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SCROTATION REPORT xdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:10 AM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESxdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:00 AM
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NAH, SISxdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:03 AM
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#JustLVMThingsxdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:06 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFExdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:13 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDxdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:52 AM
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QUEEN SH*Txdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:15 AM
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Story time ☕xdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 01:28 PM
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STAY WOKExdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:09 PM
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REMINDER 👑xdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:05 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDxdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:34 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTxdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:00 AM
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FDS MOVIES & TVxdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:17 PM
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STAY WOKExdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:57 PM
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STAY WOKExdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:40 AM
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REMINDER 👑xdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:39 PM
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STAY WOKExdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:34 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFExdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:17 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYxdecadent/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:46 PM
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Pray tell, what is the definition of the word woman? And what answer would be acceptable to you? The person who asked that question doesn’t even know the difference between the constitution and the Declaration of Independence. It’s quite laughable that she was questioning anyone at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:26 AM
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I’ll do what I please. As a Black woman who is often one of the few in my workplaces for the last 20 years, I’ve seen my fair share of bullshit. And on this, I’m calling bullshit. I’m seeing the responses here and on Twitter. It’s a very clear divide and I’m sorry for not mincing words but this is clearly an issue here. Judges do not write the law. They are meant to enforce it. She did not lie: the laws were not written with the internet in mind. Have an issue with the laws not being up to the t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:20 AM
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Some of y’all are gonna be mad at me for saying this but oh friggin well… Some of these comments are exactly why is a lot of us Black women will never fully trust white women. The fact that Ketanji Brown Jackson is the most experienced nominee AND the first Black woman in American history to be nominated to the SCOTUS is not enough. Y’all want her to be a radical as well? We know good and goddamned well that any extreme views from Hon. Brown Jackson would be used against her, in spite of her cre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 04:07 AM
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Read the handbook. This man should have been blocked since you told his girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:06 PM
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I love your username btw. That’s one of my favorite smells 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:05 PM
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I tried to read all of this but once you said you kept talking to him AFTER exposing him to his long term GF… Sis. Block and delete this man! You have invested way too much into someone who’s shown they are a liar. BLOCKITY BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK 🛑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:04 PM
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I’ll be checking this out! Thanks for the recommendation 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 09:41 PM
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To be fair, BMI is not a great barometer of health. It’s an outdated system that was created by a mathematician. Not a physician. Here’s some more info about BMI: https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=106268439
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:37 AM
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I’m one of the women who prefaces her statements like this. Why? Because it’s important to me, a Black woman, to be very clear that Kim Kardashian’s whole image is appropriated from women who look like me and her influence has had massive repercussions in my community. That being said it’s actually very pro-woman to understand that you can dislike a woman and still not want to see her harmed. Just like FDS is anti sex work. We can be anti-porn and sex work and still want those women to be safe. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:11 AM
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I had totally forgotten about the Kathy Griffin situation but you are spot on. This is wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:06 AM
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I have this really great tip for losing 100+ lbs overnight… Divorce🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:31 AM
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Happy birthday!! 🎂 And sadly, yes, they always want the well once the waters run dry. Oh well! Enjoy your day, Queen 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:28 AM
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Yay for us ambitious women. It is tough! I love my line of work and I love my life, truly. I also have had to come to terms with the fact that I have a very eccentric life and that it won’t be easy to find someone who’s compatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:58 PM
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I definitely agree - I wouldn’t trust a man saying he doesn’t watch porn for moral reasons. I would, however, respect a man for saying that he doesn’t like how porn effects his performance. That means he would have to have some self awareness to make that type of connection and take some decisive action. A male cousin of mine made a post on his Facebook like 2 years ago charging his male friends to stop watching porn, go to the gym, get outside more often and spend time with your loved ones. Idk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:26 PM
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You’re speaking facts, sister! I used to make the first move and it always backfired on me. There has not been one situation where I was better for initiating - only the exact opposite. It can be disheartening if you really want to date and build a connection with someone and feel the urge to “move things along”. It just pays to invest in yourself and be patient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:17 PM
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This is the “mad money” our mothers and grandmothers told us to have in case of emergency. The fact that she handed over $22K to this man is APPALLING. She should have taken that to the grave. There is no use in being totally honest and transparent with a man. A lady always has her mystery! (And her own money, too!!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:53 AM
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Yeah I’m a bit confused with some of these comments. He has a lot of pictures of her on his feed. I’m not sure why this engagement is being met with such disdain here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:38 PM
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I loved Buffy growing up but on the re-watch… whew. It’s rough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:58 PM
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Xander is THEEEE worst
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:56 PM
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Yassss to the classic Nintendo games! I dusted off my old gameboy last year and had a time playing Mario and donkey Kong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:57 PM
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I did a night kayak ride in Puerto Rico last year with one of my homegirls. Omg! It was a bit scary but so exciting. I def want to do that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:50 PM
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What kind of games do you like? I miss playing the sims and I really miss my PlayStation racing games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:49 PM
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I sew. I used to do it as a business but that was sucking the fun out of it so now I do it for me. I also do hair but I’ve taken to restoring/beautifying dolls instead of actual people and that makes my inner child very happy. I’ve also been dabbling more into rollerskating. It’s challenging but I enjoy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:40 PM
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I hope I didn't come off mean or combative. I only asked because sometimes we can gloss over things. Sending you mad love and support, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:10 PM
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Great post!! I love the examples provided and I think they are excellent traits/behaviors to look for in a HV man. I also think that, sadly, this is not the norm for a lot of women but it should be! We need more examples of men being nurturing, caring, considerate and loving towards their feminine counterparts and their families.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:00 PM
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I looked into the account that posted this. It is only 4 days old and has only been active on racist sexual subreddits. I have the sinking feeling that this woman's photos are being used without her knowledge. Perhaps she rejected someone's advances? It feels very retaliatory. I dont know who this woman is but this is terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:49 AM
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Hold on. Why would you say your boyfriend is a "sweet and caring man" and then proceed to describe behavior that is anything but sweet and caring?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:36 AM
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Agreed. I love me some Ali Wong but her commentary around porn was very hard to watch. I think it’s a testament to how pornified (is that a word?) our society has become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 09:51 AM
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We’ve all been there, beloved. When a guy likes to flirt with you but won’t take it further take that as a mixed signal. Mixed signals = not interested. When men like you they make it very clear and they try to learn everything about you so they can tailor their approach. Do not spoon feed this man information in hopes that he will make a move. Withdraw your attention and go on about your life/studies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 09:35 AM
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Right. And the “one thing” is the WORST possible behavior. Like we really have a lot of unlearning/de-conditioning to do as women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 09:29 AM
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Five comments and none of them showing…I can only imagine. My first thought is that the woman in the photo doesn’t even know that her photo is being used in this way. At least that’s my hope cause this is sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 09:26 AM
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This post smells like hot dog water, unwashed ass and smegma 😩😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 09:09 PM
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I feel for this girl, I really do. Living alone in NYC is hard but not impossible. She could absolutely find another studio for half of what she’s paying now. Her boyfriend, on the other hand, should stay at his own place more. Period. Anything more than half the week at her place and he should be kicking some money in for something. I don’t think he should rescue her but what kind of person stays 5 nights out the week at someone’s place and doesn’t think to pay anything? If the shoe was on the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:29 AM
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Don’t do it, sweetheart. Find yourself a cute apartment or a roommate if you need to. But do not move in with a man, especially while you’re still in school and definitely not before an engagement is made. And those people telling you that he has a bright future ahead - you have a bright future too! Focus on what you want, what’s more practical for you and what’s in your best interests. He will not die if you say you don’t want to move in with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:01 AM
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It was refreshing! At least someone in the family has some sense. I hope the brother really rubs salt in the wound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 11:36 AM
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This is gold! As soon as I saw “teach her a lesson” I knew he had the game fucked up. These types of men (punitive, domineering, controlling) don’t ever get better; they just find new ways to be cruel and entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 11:35 AM
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When the first woman boarded on an international flight with a stranger and his BABY MOMMA?! I was done. She overlooked so many red flags. Personally, I detest dating men with children. Especially small children under the age of 10. But a 2 year old?! Hell no. Plus, you just met this man and you’re playing it cool and just going along with everything? I did love how the women joined forces and supported each other to get the police involved. It’s a shame he only served 5 months. That’s not nearl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 01:52 AM
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The funniest part of all this is he expected to be turned down. Why else would he have the camera rolling at that exact moment? Sir Scrotimus, if you put that same energy into not being an insufferable asshole maybe you wouldn’t be anticipating rejection to your ridiculous advances!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:40 AM
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I mean but let’s look at this critically: if your entire brand is around staying relevant by any means necessary can you flip it and say you’re being treated unfairly by the media? It’s highly problematic to conflate everyday women’s issues with the Kardashian-Jenners manufactured outrage marketing plan. Kris Jenner is a highly skilled media magician. I’ll give her that. Being able to flip her deceased ex-husbands wealth and connections into the empire that she has today is interesting. I mean, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:02 AM
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I’m super anti Kim/Kardashian anything. Seeing all these comments in support of Kim K is kind of wild to me but okay. Maybe it’s coming from my perspective as a Black woman, but I think the Kardashians are violent culture vultures who do not deserve a shred of public compassion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 11:33 AM
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Omg I came in here looking for this. The comments on twitter are saying the ladies who think gift giving on a first date is weird “the girls are miserable!!” I’m sorry but giving a man a gift on a first date seems thirsty to me. He ended up taking her to a record shop because she mentioned wanting to grow her vinyl collection, but still. Who’s to say he was going to do that if she didn’t bring a gift first? The world may never know 😩😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 11:19 AM
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Who cares if he thinks he matters? He has no bearing on my life at all - we don’t have kids, no mutual friends, haven’t crossed paths in 4 years. It was cathartic to tell him where to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:21 AM
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You really think he “won”? Y’all give men that much credit? I believe in telling people to fuck off. It’s good for the throat chakra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:55 AM
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He was jealous because I had moved out on my own. We had been discussing moving in together but he never wanted to discuss finances and he was jealous of what he perceived to be a “great salary”. I make 3x what I did back then. If he saw my pay stubs now he would be SICK 😩😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:53 AM
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I’ve been seeing a very nice, sweet guy for 5 months. We recently had our first disagreement and I had to acknowledge some unhealthy habits that I’ve developed from dealing with emotionally unavailable/abusive men. I kid you not, I have not heard from the man in these messages since July of 2018!! He sent me a message on IG and his initial messages are cut off. Ladies, this man is how and why I read “Why Does He Do That?”. He was an emotionally abusive, gaslighting asshole who is clearly still u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:46 AM
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We need deliverance!! 😂😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:51 PM
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I love this advice. I’m 36 and childless. I’m renting right now but I see myself owning a home by 40. I have a lot of work to do on my finances but I know it can be done. Sadly, I don’t see how or why a man would be able to help me achieve my goals. I always thought I’d be married with kids by this age but I’m seeing more and more than a man is a liability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:00 AM
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I love the support between these two women! For all we know the wife is building a case for divorce. I’m glad they both kept it classy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 09:30 AM
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They need to take away recording equipment from these men. He can barely enunciate as is, the last thing his lying mush mouthed ass needs to be doing is starting a podcast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 09:29 AM
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It’s really disgusting tbh. He was dead wrong for approaching this woman at all. A friend or mine was like “I think his wife thinking her husband won’t talk to other women while on vacation is unrealistic” 🥴 (she has severe pickme-itis, I’m working on her but it’s been years and she might just be too far gone at this point) I can see if they were at a restaurant or bar and two groups of friends happen to strike up conversation with the other. Walking up to a strange woman at the beach, holding h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 09:28 AM
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It’s like sir why did you even reply?! You’re making it worse! I hate that she’s being painted as being “thirsty” because “it was months ago” - he didn’t get married and have 4 kids since last summer though LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:46 AM
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Queens we have a really good case study here: a young lady named Mica went to vacation in Miami last august and was approached by this man. On January 11th she used the hashtag #helpmefindhim on TikTok and posted the video of their interaction. She even says “I hope he’s not married”. Well, the lady detectives of TikTok did not disappoint. (Can I just pause and say a lot of us have truly missed our calling? The FBI, CIA, KGB don’t have shit on women’s collective sleuthing/intuition!) Mica being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:35 AM
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This is a lot of words for saying you don’t know how to make women cum 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 07:54 AM
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People want to seem so high minded and above it all while showing that they don’t really think that highly of themselves at all. People don’t deserve unlimited, unrestricted access to you. Access to you should be conditional. Period. Leaving the door open for folks to wander in and out of your life is a recipe for disaster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 09:39 AM
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It’s crazy because while some men are scarred by some comment a mean girl said to them in HS, most grown women are masters at holding back. Men truly take our civility for weakness. I truly believe that if a man starts to neg you should proceed to roast him until whatever attraction you feel for him is gone. Actually, before you get too invested you should be able to seamlessly roast a man in your head. I mean, really go in and don’t hold back. A lot of times we let neediness and low self worth …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 09:10 AM
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Plot twist: he’s been friend zoned months ago and hasn’t realized it yet. She doesn’t like him like that. He needs to just move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 01:34 AM
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Okay? I haven’t started farming out my vagina to pay the rent. I’m sure he can manage to pay his own bills!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:20 PM
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I was 19 dating a 29 year old. I learned he had a drug problem as he had stole my money that I needed to get on a greyhound bus to get back to my place. I went to his mothers house looking for him. She said “you’re a nice girl, a smart girl. Leave my son alone. You have your whole life ahead of you.” I had no reason to question this woman. She knew him longer than I did. I broke things off with him and kept in contact with her for a few years. I’m glad I listened - he never got better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 06:30 PM
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Lmao this is the epitome of TRIFLING. “Rents expensive” I threw up in my mouth 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 06:22 PM
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This is so cringey and unattractive. I thought I was being over dramatic about not wanting to use dating apps anymore but I really don’t see the point. It’s degrading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:48 AM
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🖐🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:41 AM
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I’m listening now and this is such a great interview and conversation. I loved Bancrofts book and it really helped me leave an emotionally abusive ex. Y’all did the damn thing with this episode!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:41 PM
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This should be higher!! I can’t take any KK praise seriously. They’re trashy culture vultures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:27 AM
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I have thought about this extensively. Ideally, I’d need 3 bedrooms just for me. I need room for my religious/spiritual work, room for my businesses and room for my personal stuff. I don’t wanna live a Marie Kondo lifestyle - I love alllll of my stuff! I also don’t want to share a bathroom. I have a few homegirls who have bought their own houses and it’s very inspiring. ETA: after my grandfather passed, my grandmother had a long term boyfriend from when she was in her 50s until she died. They li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:02 PM
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If he is gay it’s still a beautiful gesture. And honestly my gay male friends/family members have poured so much love and care into me - it’s always good to have HVM around who dote on you. I’m happy for this young lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 02:47 PM
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Let him reschedule. If it’s been 5 days and he hasn’t said anything he most likely isn’t planning to. However, if you want to keep talking to him then I would keep the conversation going through phone calls, not texts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 12:35 PM
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He sounds like a pervert and an asshole. I’m glad you blocked her even if it was hurtful. You would have encountered a lot of problems down the line. Women who can’t enforce strong boundaries or stand up for themselves can’t be good friends to their fellow women. You would have eventually been verbally or physically assaulted by this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 12:31 PM
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Thank you for this break down! I’ve always hated Issa and Lawrence’s dynamic because it reminded me of toxic relationships I’ve been in or witnessed firsthand. I was proud of Issa initially for walking away from Lawrence and the baby situation but when they ended up getting back together? It just seemed childish and immature. After making so many strides with her professional life, Issa backpedaled on herself so hard. It was disappointing. And even in regards to Nathan I cringed when she was try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 11:14 AM
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These are super cute! I love the diversity ☺️💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 05:20 PM
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The secret ingredient has me cackling!!! Brava!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 05:12 PM
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I didn’t even finish reading your post but YES! I was saying the same thing to myself this morning - are so many women in emotionally abusive relationships and they just don’t realize it?! It’s scary and sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 03:01 PM
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This is top tier advice. I’m sending this to all my homegirls and baby sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 04:58 AM
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Don’t do it. You’re way too young and you have too much to lose. Get a roommate or get a place with a girlfriend who’s responsible. Do not move in with a man, especially while you’re a student.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:03 AM
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Great observation! I had a similar interaction with a married male coworker last week and it really made me think about how men really take advantage of a woman’s youth and vitality. So the coworker kept saying he was in his late forties, his wife is 30 and they have 2 small children under the age of 4. So essentially he married this woman when she was 25 and he was possibly 42-45? He said a lot of things that were alarming but the age gap really stuck out to me as a major red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:44 AM
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Oh god this was my ex. He always needed to have a “state of the Union” every. Week. It was exhausting because the goal post always shifted. It was never about getting to a place of understanding - he just wanted to complain and tear me down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 11:44 PM
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Always make sure you have your own transportation in place. Never let them drive you the venue. You can always excuse yourself to the restroom and then dip out. Have your Uber lined up while you’re in the bathroom and as soon as it arrives make a beeline out of there. Block and delete on the way home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 09:51 PM
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Lmaooo @ beard fishing!! But no lies were written here - that weak chin hides behind a bushy beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 09:48 PM
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“I was an immaculate treasure. That’s why they darkened my doorway in the first place.” THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:39 PM
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This looks like a trap house. WTFFFF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:36 PM
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Big facts! I was 27 and seeing this older guy who originally told me he was 30. Come to find out he was 40 🤦🏾‍♀️. When I confronted him about it he got indignant and I had to remind him that whether he was 30 or 40 I was making him look good when he was out with me! “Oh you calling me old?” No, asshole, I’m calling you a liar! Don’t ever be afraid to tell these men that you aren’t as naive as they’d like you to be. And don’t be afraid to walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:30 PM
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She’s literally a baby, 20 years old. Ay bendita 😔 I hope someone gets this girl out of this because this is escalating into a DV situation. This is a prime example of how girls are socialized to be overly accommodating at their expense. This girl is in danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:42 AM
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🗣 ANNULMENT!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:24 AM
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I am just not interested in this level of community service. Good grief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:53 AM
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hugs I’m proud of you for leaving an abusive situation. I’ve also been in emotionally abusive relationships before and I never heeded the early warning signs. It’s hell to get out but when you finally do life gets better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:54 AM
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When he told me he was a Scorpio in the first convo I was like oh boy! Not to get all deep in my astrology bag but my father, my favorite aunt and the ex are all Scorpio suns. They have a tendency to brood and be passive aggressive. He most definitely sat by the phone on Wednesday and when Thursday evening rolled around he was calling to pick a fight. He had the wrong one for that! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:54 AM
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Sadly I’m not even sure he’s even that savvy. I think this is just cultural conditioning at this point. Bad behavior is rampant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:02 AM
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Definitely an abuser tactic. Just setting the groundwork for more disrespect and escalating incidents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:31 AM
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Absolutely. It was giving me emotional abuse vibes and I was immediately not interested in anything he had to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:28 AM
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Exactly. The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference. You will not get me out of character. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:59 AM
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Nonchalance is always the best route for these things. I won’t get upset, I won’t get sad, I’ll simply yawn 🥱 🤣 Like if you don’t care then how and why should I?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:56 AM
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He had woken me from my nap so I guess he heard the sleep in my voice. After saying his “phone rings too” he was like “were you sleeping?” I was like yeah, im getting a nap in before I get up to finish sewing. He said “well let me let you get back to your nap.” I said okay and hung up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:32 AM
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Yeah it was more than enough for me from that last 2 minute convo. I’m not even going to go back and forth with you - you’re a stranger to me! We have nothing to argue about! Lol There’s no need to get proof or to inform them of their bad behavior so early on. Just be grateful you saw what you saw, block them and keep it pushing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:54 AM
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Exactly. That’s how I do with my friends as well. And I’ve had plenty of friend dates this month - everyone confirmed, set times, checked in with each other. Great times were had by all! I had no reason to expect to plan a date with a man who asked me out. And then he had the nerve to be combative and rude. BLOCKED!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:20 AM
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Such a turn off. I look at some of the things I used to put up with when I was younger and I am sick to my stomach. Growth is a beautiful thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:10 AM
249

Exactly! I was like oh this is where I was supposed to say “how high?” when he said “jump!” Lol sir, you have got me all the way fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:29 AM
299

Well he didn’t waste any of my time because I didn’t stop working on my project. I completed my work, delivered it to the client and am back to working on the next leg of the project. Thank goodness I have a full life that I enjoy! That 2 minute phone call was enough to have him blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:26 AM
1

Oh he will definitely abuse the children and whatever woman has them for him. He’s abusive. I had an ex who used to yell at his dog so bad the dog started peeing out of nervousness. He was such a sweet pit bull. He ended up running away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:26 AM
1

The oversized hoodie and the dirty car has me hollering!! 😩🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:24 AM
2

“I don’t wanna shame him…” GIRL! WHERE IS YOUR SELF PRESERVATION?! Call the police and run like the wind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:20 AM
5

My moms boyfriend does damn near all of these and I liked him until I took a ride in his car. It was over for me after that. This type of behavior is scary and telling. If he’s willing to put your life in danger then that should tell you everything you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:07 AM
6

Wow that’s a lot of words to just end up saying “I’m a gold digger” 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:11 AM
3

This is her SISTER. Wtf!! If she doesn’t take her sisters side and leave that creep ass husband of hers... she will regret losing her sister over this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:16 AM
1

My sister recommended this book to me years ago and every time I read it, I appreciate my wild woman ways even more. I think this is a great read for women of all ages as it touches on the different stages of womanhood - daughter, maiden, mother, crone. The way it’s written is incredible too because the author documents different stories from all over the world and then breaks down all the symbology and meanings within the stories. It’s truly mind blowing. Especially the Blue Beard story (what h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:21 AM
2

What in the world?..... THIS IS RAPE! Holy hell. This is rape and sodomy. I am disgusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:03 PM
11

Nana is spittin straight facts! She’s absolutely adorable, too 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:06 AM
5

So.... cross the street? Got it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:37 PM
9

Just sending you love, Sis. It’s not easy changing careers but I love that you want to use your degree to help other women in similar situations. We need more people who care in social work and I hope that your transition is smooth and peaceful 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:45 PM
9

I just had this discussion earlier this week, OF is not “easy money”. Unless you’re in the top percentage of creators your earning power is capped and the risk is higher than the reward. In one breath women will say that they are in control of what gets posted to their OF and that they have the power but in the next breath they say that it’s a challenge to create, curate and market the content. So which one is it? Is it an easy hustle that takes minimal energy or is it a high risk gig that force…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:15 PM
2

Yeah and that is something that I’ll never do. It just looks crazy to me and when I see women my complexion ending up 3 shades lighter I wonder what kind of effect that has on them in the long run. It’s is weird and so common place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:39 PM
24

I don’t wear makeup in my day to day. I spend a decent amount on quality skincare, drink lots of water, take my vitamins and get lots of rest. I pass for 22-23 and I’m 35. I didn’t wear makeup until I was an adult mostly because cosmetic companies barely had anything that matched my rich chocolate complexion. I find that a lot of the makeup techniques that some younger women have adopted that were popularized by drag culture and stage makeup. There is no need to heavily conceal, contour, bake, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:45 PM
101

Lip smackers!! Omggg you brought back some memories. The pink lemonade was my fave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:13 PM
4

I saw a tweet the other day along the lines of “men will ask if they can ask you a question and then proceed to sexually harass you.” I hollered!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:00 AM
72

You should def make that channel! I’d watch. I’ve been researching the trucking/transport industry and I’m intrigued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:41 AM
3

Vera Wang is STUNNING!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:53 AM
35

It’s very dehumanizing. I had a friend ask me this before and I was so offended. When I told her that I was offended she got upset with me. This same woman also admitted later on that she was going along with it to make him happy and it was never enough. I was like well SURPRISE SURPRISE 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:08 PM
42

And she looks fantastic at 50. At 70 she will be equally stunning and her child will be WELL cared for. They can die mad 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:21 PM
93

Thanks Sis. It was very upsetting and I really felt betrayed by my friend. When I ended the friendship she acted confused and blamed it on my “new involvements” with my church. Like girl. Really?! The boyfriend got more depraved after that incident. He found some unstable girl in another state who “needed a pimp” and started pimping her on social media. My “friend” was okay with this until she realized he was also sleeping with the girl and lying about it. But I’m “vanilla”. Okay 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:35 AM
47

These are the same women who are mad when their man patrons a sex worker or a strip club. You don’t get to proposition unsuspecting women for your mans enjoyment. She and that man can go straight to hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:33 AM
134

I’m sorry you went through that. Especially as a teenager because why wouldn’t you feel betrayed? That’s a grown ass woman who should have been protecting you instead of trying to exploit you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:32 AM
137

It’s the audacity of it all to think that everyone is supposed to cater to your husbands/boyfriends desires. I literally fell out with a friend over this shit. The friend and her ex used to swing. I knew this but I minded my damn business. One night we went out to a bar and the boyfriend stuffed his ENTIRE HAND in between my butt cheeks and when I turned around he said “(friends name) said it was okay 😳” Oh that’s what she said, huh? Did anyone think to ASK ME before just offering me up? He’s lu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:30 AM
339

It’s that fake cool girl bullshit. The husband was 100% being pervy about you and she picked up on it. So to “get ahead of the curve” she propositioned you to convince herself that she was cool with it. These women don’t realize the world doesn’t revolve around their mans dick. Just because you worship it doesn’t mean every other woman has to! GTFOH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:22 AM
259

She thinks she’s being progressive. I’m so grossed out by these types of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:18 AM
284

Just came across this on IG. The fucking AUDACITY of this woman to ask another woman this. I have so many thoughts about this shit but it mostly boils down to women feeling like they have some type of “control” in their relationship by agreeing to threesomes and approaching women to have sex with their husbands. I’m sorry but who tf does this woman think she is? “We found you attractive”? Oh so you think that’s enough to proposition a single woman with the offer of some of your husbands dick? Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:10 AM
1

This was my argument as well. Where is the draw if men can access sex for free on p*rbhub or OLD? What are you selling that isn’t already being sold or given freely? I am truly confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:24 AM
2

I literally had this conversation today with one of my younger homegirls. She claimed it was “easy” money. I was like girl, you are the talent, videographer, stylist and marketer. Where and how is $10-20 a pop on OF giving you what you’re worth for all those jobs? I only replied because they had posted a screenshot of an OF creator who had $60k in their account but there was a small banner that said this person was in the 0.14% of creators. I was like so what are the other 99.86% of folks gettin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:20 AM
42

I love a good wide legged pant and a maxi dress but it doesn’t get easier, unfortunately. I was born, raised and live in NYC. It’s been hell since I was about 10 years old. Hell, my father dressed me in men’s clothing until I was 17 and it still didn’t help 🤦🏾‍♀️ I just wish we didn’t have to center so much of our day to day lives around degenerate men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:54 AM
17

11 years a girlfriend. Whew. Sounds depressing, ma! He would marry the next girl in 6 weeks if he thought she would leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:55 PM
1

I’m here for it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:25 PM
15

I just don’t do it anymore. I knew OLD was getting to be too much for me when people I knew in passing, in my neighborhood, were recognizing me on dating apps. I was very embarrassed! One guy was like “you’re too cute to be on here” I was like “I know, I’m getting off right now! 🏃🏿‍♀️💨” Put on a cute outfit and go outside, beloved. There’s no reason to showcase your best pictures like some kinda Sears Catalog for coochie. Get rid of the dating apps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 08:03 AM
45

The question is so disrespectful and when I was younger I couldn’t put my finger on what bothered me about it. Men who are genuinely interested in you will never ask you this question!! Only a man who’s trying to SCAM you will ask this shit. First off there’s no such thing as equality in dating. You are taking a safety risk to be alone with a man, let alone get intimate with him. The time and money you’ve spent to prepare for the date is significantly higher than what he’s spent to prepare. Preg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:46 AM
3

Well I guess you don’t have a friend anymore. This is terrifying and so uncalled for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:08 AM
44

My ex used to make comments about being able to feel the strings and he acted like such a baby about it. He wanted me to get it taken out and I was like hell no. I told him he should be happy he was getting any pussy in the first place. Ugh. Men are exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:57 AM
1

I love TeaMarrr!!! She has so many great songs. “Doing it Wrong” is another banger of hers that I love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:11 AM
37

This man is a biohazard. It’s a wonder she hasn’t gotten pink eye from his nastiness. I’m disgusted!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:06 AM
1

This!! All of this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:25 AM
2

Same. I am, and have always been, extremely protective of the people around me. I have way too much bravado and I don’t have enough sense to back down when I should. Lol I’m laughing but I will probably end up murdering someone if they tried to come at me or mine like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:00 AM
3

This is heartbreaking. I literally shuddered when he screamed at her. Gosh, I hope that babygirl got out of there. This was scary to watch,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:52 AM
1

Ol boy looks like a complete psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:41 AM
1

Add in Queen Nzinga of Angola/the congo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:22 AM
15

Years ago I came across this horrible YouTube channel. This black dude was giving detailed instructions on how to take advantage of black women/which ones to target. He recommended looking up cities where wages were low and picking women who seemed desperate, financially unstable or who were single mothers of small children. He had different videos for different cities. This was about 8 or 9 years ago. I was horrified and sick to my stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:44 AM
66

I just left that thread. I kept seeing referrals to JHS and HS. I was so confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:13 AM
1

I think it takes a lot of deprogramming to get to a place where you love the way you look when you get up in the morning. I stopped chemically straightening my hair over 15 years ago and every so often I still have moments of insecurity about my natural hair. Beauty is social privilege. I’m not about to argue with anyone about that. But I’d be lying if I said I enjoy my beauty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:06 AM
15

And sis, not for nothing, you don’t even know if it’s true (him being a single dad). I’m not saying he shouldn’t have a life of his own but if he was out since 3am and ready to spend the night out, who was watching the children? Did he even call his girls to wish them a good night? Something was def off about that one. Glad he took himself out of the running.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:02 AM
17

The bar is in hell 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:44 AM
3

An ex of mine told me his ex threw a coffee mug at him while they were arguing. Then maybe a week later he said he ran into another exes mother at a takeout spot in his neighborhood and she started cursing him out over what happened between him and her daughter. He never said exactly why these women were yelling and throwing things at him. 6 months later I was yelling and throwing things 😩😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:43 PM
5

As a woman who’s hilarious, I find this hilarious!! It’s true, no one likes a woman who’s naturally funny/charming/witty because it totally upends the notion that only men get to be these things. Don’t be attractive, too. I used to be confused as to why certain men didn’t like me and now I am 100% assured as to why and IDGAF 💗✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:24 PM
5

See you done fucked up cause I look like my father, sir. You want me to send you a pic of a 60 some odd year old man or is that too forward thinking for you? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:58 PM
13

I was 15 when my aunt told me: “men are the new b.1tches.” That was 20 years ago. Every so often I remind her that she is an incredible psychic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:12 AM
28

I was assisting my mom at a baby shower. She was the photographer. A young man kept trying to chat me up all night and was being flirty. He was the father of the unborn child. Flirting at his own fucking baby shower. My mom and I were mortified and so happy when we were cleared to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:49 AM
18

That part! I’m celibate but at any moment I can stand outside and in 5 minutes there’s dick being offered. I’m good! Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:47 AM
6

And Kevin Samuels hates women. Full stop. He gets off on humbling/humiliating women under the guise of constructive criticism. The thought that we will not engage with anything that doesn’t fit our standards just fries their microchips. The man is short circuiting. Someone get the fire extinguisher.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:43 AM
3

Yikes. Imagine being this dusty AND ignorant. Pick a struggle, bruh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:41 AM
3

The Fuck You Fund - also known as “mad money”! Ladies, always have your own so you can dip and be secured when you’re good and ready. Hope you and your bestie have a great time in yalls new apartment!! And congrats on the raise, Queen✨💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:48 PM
1

If I spend $40-$50 on takeout for myself on a regular night, why would I leave my house for coffee with a man who claims to be interested in me? Does not compute!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:26 AM
5

While I don’t recommend letting yourself get swept up in a crush to the point where you’re unproductive and unfocused, I do think there’s something magical and special about love. I love love. I’m a hopeless romantic at heart and I make sure I’m super loving and protective of my friends and family. I have a lot of love to give. There’s no reason for me to act like that’s not how I operate but I can only give my love to a gentleman who is on the same wavelength as me. Someone who’s gonna put me f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:49 PM
29

Thank you! I was slightly embarrassed because I didn’t mean to lose my temper but I was so disgusted by his actions and comments. I couldn’t just sit by and let both me and my father be disrespected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:23 PM
20

Thank you! I was so upset that we weren’t going to make it to the dinner. Being late brings my anxiety to a head and I was so upset. Im so grateful it didn’t ruin the evening and that dinner went well. Exactly! Our time is just as valuable and he didn’t seem to think he was being disrespectful to us at all. I thought it was in poor taste and showed that his character is questionable as hell. I hope I never have to engage with him again cause I hold a grudge like no other. I’ll never forget how h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:21 PM
54

Facts. Just love yourself, Sis. Because there’s too many folks invested in you hating yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 01:38 PM
1

Whew. THIS IS LOUD!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:04 PM
1

That attic probably stinks to high heaven. The whole thing just made me gag 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:04 AM
4

Not trying to be funny but how could he have checked off your boxes when all of these things happened before y’all even met in person?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:20 AM
2

The problem with FDS is that it’s bringing women from different cultures, countries, ages and backgrounds together on one accord: women have been programmed to take shit lying down and we don’t have to anymore! It’s one thing when we’re pitted against each other and fighting for scraps of male validation. It’s another when actively we focus on bettering ourselves and not participating in a system that tells us we’re inherently devalued for existing as women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:08 AM
8

About 5 years ago when he was outed for having a baby while playing the single man without kids game, I knew he was full of it. A few women I know didn’t think it was sketchy that he never talked about being in a relationship let alone having a baby on the way. Fast forward. He’s now doing the apology tour, promoting his new book and talking about his new found relationship with Christ. It’s so trite and cliche. He even had his wife on a live stream looking homely and talking about how they’ve b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:09 AM
1

I literally matched with this man 5 mins before he sent me this filth. I’m 35, live in NYC and I’m so confused as to how I’m supposed to take men seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:48 PM
252

See this is why y’all single. Y’all too good to eat a community dinner at the soup kitchen /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:06 PM
39

I work a pretty demanding job; it’s fun but it’s physically challenging. I get paid damn good money for it too. I’m enjoying my first couple weeks back to work after being home on unemployment since the COVID shutdowns began this spring. I took a year off a while back to explore a different career path (same industry, different job function) and for a while I enjoyed it. I was in a relationship at the time too. But it turns out I not only missed the pay rate from my original position but I misse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:17 AM
3

The thing is when most women realize the pickings are slim they build a life they’re proud of, spend time with friends and family, invest in their careers, her a hobby, join a gym and pretty much become the quintessential Fly Auntie Without Kids. When most men realize they may never get laid again they get either become super creepy/pervy/predatory or mad at the world and hyper aggressive. There’s no comparison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:18 AM
7

This is so fucking sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 09:26 PM
5

When she put the towel in the dryer I threw my phone. OH NO BABY WHAT IS YOU DOINNNN? 😩🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 07:50 AM
9

Ooh lemme put this on right now. Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:44 PM
1

I’m considering a pet and I’m doing all this research. I wish I would put that much energy into mothering a grown ass man. Hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:33 PM
3

Who has time for this?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 11:56 AM
1

Omg thanks for the awards, y’all! I’ve never gotten awards before 🥰💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:02 PM
2

Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:18 PM
78

Whewwww A WORD. My ex got mad at me once cause I was like “I’m not responsible for what you don’t understand.” And then I had to tell him that I didn’t think he’d ever understand me. He was PISSED. But wtf? I’m not about to keep explaining my existence to you when everything about me is an issue. Sounds like a personal problem, dude 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:28 PM
24

I just celebrated a birthday and I spent it literally going to church and hanging with my homegirls. I’m an initiate of 2 ATRs (African traditional religions) and I’m very devout. Over the years I have lost friends and lovers because they either don’t like my spiritual practice or I got a whiff of something not being right and ended the relationship. For a while I was without a spiritual home and just worked on myself. In the past year I’ve gotten close with my new spiritual family and I’m very …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:16 AM
6

Jesus H Christ on a cracker. HE MADE A RING AND GLUED RHINESTONES ON?! GIRL!!!! WHAT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:02 PM
48

Stop going back and forth with these men. They know how to behave, they just want to play dumb and have you lose your mind in the process. Save your sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:58 PM
15

Whew!! This is the importance of having good elders in our life. Thank goodness for your dad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:12 AM
1

The good guy one has me HOLLERING. Wasn’t Chucky a “good guy” doll? 😩🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:20 PM
1

FORTY ONE!!! Whew she’s stunning. And no, I don’t want to spend the night. I like my own bed, linens, clean bathroom, smell goods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 11:13 AM
11

He’s not a HVM and have you read the handbook? You’re giving blow jobs and not getting off yourself? Big NOPE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 04:55 PM
2

As much as I love Cardi I hate how much she lowers herself for this man. It’s so embarrassing and damaging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:17 AM
33

This sounds like the most basic boring shit ever. I don’t want that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:35 AM
12

These look so yummy! This is a great way to love on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:50 PM
3

That part really annoyed me. If I show up and a man is half way through his meal, I’m leaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:51 AM
1

Is it wrong that when I read the lame, good girl line that I saw myself saying “why yes, yes I am.” While smiling and pulling out my current crochet project lmao. Like how rude can you be? Inviting a woman to a sport bar/chain wing spot and already being half way through your meal before she gets there? Touching and carrying on from the minute she sits down? Pressure cooking the date for 15 raggedy ass minutes?! The bar is in hell. And that man is a rapist. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:49 AM
2

Throw some hot grits on his ass. Okay lemme stop. But I’m saying this woman has gotten burned and maimed. The least she can do is give him the good ol Al Greene 😩😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:49 PM
6

The funniest part of all her videos is that the co-host is her mama 😩🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:57 PM
1

Speak up and say you do not want to go to their houses. Then you call your Uber or get in your car and go home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:01 PM
5

She’s being deceptive with this video. There is no way that you should or could treat every man from a place of love. You don’t know these men! You don’t know why they’re coming towards you! You don’t owe them a loving vibe just because they’re paying attention to you. You are lovely which means they are trying to figure out how to stick around to enjoy the feeling you bring when they’re around you. That is a privilege. Men know this. She’s playing dumb for views.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 05:57 AM
3

This is really making me think about the body builder I was with at 19. Towards the end of our relationship he was benching at least 500 lbs daily and he would fly into these rages. Damn this is really eye opening. I never thought that he could have been on steroids!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 05:43 AM
87

She had me in the first half 😩🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 05:07 AM
36

Long story short; he’s not a HVM. He doesn’t want to take the time to figure out when it would be appropriate to take you out again? He doesn’t think you’re worth it or he wants to test you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:49 PM
5

43 and this is what he’s offering? Sir, take those salt and pepper balls and go sit down somewhere. He sounds like he will be rude as hell and entitled to boot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:38 PM
9

She’s better than me. I would put ex lax in his protein shake and sardine oil in his gym shoes. Chilli powder in his fucking boxer briefs. To hell with him and his controlling ass. I would fuck with his peace of mind so bad. Ugh. I hate reading this type of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:28 AM
53

It’s so scary and sad reading some of these AITA threads. Like girl. You can leave!! You should!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:17 PM
2

The “excuse me?” has me cracking up!! 😩🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:38 AM
5

“Men are like dessert!” Best quote ever 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:44 AM
13

They’re way too common. It’s really sad but this ride or die mentality has to be put to rest. It’s too risky and not worth the emotional or financial strain. I always say the man for me will look at me and say: “That’s the one! Hold my beer, I’ll be right back.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:48 PM
3

In the middle of a damn pandemic and he’s bragging about having a lot of sex. I was so confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:17 AM
7

I called myself joining bumble last weekend. I matched with a few guys and bit the bullet to send a message. Me: hey! Did you get to do anything fun this summer or did covid ruin it? This mf’er: I had a lot of sex lol. U? Me: unmatch I also deleted my profile and the app altogether. I CANNOT deal with the levels of fuckery that OLD in NYC has to offer. I downloaded a few more books to my kindle and went on with my day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:34 PM
3

I experienced a home robbery a few years ago. It was around the time my ex was trying to get back with me. I told him I needed him to come and take me to run errands to secure the house. He sent me some money to change my locks but kept playing games about actually coming over. “If I come I can only stay for a few hours.” I was so confused but it was a game to him. He wanted me to beg for help. I told him “if you can’t come and stay the night, don’t come.” And I never heard from him again. That …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:47 PM
11

“Men Don’t Love Women Like You” by GL Lambert is pretty good. He has some articles on his website that are really helpful too - farfrombasyc.com
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:09 PM
15

You don’t have time for therapy but you have time to date?! Girl. Pull yourself together, love. Read the handbook. Take this guys dog to a boarder and move on from this situation. You need to get centered on your healing and establishing boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:11 AM
8

If you gave every man your attention who asked for it you would never get from point A to point B. There are appropriate public spaces: museums, art galleries, classes, workshops, seminars, etc. Strange men off the street? You don’t owe them your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:36 PM
18

My dad is a contractor so growing up my summers involved being his helper. I hated it at first but since he was always working it was the only way I could get one on one time with him. When I was 12 he taught me how to use a wet saw to cut tile and showed me how to lay them with grout. I know how to Sheetrock and sand. I know how to do demolition. I currently work for a union and I get to do all these things and get paid nicely for them. The other women who work with me sometimes get upset becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 10:51 AM
14

I’m super sweet with my girlfriends but I have a rep with them for being a hard ass as well. It’s always out of love and I’m very protective of my girlfriends! That being said I love having them over and doting on them with good food. Oh and I giving them gifts. We always give each other little things we think the other would like. It really helps to have outlets to be sweet and nurturing without cheapening your value on these LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 10:41 AM
2

“10. Go home with a stranger only to make out all night and get them all riled up with sex fever but don't give it up. It will remind you of your sexual prowess, which is always a good thing.” Excuse me, bitch?! This is how people get killed!! Omg this is dangerous as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:56 AM
4

Stop letting this man live with you and your child. Dating for 6 months!! That’s it?! And you have him living with you and your kid. Think about what you just wrote here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:36 AM
3

Sir. With all due respect, go fuck yourself 🙄 This is why men feel that unless a woman is connected to them, they don’t have to treat them with any respect. It took your sister having to crash on your couch to see that you were an abusive POS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:23 AM
6

Why are you still pining for this man? Focus on your blessing right now - your new gig and financial opportunity. To hell with him and her! This is about you!! Stop speaking to this man. If you want to talk about your feelings write them in your journal. You don’t owe this man conversation and you don’t owe this woman space in your head while you’re on the clock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:49 AM
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I love the spin on this!! Book club friends for life 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:17 AM
10

“First of all, all guys want to be the prize” Who lied to these men?! bangs on table I demand answers!! Lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:15 AM
1

That seems to be the trend lately - saying the quiet part out loud. Nobody even has time for a little razzle dazzle lmao just BOOM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:10 AM
1

Holy hell. What in the American Psycho is this shit? I had to sit up in bed to get my bearings. Wtf did I just read?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:09 AM
1

barf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:06 AM
2

Girl. You wrote a whole dissertation when you should have just blocked and moved on with your day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:04 AM
28

And she’s still sitting beside this man like he’s talking about the loss of his job. GTFOH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:15 AM
84

If you ask a man “what are your intentions?” you don’t have to react to his response. Getting too excited or smiley at whatever he says just makes it look like you’re hoping for a specific answer. Ask these men every fucking question under the sun. Cross examine their asses like you’re the DA and he’s the perp. Put fire under that ass!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 02:26 PM
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I think it’s good to ask and just keep the answers in your back pocket. If he starts to lie (they usually can’t keep their lies straight) you’ll have enough intel to cut him off at the first whiff of a contradiction. We can ask men whatever we want. What we choose to believe has to be based on actual actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 02:24 PM
3

I’ve been single for 2 years. I do not miss: The constant bickering Listening to him go off on tangents about how I wasn’t “acting right” Constantly questioning my sanity The circular fights over nothing Realizing he had never been anywhere or done much of anything and thus, was resentful of me because I like to travel The constant jokes about him preparing to cheat on me (towards the end I ended up telling him to find a nice, dull girl and let her be enamored with his ass because he needs someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:46 AM
9

The levels of brainwashing this woman has... this is the saddest shit I’ve read in a long time. Someone tell her to make sure his life insurance is up to date. Then let something happen to his ass because holy hell, he’s beating her ass like this after 2 years?! She won’t make it to 3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:19 AM
7

It is known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:13 PM
1

Oh this would have been an extra special episode of Naked and Afraid 🥴🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:22 AM
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Sis, I feel you on everything you said! I legit got into it with my homegirl over this song and video. Everyone kept texting and asking me what I thought and I felt like such a killjoy because I am legit tired of hearing about people’s coochies. It’s just trifling and boring as hell. As a black woman I am over the hyper sexualization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:06 AM
19

“Eating good food” 💀😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:18 AM
7

Whew. I knew I wasn’t the only one. These men are BORING with about as much personality as day old bread. Nah I take that back. Old bread can at least be tasty French toast 😊🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:18 AM
8

I was talking to a guy on a dating app last summer for all of 2 weeks. He was handsome, had his own business, was childfree and out of all the men who messaged me on the app he’s the only one who read my profile in detail. However he did not ask me on a date so I let things fade to black, blocked his number and kept it pushing. Girl. Why did this man hit me up SIX MONTHS LATER on WhatsApp. We had never spoken on WhatsApp before so he had to have realized he was blocked on my regular line. On his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:56 PM
5

hugs Sis, I def know that feeling. Over the years I’ve equated being told to settle for any attention as women putting you in your place. It’s hurtful and it does nothing to collectively raise our standards as a sisterhood. I want the woman next to me to have the best - why? Because if she has the best she is unlikely to sabotage my efforts in securing the best for myself as well. That goes in any area of life. As an entrepreneur my best advice comes from other folks who have successfully made a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:48 PM
14

Having a child with someone who will leave because the best they have to offer is their sperm gag I get why women are choosing to be single moms from the outset. I’m just not one of those women and neither is my married cousin. I found it shady as hell that she would suggest anything to another woman that she wouldn’t want for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:40 PM
9

I actually called it the nanifesto by accident but I didn’t think anyone would appreciate the joke lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:39 PM
39

I’m not blaming women. I’m acknowledging that you cannot take everyone with you. An aunt of mine told me years ago to “lower my standards” - I was like 22 at the time. Another aunt, her sister, has always had a different perspective and she was the one who reminded me that not everyone is going to understand what you’re doing or why. I would never tell a young woman to lower her standards. Especially a woman I’m related to. Especially knowing what it’s looking like out here. Internalized misogyn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:46 AM
2

It’s so strange but they tell on themselves all the time. Especially when you’re an intelligent woman. Usually it comes out in an argument “you think you’re so smart!” No, sir. I’m actually brilliant and that’s why you’re mad 💅🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:41 PM
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