Does anyone else want a long-term partner, but also doesn’t want to live with them?

whoreallycares32 · 2022-01-07T01:41:10+00:00

There is a house next door that is set up like a duplex. It's super cute cottage built in the 40s. I got to know one side of the renters. Turns out they mirror each other perfectly with all tile and such blue on one side, pink on the other. It was a married couple back in the 40s that did this purposely to live on their own side.

melympia · 2022-01-06T20:14:34+00:00

Frankly, I'd prefer to not live together. Nothing against sleepovers (eventually), but no moving in.

While financially, this might be less than savvy, it has a number of benefits for me:

No fighting over finances and who pays what.
No one taking over my place. Me not having to uproot my life.
Me having my own space.
Me doing my own chores to my own satisfaction - and not being tricked into doing someone else's.
No pee on the loo, no stubble in the basin, no need to hide my own razor.
I wouldn't have to tiptoe around someone else's wants and needs. When I want to go out, I can go out. When I want to invite someone over - even spontaneously - I can do so.No big deal.
Going to bed when I want, how I want. No "are you coming to bed already", no nothing. (I'm a nightowl, so I stay up late and wake up late - if my job permits it.)

Edited to add another benefit: In case of separation, there's no question where I'll be sleeping that night.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2022-01-06T22:44:52+00:00

I think a LOT more women want this than "society" is prepared to admit.

FDS is about getting what YOU want, on your terms. Go for it!

MisandryFTW · 2022-01-07T01:46:37+00:00

I'm also autistic and I feel what you're saying. I have been extremely lucky to find a partner who likes alone time more than I do, who gives me space, does emotional labor, and who is just generally an awesome person. We currently share a tiny one bedroom apartment, which is difficult because she works from home and I have zero time in the house to myself, although we have different sleep schedules so I get alone time, just not with an empty house.

We both agree the ideal situation would be a 2+ bedroom where we both have our own spaces to go be alone and also shared spaces, but housing is stupid expensive.

I have never lived alone and have always been curious what it would be like. The longest I've been alone has been 2 weeks when she's out of town, and I have a ton of energy and get so many things done, although I miss her a lot and especially miss physical cuddling and being able to talk to someone at all times.

KindredMaximus · 2022-01-07T02:04:51+00:00

I knew a woman who was married over 40 years to a man, she had never lived with. They had a great marriage. She only moved in with him at the end when he needed care. I know another woman in her 70s who has had a boyfriend for over 40 years and never lived with him. They have a lovely relationship (although, I think he did cheat, sooo.. pinch of salt needed there). One of my best friends is engaged and will never live with her fiance or husband.
I also don't want to live with a man and would relish a deep connection with a sane, self-aware, consirate man. I think it's doable. I think this only gets tricky if kids are involved. I think resentment would really build when he's at his tidy home, kicking back and you're in the thick of it. But otherwise I think it's the perfect set up. It also gives you the power of leaving, ANYTIME you want and I believe that would instill, far more considerate actions into the relationship from him. You have kept your power of walking away and he needs to behave accordingly.

There is no way, my husband would have been as horrific if he thought I had options. When you are weak - men take advantage. I think your version will keep dynamics fairer. Go for it! But make sure you DO exercise that option at the FIRST infraction.

scorchedsouI · 2022-01-07T07:03:36+00:00

Honestly? Yes. I know seeking marriage is a sign that a man is interested and committed, and that it's typically encouraged within a few years of dating in FDS, but from what I see around me men often seek to marry women they want to systematically take advantage of. Women they don't want to marry are women they want to occasionally take advantage of, just for sex.

I look at marriages around me, at how even the ones that begin with "egalitarian" and genuinely sweet relationships, turn out, and I see nothing I feel like I want and need. All of them turn out the same, some more violent than others, some more mild, but they all eventually adapt to the rest of society. The man compensates for nothing and advances in his career and society, the woman always does more and is exhausted.

At the end of the day, I want what most men want. A hot long-term partner that makes a lot of money, loves me, works hard to accommodate to my needs, prepares food for me, pays for my meals and cares a lot about what I want and need. Basically, a cute male bangmaid I don't live with that invests more in the relationship than I do.

I want my own, separate space, uncontaminated by male presence that I often find triggering, and a hot partner that enhances my life but I don't have perform constant labour for.

Men want this and get it, why shouldn't we? To be honest, being single is far better than getting bossed around by a dick on legs that thinks being my husband makes him superior, so it's not like I'm scared of never getting what I want.

millennialpink2000 · 2022-01-06T20:03:14+00:00

I'm firstoarswoman of that boat. I have no desire to ever live with another human being ever again. I can't be myself. The best I'd ever consider would be apartments next door with a private entryway like a hotel or a big enough place that I've got my own space and there's a common area to socialize. I'll never share a bedroom, kitchen or bathroom with another living soul. I can't relax and be myself if someone else is there.

I know I'm going to be told this is unrealistic, but I don't care. I'm happy living alone and would never change that again for a man, regardless of how HV he is.

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-01-06T20:23:02+00:00

This is the only arrangement I'm willing to have going forward. I've already been married and grew up with lots of very loud siblings. I can't imagine sharing my bathroom or kitchen ever again or getting into another stupid argument about decor. My home is an extension of me and is part of my peace of mind.

My dream solution would be adjacent houses with a shared living room and kitchen between. Otherwise, going on vacation together and the occasional sleepover is more than enough for me.

uwillneverfindmeirl · 2022-01-07T02:12:23+00:00

I agree, I have my own place and have my own income. I need peace and quiet and solitude and some time to pursue my hobbies without having to think what to cook, what to do etc. with a man around.

The only way I can see myself living with a guy is if he is willing to pay my bills( and I’m not giving up my job.)- otherwise there’s no point.

ExistentialJelly · 2022-01-06T21:13:07+00:00

I know a woman who was married to a man for about 20 years and divorced him, got a cute lil' house (like those ones from the 90's movies where women strike out on their own) and began dating a woman.

She told her new girlfriend straight up that they would NEVER live together and there was maximum number of days she was allowed to sleep over. She was married for 20 years and was a wife, a mother, and she was never herself and she was not willing to lose herself to a relationship again. They've been together for a few years now and let me tell you, this lady is glowing.

Relationships don't fit the same mold, it's up to us an individuals to figure out what we want and need and to live honestly with it. Your want to live seperatly is completely valid.

QueenAlice3 · 2022-01-06T21:07:57+00:00

I adore living on my own. I did a five year relationship like this and loved it. I find most men want to live with us to reap the free benefits. I can’t think of any real benefits for the woman though. The money saved on rent is lost in additional groceries (even if they pay for half they eat more), cleaning (because they’re less likely to be bugged by the mess), time, and space.

naps-seductively · 2022-01-07T02:40:16+00:00

I’m so happy you made this post - this is exactly how I feel. It seems that this is becoming a more talked-about topic, and it’s amazing to know how many women feel the same!

woadsky · 2022-01-06T22:48:23+00:00

I'm older and single and have strong preferences for how I want my home to look. I am an artist, so design and colors matter to me. I've heard of LAT - Living Apart Together - and this appeals to me. Yes, the more I think about partnership, the more living separately appeals to me. Perhaps a side by side duplex. Another piece of LAT is that (in a man/woman relationship) the woman, especially, doesn't necessarily want the legal ties. If her husband becomes infirm, his family will look to her for the burden of care, but if she stays unmarried and LAT the family will have a bigger role.

I don't know about unrealistic, but you want what you want.

overit_af · 2022-01-06T20:06:15+00:00

I 100% agree with you about the needing my own space. This is what I’m after and I don’t care what anyone says about how “realistic” it is. I want (but don’t need) a partner and the right one for me will feel the same about not sharing a household.

Anecdotally, I’ve met several couples who operate this way and by all outward appearances seem quite happy. It’s very realistic. 👍💕

Edit to add: I have a lot of preferences/musts that will be a dealbreaker for many—as I hope we all do. We’re not supposed to be compatible with everyone! Keep being you, Queen.

Saga-the-fierce · 2022-01-06T20:56:31+00:00

I also want this, so you aren't alone!

As to how realistic it is... I'm not sure. But what I do know is the thought of living with someone again fills me with dread.

I value independence, space, room to declutter. I'd consider living in a very big house with someone.

I guess I feel so single right now and that's making me feel like this. I may change my mind if I meet someone.

IndividualRoutine661 · 2022-01-06T21:40:24+00:00

I’m so here for this sentiment.

I’ve been married plus lived with someone.

Whilst neither were HVM neither were they messy or untidy, but their behaviours lead me to feel unhappy in my own home.

I have also had a couple of relationships where I refused to live with them as they just weren’t clean or tidy.

My house is my sanctuary, I can do whatever I want, can have visitors, let the dogs sleep on my bed, whatever the fuck I want all the time.

No moody men to accommodate, no getting woken up, no bad tempers, no gaming, no LV behaviours.

It’s 100% worth the money .

SunflowerinVirgo0903 · 2022-01-07T00:01:16+00:00

Yes the thought of living with a man feels like modern slavery to me!! I don't know how women do it working full time and with multiple kids. I just simply don't want to cook and clean after someone constantly!!!

I struggle with just me and my 1 child who is old enough to fend for himself.

purasangria · 2022-01-07T04:23:58+00:00

I love living alone, and don't care if I ever live with anyone again.

I love the "living together, apart" trend, and think it is perfect. Diego and Frida had the right idea: Houses next door to each other, and connected by a bridge.

katiekat0214 · 2022-01-06T21:57:21+00:00

Oh yes, quite definitely, after 25 years married twice. Living apart together for the win. Strong introvert here, love having my own space just the way I want it. No sharing. I sleep all over my bed, and definitely need time to recharge after people-ing.

It's gaining traction here in N. America; pretty common in the Scandinavian countries. I'm on a FB page, Apartners, and I think I have a Kindle book on living apart together. There are articles online, too.

LiquidSapphire · 2022-01-06T20:33:08+00:00

It might be a deal breaker for some people; but you should do it anyway if that's what you want.

This is pretty common for women 50 and up.

sleepysiri · 2022-01-06T22:17:56+00:00

I am at the stage where I know I cannot share a bed with someone. It would have to be an Alaskan king bed, if not larger. But at that point, I might as well just have my own bed. And if I have my own bed, why not my own room. And if I have my own room, why not my own house and so on.

I have had roommates and lived with family and both situations were uncomfortable. I like the freedom of being able to be nitpicky with my cleaning without it feeling like I’m a woman-slave for a man who doesn’t know how to clean as precisely. I like being able to wear nothing or skimpy clothes around the house without worrying about someone else’s gaze.

Sometimes though, I think, wouldn’t it be nice to wake up in someone’s arms. Then I remind myself that’s what occasional sleepovers are for. Luckily, I have always enjoyed sleeping over with friends. Do something for the day, spend the night and leave the next day without hassle. Maybe I’ll do something like that so that my space isn’t infringed on but there’s still time for domestic intimacy.

MissouriBlue · 2022-01-07T05:54:22+00:00

I’ll not tie my chariot to another falling star again.

littlepip38042 · 2022-01-07T00:40:09+00:00

I felt the same way and that's ok. I love decorating the way I like, watching the shows I want, hanging out with my cat. I always hated roommates.

But now I've lived with my husband for 2 1/2 years in 700 sq ft apartment and...it's honestly the best. We love the same shows, we have the same decor style, eat the same, have the same cleaning habits, same financial goals, and it's only an absolute joy to spend everyday with him. Plus, he loves my cat as much as I do now haha. I don't miss living alone which absolutely shocking for me, because I love being alone. If you want to be alone, embrace that. If not, keep your standards high and sharing your personal space with someone everyday will be incredibly rewarding.

dating-adventures · 2022-01-06T20:17:24+00:00

It’s not a good idea to live together before marriage anyways - it’s a gamble because you’re giving wife benefits without a real commitment.

OrangeyPanda · 2022-01-07T05:10:46+00:00

I think the only reason you would need to live with a partner is if you have children together. If you're childfree, as many as us are, then living separately is a great idea.

WestAtmosphere · 2022-01-06T21:53:16+00:00

I agree completely with at least the part of not living with a man prior to marriage. I adore my own private space and need A LOT of time to recharge by myself. I do see the benefit though of never living together lmao, you'd only be responsible for yourself and not have to do all the housework/meal prep etc. for a man who does less. There will always be an imbalance of house work dependent on the woman even despite if the man is HV and pays for things and does a fair share. They will never know the burden of the mental load even if he is competent.

ThrowawaySleepingPup · 2022-01-06T20:33:03+00:00

I don’t think there is anything wrong with this! I mentioned in another comment my aunt did this with my uncle and she was very happy maintaining her own space and independence!

I will say thought I think most men eventually push for cohabitation because it infinitely benefits them to move in with a woman more so than a woman moving in with a man.

taschana · 2022-01-06T22:35:46+00:00

You aren't unrealistic in that. You do you, no matter what people say about it.

BoxingChoirgal · 2022-01-07T00:57:09+00:00

Women have wanted this forever, it's no secret. It's only the wealthy/royal who do it routinely.

When I(58f) was young (from age 22 onward) I stopped having roommates and would compromise on location in order to afford my own place.

Of course historically Women living alone have been looked on with suspicion... and as recently as the70s, in many places a single woman would not be given a lease regardless of her finances.

I lived alone , both before and after raising my family. Wouldn't have it any other way.

At the moment, the man in my life and I are discussing marriage.

And, he accepts 100% that even if we marry I will need to hold onto my little house, and go to my place to be alone every other week or so.

For my Ex and me, it also was understood, especially before the kids came. He kept a pied a terre and I had a more conventional apartment.

We were the only people I know who got married First, and Later moved in together. And when things were good, it was great.

There are plenty of examples of married/committed people keeping separate residences. It just costs a bit, and many people will find it odd (I think they're just jealous)

Every long-married woman I know LOVES when he goes away on business. (I mean, unless he can't be trusted, but that's another story) Or she makes excuses to "work on" the 2nd home/vacation property without her spouse-- or kids!

At the bare minimum, separate bathrooms and eventually separate bedrooms (for quality sleep, even if the sex is still good) are not uncommon when ppl can afford them

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2022-01-07T00:40:36+00:00

For some reason I hated having my ex sleep in the bed with me. I always wanted to shove him off just so I could have the whole bed for myself. So I feel you lol

faultierin · 2022-01-06T22:26:03+00:00

We are both autistic but on - due to lacking better words - a very high function spectrum, my solution was: a big flat. We live in a 70qm flat, everybody gets their space (in the end we sit in the living room anyway but not talking to each other). It is nice, I thought it would be a disaster.

But I am terrified of social progression in terms of proposal, marriage etc.

dazzles67 · 2022-01-07T07:17:46+00:00

This is totally the only way I would accept being in a relationship, after so many years of living in shared accommodation to save money. Like you, I hate having to be responsible for other peoples' messes, having to justify where I'm going, etc. Plus, having a space all to myself is just plain awesome...!

NotSoSmartChick · 2022-01-07T07:33:05+00:00

I was married almost 20 years and one of the best things about being a widow is having the house to myself. Never again could I live with someone. I'd like a long term companion that doesn't expect to spend the night.

MamaGia · 2022-01-06T20:40:52+00:00

Sounds ideal to me

mitskiismygf · 2022-01-07T04:39:14+00:00

Unless we’re living in a mansion with separate wings, I also need us to have separate places. Lol.

spacecats73 · 2022-01-06T20:05:17+00:00

Yes. I’m in my late 40’s and have lived with 2 boyfriends. I have lived alone for several years now and don’t think I could ever live with anyone again. I don’t have children either. My own space feels like heaven every time I come home.

KekeSmall · 2022-01-06T20:09:43+00:00

I feel the same way. I love having my own place, and going and coming as I please. I would also hate to inadvertently falling into the “wife” role of cooking and cleaning up after a man.

blehblahbloopboop · 2022-01-06T20:17:01+00:00

Yes I thought I was insane. I would consider living with them, but maybe have separate bedrooms. Being around anyone for a long period of time is exhausting.

intergalacticanon44 · 2022-01-07T00:12:06+00:00

Yeah, ideally I’d like to have my own space and time to exist as just myself, not someone’s wife.

Constant-Wanderer · 2022-01-07T00:56:33+00:00

I know a few couples like this. They don't seem any more or less in love than anyone else, or more or less happy. But get used to almost everyone thinking it's weird, having an opinion on it, and feeling entitled to challenge you on it.

jijitsu-princess · 2022-01-07T03:26:22+00:00

I’m 100% for this arrangement. I’ve been married 2 times. I’m raising a few kids. I don’t want to share my space, my peace or my comfort with a man.

sherbearie · 2022-01-07T10:32:38+00:00

I am on the same boat. I have ADHD and need to have my space clean and organized a certain way, I am also prone to sensitivity overwhlem, when I’m tired just talking to me or tiny noises can drive me to the edge, so the idea of living with a romantic partner isn’t one bit appealing to me. The logistics of changing flat, were I to split with the person, would also be an ADHD nightmare. So I think it’d be much better for both parties to live seperatly in my case. I also like the idea of not changing too much of my lifestyle and spending habits, then having to re-adjust in case of seperation.

xdecadent · 2022-01-07T12:02:29+00:00

I have thought about this extensively. Ideally, I’d need 3 bedrooms just for me. I need room for my religious/spiritual work, room for my businesses and room for my personal stuff. I don’t wanna live a Marie Kondo lifestyle - I love alllll of my stuff! I also don’t want to share a bathroom.

I have a few homegirls who have bought their own houses and it’s very inspiring.

ETA: after my grandfather passed, my grandmother had a long term boyfriend from when she was in her 50s until she died. They lived separate for 30 years. Then one day the boyfriends house burned down and he needed a place to stay for a while. It turned out to be THE WORST idea ever. That old man turned into a tyrant, a bully and a verbal abuser once he had to take care of my grandmother and live in her home full time. It was so sad but very indicative of why you should never live with a boyfriend.

Risoa · 2022-01-07T16:32:37+00:00

Living with my ex was the most mentally exhausting thing ever. I was a shell of myself. Watching him sit on his ass playing video games for hours and expecting me to still be attracted to him when I would spend that time working on my side business, reading or going to the gym, and that was the least abusive part. I will never forget how shitty it was and it’s made me seriously reconsider ever living with anyone again.

_mooness · 2022-01-06T23:02:37+00:00

It depends on the guy you end up dating. I’m sure there’s HVMs out there who don’t want to live with their girlfriends. Personally if my boyfriend told me he’d never want to live with me that would be a dealbreaker.

CroneRaisedMaiden · 2022-01-06T23:50:10+00:00

Yes I love my own space I’ve never lived with a partner and haven’t had a roommate in 13 years

Winesday_addams · 2022-01-07T01:05:28+00:00

There's a whole subreddit on Living Apart Together (I don't remember the url, but that's the term). It is very common!

extragouda · 2022-01-07T00:28:21+00:00

I don't think this is a deal breaker. I find that many older people, especially women who have been divorced or neurodiverse people such as yourself, would prefer to live alone because they are used to it.

Also, today I was at the store and an elderly man was lying on a couch at the entrance. At first, I thought he was napping and was a bit annoyed that he was taking up all the space. Then I noticed that he was very pale and his eyes were unfocused and I realized that he was having a stroke. I called some people over to help him: security, store manager, and a nice young man who had just come from the gym. After a while, another elderly man stopped by and said, "Michael? I think his name is Michael. I'm not sure, he lives in the retirement village, I think." We asked the guy who was having a stroke if we could call someone. He had no friends or family. He just had random people that he said "hi" to from time to time in the retirement village and the shops.

This is a fate I want to avoid. I felt a horrible sinking feeling as I left him.

I think that having a partner is important to me. I know that a lot of people say it is not, but as a person who is single and getting older, having a partner or very close friends is important. Unfortunately if you are starting over in your 40s or if you are a neurodiverse, things can get a little complicated. People are less friendly to older people, especially if you are introverted. I think that my peak "friendship making" time was my late 20s. But I lost most of those people in the divorce too. No one wanted to take sides, even though they agreed that my ex was abusive because they had seen him act like this with other women before. But I guess if they accepted his behavior with his exes, they would accept the way he treated me too.

I think if you are lucky and keep putting yourself in situations where you can meet people, you are more likely to meet someone who is going to be the right fit for you, someone who wants to be together and live apart. But it's harder to find.

LittleWinn · 2022-01-07T13:12:48+00:00

I have two long term partners and live alone. It’s doable but requires strong boundaries.

ellalovegood · 2022-01-07T17:30:49+00:00

I’ve had this conversation with my boyfriend and I’ve explained that when we start living together, it is going to be very important for me to have my own space. I’m autistic as well, so I completely get where you’re coming from. I think if you end up finding someone who’s a good match, they’ll understand your needs as long as your vocal about them. Good luck! 💕

BasieSkanks · 2022-01-07T07:46:24+00:00

Yep. Even if I’m in a relationship, I’ve decided we will maintain our own separate residences. This is very atypical, but I’m not willing to give up my personal space for the sake of a relationship. No way.

staywiththecrown · 2022-01-07T08:34:41+00:00

I want to do this, too! Even as a pick me, I would have laughed in a guy's face if he asked me to move in. The thought was insulting. I never want to live with a man again.

mandoa_sky · 2022-01-07T12:45:37+00:00

it worked for helena bonham carter

randomgirl34861 · 2022-01-07T17:48:27+00:00

I’ve always felt like this but have known for a long time that living on my own is not a realistic goal given how much money I make and how expensive the area I live in is. So I’m living with a man and since we have our own separate bathrooms and bedrooms, I like it. It’s nice to have someone to care for my cat and spend time with her when I’m not home. My bathroom is literally so pretty, peaceful, feels like an oasis and always smells nice. He knows to stay out of it and if he does happen to use it he’s very careful not to mess anything up. His bathroom is not as cute but it’s not gross and he at least keeps the lid down. We sleep in the bedroom that I designed and decorated. His is Mario themed, which is not exactly the style I would have chose for that room, but it’s a separate room so it doesn’t mess up the flow of my decor. He pays 80% of the rent plus the utilities, I also like Mario games and realistically you do have to make some compromises when you live with another person (even if it’s a platonic roommate). Because he has anxiety (like a specific phobia about food contamination) he asks what time I’d like the kitchen and then we give each other space while we are in the kitchen. It also helps that he’s very minimalist and nearly all the storage space we have is mine to use. There’s a giant closet in the master bedroom that is just for me. He loves to keep up with fashion and only has a small number of clothes at any given time, when he buys a new article of clothing he donates or sells an existing one. With platonic roommates, people often set clear boundaries and rules but I’ve noticed people don’t seem to do that when they move in with a partner. It’s not exactly a sexy conversation to have, but it is an important one.

mothboon · 2022-01-07T19:26:43+00:00

I'm hoping one day I can have my own place again. I still want to be with my HV partner, but I want my own place where I can not deal with his messes 😑

I dream of a pee-free toilet, no face hair on everything, no Gizmos and gadgets laying around in every room.. etc.etc...... lol

Just my pretty stuff and my kitties ✨😺✨

grittex · 2022-01-07T23:27:09+00:00

My partner and I have separate places and expect that to remain the case long term. When I've done small home renos I've lived with him and he's been fantastic (doing my washing, cooking, driving me to work in the morning), which is lovely, and makes me want to continue our relationship, but doesn't change either of our views on cohabitation.

If anything were to happen it would be so much easier to go our own ways - no tangled finances, no property to divide, just grabbing our things from each other's places, returning keys, and going home.

marpu_el_magnifico · 2022-01-08T05:14:16+00:00

I know i will never live with a man again. My space is my peace and it is set up just how i like it. And i am frugal where i am happy to compromise - air-conditioning, groceries, streaming subscriptions etc which were non negotiatables with my ex. But far and above the money aspect is the serenity of my own home. I actually have a self contained granny flat attached to my house, so if i ever entertain male company at my home that is where we go and they are never allowed into the "big house". When they ask why, i say that is mine and my childrens home and leave it at that! If i was to ever have a long term relationship again it would be living apart at our own homes. I will never compromise my space and sanity for a man again. They can pay their own bills, do their own washing and scrub their own toilets thanks and we can rendezvous at the granny flat on occasion.

cakewalkofshame · 2022-01-07T21:04:47+00:00

This is me to a T.

goatismycopilot · 2022-01-09T18:40:42+00:00

I would never get married again or live with a man again. I might or might not date. But he would have to be okay with my 65 pound lab mix sleeping in bed with me during the chilly months.

Title	Does anyone else want a long-term partner, but also doesn’t want to live with them?
Author	kumquat_fds
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Date	January 6, 2022 7:52 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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