Dating During This Omicron Phase

Namtara · 2022-01-02T09:17:54+00:00

If he works in healthcare, I personally wouldn't take his unavailability during this time frame as a red flag. If anything, his concern for your safety is a good sign.

But you only went on one date. You should continue dating others as if he wasn't going to contact you again. You have no idea if he'll actually follow up. If he does, great, continue vetting during later dates. If he doesn't, oh well, it's not like you waited around for him.

lakat17 · 2022-01-02T17:44:32+00:00

I’ve read some articles when covid 19 lockdowns were first happening that people would have dates over zoom, order door dash so your date could have dinner, or have a Netflix party. I mean you could share a YouTube video over zoom or google hangouts and it’s like you two are together.. point is.. if he wanted to he would figure out a way.. there’s plenty of articles of how to be romantic staying home

Choco_Late_Moose · 2022-01-02T09:54:04+00:00

I know you've expressed it's not your preference, but due to the exceptional situation (corona) maybe you could suggest doing some FaceTime dating while you wait for the worst of this to blow over?
All depends on how much you dislike video calling though.

Commercial_Place9807 · 2022-01-02T17:44:27+00:00

I’m an RN. Everyone has different risk avoidant levels. I also don’t know what horrific shit this guy has seen or what his or your risk factors are. Personally for me, there’s no way I would take my mask off inside a building right now if other people have theirs off.

I would invite one person over for dinner in my home if they’ve been vaccinated and I could rapid test them and myself, but rapids aren’t available everywhere right now. I would also go for a walk outdoors with a mask on, but we don’t like walk dates. There’s also no reason why he can’t text, zoom, phone, etc.

Logotrix · 2022-01-02T09:15:16+00:00

Absolutely a legit reason.

GlitteryMoss · 2022-01-02T09:19:47+00:00

He works in healthcare. I assume he will get the scoop on when it is safe to meet in person again, and be the one to inform.

ultblue7 · 2022-01-02T16:25:25+00:00

I would definitely try a phone call/facetime next time because the peaks are going to keep increasing according to preliminary data (my data is for NYC). I actually think its a good idea to postpone so kudos to you both—I had a potential date tell me he was doing a group activity right before we would meet and I canceled. Shows a lack of awareness for how bad things are getting right now (hospitalizations are waaayyy up). I would also wait for him to contact—5 days is not a long time for medical professionals. I know residents who work 6 am to 8 pm at least everyday of the week. He might be pulling worse hours right now.

ButterfliesHurricane · 2022-01-02T09:26:43+00:00

Not advice as such from me, just wanted to say I’m in a similar situation. Met someone through a hobby (online because of pandemic) and asked me out but struggling to set a date because of covid uncertainty (it’s more me being reluctant / concerned). He is very understanding and shows continuous interest but not at all pushy so maybe in your situation I would look at similar markers? Is he expressing the same level of interest? Is he understanding? To me, the fact he is covid-responsible is a good sign. I think we need to adapt to this uncertainty for now sadly, hoping that if there is a good potential for relationship, it will happen despite the difficulties.

Keen to see what everyone else’s take on this is.

IndividualRoutine661 · 2022-01-02T12:02:22+00:00

I don’t think there’s a safe way to date rn especially for someone working in frontline healthcare.

I’d honestly advise letting this go until April or so, I wouldn’t count this against him even.

With hospitalisations about to soar it’s just not going to be possible for him to be properly available to schedule dates etc as he will be working short notice overtime or catching Covid himself very likely.

FI-REfox · 2022-01-02T22:00:31+00:00

If his actions and his words aren't matching (what he says he wants and what he actually does about it), then he doesn't know what he wants. Are you ok with dating someone who doesn't know what he wants and waiting on him to make up his mind? Only you can answer that.

2022-01-02T19:33:07+00:00

With your date being in healthcare during this surge, and the holidays, I wouldn't take the lack of a second date personally just yet. If he tries to turn you into a penpal or phonecall buddy long-term then it's definitely good to cut him off.

I'm in a similar situation and was wondering the same thing. First date was mid-dec and he asked me to go out again at the end of the first date. He's texted me several times and called a few times. I have initiated texting twice but never called except to return his.

The week after our first date was when Omicron hit and we were both concerned about it. I'm taking it as a positive that he hasn't used this opportunity to try for a house date or something else LV using the pandemic as an excuse. Also seeing whether he follows up with an idea to get together when the Covid situation improves / we get some good weather days to do something cute outside is a good vetting opportunity and a way to gauge how interested he is.

xdecadent · 2022-01-02T12:35:19+00:00

Let him reschedule. If it’s been 5 days and he hasn’t said anything he most likely isn’t planning to. However, if you want to keep talking to him then I would keep the conversation going through phone calls, not texts.

randomgirl34861 · 2022-01-02T17:05:29+00:00

This conflicts with other advice you’ve received, but I’m sharing my thoughts anyway (so you can make a decision seeing as many sides as possible.) I would not like it if a man made this choice for me… It seems way too paternal? Especially for a man who’s only been on one date with you. I don’t know how to word it exactly, but I’d feel like he sees himself as strong and resistant enough to work in a hospital, but thinks I’m so fragile that I shouldn’t even be going out to dinner. I can choose to be anything… if I wanted to be a healthcare provider would he give me trouble because he thinks it’s too risky for me? I just don’t like this. Men should be asking what you’re comfortable doing- not telling you what they think is safest for you to do. I’ve noticed men who work in healthcare sometimes give their romantic interests unsolicited health advice. I don’t care if you are a doctor, you’re not my doctor.

(Note: I am not sure of your age or health. I am a young woman in good health who chose to get fully (and recently) vaccinated. My opinion is influenced by working as a bartender and waitress this whole time in a place where masks and vaccines are not required for any employees or customers. I’m in close contact with a high volume of people every day.)

Title	Dating During This Omicron Phase
Author	Vervibes
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Date	January 2, 2022 9:01 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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