Let me start this off with the beginning

I met my wife at 15, she was the one from the beginning. I knew the first time I saw her she was the one. We spent every day together pretty much up until our adulthood. Yeah that doesn’t seem important but it’s part of it.

Here we are 18 years old move out our senior year of high school together, (wrong move I know) if not the worst mistake I’ve ever made. So we all know what comes next, a baby. Don’t get me wrong I love my kids with everything I have in me, they are really the reason I’m Still here. So with reality hitting me as a young man at 18, I do what any guy would do, and start working. Heavy construction is my first job and I’m working 11-12 hour days 6 days a week in preparation of our first kid. And this is where the problem begins. Here I am at 22 still working my ass off for my 3 kids and my wife is staying home taking care of the children.

Only if that was the case. She’s miserable, we missed out on our childhood and she lets me know everyday. I work 2nd shift currently and every night I come home to a destroyed house, the kids run rampant all day and she does nothing about it besides complain, no action. I’m tired of it, I love this woman but she provides nothing in my life besides being the mother to my children. I’m lucky to get a cooked meal once a month. Come home to a destroyed house everyday and a complaining wife. She said she’s aware of the issue but says she doesn’t have the motivation to take care of things. I’m completely worn out with her lack of motivation and will to handle things at home. Do I give her an ultimatum? Do I keep living this way? I don’t know but I can’t handle much more.

I would leave but I want my kids to have their dad around, something I never had, I feel stuck. Hopeless