should we be afraid of the word "sorry"? Do we live in sorry's frame? It's just a word... the intent is what's important.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/21 11:53 PM
1

now she's invited me and another of her interest to her birthday Whoa, your parents let you go to boy-girl parties!? Come on... admit it... you're 11.
/r/askMRP10/10/21 02:57 PM
3

Still in wife's frame. Dancing monkey. Got laid tho!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/21 01:08 AM
31

You're unhappy because you don't make sure to fulfill your needs. You don't make your needs a priority because you value other people more than you value yourself. You want to be happy? Stop expecting other people to get you there.
/r/askMRP08/10/21 04:19 PM
14

Parasite dies without the host.
/r/askMRP06/10/21 05:17 AM
1

If the thing that you want her to do is in any way related to your self-esteem, then you are needy. So by the looks of it... that's every single thing on your list of complaints.
/r/askMRP04/10/21 09:26 PM
1

You think your wife made you a needy bitch? If that the case, just divorce her. I'm sure that'll solve all of your problems and turn you into a secure, confident alpha god.
/r/askMRP04/10/21 07:51 PM
12

all likely to make me seem like a needy bitch There is no "seem" here. You absolutely ARE a needy bitch. Saying those things out loud just shows everyone what you really are. But, saying them out loud, "seeming" like a bitch to people... none of that shit matters because those things aren't the actual problem. if expressed in front of my wife, thus damaging a masculine frame I’ve been working on So you think frame is determined by how your wife perceives you? If she perceives you as "masculine" …
/r/askMRP30/09/21 09:28 PM
5

I need to make sense of these fears Just examine the need. You need this woman (and other people) to prop you up and carry you. To make you feel good about yourself... because you aren't capable of doing that on your own. Now what if you learned how to stand on your own two feet... what effect do you think that would have on all of this?
/r/askMRP30/09/21 07:20 PM
6

You're afraid of fucking this up because she's your only option. Get more options.
/r/askMRP29/09/21 05:43 PM
4

People who don't do this are basically on autopilot. They're driven by habit and emotion, which makes them susceptible to manipulation. It also makes it difficult for them to figure out what it is they actually want out of life. What you're describing is what it's like to be behind the wheel. By reasoning about our thoughts and actions, we take an active role in our lives.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 06:43 AM
5

What the fuck...
/r/askMRP26/09/21 04:25 PM
3

Tell us more about your wife.
/r/askMRP25/09/21 10:15 PM
1

You think the way to "enforce" a boundary like this is to punish her until she complies? You're confusing rules with boundaries. Rules are about having control over other people. Yes, attempting to enforce rules requires that you have something you can leverage as punishment, but the outcome is not guaranteed because people can choose whatever they want. Your outcome is dependent on whether or not people choose to follow your rules. Boundaries are about what you are willing to tolerate. Maintain…
/r/askMRP22/09/21 07:08 PM
3

how exactly is he supposed to enforce this if she's the bread winner? What does this have to do with him maintaining his boundaries? Who do you think boundaries are for?
/r/askMRP22/09/21 04:31 PM
9

Honestly i wanna say fuck you. Of course you are not going away for a week without me. You sound very confident and secure... and totally not clingy. suggest a way of approaching this? Get rid of your wife and buy a RealDoll instead.... you won't have to worry about her going somewhere without you. Even if someone else fucks her, it won't really matter because you can just wash her out real good.
/r/askMRP21/09/21 06:25 PM
13

Too many people in here commenting and judging while only reading the surface I know you said you're not into owning your shit, but come on buddy. You wrote a horrible post that required a bunch of DEERing. If no one understands what you're saying... must be them right? Also, the point you were attempting to make may have been fair, but your example was of a man who seemed to be unaware that he was still deep in his wife's frame. You gloss over it like it's not his main problem. Expecting that y…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/21 04:56 PM
9

I want to end this relationship due to all the issues I've mention Let's take a look at these issues you mentioned: wife wouldn't have sex with me Meanwhile, 5'7 180...... 22% BF I was a loser Did she make you a loser? I still felt like I had to prove myself to her Who decided that you should feel insecure? she never was the lovey dovey type No shit!? You're a pathetic little fat man with low self-esteem... can you blame her? But yeah... leaving her will fix everything. I'm sure you'll be swimmi…
/r/askMRP18/09/21 04:35 PM
11

Title telling me it's my fault? Check Beers? Check Football? Check Man chores? Check Bein an asshole? Check Fuck ya! Welcome to the man club bro!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 04:44 PM
11

I suck at this shit And you're still too scared to post in OYS. MRP just doesn't work. Next stop, r/exredpill again? The cycle continues....
/r/askMRP15/09/21 02:58 AM
2

Do it.... you won't.
/r/askMRP11/09/21 09:24 PM
2

I need help parsing this situation Sure. You spend way too much time in her head. You have no frame. I am sure I am doing many things wrong. What are they? If you find yourself writing something and thinking, "This is rule 9 stuff".... Your wife is still your mission.
/r/askMRP10/09/21 05:06 PM
-1

His ass is a unicorn.
/r/askMRP09/09/21 02:04 AM
7

It just makes the sub look bad To whom? Or practice what you preach and STFU and not waste your precious time. You can’t tell me taking the time to comment “faggot pussy” under someone’s post isn’t a waste of your time and theirs. What do you think this place is? Do you think we're doing this for you?
/r/askMRP07/09/21 04:43 PM
5

There's a big difference between telling guys to "STFU so that you don't make shit worse while you learn" and "STFU so that you can win against your wife".
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/21 07:07 PM
29

"I don't know what I want. I'm in a relationship but I don't know why. Why doesn't this feel right?"
/r/askMRP31/08/21 09:31 PM
1

all marriage is is just some constant, brutal game between two people If you don't see yourself as the prize and you see her as a threat and an opponent, then yes... this is true.
/r/askMRP31/08/21 04:56 PM
3

i ruined what could've been a good thing Nah, you're good... She's crazy if she doesn't try to get back with you.
/r/askMRP27/08/21 04:45 AM
8

Amazing. So you're aware that all of the answers are on the sidebar... But you don't want to do the work and find the answers yourself because that would be "crazy". You just want answers spoon fed to you. You want us to solve your problems for you. You're putting it on us, just like you put it all on your wife, and on everyone else in your life. Take responsibility for your life you lazy piece of shit.
/r/askMRP25/08/21 05:33 PM
9

The things you list in your post, your relationship issues, your wife... those aren't problems, they're symptoms of the actual problem. But instead of working on building your own self-esteem, your strategy is to modify your wife in such a way that she fixes the problem for you. Do you see how backwards that is?
/r/askMRP24/08/21 05:09 PM
6

maybe I just want what I currently feel deficient in So, self-esteem then?
/r/askMRP24/08/21 04:37 PM
5

But also, my perfect relationship is me as the provider and her cuddling me and me being more alpha and her being appreciative of me providing for her. So, your idea of a perfect relationship is mostly based on how much validation your partner gives you? That makes sense. I mean, how are you supposed to feel like a man if your wife isn't constantly assuring you that you are a man?
/r/askMRP24/08/21 04:26 PM
7

Do you just stfu and clean it up until he does it the next time? Or do you say. Yo? What gives, get your shit out of yard? Or the third option... which is what you did/do: You say nothing and instead get angry and pout about how unfair it is that your neighbor doesn't read your mind and treat you the way you want to be treated. Then, after you build up enough resentment, you start doing a bunch of passive aggressive shit to get back at him. That way you don't have to be direct... and if he calls…
/r/askMRP22/08/21 08:03 AM
6

It's hard to STFU when you're keeping score and ruminating on how much you think she owes you. Wake up you dumb motherfucker.
/r/askMRP21/08/21 07:33 PM
5

If you haven't seen this already: https://www.youtube.com/c/whinemoreplease
/r/askMRP19/08/21 05:56 PM
1

Caring about yourself doesn't mean that you can't care about anything else. The idea is to prioritize correctly. Your needs have to come first because you're the one responsible for getting your needs met. If you put the needs of others ahead of your own, you will resent them and blame them for your unmet needs. This is all basic shit though... read NMMNG.
/r/askMRP19/08/21 03:08 AM
5

"I am the prize" like I truly do believe this. I'm higher value than my wife. You're not getting it. You see yourself as higher value compared to her from an outside perspective... but when it comes to YOU, you still value her more than yourself. That's why you're constantly posting about her, thinking about her, living in her head. "I am the prize" does not mean that you are better than her, and you "win", and she should view you as such. It means that you are the prize, for yourself. You're th…
/r/askMRP19/08/21 01:59 AM
2

She told me last night her period was coming, and the topic of kids came up again and I started calculating how many kids we’ll be able to have before she turns 35 I don't see why she feels pressured. I mean, you're only planning and calculating out the next decade of her life for her... what's the big deal? Sounds like a very chill relationship. Compromise? What the fuck am I? A burden? She brings up her period and you go off on kids and doing math on fertility, birth complications, and who kno…
/r/askMRP18/08/21 03:16 AM
3

Just start with the obvious ones and work your way up. Any change you want to make can be broken down into progressive steps.
/r/askMRP12/08/21 05:41 PM
5

It's just lifting man... Identify a bunch of your validation seeking behaviors. Pick one. Stop doing it. Once that's easy for you, add another. Start at an appropriate weight. Never miss a day. Progressive overload.
/r/askMRP12/08/21 05:23 PM
1

Maybe just try r/relationship_advice. This doesn't sound like the place for you.
/r/askMRP11/08/21 05:01 PM
5

Yeah OYS is pretty scary. You're better off just staying retarded.
/r/askMRP11/08/21 04:56 PM
5

So, what's the plan this time? Read a bunch of shit, never try any of it, never OYS, victim puke here a couple times, then quit because "it doesn't work"? Cool, I guess we'll hear back from you again in a couple of years.
/r/askMRP11/08/21 03:55 PM
8

I’m trying to apply what I’m reading but I feel I’m not fucking getting it. I’m all over the fucking place. So you're telling me that spending time at r/exredpill isn't helping you understand and internalize the concepts here? Maybe you're just not flip-flopping enough. Try adding in some r/femaledatingstrategy and r/deadbedrooms. I heard they give good advice.
/r/askMRP11/08/21 03:08 PM
2

I fail to see how can someone be grounded to his reality (frame) and at the same time be too much invested on what others see him as (reputation) There is a difference between being aware of what others think of you and using that to your advantage to reach your goals.... and living your life for others/deriving self-worth from the opinions of others. Take a "sociopath" for example... if they are trying to manipulate someone in order to get them to do something, they have to be at least somewhat…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/21 07:52 AM
0

Idk if I’m being too hard on myself or not hard enough maybe this part of my unlying bullshit. Maybe it’s the fear of going back. Maybe it’s trying to make up for lost time. You should figure that out.
/r/askMRP06/08/21 11:26 PM
8

This crazy thing happens when you get out of everyone's head and back into your own... you start to do what you actually want. Next time, fuck her in the ear.
/r/askMRP06/08/21 04:54 PM
3

What do you mean? It's all her fault, can't you see that? This poor guy is just another one of her victims... powerless to her manipulation and mind control.
/r/askMRP04/08/21 07:08 PM
5

Yeah man, we always advocate for more communication, especially when you can't figure out whether or not you should open your mouth without asking the internet. When in doubt.... talk more.
/r/askMRP04/08/21 06:58 PM
8

What should I do? Do nothing. STFU, lift, read, etc.? No definitely not. Go against everything you've read here because your situation is unique.
/r/askMRP04/08/21 06:39 PM
17

I have had an honest discussion staring that I have had enough and do not deserve what she put me through. Yeah man, she sounds terrible... what she put you through. You followed her lead for almost a decade because you're too afraid to take the wheel. You put her needs before yours, but then you resent her for it and turn yourself into a victim. Your kids don't even respect you. You don't even know how to lead yourself. Because of all this she has no respect for you and finds you so disgusting …
/r/askMRP03/08/21 07:55 AM
1

What advice do i give him? The advice he asks for. You can't fix this... it's not yours to fix.
/r/askMRP02/08/21 05:27 PM
6

Aww.. poor guy 😢 Feel better after crying it out?
/r/askMRP02/08/21 05:24 PM
0

If that's the case, why are you so worried that your wife is going to find out that you've been asking people for advice?
/r/askMRP02/08/21 04:43 AM
4

How do I get through this without blowing the lid on finding this place? What exactly do you think this place is?
/r/askMRP02/08/21 12:17 AM
50

I'm upset that she is so open with these newer friends about this period in her life that she does not discuss with me Why the fuck would she want to discuss it with you? The last time it was discussed you freaked the fuck out, victim puked all over her, threatened to break up, stormed out of the house like a child throwing a tantrum.... and the kicker... IT WAS ALL FOR NOTHING! Because you came right back and apologized like, "Just forget I said anything". A full on rollercoaster for literally …
/r/askMRP30/07/21 08:54 PM
4

She'll honestly rip one in front of me and sometimes offer a "whoops, excuse me, tee hee" but it's honestly disgusting and to echo what I said earlier about my lack of initiation - I hate to place the blame elsewhere but can you blame me? It's not attractive. I tell her so and it's not changed anything. Real power move right there. Better be careful with that one, there's a real risk that it'll blow up in your face.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/21 09:19 PM
4

I think it's more knowing that I'm not attractive enough Attraction validation. Your self-worth is based on how people react to you. And he's more alpha than me. Its scary and embarrassing. So him being "alpha" decreases your value as a man? Again, you're using external things to determine your self-worth. None of these people or their opinions are "you"... but you're completely dependent on them to define yourself. Be your own judge.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 05:36 PM
1

She sounds like wife material bro... congrats!
/r/askMRP28/07/21 05:01 PM
2

and maybe I'm overthinking it One mention of another guy and it sends your hamster over the edge.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 07:44 AM
3

Better put a ring on it and/or knock her up the first chance you get. Then she won't be able to get away.
/r/askMRP27/07/21 10:10 PM
3

She wants to maintain plausible deniability so she can claim victim later when she finds out I’ve been unfaithful. Yeah it's probably this and has nothing to do with the fact that she's terrified of you fucking other women.
/r/askMRP26/07/21 06:57 PM
37

Just to be clear, I am not gay Ok.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/21 06:38 PM
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I've considered hiring a realtor without telling her I say we'll you're obviously not happy with having to do everything around the house, so we will be making it easier and moving downtown Great scheme! You get to put it all on her while also rubbing it in her face like some kind of punishment. That'll teach her! It also gives you an out because when she calls you on it, you can backtrack like a bitch and pretend you're actually doing this to make her "happy". Shit, you might even get her to ap…
/r/askMRP26/07/21 04:38 AM
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What would be the red pill perspective to maintain frame in this situation Maintain which frame? The frame where you have your head so far up her ass that you have to come here and make a post about what she says, thinks, and does? I don't think we have any recommendations for maintaining that.
/r/askMRP25/07/21 07:53 PM
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I'm 31, in the best shape of life, going places with my career and after years of being a drunk captain, I'm turning my marriage around somewhat. And yet, you can't even decide whether or not to fuck prostitutes without running it by some internet randoms. Sounds like you really turned things around.
/r/askMRP24/07/21 11:12 PM
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This isn't about your wife. You're insecure. Doesn't matter if she cheated or not. Doesn't matter if you find proof/she admits to it and you drop her... You'll still have the same problem.
/r/askMRP23/07/21 09:18 PM
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Sure you can do that. And if she doesn't do what you want, you're gonna follow through and kick her out, right? We both know you won't. So all you'll be left with is anger and resentment... and you'll be a big victim and come here and post about it. All because YOU are holding on to an expectation that you have no way of enforcing and that she has consistently shown you she will not meet. If you want your life to go in a certain direction, you need to move in that direction instead of trying to …
/r/askMRP21/07/21 03:55 PM
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What you're taking about isn't leading... it's controlling. You aren't leading yourself and allowing her to follow, you're trying to change her behavior. Why else do you think you get so much pushback? You're the one who needs the house clean to your standards, not her. But instead of taking that need into your own hands, you're focusing on changing your wife so that she can meet that need for you. You're just setting yourself up for disappointment because that shit does not work, and you're ess…
/r/askMRP21/07/21 03:22 PM
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I don't take this too seriously, I don't DEER, I laugh, I A&A, I STFU, but nothing works she keeps insisting on the 10th time that I answer seriously her questions. This shit is hilarious.... stuck in some kind of A&A loop like a malfunctioning robot. I think I'm autistic I think you're onto something.
/r/askMRP20/07/21 05:40 PM
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She’ll go “wow. You don’t have to be so nasty”. Or comment on the “way I speak to Her” even if I’m calm. She will act as if I’m yelling at her. The only choice here is to put her needs above yours, apologize, deer and try to convince her that you're not an asshole, right? Can't have her thinking negatively of you... Make sure to get angry and bring up all the things you do for her and the family since you're clearly winning according to the "who does the most" score that you've been keeping.
/r/askMRP18/07/21 05:24 PM
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I stop, and break the STFU rule: I point blank asked her, “when did you stop being attracted to me?” This whole thing could have been avoided. But now here you are, trying to make sense of a bunch of words that came out of her mouth. If you don't know what you're doing..... shut the fuck up.
/r/askMRP17/07/21 03:27 PM
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I was always the cocky funny guy That is just who I am Is that how you define yourself? Kinda makes you uneasy when someone doesn't buy into that image you have of yourself? Yeah, I mean... if your ego needs everyone around you to laugh hysterically at all of your jokes, you should probably next this one. Instead, find a girl who pats you on the head and tells you what a great job you're doing any time you so much as wipe your ass. That'll feel a lot more "compatible".
/r/askMRP11/07/21 10:50 PM
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I honestly didnt know what to write on OYS. It wasnt about being lazy Sure it was. Introspection is work. Put in the work or continue sitting in the dark with your balls retracted into your pelvis. It's up to you.
/r/askMRP10/07/21 01:41 AM
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Your second (and last) OYS was 86 days ago... looks like you already gave up.
/r/askMRP10/07/21 01:28 AM
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My wife dislikes that I do not take her seriously Sounds more like... she dislikes your mental disability.
/r/askMRP09/07/21 06:27 PM
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Your whole marriage section is a disaster. How do I get her feminine side to stay out? How do I get her to follow my rules? How do I basically control her emotions when she's in a depressive state? How do I choose chores based on the scoreboard/her mental state? Where's the part about you? Maybe start by asking yourself why it bothers you so much when she is manipulative. You realize you don't actually have to play her game, right? You might also want to ask yourself why you need, so desperately…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/21 06:00 AM
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Never argue with a woman. There is only to be lost from attempting to convince her of your point of view It's true that you shouldn't be arguing. But not for those reasons. "she'll make you mad until you do something stupid" "If you're wrong she'll argue the post and again you lose" What the fuck? You're worried about her "making you" mad? You're worried about losing? What are you going to lose if she doesn't agree with your opinion? Instead of all that, how about simply knowing that your point …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/21 09:36 PM
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Would you respect him more if, like you, he had stumbled across some internet strangers that pointed out to him what a pussy he was and spoon fed him RP knowledge? Maybe that's why When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. Because that's what I was taught to feel. No shit? You should try actually reading that book and NMMNG. Literally what they are about.
/r/askMRP02/07/21 04:44 PM
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But to just sleep with girls, and be wanted- it's not fulfilling to me So wait... You're saying that you spent years of your life doing a bunch of stuff to get women to like you because need to "be wanted", and the validation you get from that isn't fulfilling? Gee... I wonder why. I want that "special" one I can do everything with, deeply connect with. I'm sure there's a special woman out there for you who will fix all the meaninglessness and emptiness you are feeling.... because that's how tha…
/r/askMRP30/06/21 05:51 PM
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All of those quotes are in someone else's frame. What does my wife want? What do people want? What does society want? What do you want? The issue is your focus on getting people to need you. You need them to need you, because your self-worth is still determined externally. Your value as a person is dependent on other people telling you that you are good, needed, and worthy. Instead of being a people pleaser, determine your own self-worth and do things that you actually want to do.... for yoursel…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 11:56 PM
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People value me doing for them what they can't do for themselves. I need to do that! Why? You need to do what people can't do for themselves because you need them to value you? Now I can do what I want to do. You should run with this instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 04:56 PM
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I WAS going to do what I wanted despite the guilt and despite imagined images of her ugly angry face Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/21 06:00 AM
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Thanks for clearing that up. All that explanation changes everything. You don't sound needy at all now.
/r/askMRP27/06/21 05:35 PM
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No I don't need her approval "And what's worse it feels like she hates me. it makes me so furious and hurt" "I feel like I've sacrificed the prime of my life for her, and get no thanks" "I don't need much from my wife, just respect and affection" and don't throw a tantrum when I don't get it "In the past I would bottle it up until it eventually erupted into some kind of act of anger, breaking something or screaming at her" Things have been going well for the last few days Cool, sounds like you f…
/r/askMRP26/06/21 07:37 PM
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I get I got a long long way to go and I am still going Just keep going with semen retention. Works much better than OYS.
/r/askMRP25/06/21 07:52 PM
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the truth about truth about trp is eye opening but scary I know, right?! It's not fair that women aren't attracted to needy, insecure little bitches.
/r/askMRP25/06/21 06:03 AM
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NeglectedHubby Aww... Poor guy...
/r/askMRP24/06/21 11:16 PM
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The problem is that their conflicts are so small it doesn’t make sense for me to get involved. Not seeing why this is a problem. You'd rather they have bigger conflicts? Why? So that you could justify sticking your nose in and taking over? Why do you want to jump in so bad? Is it really just because it ruins your day? Or do you have a tendency to take on her problems as your own and try to solve them for her?
/r/askMRP23/06/21 12:34 AM
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But if I stayed, it would be like lighting myself on fire to keep everyone warm - no different than all these years. Why would it be no different? Because you would continue thinking and acting the same way you always have? If you stayed, you'd just carry on as a frameless, angry, fragile, self-sacrificing victim who doesn't take the lead in his own life and then blames everyone else around him for his unhappiness? You realize that's a choice, right? But yeah, I'm sure getting a divorce will tur…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 06:28 PM
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if I am starting to be my own mental point of origin then why should I care about recognition. Dead right but still internalising this. You care about recognition because your ego needs that validation. Your self-worth is still dependent on people telling you when you're "good" or "bad". You're 52 man... it's time to let that go. Any time you catch yourself looking for validation, just remind yourself that it's counter productive (and pathetic).
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 04:04 PM
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No, you got it right. This is your relationship dynamic. Trying to appease her and gain her approval, throwing a literal tantrum when you don't get it. Coming here and whining about it like a child. You looking for answers? Try figuring out why her opinion of you is so important... or why my opinion or anyone else's matters at all. Hint: It shouldn't. Also... your wife is old as fuck.
/r/askMRP21/06/21 11:00 PM
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Oh shit, sounds like you should probably apologize to her then. Yeah most people who come around here don't have those kinds of complications.
/r/askMRP21/06/21 08:40 PM
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This conversation culminated in her saying I was "a fucking embarrassment" and leaving the house. It wasn't just the words it was the way she said, full of vitriol and hatred. I've just totally pushed her away after this. Good for you. Your mom shouldn't get away with talking to you like that.
/r/askMRP21/06/21 08:06 PM
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I assume you're wanting to get your kid vaccinated because you see it as a huge health/safety issue and without it, your kids life is at risk. And you're not taking action because she won't stop squawking about videos from youtube and facebook moms? Would you let something like this stop you in any other situation where you thought your kid's life was in danger? You seem to think "leading" is getting her to agree to this and approve your ideas. That's not leading, it's asking for permission. You…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/21 06:08 PM
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What seems to be driving me now is a desire to show myself that I can "do this" and get this woman to act right. Why do you need to prove to yourself that you can control her behavior? Why is your self-worth tied to whether or not she acts the way you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/21 05:48 PM
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Is this the rope tightening? I'm spending too much time focusing on signals of progress from my wife. The direction you're headed is less boring and useless than what she usually does. Having a "rope" attached to her implies that you need her for some reason. Cut the fucking rope.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/21 05:33 PM
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How should I act in this situation in terms of living together and she wanting to spend time but not intimately til i get my shit together? Yeah, definitely worry more about how to act in front of her instead of focusing on fixing yourself. Because her opinion of you is more important than whatever it is that's actually wrong with you.
/r/askMRP20/06/21 08:55 PM
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bothers me that she is going to destroy.our family over sex I mean, it sounds like you are also willing to destroy your family over sex. If that all she's asking for, all you gotta do is fuck her... but it sounds like you're not willing to do that. What's more important? The kids? Then fuck your wife! Not having to give duty sex? Then get the fuck out! Make a fucking decision and don't put this all on her. Do i have to become someone else just to appease her? Do you really want to frame it like …
/r/askMRP19/06/21 11:00 PM
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I am on my purpose and never accepting the drama That must be why you didn't make a whole post whining about what your wife thinks and says. Rock solid frame on this one.
/r/askMRP19/06/21 04:43 PM
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I realized I had become completely uninteresting. I brought nothing to dinner-table conversation it seems apparent to me that a big part of being attractive, especially for someone working from home, is finding ways to get out and be an individual and pursue my own interests so that I have something new to bring back to the relationship You really think that's what should be motivating you to pursue your interests?
/r/askMRP14/06/21 10:38 PM
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Tell us more about these "sexy boxers".
/r/askMRP11/06/21 09:14 PM
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So my question is, is there any scenario in which I should question the new girl about this? Yes. The scenario in which you still follow your ex's lead for everything in your life... down to who you can/cannot date.
/r/askMRP10/06/21 09:41 PM
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What I have not learned yet is how to STFU without getting visibly butthurt. Why are you focused on how she thinks you look? You should be focusing on how to get over actually being butthurt. For you... not because of how it appears to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 03:05 AM
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It may have been the dopamine but I felt more beta. This came with wanting to cuddle and slight oneitis. It was the validation. It's all over your post. I mean, you can't even work out without looking around for someone to tell you that you're "good".
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 02:41 AM
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I’m facing years of complaining on how I did not support her against my family, and I let my sister and parents walk all over me. Oh shit she might complain? She might have a negative opinion of your actions? Terrifying! she made sure that her children would get more from my parents than any of her nephews. This pisses me off, and my wife as well. As an example my parents have been travelling near both our places, but have only seen my kids twice over the last month, whereas I know for a fact th…
/r/askMRP09/06/21 10:26 PM
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Yes, the "M" stands for "Married"... It doesn't stand for, "I can't do this without my wife." None of this is about your wife.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 06:27 PM
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I don't think that's enough time to effectively implement MRP in full Why do you need your wife around to work on yourself?
/r/askMRP08/06/21 05:27 AM
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Go all rambo on her and obsess over it until you can't get your dick hard. Then go post about it in AskMRP.
/r/askMRP03/06/21 03:38 AM
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Sounds like things are going great!
/r/askMRP28/05/21 06:59 PM
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You threatened divorce several times, but only after your wife takes the lead are you feeling like you can go through with it... how very assertive of you. I was someone completely different now Right.
/r/askMRP20/05/21 01:33 AM
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My wife often comments on my "inferior genetics." That is kind of how I feel about myself so I'm not sure how to respond. But yeah, worry more about how you respond to her... because she is what's important here...
/r/askMRP19/05/21 12:16 AM
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I didn't overhear the entire conversation Step it up bro. Pressing your ear to the wall isn't gonna cut it. Better get some hidden microphones and tracking devices.... it's time to get serous about this snooping.
/r/askMRP14/05/21 03:48 PM
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She gets herself off instead of fucking you because SHE'S NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU. That's all it is. Stop trying to fight it.
/r/askMRP06/05/21 09:23 PM
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The issue I find is that when I've tried to actually impliment a lot of advice here (or elsewhere) it always got met with hostility/anger and backlash Yeah I don't blame you for being scared... some of those grannies can be down right terrifying when they get mad. The way their faces look when they clench their teeth and their jowls start shaking... fuck that. You're probably better off just doing whatever she says.
/r/askMRP06/05/21 07:36 PM
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it would raise some odd looks Odd looks... yeah those are the worst. Gotta avoid those at all costs.
/r/askMRP30/04/21 12:34 AM
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feels like I'm bitching out and backing down That's because you still see her as an opponent and this whole thing as some kind of competition.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/21 02:26 AM
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STFU doesn't mean to turn yourself into a mute... it's more like, if you're about to say some dumb shit, don't. How do you identify dumb shit? For you, it's anything motivated by emotion. Especially anger, fear, and insecurity.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/21 01:55 AM
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I think it's more like, "I used to be good at benching when it was just the bar, but ever since I added weight I've turned into a bitch." You don't really find out what you're made of until you start loading the bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 04:08 PM
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Wrinkles? Holy shit, that's a big red flag bro.
/r/askMRP26/04/21 01:13 AM
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Do you think this is crossing a boundary? Depends on whether or not that's one of your boundaries. Doesn't sound like you know what your own boundaries are.
/r/askTRP24/04/21 06:13 PM
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If I comply, I feel like she gains power over me So she's pegging you then?
/r/askMRP21/04/21 03:10 PM
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Do you regret having kids? Did you have doubts before? What does this even matter when she's the one making all the decisions?
/r/askMRP21/04/21 03:14 AM
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You know you have a problem, but you haven't realized what it is yet. Things must be really scary for you.
/r/askMRP18/04/21 04:39 PM
1

Not understanding your lifts. Those numbers are really low for month long stall, given your stats... and the fact that you're supposedly male.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 10:05 PM
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I haven't lived up to the ideals of a man who knows how to raise respectful kids...so I hide it, run from it. I need to face it, tackle it head-on. This isn't a reason to beat yourself up (which will also end up getting projected onto everyone including your kids)... it's your starting point. This is why acceptance is so important. It's how you get your bearings.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 04:39 PM
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What are you so afraid of?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 02:52 PM
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my oldest daughter got mouthy & triggered me. I pushed her over on to her ass like a playground bully. I have a lot to learn about self-control. What the fuck? This isn't just about self-control. Why did you get triggered over some shit that came out of the mouth of a <9 year old girl? My mission is to become as strong as possible. Raising kids is a huge challenge that builds all kinds of strength Do you have some kind of direction you want to go with your kids? What do you want out of the whole…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 04:46 AM
1

That's a lot of fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 04:33 AM
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You sound like the kind of guy who has a lot of options.
/r/askMRP13/04/21 07:42 PM
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I do appreciate the conversation, So as long as we're both willing to give ground Same. I think the main thing we disagree on is whether or not this behavior is controlling. To me it seems like a clear cut case, and to be honest, everything you’ve responded with reinforces my original assessment. I cheer for people. Cheering for someone does not involve trying to push them in a certain direction. “Yay! Good for you for doing something that you wanted to do!”, celebrating wins with them... That’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 06:18 AM
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Control issues in the way normal people use the term? Like "I need to control you in order to feel good about me"? Yeah, this is what I meant. I asked the question because it sounds like you are going around giving people unsolicited advice about how they should be living their lives. This is a common behavior among controlling people. a drive to interact with my environment Nothing wrong with interacting. But you usually don't end up asking yourself questions like, “Why won't people just do wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/21 07:02 AM
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My White Knight act is attempt to make up for the fact I feel like I failed to protect the people who are closest to me I think it’s more likely due to this: Most of my childhood my mom was a alcoholic so I made things not about me, about me. I felt I needed to do those things or have those feeling because if I didn’t who else was going to. You aren’t playing this protector role because you “failed” with your father and sister. You’re doing it because that’s how you were raised. Your mother didn…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/21 06:34 AM
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I'm not really sure where this drive in me comes from You sure it isn't driven by control issues? just something to her that feels RIGHT. So in other words it's a innate behavior This just makes it sound like you gave up on figuring out where this need to improve everyone comes from. You're essentially going around and telling people, "I see what you're doing, but if you did it my way, it'd be even better!"... and from how you laid it out in your post, it sounds like you tend to be pushy about i…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 08:06 AM
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protecting my father protecting my little sister Do you think those two things were your responsibility? after not moving and continuing to tell them he needed to leave he eventually left Did you commend them for holding their ground?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 07:46 AM
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Is this normal? For you
/r/askMRP07/04/21 01:06 AM
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I dunno man... why do YOU want to get married?
/r/askMRP04/04/21 12:10 AM
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3rd kid, is a totally different ball game Yeah man... sounds like that third kid is what did it. Turned you into a bitch. I mean, before that you were basically alpha right?
/r/askMRP30/03/21 01:51 AM
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She's slowly realizing that you're gay.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/21 07:56 PM
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This is clearly all her fault. She's the one who made all of the decisions after all. She decided that you should get married after you "turned her out". She decided that you should have kids. She decides when you have sex. She decides whether or not you're happy. I'm sure a divorce will fix all of your problems. Next time, just make sure you find a more competent woman to make all of your decisions for you.
/r/askMRP27/03/21 01:52 AM
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If you catch yourself doing something like that... just ask yourself, "Does this even matter?" Stop wasting energy on shit that doesn't matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/21 12:10 AM
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I was able to follow up later and see that my wife read some erotic literature just like 30 minutes this denial took place, ugh. Until you figure out how to get out of her head... everything you do is going to be influenced by what you think she thinks.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 08:36 PM
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But her disrespect is off the charts She feels the need to direct me Your mom sounds like a real bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/21 05:15 PM
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Intent.
/r/askMRP22/03/21 12:34 AM
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I know right? She sounds so mysterious! OP you better lock this one down
/r/askMRP20/03/21 06:04 PM
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She has a bum leg from a recreation accident and I've been picking up her slack without mentioning a word. Wow what a hero. How dare she not fuck you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/21 10:04 PM
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I can live with this just fine as I don't need an attractive wife in order for me to have a happy, meaningful life. To me, it's a huge issue So which is it? "Just fine" or "huge issue"? Look man, if you're scared of jumping head first into homosexuality, just have your wife help you ease into it. Start with some light butt play, try some prostate massage, then move to pegging... keep leaning just beyond your edge... you'll get there in no time!
/r/askMRP18/03/21 06:23 AM
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Don't know how to make a decision? Just stop wearing condoms. Then later on down the road you can avoid accountability by blaming everything on luck and your wife. See you in 5 years you dumb mother fucker.
/r/askMRP15/03/21 08:54 PM
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We're men. We're the ones that care. The fuck are you talking about... You're OBSESSED with your ex. You're desperate and needy as fuck. You don't get to pass that off as being "caring". And it's been years! No wonder she wants nothing to do with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/21 05:56 AM
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Oneitis is rotting your brain.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/21 02:17 AM
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I give her our nightly peck (she won't let me give her a real kiss) lmao
/r/askMRP14/03/21 05:01 PM
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"Mommy look at me I'm the captain!"
/r/askMRP13/03/21 03:06 PM
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for the sake of our child So your child isn't enough for you to get over the butthurt, accept the situation, and stick with your original decision? Look, fuck what all these other dudes are saying.. here's what you do: Knock her up again. With a second kid, it'll be double the motivation to stick around! The decision basically makes itself at that point! And if later on down the road, you find that your motivation is waning.... do it again! But I guess the tricky part will be getting her to fuck…
/r/askMRP09/03/21 09:54 PM
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Definitely wasn't on his dick, because then she wouldn't go near it
/r/askMRP07/03/21 04:12 PM
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I still care that it looks like butthurt to her Stop trying to read her mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/21 07:20 PM
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She just kept screaming “I don’t wanna go to bed.” Over and over again. I could barely get words across. Spanking her only made her angrier. I was defeated by a four year old. I took the tablet and TV away again. Why didn't you just pick her up and put her in bed instead of hitting her and taking things away? Her: I don't wanna go to bed! You: I know, I feel that way too sometimes but it's time for bed. (Put her in bed) (She runs out and repeats fit) Repeat until she accepts that it is bed time …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/21 05:28 PM
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start filing the divorce paperwork Oh ya... maybe a divorce will fix everything and somehow turn you into a man.
/r/askMRP25/02/21 01:46 AM
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Joke? If you say so... Looked more like something an overly dramatic/manipulative person would say. You know, like how some people lightly toss suicide out there on the table to see where it goes. "Here's something really extreme to see how you respond... oh too much? I take it back"
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 06:51 PM
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I am a bit scared how deeply I relate to Chris Cornell's internal experience, as I'm sure all of you know where that journey ended up for him. The fuck is this? "Oh I relate so much to this musician! Guysss... Maybe I'll end up killing myself like he did." Really, why did you feel like you needed to write this? You actually thinking about suicide? Because if you aren't....
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 09:42 AM
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My weight creeped up this last week, I've been eating air popped popcorn with a little salt and butter at night and it must have put my metabolism out That's not a real thing. If you are gaining weight, it's because you are consuming more calories than you burn.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 05:03 PM
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the most common problems in MRP are to do with things like dead bedrooms Nah. Dead bedroom isn't a problem, it's a symptom. Most of the shit here stems from guys spending too much time in wife's/others heads (which seems to be the case for you) and not knowing what it is that they want. Do you know what you want? Is she that? It's not rocket science.
/r/askMRP15/02/21 08:22 PM
1

That's nice of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/21 04:55 PM
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I've been taking a little bit of viagra before most sexual encounters with my girlfriend for the past 18 months or so. Why? it's fun. I don't have to worry about anything. And she seems to like it (doesn't know, of course). Which is NMMNG 101 behavior that I need to base my worth on being good in bed. I originally took it because I was nervous and anxious about a new partner after wife. Then it just started being awesome, or I think I'm not awesome without it. Now it's almost a placebo. Are you …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/21 06:37 AM
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You want to have a family with your kids and wife but at the same time you don't want your wife. These two things conflict with each other. It's just not possible. You need to decide which one is more important to you. Then... make a fucking decision and own it entirely. You're here with them, but only half-heartedly, all mopey or obviously cringing any time you have to do something with your wife. This is what your kids are going to pick up on. What they're going to take away from it is... "dad…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 07:25 PM
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Yeah you got the right idea... better not let this one get away. Diamond FUCKING hands bro!
/r/askMRP10/02/21 05:04 AM
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Man... you're so concerned with her intent. Stop trying to decode everything she says and does. Do something if you want to do it. Don't if you don't... It's really that fucking easy. You just need learn how to live for yourself instead of worrying about other people all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/21 10:54 PM
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Holla anyone else who is post narc abuse Your shit is not special or unique. It's the same as everything else. Don't be a victim.
/r/askMRP04/02/21 09:37 PM
3

I dunno man, your wife sounds really really scary. You should probably just do whatever she says so that you don't make her mad.
/r/askMRP03/02/21 08:17 PM
1

Your SMV is close to her coworker's? He must have something you don't. Maybe let her peg you... that'll even things up a bit.
/r/askMRP03/02/21 08:12 PM
2

How can everything in my marriage be all my fault Everything in your marriage/life that you control is all your fault. Putting up with shitty behavior, being a doormat, how you react.... all things that are under your control. What she (or anyone else) says/thinks/does... not under your control.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/21 10:53 PM
1

I am initiating sex, maybe once a day, less frequently recently, sometimes also quite passionately By "passionately" do you mean needy as fuck? 2 years ago I got out of a sexless marriage Seems like a pattern here. You must have picked another bad one... All their fault.
/r/askMRP27/01/21 06:20 PM
1

By the end of pushing myself hard for 4 weeks, my CNS is pretty fried. It leaves me irritably, hostile, and MUCH MUCH more susceptible to failing shit tests. I lose my cool and can't shut the fuck up, which is normally never an issue. All the meditation in the world can't stop my ego from getting butthurt. This is occurring right now and if history is repeating itself I will feel like this for the next 2-3 days. All in all, this leaves me not in the right frame of mind to be a successful leader …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/21 04:03 AM
2

This is much better than being browbeaten in silence. Keep in mind that the point is not to just find something that makes you feel better about/get back at/hide from the 'browbeating'. What you're trying to do is get to a point where whatever is being said by others has literally has no effect on you... because you decide what you think of yourself and your actions. Once you reach that place, you can say or not say whatever you want because none of it really matters.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/21 01:34 AM
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When they are loud and I don't have control I start to lose my mind. There are a lot of things with kids that you are not going to be able to control no matter how hard you try. Things will be much easier for you if you learn to accept that. However, there is one thing that you will always be under your control... and that is how YOU react to these situations. Just remember that if you get frustrated and lose your shit... it was because you chose to go that route.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/21 04:54 AM
1

Putting a focus on what she wants is a terrible idea. Especially for this guy and especially with regards to sex. Did I hit a soft spot? I think you hit your head.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/21 06:42 AM
3

She must WANT to blow and fuck. So basically.. If you want to have sex, don't initiate unless you think she really wants to have sex with you. Brilliant.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/21 05:58 AM
1

Tracking software is used commonly by advertisers to associate different accounts and build profiles of users. These trackers can easily defeat VPN by building a fingerprint from information reported by your browser. This info is available to companies like Facebook, Amazon and Google If you know so much about security, why don't you just set it up? Why do you need us to validate this decision for you? Oh that's right... you can't take this one to the wife.
/r/askMRP13/01/21 06:31 PM
2

Hahaha I don't give 2 fucks about these groups. clearly... lol
/r/askMRP13/01/21 07:44 AM
1

He's just asking a normal question You mean like the one that just got you banned from MRP? "Bu-bu-but I was just asking a question!!!" Jesus, could you be any more butthurt?
/r/askMRP13/01/21 07:12 AM
1

Is she saying anything that isn't true? You're obsessed with sex "I am" A relationship is more than just sex "Correct" Blahbalah blah blah blah "Mhm" headpat Mouth is making sounds as usual... why is this a problem?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 09:20 PM
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“How dare SHE not want to have sex with ME???!!!” I say inside my own head constantly. So, like I suck and I’m not that cool or special? Is that all it boils down to? Well, we can only be what other people tell us that we are... am I right? We couldn't possibly decide our self-worth on our own...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 07:41 PM
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Daughter made me lose some patience No, your daughter didn't make you do anything. YOU got all emotional because YOU can't handle dealing with a three year old girl who doesn't brush her teeth and go to sleep on command. Wife has been totally dismissive of our Daughter's daily schedule So it's all your wife's fault that your daughter struggles with her bedtime routine when you are home with her? Gee, I wonder if this same lack of accountability exists in other areas of your life...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 07:18 PM
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Why the fuck are we like this as men? You don't sound like a man, you sound like a bitch.
/r/askMRP12/01/21 01:12 AM
2

Impressive. You must be some kind of stocks expert.
/r/askMRP11/01/21 08:58 PM
5

Fuck... how hard did she hit you in the head?
/r/askMRP11/01/21 08:20 PM
9

You think your problem is unique, but it's just more of the same. You're concerned with what people think of you, which prevents you from doing the things you want to do. The answer is acceptance and not giving a fuck.
/r/askMRP02/01/21 06:08 PM
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Surprisingly since I've had this issue I’ve hooked up with one girl and had another show heavy interest but I couldn’t follow through because this just kills my self esteem Your metabolism isn't the problem.
/r/askMRP02/01/21 05:54 AM
2

I been processing this comment, and while it has many truths, it is hard to explain the situation fully. Look man... you're not the only one who's ever had to work with/live with people who have mental disorders. The truth is.. the details are different, but the general approach is the same. There are a lot of things you have to sacrifice with kids, regardless of mental health. The main difference with your son is that it's going to be more difficult for you to check out and let social media rai…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/21 03:10 AM
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Just worry about it for the rest of the night. Then tomorrow when you wake up, worry about everything your wife thinks or does... for the rest of your life.
/r/askMRP31/12/20 06:20 AM
1

lol... braindead.
/r/askMRP31/12/20 04:00 AM
5

cops, GPS, credit fraud.... and you're still asking. What do you guys think? I think you should wake the fuck up.
/r/askMRP30/12/20 06:10 AM
2

It's funny how you think that getting a divorce is somehow going to make your balls grow back. I don't want my boys to think that getting married and serving a wife as some sort of pseudo-leader of the family is what happiness is So... your plan is to show your sons how to be a man by running away from your scary wife like a little bitch? Good plan.
/r/askMRP30/12/20 06:01 AM
2

the most ridiculous form of his emotions What you think of your son really shows in the way you write about him. He's a "problem", he's "ridiculous". You really need to think about this. You created him and you're supposed to be coaching him through all this, and through his life. You're supposed to be giving him the tools he needs so that he will be able to go after whatever he wants... and deal with anything that comes his way. But instead you see him as some kind of opponent you need to butt …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 09:37 PM
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My middle school kid is a problem and has been his whole life Man.. I really feel for you on this. I hope you can get him on medication soon so he stops fucking up your life. I mean, what a little piece of shit for having what are apparently legitimate and diagnosable mental health issues. On the bright side, at least you can sometimes control this middle school asshole by physically "intimidating him with your size". Only what, five or six more years to go? Then you can kick him out of your hou…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/20 03:52 AM
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but when I think of what others think of me, it's usually not good enough You're trying to read minds. You know what happens when you do that? All of your insecurities get reflected back to you. It's clear that you don't want to care what other people think. The problem is that your knee jerk reaction to any feelings of insecurity is to negatively judge yourself through the eyes of others, which further reinforces that insecurity. It's kind of like being afraid of looking like a loser and then s…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 08:45 PM
2

No one cares that you're gay. You are not special.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 12:05 AM
3

At this point, I don't care to be married anymore Why? Because you're so unattractive that your wife won't fuck you? Or is it because you're so afraid of her that you feel like you can't do any of the things you want to do? Those are both really good reasons to divorce her. Clearly she is the problem here.
/r/askMRP18/12/20 05:27 PM
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If you are focused on whether or not you are the dominant one in an interaction, you're LARPing. Even if you're seeing yourself as the dominant one, you're still viewing it as some kind of power struggle. If you go out and do what you want, regardless of other people... this dominance thing doesn't even matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/20 05:02 AM
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But the long drawn out shit test of “I know who you really are, your a little boy pretending to be a man”....That shit test I am just starting to crack. Why do you care what she knows, or what she thinks she knows? Why do you care what she thinks about you at all? You're trying to figure out how to pass this test.. but it wouldn't even be a test if you didn't give a shit about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/20 07:23 AM
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I focus too much on the power dynamic You shouldn't just reduce focus on the dynamic, you need to let the entire thing go. If you are still seeing a power struggle here, you still see your wife as an opponent or as competition. You define your own world. You are the only person who has any power there. She should be seen as someone who is just along for the ride.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/20 05:20 AM
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"This is my first girlfriend ever! I'm so scared that she's going to leave me! Please tell me what to do!"
/r/askMRP15/12/20 07:23 PM
2

You just do whatever the fuck you want and stop worrying about what other people think.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 07:51 PM
5

Knock her up ASAP.
/r/askMRP08/12/20 05:39 PM
1

And I suppose blaming all of your problems on your addiction and clinging to a victim mentality is something they advise at those meetings...
/r/askMRP05/12/20 08:18 AM
1

Had a bit of a benzo addiction yourself did ya?
/r/askMRP05/12/20 07:43 AM
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All of this happened because I've allowed myself to fall into a deep hole of benzo addiction No... benzo addiction is just a symptom of an underlying problem. The underlying problem is that you are a bitch.
/r/askMRP05/12/20 02:20 AM
1

So she called her boss and said that chad was touching her without consent? Better marry this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/20 06:49 PM
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Who normally makes your decisions for you? Ask them.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/20 05:50 PM
1

"Its nice that you want to apologize, but how are you going to prevent this behavior in the future?"
/r/askTRP04/12/20 05:31 PM
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"I'm afraid of losing her so should I just change my whole life to do what she wants, even though it's not what I want?"
/r/askMRP01/12/20 05:54 PM
2

Who did you write this for? Yikes...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/20 05:31 AM
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I sure hope your story is 100% real Dude sounds a LOT like HoA....
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/20 06:36 AM
2

Take him shopping and get some stuff that fits properly.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/20 08:19 PM
1

before I could bring up blood work or getting my levels checked he ushered me to the door Just remember, an appointment with a doctor is a service transaction. Go in with a clear idea of what you want and get it. Too many people put docs up on a pedestal (and they take advantage of that shit too). Just remember you are paying them for their time... they aren't giving it to you out of the kindness of their hearts. Not sure if this is even necessary It's an extremely easy possibility to eliminate/…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/20 02:24 AM
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Just read your post in reverse: I'm unemployed and my wife supports me. I have multiple health problems (that are usually related to obesity). My wife is a bitch to me and my daughter, but I don't stand up to her because I am a weak person who is afraid of confrontation. I'm so scared that I can't even stand up for my daughter. I don't really know what I'm supposed to do around the house or in my relationship. Because of this, my wife constantly complains about needing to always tell me what to …
/r/askMRP11/11/20 05:05 PM
2

Will I lose muscle if I go this low Yes. am I risking injury if I start at close to my current weights? No. You would just hit a plateau and need to deload sooner than beginners would. Injury comes from sacrificing form to move weight that is too heavy for you.
/r/askMRP10/11/20 11:41 PM
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Besides preventing you from saying stupid shit, STFU will do two things for your situation: First, it's going to show you that it is actually possible for you to take an alternative course of action in these kinds of situations, as opposed to what you normally do: get manipulated into playing her game/apologizing/being a doormat. Second, STFU is going to give you something to focus your attention on during her tantrums. This allows allows you to shift your attention from the craziness coming out…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/20 12:40 AM
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What makes you think it wasn't college guy's kid she aborted? I bet a big part of her motivation for getting an abortion was that she had no idea who the father was.
/r/askMRP01/11/20 05:04 PM
1

This weeks goals: say Yes to any play opportunity that isn’t unreasonable; establish a daily chore expectation chart and post it Your main goal here should be to STFU with your kids until you can get a handle on your emotions. That is going to do way more for them right now than chores and expectations. Here is a simple way to sort through what you say: If what is about to come out of your mouth is something negative, you keep it to yourself and you deal with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/20 06:29 PM
2

You can still experience symptoms of Low T at those levels. 450-500 is low average across all ages, but five years ago you might have been at 900... which is a huge drop for that amount of time. Without a previous baseline, being within normal range does not rule out Low T.
/r/askMRP30/10/20 05:37 PM
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