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FDS HUMORWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:48 PM
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FDS MEMESWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:12 PM
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PICKME CULTUREWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 11:26 PM
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How-To High ValueWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:59 PM
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FDS TRANSLATES MENWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:32 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:43 PM
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How-To High ValueWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 01:43 AM
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DISCUSSIONWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:58 AM
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FDS MEMESWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:35 PM
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STRATEGYWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:02 AM
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STRATEGYWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:36 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 09:48 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:53 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:45 AM
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STRATEGYWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:15 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:38 PM
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ADVICEWildTenderness/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 06:29 PM
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WildTenderness/r/askFDS01/06/21 07:27 PM
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WildTenderness/r/askFDS30/09/20 04:22 AM
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DISCUSSIONWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:06 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:17 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:32 PM
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DATING ADVICEWildTenderness/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 07:34 AM
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WildTenderness/r/askFDS22/09/20 03:05 AM
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DATING ADVICEWildTenderness/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 02:15 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:19 AM
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DATING ADVICEWildTenderness/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 08:17 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:04 AM
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RELATIONSHIPSWildTenderness/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 01:26 PM
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RELATIONSHIPSWildTenderness/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 02:17 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:11 PM
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DATING ADVICEWildTenderness/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 03:18 PM
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STRATEGYWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:33 AM
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STRATEGYWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:44 AM
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COUCH CREATURESWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:36 PM
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STRATEGYWildTenderness/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:53 PM
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I remember coming across this the other day. Literally so cute 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:08 AM
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Strangely, I have a feeling that if it happened to him, he would not enjoy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 03:59 PM
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The other issue with this is that you should not be inviting men into your fav restaurants until you're in a serious relationship. Many women in this subreddit have mentioned guys they've dated showing up to their favorite restaurant all the time and running the experience ):
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 01:04 PM
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I'm 21 and I've seen so many men on OLD comment about being attracted to women with "daddy issues". Honestly really disturbing. I'm scared for my generation of women and the next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:06 AM
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Nah cause engaging in BDSM with my first partner is literally what traumatized me and then worsened my trauma down the line 🙅🏼‍♀️🙅🏼‍♀️ Most men are not equipped to handle and ask for consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:52 AM
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Public proposals are nightmare material for me 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 11:55 PM
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I'm glad I've reached the point where I would kick a man out for disrespecting my cats. So ill-willed to wanna hurt literal angels 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:19 PM
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Omg girl that's a literal child 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:11 PM
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Literally sucks to date online at this age soon much 😭 they all suggest shit like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:14 AM
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I'm proud of you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:54 PM
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The first and most important thing is to set financial goals. Most financial goals are achievable with light-moderate spending as long as you're not extremely tight on money. If you set a monthly budget and stay within it, I don't necessarily think what you're doing is bad, especially if you're finding fulfillment in it. If you're finding it difficult to stay within budget, putting the energy into learning how to make thoughtful gifts and learning more about fine jewelry (as an alternative to co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:17 AM
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Ugh.. I needed this at the beginning of this year. Made a new friend late 2020 and she convinced me to "communicate" lol. Was pretty sure it wasn't going to work but just wanted to prove it to her. Wasted a month of my time hoping the dude would take me on an actual date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:41 PM
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Men are really out here outting themselves, huh? I'm glad he left though, too many men lead women on to gain access to her children 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:06 PM
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LOL. This was so painful go read 💀💀 girlll. Funny as hell though, this looks fun to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:30 PM
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Yea, I saw a couple tiktoks about this which is what first got the idea in my head. Men are literally the worst 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:01 AM
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Ah yes, the good ol' "allegedly" 😂 it's good you pointed that out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:43 PM
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That really sucks :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:16 PM
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I suspect this is what it looks like to avoid lvm during your lifetime. A girl can dream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:50 PM
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While this is extremely alarming, it can't be extrapolated to the rest of the population because of the survey's design. That poor woman though... Her boyfriend even admit it. I don't know how people can expect us to feel safe around men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:44 PM
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LMAO this was the guy I recently ended things with, with some other LV stuff tacked on. How can men sleep over and not bring a fresh set of clothes?? Or at least a toothbrush. They live too comfortably, whack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:53 PM
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Yea, I figured it was fake upon first watching it... There's no way 😭 thankfully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:57 PM
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This comment was simultaneously the best and worst thing I've read today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:44 AM
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Dumb fox strategy sounds good, it's fun to implement into interactions. I'm just wondering how I would include it. Like, if he starts pressing me about why we haven't progressed physically, what would I say? I could change the subject/ignore him if he makes sexual jokes and whatnot, but otherwise I'm not too sure how to proceed
/r/askFDS02/06/21 04:27 AM
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Oh, that must be so hard :( especially alongside the pandemic and all the isolation. I'm sure it's been long coming, there will be better days ahead. Wishing you lots of healing ❤️ you got this
/r/askFDS02/06/21 01:51 AM
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Disregarding the confusion on when or if to tell him, I otherwise recommend it! It's so empowering to know that you have both your fertility and safety (regarding STIs) in your hands. I'm personally pro-life and also don't intend on using hormonal birth control so it's been a great fit for me. Although it's definitely up to you, there are pros and cons no matter what choice you end up making.
/r/askFDS01/06/21 10:32 PM
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I let myself acknowledge the good thought, but I make sure to include a "negative" thought about them as well. Every good behaviour they demonstrated is paired with some way they treated me poorly.
/r/askFDS30/05/21 07:08 AM
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This ↑↑↑↑ he doesn't get another chance
/r/askFDS28/05/21 11:25 PM
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I'm honestly thinking he might be on the autism spectrum or otherwise not be neurotypical. I have ADHD and tend to do that on a much lighter scale (referencing a variety of people actions to gauge what's "normal"), but that's definitely weird asf considering dating patterns vary so much from person to person 😭
/r/askFDS26/05/21 09:35 PM
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I don't have anything to add but the fact that he got it from TV has me dead 💀💀
/r/askFDS26/05/21 09:27 PM
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By not asking you, you skipped over an entire conversation that could've involved the discussion of your boundaries (regarding cheating for example) and reinforcing how important it is for him to ask for consent for things. Him assuming that he didn't need to ask also shows him that he doesn't need to put tangible work into pursuing you. He can just "assume" you will tolerate certain things. While it can be awkward, learn to handle it maturely. It's extremely important and can be a useful tool. …
/r/askFDS26/05/21 05:01 PM
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The main one would be then gaslighting you for pointing out or finding issues in their behaviour. You're probably completely reasonable, don't let them bully you.
/r/askFDS26/05/21 01:15 PM
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The fact that you had a visceral reaction even before he yelled at you at the roundabout is showing that you subconsciously already know this is wrong. These situations are the stepping stones of emotional abuse. Having ADHD means I have time blindness, and struggle with that exact situation. I'm rarely ever exactly on time and I'm always packing a few things together last minute, resulting in me being no more than 5-10 minutes. The only partner I ever had become upset from that was my most toxi…
/r/askFDS26/05/21 01:10 PM
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This is true 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:15 PM
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Straight up 😭 who in their right mind would post this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:05 PM
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Wouldn't this put him at risk for having to pay child support?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:03 PM
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And probably more to come 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:37 PM
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Dude told on himself 😬😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:27 PM
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It is so painfully clear that he doesn't contribute as much to the household tasks as she does. No wonder she lost attraction. This poor woman is so overworked with cooking, cleaning, and childcare, and on top of that her partner doesn't care at all and is trying to convince her something is wrong with her. I wish we could bring her here 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:31 PM
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Damn...I never fully realized this. Those violent scenes never sat right with me though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:21 PM
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Stop shaming woman's physical preferences ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:48 PM
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This doesn't make sense to me. Yes, men will happily point out genetic flaws in us, but what you're doing is shaming a fellow woman for being attracted to this man, not "shaming" a feature of his. Your actions aren't creating the impact you're seeking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:46 PM
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The podcast episode "the gender gap of pandemic proportions" by the podcast "Ladies, We Need to Talk" discusses this! Women now have even more emotional labour duties piled on and it's not being talked about enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:12 PM
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Wouldn't this apply to any form of media? Avoid looking at media that portrays relationships positively to avoid getting your hopes up ? I think it's fine to consume "aspirational" media, but it's important to have an outlet like a good friend or FDS to keep us in check to avoid us getting too absorbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 08:59 PM
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Exactly, she didn't consent to these terms. Unfortunately, I feel like both him and her own self are going to be gaslighting her. We can only hope she comes to her senses 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:46 AM
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Ah, yes.. these were the days. I remember when I first got onto online dating (hardcore pickme days) and this ended horribly. "Yes, he did just say that he finds it sexy that I'm 'submissive and quiet', but I'm sure he didn't mean it in a weird way, I gotta do one more date!" I used to gaslight myself so much and I cringe so hard thinking back to the perverted men I put up with 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:43 AM
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Lol I LOOOOVVVVEEEDDD seeing this video pop up on my fyp. Very well handled by those ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:57 PM
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Ah right, you must've been so impressed 🥴😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:13 AM
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I lost a lot of my attraction towards my ex because of this. He couldn't really grow facial hair, but his light stubble along with lack of skincare really irritated me. I always got rashes wherever his face was and I could barely stand him kissing me by the end. Exfoliating isn't that hard 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:42 PM
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I love when men find the most obscure ways to message you and it's just them saying dumb shit 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:40 PM
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That's honestly so funny to me. Like this dude seriously thought that right after you break up with your bf, the first thing you're going to do is call/text him immediately because he is that irresistible 💀💀 They live in such delusion. Must be nice..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:08 PM
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I don't think the majority of men are "smart" enough to think about doing that lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:04 PM
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I ended up giving him my number with the last number changed. I had no idea how to react :') men are so predatory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:14 PM
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I ended up giving him my number with the last number changed. I had no idea how to react :') men are so predatory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:14 PM
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I wish! I was so shocked in the moment I didn't say anything 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:00 AM
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Ugh the directions one... I was so ignorant a year ago and I remember a guy coming up to me at uni and asking me where a building was. I spent two minutes trying to explain it to him (I have a very poor sense of direction and there was a bunch of construction) only for him to start asking about my studies. I probably find out he's a third year student! 🤡 Worst part is that I was going on a date with someone and waiting for them (they showed up as I was talking to the guy) and I tried to leave, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:38 AM
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How else can I take advantage of vulnerable and insecure women ?? 🥴 What a coward lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:21 PM
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You've been "talking" to someone? Not even dating? And he's already started bringing up kids in a non-commital situation? It really sounds like he wants to find a way to trap you without having to spend money on an engagement ring/marriage/house/etc. Huge red flag imo. Stop "talking" to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:50 AM
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Yup !! Most of our height requirements are very reasonable lol, but even if someone has some "absurb" (we love high standards though 💗) height requirements, why would they want to date someone like that ?? It doesn't make sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:42 PM
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Michelle Denise Rosser, 38, is murdered by her partner. He told police her facial injuries (which included a fractured skull, a brain bleed, multiple bruises and grazes) were from sex they'd had the night before. She'd called police 11 times in 2 years to report domestic abuse. Murder, life, min term 18 years Minimum term of 18 years after her having called police 11 times in two years to report domestic abuse?? Are they mad?? Wtf is the justice system. They need to be put away for good 😭 Edit: …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:20 PM
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https://www.theverge.com/2017/4/25/15421734/artificial-womb-fetus-biobag-uterus-lamb-sheep-birth-premie-preterm-infant It's been done with lambs so far (maybe some other animals, but I'm unaware). For humans, they would essentially only need to change the chemistry of the internal fluids and change the nutrients being delivered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:12 PM
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They've already created artificial wombs. There is just a lot of ethical dilemmas regarding "testing" on humans, so it hasn't progressed much 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:03 PM
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The worst part is that adding two inches to your height in extremely common advice on dating subreddits. The logic is that most women "won't know the difference" when they're in shoes, and since so many other men are doing it, they have to "compete". They're so dumb I stg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:28 PM
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Yea, I agree. I'm personally saving penetrative sex for marriage, but since I'm fine with other stuff, I have participated in those earlier than I should of. I'm still in the process of building self discipline in that department, but I have noticed some men drop off after mentioning the no sex until marriage thing. How do you go about it, if I may ask? Or how would you go about it? I'm torn between straight up telling them I'm waiting for marriage and trying to keep it secret to avoid giving LV…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:04 PM
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Not necessarily, I've found that many men are comfortable playing the long game or will try to appeal to your emotions/desires to get you in bed. After that, they might ghost, or their efforts will drop off dramatically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:51 PM
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I've been battling with this as well. In the last year, I have been pretty up front with who I've been dating and told them I'm looking for marriage. All the men who "agreed" with this eventually dropped off their efforts either after we became exclusive, or even before we became exclusive after he got comfortable. When I get back into dating, I want to experiment with going with the approach outlined in "Why Men Love Bitches". You essentially tell him you're unsure of what you want or that you'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:47 PM
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It's also them expecting free emotional labour from us. I shut down so many men expecting me to present them with a whole ass bibliography (they present nothing, of course) by telling them to pay me for it. Haven't had any takers yet! We can take the time to research, present studies, quote highly respected professionals, and they'll still go on and waste our time and energy. A man who truly wanted to learn about women's issues would first have to recognize that it's not up to us to explain shit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:37 PM
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Wow, I could've gone without reading this today :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:40 PM
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This is so beautiful ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:19 PM
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I have been so angry since learning this. I spend quite a bit (arguably too much) time on social media, and the sheer volume of men who go out of their way to tell women they're ugly or they should do XYZ is astonishing. It's so deeply ingrained for them to be entitled to someone looking good for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:19 PM
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It just kept getting worse. I sincerely hope she has a prenup in place to protect her from his debt should she make the leap... Goddamn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:12 PM
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Wow 🥲 I hate that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:06 PM
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Seconding the trusting your gut. You wouldn't have picked up on it if it wasn't relevant. I'm going to be breaking of a non-commital situation today after ignoring my gut feeling... Dude turned out to be racist and ignorant of women's issues. Trust yourself!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:15 PM
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Lol I remember seeing this post up here before. I can really only hope it's satire but I honestly wouldn't be surprised by a man displaying this level of degeneracy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:47 PM
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This has to be satire....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:11 AM
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I mean, it's not necessarily talking about romantic relationships, just relationships in general. So that could mean family and friends. I would think this applies to everyone, but it's definitely odd that they only used men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:43 PM
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Oh, for sure. I was lucky to be raised by my mother who barely let me have sweets and always made healthy food, and seeing its effect on me really makes me want to do that for my children (although not in a toxic way 😅).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:25 AM
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I really sympathize with you, girly. It seems that you're pretty new to the subreddit, welcome! While the things he's done make leaving him objectively the right decision, it's okay to not focus on that. It's okay to feel it through and remember the good times, it can be really hard to let that go. Just remember that you're not letting go of those fun and positive, and deeply intimate moments, you are simply letting go of someone who has mistreated you and failed to upgrade to your level. Your a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:03 AM
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100%. A couple years ago my bio teacher told me about how overweight/obese men are more likely to create children prone to obesity & weight gain. The genetic material in men's sperm changes depending on his lifestyle, but since us women have our eggs from birth, our only issues (infertility) are from reproductive illnesses/disorders and/or hormonal imbalances which could then be linked to lifestyle. A man's lifestyle will directly affect the quality of his sperm, however the same does not apply …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:27 PM
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We love to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:08 PM
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More than anything I wish she could do more to save other women. Hopefully reporting actually leads to something 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:51 PM
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This is such an important lesson for women. Don't move in with a man without marriage and if you have kids, keep them away from your dating life for as long as possible. This is vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:41 PM
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Oh I know sis started a war in the comments 😭 but we love to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:05 PM
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Someone please save her 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:34 PM
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This is so cringey 😂 why do men think they have enough power in the dating world to create a change like this, first of all... If they can live w/o partners, good for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:32 PM
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I'm so excited about this! Please get it onto Google podcast asap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:21 AM
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The way I would stab these men in one second
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:49 AM
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I was getting the sentiment until she said he can't cook... Sis–what? It's true that not everyone likes flowers/chocolate/travel/etc., so all these other ways he support her are valid, but there are def a couple that just.. no. You are doing all the cooking, but he hands you a warm cup of coffee? You do majority of the childcare, but he sometimes wakes up in the middle of the night for his children? Sis was makin' a valid point but got horribly lost 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:46 AM
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Lol I always joke about this with my friends. It would be such a treat. Definitely wouldn't work in practice though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:41 AM
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As someone with mental illness, I wouldn't wanna date a man with mental illness. The vast majority of men in general don't know how to properly deal with emotions, let alone seek diagnosis, keep up with meds/certain responsibilities, or go to therapy. It's hard enough to deal with my own shit on a regular basis, having someone else pile onto that and be constantly grappling with myself regarding whether or not my standards are "fair" is not something I'm looking for. And then of course comes the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:39 AM
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It 100% is apart of the process. Personally, it took me nine months of reading FDS content regularly to finally start letting go of my attachment and "need" for men and physical intimacy. It's been sooo worth it though, I'm able to vet much more effectively and my mental space is so much more free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:47 PM
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For me, it also changed when I learned what was "normal" and what type of behavior should be expected from others. FDS is a godsend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:43 PM
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I keep seeing these pop up. Honestly heartbreaking how ignorant these poor women are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:16 AM
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Also younger and don't have kids or anything, but I agree that it would be important to sit your daughter down and have a conversation with her about everything. For some reason, my parents hid a lot of details from their childhood. They grew up under communism and it understandably shaped how they view the world and how they parent, but I never knew until they started telling me stories. I gained a lot of appreciation for my mother when she confessed how my father didn't help at all growing up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:29 PM
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I hope he felt the shame so deep in his bones that he never opened his mouth again. Wtf is wrong with men?? 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:38 PM
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Ehh... I think you're confusing "thanking" and "praising". I'm not saying you need to worship him for buying you flowers, but a smile accompanied with a "thank you" is appropriate. If he doesn't know that you enjoy what he's doing, why would he keep doing it? Naturally, for things like opening doors and paying, you may eventually stop thanking him as often as it should be a given, but since her relationship is already snowballing downwards, giving him some motivation to improve his efforts is he…
/r/askFDS19/02/21 03:46 PM
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I imagine this is reoccurring? How long has he been getting away with putting in minimal effort? When you decide to get into a relationship with a man, it is extremely important to avoid complacency. The moment you tell him he doesn't have to pick you up everytime, or he doesn't have to always hold doors for you, or that he doesn't always have to pay, he's going to take this as he no longer needs to pursue you and put effort into the relationship, and this will happen exponentially fast. If you …
/r/askFDS18/02/21 11:13 PM
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The only way I think it would be acceptable (but definitely not ideal) is to find a way to give him your contact info. I'm not sure how you know this guy, but make it subtle based off the circumstances and get something out of it. For example, if you know him from work or school, you would say something like "can you help with X project after class/work?" You get his contact info, get his help, and that's it. This puts the ball in his court and you don't message him until and if he reaches out. …
/r/askFDS18/02/21 11:04 PM
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Like the other commented said, he's baiting you. Stop replying to his baits, doesn't matter if he's mansplaining, saying something rude, or being "mysterious". Ignoring him is the most powerful way you can address his behaviour. He won't care about any explanation you give him or anything you ask him to do. Ignoring his stupid comments and only replying to what's important, kind and relevant will teach him how it's acceptable to text you. I don't know the nature of your work, but is it absolutel…
/r/askFDS18/02/21 10:56 PM
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I had the same issue, but I can promise it's "temporary". I've found it to be a great tool to help focus on myself and university. I remember constantly craving physical affection from a man and since FDS, it has completely gone away. I honestly found it so helpful because it freed up some of my energy for other more important tasks and projects. I'm now in a relationship with someone who appears to be HVM and my attraction and sexual desire has come back, even despite him not exactly being my "…
/r/askFDS18/02/21 05:38 PM
34

I think you just need to wait. Wait until you find a HVM, wait until you think you've found your person. It's possible that the financial risks of getting married won't really be there once you find the right person because the circumstances will be better. At this time, I would also recommend trying to work on your financial situation. Being super dependant on your pension could end up hurting you in the long run and regaining your power will take a lot of the stress out of your finances.
/r/askFDS18/02/21 05:33 PM
2

Sis, I have, various times. I appreciate you looking out for me, really, but it feels a bit demeaning. I think it's important we add context to the handbook content and make it applicable to our own personal situations, especially regarding our mental and financial states. Applying every FDS rule to a tee is unrealistic imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:07 AM
2

Tbh, going out of my way to buy or make a card and then write stuff in it would be more laborious for me than just making some cookies. I don't see anything wrong with making him baked goods three times a year, but you do you, girly ❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:16 AM
112

I usually just bake some cookies, I would feel opposed to spending "additional" money on him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:23 PM
9

Huh, I wouldn't even be surprised. So much toxic content popping up on social media nowadays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:09 AM
20

I just wanna know... if this isn't satire (I'm just really hoping it is) how do you get to that point ?? Like what lead to this man becoming this delusional 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:11 AM
3

@disgracie.x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 01:35 AM
5

Such a pain!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:37 PM
28

A guy that plays video games... Usually an excessive amount, to the point where it inferes with his goals and healthy habits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:37 PM
28

I sure hope so!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:29 PM
60

Me too, sis 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:14 PM
139

I hate that! When you're having a peaceful moment and it just dawns on you 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:14 PM
46

Trust your gut. You don't fully trust him, you feel that the relationship in unfair, he's rude to his mother, you're drained... The few good qualities doesn't make up for the bad things. These are not minor character "flaws". This a culmination of unmanaged misogyny and mental illness. The few good qualities you find in him are the same you'll find in 80% of men, and many of them won't require you to break your back serving them. This situation isn't serving you. It's okay to be hesitant, and it…
/r/askFDS09/01/21 10:23 PM
48

You can seek out therapy online, and getting a prescription should still be possible under lockdown. If he wanted to he would. He is being reckless with his mental health and has approximately zero consideration for you. Take the few months you need to prepare then. Be ready to walk the moment restrictions are lifted. Also, the way he treats his mom is going to be how he treats you if you let things continue. You need to put your foot down as soon as possible. I feel bad for his mother. Clearly …
/r/askFDS09/01/21 09:05 PM
221

Never show your partner FDS. The majority of people will view it as extreme and make wild assumptions based off of a couple posts. Your expectations are not too high. Unless he's paying for everything, you get an allowance, and you're not required to work, expecting you to be the only one cooking/cleaning is ridiculous. It's basic decency to split household chores and cooking responsibilities (it doesn't have to be 50/50 for everything, but splitting tasks would still be necessary). You are baby…
/r/askFDS09/01/21 08:47 PM
11

If you want marriage, you deserve marriage. This man will never marry you willingly and to be honest I'd be questioning his loyalty. If you want a proposal you'll have to get it from someone else, please make the right decision for yourself.
/r/askFDS09/01/21 04:51 AM
31

Go with your gut. If he wants to take you out on a date, he should expect himself to plan appropriately. He asked you out a week in advance, so he had plenty of time to figure out a specific time and place, work being hectic is not an excuse. Just say that you made other plans since you didn't hear from him (don't point out the lack of details, it's not your job to teach him). Be polite and open if you're still interested in going on a date with him.
/r/askFDS09/01/21 04:41 AM
6

The second I read the title I knew it was a man's fault 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:03 PM
7

Facts 😂 I'm barely 20 and can already see half the guys having deep forehead lines and highly textured skin. Men are really out here acting delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:20 PM
17

What everyone else is saying, girly. I know it can be tough hearing people tell you to drop your partner, as I know lovey emotions and hormones are affecting you now. It may feel good to be with him now, but think about the long term impact. He intentionally deceived you to sleep with you or become your partner. He knows that he's undeserving of you, and instead of improving on himself, he chooses to put you down. If you tolerate this, he'll see how little respect you have for yourself and he'll…
/r/askFDS29/12/20 04:40 PM
5

If you get off to reanacting violent porn knowing the women are in pain, then I can't imagine what sorta morals you have...
/r/askFDS29/12/20 04:33 PM
67

I didn't know why his disgusting comments were getting upvoted and then I saw the subreddit. What a load of garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:29 PM
128

The whole thing could be staged, but I'm pretty sure the intention was to "jokingly" ask him, as this is a trend in tiktok. Although this was not funny at all and either shows their horrible acting or dysfunctional marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:27 PM
49

The fact that these games have decided that these ads are effective enough to keep making them 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:49 PM
45

Honestly, I like snapchat because it's an easy alternatives to numbers. I don't like giving out my number until we meet and it's a nice place to chat without giving out actual social media. But I am also under 25 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 11:01 PM
1

These are great, thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:49 PM
39

She's so close 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:51 PM
33

I'm honestly suspecting this is a precursor to abuse. Getting her to clean up his urine is degrading and brings down her self esteem, hence her asking if it's reasonable for her man child boyfriend to get mad at her for not letting him piss all over her bathroom. Maybe he did clean it up before but enjoys seeing his "possession" clean it up for him. Men are gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:38 PM
37

Yea, wtf 😭 if mans has some sort of blockages causing his urine to go everywhere CALL A DOCTOR and CLEAN IT UP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:17 PM
24

Wow I almost downvoted this post 🤠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:53 PM
333

Lol what a legendary comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:52 PM
551

This struck me to my core!! It's the simplest explanation. "Women are supposed to be bitches. Have you seen men and how they walk all over you?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:07 AM
86

Would highly recommend reading "Why Men Love Bitches"! Being a bitch isn't about being a rude and nasty person, it's about being assertive with your boundaries and standards and respecting yourself. Men just tend hate these types of women (since they're hard to manipulate) so the common 'nickname' they give us is "bitch".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:04 AM
4

Ah yes, certainly! She'll definitely doubt you. I'm sure she won't be impressed and appreciate your effort! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:24 AM
60

Sure! These are the main ones, asking these questions usually bring up other relevant topics so I'd suggest setting aside an hour or so to ask these. What are you looking for on the app/site? Red flags: "Going with the flow", "See what happens/what's out there" Where did/do you go to school? Where do you work? Are you religious? Do you go to church anywhere? Do you want kids? What area do you live in? What's your relationship with your family? Other questions I leave for the in-person date as th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:29 PM
112

100%. I always call before date to ask them some "pre-screening" questions and make sure the vibe is okay. There's no excuse to not be taken somewhere nice or thoughtful for a first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:12 PM
15

This poor woman :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:23 AM
4

You make a fair point. Dude definitely has some unmanaged trauma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:21 AM
13

Men really do dumb shit like this 🤦🏼‍♀️ one of my coworkers joked about my female coworker's friend's mom who died of cancer recently. Started saying she was "weak" and other insensitive shit. At the same time, it must be nice having such little social awareness. Ignorance is bliss 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:14 AM
36

Yup. How his friends are treating her is a direct reflection of how her boyfriend acts with them and what he tells them about her. Mans is trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:46 PM
4

I just started reading FDS content. I read through the handbook, and then I would think back to my old relationships and old problems. I used the search bar to find situations similar to mine and read the advice in the comments. It took me around nine months of reading to start internalizing my worth in a self-beneficial way (not in a pick-me way). I read psychology books and I plan on going to therapy to continue sorting stuff out. What I think may help you is taking a year off dating. Reject a…
/r/askFDS15/12/20 04:45 AM
18

You are wasting your time. Very few HVM are dating right now, because they understand that now is a better time to introspect and focus on them and their families. A man who doesn't care about putting others in danger (meeting without PPE and testing beforehand) is likely not HV. If a man doesn't ask for your number/contact info/a date within 3-4 days, you stop responding. If he doesn't feel the fire on his ass to get your info or plan a date, he's not interested in dating you. Also, if you real…
/r/askFDS15/12/20 04:27 AM
110

He doesn't enjoy the sex but he knows it's better than what he'd get without her 🙂 this dude is trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:24 AM
2

If it wasn't a personal account, I would 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:22 PM
5

I'm glad you like it! ❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:04 AM
65

I've starting posting polls on my IG story recently that incite critical thinking... And I cannot tell you how many men keep hopping in my DMs to tell me their super insightful and amazing opinions and to bug me into chatting with them. I've only had one women message me her thoughts and the convo was over in 3 minutes 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:52 PM
9

Notice how he just keeps making excuses and doesn't outline how he will change or make up for his behaviour... He doesn't care, girly. He wants sympathy points and to secure a warm place for his dick another time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:47 PM
24

Right?? I love that! Or if they go back with you to your train station 🥺 and check in with you to make sure you got home safe. Although them coming back with you makes more sense once you get to know them more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:47 PM
24

Yess! This one is super important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:45 PM
2

I think back in the handbook it talked about how exclusivity should be asked for around 6 weeks (by him ofc). Give or take a week... But remember that exclusivity doesn't bind you to them and you can still wait being starting to get intimate. The only implication is that you'll stop dating other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:03 PM
5

I... Damn. That's messed up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:21 AM
97

Dump him ❣️ I think he will get the message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:44 PM
2

Mostly, yea... On occasion she tells women to dump their mans though, so that's nice sometimes :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:49 PM
5

Women deserve better 😞 I'm glad I'm not in the US
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:19 PM
1

Probably! She posts some FDS-friendly and some not-so-FDS-friendly content. This one seemed like a better video of hers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:20 PM
8

Oh, I'm sorry :( the woman in the video is from Canada, so it might be different here. It's so unfair that we as women have to put up with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:43 PM
3

That's horrible!! I hate having these conversations with other people. They don't trust how unfairly women are treated and think you're insane for having high standards. God forbid I end up clowned like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:40 PM
64

But the genders wouldn't be switched. Even if the man is the one making more, there's not a chance he's doing his equal portion of housework and childcare. They'll still get mad at the woman for asking for money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:55 AM
193

So she's paying all the bills and taking care of the kids ??? AND he wants her to pay for HIS family's expensive ass gifts... Someone send her here please 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:15 PM
4

Notice how he confuses coercion and promiscuity 🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:55 AM
73

Did she not call the police? 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 11:34 PM
4

Aw :( I'm sorry to hear that. He sounds like he was a good boy, I would've been so comforted with a dog like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:55 PM
158

I've always thought about this... Having a big dog for protection. I'm more of a cat person but ohhh, the security of a big ass dog would be lovely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:59 AM
4

Yea, I was trynna say "wow, he's only 98% ass instead of 100% /s " Probably shoulda made that more clear haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:35 AM
20

GIRL. The bare minimum is not leading somebody on until you get to use them as a human flesh light and discard them 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:34 AM
47

I really wish I did. It was back in my pick-me days ❣️ Catch me dumping a dude if he dares say something stupid like that in the future lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:02 PM
38

Men are really out here putting their relationships on the line to be "funny" on Facebook. It's good she came across it 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:00 PM
159

It's crazy how we're taught to enjoy sex without an orgasm. I remember my ex getting upset with me when I told him it didn't seem like he was putting in enough effort and he just asked me why I can't enjoy it without an orgasm 🌚 Sir. How about YOU enjoy it without an orgasm, tf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:56 PM
21

I mean... I guess he at least seems willing to be upfront with her :') Still bamboozled her into having sex with him first of course!! 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:53 PM
11

I always found these videos annoying... Like it's not that funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:51 PM
2

I still feel that that gives men too much power. You didn't "destroy" your body for his children, you had children of your own and your body changed, some bodies also develop certain issues like yourself. But that doesn't mean you're destroyed. The reality is, your body serves you in hundreds of other ways every single day. It allows you to be there as your children grow up and allows you take care of them and raise them well. I understand that it may be easy to be pessimistic in a situation lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:17 PM
10

I don't think "destroyed" is a good use of language
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:35 AM
112

If this is you, please don't respond to these types of comments! The point of these is to make you upset enough to respond, reporting and unmatching is the best course of action.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:28 AM
16

When I started getting semi-sexually active with my previous partners, I remember searching up so many articles and YouTube videos to figure out how to please them. They of course never did anything like that, and since I had no experience, I looked up how to please women so I could guide them, and lo and behold 🌚 they ignored my instructions and got mad at me for making them stop. I am 99% sure this is what happened in the woman's case, but her staying in that relationship and possibly belittli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:35 AM
0

Hm... Interesting. I'm personally not doing it for religious reasons, so I'm not necessarily expecting the same from him, because it's for my own benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:06 PM
10

Yup :') just like how dudes also all seem to "forget" to make reservations. Just clownery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:04 PM
6

I think the issue is that she's criticising it while also participating, while he doesn't criticise it... But I always found that claim stupid, cause like ? Do you want her to move out into the jungle and live in a hut? At that point, she couldn't even criticize it as she's living in a jungle without books, media, and real life experience of capitalism ??? Where's the logic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:46 AM
2

Just curious, what do you think you'd do in that situation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:28 AM
2

What if you're waiting until marriage ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 07:50 AM
5

Practicality is also something to consider. You did make a point, "walking" dates would be the safest during the pandemic, or "at home" dates... But both of those create a low beginning standard, which is why restaurant dates are important. As those are higher risk, him being willing to go to a restaurant with you may show some of his character (e.g. doesn't care about others' wellbeing, doesn't care about your wellbeing, desperate for female attention, etc.). So, essentially, either of his sugg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:58 AM
13

I was honestly baffled :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:51 AM
66

I deleted all the apps I was using a couple months ago after a guy invited me on a walking date. It was scheduled to rain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:42 AM
10

Tiktok automatically puts a beauty filter on when you film. Many opt not to take it off, also, many people film with snapchat filters and then post to tiktok! Point is, it's probably not as perfect as it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:59 AM
21

I actually tried watching porn two weeks ago for about a week. It was on a website that had female directors, ethically sourced actors, all "for women"... And I could still tell that it wasn't filmed for women ? Like why is she screaming so damn much? Why is he f--king her throat? Why is the BJ scene three times as long as him eating her out ? Why is there so much focus on the genitals instead of the more sensual aspects of sex ?? It's all nasty and the complete opposite of sensual 🤮 never watch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:49 PM
34

LMAO I've had this too 🤣 priceless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:38 PM
3

Men are literal drama queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:57 PM
6

I've used Hinge and Bumble. There seems to be more variety on Bumble (at least in my area) and it's easier to come across higher quality people–if you put in the time. I dislike Hinge because while people are generally more serious and higher quality (not in terms of looks but.. eh), it slows everything down and makes it harder to actually meet with people and start "forming connections" or whatever. I also like it though because I rarely initiate on there, and for the most part, I can be passiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 08:42 PM
31

The irony is that they'll beg insta / OnlyFans models for a crumb of attention on social media 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:19 PM
30

And I was here thinking I've heard it all 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:12 PM
4

Yea, honestly everyone was trash. Her mom/grandma for raising her with such low self esteem. Old man for raping her. Man for not being reciprocal and leading her on, knowing she could do something stupid, especially after the bridge broke. Young woman for not trusting her intuition. Everybody is at fault, they all played a role. Shit's nuts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:28 PM
30

This guy's videos are amazing 😂 always have me rolling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:24 AM
14

Schrodinger's douchebag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:21 AM
14

I am DEAD. The fact that you just sent clown emojis back 🤣 without a care in the world. Legendary behavior, keep it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:37 AM
8

Wait... Is– is he offering his services in exchange for money ? Or 🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:33 AM
16

Ah! Well that's perfect! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:20 PM
58

I used to be one of those people who just said the wage gap was fake. While it's true that the majority of it 96%+ can be explained by different factors (hours worked, vacation time, maternity leave, inclination to ask for a raise, productivity, etc.), that is the issue. Women shouldn't be punished for taking maternity leave, they learn so many new skills as a primary caregiver that translate very well in the workplace. Women not having as much confidence in regards to asking for raises or apply…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:28 PM
1

Bark at them. Make it a joke with your friends, you bark at creepy older men. Alternatively, you can act like a monkey. Anything weird like that might drive them away from harassing women for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:03 PM
30

I've always hated these dumbass displays vegan organizations set up. I've seen some places hand out free food instead and educate people, which has a better success rate and isn't as disturbing and humiliating 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 11:39 PM
2

Lol I'd be down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:25 AM
148

They are literally pests 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:20 PM
11

Omg. I didn't even realize that 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 04:11 AM
15

As soon as I read "when my husband was in high school" I knew this was going to be bad 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:17 PM
5

That's actually an amazing idea 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:25 AM
6

Girl must be extraordinarily bored out of her mind to resort to this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 11:46 PM
105

The first problem is that you're dating a man over five years older than you. I would really urge you to stay between 3-5 years of your age, for you, probably 3. It's not uncommon for older men to go for younger, as it's easier for them to manipulate us as we tend to be more vulnerable due to inexperience. Some of the issues I'm seeing besides age: - He's taking your shirt off mid convo (??) - He's ignoring you - He told you he doesn't want to be exclusive - He talks to you like a child - He doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:23 PM
7

This is why I find it so hilarious when incel-type men say they can't get women. If this stinky ape of a man can get a partner, I'm reasonably certain that literally anybody can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:45 AM
74

I just don't know how these women can still say "I don't know what to do," after he's literally abusive asf and then cheats on you. What do you mean 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:15 AM
14

Welcome, girly! Nice to see another Canadian around here :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 05:19 AM
15

It's a great vetting tool! Such a good indication when a man replans the date to make sure you have enough food options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 05:17 AM
25

Probably more considering all the downvotes that comment is also getting... Fucking nasty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 05:14 AM
103

This satisfied my soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:19 AM
164

He's right about one thing, if the sexes were swapped it would be horrible. Mainly because men are much more physically capable of hurting us and much more likely to 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 03:07 PM
32

This is vile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 06:14 PM
4

This is so stupid. Why is the child crying in his father's presence ?? Is he that absent??? I used to babysit a one year old infant and since the parents were new immigrants and didn't have friends/family nearby, she wasn't socialized and cried a lot when I came. Even then, she eventually settled in and I was able to distract her with food, toys and music. And after a couple sessions, her crying period got shorter and shorter. BUT YOUR OWN DAUGHTER. HOW??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:28 PM
4

Wait what 🤣💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:27 PM
39

Okay so... Yes. 100%. When I was still going to uni in person, this guy who was taller, bigger, excessively persistent, and did kick boxing would always come up to talk to me and approach me in the classes we had together. Since everything went online, I finally got the courage to block him on insta after he wouldn't stop replying to my stories just to talk to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:13 PM
45

I'm just glad she's calling him out. Wayyy too many women go silent or try to defend their partners
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:55 PM
96

The real question is why she married a man if she's also attracted to women 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 03:55 PM
8

Makes me sad that this is a normal occurrence for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:26 AM
3

I made one of these for my laptop home screen and it's been such a great motivator!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:06 AM
2

Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:47 PM
3

How did you get into beekeeping, if you don't mind me asking? I've been thinking about it for a while and I think I'd enjoy it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:14 PM
23

Yea, me neither. It's so obvious that they're just asking this for their own benefit 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:27 AM
115

"Women look for life partners and men look for who can best serve them."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:24 AM
9

Okay but what about the daughter dating that older woman ??? This whole post is a train wreck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 06:36 AM
53

I would never get a tattoo, but I can't lie, I'm feeling awful tempted 😂 I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:52 AM
16

I'm around your age and it took me about 9 months of FDS to fully realize my power and worth, and it was so worth it. Save posts that really resonate with you and reread them when you're feeling vulnerable. Wishing you the best of luck ❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 04:26 AM
2

Wishing I was gay right about now 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:49 PM
1

I've never had someone say this to me. What happens if you smile, lmao? Like what's the point of that comment, I don't get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:14 PM
7

This was painful to read, on both sides
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:00 PM
10

This has me dead 😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:54 PM
5

That's perfectly fair! There would be a lot of risk getting married to someone at that net worth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:18 PM
9

Lmaooo, I love this 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:15 PM
34

Yea, I'm just wondering, dating and vetting are already a disaster... And with that kinda income! I'd imagine that finding a "fit" HVM would be a million times harder lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:02 AM
42

I'm just wondering what a man can provide at this stage that a good vibrator and a good group of friends can't 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:00 AM
15

I find this very interesting! I'm sorta in limbo. Traditionally, a man's job is to protect, provide and procreate, so if you're looking at it from that perspective, having a massive income would be able to grant you that. On the other hand, there's definitely something special about the prospect of having a family with someone and growing old together. Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 05:58 AM
9

Lmaooo! I came to say this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:16 AM
8

FACTS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:09 AM
11

Wow 🤩 it never occurred to me that you could make a marriage last by never leaving the relationship. Seems like a great idea!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:09 AM
48

This is really interesting! I don't usually inquire that far but it seems pretty smart 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:05 AM
9

Ugh.. that sounds horrible. My mom has started working now too, and she's still taking on a lot of the home burdens. It hurts to see women close to you suffering from these pathetic men. And the fact that your father is "befriending" women younger than you... Putrid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:26 PM
55

My limited relationship with my father shattered. I have zero respect for him, we get into arguments a lot. He hasn't been working for the last five years (he was the breadwinner, mom was SAHM) and quit looking for a job after the first year. He spends most of his day watching YouTube videos and praying. He refuses to do housework and learn to cook. He often makes sexist remarks saying that back when he was working, my mom wasn't doing "anything." Ergo, he owes her nothing now because the house …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:43 PM
276

Men suck all over the world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:44 PM
44

I don't know what to say. I just don't understand how someone could be so inconsiderate. Men baffle me everyday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:03 PM
82

Damn, the rest of us are really settling for fake video games 🤬🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:57 PM
35

It breaks my heart that she feels she doesn't deserve this :( especially because of things outside her control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:08 PM
9

Yup!! Dated a guy and he told me he loved me on date three. When I asked, he told me that love is defined differently in his culture "bla bla," and of course my pick-me self went along with it. Turned out to be insecure, unhinged and extremely possessive, glad I got out while I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:31 PM
3

Damn, get is sis !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:15 PM
23

Enjoy it! That must've been so refreshing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:24 PM
26

Something that I would recommend: saying you're available only in the evenings. That eliminates coffee dates, and since it starts getting dark pretty early now (at least where I am), you can day that you wouldn't feel safe walking in the dark. I would avoid explicitly stating what you like, because they will interpret it as you trying to get a free meal. There are some subtle ways to say that his suggestion was inadequate in the handbook. If they still don't get it, just unmatch. If they try to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:22 PM
40

I'm going to pretend this is satire for some peace of mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:31 PM
178

I become less and less attracted to men everyday ❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:28 PM
8

Lmao me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:06 PM
74

Damn. That's actually wild to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:30 PM
24

I don't think they're capable of thinking that far
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:29 PM
10

The fact that someone actually had this thought pop up in their brain, and then came to the conclusion that it's rational and worth posting on the internet permanently... Wow... Men are very special creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:28 PM
41

Will end up being a lot cheaper than paying half each time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:25 PM
46

I find this so interesting. I keep seeing screenshots of men on here "revealing" themselves and their pathetic strategies. Do you think the majority of men use these "tactics" consciously? Or do you think many are in denial and actually think they're good people seeking "good" (beneficial) relationships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:23 PM
13

Oh my goodness 😹 sometimes I wish that all these scrotes could've seen all the women who accidentally revealed themselves to see that we are in fact not ugly at all, it's too bad they'd use it to harass us. I swear, I have never seen an "ugly" woman on here. And saying that "pretty" women don't need strategies ?? That's a very poor assumption that the majority of women grew up in perfect homes/environments, which would allow them to be more assertive and know what a healthy relationship is. The …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:20 PM
6

Huh, that's actually really interesting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:12 PM
30

Okay but... He literally recognizes he has problems, and these are most certainly issues that can be resolved/minimized with the help of a professional. Why are men so opposed to fixing themselves 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:30 AM
7

I'm so tired of men invalidating women, especially when they can't look outside of themselves. They think everything is for them. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:21 AM
23

That's also a good point! Sometimes the ugly cookies have too many chocolate chips or something too 😋😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:21 AM
20

It's so weird to think about all these little things we've been "trained" to do. I still see my mom making little sacrifices, even when it's completely unnecessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:18 AM
3

This killed me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:18 PM
102

Yea... I have a bad habit of this. I always eat the ugly cookies in the batch so others don't have to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:34 PM
36

This is actually really smart...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:18 PM
9

It's all the toxic kids on there. The boys under 18 have no idea what it means to be a woman or a decent human being and have probably consumed toxic content on YouTube or Instragram which led them to becoming the clowns they are. Occassionally I'll see men in their twenties AND thirties doing the same thing 🙄 I'm really hoping they grow out of it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:01 AM
40

This happened to me. I'm waiting until marriage and my ex told me he would never marry me because of his stupid ass beliefs. He hated that I wanted to wait and always pressured me into doing things. I'm glad I didn't realize too late that he just wanted to make me confused about when I would choose to lose my virginity to him if we never got married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:40 PM
81

Sis needs FDS more than anyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:19 AM
16

The first problem was "men are the consumers." Women 👏 are 👏 not 👏 objects 👏 for 👏 your 👏 consumption 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:10 AM
16

I think the whole women "hitting the wall" thing is hilarious. I'm tempted to start a collection of screenshots of a bunch of OLD profiles of men aged 21-24 who look like they're in their 30s from the excessive drinking, excessive consumption of garbage food, and lack of skincare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:56 PM
21

Lurked on his acc out of curiosity. Found two lovely highlights: he is a fan of Jordan Peterson, he lurks on the "big boob problems" subreddit and made inappropriate comments under a 13 year old girl's post. Sounds like a catch 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:26 PM
38

Sis, I mean this in the most well-meaning way, it sounds like you need some external help such as therapy. It's completely normal to have all these feelings after having dealt with someone manipulative, unkind, and who didn't treat you like a priority, however, it's not healthy. If making these posts are therapeutic for you, keep doing them, but I'd really recommend you either seek out professional help or some books to help you along the journey. Some men are trash and that's all there is to it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 10:01 PM
2

Wow, I can't imagine doing something like that! It's good that you got a break from it. I'm sure it would've been much worse with the pandemic, you definitely made a good call!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:23 PM
5

Oh goodness... That must've been so scary and weird to witness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:55 PM
38

To be fair, I'd be disturbed if I saw anybody hitting anyone in public, although if a smaller woman is hitting a bigger man, like you said, there would be absolutely no reason to hit her. I guess the issue is that people who are physically abused are also verbally abused, so telling the man to just "restrain her" isn't likely something he'd feel confident to do. If a stranger stepped in to restrain her, I'd feel that would be appropriate. But this is also such a horribly unrealistic situation. P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:42 PM
18

To be fair, this isn't exclusive to men. It's such a shame that people can't come up with anything better, adds to the already deteriorated experience 💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:16 AM
11

Poor Angie :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:14 AM
119

So lemme get this straight.. he is graciously allowed to live in her space, and then he has a tantrum when he sees blood from a natural process that his girlfriend is going through... In her own place. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:10 AM
28

He's talking about a grown man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:03 AM
269

I've asked this so many times already, but how is this real???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:53 PM
28

The only thing men indulge in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:14 PM
1

Well, I never said that you can't think about it, but if you're getting hung up over a stranger, that's a problem. It's not healthy to stress about someone you've only met one or two times, that's ridiculous. You should have the emotional stability and social circle to help you feel secure with whatever the situation is with a man you've only met once. Why would you want to be vulnerable with someone you've only met once? When they couldn't give a lesser crap about you? I don't think they've ear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:37 PM
28

What scares me most is the "I think I will begin to embrace it." This guy needs therapy... Not to get further indulged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:57 PM
24

He is the king of all men, can't you see ? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:16 AM
5

Similar thing happened to me. For some reason, all but one of my exes loved PDA, while I'm the complete opposite. Anything more than hand-holding and a hug make me uncomfortable, and they also have to be "properly" timed in social settings, if you know what I mean. I used to put up with full on making out and essentially being groped in public, even after expressing my discomfort. Wish I put an end to it sooner 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:26 AM
56

Wtf ? How is she not disgusted and kicking him out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:16 AM
6

Ahh, I've heard of Paris kinda being a shit show lol. Somewhere slightly less populated maybe? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:53 AM
11

Right, I totally agree! The one issue is that strong women with high self respect are still labeled as bitches when they reject losers, enforce boundaries, and don't give respect without it being earned. We really gotta fix that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:52 AM
9

Yup! Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:50 AM
44

Stop keeping tabs on your ex. Delete all pictures if you haven't yet, messages, screenshots, and block all his social media. Don't even give yourself the opportunity to seek him out, you deserve better and you owe that to yourself. It's possible that she gives off a different energy. Many men will "step up" for the "right" woman. Recently in my family friend circle, an older gentleman divorced his wife that he not only verbally abused, but she did everything for him (cooked, cleaned, childcare, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:48 AM
78

He "apologized" and expected her to just forgive him ?? Lol I bet his apology went something like "sorry you feel offended by what I do in my free time 🤪", with no resolution. On top of that, he lied to her, minimized her feelings, yelled at her, told her to shut up when she called out his hypocrisy... Major yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:31 AM
101

I kinda disagree with this. Self-love in this situation would be to not be stressing about some random ass man you've only met once. You know your value and whether or not he wants to keep pursuing you is irrelevant; you know that he's replaceable and you're not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:25 AM
26

One sec, heading to France real quick. Feeling hella grateful for having learned french in grade school now 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:36 AM
80

Not the field 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:53 PM
9

Ah.. well I hope she's not 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:26 AM
38

I commented under one of her other videos. I'm pretty sure it's clickbait. Cause apparently she also cleaned one of her Tinder date's bathrooms 🙄 that's just too unrealistic lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:23 AM
2

Sis, there are wealthy men your age, I promise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:45 PM
8

This is really interesting, because I've met up with a couple guys during the pandemic, and I've called them beforehand like you did. I'm not super strict about the pandemic for myself, I'm generally pretty relaxed. But now I'm starting to think that it might be strategic to pretend that I'm more strict about it and want to social distance and wear masks outdoors. It would be a good test to see if they try to push your boundaries or not. That's definitely a red flag though, don't let them pressu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:37 PM
10

Oh, I know exactly what post you're talking about 😭 she looked like she was ready to kill. Many men don't know how to offer actual support so they just make jokes like the clowns they are. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:32 PM
31

Excuse me- what? Men are saying this about your dog ????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:26 PM
11

Sis, why are you talking to men like 25 years older than you 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:22 PM
27

How is this real. Why are women actually like this. This pains me so much 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:08 PM
60

I like how there's no mention of men "knowing their roles" 🙄🙄 Remembering that meme that said that men should be financing their wives lives and then going off to die in war and leaving their assets behind, that's something I'd be okay with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:05 PM
11

The majority of them are telling her to not go through with the arrangement and the occassional ones are essentially telling her that he's a clown! Thank goodness!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:02 PM
19

Yea, she's literally paying him so that he could have more access to her. Without legal commitment... This is nauseating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:52 PM
1

That's such a great story! We really should be raising our standards for all men, HV or not, cause they're honestly all capable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:01 PM
6

I think it's a mixture of not having enough respect for women, not having enough interest, and just being socialized as a typical male. Many men tend to be pretty stingy, hence all the jokes about dads and thermostats, and all the cases where men think they're being asked of too much when asked to do things for their partner. For some reason, men have internalized women becoming more independent as a reason for them to let themselves go and shift their responsibilities to women. That's my take, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:00 PM
2

Thank you! I'll take a look :)
/r/askFDS30/09/20 05:54 PM
3

We've all been there, sis! All that's important it's that you've learned from your mistakes :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:10 AM
27

The funny thing is that she'd probably pass him in subs in only a couple months 🤭 Edit: grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:56 PM
25

Omg 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:54 PM
5

Lol @ the mad, insecure, cheap scrotes who keep showing up in my notifications 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:40 PM
3

I love this energy!! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:20 PM
5

Oh really?? Huh... I wonder who coined the phrase and why 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:19 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:17 PM
9

Wow! That's honestly so interesting, especially since you guys are in North Western Europe. It's nice to hear of a guy who thinks casual dating isn't an excuse to be cheap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:11 PM
14

Sis 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 11:09 PM
48

Noo 😭 on the other hand, I was busy being the cool girl who liked to go Dutch with a guy who was willing to pay for everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:58 PM
34

Yup! It's such a key indication of attraction and interest. Really something to pay attention to, even if you like to pay from time to time once in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:08 PM
48

This!! I have a couple male friends who always pay for me and others. The few that I had that didn't pay were insecure and didn't really care for the relationship much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:07 PM
11

Practice in public! Practice saying "excuse me" loudly if in a crowded area, practice standing up for mistakes in a drink or food order, find content online that empowers you, allow yourself to be angry if you need, not at yourself, but others. These are some things that have helped me improve :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:34 PM
16

That's so funny 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:22 PM
7

I wonder what it's like to be a hate-filled man stalking this subreddit, messaging women because you think someone cares about your opinion, and later realizing that they're just going to clown on you for even trying. Sir, you sound broke and close-minded asf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:25 PM
6

I wanted to downvote this so bad 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:55 AM
19

How could you pass up Quasimodo with that kinda offer?? 😍 You actually killed me with that Quasimodo comment 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:48 PM
4

Thank you. I definitely need to be practicing self compassion more, I just hate the feeling of unproductivity. There are so many things I want to accomplish but I end up feeling guilty doing them because it's just procrastination... So then I instead end up wasting time doing even more useless activities that are unfulfilling. I will keep your tips in mind, thanks again!
/r/askFDS22/09/20 02:23 PM
117

If I ever become a crackhead on the streets, I want a relationship like that ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:51 AM
7

I'm dealing with this too. I only did it a handful of times, and my partner pressured me into doing it before I was ready. He didn't listen to my feedback and insisted on being a whiney baby about not being able to get me off. Now I have no desire to have it happen again and feel anxious about never receiving pleasure someday from a partner without it. But we'll have to see what happens 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:44 AM
13

Yea, of course, haha. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:16 PM
2

I believe she fakes/exaggerates her accent and exaggerates some of her jokes, but I think the message is genuine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:57 PM
45

Hm, I suppose I don't necessarily disagree, but moreso that FDS isn't perfectly compatible with my future plans. I'm not super career minded and I'd like to be a SAHM some day. FDS has taught me that this can be risky so I'm definitely making sure that if/when I find someone, his expectations are reasonable and he has a high respect for my work. I also plan on getting into real estate after university to secure my financial status early on. I don't have premade sentences, I usually just try to s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:12 PM
109

I play the long game. If I see someone who desperately needs FDS, I check in with them first, sometimes I'll use an alternate account not associated with it. I like to ask them how they're doing, get more info on their situations, and make light comments in line with FDS. After a couple messages back and forth, I then like to introduce FDS and tell them that I thought it was extreme at first and that to this day I still don't agree with everything (which is true). Many of them seemed much more r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:40 PM
3

I suggest you look at the handbook! Basically anything that would make him feel like he's actually investing in something. I'd say that unless it's super thoughtful and curated for you, it should cost at least $25 for him. Brunch and dinner dates are usually what's recommended, but something related to an activity (bowling, mini golf, going to a zoo, etc.) should also be acceptable. The big no-no's are cheap dates (coffee, tea, "walking" dates), and anything related to alcohol. It's also a bad i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:33 PM
2

Why do literally no men know how to dress 😭 even the "better" ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:27 PM
1

Do it!! That sounds lovely 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:26 PM
6

Maybe the younger generation... My mom is a lot better than many other women, but she still works, cooks, and cleans for my dad (they're divorced and live together 🙄) who's been unemployed for five years. Women will straight up put up with physical and verbal abuse and do everything for their husbands. It's still a train wreck with Eastern European women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:26 PM
68

This is actually such a great insight. For some reason, it never occurred to me that setting boundaries or communicating for other reasons could make them feel emasculated. But that makes a ton of sense, especially in regards to how they view coercion. It's sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:37 PM
3

Hoping to channel that kinda Eastern European energy in the future 😭❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:18 AM
70

Right?? If they take me to a fancy a-s teahouse, then I'd totally be down 😂 unfortunately, their drink date suggestions are basically always the cheapest places in the city
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:03 PM
8

Ooh! I have to take a look
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:43 PM
17

I love them so much 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:52 PM
21

This is why FDS is so important. It gives me serene joy to imagine rejecting these f--kers the second they try something like this on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:31 AM
33

Honestly my brain would rot from the inside out if I did that all day for six months. He should be smart enough to know that all it takes is a little momentum to get back up to par, although apparently that is too great of an expectation 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:16 AM
29

I was about to comment this 💀 wtf is he doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:14 AM
6

That's the thing... I figured that her asking him about his masturbation habits all the time was because of her insecurities/trust issues, but now that I'm thinking about it, perhaps it was her intuition that suggested she ask? Maybe a mix of both. Either way, there was trust lacking in the relationship, which was for good reason apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:07 PM
42

I had to exit out of that, it's bothering me to no end... So, yes, she has her own issues to sort out, but if your partner tells you their triggers, and you cannot accommodate, then why are you getting into a relationship with them??? Then, why are you lying to your partner? Why are you masturbating in front of a minor (a criminal offense)?? Why did you keep doing it even after you got caught? Why are you unable to connect the dots on why what you did was wrong? SO many issues here. This man is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:23 AM
12

Someone literally asked me this once 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:20 AM
12

This is why it's so important to make a man wait for sex early on. If he is so sex obsessed that he can't function like a normal adult, then it'll become extremely clear in the early stages of dating. He needs to show you he'll care about you and support you during 'dry spells'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:34 PM
26

I love this sub so much and it's all thanks to your guys' comments 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:31 PM
8

If that isn't perseverance, I don't know what is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:05 AM
18

💀💀💀 girl noooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:01 AM
21

Oh god... That's horrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:40 AM
35

... what ? Snake porn? 😭 How is this real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:21 AM
269

I don't know what other two books you saw, but the book "How to Lie with Statistics" is meant to show the reader how not to use statistics. College students often have to read it for their classes! Although, it definitely could be used in the wrong way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:53 PM
59

Man's paying the bare minimum 💀 having a live-in maid costs living expenses + a salary. What is this clown doing?? Why does he think any woman would want to live with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:50 PM
14

Yup! Basically making women start to tolerate some of the ways society/men have digressed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:01 PM
24

Pretty much, yea, or even longer if possible. Some have suggested 8 months haha. Even if you've known each other for years as friends/acquaintances, having sex with him too early will give him the upper hand. I suggest reading over this section in the handbook if you need to refresh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:57 PM
71

I don't think there's a long list, but what mainly comes to mind is: Exclusivity, aka she stops talking to other guys Companionship Semi-obligation: when not exclusive, you don't owe him shit. When in a relationship, basic things like responding in a timely manner and making time for each other is expected The opportunity to build physical/sexual intimacy, but remember the 3 months rule!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:53 PM
21

This is why I don't identify with feminism anymore. I agree with many principles, but it's very dogmatic in nature and doesn't allow much room for discussion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:36 PM
29

I followed this post's advice to a tee and I received this message. Don't settle for anything less, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:05 AM
16

He needs to pick a struggle...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:01 AM
9

Ugh, the comments 🙄 all the incels have resurfaced
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:09 PM
31

You don't owe him anything. In this case, the most high value thing you can do is take care of yourself first. Block him and don't give him a chance to explain or chat or argue. You owe that to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:57 AM
6

YOO THIS HAPPENED TO ME TOO. Why do guys think we wanna see this 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:53 PM
44

A THIRTY ONE year old man ???? What.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:09 AM
74

She's so close the understanding 😭 it's within her grasp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:12 PM
33

That's a valid concern. This guy is trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:00 PM
60

You should've left, although I probably would've done the same tbh. An alternative would've been speaking up when he said that to the waiter, something like "actually, I'm hungry... It'll just be a few minutes." If he's gonna be a scrote, make his pockets hurt 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:42 PM
5

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:30 PM
55

I agree with this! Whoever asks should pay, it's just decency imo. I just never ask 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:42 PM
304

Actually that is... Literally true. They straight up want a woman to have sex with them with zero effort on their part. They think they're special enough for that. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:04 PM
18

They need a whole lifestyle change, I don't think exfoliation will save them 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:21 PM
100

Omg, right?? Sometimes when I'm looking through Hinge I'm absolutely baffled by the men that pop up. There's no way they aren't lying about their age 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:13 PM
10

This makes me sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:28 AM
1

I got my license in high school... You cannot tell me he was too busy during high school 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:28 PM
39

$10 ??? How broke is this guy 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:27 PM
21

Ikr 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:01 PM
6

That sounds like a good course of action!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:35 AM
29

That would creep me out. The first part would've been enough. I would wait to see if he keeps doing it and then maybe bringing it up? Or just dumping him if there are other things. My guess is that this isn't the only problem...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:13 AM
2

Oh definitely! These are some great tips, thanks for commenting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:38 PM
6

Her videos give me life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:54 AM
9

Does he not have a job ?? How does he have time to do this all day? How are they surviving?? Girl needs to get out asap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:38 AM
30

It takes a couple months to get up to 100 hours if you don't play everyday but do a couple hours each session.. tf 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:34 AM
50

Back when I was a pick-me I used to think men had it so rough ❤️ but no, the majority are just dumb and over-exaggerate everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:27 AM
21

Here is what I have written down in my notes. I would highly suggest a Pre-Screening call if you haven't done that already :) Pre-Screening Call Questions: What area do you live in? Where did/do you go to school? Where do you work? Are you religious? Do you go to church anywhere? Do you want kids? What are you looking for on the app/site? (They should not be vague with their answer, but you should be) First/Second Date Questions: Anything you missed from the pre-screen section Where do you work?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:22 AM
9

I like the way that you're looking at the situation. Honestly, your awareness is much greater than mine would be, and the fact that you're actually considering ending the relationship over this really shows how strong your character is. Without a doubt, these attributes will be very helpful for you down the line, even if you end up with a different person. Let's hope things work out though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:38 PM
4

Most of us don't get hit on by men often. There was a thread posted a week or two ago asking how often men randomly come up to us and most people said 3 or less each year. That's not an indication of how attractive you are or how good of a person you are, but rather an indication that you are likely in a heavily populated area with men who don't like to respect women's space. I highly suggest forming relationships where you get more validation from women. So much more genuine and you know that t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:36 PM
11

I don't have any advice but I'm really sorry you have to go through this. I can't imagine what it would be like to put so much time into someone for it to start crumbling at the most important point, especially when it's in reach. If things don't work out, take the time you need to grieve for the relationship, I'm sure this is all so disheartening ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:50 PM
6

So you intend on using Tinder for validation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:43 PM
16

I think investing your time into therapy or reading done books relevant to the topic would be better than using Tinder. Learning how to overcome these obstacles on your own without distractions from the opposite sex is an invaluable skill. Try developing relationships with the women in your life, try a new hobby, learn some new recipes, find a new way to get active, but avoid Tinder at all costs, especially Tinder. You'll be more at risk of engaging in sexual conversations or sharing explicit pi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:00 PM
10

Eww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:49 PM
57

If only men put this much energy into actually pursuing and developing a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:17 AM
7

That's honestly goals, good for you for keeping up with it! I look forward to doing the same :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:49 AM
13

That honestly pains me so much. There are so many little things you can do everyday to take care of yourself and it really pays off in the long term. People's apathy and ignorance is rampant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:30 AM
20

Right?? I can't imagine how someone could look like this at 22 and be okay with themselves. And I wish I knew.. actually I probably don't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:22 AM
12

Definitely, I'm just a lot more aware of how disfunctional my parents actually are. My father is one the biggest LV I know and more than anything I hope that my future partner/s will be the complete opposite of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:11 AM
45

The men who say that never had quality sperm in the first place 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:08 AM
14

You just will not catch me getting attached to any of these scrotes 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:07 AM
103

Okay, but can we please talk about how on dating apps, it's always the lowest quality men who indicate that they want kids? The ones who have forehead wrinkles the size of the grand canyon, take selfies like boomers, look 10-20 years older than they actually are, appear to have the intelligence of a peanut, and don't know how to spell for shit? Can y'all not... Edit: wanted to add one more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:01 AM
36

Lmao, I found a guy that reminded me of this thread... http://imgur.com/a/0P8Ki3a "Dad bod" 😭 This guy claims to be 22.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:34 AM
4

Aw, I love this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:58 PM
2

Happening to me too! Also an android user
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:13 PM
7

Lumpy husks 💀💀💀 girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:31 AM
3

You need to get yourself some girlfriends! Or deepen the friendships you have already. Also, take some time to work on your validation seeking behaviors. Therapy and books are good options, also a dating app detox!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:14 AM
8

Can you imagine being so mentally damaged that you have to make a comment to your ex about their breasts... Like I can't even fathom this. This dude needs something to do with his time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:30 AM
3

Like the other person said, block him! Also, try your best to keep yourself busy. Keep your calendar full and don't give yourself room to think about him. He took advantage of your time even after you told him you don't want something casual. Don't let him steal more of your time through you thinking about him. You got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:28 AM
13

I just don't get how these men lack so much self-awareness... Everyone has insecurities, but the best thing to do about them is not draw attention to them 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:35 AM
2

Mm.. I would not believe it. I knew guys who claimed they didn't masturbate to porn and said they don't watch it (tbh who knows), but even they've seen a couple clips and know what it's about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:22 PM
43

They shouldn't complain anyways because this is literally the bare minimum. There is so much more nuance to a relationship. If the only things they bring to the table is basic hygiene, they need a reality check.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:20 PM
110

Nah, showering too much can be bad. Unless you're super physically active and sweat a lot, once a day is fine. Too much showering strips the oils on your skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:19 PM
16

Okay, who gave the award 💀💀 y'all have me rolling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:52 PM
15

I had this happen with a guy who was only three years older than me. He took minimum three hours to respond, even when he had nothing else going on. I asked for phone calls as an alternative and he never delivered. This guy is showing you his best right now. It's only going to get worse. It sounds like you two aren't compatible and you should find someone who can deliver. Having a relationship with someone that much older can be pretty difficult due to different expectations and needs. Most guys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 12:31 AM
17

The fact that she kept commenting on how cheap he was and how incompatible they were and then she still wants to go on another date with him... Girl 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:01 PM
3

I'll check those out, thanks again :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 12:50 AM
4

Thank you so much! I honestly would be taken so aback if a man dared to raise his voice at me, especially on earlier dates. I would like to hope that if that ever happens I'd handle it the way you described. You're so right about people-pleasing and codependency being prisons for women, I'm still in the process of overcoming them. Did you ever do therapy or was it more of a personal journey? And do you have any book recommendations by chance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 12:28 AM
4

I love this, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 12:12 AM
7

You make a great point. I think valuing the man's wellbeing over mine is still too deeply ingrained. Do you mind me asking what you did after the guy raised his voice at you? Did you say anything to him or just get up and leave? It's so hard for me to imagine something like this taking place, and I feel so sad that that's the case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:39 PM
10

Hm.. I haven't experienced anything like that yet. Usually it's just some crusty guy that shows up and starts getting pushy. Which are dealbreakers, mind you, just definitely not as jarring as racism or sexism or something like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:17 PM
19

You went there 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:49 PM
2

What platforms did you use, if you don't mind me asking? I've met a few women a couple months ago on discord in a group for a college class back when that was still going on, but they were all at the same stage as me (even despite many of them being several years older) and weren't able to give me much advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:49 AM
-1

OLD is a lot easier to use than ... Whatever else you have in mind? "Friend" sites/apps are filled with men. Meeting people in person has always been difficult for me because of social anxiety, but it's even worse now because of all the restrictions my city still has. I'm not sure what you're suggesting, if I have found good alternatives, I promise you I would be using them. And I'm not shooting everything down, or that's not my intention at least. Many comments, while helpful, do not apply to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:27 AM
-2

I've been trying haha. Unfortunately my college is very "commuter" style so most people don't seem to be into making friendships. It's been roughh And as for networking, networking events sponsored by the college have all been cancelled, so I'm still in the process of finding alternatives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:53 PM
2

I totally agree with you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:49 PM
2

I'll have to try that! It's been really hard with profs since so many of them take days to respond to emails if they respond at all, but hopefully I'll have a better "set" this fall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:46 PM
4

I'll definitely have to check out the mentorship opportunities at my college, but I believe most of them are career-related, so I'm not sure if they'll be very helpful for me right now. Most of the advice I need is "practical" like you say, and my circle isn't able to help since none of them have cars or places of their own. So that's my main issue...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:44 PM
2

I actually haven't been giving men sex in return, which I suppose is one of the good things I'm doing. They'll sometimes get to the point where they take me on dates and pay, so I definitely feel like I still have at least some leverage. The shadowing thing is a great idea, the one issue is that Covid would be a big deterrent, in addition to me not having a set career path for myself yet. I'm still figuring out my major and if college is the right choice for me. It's also really hard for me netw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:41 PM
1

They're not things only men can answer, but they're things my current circle is unable to help me with. It's been hard finding resources that answer all my specific questions but it seems like I just need to suck it up and try my best to find them haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:36 PM
4

This is actually really good advice, I'll try this out instead :) thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:34 PM
4

That's true. I actually do read books by women and most of the podcasts I listen to are by women as well. The issue is that they're usually very general and as someone who's very anxious, I come up with very specific questions to help ease that anxiety. The internet isn't always reliable unless my question is on a forum of some sort, in which case it can still be somewhat unreliable because there's no relevant context. It's a bit tricky :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:26 PM
29

I was reading through the comments and they have me dead 💀 "I would rather paint a house with a single bristle" 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:38 PM
65

So because he's paying for everything 'like an adult', he wants to be treated like an infant ? Is this some weird fetish??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:08 PM
20

What ??? If you find it weird to care for your child of the opposite sex then you've already sexualized them. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:23 AM
9

I wish I knew this two years ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:18 AM
21

I hope so... This was so hard to read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:27 PM
42

Why would you be happy about this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:17 PM
45

Lol attraction goes away in these cases. The issue is, women are conditioned to make relationships work no matter what and hope that it'll get better. Eventually it falls apart of course, but there are so many better ways to handle it early on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:56 PM
15

Yea, right?? 😭 I wouldn't have stayed there swatting his hand away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:58 PM
33

Girl unmatch or block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:53 PM
5

I agree, this is very sketchy. I know that the red pill talks a lot about "hitting the wall" and who's in their prime, but this is just unnatural. If OP wants a man more 'experienced' than her, there really is no reason to go above and age gap of 5 and find someone mature. Older men can be very manipulative towards younger women, so vetting needs to be extra harsh.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 02:35 PM
1

It's one thing to have standards, and it's another thing to try and mold people to your standards. It just doesn't work and people's words are unreliable. Many men will say almost anything to stay in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 02:31 PM
2

Don't get into a relationship anticipating things will change. It's extremely unlikely, no matter what they tell you. The way someone is in the beginning of the relationship is usually the best they'll be the entire relationship. Trying to convince someone to adopt your way of life is selfish and unreasonable. You are completely entitled to feeling as attracted to him as he likely is to you. It shouldn't be one sided. There are lots of men out there who will meet your standards, you are young an…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 02:29 PM
6

Learn to trust your intuition! If it feels wrong, trust yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 02:10 PM
2

I'm sorry but that is horrifying, although it sounds like he deserves the dental problems he's setting himself up for...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:47 PM
25

You said he was messaging her and confiding in her when he was "heartbroken" by you. Assuming this is about an argument you guys had during the relationship, this is emotional cheating. It essentially means he's checked out of the relationship and you aren't his priority anymore, hence him not listening to your needs. This in addition to all the other red flags... Him talking to someone a lot younger, him not telling you about that friendship, potential love bombing early on... Girl, dump him! P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:12 PM
17

Someone really said "When they take care of their appearance, show emotions or do what they please not minding people calling them "femenine". " Ma'am... That's the minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:32 PM
18

Lol I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:45 AM
27

The fact that he starts blaming a random commenter for triggering his suddenly recurring depression/anxiety after getting called out...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:44 AM
29

This is vile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:32 AM
53

This is why online dating is so annoying... Online dating allows you to be "lazy", and the people you're describing want just that. People who appear more high value aren't on dating apps as much as they don't need to be. They likely don't have as much trouble approaching women in real life. Although that's not to say that there aren't high value people on dating apps. I'm sure many of them are on there because they just don't have as much time to meet and vet people in really life and OLD makes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:31 AM
1

Honestly, this would be a huge green flag for me. I also love to take things slow and don't usually kiss a guy until 4-5 dates in. It gives me time to vet him without any distractions. This would especially be a green flag if you plan on withholding sex for the 3-8 months suggested on here, as he's indicating that he's a more 'serious' candidate. In the end, it's up to you and your needs. If you like kissing and want it sooner, then find someone who's up for that. Although, it does seem like he'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:26 AM
47

I cackled How do these people actually exist? 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:18 AM
1

I don't want to tell you what to do, but it sounds like you have your own personal stuff you're still dealing with. Please sort this out before getting into another relationship. Make sure you have healthy relationship standards, because it's really easy to get taken advantage of at this age when you don't know what you deserve but feel "rushed". It's okay to want to settle down early, but you'll end up prolonging it so much more if you don't take care of yourself first and get yourself into a g…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 10:10 PM
12

This was very well written, thank you for sharing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:59 PM
6

I felt my brain cells dying while watching that... Man really thought he did something 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 02:07 AM
37

This has annoyed me for the longest time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:08 PM
196

So many men just wouldn't survive without women in their lives and nobody can change my mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:40 AM
12

Not even a sample? 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:48 PM
10

I'm not into party culture and I still find it odd that he said that. Why is he drawing a comparison? There's no need to draw attention to something like that, it looks like he's trying to project some of his insecurities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:54 PM
43

Right?? Love when they make it this clear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:22 AM
57

I've never understood those tests... I once met a guy who begged me to do that Myers Briggs test thing. Showed him the results and said he was coming to my house. He got blocked so fast 😭 any guys invested in that probably have some loose screws
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:51 AM
337

Who gave this man this much confidence 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:35 AM
76

Oh wow.. she actually covered them all lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:37 AM
3

Yea, we have something similar in Canada. Age of consent is 16 here too :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:43 PM
7

I loved singing this in the car after dates lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:36 PM
8

That's so true though 😂 thanks for the laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:23 PM
78

That honestly depresses me so much. Hundreds of strangers telling her not to continue the relationship and her replies still make her sound hesitant. This poor girl, he really f*cked her up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:21 PM
22

I hate this app sometimes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:19 PM
28

This had me on the floor dying 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 03:07 PM
14

I try to wear it most days, makes me feel a lot more put together during these times indoors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 04:26 PM
52

It just makes me so sad that women are conditioned to second guess themselves. It's clear that she feels something is wrong, but she hasn't been given/taught the confidence to share and enforce her thoughts. We deserve better tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:03 AM
279

Not sure if it's a lesson, but having been on fds for a couple months now, I notice men's disdain for women so much more easily. Especially on Reddit, men are legitimately out to get women. They don't see women as equals and treat men so much more respectfully. If you call them out, they make some lame argument and all the men around them agree with them lmao. I've also noticed this in person as well. Men will happily make fun of you and try to counter every point you make, but as soon as his bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:40 PM
16

I am deceased 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:40 PM
37

I love this 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:39 PM
3

Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry you had to experience those. There are so many trashy people out there, I'm glad you're safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:43 PM
3

That's so unpleasant to think about...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:42 PM
12

That is true for many of them, but the nursing home my mother works at has two floors. The top floor is for exceptionally difficult cases where the people need more extensive care due to neurodegeneration, and my mother works on the bottom floor. It's very possible he's experiencing a large amount of mental decline, but it's worth noting that men still seem much more likely to make these types of sexual remarks. You just don't see women saying these types of things as often, even with major ment…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:41 PM
9

That's so messed up :( I'm glad they enacted that policy though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:54 AM
3

I'm sorry you have to put up with this :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:02 AM
15

That's a good point you bring up, it most definitely could play a role. It's still very jarring and inappropriate, hopefully some things will be done to deal with these types of occurrences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:00 AM
44

That's horrible! I don't understand how someone could shamelessly sacrifice their image in front of their family just because they're feeling horny. So gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:09 PM
28

That would be the ideal... It's such a shame that it gets sweeped under the rug, considering its prominence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:03 PM
8

Well said 👏👏 and I appreciate the edit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:19 AM
117

As someone who really enjoys gardening/tending plants, this absolutely breaks my heart. I can't imagine all the work she put in for him to suddenly become a pathetic excuse for a human being and ruin one of the brightest lights in her life. I really hope she realizes her worth and dumps him. From how he describes her, she deserves so much better :( hope she's holding up okay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:12 AM
86

He cheated on her, has no respect for his partner, let alone women in general... Some men are truly disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 03:26 PM
27

This poor girl :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 03:23 PM
24

I wouldn't find it unrealistic if the boyfriend told her to put on something nice before meeting him. Also, it's not that uncommon for men to hire photographers for proposals. Photographers can be very discrete with their work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:29 PM
7

Yup! It's a shame so many men go down the wrong path, they have so much potential!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:15 PM
8

Right?? So romantic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:10 PM
31

That's the plan! I'm always on the lookout haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:39 PM
53

If he doesn't go all the way like this, I don't want him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:00 PM
22

Dating is supposed to be on your terms. He should understand and be willing to accommodate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:52 PM
11

I wish I could unsee that. The only good thing I can say is that at least some of them are cognizant of their issues... Yet they still justify it by saying they haven't acted upon it. That was very disturbing. I sincerely hope they seek therapy and quit porn or something. Shit is getting out of hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 03:31 PM
3

Oh no haha, that's probably what's next for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:49 PM
6

Honestly, I'm not sure. He's contacted me so many times at this point, and I've ignored him and blocked him continuously, yet he kept finding ways to reach out to me every couple of months. I just got to the point where I find his desperation exceptionally pathetic. The fact that he thinks he's worthy of my time and energy after what he's done is hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:30 AM
10

That's actually a really good point, I hadn't noticed that before. It is even more self-centered than I originally thought.. I love your comment haha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:16 PM
4

Love this comment lol! It's good to hear (but also not) that someone has experienced the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:13 PM
12

Yea.. I was laughing while reading it because it just shows how pathetic this whole situation is. And I think you might be right, I definitely won't be replying anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 06:51 PM
29

This sounds exactly right. Early on he told me he had trouble finding someone and I was his first "serious" relationship. He probably couldn't replace me and is now desperate to fill the void you were talking about. I was really debating on whether or not I should reply, because I'm genuinely worried he might show up at my house or something at this point. It really sucks that we have to go through this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 06:49 PM
50

All his content is completely appalling... Unbelievable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 05:21 AM
9

From what I see, this whole relationship is very dangerous. He used to abuse you?? Of course he can't be a leader if he traumatized you! He can't lead if you don't have full faith and trust in him, and in your position it might not be feasible. And even if it were, I'm not sure it's a great idea. I suspect that it's always in the back of your mind..? When he'll snap next? You simply cannot follow someone if you believe they're that unstable. If you don't already, I highly suggest you start going…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 02:42 PM
8

Same! He clearly really wanted to make it special :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 03:42 PM
9

Right?? Bless this man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 03:40 PM
100

This creator seems to post quite a bit of HVM content. Always planning cute stuff for his GF, now fiancée! Thought I'd share some positivity 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 01:47 AM
47

Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:28 AM
17

He's getting the satisfaction of being desired from other people. Is that what you want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 11:41 PM
23

Not recommended.. but there are apps that can allow people to voice chat/text while syncing Netflix, if that's what you're asking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:58 AM
16

Haha I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:45 PM
3

Thank you! This really put things into perspective for me. You're so right, it really does not matter what they do after
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:46 PM
4

I can agree with that, I'd just be worried about many men interpreting rejection the wrong way. Although those aren't the men I'd be giving my time to anyways. Him maintaining the effort seems like a very good indication though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:33 PM
11

That is very true. So then it would also depend on how many dates he went on with each individual 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:24 PM
26

This was beyond disturbing. I'm so glad there are people out there doing work like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 05:19 PM
25

That's the worst part! Pickme's bend over backwards and get sh*t in return 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 05:33 AM
81

But then how will women learn about it 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:15 AM
18

Thanks for silver btw!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:31 AM
183

I was waiting for someone to bring it up! She is so gorgeous, and yea, gets straight to the point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:23 AM
16

I guess the one good thing you could say about this is that you're giving your friends an example of what a man is supposed to be like. Hopefully, if they see that better men are out there, they'll put up with less of this nasty behavior. But seriously... The bar is so low :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:16 PM
128

This broke my heart into a million pieces... We need to raise and teach women to have a backbone and be able to stand up for themselves. Women deserve better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:07 PM
8

This was perfectly said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:42 PM
2

Aw, congrats! Hope all goes well <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 02:18 PM
7

Aw :) I'm glad you like it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:41 AM
30

I know! I love that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:30 PM
82

Wanted to share some positivity! Not sure if the flair is perfectly applicable but whatever haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:53 PM
2

I'm usually in a separate room while studying, although it doesn't always stop them from barging in. I like the idea of a ritual though! We eat together so that could be a cool thing to try out. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 08:32 PM
1

I'm actually very quiet around my family. I try to avoid them unless we're eating together, but even then I am virtually completely silent until they try to provoke me. I am very comfortable with silence, but thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 02:49 PM
2

Thank you! I haven't considered this. I'll do some investigating and reach out
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 02:46 PM
3

I actually really like this approach! I'll be trying it out :) And no worries, I loved your metaphors ahaha. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 11:25 PM
9

I've actually been doing this exact meditation, haha! I do it mornings and evenings, although I think I'll try during other times of the day as well. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 07:40 PM
8

I've been trying, but my family really knows how to push my buttons. I'll try to double down on this though! It definitely helps with preventing the escalation of disagreements.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 07:14 PM
4

Right now, not really. I have found that doing less helps me be more mindful and calm as well, but with assignment deadlines approaching along with test dates, I'm usually studying or thinking about studying constantly. Hopefully it'll cool down by next week!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 07:12 PM
13

This happens to me as well! I'm curious as to what the other ladies have to say about it. I think some guys like to pretend that they sent a wrong message (usually with sexual undertones) to make them seem more popular with others and pique your interest. Leaving them on read is a sure way to drive them nuts. It's so ridiculously stupid and manipulative.. those types of people aren't worth your time lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:27 AM
5

Like the other commenter said, him lying to you is a huge red flag. It is unacceptable and you need to put your foot down. You said he respects your boundaries but this is him showing you the exact opposite. He in fact does NOT respect your boundaries and lies to you about it. Could you elaborate on how his behaviour with his friends doesn't elicit him being serious about the relationship? Men are usually more honest with their friends and how they treat you is a direct reflection of what your b…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 02:42 AM
0

That doesn't necessarily mean that men have more of those receptors
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/20 03:55 PM
20

I mean... I think there are reasons for this. Women eat healthier than men, women are more conscientious health-wise (less likely to go out and more likely to take more precautions if they do), and men are less likely to seek medical help if they have a problem among other things. Of course men disproportionately working more labour jobs is a very large factor, and that's something to consider. However, I assume that most companies have put policies in place that allow for people to have less co…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/20 03:19 PM
8

This is exactly my experience! Deep down I felt that I deserved more but I felt ashamed and selfish. FDS has been a game changer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 08:14 PM
14

Yup! And in the odd chance you realize that you were treated bad, you never raise your standards high enough for the next relationship, anything slightly better is the best relationship you've had. Recovering is such a slow process if you don't find resources like FDS or FDS-friendly friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:26 PM
24

Yup! I've had people disregard my opinion to something completely unrelated to dating simply because I'm active in this sub, haha! Some people are nuts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:51 PM
35

Having parents with a bad relationship, and not having any other (good) relationship models. I think a lack of experience and knowledge in regards to relationships is where pickmeisha tendencies stem from. If you know how you're supposed to be treated, then why would you put up with anything less?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:49 PM
9

This in addition to him lying to her. It seems like a very sketchy situation...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:56 PM
7

Woahh, girl. This needs to slow down. FDS does not promote chasing a guy. Don't ask him out. Don't always initiate text convos. Keep yourself busy so you don't always respond quickly to him. You deserve to clearly know if a guy likes you! If he's interested, he'll chase you, he'll ask you out, he'll text you first, etc. You are so young! Now's the time to be making friends, trying new things, and doing a bunch of extracurriculars, not chasing boys. Middle school can be rough and boys are very im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:15 AM
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Yea! I was under this impression as well. Like the men who write love letters in the comment section of IG models 😂 or those trying to love bomb women. But if it is evolving into a way of shaming good men, that really is a shame. Society has a weird way of screwing up great things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 10:08 PM
88

Could you imagine their reaction?? 😂 How distraught they would be after their manipulation tactic fails. Haha this is amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:02 PM
3

People who are either immigrants or raised by immigrants. I seem to get along better with people with a similar background :) they also seem more likely to have more "traditional" values. They're more into courting rather than hooking up (in my experience at least)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:30 PM
33

Yup! Sometimes I'm honestly surprised by how ignorant some women are. Two women have tried to set me up with their sons... One when I was 15 (her son was 26) and another a couple months ago with her loser, overweight, unhealthy, and jobless son, who is apparently really into McDonald's and Korean women. Sorry.. no thanks! 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:30 AM
1

That's amazing! You seem so organized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:26 AM
2

What else do you have spreadsheets for? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:33 AM
1

It looks great! I love the colour coding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:05 PM
6

Exactly! It has rescued me a couple times, despite the fact that it's not perfectly accurate. Being able to see all their faults and shortcomings can really help put things into perspective and take the emotion out of making the best decision
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:31 PM
6

You're totally right! I actually made a seperate spreadsheet for red flags and things I look for when swiping as well. I'm hoping to make one master spreadsheet soon haha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:29 PM
4

That's a very realistic concern, and I'm glad you brought it up! It's definitely not meant to be relied on 100%, and it's something that constantly needs to be updated. Your intuition and experience should always be considered with stuff like this. This spreadsheet just helps me take some of the emotion out of it, because I know that for some people with unhealthy attachment styles, it can be difficult to manage. Thanks for the reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:26 PM
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That's what I did initially, but I found it very disorganized and overall too much work. I'm glad you found a system that works for you though! Lists are so useful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:53 AM
3

Yup! That's why I love it. Very organized and intuitive :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:23 AM
41

Having been in a relationship with various insecure men, I realized that it's just too much of a hassle. If it's something they're actively working on with introspection and/or therapy AND you see improvements, it might be worth pursuing. Otherwise, you're at risk of being led on or having to work overtime to make him feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:38 AM
49

Haha, I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:03 PM
52

This is amazing. Thanks for taking the time to do this! More women need to see this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 05:12 AM
11

This breaks my heart. You don't deserve to feel this way. Do you know if he watches porn? Sometimes this could be a reason for why a partner seems less attracted. It's not an excuse, and if this is the case, it needs to be dealt with. A "test" you can try doing is to give him space. If it's possible to move back in with family or with a friend, do so. If not, distance yourself from him as much as possible. Keep yourself busy throughout the day. Pick up a new hobby, try learning a new skill, work…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 08:24 PM
1

That's good to hear! Have you guys tried video chatting? Opting for a video chat instead of a text conversation might be a good idea. That way he gets to see your facial expressions and you two will be able connect more. To further respond to your question about flirting, it's a tricky topic. Since men are supposed to be the pursuers, it's not really your job to try and impress him with flirting. I personally think the best thing you can do is to embrace your femininity; continue current hobbies…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 06:27 PM
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I agree with the others. This is a red flag. He should spend a couple hours each day applying to jobs, improving his LinkedIn profile and resume/cover letter, and doing free online courses to enhance his knowledge/skills, NOT playing videogames and watching movies. Although there is a time for those as well if he's being proactive! You could try asking something like "have you considered doing ______?", but you shouldn't have to push him to do anything. It's his job to show you that he will be a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 06:01 PM
3

This is very broad... Do these conversations that become more 'physical' involve him talking about sex acts? Have you guys met up before? Are you exclusive? If he's overly inappropriate (talking about things beyond kissing) and you guys aren't exclusive yet, I'd consider it a red flag. I've met various "traditional" men that get into inappropriate conversations like this waayyyy too early. It shows where their heads are at. Please be mindful of this! Flirting is best done by laughing at his joke…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 05:54 PM
11

I saw that too! So many women always want to see the best in people and it ends up hurting them :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:54 PM
56

That's so messed up... I guess the one good thing is that they revealed themselves early. Would be so much worse months or years down the line!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:52 PM
20

Right?? Some of the stories you hear on other relationship subs are absolutely heartbreaking. It's so sad to think that they grew up thinking behaviors as bad as cheating are okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:41 PM
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If we all started saying no, it would be amazing! That's why I'm always trying to motivate ladies close to put up with less shit. We don't deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:34 PM
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Yup! That in addition to the fact that everything a woman receives from a relationship can be sourced elsewhere. The full package would be nice but it's not worth sacrificing your well-being for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:31 PM
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That's a very fair take! I have also noticed that is has evolved slightly, which is why I bring this up. I definitely don't agree with everything that is posted there, hence me being here, but I still find that this sub overexaggerates a lot of the advice given there. The anxiety they provoke is something I've noticed as well, I hope that it's something that changes in the future. I'm glad we could find some common ground :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:15 PM
15

FDS discourages using OLD, but for me personally, Hinge has worked the best. Much easier to find higher quality guys, or at least decent human beings. They've been very nice but no chemistry. Otherwise, college is your next best bet for now. Go to as many college sponsored events as possible and talk to people! There are various posts in the FDS wiki that explain HVM! I highly suggest checking it out. FDS suggests making things official at around 6 weeks of dating. This of course has to be initi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:34 PM
2

It sounds like you feel responsible for his wellbeing, and you're not! From your post, it appears that you guys aren't even in a relationship yet. He is not your responsibility. It is not your job to cheer him up. If you trust his capabilities as a man and provider, he can deal with everything on his own. You should be pulling back, keeping yourself busy, and letting him deal with this on his own. Don't let him drag you in emotionally, because you'll get hurt. I say to give him space because he …
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/20 06:12 AM
6

Oh goodness, my bad 😂 thanks haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:43 PM
20

Congrats!! I'm still getting used to this as well. The attention is addicting, but so toxic! Keep it up, you deserve peace of mind :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:30 PM
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I think that it's unlikely for a man to be able to do a complete 360° and change his whole character. If he's capable of doing that for a woman, why would he be dwelling in his loser phase in the first place? I do think that men have the capacity to make "light" changes, especially if the woman they're with has high standards and they like the challenge, such as doing chores more often, improving their style, abandoning toxic people, etc. But any major changes in their disposition are likely tem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:28 PM
3

Yup! This sounds about right. And the double standards! Whenever they screw up in a game, it's no biggie, but you make one mistake and the world is ending haha. They sure know how to make you feel like garbage! I'm glad you've distanced yourself from these toxic people, it's so much easier to develop as a person without them holding you back. Thanks for sharing :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 06:07 PM
2

How do you have the guts to do that? Doing that would be so out of character for me, but there have been times that I should've walked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:39 AM
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That's what I'm realizing! Once you know your worth, being alone is definitely a lot better. Thanks for sharing :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:38 PM
14

Lol! That's what I was thinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:30 PM
5

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:18 PM
7

Yup! You hit the nail on the head. That's exactly what happened...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:17 PM
2

That's a good point you bring up. We could be doing a lot more to protect these women and we need to continue doing so!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:10 PM
3

I actually really liked this comment. I'll be keeping this in mind if I'm in a similar situation again! Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:57 PM
15

You described the cycle perfectly! Complete nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:10 AM
35

Same with me! Dating gamers is the worst
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:22 AM
1

Expecting someone to hit the brakes after you say "No" once is completely reasonable. Especially if it was firm. Nobody should have to put up with someone pushing their boundaries. That is not the way to set a good impression on a first date. OP should not have to deal with men that are incapable of keeping their hands to themselves after she made it clear she's not interested in going further. They're not on the same page with where they want the relationship to go and they're not entitled to O…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/20 08:08 PM
45

Yup... This is it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:30 AM
28

This comment right here!! I always found it odd when men flat out say they're weird or strange... Everyone has quirks to them, but if they're significant enough for you to point it out, then I'm concerned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:01 PM
2

You can sort through verified folks on Bumble, although the platform goes against FDS rules
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:32 AM
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Please end this relationship!! Nobody should be treating you like that. But it also sounds like you have some serious self development to go through. Constantly being in relationships can sometimes cause you to lose yourself, and you owe it to yourself to fix that. Once you end the relationship, take some time to try new things and find hobbies and interests. Use these to help build yourself up and recover from the relationship. You've wasted way too much time on a man who snaps are you for such…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 02:14 AM
2

If I were you, I wouldn't reach out to this guy. Like another commenter said, he ditched you after the novelty of the new relationship wore off. If he doesn't reach out to you first, but you successfully reach out to him, how will you know that he's truly interested in you unless/until months down the line he ends it again? Spare yourself from heartbreak. Delete him off of your social media for your own peace of mind and move on with your life. A man who wants you will make it very clear. You de…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 01:58 AM
23

This is really weird...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:42 PM
5

I'd say yes. This usually happens if they don't take relationships seriously or they don't know how to vet properly before exclusivity (meaning they might have unhealthy attachment issues). This actually happened to me recently. I dated a man and later found out he was jumping from relationship to relationship. When he finally came across someone healthy (me!), he realized he wasn't ready and broke up with me. Ditch him or proceed with extreme caution!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 01:17 AM
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Assuming you guys aren't exclusive (not explicitly stated), I'd be worried about the state of the relationship. Men usually decide they want to be exclusive with a women 6 weeks after dating, give or take a week. Since you guys have surpassed this point, I'm worried that he's keeping you around for convenience. What I'd suggest is to keep working on yourself and focus on your life goals, someone who isn't excited to be in a relationship with you really isn't worth your time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 01:35 PM
13

That's exactly the right thing to do. Listen to your gut. He shouldn't get the benefit of being able to spend time with you if he's not going to treat you like his first choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 05:18 PM
3

I think this is worth ending the relationship over. In one of my previous relationships, I was with a man who was a bit chubby (I don't think he was quite overweight) and he told me he went to the gym. Later in the relationship, he almost entirely stopped going to the gym, and despite me having nothing against his body type, I lost respect for him, as I was putting in the work to look and feel good, and he wasn't. Once the respect dropped and the resentment built, my attraction went down and I w…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 03:52 PM
9

Start taking longer to respond and eventually ignore him. He'll either man up or back off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 03:00 PM
7

I've recently discovered that when I'm with a man that I shouldn't be with, I get really jittery and almost start shivering. This is usually before I actually realize something is wrong, as I have a bad habit of romanticizing new men that aren't complete assholes. Paying more attention to this and identifying the feeling quicker had helped he avoid various men that soon showed that had boundary problems or other issues. For example, I was going out with this older man (8 yrs my senior), and I wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:24 PM
1

I mean, the only thing that would happen as friends is that I would want more and wouldn't get over him. That's just more damage for me, especially if he gets into another relationship, that would be painful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:24 AM
1

Yea, I know it has nothing to do with me, he also said that multiple times. He asked to stay friends but I told him that it doesn't work for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:20 PM
1

We sat down together and he told me a bit about his relationships and told me that he never really got a proper break in between them. He then told me we should end the relationship so he can have some time off and 'recover' from him constantly seeking validation from others. I wanted to ask why he couldn't do that while in the relationship but I decided not to. I told him that I respect his self awareness and willingness to change, and then we parted ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:05 PM
10

This poor girl...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:58 PM
7

So .. do you dislike sexual intercourse or do you just have trouble finding the right partner to do it with? Either way, it might be a good idea to explore these feelings in therapy. Your relationship with sex sounds very non-conventional and possibly unhealthy. As for how you are as a person, your personality and interests, is very malleable and something you can work on if you feel that it's necessary. Everyday I try to be more and more social and cheerful, and although it feels like a chore a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/20 02:22 AM
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I'm definitely not giving up things I care about, but being an unemployed student means that I am super busy in the first half of the week and essentially completely free the last half. So there isn't much limiting my time with him at the end of the week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:31 PM
5

That's makes sense, I'm just worried that spending too much time together can give off the impression of excessive availability, which could(?) make interest drop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:29 PM
8

As a business student, I have noticed that many of the men majoring in finance are pretty narcissistic and cocky, but I don't have much experience with dating them. Anyhow, I'm still pretty new to this sub but I'm proud of you for maintaining FDS values! I've recently been using it as well and it's amazing to see how everything rings true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:41 PM
2

It definitely does take balance, although I don't see anything wrong with waiting for sex at least until the "I love you"s are said, which I believe usually happens around the 3-6 month mark. In the end, it totally is up to personal preference, but for me, the later the better
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 03:35 PM
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This definitely wasn't executed in the best possible manner. Next time (if there is a next time), wait at least a month before sleeping with him, but ideally 3-6 months. When a guy gets sex early from a woman, what usually happens is that he perceives you as "easy". He feels as though he doesn't need to put more effort into the relationship since he got what he wanted. A man will settle for a FwB type relationship if a woman doesn't have high enough standards from the beginning, even if he doesn…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 02:42 PM
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I understand you're upset, but a woman doesn't lose all her value because of her age or looks! That's so shallow and disturbing to me. When something is missing from a relationship, it isn't always physical, it can just be emotional or a combination of the two. I'm not trying to shift the blame, this is all on him, but please take some time to introspect on why you feel so superior to this woman. Your boyfriend deserves the crap, not this woman. Physical intimacy means nothing if there is no emo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 06:02 PM
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I think a bit more context is necessary would be necessary to be able to gauge if you were HV or not, but for starters, a HVW would not put up with a LVM. Additionally, something I noticed is that you seemed to be "mothering" him a bit. Telling him what to do and whatnot. Doing that is simply ineffective, men have to change at their own will and if they don't, you should just move on (or they should already be acting "right"). Men want to be respected and appreciated, but you have to find a man …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:05 PM
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Like the other commenter said, it is very niche. The user base would likely be small (ineffective) and could easily become more inappropriate, with people using it to find people to easily take advantage of. Hypothetically, it seems like a cool idea, but it would need to be highly regulated and advertised in order to keep it running.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 06:20 PM
7

I would tell him that you no longer want to be friends and that he shouldn't contact you anymore. Then block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:17 AM
2

I get that! Honestly, he probably does enjoy talking to you, but the fact that he isn't initiating is very concerning. If he isn't pursuing you, then he probably thinks he has the upper hand and shouldn't be putting in the effort (that you deserve!). Also, him disliking technology so much is a bit concerning. It can definitely be scary to think about how connected everything is nowadays, but it's inevitable. Being able to tolerate change is extremely important, and him being unable to do it with…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 01:15 AM
2

It really is just a waiting game. I totally feel ya though. I can be super shy and introverted as well, makes it hard to approach people. Definitely go to events though! They're the best for meeting new people
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 12:03 AM
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There definitely are great men out there! I've recently been dating around and have went on multiple dates with all sorts of men. The most useful thing for me had been having high standards. If you participate in online dating, don't be afraid to weed people out for any reason you see fit. For example, I would weed out men who mention video games or traveling in their bios, not because I hate them, but because the type of men who think they're worth mentioning usually aren't the type I look for.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 09:53 PM
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I'm glad! It's really been life changing for me. I feel so productive when I get into my daily routine :) even if objectively I didn't get too much done. I hope it works out! And just remember that it's okay to mess up sometimes, there are days where you just don't have the energy to do your full routine but it's no problem as long as you get back into it
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 09:37 PM
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Girl, you deserve so much better. If a man can't even spend five minutes writing out a nice text for you on Valentine's Day, how do you expect him to treat you in a relationship? YOU are the prize. You deserve to be treated and you shouldn't have to question whether or not a man cares about you, especially after a few months. Also, if a guy isn't initiating phone calls or text conversations often (he should happily be initiating most of the time under normal circumstances), he's showing how much…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:31 PM
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I usually get into this routine during the summer or on weekends. What usually gets me out of it is waking up early. Maybe this won't work for you, but I would highly recommend trying anyways! Pick a day to start, any day. Pick a time between 10-11pm. An hour before that time is when you shut down your phone/laptop/TV/etc. and start getting ready for bed. Design a routine that works for you. If you don't shower in the evenings, then you can still try to do a bit of skincare (cleanser + moisturiz…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 03:05 PM
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I used to be like this, and I still have a couple of masculine traits I'm working on. I love leadership roles, competition and debate. Despite this, I've found that me temporarily giving up the need to follow through with these has been incredibly rewarding. Men don't think you're less capable simply because you don't get up in the middle of the night to see what the noises are. They know that you can go brave it out, but they don't want you to. They care about you and want to take some responsi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/20 02:50 PM
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Hug! I heard that a hug is good because it breaks the "touch barrier". It makes him more confident to kiss you later in the date (if that's what you want). A hug also gives off the impression of you being a nice human being, so it's good regardless. It can be a bit weird getting into the habit but just put your arms out and they'll get the message haha
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/20 05:32 AM
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I don't have much advice but you are so brave for going through with this! Don't be afraid to lean on anybody you're close to for a bit, they're there because they care about you. I hope you can find the strength to keep pushing through because you deserve so much better 💞
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 11:49 PM
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That's one of my issues. I still live with my parents and they're very strict about who I date. I once dated someone 8 years older and they made my life a living hell. I suppose I'll have to get a job and move out or be patient ... I definitely agree with the last part though, already doing that! :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 07:13 PM
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Look into e-commerce! Once up and running, a shop doesn't require too much maintenance (also depends on what sort of model/platform you use). Or you can run an advertising based model, so you provide content for free (blogging, vlogging, social media) and make money through sponsorships and affiliate marketing. It's pretty much what Mrs. Midwest does. Although it's worth noting that you will only get out what you put in, if you put in less time into making content, you will make less money becau…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/20 10:24 PM
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I exclusively date men between the age of 21 and 26. Most men who are open about being 'traditional' on dating sites usually have other red flags on their profile, so I skip them. Finding men who are more traditional is definitely easier when looking for older ones, though. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 11:47 PM
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Thank you! I really liked your response. I definitely want to embrace it, but almost everyone in my life right now would disapprove of it, which has made it a bit difficult to embrace it. I am not religious and I don't go to church, so that makes it harder to meet those types of men. I think you make a good point about me possibly "scaring off" men who would be into me being a homemaker by saying I want to own a business, but that personally has not been much of an issue (yet?). If I sense a guy…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 10:13 PM
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I want to, the only issue is that it's a slightly more 'intimate' topic, as in it requires a decent amount of vulnerability since it could be interpreted the wrong way. Especially early on. I understand where you're coming from, though
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 10:00 PM
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That sounds like a good idea, thank you! I'm not religious, although I'm not opposed to religious folks and most of my values align with Christianity/Catholicism.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 09:08 PM
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That's what I'm thinking, to strike a good balance between just meeting and started to get intimate. I like the idea of bringing up the topic though! I'll definitely be trying that out. Thank you for commenting!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 03:40 PM
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I know, it sucks. Getting your hopes up about someone and then they do something that is a big red flag is so disheartening. Keep looking! You deserve better than this guy.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 04:19 AM
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The first thing you need to do is to learn to love yourself. You could be the least attractive human being on earth and this would still be the first step. No amount of changing yourself or 'improving' yourself will make you feel better or more attractive if you don't first learn to love what you've been given. If you're religious, dive deeper into it, if not (like me), I suggest researching mindfulness and getting into it. It's changed my life. Best of luck! You deserve to feel good about yours…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 04:28 PM
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Beautifully said!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 03:25 PM
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Thanks! I'll try it out :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 06:55 PM
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What can you do if a man you're dating is having trouble leading, as in he urges you to pick out dates and such? Or is that a non-issue?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 04:54 PM
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I'm not sure how helpful this is, but I'd definitely suggest checking out Daysy! It's a device that helps you track your fertility with 99%+ effectiveness after a year. Wish you the best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/20 08:18 AM
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That's definitely not an excuse! I am allergic to cats and I have two of my own, I love them to death. Like the previous reply said, avoiding and hating are two different things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:57 PM
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Her videos are amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 04:14 PM
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That Feminine Housewife!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 06:30 AM
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I'm in no way an expert, but what has helped for me so far is just being mindful. I try to be as observant as possible and identify any triggers to behaviors that may ressemble something my mom would do. For example, my mother is quick to anger and can become very irrational in that state. Although it doesn't happen as often to me, it does happen and I'm trying to break the cycle. One of my triggers is driving to a new location and getting lost (I'm a very anxious driver). Knowing this, I avoid …
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/19 07:45 PM
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I totally get that. I have a fast metabolism too! As for meals, start with the basics. Get used to making yourself a healthy breakfast every morning, they're usually the simplest and fastest meals. Begin to make them increasingly elaborate and get comfortable with cooking from scratch. Once you're more comfortable, I would highly suggest a Bento box for lunches if you're at college/uni during that time. They're total life savers. I usually put fruit, leftover salad, nuts, and either crackers or …
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 06:34 AM
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Would you be able to give more context in regards to your situation? As in what you're doing currently? Style, skincare, lifestyle, etc. One of the most important things you can do is improving your diet. Use an app like Cronometer to track your nutrients and make sure you're getting the right amount of nutrients. Avoid processed foods and anything sugary. If you haven't already, learn to cook different meals from different cuisines and how to save money while grocery shopping. Another thing is …
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 03:12 AM
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That's definitely a red flag. Maybe he feels as if he has no chance of losing you? Have you tried going quiet and texting him less? Or maybe even calling him on the phone instead could be a better idea, that way he would have to devote some time to you. Texting can be quite annoying since it's not always easy to see what kind of emotions the other person is trying to get across.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 02:47 AM
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It's a bit complicated. You can love someone without knowing how to properly express yourself... Although you didn't mention him giving you a proper explanation (him going through a rough patch isn't a good enough explanation, especially if he's still hanging out with friends), which is a red flag. It either shows that he's losing interest, or he doesn't trust you, neither of which are good. Having an in-person conversation with him should be your next priority, especially since he's not being r…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 02:36 AM
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I found a passage from The Surrendered Single that you might find interesting: "If you're anything like I was, you may be using sex to control a man to be right where you want him— with you. The problem with using this kind of control to maintain a relationship is that it doesn't work and we cheat ourselves out of being genuinely desired and pursued. If you use sex to keep him around, then you'll never know if he likes you just for you." Like others, I'd definitely suggesting sorting everything …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 09:49 PM
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There's definitely a threshold. In the end though, you're not going to appeal to everyone. Going to the gym and paying attention to what you eat is healthy and attractive on its own, and like the others said, unless you're using some unnatural methods, it's virtually impossible to look masculine with bodybuilding. I personally try to do leg days more often than upper body, and on upper body days I do cardio to reduce any gains I might make. And actually, since I've been on exam break, I've been …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 02:58 PM
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No problem! I had trouble finding it initially too haha
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 03:19 AM
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If you pay attention to the top of the feed, it says "Posts", "About" and "Rooms". Swipe the left so you're in the "About" section and scroll down to "The Official RPW Wiki" and click the link.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 03:03 AM
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Thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 05:54 AM
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Hey, no problem! I'm so glad I could help :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 07:31 PM
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Another thing to keep in mind is that if you had not slept with your ex, you would be somewhere else in life. It is very likely you would never have met your current boyfriend if not for your previous actions. Don't be too hard on yourself <3 you did what you thought was right in the moment, even if it feels like a mistake.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 07:19 PM
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If your heart is set on having kids as soon as possible, and your husband is supportive (emotionally and financially), go for it. You can always invest in your career later on and there will be nothing stopping you. You have a very long life ahead of you. Don't spend a large portion of it trying to appease family members or society. You will end up unhappy. Do what feels right. Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 12:08 AM
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This is worth checking out! The last time I did a blood test, my iron levels were fine but a little low. Since I'm always cold, I figured I'd try supplementing iron to see if it helps. Although it did not help with my temperature, my memory improved greatly and my mind feels so much clearer! Definitely worth investigating.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 02:47 PM
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I have three suggestions, the first is just making yourself more occupied. If you have less time in between commitments, you'll be far less likely to physically get up and go shopping. Second, is to develop a habit of only going shopping when you need certain pieces. This can mean making a list over the course of a few weeks or months, and then dedicating your time shopping to finding only those items. That way, you are less likely to purchase pieces that you don't need, since you have an establ…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/19 05:38 PM
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Depending on how bad your winter is (I'm in midwestern Canada), your outfit will change. What I usually do is go for any top, a chunky sweater over that, and jeans, with tights underneath it if it's cold enough. Although note that tights don't work too well under skinny jeans. Over that I'll put an overcoat or other long winter coat. Alternatively, I wear a turtleneck with a cardigan with jeans and a coat again. Jeans can also be switched out for long and warm skirts with tights underneath, or '…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/19 02:42 AM
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That would be lying then, which I would like to think is no good to add to the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 01:18 PM
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I guess. After my first relationship, I waited over two years until getting into another one, it just felt a bit 'wrong' to hop back into a relationship so 'soon'. I feel like waiting a bit is the right thing to do. Although I do understand where you're coming from and I appreciate your perspective :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 11:09 PM
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I talked to them for a week and then went on three dates, that's when we made it official.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 03:22 AM
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What I meant was that I started looking for a relationship early on, after a week. I made it 'official' with someone about a month after that. There was definitely a lead up, although I wish it lasted longer.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 03:14 AM
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Thank you so much! I love all of this. I genuinely appreciate you taking the time to comment this. So many helpful tips :) I'll probably start with embracing uni, cooking more and double the amount I've been working out since I've been slacking a bit haha. Thanks, again!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 03:32 PM
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That's so good to hear! I've been so nervous. I may have to go out of my comfort zone a bit but I'm sure it'll be worth it. Hopefully things works out. Thanks, again!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 03:23 PM
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Thank you!! I'll definitely be doing this :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 02:35 PM
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Oh yeah, I would only be saving PIV for marriage if anything, so sexual compatibility wouldn't be a complete shot in the dark. Waiting until engagement is something I've thought of, but I definitely have some thinking to do. I appreciate your perspective!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 02:23 AM
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I've definitely considered it. It really does seem like a good middle ground, although that may still take some waiting for my partner. A tad more reasonable though!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 01:55 AM
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Yea, those are fair concerns. I'll try to keep a look out for these. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 01:52 AM
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I never meant to make assumptions in regards to there not being men out there willing to wait. It's just that, like many have already mentioned, I have no doubt that those who are willing to wait are less plentiful, especially among the non-religious 'community'. It's definitely something that may take time. I appreciate your perspective, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 01:50 AM
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I appreciate this, thank you. I'm definitely pro-life, so until I'm in a position to raise a child (I don't think I'd consider adoption) I don't think having sex would be a good idea. I think you brought up lots of good points, especially in regards to sexual compatibility. I will definitely consider all of this. Again, thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 10:48 PM
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That's what I was thinking, waiting until commitment. It's just a bit confusing, I guess. To me, marriage was what represented commitment. Although I am aware that there are many couple have been together for decades without a ring, I just feel as though there needs to be some sort of milestone that indicates that it's "okay" to lose my virginity. And perhaps there's supposed to be an element of risk, but it just seems overwhelming. How did you know that you two were committed or wanted to spend…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 08:46 PM
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I'm not sure, but that's also one of the concerns I've faced. I'd like to think that there are some non-religious men out there who are genuinely willing to wait, if not waiting themselves. And I'd like to think I wouldn't mind dating someone religious, but it definitely makes it harder since I'm not in a place in my life right now where I'd like to follow a religion.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 08:29 PM
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