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Reach180/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 10:01 PM
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Funny....I don't think I'd train like that personally. And yet, sounds like it works for you. And my way for me. Lesson, as always...this shit ain't that hard. Just keep stacking the bricks.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 08:23 PM
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Go for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 08:21 PM
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You're a fucking freak, man. How tall are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 02:39 PM
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Training vs. Performance. The experienced lifter goes there with a plan that will goose up his weights a little bit over the long haul and sticks to the plan. This is training. The inexperienced performer goes in to see what he can do today. Enough injuries and you eventually learn.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 01:56 PM
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As you age, this shit is more and more important. Little mobility moves. You figure out what your shoulder (or back, or hips) feels like a week before it seizes. You know what moves keep in on point, and so you do them while you back off. "I'll get that PR next month," you have to tell yourself. But you'll get it. Just gonna take a little longer. When you're old, and you know you're gonna lift until they bury you, time preferences change. It's better to be able to lift tomorrow than to hit that …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 01:52 PM
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Home Improvement, the 90s sitcom, was kind of riffing on that dynamic. Crowd loved Al Borland, the quiet everyman, and kind of thought Tim was more TV personality than handyman. It was obviously heightened for TV. But it was loosely based on Bob & Norm and their personas on This Old House.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/19 08:37 PM
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What kind of facts are you looking for exactly?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/19 06:08 PM
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People resented Bob Vila, but loved Norm Abram. Bob was fake, scripted, and always selling some bullshit. Bob Vila made you feel like he was hiding something or swindling the viewer. Norm was genuine, did good fucking work, and always stole the show. Lesson in there, or somethinerother.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/19 01:43 PM
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The 10% is probably from people running gear from normal T levels but there is no way its only 10% for people who actually need TRT. I could see that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 07:01 PM
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I think all these uber specific diet recommendations are simply religious narrative to make compliance feel more urgent to the dieter. "If a man has a why, he can withstand any how." The why: Salvation through insulin minimization. Or salvation through restricting when you finally allow yourself to eat. Salvation through eating whatever your narrative deems HealthyTM Just like personal finance, it's 95% behavior management. Whatever story a person needs to tell themself to manage their own behav…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 03:59 PM
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How was it? Not great. I mean, I assume it's got something to do with the balance of T & Estrogen. As I looked into it, turns out it's not terribly uncommon.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 03:51 PM
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50mg twice a week is all I do.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 03:32 PM
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I don't know that appetite has necessarily increased, I just eat less. Maybe it's a little of both. I can usually control my appetite by lowering volume in the weight room. I'm probably about due for that, actually. by IM I assume you mean IF? I kind of do it, but I don't think of it as anything except a mental strategy that allows me to eat big meals instead of small ones. On training days, I get my maintenance cals in 2 meals and a snack (all between noon and 6 PM). On off days, I eat about 12…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 03:29 PM
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Everyone thinks gear is magic. You shoot up and you magically turn into a fitness model. Yup. I don't have experience with anything more than Test injections. But that's what I always thought until I did it. It took a good 4 months on T before I noticed anything different in the weight room. And what I ended up putting together was that I could eat way less than I was and not lose muscle. Which, that's great if I want to get more cut. So I diet harder, stay big & strong, and the fat falls off. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 01:43 PM
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That woman is a fucking lunatic. Nobody is going to read her book.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 01:05 PM
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Still can't pee in the sink, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 11:54 PM
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Right. I understand that practice is for practicing. A coach or peer telling someone "You need to work on X because you're not always going to be the strongest guy on the mat"...or "You're not going to get any better that way" Coded insults about how "I'm actually better than you if you weren't such a good athlete/strong/fast/whatever"...fuck that guy. Don't be him, don't associate with him.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 07:19 PM
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If you are tall enough to dunk without jumping but can’t shoot a foul shot to save your life, yes, you suck at basketball. You literally described a couple of the 10 best basketball players to ever live. I get that there's an art to a lot of these things, and guys want to master the art. I'm a shot putter. Everyone looks up to the explosive guys with beautiful technique. But the name of the game is to put the ball out there farther than the other guy. And so if a big oaf can beast it out there w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 04:03 PM
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"you could only do what you did because you're stronger than I am, and therefore have little actual skill." So BJJ gyms are filled with the same petty fags my that I played basketball with in elementary school recess? "You only won because you're tall" "OK"
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 03:39 PM
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Women fill idle time with bullshit requests. Be busy with something worthwhile.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 09:01 PM
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Don't worry about the 10 year old knowing, or being grossed out. 8 year old too. They'll only walk in on you once. Afterward, they'll tred very carefully. Seriously...kids should associate a healthy sex life with a good marriage. You obviously don't announce what's going on, but don't hide it from them. If your kids are safe - ie, capable of not harming themselves if left alone (thinking of the 1 year old here), then go fuck whenever. Secure some privacy and do it, just like you would if you nee…
/r/askMRP28/06/19 02:54 PM
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Holy shit, what a timely post for me. Between you and /u/inchargeman , it's been a hell of a week for the MRP mid-timers. Right now I'm in the middle of a massive shift that is completely changing my understanding of what I envisioned 'end game' to look like. I'm literally just cresting over the hill to glimpse the landscape you're living in and describing. I look forward to seeing what I'm going to experience here, and what comes next. I love your take on women being fed this same BS expectatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 02:38 PM
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Sepean, you're hands down the best commenter/poster here.
/r/askMRP25/06/19 01:15 PM
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It's weird though, a lot of what you describe is peoples unrealistic expectations Absolutely true. And in those last few years, he hasn't done much with regard to managing them. Unlike some in the space, I don't begrudge anyone out there for trying to take the next step in terms of monetizing and visibility. He's just doing a bad job of it. See, that's the thing about "marketing yourself". You put yourself out there as the guy with answers, and people are going to expect the answers. And when yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/19 02:31 PM
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Great post. Thanks. So as you deviate from mrp orthodoxy, was there anything you read that influenced you to go the route you chose? Or did it just kind of click as you started on the first few steps? Was that a feel thing for you? This feels right, this works, I don't need this, etc?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/19 11:54 AM
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I can already see people attempting to do that by attacking him, in spite of having no real content of their own to replace it with. I don't know him like you do, but to the general public, he's most visible on Twitter. The persona he's unveiled there is somewhere between bitchy boomer-posting and sensitive Gamma. One of the OGs used to come around here talking about Pathos all the time. Rollo is the anti-Pathos. Rollo decided to give the space what it wanted, which was "More Rollo"....at the ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 09:45 PM
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I look pretty fucking amazing and get constant attention. Then quit obsessing over your weight and bask in the glory of your Adonis physique.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 05:38 PM
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have to double my calories if I want to do that and I have a phobia of gaining body fat and losing my abs Abs on a skinny guy are like big tits on a fat chick. You really think she wouldn't look better 60 lbs lighter and a C cup instead of FF? Same for you. You've got to get over the fear of losing your fake abs. Put on some muscle and build real ones. I suspect you're not actually strong enough to put on the muscle you want. I always think smaller guys do too much bodybuilding BS with weights t…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 03:36 PM
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Do you have any evidence that divorce is not harmful to children? I also don't have evidence that whatever replaces it, in this particular situation, would be better. My dad is overweight. Not like sloppy tub of goo overweight, just ex football player with a gut overweight. But he was injured, sick, and miserable with his body for as long as I can remember. Even in his early 30s, I remember him always having health issues and injuries related to being overweight. When I got to that age and start…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 06:58 PM
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Hooray for unreplicable fake science to validate what we already want to believe!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 05:23 PM
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As a troubled child of divorce myself, Maybe don't blame your parents divorce for your problems. Children come out of in tact married families fucked up too. I talked to a woman just yesterday who told me about how she feels responsible for her parents miserable marriage, because they stayed together for her and her sisters. Having problems fucks you up, having no problems and nothing to overcome fucks you up. Being poor fucks you up, being spoiled fucks you up. There's no goldilocks just right.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 03:04 PM
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PMS is no different than any other type of bad behavior. Don't treat it like a special thing. When I fast, I get bitchy. I keep it to myself. It's possible to for a person to not allow their mood to control them. She'll check herself when she wants to impress you someone. Worry about yourself.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 05:33 PM
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That's some nice progress...but probably time to pile on some muscle. 5.11 175 is pretty thin. Muscular 195 is much better. IMO, find your maintenance calorie number and hammer at the weights. Since your body's inclination is fatty, you dont need to bulk. Find maintenance and see how that feels and get strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 09:25 PM
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Height: 5'11 Weight: 185 BF: Need to lose 10 more lbs. Bro, you need to gain 15-20.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 03:22 PM
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Total cost ~ $150/m I pay out of pocket for TRT and it costs me less than that. Aside from the cialis & creatine, you're buying placebo. So maybe just convince yourself that steak will raise your T, and then you can at least enjoy an extra $150 worth of steak per month.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 03:00 PM
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+1 - In addition to the stomach issues Ibuprofin is known for, my TRT doc hypothesized that long term use of ibuprofin in my years as an athlete may have been a causal factor for the primary hypogonadism (body unable to produce the amount of T that my brain calls for) I experience now. Anymore, I don't fuck with ibuprofin or tylenol. If my body hurts, chances are I'm doing something wrong somewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 02:53 PM
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If I didnt note initially, I'd reiterate that the super low calorie days thing is a short to medium term strategy. I started in March and did it until this week and got impressively lean. So I've done it for 10 weeks. Great for that last few lbs when you're motivated, but tough to manage as an all the time thing. I'm cycling off it for a bit just to take a break....it still works, but i struggle to sick to it week after week. Especially on Saturday, which is my weekend off day. I'm also supersti…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 06:26 PM
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Highland games are a lot of fun. Testosterone & camaraderie at these events is off the charts. And chicks dig kilts.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/19 01:25 PM
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https://www.google.com/search?q=TRT
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 05:02 PM
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People respond to the incentives presented to them. Wishing the incentives different is like wishing the force of gravity was less.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 03:44 PM
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When you're busy with Twitter battles and 21con CJs, new ideas aren't as plentiful.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 03:17 PM
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Enough thirsty dudes out there that this comeuppance for uppity bitches that so many guys here seem to relish the idea of.....never really happens. Unless they get obese.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 01:06 PM
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I need to look into supplements to help with fat loss and muscle building. I’m at a point where fat loss is very slow but I do not want to drop calories more as that impacts lifts and energy. Any thoughts here on how to jump start dropping these 5-6 lbs of fat I want to burn? Cut training down to just your main lift and 1-2 accessory moves. Keep the weights consistent, but don't look to push it. You're maintaining. Fast on the days you don't lift. Have a dinner of about 1000 calories on those da…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 05:09 PM
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To wit, /u/TurdDoctor : There was a time my wife wouldn't send nude Snaps. And I really wanted her to. And I fully admit that, while the nudes are nice, I mostly liked the thought of bringing this wall down. I mean, I can see my wife's naked tits any time I want to. I can pull up pics on my phone of better tits, and look at those. So why did I want these? Why did I want nudes of my wife? How often do we ask the question here "do you really want X, or do you just want the validation" The validati…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 04:06 PM
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But where does this come from? I think this comes from wanting validation and puts me inside her head. I should stay the hell out of her head and just do what I want. Why the hell do I care what's inside her head anyway, she doesn't even know what's in there, why should I care? I think it's also pursuing love in the way I want to be loved, which she is incapable of doing (Rational Male 101 stuff). In my opinion, pursuing desired sex vs sex is kind of like putting the pussy back on the pedestal. …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 03:17 PM
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You're grasping at straws here. You just don't know what you're talking about and continue to try and hold your ground. The post here isn't the entirety of my story, just the relevant details. You want to pick at it as if every thing you aren't seeing is neglected. You're a fake-ass JackTen. Or maybe the real one, stumbling around in right field like a past his prime Willie Mays.You're flat out full of shit, and only operate from the theoretical. However, as you say, it doesn't get you the sex y…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 11:13 PM
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Look at yourself: you have turned yourself from a schlub into a highly desirable man in only three years. If you could do that, you could move into a series of much better jobs, which would boost your self-esteem, your SMV, and increase your family's happiness as a result. However, you haven't done that yet. What's holding you back from brushing up your resume, and networking like a motherfucker? Is it because you think that's scary, but it's easier to point the finger at how your wife needs to …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 04:41 PM
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I couldn't let go of the past This is going to be it. And it's a Me problem, I realize. Whether I can move past it, or I can't shake the baggage. To be determined.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 12:49 AM
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I'm sure we can track down the one other guy who gave you an upvote.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 10:18 PM
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What strikes me is that you gave two vague complaints saying I was wrong, then talked about how you feel about your job, but haven't refuted any of my specific points. Sure. Summarize the key ones and I'd be happy to. But I'm not going to pick through this pile of hubris. As far as I can tell, a few of your greatest hits are that I should: Stay the course as long as it takes for her to feel comfortable. (The Marriage Counselor Model) Leave a lifestyle I enjoy for a job I don't want so I can make…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 10:15 PM
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You literally took my words, strikethru'd them, and then wrote 10,000 words interpreting your own words. I appreciate the effort here, but picking apart phrasing from a novice writer isn't going to net much critical insight. Also, my job is a paycheck that allows me plenty of means to pour my effort into exactly what I want to do with my time on my own terms. It's literally my favorite thing I about my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 12:14 AM
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I'd be interested in your story, especially if you're getting what you want. Also, there are some aspects to my approach that are less MRP mainstream, Anymore, there's more scripture quoting here than is useful. Maybe your path won't work for everyone, but knowing where other guys stray from orthodoxy and succeed or fail is the only way to evolve 'this'.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 09:38 PM
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Taking this in, you hit on some things. I don't really have a response, except that I think you're mostly right. I've accepted some here already - i mean, obviously ONS sex is going to be different than a typical Wednesday with my wife who I've been with since 1995. But there are still things I'm not getting that I'm looking to get from wife. They won't make it similar to ONS, but I think they may bring me closer to what I want to get here. Maybe I get it, and then want to move the goalposts aga…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 06:38 PM
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All fair points, I guess we'll see. I don't look at this talk as a fork in the road, but a re-establishment of expectations. So if I'm not ok with how this turns out, I'm in no worse of a position than I was a month ago. Pedantry aside, lack of desire vs. not knowing how I want the desire expressed are different things. Expecting the magical female intuition to figure it out because dread seems kinda retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 06:04 PM
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Yep....this is my read. "Fuck it, it's too hard" is more the source any dissatisfaction my wife has than "is this the best I can do". I'm so far over the idea that she might be fucking someone else, it doesn't phase me. My oneitis for my wife the unicorn was long gone very early on. I may still be clinging to some oneitis for the all inclusive idea of my current 'life', I suppose. But there are not really an cash and prizes to be had. As I say in the background post, we moved where we live for h…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 04:11 PM
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As I say to johney, I wouldn't recommend saying this out loud except as the absolute last stop on your way out the door. And not the 8 year old "I'm running away from home" step out the door. If you're only 95% serious, and only 95% sure of your options, it will be obvious.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:12 PM
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They get to have the time to grow up together and they seem to compliment each other more like a true couple rather than 2 individuals settling. In relationship terms, I've enjoyed this. It's one of those things people who tell you 'don't get married young' don't understand. But it's also one of those things that makes polarity that much difficult. And it makes it more difficult to know what you actually want than someone who went through the 'fucked up mating dance'. There's nothing to compare …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:08 PM
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More or less, I suppose.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:43 PM
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You reached the point I was at two years ago. So what's next after this point? Where are you at now? Black-Pilled cynic? Chasing something else?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:42 PM
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My question for you is more centered around the why of tearing down the boundaries because I think it matters. The why doesn't really matter. The why is just a story we tell ourselves. I can't ever actually know why. I can hypothesize about it, and convince myself that it is why, but it's only ever going to be a hypothesis. I get your point about the piss drinking/validation. I've put myself through the wringer on that for a long, long time. And I've been able to separate a lot of things into th…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:34 PM
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you just want someone whom you didn't need to instruct to desire you. I don't think so. Wife desires me. I think she felt justified in just doing what she wanted. People, women especially, are good at projecting their satisfaction onto others. "This is good enough for me, this is good enough for US". Leading and dread get to a certain point, but sometimes more drastic acts are necessary to shake her into reality. I wouldn't tell anyone to take what I do here overtly as a step to get what they wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:27 PM
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The toughest part is when sex is only really good and you have to put on your pants and walk about because you want it to be super awesome. It’s hard to walk out on good sex, but when I didn’t I just kept resenting her Thanks for this. Very helpful insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 01:53 PM
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successfully chase and taste that super-sweet, sick validation This validation thing is obviously your thing...but I've come to reject the idea that it's something I should run from. It's fully intertwined with ever getting anything a person wants. I think I used "not chasing validation" as a way to talk myself into pretending the old status quo was fine. Or to tell myself "I don't really need X, it's just about validation"....it's was an easy way to keep myself from having to make a tough decis…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 01:51 PM
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And that's some jarring shit - why wasn't she like this before, is it fake, yadda yadda. Right - it's a little shocking how easy it is for them to flip the switch. At least in the short term. and if they think their pussy can do the same job just fine you're not getting all that kinky variety. This here, I think, is why this overt conversation was necessary. Wife had spent 15+ years in the "what I 'give him' is good enough" zone with me. She feels the dread, she talks overtly about it. I think s…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 01:01 PM
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Basically this. I didnt have this conversation in the hope that it "works" and convinces her to change. It's her last chance. This is me giving her the opportunity to be clearly presented with my expectation.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:03 AM
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This here....been chasing my tail for too long on this one too. The "You gotta Lead, BRO!" meme that was so hot here for a while doesn't fit every situation. Some bitches just be lazy.
/r/askMRP08/05/19 11:59 PM
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I appreciate your reply here. I'll expand a little. I think my situation is a little different than your comparison - I've gone at this for almost 3 years, pretty slowly. I didn't fall into something accidentally. I made the decision to try my options, after going about this a certain way left me in a spot I'm not satisfied with. That's not to say it didn't confuse the fuck out of me, too. The follow up post will spell that out a little more....hope you will read and comment. With regard to NRE,…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/19 12:59 PM
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Yeah....honestly, this kind of gets me. I know it, and I'm trying to keep it in check. But it's also not something I am experienced at handling....its not been in my life it 20+ years....at least regarding sex and women.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/19 12:55 AM
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Selfish, but I’m okay with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 11:06 PM
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I'm posting this here so as to add context to a post I'll be making in the near future about my recent Main Event. My full story isn't something I've posted on here under this account. But, including all this context in my Main Event post would make it pretty wall-of-texty. So I'm posting back story here so I can link back to this for those who are interested, and keep the main event post focused for those who aren't. Origin Story The specifics of my situation... started dating my wife when I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 04:44 PM
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A tale of how you can imagine you are RP AF. If you refer to yourself as "Red Pill", you are probably retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 06:24 PM
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I'm with you here. Every 24 year old with a 6 month girlfriend thinks "Well, we're basically married". Yeah....not even close.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 06:24 PM
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100%
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 04:19 PM
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Oh yeah...she's a former CC who found her beta. To her credit, I suppose, she's found a way to still enjoy fucking her husband. But her entire premise was essentially "Use fantasy to enhance your sex life, incorporate your husband into it. And men, don't be intimidated by it." ie, "Men, pretend you're the brazilian helicopter pilot so your wife can cum."
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 02:16 PM
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no need to create more. If you create the drama, you set the terms of the drama.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 04:25 PM
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This is good stuff res, hopefully applying it helps you. Prior to finding Athol Kay and MRP, I found this podcast called "Sexy Marriage Radio". It was overly christian, and verrrry beta. And featured a female co-host whose entire schtick was basically teaching women how to enjoy sex after having been alpha widowed (she wouldn't call it that). Anyhow, the male host was really big on Schnarch. While pretty 'purple pill'...(very bluish purple), the his focus on how to handle yourself and stand on y…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 12:58 PM
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“Sharing” your insights about your partner’s behavior is often an expression of a need for validation. Also applies to sharing your insights into someone else's relationshp for Reddit karma.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 12:48 PM
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scorch earth Nope. I'd just leave. No fight, no rubbing her nose in it. "You did X, I'm out. I'll be back later to get the rest of my shit."
/r/askMRP19/04/19 05:37 PM
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This just escalates the rage level even more. This is fine. Learn to be bulletproof to her rages, but don't be a sperg. Be playful, like her rages can't foul your mood. Good job on the weight progress. Keep it up.
/r/askMRP17/04/19 12:10 PM
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given a woman hours and hours of continuous orgasmic joy, Just because you were the dick the woman used to get off doesn't mean you were responsible for it. Throw any attractive dick at the woman, and she'll get what she wants out of it. We like to say here, when talking about wives, "She is responsible for her orgasm." Cuts both ways, my man.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 02:05 PM
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Lester is a Gamma. An Angry gamma who lifts is still a gamma. His mental model hasn't changed. He's just mad at his wife.
/r/askMRP04/04/19 03:21 PM
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Got it. May have to expand into this realm.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 02:43 PM
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5 different women sent me DM's asking what I have been up to, if I wanna grab a coffee, etc. Women you already know? Or randos looking thru snaps via location?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 01:14 PM
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If it's not a test and it's observably true and her honest assessment of your behavior, does that change anything for you?
/r/askMRP01/04/19 06:31 PM
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How can one go about continuing to put on size if one (1) already knows and uses proper form, but seems to (2) get injured a lot when going heavy and/or to (or near) failure? /u/cam_winston21 had a solid post a little while back about his approach to training. His focus is adding mass. He might be more of a help to you than me. My focus is more on strength gains. I can tell you all about how to get strong without getting hurt. But for putting on size, I'm probably less of an expert because my bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 06:03 PM
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No. It's why I quit reading the blog. I find complaining about how collective "society" doles out blame to collective "men" and "women" to be useless.
/r/askMRP26/03/19 01:56 PM
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Seems to me like it's the only thing Rollo Tomassi writes about anymore.
/r/askMRP26/03/19 01:33 PM
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You're right that you can get everything online. People could find everything they need to know about /r/marriedredpill on the board, but we still point them to the sidebar first. Everything you need to know to get started is right there in one place. Enough guys come on this very board and say things like "I did 531 and it didn't work for me." And it turns out were using their 1RM rather than TM, or were adjusting it every time they PR. Well, whatever it is that you did doesn't work for you, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 01:11 PM
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Lifting is the easiest thing to do here. If you show up and move weight, you make progress. It's why every time there's a lifting question on the sub, the comments pile up to close to 100 within the first day. "I made progress doing this, therefore it's the holy grail." Everyone knows how to make progress. Everyone's in the best shape of their lives. Everyone's an expert. But really, it's not the magic combination of exercises. It's just the fact that you've shown up consistently, and the fact t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 09:42 PM
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app-based lifting programs 531 is not app based. It's based on 4 or 5 simple principles you won't understand unless you read the book. No 531 app I've seen comes close to getting the program right. None are licensed by the creator of the program. If anyone is doing 531 based on an app, they are fucking it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 09:28 PM
1

Then again, happiness could easily be replaced with optimisim, Good take. Having a "We'll/I'll figure this out" attitude about life goes a long way toward happiness. Or at the very least, the absence of despair.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/19 08:25 PM
2

Dr. Bus research into evo psych Real research into fake science.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 04:48 PM
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Because nobody has made much of a convincing argument for it, aside from asserting that it must be true.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 02:56 PM
2

This place seems to be more your speed: https://penzu.com/
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 02:12 PM
2

The reason we Mate Guard, the reason our hindbrains default to jealous suspicions, the reason we cannot bear the thought of another man mating with our woman is rooted in the fear of investing ourselves in a child not our own. I'm no longer convinced this is true.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 01:44 PM
1

So if RP and MRP were christian denominations, which would they be?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 03:31 PM
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Would your dad ever think "Wow, 17 year old son, you sure have your shit together. Could you help me be more like you?" If the answer is no, nothing you could possibly tell him would make him take seriously what you say. If the answer is yes, he might listen, and then probably decide you're full of shit and trying to manipulate him. So either way, it doesn't matter what you say. Dude has to find the solution himself. First he has to realize that there is a problem. But at 17, I too believed ther…
/r/askMRP12/03/19 11:48 PM
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Apparently I gave you too much credit. Answer to your question: Don't track any of it.
/r/askMRP11/03/19 06:24 PM
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The Cut the Shit sticky is doing more harm than good.
/r/askMRP11/03/19 06:19 PM
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Sorry. It's been written that back when we were lobsters, wiggling your claws in a "well actually...." motion was a demonstration of genetic superiority. So I'm unable to suppress the desires of my lobster brain or something. Must be a stressful week.
/r/askMRP11/03/19 01:26 PM
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Even if it's reputable, its useless. If some woman wont fuck you anymore, who cares if you're past the magic 84 menstrual cycles with no kids expiry date? Guys trading evolutionary 'theories' for behavior is like listening to my kid explain Grass-type Pokemon.
/r/askMRP11/03/19 02:55 AM
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I dont care. You're asking a question that has little to do with my assertion.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/19 01:10 PM
2

True, these things do prevent needy men from exposing their neediness. They also do other things. For example, Too frequent texting may expose you as needy, if you are needy. But it can also get you friend-zoned with your wife due to excessive familiarity. I found cutting texting to logistics only to be useful in cutting the tether between my wife and I. We'd text about whatever during the day and conversation would just kind of never end. I wasn't seeking connection or validation, it was simply…
/r/RPChristians08/03/19 03:02 AM
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Nope...Can't do that. I know I've got a receipt here somewhere...
/r/askMRP08/03/19 02:33 AM
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covert contract Hey, we learned a new term this month. Maybe next month you can use it in proper context.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/19 02:32 AM
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The backward looking "we behave like this because in caveman world..." is science fiction. Rollo's War Brides theory is one example. "Women had to move on from men quickly because of wars". OK...maybe. But it's more of a creative writing exercise than science.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/19 02:24 AM
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This is a DEER fest, first of all. Your reactions to everything she does as you step in the door encourages her. You "voicing" things, talking about boundaries....you aren't there yet. You don't have a carrot or a stick. So you're kind of a mess on this end. Dread Level 1 eludes you, and when you fail at it this hard women get out of pocket quickly. Now, your wife might be a complete lunatic. You're perfectly reasonable and she's just nuts. I don't know her. Has she always been like this, or is …
/r/RPChristians07/03/19 07:20 PM
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I read him before I found Red Pill stuff. Didn't compute. I needed 700 FRs about how to pass shit tests, and permission from the internet to not have oneitis for my wife before something like differentiation would register.
/r/askMRP07/03/19 04:52 PM
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So your reply here shows you 'get it' in a way your original post doesn't. It's diet. Losing body fat is not a function of your workout. If you want to drop bodyfat, you just want a work-out that doesn't work against you. At least for guys like you and I who have a solid base of strength & muscle mass. The math with calories and such works better as a compass vs. as a map. Directionally true, but too many moving parts to be able to say, for example, that a simple caloric deficit equal to your de…
/r/askMRP06/03/19 08:18 PM
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And where are you at now? You're fairly strong...so mostly looking to reduce body fat?
/r/askMRP06/03/19 02:03 PM
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What's your goal?
/r/askMRP05/03/19 05:25 PM
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he could have just been giving you shit. good point.
/r/askMRP05/03/19 01:51 PM
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Should I confront him or keep this to myself ? Put it in your pocket and go about your life. You know who this guy is now. I don't understand people with the need to confront something like this. Are you so fragile that you can't go about life knowing someone doesn't like you?
/r/askMRP05/03/19 01:47 PM
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If I'm accountable to someone else, it's easier to rationalize cheating when they aren't around. There's also that thing - I'm sure there's a name for it - where telling someone about your goal gives you that same dopamine as actually accomplishing your goal. Probably more applicable to the friend than the coach. Maybe what this all comes down to is that if I'm willing to hold myself accountable, I actually really want to achieve the goal. And if I need someone else to hold me accountable, I sim…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/19 05:14 PM
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I want to lose weight, but I can't make it happen. Ok, let's build in four layers of accountability: 1.) hire a diet coach that monitors your diet each week. (mentor accountability) 2.) get a friend to lose the weight with you, and check in with each other. (social accountability) 3.) Use https://www.stickk.com/ to bet an uncomfortable amount of money that you will lose the weight. (financial accountability) 4.) Plot your weight on a graph and post it prominently above your desk (internal accoun…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/19 04:34 PM
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You're not going to like my answer, but if you're framing this as "As quickly as possible", you're setting yourself up for failure. You'll lose a bunch of weight quick in the first 2 weeks. After that, if you're losing more than 1% of your bodyweight - so 2-2.5 lbs for you - per week, again...you're setting yourself up for failure. In terms of a lifting program, you should just do low volume strength work until you're at 15% bodyfat. You're not going to get shredded quickly. You're just not. So …
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 02:56 PM
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Diet is for getting cut. What is your current physical condition?
/r/RPChristians04/03/19 12:05 PM
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Anything that keeps your lower brain function occupied but keeps the part of your brain that uses words available. So cleaning was good for me, driving. Going on walks, yard work. If the rest of me isn't doing something, I dont have the attention span to engage with my thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/19 05:17 PM
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shipping to my country was too expensive and slow A big part of the reason I liked Fringe was the free shipping here. Some of these companies bend you over pretty hard on shipping weight equipment. I think I bought my stuff in 2014. that mini barbell is nice. Might have to get my youngest kid on one of those.
/r/askMRP01/03/19 05:18 PM
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I did craigslist for most of my stuff. Second hand sporting goods stores usually sell iron for $0.50 / lb, so if you can't beat that on Craigslist just go to Play it Again Sports or whatever the local second hand shop is. I bought a bunch of bumper plates new off of Fringe Sport that are decent and as good of a price as I could find at the time. I have their "Wonder Bar" that I use for O-lifts & deadlifts. A bearing barbell for that price & quality is pretty rare. Build yourself a platform. The …
/r/askMRP01/03/19 02:11 PM
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You need to look in the mirror and learn to control your emotional state better. Someone should write a post about this whole idea being in control of your emotions and not allowing them to enslave you
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 01:56 AM
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For me, the STFU phase led to really digging into my own psyche about what caused me to react. The 'blow off steam' metaphor was true for me - the fact that I'd react emotionally to my wife meant that I never really had to deal with what was causing my anger, butt-hurt, loneliness....whatever it was. Something would come up, I'd snipe back, we'd fight.....and now the fight takes center stage. Ending the fight, dealing with silent treatments, extracting my pound of flesh in victory....those all d…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 01:28 AM
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I don't think his newer stuff is purple pill. It's just irrelevant to a place like this. He's shifted from the battlefield of guys trying to get laid to the new battlefield of shouting at clouds.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 05:54 PM
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Thirst for genetic diversity is some BS meme pushed by pozzed researchers. Yep. Evolutionary Psychology is science fiction.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 04:44 PM
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Generally, whatever gets you to go to they gym is best. For my personal goals, its strength & athletic performance. I also think an athletic body is more aesthetic than the delt & biceps gym bro physiques.
/r/askMRP28/02/19 04:01 AM
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Yeah....wife and I got together at 17. Aside from a 5 month break-up after my first year of college, we've been together since 1995. We fucked like rabbits back then, but as an inexperienced teen I didn't push the envelope. Was just pretty happy to have someone touching my dick. I can't say for certain, because my experience is limited....but it seems to me that the honeymoon period of the relationship is where you set the tone sexually. Breaking that inertia, after the chemical infatuation pass…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/19 02:12 AM
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Never heard of him. I'll have to check it out. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 08:19 PM
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Started removing attention last week This causes more problems than it's worth for many of us. Have you tried the nice card? You're 5 months in, maybe stick with it for a while.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 08:14 PM
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Sex is cheap for women, so obviously not as valuable to her.
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 05:58 PM
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Nah. It'll just be some schmoe from her past who is even more of a life loser than mr. unemployable here but has a little game.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 05:27 PM
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You cut something out here that I thought was really the key observation: Women use their sexuality to obtain the other 6 items on the list, whereas men use the 6 items on that list as a means to obtain sex.
/r/RPChristians27/02/19 05:12 PM
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I've had two surgeries - one pretty major on my shoulder, one pretty minor on my knee - that I realize now were almost certainly unnecessary. Maybe it's different now, but 15 years ago when I had them done, my thought was "go in, get fixed, get rehabbed, back to 100%". The reality was closer to "go in, get fixed, get rehabbed, back to 80% and that part where it used to hurt....well you just won't be able to move that far anymore. Sound good?" I'm convinced that the 'labral tear' I got cut on for…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:44 PM
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No bro-science about that. Seems like that's how anyone would deal with their situation before the "please consult your doctor" culture. 98% of doctors don't know shit about performance. Going in for a pre-emptive scan is lighting your money on fire. If you go and it hurts, stop. If you go and it doesn't hurt, progress. weights isn't rocket surgery.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:00 PM
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You obviously missed the part of the sidebar where it tells you what goes here and what goes on /r/askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 03:38 AM
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If you can throw without pain, you're probably ok to try lifting. Just get started and see how you hold up.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 03:02 AM
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Can you throw a ball?
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:51 AM
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it makes me think that she just wants to check that off her list of chores to do, or she wants to feel like she is still in control by giving me stipulations. A simple shit test. Sounds like you handle that OK. Does she know what you like? Do you even know what you like? For me, a lot of my dissatisfaction with my sex life was being frustrated with a general "sex isn't good enough". But if you asked me, specifically, what I wanted....I had no clue. I just wanted her to get me off better. That ty…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 12:22 AM
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You need to read MITW's post on validation. Sounds like that's more of what you're missing. For some women, announcing "I feel tingly" is as much of an initiation as you're going to get. Wanting the other person to initiate is the feminine role. If you want a feminine woman, accept that role....Accept that you have to lead her to sex. She wants masculine, and she's trying to get you to 'get it'.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 08:51 PM
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Yeah...struggling with making it less navel-gazey. I only think in chronological narratives, and that's not a very interesting way to tell it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 05:44 PM
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I had a prof in college whose syllabus included bolded instructions about how using the word "said" as an adjective on any paper would result in a an automatic 0 for that assignment. Fucking hero, that guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 05:38 PM
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Right now I lean towards coaching and teaching young men but how deep is that? It honestly doesn't have to be that deep. It just has to be something you truly give a shit about. And it helps if that thing is something that involves other people. It's really hard to not just become a hermit if your hobby is a solo endeavor. Believe me, I've tried. Been kicking around the idea of writing a post about my path to this, because for a long time, I had no clue. I tried all kinds of shit that I wanted t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 04:58 PM
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I also want to call out that /u/Reach180 's org chart analogy in response to Resolution316 really resonated with me. Nice. I'm still pretty pleased with that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 04:11 PM
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What's your thing that gets you going each day? If general "Improving" and MRP are your main drive in life, you never get to real congruence. It's like you've got this Jeep in the garage you're modding, working on all the time, spending money on, admiring how it looks.....but you've got no real intention of ever driving it. At first, wife might think "Hey cool - daddy's got a new toy, it's going to be fun when we take it out this summer!"....but eventually it's apparent that day isn't coming. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 03:23 PM
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They typically call that "athleticism".
/r/askMRP26/02/19 03:21 AM
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Accept the duty sex. Pin her hands above her head and fuck her like you're trying to poke a hole through the box spring. If she laughs at you, or smirks, or says "Um...OK?", you ignore that shit. Don't ask if it's good for her, don't react to anything she does or says (aside from "stop", obviously). Get on, fuck for as long as you like, cum in her, or on her, or whatever. Wipe off your dick, walk to the kitchen and make yourself a protein shake. Don't be a retard about it. But keep on fucking yo…
/r/askMRP25/02/19 09:27 PM
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Don't let a bunch of randos on the internet talk you out of something you like doing. A lot of this critique of Crossfit is bullshit. People see Crossfit fail compilations and know a few assholes who do Crossfit - who were also assholes when they didn't do Crossfit - and they assume it's just a bunch of assholes flailing around on the pull up bars. I've got a handful of friends who get great results from Crossfit, look great, make a ton of friends there, and they compete and have a blast. I'd ne…
/r/askMRP25/02/19 04:10 PM
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Idea sounds good though. Making a pork butt this week....going to give that a whirl when I fry it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/19 02:01 PM
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The whole remaining stoic and never losing your cool shit. Being in control is not the same as flat-lining. It's important that you are in control of your emotions. Use them as you wish - which includes the ability to wield them. "Remaining stoic" here is for guys who can't help but puke out their feelings as soon as something upsets them. Emotionally reacting without being conscious of it. First, guys need to be aware. Next they can be in control.
/r/askMRP25/02/19 01:22 AM
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I want to hear more about this pork mole....
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/19 11:20 PM
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Tracking fucks with your own head. Even if things are going 'well', you have no covert contracts, frame is good, whatever.....you'll start chasing numbers. Makes it less enjoyable. "Do I want sex, or am I due for sex?"
/r/askMRP24/02/19 07:12 PM
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Hang out? Like around the house? I got tired of my wife "hanging out" in baggy pj pants and giant t shirts, so I took her out to buy leggings & form fitting tops. Just as comfy, not so sloppy. As far as outside the house, give her a reason to dress nicer. Lead the way.
/r/askMRP23/02/19 07:20 PM
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Looks like this was made with you in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 05:25 PM
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Does Red Pill cooking require tactical olive oil?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 03:08 PM
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We're all experts on fitness.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 01:40 PM
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Don’t listen to their feedback! You and your marriage still have a chance! Toss all the metaphorical pills in the metaphorical trash, and just treat your wife as an equal! Because she is! Most of us tried that, sweetheart. Apparently my wife just craved toxic masculinity.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 09:00 PM
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Are you attracted to other 250 lb women, or just your wife?
/r/askMRP21/02/19 05:23 PM
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That's not what I asked.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 05:12 PM
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She is 41 and weighs closer to 250lbs Are you really attracted to that, or do you just crave the validation of getting someone to agree to fuck you.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 04:52 PM
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It has been proven time and time again to be 100% correct. Meh...a lot of it is tautological. It's a useful lens to see the world, but it seems 100% correct because it can't be incorrect.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 04:10 PM
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I'm not saying that as a universal. Guy trips are great. I try and do them every so often. But golf weekends or vegas trips do usually make me hate my friends and miss being home after about the first full day. My point in posting that is that if you want 'dude time', working on something - even if it's something you don't care much about or guys you don't care to hang with otherwise - can do just as good of a job as a trip.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 01:15 PM
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However, in my attempts to do, she brings up shit about me and says I get defensive about it. Seems you haven't actually learned how to pass shit tests. You're still deferring to her judgement. If you feel the need to be defensive, you defer to her judgement too much. Passing shit tests isn't about staying calm. It's about not accepting her premise. But if I'm not leading and being emotionally reliable, then I want to know. This sentence gives the whole thing away. The idea that there's some aut…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 10:53 PM
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You write with the clarity of a 25 year old. Am I close?
/r/RPChristians19/02/19 10:13 PM
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Guy trips make me hate my friends. Guy projects, on the other hand, make for fun weekends with guys I'd never choose to spend a minute with otherwise. Tell your son this(?)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 08:29 PM
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Goals for this week - (a) work out three solid workouts in the iron paradise; (b) 4 minutes of HIIT and one long cardio walk/jog; c) stretch every day for one minute; (d) begin tracking calories and efforts daily through my fitness pal app. Cardio is a waste. You will fail if you focus on cardio. Do not do it. Do not do HIIT. If you need the hamster wheel to feel like you're doing something productive, WALK. Do no cardio more strenuous than walk until you've lost 50+ lbs. Your goals this week sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 07:37 PM
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Right. And buried in my quote is the assumption that it's a particular oneitis that you want to have notice you. She may notice, but you're still too much of pussy to go talk to her, so noticed is all you'll get. You'd be better off if you skipped the lifting and did the talking rather than lift til she approaches.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 05:52 PM
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Decent bench doesn't bestow alpha. Lotta betas find shelter in the weight room. "If I get jacked/strong enough, <insert> will notice."
/r/askMRP19/02/19 02:51 PM
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Have you had success cutting body fat and increasing weight under the bar continually? I have. Really depends on your body type though.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 01:50 AM
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You're lazy because you think a what you want should fall into your lap. Lazy, entitled, whatever. You're a loser because, well, you're losing. You're a participating member of deadbedrooms subreddit. Not exactly the winners circle over there. Look kid, you misunderstand why women have sex. Every guy here is telling you that. Your life experience is telling you that....and yet, you argue. Every reply. Your "Why..." questions aren't inquisitive "Whys", like someone who wants to understand. They a…
/r/RPChristians18/02/19 02:44 PM
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Nah. You're just lazy, and a loser. You want someone else to make what you want "just happen". Like the man says, "good luck with that"
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 03:19 PM
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How many heart to hearts with your parents changed your mind? What you tell kids does not matter. You are Charlie Brown's teacher. How you live is what they internalize. And they still have a mind to accept or reject your values.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/19 08:12 PM
2

The part of me with an eating disorder wonders how much egg white protein gets lost in the foam on those poached eggs.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 09:08 PM
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Keep in mind jiu jitsu WILL take its toll on your body. Look at most black belts and you’ll see the scars of years on the mat. Cauliflower ear, ribs, teeth/ jaw, fingers - you name it. I don't have any experience with combat sports, but I gave up on shit like pickup basketball and other contact sports after I dropped several grand on surgery & pt on a pinkie finger that I wrecked in a flag football game. I found a way to scratch the competitive itch with less potentially catastrophic activities.…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 06:25 PM
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If by your statement your saying that RP is all encompassing Might not be a popular opinion here, but I actually believe the opposite. I think RP and 'the program' is a useful frame to borrow while you detach from others' expectations of yourself and start becoming your own mental point of origin. If you spend too long in the phase of trying to calibrate your level of alpha and beta and just getting out of the house to inspire some dread, and doing all the cosmetic stuff we point guys toward, yo…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 03:02 PM
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I kind of put RP 'on hold' and upped the beta a bit but need to tone that back down and get rigid with the program If what you say is true, and you've been at this for two years, and you're still doing things like 'being more RP' and 'putting RP on hold', you're missing the point. You should have figured out by now that 'the program' is just something to help you figure out who you are and what you value. Once you figure that out, orient yourself and pursue it. You don't change that based on pre…
/r/askMRP14/02/19 08:50 PM
2

Teams of people behind the scene created that persona - to put in front of the masses in order to make $. This is universally true about popular culture. "Art" is not a value judgement.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 05:49 PM
2

Daughter ask me questions about Trump and Obama than to sing along to Carty B. Even if you think it sucks and has a bad message, art engages a useful part of the brain. As far as I can tell, talking politics does not.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 05:35 PM
3

How will YOU prepare your kid for a world you don't understand? You do not understand your kid's future world, in the same way that your dad in the 1980s did not understand what 2019 would bring. Sure, some smart dads of your generation might have pointed their kid in the right direction, and you wish that was done for you. But many, many more smart well meaning dads pointed their kids in terrible directions. Whichever way you try to orient them, it's a gamble. Like picking individual stocks. Th…
/r/askMRP13/02/19 05:16 PM
1

Could probably replace your yoga regimen with Crossfit MOBs.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 04:29 PM
5

Baby birds use spoons?
/r/askMRP13/02/19 02:36 PM
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Crossfit is kind of the perfect storm. It's almost like high school. A clear hierarchy based on physicality, and it's very social. Fosters a 'community'....lots of interaction between everyone at the gym. Coed competition teams, mixed workouts. Take your average gym. Men & Women working out....start looking better, start realizing they can level up. This is pretty standard gym fare. Now....with crossfit, you add about 20% "social mixer" to the vibe. Then, eliminate all of the obese recumbent bik…
/r/askMRP13/02/19 02:34 PM
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I probably won't be reading in depth to search for this acronym. Nobody cares. Too much shit to do in my life for that. But not enough to keep you from posting this.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 01:51 PM
2

I can't even imagine taking that comment seriously, so it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 04:11 PM
4

You had it right at first. Wife is ashamed that she gave more than she's comfortable with to her beta husband. Shit test ensues to determine whether he's worthy. "You're gay", is hamster speak for 'you made me do this, because I'm not that type of girl'.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:31 PM
1

and you will meet all manner of resistance to the masculine project that is you. As you should. Being able to withstand resistance and scrutiny is the ultimate measuring stick of authenticity.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:18 PM
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I hate this thinking. Mainly because you shouldn't be punishing grown adults for bad behavior. That entails you are trying to change them. You remove attention solely because you will not tolerate disrespectful behavior, not as a means to punish them. Agree with all of this.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 08:30 PM
1

Depends on who's earning it. Mr. Victim here is being cryptic. We're just left to speculate...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 02:58 PM
3

Note that he phrased it the income and not my income.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 01:57 PM
3

Your post is true, and it proves that it's not so much what you do, but who does it and where it comes from.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 10:04 PM
8

Used to make make some sweet designs graphing overlapping hyperbolas on my TI-85.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 09:56 PM
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For what it's worth, I had the no scalpel version done and my recovery time was a fraction of that of my friends who had the surgical version. I had mine done on a Thursday and I felt so good after 2 days that I went back to normal life that weekend. Sunday night hit pretty hard and I ended up feeling pretty shitty for the next few days. Was fine by the end of the week, though. If I'd have just taken it easy and just kept up with the ice & meds all through the weekend that probably would have be…
/r/askMRP06/02/19 04:35 PM
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Just rest. I haven't read them myself, but according to the guys at Kabuki Strength, they've done studies that essentially show that guys who don't miss a day of training and guys who miss training sporadically, take a week of, etc. end up in about the same place at the end of the year. Long run, the shit doesn't matter. You should, of course, train consistently. But thinking missing here and there ruins your gainz is retarded. Most pro athletes don't think like that. Millions lie in the balance…
/r/askMRP05/02/19 04:45 PM
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...as if the fucking big guys they are talking about got there accidentally.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 02:47 PM
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"You'll take what you're given" is kind of bitchy-flirty dirty talk. If your frame is "This chick wants to fuck me", you treat it as flirty shit test. If your frame is "I hope i get some pussy" then you see that comment as a rejection.
/r/askMRP04/02/19 07:30 PM
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Play along. It's a pretty simple shit test. You don't pass those by storming off. The Wedding Crashers "Just the tip" joke is the same dynamic. Only if you were in the Vince Vaughn role, you'd storm out because you don't want just the tip. So simply play the game. In my experience, it's pretty easy to get the clothes off mid fuck if you start with them on. Women like the feeling of being stripped when they're turned on. Ever fuck anywhere not private? You're usually not going to start off with h…
/r/askMRP04/02/19 04:32 PM
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First of all, marriage counseling offices are a physical manifestation of her frame. Otherwise.... We left the session and didn't talk about it until yesterday. I woke up, initiated sex (it's been about a week), and she rejected with a firm no. Fine I got up, was not phased, took a shower, and went to the gym. Fine When, I returned, I interacted with her and tried some kino as an experiment to see what would happen. Don't do this. This is a tentative initiation. Don't experiment to test her. Wom…
/r/askMRP04/02/19 03:33 PM
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First things first - Umbros are what 8th grade girls wear with hoodies and Birkenstocks. They are not grown man attire. I'm pro tights & shorter shorts for the gym. Wear runners trunks to run. But send the Umbros to the goodwill. Everything else reeks of try hard. Women like manly men. Man thongs are not manly....and that's probably what turns your wife off. I think you're trying to apply your vision of what you find sexually attractive in women onto yourself. Skimpy clothes on a man rarely work…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 08:40 PM
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Set up the pack and play (for the 2 year old) and install a lock on your door for the 12 year old.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 05:58 PM
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I suck at withdrawing my time/attention since most "no's" are at bedtime. Stop initiating at bedtime. You want better enthusiasm, find the point in the day where she has more energy. A lot of the time, she's reflecting the energy you bring to the table. So if you are low energy Jeb at bedtime too, prepare for the starfish. Initiate in the morning, after work, noon....whenever energy is higher. I've discovered that I am not as good a fuck at night. Tired, dick not as hard, whatever. Wife is kind …
/r/askMRP30/01/19 05:02 PM
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I've referred many people to the nice card post (thanks for saving it btw), and I generally live by that idea. That's the best frame....my best frame at least. Literally every single time I stray from that, and decide I'm going to "withdraw time" or play tit for tat, I end up in an extended spiral downward that I eventually have to pull myself out of. This has little to do with my wife's reaction to me. It just harms my mental state of being. I turn into a worse version of myself. Since realizin…
/r/RPChristians30/01/19 03:08 PM
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The comment about disconnecting your TM from your 1RM as you train is a good thing to remember. And training with the long view in mind really helps with not getting injured. It's better to leave a few in the tank and train tomorrow than to grind out a PR/Max and be fucked up for a week 2 months. There's a time and place for that, but it's far less necessary than I used to think. And far, far less necessary as I age.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 07:15 PM
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Cool. Taught me something new.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 06:42 PM
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Your wife is the alpha. You're reactive. Stop being reactive. Stop trying to 'show her' anything. You don't seem self aware enough to take the good advice here. And the fact that you feel the need to respond to any comments with anything other than ignoring, "Thanks", or elaborating on questions is a pretty big red flag that this isn't going to work for you. You fit a common 'type' that doesn't last long. Also, given what you've said about her your wife fits the LSE/HD model much more so than th…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 05:07 PM
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If you need music for motivation, or anything to get pumped up to train, keep this in mind: https://startingstrength.com/training/performance-vs-training Real life isn't Under Armour commercials. If you need to get pumped up and scream and puke to do your workout, you're doing it wrong.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 11:09 AM
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The last time I got my wife a car, I already knew what she required - 4wd, 3rd row seating, and seat warmers was all she ever cared about. Gave her 3 options for models in the right price range. She clicked around online for a while and eventually said "Any of those 3 are fine". So I found the right deal and brought it home. I did this all within the first maybe 6 months of unplugging, and it gave me a really nice test of how well I could handle being 'a man' instead of doing a favor for mommy a…
/r/askMRP28/01/19 04:37 PM
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Never heard of that one. Where is that from? I think the most I ever stick to one 531 variation is 6 cycles.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/19 02:52 PM
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It can have as much volume as you want. I've got a book here next to me on my desk with 250 pages of different variations - some have so much volume I wouldn't go near them. The retard versions of the program that knock-offs build into a $1.99 app is, if it's not totally wrong, at best the program minimum.
/r/askMRP24/01/19 08:48 PM
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https://www.t-nation.com/workouts/531-how-to-build-pure-strength 5/3/1 by the Numbers In 5/3/1, you're expected to train three or four days a week. Each workout is centered around one core lift – the parallel squat, bench press, deadlift, and standing shoulder press. Each training cycle lasts four weeks, with these set-rep goals for each major lift: Week 1 3 x 5 Week 2 3 x 3 Week 3 3 x 5, 3, 1 Week 4 Deload Then you start the next cycle, using heavier weights on the core lifts. And that's where …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 02:21 PM
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All of the percentages in the program are based off of your training max, not the 1 rep max. What did you think the tm was for?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 11:40 AM
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Yeah, you've got it a little fucked up in a couple spots. First problem: You say you started 531 with a 121 max....but if I do the math, it's calculating based on a 134 max, which is about what your 115x5 converts to. Second problem: Your second phase, you are just bumping up the last set. All sets should increase based on the new TM (+5....or 2.5 kilos, or whatever). Looks like you get this right in your third phase, so maybe it's a transcription error? Either way, the Training Max is what is c…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 11:56 PM
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Happy to.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 08:34 PM
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531 I would argue doesn't have enough volume WTF? This is pretty ignorant.
/r/askMRP23/01/19 08:33 PM
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Last few weeks I stopped hitting PR’s on the 3rd week of wendel 531.. just a single rep so it makes sense to repeat the same cycle and see what happens. How'd you get to this point so quickly? Weights should only increase every 3 weeks. You shouldn't be approaching your 1RM in a workout for several months. If your 1RM is 200 lbs, you should start with a TM of 185. Week 1: 120 x5, 140x5, 155x5+ Week 2: 130 x3, 150x3, 165x3+ Week 3: 140 x5, 155x5, 175x1+ Up 5 lbs (Bench/Press is +5 Squat/DL is usu…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 06:45 PM
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Have you tried chin ups or heavy ass lat pull downs with a supine grip? Interesting....that is exactly what causes elbow pain for me. I usually fix it by warming up with push-ups and front squats for a few days. The forced wrist extension seems to help.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 04:50 PM
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I grab her like a 6 pack and do turkish getups.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 05:38 PM
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IMO your downvoters are the retards. If you go to church and say the pastor is wrong, or misguided, expect the congregation to disagree. Rollo should use the platform he's built as he chooses. But for me, since around the time the second book came out, it's basically a longform expansion on the twitter narrative fight that he's perpetually engaged in. That is just not important....it's almost pro wrestling. The Twitter gender narrative war is vastly different thing than what RM1 was, and why it'…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 03:50 PM
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The first book we tell guys to read here is about becoming your own judge. The second book we tell guys to read here is about how to brush off people who think they should be your judge instead of you. So I'll go ahead and keep on not giving a fuck what Gillette and the Twitter Narrative thinks of males as a collective. Fix things in your house, your neighborhood, and your town. It will be infinitely more productive and rewarding....and difficult....than turning and pointing at whatever cloud Ro…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 02:03 PM
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Current version of Rollo Tomassi is virtue signaling and Boomer Posting. This type of post is essentially the same as the racial activist who wants to tell young blacks that they have no choice but be victims. Are we here to make our lives better? Or are we here to claim our victim status? The only way to get better is to make yourself better. Gillette can't do it for you, and they can't stop you either. So why the fuck do you care what they put on Youtube?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 05:53 PM
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The Rollo Tomassi has become a fucking snowflake who needs to be validated by TV commercials.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 03:12 PM
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Stop benching. Just do military press until you get your equipment straightened out. "But then how will I get massive pecs?!" Dont worry about it. Military will develop all the upper body....if you get to the point where you can put 135 over your head, you'll bench 185 no problem, without ever having trained it. In the mean time, press, and also do push ups between sets when you squat & dl.
/r/askMRP16/01/19 10:41 PM
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WE ARE ALL SELFISH PIECES OF SHIT Why does prioritizing self interest make for a piece of shit? Who is supposed to look out for you, if not yourself? Your entire conclusion is basically a 3rd grade understanding of sexual selection.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 02:44 PM
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I read this, and I follow the logic. And that's the problem. It's a linear-logic based solution to a woman's behavior. Sounds true, sounds reasonable. I just don't think it's real.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/19 09:51 PM
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Set a calorie ceiling that is just a shade under the calculation for maintenance for you. Eat enough protein (1 g/lb ballpark). Lift to get strong - focus on the major lifts, do accessory lifts that supplement your performance - ie, dips, push ups, pull ups, RDLs, & goblet squats instead of tricep kickbacks, delt raises & concentration curls. Those lifts have a place, but until you've built a solid base of muscle mass and strength, doing them is just spinning your wheels. Bake the cake before yo…
/r/askMRP14/01/19 03:30 PM
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The more that organizations like this feel comfortable being honest with their intentions, the better for everyone. This makes a wide opening for parallel institutions. Decentralization is always good. EDIT: Also, political blogger Ace of Spades had a nice post on this same release over on his blog. Been following him for a 7 or 8 years now and it wouldn't surprise me a bit if he's one of us. Seems to have been running his own MAP for the last year or two.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/19 02:05 PM
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...and Lebron James is the same age as OP.
/r/askMRP08/01/19 03:28 AM
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we simply don't deload That's a bad plan. Deload every 6 weeks minimum. Also, deload in 531 isn't the same as deload in Stronglifts. In 531, a deload means take a week where your tonnage is much lower than usual. After that week, you pick back up at the beginning of the cycle with +5/+10 added to your TM. So there shouldn't be any "deload cycle". ...by which I assume you mean that in SL, you'd deload 10 lbs and then work back to the same weight you plateaued at and plateau again. Here's a clue f…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 09:06 PM
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Yep - thanks for posting. Very good.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 03:21 PM
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Yup
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/18 08:58 PM
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Validation is something I did a lot of work on early on, and I'm very conscious of pushing myself away from that path. I don't think of sex the way I used to. I don't think of my wife's approval the way I used to. It's possible this is all mental gymnastics to hide the validation seeking from myself, or wrap a different story around it, but I don't think it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/18 01:51 AM
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Nice false dichotomy. +1 I'll take Hulk Hogan's body over skinny marathon abs guy 100% of the time.
/r/askMRP28/12/18 01:48 AM
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Sustainable for me was counting calories and macros. Diet is 95+% behavior. Unless you have an underlying medical condition, it doesn't really matter which you choose. You can stack any of the other diets on top of calories and macros if it makes things easier to wrap your head around. For example, I'd rather eat a big ass 1200 calorie meal than two smaller ones, so IF was good for me in that way. It won't make you lose more weight though. You must track calories & macros until you are certain o…
/r/askMRP28/12/18 01:46 AM
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Maybe I'm overthinking this, maybe I'm underestimating myself. Where you go in this reply would not be out of place in my bedroom (and outside of the bedroom, too). I incorporated talk after reading sgm in the beginning. It has led to some better sex, but not so much in terms of greater intimacy. You do a good job of verbalizing something I've felt - that "leveling up" via new holes and toys and positions gets to be empty. It feels like what I want when I think about improving the quality of my …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/18 07:34 PM
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I'd call myself a recovering autist....so when I read this, it really rings true. Its the type of thing I'd like to apply, but I have zero emotional aptitude. I can fake it sometimes....but that's probably still hiding in my comfort zone as you describe. I dont know where to go to improve. I read what you write and even your simple examples blow right over my head in terms of how to even get to that point. Do you have any retard level starting points for how to get myself in the right mindset to…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 08:31 PM
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Username checks out?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 08:35 PM
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I understand that much. But I hardly recognize where and when it would be useful. It's either something far simpler and common than it's made out to be, or something that I'm too oblivious to even notice is going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 07:57 PM
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Confession: I have read this dozens of times. I read the whole series/ebook. I still don't understand powertalk.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 02:16 PM
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If you need to tell people how awesome you are, you aren't very awesome. Bragging is for the weak. I want to caveat this, because I think it's misunderstood sometimes. Bragging is for the weak, I'll agree. But bragging specifically is a strategy to force others to validate you. Talking about yourself and your accomplishments is not necessarily bragging. I think avoiding anything approaching bragging is a Nice Guy trait. I spent most of my life as an insecure guy starved for validation from other…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 02:12 PM
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Do Dips as your triceps accessory lift and find a way to work in some DB Rows somewhere. I like to do DB rows between warm-up sets on the bench. Maybe 3-4 heavyish sets of 8-10 to turn on your upper back. Not looking for a pump or wrecking yourself - just kind of priming your muscles. In fact, if this isn't something you normally do, I'd be willing to bet that just adding in a few sets of rows as you prepare to bench would be enough to have you PR next time you lift. Dips are the best exercise o…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/18 02:02 PM
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Boom. Chesterton's fence. Kill the Ego. The presumption being that the Ego has no productive value to a man. If OP can't think of one, probably best to dig a little harder before deciding that "killing" it is the best course of action. Don't Kill the Ego. Control the Ego and make it work for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/18 07:07 PM
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In terms of technique, a common thing you'll see is elbows flared out too wide. Guys think "Wide grip engages pecs more" or something. But if you want to bench more, your power muscles need to be lats and triceps....so you have to learn to use them. So first of all, take a narrower grip. Guy at your size could probably go with putting the inside of your pinkies on the outside of the bar rings. Narrower grip makes it easier to "push" with your lats and leverage that against your triceps. I know t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/18 02:56 PM
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I always been weak on legs. You're just weak, period. I coach some 14 year old girls who can handle 95x5 on the bench no problem. So don't delude yourself that you're strong. Weight room isn't where you display strength, it's where you build it. Just keep showing up and things will start to fall into place.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 05:37 PM
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Those are 5x5 weights, not 1 RMs, you know.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 04:20 PM
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Also how did you balance a good child/work/wife/sex schedule? Work every day, sex with wife T, TH, sex with kids M, W, F. Weekends are for myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 02:30 PM
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Dont you get it Steel. We want our VICTIM points for the Twitter narrative war.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/18 12:51 AM
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I think only a person living in the comfort of civilized society could think something along those lines. Anyone who lived in more brutal times would swap places with you right now, feminism and all. I'll take the fear of getting fired for tweets over the fear of being disemboweled by a bear every time.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/18 05:56 PM
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Well, this one hits home for me....my first shipment of T is on its way as I type. I told my wife about it. "Jesus....that is the LAST thing you need," she said with a giggle... Seems to me no different than telling her you got tested for sleep apnea, or got a cavity filled. I'm sure she'll use it as an excuse to fuck with me at some point. I'll treat it as no different than any other thing she likes to test me on.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 05:26 PM
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531 Forever is the latest. Mine is dog-eared and highlighted like a bible. He only put it out as hard-copy this time around, but might be a PDF of it if you dig. Like the other 531 books, it's a lot of "Here's 531 with 5x5 assistance work, Here's 531 with 1x20 assistance work"....etc. He buries the nuggets among the explainers for the variations, so it seems like I re-discover something each time I flip through to review my next 6 week block. And it's never anything mind-blowing, either. Just si…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 08:47 PM
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Even if you don't do 531, Wendler's books have a lot of things like this in them that I think anyone would gain from. He articulates a coherent, proven training philosophy very well.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 06:57 PM
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I'm not saying you should or shouldn't. I just think this is a helpful way to frame your thought process.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 01:35 AM
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Overweight people can gain muscle without overeating. It's really kind of common sense if you spend time observing the real world. Ever stay ~ the same weight and have your shirt get tighter? Waist get looser while the quads fits tighter? That's what that is. Get yourself to an acceptable body size, then train hard without gaining weight. Fuck, this isn't that hard. This place is just full of fucking retards who try and math & science their way to excuses as to why they suck.
/r/askMRP05/12/18 05:03 PM
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43yo, 6`3, 87 kg (-1), BF 15 range, DL 125 kg, Bench 75 kg, Squat 80 kg. Not max but 8x. Good luck with getting to 200 lb squat and bench. You can do it!
/r/askMRP05/12/18 12:06 PM
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Studies. LOL. So I should treat myself as the mean of the 32 losers who agreed to approximate their diet to humor a panel of grad students? N=1 is the only study that matters when training yourself. Of course, you have to be consistent enough in your habits that tweaks aren't drowned out by the noise.
/r/askMRP05/12/18 03:54 AM
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I think The Fountainhead is the better Rand book on ambition.
/r/askMRP04/12/18 10:03 PM
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Cardio isn't your problem. You are weak, and have little muscle mass. Prioritize the strength gain over weight loss....make your goal be to stay at the same weight and get stronger. Stop trying to lose weight. Eat at maintenance calories. Stop worrying about BF%. You've got to put the time in to build some muscle mass....otherwise, when you get to the BF% you're shooting for, you'll just look like a saggy professional marathoner. Get stronger. You've got to get strong. If what you say is true ab…
/r/askMRP04/12/18 09:28 PM
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I need to deload my squat and bench and refocus on form. Here's an excerpt from Jim Wendler's latest book relating to this. I think of it any time someone here talks about 'focus on form'. I take a lot from his rants like this. He almost always strikes the right balance of 'do things right' and 'quit being a pussy'. Anyone who is familiar with my writings over the past 15 years knows that the fitness industry is much like nature. It seeks balance. If the pendulum of thinking swings all the way t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 06:23 PM
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You are the one at Fault. Not Her Small nit pick here: It doesn't matter whose fault it is. Some big names on the RP/manosphere twitter have this hobbyhorse lately about women needing to take responsibility for themselves. I don't think it's in doubt that a woman who is a bitch is responsible for her actions. So on the one hand, I see their point. On the other hand, knowing who is to blame only helps a scoreboard tracking pussy. And I'm not that guy. Whether you dealt the hand yourself, or you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 03:22 PM
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This isn't just true about wives, or women. It's true about anyone in your life. Arguing is almost always a waste of your time. 95% of arguments end up either being you trying to get someone else to validate a decision that you can execute without their approval, or you shouting into the abyss of things you can't influence.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/18 12:16 PM
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I dont read his new stuff, which is sad. I just don't think its very applicable to the mrp audience. Anymore, it's just bitching.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/18 07:32 PM
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If you ever make the mistake of joining an office golf league, you'll meet him.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 11:25 PM
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End it anyway. The medium is the message.
/r/askMRP29/11/18 09:22 PM
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Because they are gay is really the best reason I can give. #1 poser tell is superfluous gear. Like a golfer with iron covers. You ski, right? Surely there's a skiing equivalent. But mostly it's just nit picking this guy being a jackoff.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 09:17 PM
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Set up a scenario where you catch him getting after her in the car before the dance. "Hey you, get your damn hands off her"
/r/askMRP29/11/18 08:18 PM
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....Deadlifting in gloves. LOOOOOOOOOL.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 05:54 PM
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That's as good of a definition as there probably is.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 03:31 PM
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he emotional affair is far more nefarious than the physical when you talk female -> male types of affairs. In your opinion, what's the minimum amount of interaction to qualify something as an emotional affair? Physical affair is pretty easy to define. Where's the line where conversation, flirting, and banter becomes an emotional affair?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 09:07 PM
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Most of my reading this week was researching 5/3/1 based on the feedback to my post. I’ve started the 5/3/1 Boring But Big template after testing my 1 RM in DL and OHP. I didn’t max the others because DL and OHP ended up being what I thought and a 1RM in BS seemed a risk for injury at the home gym. I’ll use my conservative estimate for 1RM on the other lifts. And, to confirm, you understand the 90% training max thing? It's probably the most important piece of setting up your program. The best fu…
/r/RPChristians28/11/18 04:03 PM
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You come in here looking to be shit on. It's like your version of putting on a hair shirt. You declare yourself a pussy retard fuck up, and then you thank everybody in measures proportional to how mean spirited and abusive their post is. "Thanks mate, that's exactly what I need." Exactly what you need for what? I suspect you've been hearing that about yourself, and believing that about yourself, for as long as you can remember. This is your frame. You're an unattractive pussy retard fuck-up who …
/r/askMRP28/11/18 10:45 AM
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If you don't understand your lifting program, you should either figure it out or find a new one. That program you're doing appears to require a lot of self regulation, but you are obviously a beginner. You should do something that's more structured until you really have a feel for what you're doing. Solo hobbies are fine and all, but find something that pushes you out into the world. Use your hobby as a venue to build and make connections. Don't just do them alone in your basement. Do a show, jo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 03:51 PM
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Enjoy going your own way. Ha...he's going his own way so hard he needed to tell us about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/18 06:16 PM
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Making your children your mental point of origin is no better than making a woman your mental point of origin.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/18 06:15 PM
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Better?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 03:28 PM
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killed by his wife No Spoilers!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 02:58 PM
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Beats the hell outta the recent influx of MGTOWs doing US Weekly style posts about celeb infidelity.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 02:57 PM
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Does this still work: http://archive.is/mJXHU
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/18 07:15 PM
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Your post is so clueless that it hurts to read it. First: At three pounds of fat loss per month I think I can get to my body fat goal in the next 6-12 months. You can't spreadsheet your way to weight loss. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of body fat and kept it off knows that it doesn't work like your projection says it should. Second: Since you're trying to math your way to fitness, allow me to speak your language: Current: 186 lbs/28% body fat = 134 lbs lean body mass + 52lbs fat Goal…
/r/askMRP19/11/18 06:31 PM
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Google keeps failing me here. If so, you're not trying very hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/18 06:05 PM
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what I need to hear and get me off the “flavor of the week” as you put it. I've always said that the best program is the one that gets you excited to go to the gym. As long as it kind of fits in the basic framework of a solid S&C program, and you're not constantly training at the upper limit of your strength, you'll be fine. There's no secret sauce - it's all about consistency. An established program whose principles you understand works great as a set of rails to make sure you aren't going over…
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 09:32 PM
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So your program isn't the worst thing I've ever seen, but it seems to me like you're serving too many masters. Strength AND hypertrophy AND fat loss and....Seriously, most guys just need to get stronger without getting fat. The rest kind of takes care of itself. Don't worry about individual body parts. Let yourself develop the way your body develops. Worrying about changing the shape of your shoulders is just your insecurity talking. So here's one question: If one of your strength goals is bench…
/r/RPChristians16/11/18 07:34 PM
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Confronting her is weak. She's unsatisfied sexually. Not really her fault, is it? Either look in the mirror and bring more to the table or decide it doesnt bother you because you're satisfied with yourself.... "Her orgasm is her responsibility". Well, there you go. She's taking responsibility.
/r/RPChristians15/11/18 02:51 AM
1

So we've lowered the bar from "totally impossible" to "genetic freak". I suspect we've also got diverging criteria for genetic freak.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 11:22 PM
40

I don't know of any bigfoot stories where the sasquatch is 5'9
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 10:33 PM
5

236 lbs is a lot of cum.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 07:37 PM
2

Maybe for you.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 02:25 PM
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Guys who obsess over body parts and percentages project insecurity. Just get better than you were last week and do that every week for the remainder of your life. Keep getting stronger without getting fat. It's a cliche, but train with the process in mind rather than the end result.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 02:20 PM
1

And you're butthurt that she says that because she should tell you the truth?
/r/askMRP09/11/18 06:02 PM
2

but her lying claim is she has zero desire and should be a nun. What do you mean by 'her lying' claim?
/r/askMRP09/11/18 05:44 PM
0

I propose that we legislate into law a requirement that the marriage licensing agencies mandate the following prior to issuing a marriage license: The fuck are you telling us this for? "I propose". Who did you propose this to? State legislators? Oh, nope. Just a bunch of Redditors. <back pat> Post reminds me of "I declare BANKRUPTCY"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 04:06 PM
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Just know that your best life probably isn't chasing "Red Pill" down the rabbit hole. All these books give you the blueprints for a certain person's frame. So flip through the blueprints, take what you like and create your own. But focus on building rather than studying. 90-10. 95-5. Guys like us - the type of guys who flock to places like Reddit - eventually need to force ourselves to do something. We're great at collecting information, navel gazing, and preparing our brains for that debate tha…
/r/askMRP09/11/18 02:23 PM
2

Reading is fine, but doing is better. If you have your shit together, you dont need generalized motivational/improvement or "advanced" RedPill reading. Theres no advanced. It's just the same stuff with slightly different perspective. Instead of consuming some other guy's perspective, develop your own. You can only examine your psyche so many times.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 02:11 AM
5

I have had multiple women at work give me IOIs so, I have confidence that I can game chicks at work on cautious mode Work IOIs, "hot girl" work friends....it's not real. Work game is mostly women looking for orbiters. If that's the only place you're getting IOIs - which I assume it is, because you've convinced yourself it's a BFD and are trying to leverage that as dread - then work on an additional venue.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 02:33 PM
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Can mods just ban this faggot for being a constant value leech? Started posting 4 months ago and has clearly done none of the work. No OYS posts, just bitchy victim pukes like the above. Help yourself or fuck off, OP.
/r/askMRP06/11/18 04:39 PM
2

Look into Dr. Stuart McGill re: your back. Each time I lift, I do the McGill 'Big 3' exercises as a warm-up, and I'd do bird dogs at any time during the day if something was bothering me. Back problems are pretty minimal now. Used to constantly have to pre-hab/stretch/massage. Car rides would fuck me up. I don't get that very often anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 02:35 PM
1

Fresh Air and Water (walk at lunchtime and drink more water) Number 1 ingredient in Coffee and Diet Coke: Water
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 02:24 PM
1

This seems to be more agree and amplify than amused mastery. But remove the snark and cutting insults out of your sarcasm and you'll be good. Don't use it to be passive aggressive, or be too on the nose with pointed wise cracks. Snark is almost always weak and unattractive. Avoid it. In order to use Amused Mastery, you have to have some level of mastery. I always think of that as assuming the role of the dad humoring his 7 year old daughter, or putting up with her minor tantrums.
/r/RPChristians06/11/18 02:17 PM
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Im confused should I game someone if they are showing bad behavior. Wouldn't that be rewarding bad behavior. You're too oblivious to handle this concept. I don't mean that as a pejorative. You just are. Go with 'reset each day' method instead. Stop taking "bad behavior" as an affront to you. Turn off the scoreboard and quit looking for things to be mad about. Before you go removing time, affection, presence, whatever....In order for it to matter, your presence has to be something that is valued.…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 05:58 PM
5

https://www.rianstone.com/
/r/askMRP05/11/18 02:02 PM
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Baby time is mom time. Kids are wired to bond with mom during feeding. How did kids bond with dad before bottles were a thing? I suspect they didnt....until they were old enough to be useful. Dads dont need to be moms.
/r/askMRP03/11/18 05:13 PM
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But from as a child not being wanted. Stop framing yourself as a victim. If you go looking for it, everyone - even people who lived the most sheltered, privileged childhood - can come up with something from their past that they believe makes them dysfunctional. Even if you were unquestionably some sort of victim as a child, framing yourself as a person who things happen to rather than the person who can make things happen will make you miserable. If you feel like someone else needs to want you -…
/r/askMRP02/11/18 06:45 PM
1

Sometimes it takes a lot of discipline to walk out of the gym without a pump.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/18 03:32 PM
1

People always underestimate. Keep what I said about lifting volume in mind - people frequently think that when they cut, they need to up volume to 'burn fat' or they do more accessory moves to "tone" or make their biceps pop or some shit. Your focus should be on maintaining strength and letting the fat fall off.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/18 03:05 PM
1

Only set back so far was a gigantic and terribly painful hemorrhoid that I believe was the result of no fiber in my diet. Do what works for you, but over-fibering fucks me up. Bloated, gassy, and irregular. I used to try to supplement with metamucil and salad and it made me pretty miserable. I'm not a carnivore guy, but my own experience mirrors this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=utUfe7pDbJQ If you're Keto, make sure you get enough fatty meat. If you get a lot of whole fat - like chunks of fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/18 03:03 PM
1

There's a bit of stubborn back fat that I just can't get rid of. I've done fasting, caloric restriction, no booze, no sugar, no carbs... It may be just time and more dedication, but fuck that last 5 is taking forever. The "Last 5" is probably actually closer to the Last 15. Have you tried Leangains yet? After being a low/no carb guy for a long time, getting back on the carbs - strategically - took me to the next level. This guide made it pretty easy for me. http://anymanfitness.com/what-should-m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/18 02:45 PM
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Added 3 x 1 min. farmer walks with 50lb dumbbells for grip and mental strength plus two sets with the wrist roller. Farmer walks are great, but I don't see much use for long, light walks. Get yourself carrying bodyweight (100 lb per hand) for 10-20 yards x 5. If you DL 250, 200 carry should be no problem. Then work up to bodyweight per hand. Try suitcase carries (weight in just one hand) too. Your whole body will respond with heavy carries - not just burning forearms and traps. Your deadlift wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/18 02:21 PM
1

Yeah....well, judging by the other replies on this post, it's so commonly misquoted that it has taken a life of its own.
/r/askMRP01/11/18 07:09 PM
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The key word being "Let's".....how much work does she intend to be doing?
/r/askMRP01/11/18 01:13 PM
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It's kind of like taking a shit: Best done in private. Sometimes you can't help it spilling out, but expect to be judged on those occasions.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/18 01:04 PM
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The lesson, as always: Win
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/18 12:51 PM
3

Alpha <> Red Pill No doubt both were seeking "the one" when they got married.
/r/askMRP31/10/18 11:41 AM
3

TLDR: Calling a blue pill ideal "Deep Conversion" makes it no longer a blue pill ideal.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 08:29 PM
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Religion is brainwashing to keep the masses of betas in check Replace Religion with public schools, and religious symbolism with patriotic symbolism. Voila - no imaginary daddy necessary.
/r/askMRP29/10/18 06:40 PM
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I know I probably didn't handle the situation ideally. Suggestions? Don't judge how poorly things went by your memory of the moment. Wait to see how things play out in the days and weeks in the aftermath. Sometimes it's not about you. Your wife had a crazy moment. She's probably feeling sheepish about it now. As long as you didn't fold over, you're fine. My wife has occasional freak outs about whatever it is that I do that she decides she doesn't like today. If it's every six months, I'd not wor…
/r/askMRP29/10/18 06:34 PM
2

BPP advises that you not use dread on a pregnant woman. This is a commonly stated thing here that I wish would curl up and die. Everything below DL8 is the basics of being an attractive man. Should be practiced by every man all the time.
/r/askMRP29/10/18 05:57 PM
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She loves to bring that stuff up. So then when that stuff ceases to bother you, it's a loud and clear demonstration that you aren't such a thin skinned pussy. Nothing in your story is unique. Every wife knows how best to test their husband. Learn to control your emotional responses. We have all had to do this.
/r/askMRP29/10/18 03:43 PM
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If your handling a shit test ends with an angry woman firing a diaper at you, you probably did it wrong. You seem intent on winning....but framing it as winning or losing an interaction sets you outside of your frame. Somewhere, I think it was /u/strategos_autokrator who made an analogy along these lines: A shit test is basically your wife coming to you and saying "Here, I made you a plate of shit for dinner." If you eat it, you fail. But if you say "I'M NOT EATING THAT SHIT!", you also fail. Bo…
/r/askMRP29/10/18 02:09 PM
2

McGill is the real deal. That McGill big 3 - bird dog, rolling side plank, and his sit-up variation - is all I do for midsection work. I do one set of each to warm up. Helps feel more stable with every lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/18 12:54 PM
1

My assessment is that the butt hurt factor when I get shot down is zero, but after a while (take now, 2 months no sex) I grow resentful and mean, I start not wanting to kino and show affection, because I don't really want to get cock blocked again. How many times have you initiated sex in these 2 months? How do you go about it? Is it the tired reach over on the couch before you both head to bed after you've been watching TV for 2 hours? Take today, I’m obviously annoyed I got turned down yesterd…
/r/askMRP26/10/18 12:40 PM
1

gold standard of peer reviewed published academic research As if there is such a thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 07:23 PM
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This is sports narrative bullshit. Carr is average, the Raiders suck, and the narrative provided a scapegoat. The end. In related news, Luke Kuechley, who legitimately sobbed on the field after getting hit in the face remains one of the 3 best defensive players in the NFL and has the respect of the entire league.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 05:29 PM
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Spending your time hating other dudes is a waste of energy. It's like the guys that reply to every Trump tweet, or talk shit to Lebron on twitter. The fact that you feel the need to talk about him, or have opinions of him, means that in your gut, you think he's bigger than you. Go on about your life. Don't waste it trying to protect guys from dwarvish advice.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 01:13 PM
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Above, the storm clouds now had depth against the blue sky. The monsters darting behind the trees had red piercing eyes. My 8th grade English teacher just got a boner.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 12:55 PM
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Yep. Shoot for being able to bag a woman of acceptable quality rather than trying to compare yourself to an individual woman like your wife/gf. They can walk out the door and find an acceptable dick within the hour.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 12:45 PM
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It's absolutely a shit test. Anything you say like you can jump back on the slut train if you want is cringey beta mate guarding. If you're a catch, you wouldn't give a fuck. "Maybe if you make him lunch, you could get him to work the rest of the day with his shirt off". And if your buddy bends her over a saw horse, he's doing you a favor.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 12:39 PM
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to discovering the source of her trauma (likely from her childhood) that’s driving her sexual hangups. I just don't buy this angle....that digging into childhood trauma makes people want to fuck differently as adults. It's lack of attraction. Having her trying to reconcile childhood trauma seems like negotiation via triple bank shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 08:28 PM
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Just knowing that in your own heart is enough. Posting this was actually worse than posting the original post would have been.
/r/askMRP23/10/18 02:16 PM
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What I'm saying is that you seem to think you need marriedredpill to become worthy of your perfect princess of a wife. And if that's the case, this is the first thing you will need to wake up from. It's not about "being motivated to better myself." It's about making yourself your mental point of origin
/r/askMRP23/10/18 02:14 PM
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This sub can help anyone, because we aren't about fixing relationships. I suspect you're in for an awakening about your wife...it sounds like the part of you that feels unworthy is doing this to be worthy for your wife. Most guys come here thinking their wife is their problem, and through changing their own assumptions and behavior, realize that's not really the case. But either way, it doesn't matter why you start.
/r/askMRP23/10/18 01:10 PM
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but is it for me? We're not here to sell you. We don't get a commission. Do it or don't. We'll be fine either way.
/r/askMRP23/10/18 12:40 AM
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First of all, you don't need to run. If you like it, great. Keep doing it if you want. But losing weight is 95% a function of diet. To stay not fat, get your diet squared away. I assume you already have done to some extent, by virtue of losing 40 lbs. I'd bet this is more due to your diet than to your running. Anyway, read this and do it. And make sure you get 1 g protein per lb body weight. When you start lifting heavy, your body will be begging for protein. With regard to lifting, read the int…
/r/askMRP22/10/18 01:30 PM
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What do you want? What is your goal? How many days a week do you want to lift? Are you going to keep running? Do you race, or do you just jog? Is it something that's important to you, or do you just do it because you were fat and you saw fitter looking people doing it?
/r/askMRP21/10/18 09:32 PM
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The way that replies pile up on these cuck fanfic threads make me wonder how many dudes here harbor that fantasy.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 07:33 PM
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I calmly replied the kids know they are supposed to unpack their lunches when they get home. True or not, this is a DEER. By responding this way, you're accepting her premise. AA, AM, or STFU.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 02:19 PM
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What most guys think of as comfort, my wife finds repulsive. Hugs, snuggles....she doesn't really want that very often. If she does, she'll ask, or initiate it. But it's just a few seconds. Most of the time when I initiate "comfort", she finds it repulsive. Maybe I'm just bad at it. But I've found that all my wife wants from me with regard to 'comfort' is to know that when I'm with her, I want to be there. It's not something I can say, or give a kiss to check the box. This part is subcommunicati…
/r/askMRP18/10/18 06:01 PM
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Bands? Pull ups? Any pull will do. Home gym guys have to get creative sometimes. Look up landmine rows - since you probably don't have the landmine attachment, just stick the end of your barbell in the corner of the room, load up the opposite end of the bar and row. ProTip: Wrap a towel around the end that's in the corner to protect your barbell and your floor. Or, I made an adjustable DB for my home gym with 1" weights, some hose clamps, and a 24" gas pipe. Cost me $7 + .50 per pound.
/r/askMRP18/10/18 02:13 PM
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It starts here.... I got angry and loudly spoke "It's just fucking chips!" ...and continues through his blaming her for always wanting to fight.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 01:42 PM
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Just do dumbbell rows. I wouldn't sub anything else on the program, ever. But for this exercise, just get the reps in.
/r/askMRP18/10/18 01:18 PM
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You do realize that the problem here is not the chips, it's you being a bitch about it, right? I can't really tell, because you insist on framing yourself as the victim.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 01:06 PM
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Doesnt matter dude. Pick something simple and do it consistently. 5x5 is simple. Its 'good enough'. 'Good enough' is all you need. As long as you are doing the main compound lifts, and sticking in the 5ish rep range @ 65-85 %, you'll get stronger. The program that keeps you interested is best.
/r/askMRP18/10/18 01:23 AM
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I tried explaining how I'm going to protect the kids. You're not "trying to protect the kids" You're making sure to rub her nose in the fact that she fucked up, so that you can collect the moral high ground points due to you. Try acting like you're on the same team.
/r/askMRP17/10/18 05:53 PM
1

He's one of the strongest guys to ever live. Doubt he gives much of a fuck about his quad measurements. His nuts are 6" from his shoes. Squats don't get much lower. Weightlifters like Pisarenko hit rock bottom like that because that's where they catch a clean, so that's where they need to be strong. Many ways to squat, many reasons to squat. The right way is the way that services the goal. If the goal is an ATG squat, then ATG is "proper form"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/18 03:08 AM
1

Right....tell the Piz he's doing it wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/18 05:37 PM
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I think it's the being a bitch part that's keeping your wife dry. I'm gonna bet there's a different reason he's not fucking his wife.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 05:12 PM
2

You'd look better at 205.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 04:31 PM
2

Are you suggesting that OP constantly be entertaining her Think of a person you find interesting. How much time and energy do they spend trying to entertain you?
/r/askMRP10/10/18 11:37 AM
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Be more interesting than her phone.
/r/askMRP09/10/18 07:10 PM
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Most guys are terrified that someone, somewhere will disapprove of their decision. When you've got a frame, the guys who want to armchair QB your life cease to matter. It's OK to be wrong. Making decisions, being wrong, and accepting the consequences teach us that being 'wrong' isn't usually that big of a deal.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 12:40 PM
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What she said might ring true to RP aware men. I don't care. You should never, ever believe that what women say with their mouths. And especially don't believe what they tell you about you.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 03:34 PM
1

No More Mr. Nice Guy is a fine book, and it's required reading because of how well it establishes the concept of the nice guy. It's important to understand before getting on with the mrp program, but our prescription for your situation is different than Glover's. So when NMMNG tells you to do something, don't it. Just understand it. The problem with Glover's advice is that it assumes your wife values you and wants you to be happy. Most of us don't start at that point. So understand that your bou…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/18 02:52 PM
1

She knows exactly what to say to get me feeling like I'm wrong, I'm selfish, I'm a narcissist. First, be OK with being this. Option 2 is a greater challenge. There is no option 1 or option 2. Only 1 option. Grow a spine and unfuck yourself. You don't know what your actual options are until you establish what the best version of yourself is. Lift, read, repeat. Not exactly. Lift heavy and often, sure. But read and repeat? Less important. Finish the sidebar and start acting. Re-read if you want...…
/r/askMRP05/10/18 12:09 PM
2

Deadlift is the easiest lift to learn. https://startingstrength.com/training/the-deadlift-in-5-steps How about instead of worrying about hurting your back, you just get a strong back.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 04:07 PM
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Most guys report their wives being 8-9s too. If MRP was a neighborhood, apparently it would be like living on Wisteria Lane
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 02:42 PM
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My SMV is probably 8-9 depending on the woman. I see myself as a 8.5. Six pack and better delts I’ll be a 9 forsure (December) Never ceases to amaze me how many 8s and 9s come here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 01:53 PM
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Met my wife at work when I was in high school. I was 16, she was 17. Had a food court job at the mall. Dated all the way through high school and college. At 24 I knocked her up, so we got married. Kind of goes against the orthodoxy here, but I'm glad I paired off and did the family thing early in my life. There's something to be said for going through your 20s raising kids together.
/r/askMRP01/10/18 01:34 PM
3

You are retarded.
/r/askMRP30/09/18 06:53 PM
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Rape accusations The fuck?
/r/askMRP30/09/18 06:25 PM
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New lifters have to walk the path from step 1. Arm curls with pink dumbbells don't get you anywhere either. Got to build a base before you start worrying about defined lats.
/r/askMRP30/09/18 12:17 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbB0EwuQQpA Here's an accessible start. Both the podcaster (Tom Woods) and the guest here have produced quite a bit of content on this and related topics. Tom Woods wrote "The Politically Incorrect Guide to American History", which is also really accessible. If you want more, shoot me a PM. I'm not an expert, but I've been down the rabbit hole and back on this stuff and can probably point you to books or lectures on whatever it is you want to chase down.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/18 05:11 PM
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I'm starting to wish I had paid more attention in class, over the discussion on markets, market failures, the role of government, and picking the lesser of two evils. If you want to know anything about anything, best to forget what they taught you in school. Not sure what it's like in Canada, but here you get Government school saying "Businessman bad, wise president saved the day". You've got to dig on your own to discover anything other than that. It's like you said - there's nuance. Law is not…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 04:50 PM
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If Trump gets involved with regulating what can and can't be done by internet companies, anti-PC, and anti-establishment speech will be less likely to exist in the future. The precious public (as in open/free) spaces will become public (as in government regulated) spaces. And at this point, there won't be a "Just move the board somewhere else" option, because that will be regulated too. And by the way, evil robber barons exploiting the free market is mostly a myth. Their unfair practices were in…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 04:24 PM
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marriedredpill frequently bans annoying posters and chicks who come here to give their 'unique female perspective'. I presume you don't support this, because free speech / public space?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 04:02 PM
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that they are not a "private company" but a "Public Space" This is horseshit. I'll stand by any company's right to control content, even one who wants to ban me. You go running to the government to fix this, they'll make it worse. Take that to the bank. We have the President on our side Riiiight. Keep on believing in unicorns.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 01:08 PM
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As is the common refrain here - if she wanted to cheat, she could have and you would never know about it. There's nothing you can do about it. There's no way to know if she didn't, and you're unlikely to ever find anything definitive if she did. Most newly unplugged guys go through this freak-out period where you realize what your woman has been capable of this whole time. It's like coming home from a long vacation to see that you accidentally left your front door wide open. So you rifle through…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 06:37 PM
2

Then it sounds to me like you dont really like talking about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 02:14 AM
3

40+20+20=80
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 04:03 PM
2

I lost a little strength but it's coming back quickly. I promise you didn't actually lose strength. Your body is just taking longer than you'd like to adjust back to the neural demands of lifting heavy. I assume you went to 3x5 on account of feeling worn out or something? It's not a bad approach. And the deload is for the same reason? FWIW, I have your same problem when I used to do a deload week with light weights. I'd feel weak for the first week and a half after the deload. So if my lifting c…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 04:01 PM
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The sudden change to ‘Don’t worry I’ve got it covered’ was not well received. You're clearly approaching this as a thing you're doing to make your wife like you more. Whether or not something is well-received is not a metric you should be prioritizing. Congruence is key. I am a person who talks about what’s happening, good and bad. I've always been a talker. Is that masculine? Probably not, but I don’t think it matters if it is or isn’t. I accept that’s who I am. I don't want to change it, even …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 01:24 PM
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Maybe it's because I'm overly influenced by /r/marriedredpill, but /u/Rian_Stone is the one guy who makes these listenable for me. I love Rollo's first two books...but it appears that when you put him, anthony, and donovan together, any conversation rapidly turns to "When are women going to shoulder blame for XYZ?" Who cares. Thank god Rian's there to vocalize that, and Richard savvy enough to move things along.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 03:42 PM
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No, I think you're both trying to convince yourselves what you are doing is what you want. I tend to think guys who say 'what I'm doing right now and just started doing is what you should do, and actually you are a pussy who is afraid if you don't'. Sounds insecure. Your purpose in writing it is to feel better about it. And if others follow, or backpat, all the better. That's the similarity between you and Steve. Where you differ is that you've done something, and Steve has just convinced himsel…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 03:11 PM
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I thought the same. The two both go through manic phases like this. The posts read like it's themselves they are trying to convince.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 12:32 PM
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Need to add gallon-of-milk-a-day to increase cals to 4,000+. You can't rush progress. GOMAD is a ticket to bloated fatass. Fine if your only goals are lifting more weight, BMI be damned....but if you want to just build muscle, there are better ways. Not for the faint of heart. Sepaen is right about your bmr.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 05:41 PM
2

Sounds simple, but the key here is don't take the first bite. When my wife bakes cookies, if I eat one I end up eating 10. A 10 cookie binge isn't the end of the world....but if you do it three times a month, it can fuck your progress pretty hard. So know yourself. I know there's no "Just one piece'. So I don't even start.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 04:37 PM
3

What is being a doorknob? Never heard that one.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 01:47 AM
2

coordinate scents IMO, soap, deodorant, after shave, lotion, etc should have no scent at all. Unscented or 'clean'
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 11:12 PM
1

Mugler's A*Men was the one I bought that I absolutely couldn't stand. I bought it, unsmelled, after seeing it ranked highly on Fragrantica. Was cheapish, so I went for it. Not good.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 11:08 PM
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I've gotten into this fragrance thing lately and some good advice I got was to go somewhere like Lucky Scent or Twisted Lily and spend $40 on samples, then try them out. But once you get the samples, put two different scents on - one on right wrist, one on left, and then smell them throughout the day. See how they work with your chemistry, how they change throughout the day, etc. It's become a fun hobby...every few months I'll have a dozen samples shipped out and see what's out there. If anythin…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 07:47 PM
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I just work on being a good example. Make yourself your goal. Put in a year of success before trying to evangelize.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 01:32 AM
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Everything I eat, I log. If it's packaged, I eat in multiples of the serving size....I don't eat whatever amount I feel like and then try and guess how much I ate. So if I was having milk, I put it in my 8 ounce cup. If I want more than that, I fill the cup again and drink it. Be super anal about it for the first several months and eventually it's just kind of a habit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 02:27 PM
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The You Are What You Eat post from /u/Redneck001 is what finally sold me on the revolutionary idea that in order to lose fat, I would need to eat less. Prior to that, I was a keto true believer. "No carbs, fatty meats are better, eat til you're full". Doesn't work if you can eat 1800 calories of sausage, eggs, and bacon for breakfast, 1800 calories of ground beef for lunch, and 2500 calories of ribs for dinner and never really be full. So I found my TDEE, subtracted 500 (3500 deficit/week) and w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 12:38 PM
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Not being a prize and believing that you are will get you a hell of a lot farther than being a prize but not believing that you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 08:14 PM
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Everyone I talk to about this, I tell the same thing: If you like running, I'm not going to tell you not to run any more than I'd tell someone who loves basketball to stop playing basketball. But if you think running sucks, and you're doing it to lose weight, you're better off not torturing yourself. It doesn't help that much.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:51 PM
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Also, since I've dispensed so many takes in this thread, here's my own Before & After In the before, I had been lifting for a few years but had a diet I could only stick to occasionally, and binged too frequently. I found this place around July 2016 and followed the diet advice in the sidebar. 3.5 months later, I was the second picture. I decided that was pretty good, so I just maintained for about the next year or so. Lifted hard, ate at maintenance (3000 calories/day) I did get a lot stronger …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:44 PM
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Women touching a man's arms are the equivalent of men wanting to touch female boobs and ass. When I kino, the first place I go is usually the inside of the elbow area, or upper back/neck. Doesn't mean I dig traps & triceps.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:28 PM
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Take it from a guy who has done every diet known to man to try and hack the weight loss process. You are making the exact same mistakes every new overweight guy makes. Intense calorie deficit routines will fuck you in the long run. What happens over the course of a week doesn't matter. Sustainable results are all you should care about. If you lost 10 lbs in a week, it was 95% bloat and shit. You don't need to do cardio to lose bodyfat. All it does for me is stimulate my appetite. Especially HIIT…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:23 PM
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but you'll be slower Weaker, too, I'm discovering. In the spring, I switched my squat technique to try and emphasize a more neutral low back. End up getting hurt. Been slowly re-building my squat since, and found that I'm just a hell of a lot stronger with my natural low back arch. Took a while to figure out how to turn it back on.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:18 PM
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awesome genetics. ...is what guys who spend too much time doing arms tell themselves when their gains suck. "You must have awesome genetics." Implication being that they are more self made than awesome genetics guy. I was a college athlete, so I suppose I've got pretty good athletic genes. But in terms of muscle and aesthetics....I never had "awesome genetics". Best my body ever looked in college was probably comparable to Adam Driver. It was only when I started counting every fucking gram of fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 04:22 PM
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That's about 8 lbs of muscle if your BF% estimates are close. 182 * .85 = 155# Lean Body Mass 163 * .90 = 147# Lean Body Mass Make no mistake - 8 lbs of muscle is a big deal. And it makes a big difference in how you look.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:40 PM
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Proof that solipsism isn't a female only phenomenon.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:18 PM
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Lifting is the easiest part of the program here. Introverts can do it alone. Lazy guys and busy guys can make gains for years on 45 minutes 3x a week. You get instant positive feedback from your body and from other people. It is literally just show up and try for 95% of dudes. The reason it's step 1 is because if you can't do this, with the short term gratification, you have no hope of owning any of the longer term, less obvious things.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:51 PM
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I've never heard a woman swoon over arms. Only men. As you say, shoulders, ass, and abs are what they talk about unprompted. As with everything, it's a clear the bar standard. Most don't give a shit about the difference between The Rock's arms/chest vs. the werewolf guy in Twilight.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:43 PM
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so she can call herself a good wife with a clear conscious. Women are experts at manipulating their own conscience. The term "Hamster" refers to exactly this - the woman rewriting history to make herself either the good guy or the victim. Counting on a woman's pity is a shitty strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 05:50 PM
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Best ab move I know is pull ups. Lots of pull ups + low BF = abs.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 05:43 PM
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Do you put protein in the Jello? Or just counting the protein already in it? My understanding is that protein from gelatin isn't anabolic....so you shouldn't count things like pork rinds or jello toward your protein macros.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 02:08 PM
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My wife gets very easily stressed, and when stressed she gets extremely rigid or "tunnel vision" and demands to lead and everyne to follow, You should fuck with her more. Exasperate her on purpose.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 02:00 PM
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I think that this is rude and counterproductive. We generally don't allow chicks here.
/r/askMRP28/08/18 12:00 PM
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Here's the only tip you need: Stop coming to AskMRP to ask guys on the internet to micromanage your life. Over 2.5 weeks, you've posted 5 questions in AskMRP. Stop asking for the answers. Post a regular OYS in the corresponding thread if you're serious. All this shit over here you're doing is "How many sprinkles do I use". You need a big picture approach if you're going to start being your own answer key.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 06:40 PM
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Your performance in meetings isn't the problem. That answer is something a manager tells someone who just isn't deserving of more $ or responsibility, but you dont really know why or how they could get there. They dont think you have options, so they dont need to pay you more. They can take or leave you right now. In all likelihood, this job isn't a good fit for you.
/r/askMRP24/08/18 02:30 AM
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After building up my body, my mind and my actions and being that better leader, I suspect this is bullshit. How long have you been at this?
/r/askMRP23/08/18 07:01 PM
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this post is a word salad. I'd agree. And you're dead on with the uselessness of a unifying theory. I've said this before - RP is A truth, it's not The truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 12:44 PM
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Did those terms help get you where you are today? Sometimes it's hard to remember how you graduate from using a simple abstraction to a more nuanced one. Not everyone can understand the better framework on day one. I think about reading Athol Kay the first time, and how that was really awakening for me then. Now, guys are like "Athol is Purple Pill garbage." Yeah well....if you threw "mental point of origin" at me before I understood what is alpha, what is beta, what is attractive, what is arous…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 12:17 AM
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You'd be better off lifting and/or reading for those 3 hours, for at least the next 6 months. Volunteering at an animal shelter sounds like some shit that a guy would do to try and impress a woman. It sounds beta. It is not inherently beta. Some big names in the manosphere are involved in animal causes. But given what you've posted, you're looking for validation by doing this. You're a wreck. Figure your own shit out before you go out trying to save the world.
/r/askMRP20/08/18 02:18 PM
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5/3/1 lacks volume, The 5/3/1 knock off app might lack volume. But 5/3/1 is not a program, it's a set of training principles. You can program a ton of volume into it if you understand it. Wendler has posted so many free variations on his blog and T-Nation that it would take you 5 years to try them all. https://www.t-nation.com/training/5-3-1-for-hardgainers I'm doing this one right now....it's probably my favorite variation. I do it every fall after cutting weight all summer. Press day is 14 set…
/r/askMRP18/08/18 03:14 PM
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Do dips for triceps accessory. Rope pulls and fine for show, but it's not the same pushing pattern you get with dips. Dips make you stronger.
/r/askMRP18/08/18 02:56 PM
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( or read Kurt Cobain suicide note) Maybe not the best place to look for life advice
/r/askMRP17/08/18 02:18 PM
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Not surprising. In what I've learned about you, you're on the opposite end of the spectrum
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/18 02:12 PM
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There is a kernel of validity in this post, but the broscience isn't helping your case. But my main issue is this.... In every single conflict you have with her, write down what she brings up, figure out your boundary, then figure out how to enforce that boundary in a manner that recognizes that the central issue, from her view, is how she feels about it. Gay. This whole boundary thing that occasionally catches on here is fucking gay. If you need to draw a plurality of "boundaries", you're eithe…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 07:49 PM
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Ate only healthy food. Treated my body as a temple: What is healthy food? How would you define this? You determine pizza is bad. OK. Why? What makes it bad? Is tomato sauce bad? onions? peppers? meat? cheese? Bread? Would a Subway sub have been a healthier option? Meat, cheese, vegetables, bread....sounds pretty similar to me. My point here is that you need to have a better plan than eat "Healthy". "Healthy" is pretty arbitrary. A lot of the shit that people think of as "Health food" is just as …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 01:41 PM
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That seems like a bad sign. Maybe not. I experienced this and chalked it up to me disconnecting sex from 'relationship' in my mental framework. I think it's part of killing the oneitis for your wife. When you separate the two, you can judge the sex, and you can judge the value your wife provides outside the bedroom on their own merits. Before, you were just fooling yourself with the lovey-dovey post-coital feelz. Of course, if it's all bad....bad sex, bad relationship....then maybe it is a bad s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 12:17 PM
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of course you're also going to be providing beta, but it isn't to turn your wife on. Right - but you're still going to be doing it. Beta displaces alpha. Lower alpha is a given if you're in this situation. I read it as making the most of the beta position you're in.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 12:53 PM
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Is this theory, or have you applied this while raising your own toddlers? One thing to be more alpha to a mom your plating. Another to be more alpha while raising your own kids in the same house. Any man who has raising his kids in his frame is going to be putting beta traits on full display. Especially when they're little. That's part of the trade off of choosing to be Dad over Chad. /u/CaptJohnLukeDiscard 's post offers a pretty decent mindset to take when you've made the choice to put yoursel…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 12:23 PM
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Next thing I NEED to add is farmers and prowler sessions. Time has been my biggest obstacle in adding these (weather too and they can only be done outdoors). SQ:345x4, DL:365x3, OHP:145x3, BP: 225x4 Just my opinion here, but farmers walks make a better strength exercise than conditioner. Treat it as deadlift accessory work. Put bodyweight in each hand and carry 10m down and back, Rest and do it again a few times. That's a game changer. (or try suitcase carry with bodyweight if you really want to…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/18 05:59 PM
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Shut the fuck up at work, too. Do your job, don't talk about yourself. Be independent - don't go asking for help or clarification unless it's absolutely necessary. Just do. Take the "ask forgivness not permission" approach to things you want to do if there's any grey area. If your boss comes and corrects you, take the instruction and move on. Don't DEER, don't bitch. Don't go and try and be mr. take charge with co-workers. Just take charge of yourself where there is space. Judging by username, y…
/r/askMRP10/08/18 01:42 PM
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Oh, sure, we can say that the "feminists" encourage that, but have you actually heard that? Ever? Ever glance around at the shiny periodicals in the checkout lane when you buy your groceries?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 09:21 PM
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Good post, RC. I've experienced everything you describe here. After you have the realization, it's kind of an obvious thing....but it took a while for me to reconcile it with my reason for finding red pill/married red pill in the first place. There was a nagging "Am I just moving the goalposts?" for me for a long time. I came here because I wanted sex every day. I'm not doing that, but the frequency and quality is satisfying. SO....am I failing, or succeeding? Guys who are like I used to be - di…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 09:19 PM
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How do you kill the no woman other than your mom will love you unconditinally? Shit, the majority of moms out there will turn against you if you sin against the sisterhood.
/r/askMRP07/08/18 06:14 PM
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Draw boundaries and communicate your needs.
/r/askMRP02/08/18 08:11 PM
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quite frankly I’d rather go to sleep/do something else than have sex with someone who’s not attracted to me. Translation: "Sex isn't validating me like I want it to" Look...you've set the expectation that you're a weak loser and a bad lay. So, no wonder she's not into it. You've got some work to do before she figures out that she's not fucking that same weak loser. Each time you act disappointed, walk away, etc., you ingrain in your wife's brain that sex is this big thing, and she needs to perfo…
/r/askMRP01/08/18 02:44 PM
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I still read a lot....I just have established the frame I operate in and I feel comfortable discarding what I don't find helpful. Once you're comfortable evaluating what it is you read, and you're OK if you recognize some bullshit and it doesn't make your entire world fall apart, you're "using the tools" rather than building your world around high priests & theories.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 05:00 PM
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In my experience, initiating as a temperature check doesn't work. I think something is revealed via subcommunication. You're not helping your OI if you've got nothing invested. It's like the difference between hitting a bad shot on the driving range vs. in a round of golf. If you're just fucking around on the range and you smack a few good ones, then you top one, not caring about this shot isn't OI. OI is when you hit a bad shot in a round and you don't melt down, because you know you can still …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 04:44 PM
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Makes me realize that I need to find a good critique of RP to ensure I am not falling for confirmation bias or pseudoscience or conspiracy theories It is all of that. Especially some of the big picture stuff. I think of it as a useful frame for my interpersonal relationships. True or false doesn't matter. The older I get, the more I realize truth is subjective. But once you believe that the best thing for the world is for you to pursue what you want, things that make your life better follow, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 04:00 PM
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Treading water happens. Just keep being consistent. The path here isn't linear. You getting better doesn't mean results follow 1:1. Just stringing together days of consistency reinforces that your frame is here to stay. Also - I suspect your attractiveness can improve. Last time you posted about your physical self, you were 149 lbs. You don't post about your lifts. Anyone who is progressing in the weight room can usually barely contain themselves from bragging about recent PRs. What are your lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 03:20 PM
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I suspect she will, her talking about it is likely the first sign of her feeling the rope tightening. Everyone goes at their own pace, but in my experience, wife getting into shape was one of the last things to go. And talking about it doesn't mean much of anything. When they stop talking about, and you 'catch' them working out, that it is when you know they're serious.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 02:58 PM
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I deal with it by not really giving much of a fuck what she thinks of my performance if I'm satisfied with it. Generally, I've got higher expectations for myself than my wife anyway.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 07:20 PM
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Right. And those don't apply to unmarried cohabitating parents?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/18 07:07 PM
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14 years, 3 kids and no marriage? What would be the difference if he were married?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/18 06:08 PM
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Am I missing something? What is this? Is your wife a camgirl? She had been chatting with her online foils - an approved activity - and I asked told her it seemed like she had been chatting a lot that day. She later gave me details (this guy is being annoying in his advances), and all is good. But, I need to work on the jealousy thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 03:11 PM
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maybe I should chance the words… feelings of… emptiness? Sounds like maybe you're realizing the validation you crave doesn't come from sex like you thought it would?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 02:59 PM
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They all think they have it the worse. This is true, but teachers are a fucking special breed of entitlement + martyr complex.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:21 PM
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Lotta guys here need to go back and read this post... twice. Way too much talk lately about verbalizing "I'm going to leave" or verbalizing "Hard Boundaries". Emphasis on: Whenever a person delivers an ultimatum, always understand that this is a declaration of powerlessness. You are advising OP to declare his powerlessness. If you need to say it to your wife, you are not living it. That's not to say that OP owes it to his wife, or his marriage, to not cut bait and move on. That's his decision to…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:10 PM
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not moving forward What's the goal? What does moving forward look like?
/r/askMRP25/07/18 04:26 PM
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Eating/weight wise, I have gone sideways/backwards a bit over the last few weeks. Too much deciding to have cheat meals and enjoying summertime barbecues, too little counting calories and saying no to excess. In the super-amazing category: I have dropped from XXL to XL shirts. I know, I know, still a fat fuck. I have some scrambling to do. I want to get to 225 by the end of the year. I am thinking I may need to try to balance out my calorie consumption somewhat. I had been doing a deal where wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 01:40 PM
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Most of the time when you're old - for me at least - tweaked muscles are just tight. Something out of the ordinary happened, and they seize up and don't let go until you can show them it's OK to relax. Of course, this isn't always the case and sometimes you're hurt and need to lay off. Learning to be able to differentiate between the two is probably the most important thing an aging lifter can learn.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 01:23 PM
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It's more the neutral wrist than the tight grip. But the thought of gripping fingers as tight as possible and keeping your thumb fully wrapped on the bar helps force the neutral wrist position.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 11:07 PM
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I've had a few bouts with pain in that area - here's what I've found: Mostly, it's from excessive wrist flexion. I'd get it on curls, one hand KB exercises (snatch especially), pull ups for higher reps, and rows. Eventually I discovered, for me, it happens when I use a weaker grip and overcompensate for it with a flexed wrist. It's kind of hard to describe, but if I grip something just enough so that it doesn't fall out of my hand, my wrists flex to 'help' even out the grip...and that's where I …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 06:27 PM
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You're trying too hard to maximize dread, looking for short term gains. You built up this Bachelor Party weekend in your mind as a way to get something from your wife. It never works that way. You're still Dancing Monkey, just flipped sideways. You do what you want about the ring thing, but it's pretty meaningless. It's putting the cart before the horse. "I want this symbolic gesture of commitment in place because I don't have actual control". She knows you don't have control, so stating it as a…
/r/askMRP24/07/18 06:17 PM
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Tennis Elbow so curls and some pulls are suffering. Inside or outside of elbow?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 04:05 PM
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I just want to throw everything away. We did a move to a temp location for 10 months, and then to our new house....gave me two shots at douching the trash out of my life. Throwing (almost) everything away was one of the best things I've ever done. (Especially clothes. That shit's out of style!) Anything I hadn't used in 2 years or more got the fucking heave ho, except for a one box each of sentimentals. Occasionally I'll wish I had a book or two that I tossed, but in general, clearing that shit …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 04:03 PM
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I suppose it depends where you're coming from. I might be projecting to some extent, because in my past, I've used almost that exact phrase as OP....and it was coming from a place of bitchy misplaced ego....kind of a "How dare you be pissy at me?" It's more of an invitation to fight, or an opening bid in a negotiation for her to deescalate her mood. Now, I go with ignore & exclude. Subtext is "you can do that over there, but I'm going to be over here". I'm happy to give my wife the space to bitc…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 12:22 PM
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This is exactly right, IMO. Some guys advocate 'calling out bullshit'. I think it's a bitch move most of the time. Too sensitive. "How many days can I expect of you being pissy" = I'm sensitive to your moods and need you to act right so I can feel OK again.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/18 06:50 PM
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Dont believe what people tell you about their personal lives. A lot of the people who you think have their finances together, for example, are living paycheck to paycheck and floating by on credit. Also....lots of guys spew the soulmate thing and are trying to convince themselves, or suck up to their wives. I actually did this for a while...it led to a few months of reciprocal adoration from my wife, followed by a rapid plummet to beta rock bottom. I cant say for certain it doesnt work for anybo…
/r/askMRP20/07/18 05:30 PM
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I thought we all had to have beards? WTF.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/18 08:24 PM
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Ballpark figures work just fine. It's either A) A while or B) It depends Look, you're going to go through phases where things are great, and phases where you're doing everything 'right' and wife doesn't respond, and phases where she's just kind of a lunatic for a few days. The whole thing here is that you become able to handle either of them. You learn that the lunatic who shows up every now and then is just a part of life with women. It's like a thunderstorm - they might seem scary, but since I…
/r/askMRP18/07/18 03:36 PM
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Life Pro Tip: Using "said" as an adjective is a flashing red light for middling intellect trying to signal sophistication. It makes you sound like an intern. You do it twice in this one post. It's unnecessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/18 12:33 PM
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Absurd weights....c'mon....every Man can squat 405 Point is, weights fall fast, and even with 200 lbs on the bar, you don't know exactly how things are going to unfold when big hunk of metal clangs off a big hunk of metal. So like this? Shoot hips forward, clear hands and drop? I'll try this today just as practice. I'd just let the bar roll off your back and make sure it doesn't land on your lower leg. To reiterate, only do this intentionally if you have bumper plates. With metal, do only in eme…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/18 12:12 PM
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Just learn to how dump a squat. Mid panic isn't the best time to figure out how to do it. I don't like squatting in racks - racks failing is some scary shit. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLB1u54BgmI (jump to 55s) Safest way to squat, IMO, is using bumpers and plain old weight stands, and knowing how to drop the weight if you're failing. Although I realize not all gyms have that as an option. But don't be under the impression that safety bars are "safe". So best option is to quit 2-3 reps befo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 04:04 PM
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Right, so any guy who recognizes signs of a female behaving in her nature puts a tick mark next to "Signs of BPD". FI: Masculinity -> Toxic Masculinity -> Masculinity is Toxic RP: Femininity -> BPD -> Femininity is BPD
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 02:34 PM
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BPD is becoming manosphere short-hand for "Female"
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 02:14 PM
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Also, given the choice between being "pretty strong but too fat" and "pretty lean but not strong" I'll take the former over the latter every day. You don't have to choose. Get strong, manage your diet. You do those two things, aesthetics take care of themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 01:46 PM
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Not much, except to ask her if she appreciates the changes.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 11:22 AM
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This is the faggotiest thing I've seen upvoted on this sub in a long time.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 11:21 AM
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the mirror test doesn’t lie I'd argue that it does. 15 lbs ago I could convince myself that I passed the mirror test. I could convince myself I looked good in the mirror....then I'd see pictures. "Must have been drinking that day - I look a little bloated", I'd think. You're still too fat until you look lean and jacked in selfies & candids.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/18 07:57 PM
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Stand when you pee, stand when you press.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:00 PM
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back/bis have always been my nemesis. No, your nemesis is your ego. It gets in the way of identifying and addressing your real weaknesses instead of what you want your weakness to be.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 03:21 PM
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Which is exactly my original point: You do the lifts that make you feel better about yourself.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 03:05 PM
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because that is the only OHP I feel comfortable doing without a spotter. Also...trying to imagine how a person would spot an overhead press that's not incredibly dangerous or completely gay. Or both.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 03:00 PM
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Don't hate the player, hate the game if you can't hang... Post a pic then, Adonis. We'll see who's bullshitting who.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 02:51 PM
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Decline bench, 245X10, DL 315X10, Hacksquat 405X10, Overhead press 205X6 (Smith Machine), curls dumbbells 35X10. First step in not being an insecure bitch is being honest with yourself. "Important Shit" section is an exercise in ego protection. Decline bench....why? Most guys can decline more than regular bench. So you report that. Hack Squat....why? Because you can't squat that much, so you do something that lets you get away with 400 lbs. Press on smith machine...why? Because Smith machine cou…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 02:16 PM
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220lbs 20%BF, so I’m relatively jacked fat People who come here and discover working out are so retarded, they're almost beyond help. If you're injured, you're doing it wrong. Learn how to do it right.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 02:01 PM
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My favorite is how /u/red-sfpplus feels the need to call out any guy who benches over 315.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 08:51 PM
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your lifts are pretty high, are you stacking gear? Fuckin A. It makes me sad for the state of men that 300 and 400 lbs lifts are all it takes to get steroid questions. OP, no disrespect. Those are solid numbers. But if we're talking PEDs, a guy better be getting some freak level shit out of it.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 08:50 PM
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You are right that it really comes from a change in perspective. I go with "Embrace the suck." Like, if you are having shitty service at a restaurant, enjoy the fact that it might be the shittiest service you'll ever have. Most things that piss you off are minor, so just revel in the absurdity of it all.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 06:25 PM
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Obviously you want this wedding more than she does.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 05:56 PM
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"your always asking me how much I love you" Sounds pretty alpha.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 04:20 PM
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You being all butt-hurt about who does the initiating is a major red flag that you're not as far along as you think.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 03:39 PM
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but she refuses to do anything about it Just like you
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 02:05 PM
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focus on quick arm gains. Irony, of course, is that squatting and pulling heavy will put more meat on your arms more quickly than curls. Also, it's dudes who fetishize big arms, not females.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 01:30 PM
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One of the trainers suggested lowering the weight to something like 50-60kg and then do reps until failure. Deadlifts to failure sounds like a bad plan to me. If you're rowing 60 KGs, then 90 KG shouldn't be so much that you can't keep your back from rounding. You've probably got technique issues rather than strength issues. There's not much technique to a novice level deadlift - grip the bar, set your back angle, brace, then go. Rip teaching DL to Art of Manliness guy is my go to with deadlift …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 01:17 PM
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Not sure I follow. You told dude to go slow. I think that's bad for guys who want to get strong. There's some room for slow moves if you're doing time under tension stuff, but that's mostly for fluff & buff exercises, not main strength movements.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 05:59 PM
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Should be snappy, but not out of control.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 05:53 PM
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Don't go slow if you want to be strong. Concentric phase should be powerful and quick.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 01:54 PM
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Manually frying toast in the butter >>>> toaster toasted toast and then buttering.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 07:04 PM
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Username checks out.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 12:44 PM
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$ per X: My wife makes more money than me. I calculated my likely alimony, divided by the estimated times we would have sex. I get paid about $60 each time. This was inspired by the recent post on the topic. Which is a great illustration for fucking retarded that premise was. If you fuck less, your cost goes up....win! But whatever... Years ago I calculated my $/day I get paid – wife's pay divided by days. I get over $200/day. I have used this several times as a trick to stay married, not leave.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 12:42 PM
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Example of that right here.... if I seem stressed or upset at the kids (something that happens pretty fucking rarely), she'll make a point of seeking me out and giving me a hug. I deeply appreciate those moments. This should be reversed, /u/resolutions316 . You should be the one doling out the support or approval. If you want the dynamic to change, you need to be the strong one. Right now, you rely on her to be the rock.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 12:26 PM
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Announcing goals makes a person less likely to achieve them. I don't care about anyone's goals here. I don't care about plans, either. Both are worthless. Usually OYS posts filled with goals and plans are just clueless guys jerking themselves off to the fantasy future version of themselves. "Fat guy 30% BF. Goal is abs. " Who cares. Tell me how your diet went this week. "Goal is to open 10 women next week". Who cares. How many did you talk to this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 06:34 PM
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"Dog Bites Man" stories don't get told.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 07:40 PM
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If I raised it even higher, then I could be fucking her ass 5 times a week. Well, there you go. Time to hit they gym and grow out that ponytail.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 06:30 PM
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OK. I don't think we disagree. Is there evidence to the contrary?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/18 01:45 PM
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It's not that controversial, and I agree what he seems to be saying. I just want women to be able to choose their own path in their lives. This is original flavor feminism, and it sounds reasonable enough to me. If you want to read his comments as uncharitably as possible, and stuff current nutjob feminism into what he's saying, I think you are intentionally missing the point.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/18 04:18 AM
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At the last competition in November, he beat the 1996 deadlift record of 705 pounds by lifting 711 pounds. EDIT: Baker is a former pro athlete. He reps 405 x 30 reps at 51. A 400 lbs deadlift ain't shit, especially for a beast like him. He's not strong because of his carnivore thing. He's strong because he's a stud. He could do it vegan if he chose to.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 05:04 PM
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uncommunicated desire Womens' dominant mode of communication is not with words. It's a Blue Pill, beta mindset that there's a combination of words that will 'convince' a woman of anything. "Demonstrate, don't explicate" Back to the sidebar for you. Have you even read Rational Male yet? This shit's been figured out already.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 05:02 PM
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He was deadlifting over 700 10 years ago..
/r/askMRP15/06/18 04:58 PM
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Steve is a bipolar Keto zealot. This is just one of the manic weeks...
/r/askMRP15/06/18 02:51 PM
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So judging by your picture, you're nowhere near 16% bodyfat. I'd put you in the 25-29 category But my advice still stands. A moderate cut. Just try eating at your sedentary TDEE, and get 2-2.5 g protein for each kilo bodyweight. Keep on hitting the gym and build some muscle mass....and like I said, play the long game.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/18 01:02 PM
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Good to hear. Bring the virility....bring the energy. Starfish will show itself less and less.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/18 12:51 PM
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Ha. Keep trying. Eventually you'll believe it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/18 12:15 AM
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My go-to's in emergencies: Carb days: Cup of skim milk and a serving of kashi cereal. Or two. No Carb days: Canned chicken mixed with sour cream & hot sauce
/r/askMRP14/06/18 07:30 PM
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In spite of losing so much weight, my body fat percentage is still quite high. You have no muscle, bro. And you're starving away what you do have. And even when you're on Keto, it's not easy to get all the protein you need to build. Like, if you're eating eggs, bacon, beef, and fatty meats, you'll hit your calorie limit and barely 100 g protein. Keep your keto if you want, but make sure you track your protein along with your calories. Get your body-weight's worth in protein....It will almost cer…
/r/askMRP14/06/18 06:04 PM
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She does this thing where I’ll be in a loving mood. And she acts like she doesn’t want anything to do with it. Then she’s in a loving mood and I won’t be as loving and she tells me she wants me to be like that loving person again. This is the essence of the male/female dynamic right here. She wants to be chased. She's testing if you are just reacting to her, or if you are being your genuine self. If you're following, which you are - obvious by how you describe it - then you're in her frame.
/r/askMRP14/06/18 03:40 PM
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I’m eating 1800kcal/day (50% protein, 20% carbs, 30% fat) with the occasional binge day on weekends (max 2.2kcal). I have an impression that my lifts will be really hard to improve in the next months (usually when I get to 90kg+ on squats I stall really hard) since I’m aggressively cutting, any insight on this? Depends on what your starting point is and your body type. I've done two major cuts in the last 2 years. One took me from 265 to 235 in about 18 weeks (20%+ to 15%), the other took me fro…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 03:22 PM
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What if the response to "That's a very serious accusation. Are you serious?" is "Yes, motherfucker. I have a litany of your lies here that I would be happy to re-hash with you....are you sure you want to go there?" Before you play the integrity card, you're going to need to make sure you have it to play. Unless you're suggesting OP proceed with gaslighting his wife....which I suspect takes more frame than an askmrp noob has to lean on.
/r/askMRP14/06/18 01:52 PM
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Why is DEER bad? You're accepting the premise that you need them to validate something you said or did. It sets you in their frame. "Wand did/said X, and he owes me an explanation why." When you validate this by obliging with the DEERing, you submit to their framing of the incident...the framing that you need them to accept and endorse what you did or said.
/r/askMRP14/06/18 01:38 PM
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Not celebrating anniversaries doesn't mean you are being a shitty husband. I cut this anniversary & valentines day shit out as an antidote to the overcompensating shit I did pre-unplugging. Wife is happier now. She likes Milk Duds better than skittles, so I usually go that route.
/r/askMRP13/06/18 09:27 PM
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I can get with Coconut Spa game. But footrubs on the couch while she tells you about her day with the reward of a kiss sounds a little too Phil Dunphy to me. And, as I say in my original reply, sounds like a shit test and should be treated as such. Make sure you can say no to these before you keep on doing them because "I don't mind"
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 06:59 PM
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You're not necessarily wrong, but the alpha and beta I'm referring to are Rollo's version moreso than Athol Kay's. You appear to not have read Rational Male. Get on that ASAP. Before reading MMSL again, and certainly before any of the "Currently Reading" material you listed. Rollo kind of covers the effort to balance alpha and beta here: https://therationalmale.com/2012/09/27/the-perfect-man/ In short, you're likely overflowing with beta. Do you need to shut off all beta? no, I suppose not. I'd …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 05:38 PM
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/r/marriedredpill isn't about winning back wives and girlfriends and saving relationships. It's about men taking their lives back. Don't post until you sidebar and lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 01:58 PM
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I posted this in Rian's submission about duty sex last week and I think it applies to your starfish situation. Do things that don't require any action from her. Fuck her with more vigor. Cum on her tits. If she's just laying there, pin her hands over her head. Drag her around the bed....when my wife would starfish me, sometimes I'd put one hand on the back of her neck and one hand on her lower back and pick her up and rotate her 90 degrees....shows you can manhandle her. If she says "NO" to any …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 01:44 PM
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She asked for a foot rub last night. Now I'm still figuring out how to game her and be playful. I don't mind doing foot rubs. I'm working on breaking away from covert contracts. I know I probably should have said what I wanted instead of saying, "What do I get out of it?" I did smirk. She negotiated additional 10SK. I did agree but only because I'm not trying to go full rambo and tell her to deep throat my cock yet. Need to increase my SMV first. Your thought process here is fucked up. The fear …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 01:17 PM
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I think the better tactic going forward is to stick with BJJ and cut the real fluff. Here's the fluff: Purchased a heart rate monitor and started doing Zone 3/4 training. I was biased against steady state cardio but am now better informed about its role in training and already am seeing physical and cognitive benefits.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 07:13 PM
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There are times when I feel like I want her to know i'm in charge, and that's just how it is. Negotiated desire will at best produce obligated compliance. Any time you're explaining or arguing with a woman, you're negotiating. This includes telling her your'e in charge. She'll choose to follow or not. There's nothing you can do to make her follow except to make option of following look more pleasant than the option of not following. I hate the "Rambo" term around here....but jumping to the "I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 03:04 PM
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There are times when I feel like I want her to know i'm in charge, and that's just how it is. Negotiated desire will at best produce obligated compliance. Any time you're explaining or arguing with a woman, you're negotiating. This includes telling her your'e in charge. She'll choose to follow or not. There's nothing you can do to make her follow except to make option of following look more pleasant than the option of not following. I hate the "Rambo" term around here....but jumping to the "I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 02:50 PM
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TLDR: noob describes the montage scene from an 80s movie about his unplugging.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 01:37 AM
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Why are dogs furry? Doesnt matter. It's the way it is. So you can be a bitch about it or you can have fun with it. Not going to change. And if you act like this type of faggot with either of these plate prospects, it wont be long before they become cunty too. Women evolved to be repulsed by bitch ass men who dont get it. You dont get it. Have you read any of the sidebar yet? Dread level 1? Detect and pass shit tests. You fucking passed this one. Your wife lobbed a meatball over the plate and you…
/r/askMRP12/06/18 12:41 AM
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So why won't you take yes for an answer?
/r/askMRP11/06/18 07:58 PM
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So am I understanding this right: You told wife about the plans, she said nah. You said "Well I'm going with or without you", left. She texts you "I was just joking" So to me, it sounds like you said take it or leave it and after you walked, she texted "OK I want in". Am I misunderstanding?
/r/askMRP11/06/18 07:32 PM
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If I was balding, I'd go with the Ed Harris/Jason Statham buzz cut...a 1 or 2 guard... rather than the full shaved head. I've got a full head of hair, but did the bic'd head thing quite a bit in my 20s. Doing it clean like that got to be a pain in the ass, I thought...and it usually looked better with a day or two's stubble anyway. This point in my life, though, I'd rather not DIY it. The clean-up and knowing there aren't any missed spots would be worth the 12 bucks. Just make sure you clean up …
/r/askMRP08/06/18 06:33 PM
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Guess I have no room to ever complain. My wife pays to fuck me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/18 04:17 PM
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I'm convinced cock lines are mostly genetic. I had the lines even when I was still fairly fat....it just kind of outlined the lower boundary of my gut. ...looks a hell of a lot better paired with abs now. But if you're not seeing it at sub 20%, it might be tough to ever get it to really pop out there.
/r/askMRP08/06/18 01:06 PM
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I do call her out. Calling her out means engaging in bullshit. Don't engage. You're happy, living your life, she's freaking out about a sock. Calling her out is validation for her. There's a difference between living your life and a condescending laugh. One is that you aren't bothered, one is you trying to show her she doesn't bother you. Learn the difference. Your words mean nothing. Never forget this. You can't tell a woman anything with your words. Trying to is failure in itself.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 09:10 PM
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can you advise something more upbeat from the sidebar before I ingest and internalize more Rollo? Read it again. I don't really get why it's depressing for some guys. RM1 is like getting the real rule book for the first time. The exhilaration of 'aaaaah...this makes sense!' was much more overwhelming to me than the disappointment of finding out that unicorns aren't real.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 08:57 PM
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Is this /r/girlfriendredpill ? You are not on hard mode. Try /r/asktrp for bro hug sympathy for mean gfs. Also....this is not hypergamy. This is an example of a woman rewriting history to make her current feelings feel justified.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/18 03:45 AM
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wife has been my one and only sexual partner in life and she's never been good at it (or communicating to me how to be better at it) either. Pretty close to the same for me. Being good enough in bed isn't about moves and experiences. Sex God Method (have you read this one?) essentially comes down to your frame. D, E, V, and I can all be broken down to passion, energy, or a combination of the two. Is this just an unwinnable vicious cycle? No - but you've got to provide the energy to overcome the …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 08:52 PM
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99.9% of the people in my world would have sworn that I was the most laid back, easy going guy they knew (everyone but my wife and oldest son). In my head, I was the easy going guy almost everyone else knew. Pouting and moping were my usual episodes. And sometimes - rarely...maybe 5-6 times a year - the pouting would build up into a rage if it wasn't validated. But generally was not an angry or what anyone would describe as reactive or overly emotional. Not saying that's you, either....but I'd h…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 07:43 PM
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Nice OYS. You handled the burger incident well. I sometimes forget how stressful that type of thing used to be when I was first figuring shit out. My wife used to silent treatment for days when we'd have a spat. Now her STs last for 2-3 minutes, and she's usually finally breaks the tension by laughing and calling me an asshole, and then finding an excuse to rub her tits on me. With regard to introspection...For me, it was something I did before (a lot), but mostly as a way to rationalize whateve…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 07:17 PM
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5'5'' 173 lbs about 27% BF. This is something I am working on and actively making it a goal to work on my nutrition. Nutrition....interesting phrasing. You are over-nourished. Eat less. HIIT is nibbling at the edges at best. Don't bother with it. Just diet and lift, and BJJ for your personal enjoyment. Also, this.... I am doing what I can to help with the baby. ....is some bullshit. This frames your wife as the authority. You are the father. Be the father, set the tone. Handle what needs to be h…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 06:41 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/337uvx/the_elements_of_frame_0_introduction/
/r/askMRP05/06/18 08:41 PM
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Everything you say here is true, stoney. No guy must accept duty sex, and walking away from bad sex is sometimes your best option. I went that route a few times myself....but I post this for the benefit of the new guy who is getting bad duty sex: Accept that you might just be bad at sex. One of the things I realized with myself after a while is that if I left it up to my wife to "give me" good sex, I was often - nearly always - disappointed. Prior to unplugging, I got duty sex almost exclusively…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 01:43 PM
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What you're describing sounds a lot like hypergamy. Female troll who doesn't understand the male brain? Or blue pill man who thinks like a chick? I've found something that I like 'enough' and I'm pretty good with it. If you're not, that's fine too. Would advise not making any trophy your wife in that case.
/r/askMRP01/06/18 02:40 PM
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You've got the right to decide what works for you and what doesn't, but if you're complaining about not getting enough sex and also not doing anything to actively pursue it, you've only got yourself to blame. If you want a more submissive woman, you have to take the burden of leadership. Men pursue. To me it mostly sounds like butt-hurt, 'I don't want to pursue her because I'm bitter' and "she should pursue me' If your wife doesn't do it for you, or you think you're pas the point of no return th…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 01:09 PM
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Women want to submit to a man who they think is worthy. They won't submit to you just because you occupy the position of husband. get started with the r/marriedredpill sidebar. Example: Her: I want x to eat tonight (and you will be paying for it and picking it up and bringing it home to me). Me: I don't want to do that. I would rather cook y instead. What you do here is called DEERing, and it sets you in a reactive frame. How to knock that shit off is in one of the first books you will read. You…
/r/askMRP30/05/18 05:47 PM
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but sex has continued to slow down. Are you initiating frequently enough, or are you expecting her to make up some of the difference? You see with some guys here that they make some gains by taking action in the beginning, and then they expect that to be the new baseline while getting a little bit lazier.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 01:02 PM
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Pushing your plate away. If you want to lose weight, it's 95% diet. And diet is mostly compliance. The gain you get in terms of calorie burn from running is not really that significant compared to the deficit you can get from managing your food properly. And, just speaking for myself here, running makes me hungry. I don't know if my body is demanding more calories, or if the mental energy expended by doing the cardio saps my willpower to say no to shit I shouldn't eat. But my periods of most run…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 09:35 PM
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I relate to the guy who doesn't know what he wants, aside from an easy, entertained existence. Guys who have had satisfying careers or interests can't really relate. They say "What do you want"....and your answer is "What should I want? I just want to perpetuate my means of entertainment." I can also relate to the buffer of cynicism that's so thick in your post. As unhip as it's going to feel for you, you're going to have to start learning to be genuine. Read the sidebar and you'll start noticin…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 06:30 PM
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Need to actually start stretching. I'm getting a bit of tension in a hip joint on my squats. I don't know my body very well so it could just be sore secondary muscles or something, but either way I need to start stretching. Anyone have any quick and clean static stretching routines to recommend? So I guess this can be my first goal: Stick to stronglift schedule and have a stretching routine I'm doing at least 4 - 5 times a week before bed by this time next week. It sounds like you're probably ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 06:10 PM
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ego still flares up when deciding what weight to put on the bar. Since you devour books, I'd recommend Wendler's 5/3/1 second edition. It's an easy read - Could get it done in an afternoon or two pretty easily. Don't even worry about whether or not you want to do that program or 5x5. Even if you like 5x5 and think it's the ultimate program for you, you will understand strength training much better having read what Wendler has to say. The important thing in this book is his philosophy on how to p…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 05:07 PM
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It’s just a good way to burn calories efficiently. If you like running, by all means keep running. But if you run for any reason aside from "I really like running", then you may as well quit torturing yourself. Your effort buck is best spent elsewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 01:54 PM
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Awesome. I found these videos helpful, to teach how to ease into using it: This one was where I realized theres a technique to it, and you're not just flinging it around your head like a viking. I think I did the behind the head pendulum for a week or two before moving to the full swing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCKG4fy0Qi8 This one I found valuable as well. I think it's this one where he talks about stabilizing your rib cage so it's your shoulders moving and not your torso. https://www.y…
/r/askMRP26/05/18 01:57 PM
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The guy who sells it - Chris Duffin at Kabuki strength - is the real deal. I've yet to see something from him that isn't an A+. From what I hear, the instructions that come with the shoulderok are really good...so if you buy it, that's a perk. I just kind of gleaned what I could from a bunch of YouTube videos. Like I said though, it was the magic bullet for my shoulders. All you really need on there is 5-10 lbs.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 01:47 AM
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I'm going to challenge your premise here - I don't think you need to build up your shoulders. You need to get them to be able to move properly. As you age, your shoulders become less mobile in most people due to muscle imbalances. This happens in almost everyone unless they actively do things to counteract the imbalance. But as a lifter, you accelerate that imbalance with things like bench press or curls. Benching makes your pecs tighter, which causes your shoulders to hunch forward a little. Th…
/r/askMRP24/05/18 04:54 PM
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Start here. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/82875i/cut_the_shit
/r/askMRP24/05/18 03:25 AM
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Don't talk politics with anyone. It's like gossiping, but not as productive.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 03:19 AM
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Yeah probably. I'm over it and done bitching about it. If the two interact, I think that's kinda fucked up. But if RPC puts out good content like this one and BPP stays out of its comments, that's a net plus for the forum.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/18 03:15 AM
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So I should put my hand on his shoulder (to show dominance) and then make a comment about his collar being a little gay?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 11:59 PM
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How about Essential Oils Lady.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 08:40 PM
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Yeah...I get what you're saying, and I do that to some extent. If wife is clearly DTF, the dog is no problem and I kind of handle it the way you suggest here. But when wife isn't pursuing me, and I try and stir things up, that's when the dog fucks up my game. Fucking dog is AMOGging me..
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 08:38 PM
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Sounds reasonable enough to me. Get on a program where you're moving heavyish weights - and stick to it. And add equal parts protein & carb when you add more calories to your diet.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 08:35 PM
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Nevertheless, I think Keto as a permanent way of eating is overrated and most of its evangelists cite bullshit doom and gloom to make themselves feel clean, like a religion. Whatever diet checks these boxes will work great. https://twitter.com/anymanfitness/status/981520437669711878
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 08:08 PM
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/u/Rocknrollchuck gives you solid advice. I'd agree with him that you need to bulk up. You lack muscle mass. I get that you feel fat. You are soft. But you aren't going to firm up by cutting calories. For you restricted calories probably costs you more muscle than fat. Guys like you need to (metaphorically) teach your body to put on muscle. That comes with heavy weights and lots of protein. 180g+a day for you. If getting enough protein doesn't feel like work, you are not getting enough. So get t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 07:01 PM
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It's the family goldendoodle. He barks and jumps up on us....it's more annoying than threatening. But it's a momentum killer either way. I'm not to the point of getting rid of him yet and I don't have the option to keep him outside where I live. Probably worth trying a bark collar or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 06:11 PM
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I'm completely serious when I say you'll do much better with bodyweight to breakdown at home. Yup. P90X would get him more results in 30 days than he's seen so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 05:23 PM
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It's almost like you're afraid of success? There's a pretty general consensus out there, aside from your low weight/high rep friend(s), how to build muscle. Dozens of commenters here, over the weeks, have tried to set you straight and you keep pointing back to this one guy you know who does it a different way. How long do you have to get negligible results before you'll realize this isn't working and actually make a change?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 05:20 PM
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Carbs are the enemy This is basically the equivalent of religious dogma. Carbs are not bad nor fattening for reasonably fit people. As I got leaner, I could handle more carbs and they function pretty well to make me look and feel better too. If you buy into the no carb religion, which I did myself for a long time, you're cutting out a useful food option. It makes more sense to talk about diet in terms of "what has worked for me" rather than "X is bad". People at different fat and fitness levels …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 05:11 PM
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you'll likely become undervalued as well. That's true, although that's the situation I kind of find myself in already. I don't necessarily mind if as long as I am getting what I want out of the arrangement.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 02:31 PM
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Work My job is good, salary is OK but not great. I'm underpaid, and I've had other offers about 10% higher than current pay, but I've declined because at my current position, I telecommute about 75% of the time. Other higher offers would require daily commute of at least 1 hour each way. So this week, out of the blue with no prior conversation on the topic, my boss tells me that he thinks I'm underpaid. It was a sit down meeting with that as the primary topic.... "Hey Reach180, I think you're un…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 09:06 PM
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It's not going to be something you can establish as fact, unless he comes clean himself. Like I told Persaeus, I'm not trying to throw him in jail. No need for "beyond a reasonable doubt". Just deciding how seriously to take him. Looks like a fraud to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 01:33 PM
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and shills for himself with his alt accounts? This is what I have a problem with. Want to switch accounts, fine. Valid reasons to do that. Even valid reasons to continue posting from both I suppose, as in this case where he reveals his identity with one of them. But when you come here replying to yourself, pretending to be your own client? Now I'm out. Combine that with the fact that he plays with pink dumbbells and tells the rest of the world to lift? Does he follow any of his own advice, or is…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 01:31 PM
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So you're going to dismiss the entirety of his advice and writings because he doesn't look the way you think he should look? That and the fact that he pretends to be multiple people on reddit, and shills for himself with his alt accounts? Not exactly epitomizing congruence. It's easy to talk a good game. If you can't follow your own advice, you don't know it works. Communism sounds good in theory.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 02:54 AM
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These should get you started. WISNIFG RATIONAL MALE Robert Greene & David Deida are on Audible too. You'll have to read the Athol Kay with your eyes, though.
/r/askMRP18/05/18 03:42 PM
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Check with /u/bogeyd6 . He's posted on this same conundrum. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/5xxtg8/how_many_blow_jobs_is_too_many/
/r/askMRP18/05/18 02:31 PM
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If you're over 26, "AF" should not be in your vocabulary.
/r/askMRP17/05/18 06:55 PM
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2500 cals. 200 g protein Hit these 2 numbers every day for 3 straight months and see where you are. 80% compliance is pathetic. 80% is almost 2 off days a week. Hit 95% compliance. Diet and lift, that's all. Skip "cardio". Take a brief walk if your brain can't comprehend losing weight without making an offering to the cardio god. It's good enough. That is a simple path to 15% BF. After 15%, you might have to get a little more particular. But you don't have to worry about that until the fall.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 03:17 PM
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If you initiate and get rejected and that rejection is followed by a conversation about how either of you feel about it, you had a sex talk. If you engage, you may as well have initiated the conversation. Allowing her to vent about how your initiation made her feel and encouraging it just validates her feelings. As they are validated, the association between you and those feelings gets stronger. I don't mind being her sounding board if that's what she needs. Your assumption here is that your wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 07:24 PM
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"why won't you have sex with meeeeeee?" No matter what words came out of your mouth, this is what your wife heard.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 06:40 PM
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Be grateful there are men out there like me that volunteer our time to coach ...and then cancel practice when it's inconvenient But thank you for your service when you feel like it.
/r/askMRP16/05/18 06:38 PM
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Stick with the 1,300 calorie diet. LOL. Bad plan. Why not just eat 0 calories? I'll expect the "/u/Reach180, you were right" post by mid June.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 03:41 PM
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I have always refused to pay $2.50 for coffee because I am cheap and can get it for free in my office Office coffee....I don't understand how people drink that shit. Have been much more focused on not criticizing kids and trying to be a fun dad instead. This is good. They will get plenty of needless criticism at school. I've noticed that holding myself to a higher standard impacts my kids more than telling them things. (Crazy, I know). My goal isn't well behaved kids or high achieving kids. It's…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 03:25 PM
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I believe, though I don't actually know (data not in front of me), that there is a sex drop off after these talks. There is. You expose your weakness, your obsession with her and how much power she holds over you. Eventually you'll get to the point where you see what I've been telling you is true. What /u/ReddJive and /u/weakandsensitive mean when they talk showing feelings and emotions is different than what you do. You've got to demonstrate control before your emotions mean anything. You don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 02:26 PM
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I was browsing and found an older home nearby on an acre that if I sold our current home we would have enough to put 20% down and not have obnoxious monthly payments. Don't bite off more than you can handle. But I'll say this - I moved from a upper middle class cul de sac to a place on a couple of acres and a lake. The space away from neighbors is better than I could have imagined, and the view beats any art I could hang on the wall. In terms of my mental state, the difference is vast. Don't loc…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 02:12 PM
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high functioning Generous
/r/askMRP16/05/18 01:01 PM
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I didn't say anything about weighted planks. A hardstyle plank is a specific thing. https://drjohnrusin.com/the-best-exercise-you-arent-doing-rkc-plank/
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 11:39 AM
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Guy who just wants to win his youth sports games spends the majority of his practice time scrimmaging. Smaller turnout would hinder that. Guy who wants to develop skills would see the smaller practice as an opportunity to do something different with the handful of kids who showed up. My fuckin pet peeve with kids sports is guy who volunteers to coach and then cancels practice when it's not easy or normal for him. The highlight of my kid's week is sports practice. Lazy coach stealing it away from…
/r/askMRP15/05/18 06:03 PM
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The benefit you get from squatting isn't the pushing heavy things with your legs. It's the act of squatting. The other lifts - bench, dead, press, etc - what makes those lifts productive is the load. But I think squat is a little bit different - with squat, it's the squatting. Bodyweight, Goblet, back, front, one leg, etc. All are great. Heavy squats are great. But other variations serve a purpose as well. So if you can't do barbell squats, don't sub with a machine. Sub with a different squat va…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 05:49 PM
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I'm too tired after my workout for planks. And that's a BS excuse. Put them in your warm-up. They work better there anyway. Also, learn hardstyle planks if you don't do them that way already. Planks for time are gay.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 05:05 PM
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All the books are on audiobook. I listened to them while I cleaned, commuted, or did yard work. They aren't sacred texts. Just concepts you need to get acquainted with. Some things you are already good at, some are things you need more work on. Re-listen to them if you need to. If you treat this as academic, you'll be real good at writing theory bullshit on Reddit and still live the beta life. Read them and then move on. Ruminating on the books and the theory stunts progress.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 04:39 PM
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Is your focus on making your team win or developing skills in the kids? Sounds like a great opportunity for some individual work for the 3-5 kids who want to be there.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 04:34 PM
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Don't know what it's like in Texas, but in my state these standardized tests are used more for evaluating schools than students.....which is why your teachers and principals obsess over them. Unless your kid is off the charts bad, it rarely matters for them. Maybe it's different in Texas.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 04:27 PM
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I have an old neck/shoulder issue which barbell squats flares up. Hack squat machines aren't squats. Get your neck/shoulder issue fixed. If you substitute partial movements to compensate for the inability to do compound movements, you will end up less balanced and more injured. I've learned that the vast majority of injuries and pain points I have had are due to a lack of mobility or sleepy muscles. By taking a little bit of ownership, doing some anatomy research and finding how to stretch, roll…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 01:01 PM
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posting stupid shit on the internet Got that part right.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 01:04 AM
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I agree with you mostly. The guy is clearly the typical AFC husband. But where you seem to imply that he may be worth impressing if he owned his shit....I'd counter that it he was worth impressing, she would happily own her share of the shit instead of obsessing over maximizing her freelance opportunities.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 10:48 PM
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Only one thing I can say this story tells me: This woman isn't happy because she doesn't have a man she wants to impress. Buried lede - the only "emotional labor" that counts is hers.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 06:51 PM
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The fact that you wrote this 8 months ago and were so proud of it that you couldn't resist posting, despite blowing up your whole premise with your injury is a special kind of retarded. Where in the post do we see an example of you NOT listening to your ego? It appears to be just another one of those things you plan on doing, like your 500 lb deadlift.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 06:40 PM
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What is the point of this post? It reads like a humblebrag about getting hurt. What plate combination do you use to get to 252 lbs? Please tell me your gym has 1 lb plates, and that you use them.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 06:06 PM
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http://anymanfitness.com/how-to-set-your-leangains-macros-for-a-cut/ I started this in April and it's worked spectacularly.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 05:40 PM
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If I'd have known all it takes to convince you is a shirtless selfie....
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 03:58 PM
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The accessory lifts you listed are good ideas, i will start incorporating them on light days. Do them as your warm up. And do them on your off days.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 07:00 PM
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There's nothing wrong with lifting heavy. All these guys recommending higher rep counts and low weights are telling you the opposite of what I would if you're hurting. In fact, when I feel beaten down and want to recover and feel good, I work up to heavy singles and doubles. Heavy, not maximal. RPE 7 or 8. Hit a single with something I can triple and call it a day. Do it for 2 weeks and I feel like I could win a decathlon.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 06:58 PM
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ART is not graston. With Graston, they take something that looks like the butt of a butter knife and kind of massage you with it. It's glorious, but I like that kind of pain.... With ART, the therapist puts some pressure on your muscles, then you move through the muscle's ROM. It's almost like ultra targeted lacrosse ball work. To find a good PT, I always recommend calling a few Crossfit gyms. Their athletes are usually older and get hurt all the time. They know who does real work and who just s…
/r/askMRP09/05/18 05:52 PM
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Also it comes partly from me saying no to several of my kids requests for cat, trampoline, and olympic rings inside because wife didn't approve. One issue here is that my daughter has several times asked me to have her olympic rings put up in the living room during winter, but we have said "no" refering to it takes up too much space, and this is on the very same spot where wife now wants a hanging chair. So hang the chair on brackets that allows you to easily swap it out for Olympic Rings when t…
/r/askMRP09/05/18 03:26 PM
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Crazy. You guys should do a video or podcast together.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 10:40 PM
2

For what it's worth I overhead 225 255 for me. Can't fuck with your mower, though. https://i.imgur.com/virH0cS.jpg
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 06:27 PM
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Read the About Me section of the coach's website. His being deep in academia, having a JD, a phd, his wife being a lawyer, etc....lines up pretty well with how BPP has described his own history. I don't know where I know his history from - whether it be from his post history, his book, or his youtube podcasts. But when I saw the About section, it pretty well clicked. Either that, or a fellow traveler in the academic world with a similar past who says "I wrote X book" instead of "A colleague and …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 06:22 PM
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Makes a guy wonder how many of these other ECs are him, too....
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 05:36 PM
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DYEL?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 02:38 AM
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You typically get the adversarial posts from the worthwhile contributors as a push back on the ego, entitlement, and covert contracts that you reveal. But a large portion adversarial posts is just what I call "alpha signaling"...the manosphere analog to "virtue signaling". Novices come barking out "tough love", because they think that's what it takes to earn cred here, so they follow a paint by number version of what a flaired guy did somewhere else. Most of those guys reveal themselves as db ma…
/r/askMRP07/05/18 07:20 PM
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I wanted a "lifestyle change". My take is "Do what works". I will never be able to just eat without tracking. So I track. Eat 200 grams of protein a day. Eat a little less than your TDEE on average each week. Weigh yourself each day. Fill in the rest according to whatever diet dogma tells you the story you want to believe. If you can't comply with the plan, it's a bad plan. There are lots of plans that work - you just have to be able to stick with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 07:27 PM
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So what's been your actual plan? I struggle to follow. Can you articulate what you have been doing? Does it have parameters, or is it just "eat healthy" (there's no such thing as "eat healthy", btw) I struggle to understand how a person would think they are eating low carb if they are not reading labels. Even most plain nuts are close to 30% carb....not low carb. Were you eating 1800 calories/day your current plan, or are you calling that your "goal" for this week? A 900 calorie deficit each day…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 06:36 PM
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Keto is equal parts religion and diet. The apologetics sound almost identical. It works, sure. Christianity "works", too.
/r/askMRP03/05/18 05:13 PM
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Spare me. MD endorsement means jack shit when it comes to diet.
/r/askMRP03/05/18 03:18 PM
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"No true scotsman"
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 01:59 PM
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Trying to get rid of the spreadsheet mentality but need to watch calories closely. You probably need to spreadsheet harder, TBH. I've been tracking cals & macros for about 2 years. My dieting mentality is dialed in - I eat right, I have no desire to cheat. But even with that being almost automatic, I still need to consciously be aware of protein in order to get enough. You mention nuts and protein bars....but I'd recommend trying to cut out snacks all together. Call it broscience, but I've diete…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 01:28 PM
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So there's no runaway drinking at night, no office snacks you think are small and therefore don't count? No shot of cream in the coffee, etc.? What type of macro splits? Protein? What was your starting weight?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 07:58 PM
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It’s something powerful beta men say to make them feel better about themselves That's it right there
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 04:44 PM
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Are you complying with your diet and gaining weight or cheating? You've been at this for a long time to still be that fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 12:35 PM
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Old guys don't need 1RMs. Nothing wrong with tracking rep PRs. In fact, it's a smarter way to go about it. I've hurt myself bad enough that I lost training time a 5 or 6 of times since I started back to lifting in 2012. 4 of them were within a few days of 1RM attempts. 1RMs are just having dick measurements handy to compare to other guys. Other guys don't matter. Get stronger, set rep PRs. Stay healthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 01:04 AM
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Username checks out?
/r/askMRP27/04/18 07:01 PM
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6'2, 187, 145 lb bench..... Good on you for losing some weight. Your shortfall at this point is muscle mass, not body fat. Squats are the ticket there. I bet you can still do push ups or dips with your shoulder nerve issue. Flys are pretty much worthless IMO, and can wreck your shoulders even more if you over do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 01:50 PM
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You laugh. Unironic wolf shirt wearer at my high school was swimming in band/choir pussy.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 02:54 AM
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Christian women fuck. If yours doesn't, she's not attracted and is using God as the rationalization.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 06:18 PM
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First, you'll never feel rejected again My god, you are fragile.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 05:09 PM
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Saying no to everything is a crutch for a lot of different types of people....people scared to be exposed to something different, for lazy people, etc. Say no to everything that isn't easy, isn't familiar, isn't something I understand how I will be impacted..... It takes some work to figure out what you actually want. I cringe every time someone says something like "Do what you want" to someone on here. Your typical newly redpill aware guy comes here so far off course that they really don't know…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:24 PM
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http://ditillo2.blogspot.mx/2018/03/another-pre-keys-to-progress-mccallum.html A classic mass building article from the 1960s. The good stuff stands up through time. The less good - like pullovers - falls away. It's broscience, but it fits reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 04:32 PM
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How can someone crave sex as much as you when they have, according to the great high priest Rollo, "1/12 to 1/15" the amount of testosterone as you have? My degree is in physics, so I got to skip all biology in college. So while I'm no endocrinologist, the answer here seems pretty obvious: Absolute level of testosterone doesn't have a linear relationship with sex drive.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 01:05 PM
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make her feel as safe as possible to be vulnerable (this is a woman who can't even look me in the eyes when expressing herself; it will take a lot to get her to a place where she feels safe submitting to me in any way, especially considering my track record) She won't share with you because you don't offer strength. It's like me asking my 8 year old to help me carry a dresser downstairs. Let's say she's got something on her mind that she can barely handle.....she's never been given any inclinati…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 03:47 PM
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Other option would be something like Magic Shave cream - basically Nair for faces. Heard a lot of warnings about sack area being too sensitive for that shit, but it never burned me or anything. Smooth shave, not near as itchy when it comes back.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 01:25 PM
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I got braces as an adult. Around 34 years old.....aside from losing about 40 lbs, it's the best thing I ever did to improve appearance. When I was a teen, my family couldn't afford didn't prioritize them for me. And so I went through my young prime with fucked up teeth. I remember in the gut punch of chatting up a girl who was obviously interested, then spent the next 5 minutes staring at my teeth while conversation died out. As painful as that could be, my ego couldn't handle what people might …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 01:18 PM
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As more attractive women openly begin to hit on me, she will have no choice but to enthusiastically have sex with me or I will leave. Fake enthusiasm so you don't leave....sounds so hot when you put it that way.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 05:13 PM
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....meanwhile, every doctor in the country will throw a cocktail of hormones at any girl who has had her first period.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 02:57 PM
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Also, I'm not just quoting from the sacred texts. I speak from experience here. I probably had a slightly longer fuse than you, but this frequent talking about my frustration with wife, with our marriage, sex life, whatever....it was a staple of my pre RP life. When I decided to "fix my marriage", step 1 was going all in with that type of thing. Communicating "my needs". It's in every blue pill book out there. And the more I ratcheted up the communication, the lower her attraction to me got. I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 08:10 PM
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I bench every workout (instead of squat every workout on SL) Why. Why are you changing a program when you are obviously a novice? Is it possible that the guy who drew up the program knows what he's talking about? I don't really even want to know why you would think benching heavy 5x5s every work out would be a good idea. It's not. Squats are different....hence the program design.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 07:34 PM
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That's because YOU don't know how to process it. YOU. Your problems. You are angry, frustrated, disappointed, unhappy. You were simmering because of blame and resentment. Not because of not sharing enough. If you accept that your wife can't change your feelings, why would you have this visceral need to tell her about them? You actually do blame her, and think she can fill the hole that makes you so angry, frustrated, disappointed, and unhappy. You know intellectually that she can't fix it, so yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 07:09 PM
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here's been talk in some threads of "finding your frame," and for whatever reason, something clicked for me in the past two months. I found a frame that aligned - truly aligned - with my moral compass, with my sense of the world, of myself, and of my wife. That frame - of deep compassion, both for my wife and for myself - has allowed me to have deep, vulnerable, emotionally wrought conversations without feeling anxious or afraid. It's like finding myself for the first time - perhaps a bit dramat…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 06:24 PM
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I tend to see this your way more so than the assumption at the top of the replies. OP seems a bit clueless in the key area of being attractive. It's AWALT all right. Because women aren't attracted to 150 lb betas who barely bench their bodyweight. It's his call whether to apply mrp to his marriage or not, but he's going to have to do the work at some point.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 03:48 PM
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Possibly. I've only got 3 "rest" days, so my 3500 weekly deficit means ~1200 deficit per day as I understand it... When I diet, I can usually tell the difference between the feeling of "weight loss" vs. low blood sugar/starving. The good weight loss hunger feels like a 'low volume' sustained background hunger, plus some mental clarity. Whereas weak and sleepy means too severe of a cut, or that it's a bad match for my training. All I can say is that so far (just 4 days), I've been hanging out in …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 04:35 PM
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Warning to guys my age- form and consistency are more important than how much weight is lifted. I would note that this is true, but only to a certain point. Avoiding injury is goal #1, 100%. But don't use "form" as an excuse to stay weak. I've spent some time coaching high school shot put and discus throwers, and there are two types: 1) Kids who are resistant to technical changes and only sort of apply them as they are bulling their way through the ring. 2) Kids who do what I call a 'dance step'…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 02:40 PM
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I've spent the last 2+ years logging every calorie and macro and weighing myself every day. I've stuck steadily under 245 lbs at 6'3, 36" waist, 47" chest, 18" arms....about 15% BF. Pretty big and muscular, but never have been able to get much under about 13-14% at 233...and when I got to that level, I was practically starving myself. Not sustainable. So while I've mastered the behavioral aspects of dieting, and going from fat to pretty fit, I've not mastered the "next level" of performance at l…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 01:27 PM
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I think you have to say a Rosary, but with WISNIFG bill of assertive rights instead of Hail Mary.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 04:27 PM
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You've got to learn to Game your mom. Seriously....treat them like shit tests, treat her like a nutty old lady that amuses you. (Or whatever frame works for you). The way you behave around your mom is probably the biggest panty drier of all of your behaviors. You're not a drunk captain - you're a toddler in the driver's seat. It's plain as day for your woman. If you treat yourself as being beneath your mom and beholden to her opinion of you, then wife can't be submissive to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 12:53 PM
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Largest shortcoming - core strength. I fucking hate working core and have relied on compound lifts to ferry me through. That's not longer acceptable. If by core strength, you mean core strength, check out Stuart McGill's Big 3. Key is to flex hard across your whole body with each. You're not just doing the moves, you're flexing - glute, abs, obliques, lats. Pro tip: Do them in your warm up, and do them on your days off. But if by core strength, you mean ab moves, I got nothing for ya.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 07:25 PM
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OYS Been a while.... 6'3, 245. OHP 255/BP 365/Squat 425/DL 515/ Power Snatch 215 Couple of months ago I cut my lifting routine from 4x/week to 3 heavy days +1 day of quick snatches and some mirror lifts. The additional rest is paying dividends Upper body strength is as good ever. Set 4 rep and 7 rep PRs in the press over these past 2 weeks. My squat form feels like a bit of a mess, so I cut out low reps of back squats - doing 5x10 on back squat days, heavy low rep front squats, and a 1 x 20 squa…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 05:43 PM
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I'm going to stop higher and see if that helps. Impingement is basically caused by tired and weak back muscles & shoulder retractors combined with tight pecs....It causes your shoulders to roll forward and so the ball joint doesn't sit right in the socket, and doesn't allow full range of motion. So if you just start stopping higher, it will make benching hurt a little less in the short term, but it will make the problem worse long term. moving over a smaller Range of Motion means tighter muscles…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 05:28 PM
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So I like the post here, and I think I can benefit from it. I don't really cold approach - when I wanted to expand my social circle after I moved to a new town, I got involved in a few things I enjoyed, and a social circle grew from that. I'd love if someone could reframe the way I think about this, but as a more naturally introverted type.... "That was really cool that someone I don't know wanted to talk to me." ... is not something I recall ever thinking. Rare is the occasion where I even thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/18 04:00 PM
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OP: Confidence - It's like a bag of sand when you're touching it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 01:13 PM
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Maybe....but to that end, I'm not on "how to fold the laundry better" subs.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 01:02 AM
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I can't quite figure out what possesses women to be here. What about this stuff is intriguing to them? I can understand the angry/trolls. I can't understand the ones who seem genuinely interested.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 12:56 AM
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Winner Winner /u/Senor_Martillo
/r/askMRP23/03/18 01:46 PM
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Why do something for free if someone's willing to pay you for it...
/r/askMRP23/03/18 01:31 PM
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My grandpa taught me to only shit at work. "Never take a shit off the clock." he said.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 01:02 PM
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I think I am too wrapped up in the daily family life ... trying to keep others needs met, teach and provide for them, always trying to fix things and make them right. Lead by example. Let kids fail. Let them fix things on their own.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 12:56 PM
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It's impossible. Like being able to run a 5 minute mile but unable to run a 2:30 half mile.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 11:30 AM
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But a belief that these tools are all that is necessary to understand your place in the world is. Like I say above - RP is truth. When a person takes a truth and orients themselves as if it is The truth, it becomes ideology for that person.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 10:41 AM
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I wanted to pull out of DL4 but haven't been able to DL4 never, ever works for me. Tends to be a feedback loop of negativity. Maybe I do it wrong. Maybe I don't get it. I see guys here who experience the same thing. Man withdraws > wife mirrors the withdrawal > man withdraws more > Escalating cold war of withdrawal. And then you, the RP aware man, can't break out of the loop because doing anything aside from what you've been doing is ceding the frame. Well, maybe you should cede the frame. Or ce…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 10:10 AM
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I don't have any gear to let me squat safely at home here. You don't need a power rack and cage to squat "safely". Clean the bar to your shoulders. Squat down. Stand up. Repeat. Drop and catch the weight, set it down. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_drttm5r66A
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 09:43 AM
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Row190 DL150 How can a person row a bar with more weight on it than they can pick up off the ground?
/r/askMRP23/03/18 09:11 AM
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So Red Pill isn't ideology? Fine. Not really interested in that debate. I think a lot of guys here - self included, for a while - teeter on the edge of cobbling together the general principles of TRP into an ideology. So while RP might not be ideology, there are absolutely guys here who subscribe to an ideological RedPillism.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 08:54 PM
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So here's where I disagree with you: We're periodically reminded here about "Rule Zero".... this place is about maximizing our power in the SMP, and that's it. So unless a person's sole orientation in life is maximizing SMV, there are parts of life that RP awareness does not solve. This is where JBP lives. So where you say this... and know that if you're hanging out in this sub, he probably doesn't have much to offer you ...I disagree. JP is a generalist, RP is a specialist. The fact that the sp…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 05:19 PM
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People who are miserable get sick a lot which makes them more miserable which makes them get sick more.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 03:48 PM
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It’s about men improving their lives despite the world and society. And I think that Peterson's overarching point is that men improving their lives is more likely to fix society (to the extent that it can be fixed) than men aiming to fix society.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 03:25 PM
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It's tough to take a simple "More time with the family" line from the hiring manager and make judgements based on it. What does that mean? Maybe it's just the first thing that came to his head to explain away his better job to the guy he just hired. Maybe he's got a bitch of a commute and found something closer to home. Maybe this employer ius a slave driver who expects more hours than they let on. Maybe he's a henpecked beta who needs to work fewer hours so he can get the laundry done. You fram…
/r/askMRP22/03/18 02:15 PM
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All the RP criticism of JP boils dow to the fact that Jordan Peterson's apex value is not Rule Zero.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 01:35 PM
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Like OP says in his reply to you, high rep squats help everything. They will help you bench and press more. Your shoulders and arms get bigger. It sucks and it's worth it. With regard to that routine I linked you - are you familiar with 5/3/1? Not sure if it notes this in the article, but know that when it's assigning a %, it's that percent of 90% of your 1rm. So if you press 200 lbs, your "Training Max" is 180. And so pressing 10 x 5 @ 65% would be 115 lbs. Wendler wrote a whole book, and I alw…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 02:35 AM
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What are yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 02:21 AM
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OP orbits a woman on Instagram, resents that her bf is young and hawt and providing better AF than he could. Rewrites AF/BB to explain it to himself.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 12:26 AM
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20 rep squats are a different beast, and pretty standard in a lot of BB or powerlifting programs. Bench and Press just don't recruit enough muscle to handle it - when your triceps tire, you're pretty much shot. With DL, your grip tends to be the limiter. Squat recruits your whole body, and you'll find that the ability to squeeze out one more rep extends longer than in the other lifts. I'd personally not recommend them (20 rep bench/press sets). But who knows, might work for you. Try it and repor…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 08:15 PM
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Right, but so are the others I list....and like I say, those get nit picked to death. Whereas disagreement with Hunter always gets couched in half a paragraph about how "he's a good dude, just not for me". Nobody says that about your stuff, for example. They judge it based on the content.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:58 PM
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I had never heard of this, Funny...this is such a common utterance among conservatives and libertarians that it's a cliche. Mention it to a lefty and they've rarely heard of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:39 PM
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Great post. Very true. Going over some old videos and books I refer to often, and I re-discovered the idea that athletes shouldn't do back squats in sets of less than ten. Carryover is much better in the higher rep ranges. I worked this for myself into my current 5/3/1 Krypteia program, where I tweaked the squat days to a 10s progression instead of 5s. Another benefit to doing high reps like this is that it isn't as sensitive to proper squat technique. You've got more wiggle room on a moderate w…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:35 PM
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I always thought I was alone in thinking his TFA's writing had zero depth. Then it turns out that nearly everyone who I respect that posts here feels more or less the same way. Yet most here tread lightly when it comes to criticism or disagreement. Meanwhile, everything else that comes up - from JP, the sidebar authors, mods, and flaired posters get thoroughly nit-picked. It's an odd phenomenon.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:18 PM
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The tone is not for me I get what you are saying here, but on the other hand, the tone you prefer is what got you into your original situation. Chesterton's fence. Maybe the tone has a purpose.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 01:12 PM
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Desire for general contact and sex drops to essentially zero, and she acts as if she has lost all interest in me. It's you. When you track, it alters your behavior. When you know she's ovulating, you expect to get laid. When she's not, you hope to get laid. Subcommunication.
/r/askMRP21/03/18 12:52 PM
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Just finished up the podcast on my drive home today. Gotta say, your take on "blame" was dead on as well. I'd take it farther to say that not only does casting blame not matter.... collectivizing blame - ie, "When will women take responsibility for anything", or 'We men are guilty of x but not y' - is a bullshit premise. We can only take responsibility for ourselves. To collectivize blame (or credit) is dealing more in rhetoric than reality. It might be useful for building a movement, but will d…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 12:51 AM
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Your questions all put the cart before the horse. If you go into the weight room thinking "Don't become John Cena, Don't become John Cena", you'll lift like a pussy. I did a similar thing as you - I was a lifter earlier in life who quit and got out of shape. I got fat in my early 30s - up to 280. I got myself down to 228 and then started lifting again. It took me 4-5 years after I started lifting again how to get to where I wanted to be, but learned a lot along the way. You get bulky by eating t…
/r/askMRP19/03/18 07:07 PM
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No one who was once in the 1200# club needs to be taught anything about fitness. 1200 club ain't shit for a guy his size in his mid 20s. Didn't need to know anything, just show up and lift.
/r/askMRP19/03/18 05:39 PM
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Like this week, when Cooper had me on his podcast, Speaking of that podcast.... The highlight in this last one, for me, was when the psychologist was talking about how men have the same buckets of acceptable/unacceptable responses when explaining to each other what they find attractive in a woman. And he gave the example of "Her communication style is similarly to my mother's, so I know what to expect from her"..... Donovan's visceral appalled reaction to that idea was a perfect confirmation of …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 03:23 PM
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This post series basically summarizes mrp. So my question is, in the 3 years since this post was written, has mrp improved upon it? Is there any innovation on mrp? Or is the purpose here just popularization? Nothing wrong with popularization - But interesting to me how little current mrp deviates from this 'old' text.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 02:36 PM
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Easy: don’t marry down, Assume you mean with regard to $$, not SMV?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 12:46 PM
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This post is the manosphere equivalent of a "Live Laugh Love" sticker on your car window. I don't need cookies. I love cookies, but I don't need cookies. And in that instant, I sprouted six pack abs and chiseled cock lines. You have not removed your need for sex. You said you removed your need for sex. I can talk about how I don't need cookies. But the next time my wife makes those salted dark chocolate chip cookies, am I going to let them be, or am I going to eat one? That's all that matters. Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 03:15 PM
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I’m the demographic (white, 40 something male) that they love to hate. Jesus. It's the new "Man's keeping me down!" Fuck off with this. If you're getting shit on at work, it's because you are a marginal employee. Be valuable. Work for yourself. Move. That woe is me mindset is why your life is a mess.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 02:00 PM
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exaggerated Exaggerated relative to what? Relative to what other people think you should have? Relative to what other people would have if they had your experience or ability? Relative to your experience? Relative to your potential?
/r/askMRP15/03/18 01:16 PM
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They don't give you points because there's no such thing as points. Only "How I feel right now" matters to females.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 12:57 PM
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10 years ago I got a small tear in a ligament in my left shoulder. I had a similar tear in my R shoulder, and that that fixed. But years later, I can’t say that was the right call, as the scar tissue from the repair is almost as much a pain in the @$$ as the initial tear. So for this reason I’ve held off on getting the left fixed. Well, the overhead press really bothers my left shoulder, and I can feel the instability in it. Shoulder pain is a bitch, but know that much of the time what feels lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 02:14 PM
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It's obviously a ruptured L5. Only fix is spinal fusion. Sorry bruh.
/r/askMRP13/03/18 07:15 PM
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If I drink too much, this definitely pops up more often. Glass and a half of wine, I'm fine. But if I start reaching past half a bottle, sleep trouble is almost guaranteed. If I'm in a really high volume phase of lifting, this happens more often as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 06:48 PM
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Where the ortho doctor failed, u/Reach180 succeeded What ended up working best for you? Did you make a shoulderok?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 04:13 PM
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My oneitis had been replaced with disappointment that AWALT. It’s frustrating but it’s true. So the good news here is that once you accept AWALT, there's no wondering if saying some magic thing to your wife will make her change, or if some other woman would complete the fairy tale for you. The fairy tale doesn't exist. Your wife won't change, and other women will essentially be like your wife. Neither your wife nor some mystery other woman will be attracted to you for any reason other than how a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 04:09 PM
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Learning good technique is important, but it's always going to break down when you push past your old limits. You want efficient form, not necessarily perfect. Thinking too much about technique can lead to being robotic, which is going to hinder progress....kind of like thinking about where my hand, wrist, shoulder, and elbow are when throwing a ball. Lifting really comes down to a few basic keys: Locking down your scapula, moving the bar in a straight line, and managing your internal pressure. …
/r/askMRP13/03/18 02:58 PM
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Doesn't take much expertise to starve yourself to skinny. Meticulous or not, you fucked up if you got to 6'2 / 175.
/r/askMRP13/03/18 02:35 PM
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Melatonin tabs help me quite a bit. I get a different version of insomnia, where I fall asleep and then wake up 3 hours later to piss and can't go back to sleep. So what I do is get up walk to the living room and sit on the couch for maybe 5 minutes. Then I go back to bed. Lay down, take a melatonin (5mg), read a physical book for maybe 5-10 min and I'm ready to pass out.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 02:11 PM
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If you are skinny and weak, why are you meticulous about weight loss?
/r/askMRP13/03/18 01:49 PM
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Who/what is your reference for form?
/r/askMRP13/03/18 01:03 PM
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Don't think in terms of noob gains. Think in terms of how you want to be strong and muscular for the rest of your life. If you insist on results as quickly as possible, you will convince yourself to take extreme measures. Extreme measures aren't conducive to long term success. In a year, in two years, in five years, do you think your first 4 months of lifting are going to make a lick of difference? Do actual strong guys, lifelong lifters, talk to each other about the importance of their "noob ga…
/r/askMRP12/03/18 06:27 PM
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8x6 inch MarriedRedPill has an 8.25 inch minimum. Maybe the guys over at /r/realalpha can help short guys like you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 06:26 PM
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So when you say you tested OHP, it was the final single of your cycle (the 1 in your 5/3/1 week) and got zero reps?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 01:50 PM
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Going back 3 cycles and forging forward. Maybe I'm missing something - why are you going back 3 cycles?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 09:33 PM
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You eat like a dorm girl. 3 slices of turkey? How much chicken in your dinner? maybe 6 oz? Here's my day, and I'm cutting weight. I made breakfast gravy out of 1 cup milk, 1/8 cup flour, 1/2 lb 80/20 ground beef. I put the gravy over an 8 oz pork chop and 3 eggs. For lunch: 16 oz of shredded pork roast + 4 corn tortillas and hot sauce. No dinner, might have a glass of red wine tonight. 2558 calories | 81g carbs | 224g protein. Meat Protein > Dairy Protein > Plant protein Start eating like an ani…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 09:25 PM
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Nice. Most common problem with plateau-ers is training too often and adding in extra bodybuilding garbage or cardio. Don't worry that much about the weight going up for the rows. Just get the movement in correctly - ie, no pulling up with your torso, dropping your chest down to meet the bar, or wrist curling at the top. Your 'judgement call' reps in bench, squat, press, or DL are going to happen as you push your limits. But there's not really any reason to push your limits in the row. The row is…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 07:05 PM
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Lifts are starting to stall across the board. Deloaded on bench press and more are probably on the horizon. I've gone from feeling great after the gym to feeling like I got hit by a train. So you're following the program - lift 3x per week, no consecutive training days? Are you doing anything in addition to the 5 prescribed lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 04:44 PM
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I will be honest: it's hard to keep my mouth shut We know. It's your biggest problem. So understand your instinct here is wrong. This is where you take a page from George Costanza - whatever you think feels right, do the opposite.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 04:36 PM
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"Everything was perfect until yesterday, when out of the blue my wife accused my kids of plotting our murder and threw dishes at me." k. Are you just bullshitting us, or are you bullshitting yourself too?
/r/askMRP05/03/18 02:38 PM
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Thought i heard you were going to be on Stefan Molyneux's show last month, but it never came up in my feed. Didn't see it in a google search either. Any word on when this will come out?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/18 10:31 PM
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Can’t deadlift as the only gym in town has only smith machines. Fuckit. Deadlifts are overrated. Just do another squat day. Or buy a barbell.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:42 PM
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My worst fear is that I'll fail to be RP enough and she'll cheat on me or leave me. This happens. And when you find RP, you read Rational Male, it hits you in the face if you've got oneitis, or if realize you are at a point where you need your woman more than she needs you. Take the feelings you get from that and swim in them a bit. Don't just understand reality, make yourself become at peace with it. I think this is what Rollo means in The Reconstruction when he says "Break up with your Wife". …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 08:36 PM
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Sounds to me like you did just fine here. We say cool it on the active dread when wife is pregnant. Everything else you learn is applicable across the board.
/r/askMRP02/03/18 04:36 PM
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it’s more about conditioning her to know my answer before she asks it, She's hitting a tennis ball at you. She wants you to volley with her. You seem to think it's your job to make her not want to play. Answering with the factual truth is the equivalent of saying "You can't serve from there. You have to be on the Ad side, behind the baseline..." No fun to play with that guy. Answering something like "Oh no babe, she's too tan. Ick" is the equivalent of intentionally hitting the ball into the net…
/r/askMRP28/02/18 02:20 PM
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The take-away from No More Mr. Nice Guy should be that you don't fear her looking at you negatively, not that you need to blurt out the factual truth. You don't need to be factually correct about something like this. She's not querying for information about your taste in women. She's pinging you to see if she's got your balls in her purse. This is banter. Play the game.
/r/askMRP28/02/18 01:32 PM
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How'd the PI thing shake out?
/r/askMRP27/02/18 07:35 PM
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Exactly right.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 01:56 PM
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this post is so full of contradictions that the resulting caricature is hard to imagine as really existing as a single person. primarily he cares but he doesn't care. This is exactly right. OP seems to think he's a snowflake who doesn't fit into a category, so he created a new category of "Dysfunctional Captain" by generalizing his self loathing. To me, this reads like a fat guy who crash dieted, lost a 10 lbs in 2 weeks, and then starts evangelizing whatever half-assed hamster story he wrapped …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/18 06:36 PM
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Paternity test your centaur, just to be sure.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 05:02 PM
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So learn from my mistake. Everyone wants to skip ahead and obsess over shit tests and comfort tests and main events and all the rest. But it's obvious to me now that stuff is secondary. I've said this before - there are gyms full of no pussy getting beta bodybuilders out there. If you start thinking RP is just about eating and lifting, and then just a bunch of other secondary shit, you're going to be in for a wake-up. Your wife will soon adjust her expectations to your new body. She'll tack on a…
/r/askMRP26/02/18 03:54 PM
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It doesn't cost alpha points to give beta comfort. False. Beta is an upgrade from Omega. But beta is not alpha. https://therationalmale.com/2012/09/27/the-perfect-man/#
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 06:09 PM
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It's really easy for a woman to say no via text. There's no eye contact, Kino, etc. going on to trip her biological triggers. So unless you are at a point where your wife is throwing herself at you, keep the phone out of it. It's a rejection buffer anyway. Also....You don't believe you are the prize if you are telling us how none of what you are doing is making a difference. You are judging yourself by her behavior. This is not the behavior of a prize. OTOH, if she'd rather pass out at the kitch…
/r/askMRP24/02/18 02:10 PM
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It was me. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7z6jku/general_question_regarding_theory_of_female_body/dulp93c/
/r/askMRP22/02/18 09:30 PM
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I feel like he's thinking this alpha thing is too far gone for him, so he's hoping he could stay beta and bask in luteal phase pussy.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 04:29 PM
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If body agenda/mating schedule tells us that women are likely to cheat during ovulation, Not Likely to cheat. Most Likely to cheat. "I'm likely to be struck by lightning during a thunderstorm". False. "I'm most likely to be struck by lightning during a thunderstorm". True It's because they're horny during ovulation, and less so during the rest of their cycle. Evolutionary psychology is just sciency sounding hamstering. Don't arrange your life around it.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 04:23 PM
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keep daily calories between 1500-2500, He's 250 lbs. 2500 is as low as I'd go at that size. He'd lose weight on 3000 cals/day if he hit it consistently.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 03:45 PM
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How I fixed my shoulder
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 03:26 PM
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My only options really are either 5am or 9pm. Is this really true? I can relate to "guy who never fully applied himself to anything." Usually that guy isn't booked solid for 16 hours a day. Even if it is true, could you do a 5 AM workout on ONE weekday and then hit it both weekend days? Squat day on Wednesday, Bench day on Saturday, DL day on Sunday. Maybe not optimal, but that would work. My wife is very intelligent and has a more of type A personality this combined with my ingrained beta menta…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 02:55 PM
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The meta next move here would be to downvote every comment and then delete the thread.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 03:42 AM
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Pre sex cuddle is a sucker deal. I don't blame you for declining that. If you want your sex life to change, you've got to change it. I need to stop confusing the short game and the long game issues. This was a short game/long game issue. Playing the short game...ensuring you get that fuck that night...is how we get on the supplicating path to betadom. Playing the long game - "OK, I don't fuck tonight, but I'm done with this" - is how things start to change. So sure, move the needle. Don't be the…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 03:38 AM
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Really look into how it's done. Took me a bit to get the hang of doing it right.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 01:54 AM
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Logistics. Sounds really basic, but understanding and being able to manipulate them is really important.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 09:24 PM
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I admit in my reply that it might have been a little gratuitous to hit him on that. But....If you were in the situation with your wife that OP finds himself, would you be so generous with your time and attention? If her pussy wasn't open for business, I suspect you wouldn't be spending much time next to her on the couch.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 06:55 PM
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She just starfishes now. I work out, tease her, kino, AA and all that, yet she still doesn't take any initiative. She tells me her body is tired from working all day, coming home to cook and pick up, but I know that's bullshit because she is always telling me how happy she is to do it. Why is this written in present tense if you've figured things out?
/r/askMRP20/02/18 06:51 PM
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The thing about the TV may have been a little gratuitous. But, no, I don't sit and watch shows with my wife much. Maybe an hour a week? Some nights I sit and play video games with my son, and we'll have one or two "family movie nights" a month where we go all out with the popcorn maker and that. Otherwise, if I sit and read, I do it elsewhere. If I'm on my laptop, I take it to my office, or I'll even head into the kitchen just to have a little separation. I avoid sitting and doing "nothing" with…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 06:46 PM
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I'm convinced that most guys who "531 doesn't work for me" are guys who grab an app and just think it's all about sets/reps/%s There's nothing magical about the sets and reps arrangement, or the % progression. Its a boilerplate strength program. The principles are what matter - start too light, progress slowly, and set rep PRs instead of 1RMs. Keeps you progressing, keeps you healthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 05:33 PM
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I spent 12 months figuring out my shoulder problems. Here's a summary on the most effective rehab/prehab protocols I came across and put together. TLDR: Get one of these. I made my own for $15. There's some other shit in there too, but the ShouldeRok is almost a magic bullet.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 03:32 PM
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OK, well this fight example is why you're failing, so....it's not a mystery. That evening, watching TV. You still do this? Sit with wife and watch figure skating or something so you can have "together time"? I brought it up and asked her if she felt like talking about things. You may as well have said "Your silent treatment is withholding the validation I use to measure my sense of worth. I can't function until you resume providing it for me". You need to learn how to disarm the silent treatment…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 03:18 PM
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I realize that I have to be honest and stop avoiding difficult issues. I need to lead, and leading means explaining to the team what the goal is and the reason for the goal (Extreme Ownership). I can't explain the goals to the team if I am afraid of how the team is going to take it. The goals, the honesty, and the not avoiding difficult issues is for you. You need to be honest with yourself, and not fear leading through difficult issues, yes. But being honest with your wife swims dangerously clo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 02:28 PM
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Closeness can preclude sex. Be a little stingy with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 01:59 PM
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Comes a point where you realize that individual "initiations" - which I would define as specific attempts to proceed to sex - are not all that productive. "Always be initiating" should give way to a vibe in your house where there is always a low hum of sexuality in the background. Sets the tone to capitalize on the spontaneity of real sexual desire.
/r/askMRP19/02/18 03:38 PM
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My wife's Bday was yesterday. Now I'm wondering if she is Litz's plate....
/r/askMRP19/02/18 02:16 PM
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Can confirm. All the same for me. Wife digs it almost more than I do.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 07:26 PM
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/u/SteelToeShitKicker is calling out your broscience. I was piling on with sarcasm.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 06:21 PM
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LOL. This should tell a person that "clean eating" is a useless term. All it really means is how closely a person feels they adhere to their chosen diet religion.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 05:04 PM
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Come on, this is 101 level stuff. first place you burn through T is in the gym, and then you also shoot out T when you cum, so do so sparingly. Also - soy molecules are known to sop up excess T in the bloodstream, so avoid soy.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 04:52 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7wqzzx/hrt_how_to/du312o1/
/r/askMRP16/02/18 03:32 PM
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So I'm going to word hard to (1) be nice and (2) communicate while (3) STFUing [which comes too easy to me], and (4) get to that physique. I'm 6 months out. Still have too much flab in the gut now, but naturally vascular. If physique is as important as everyone here says it is than perhaps it will be the key to the gate. Hers? Who knows. I might be missing some context, but these are almost all the opposite of what you should do. Especially 1 & 2. 3 you should move past after a month or two, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 03:06 PM
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Is this the first ever mrp post using pidgin language?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 04:17 AM
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The betas are not doing this. Doesn't even matter though, does it? They could do the same shit as me and it would make their girl feel icky and embarrassed. Again I must emphasize your frame must be established. All that matters.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 03:42 AM
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Great FR. I love it. Your reply to my post in OYS included this I've already started and it is so natural and reminds me how I was way way back when I was single. Thanks. I had that same a-ha at one point. It was like "I used to be like this....if THIS is what I'm supposed to do, this RP thing gonna be way easier than I'm making it" I used to get so frustrated, because I'd tease my wife and 85% of the time she'd love it and play off it. Then that other 15% she'd get all hurt, or flip out and be …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 03:28 AM
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I feel like you get better mileage out of those feelz on other days. On V-Day, she's one of many sharing the attention. Have flowers delivered on any random Monday and the hens can barely process it. Use sparingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 03:02 AM
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So let's take a step back here. You are looking to reclaim the term "Shit Test" for its PUA/RP roots. It has obviously evolved to mean something different in marriedredpill. If it had not, you would not feel the need to have written this post. I say evolved, you say misused. With game/RP, there are specific times and places - on dates, in bars, in her apartment - where you are cultivating sexual tension. But then you and whatever female you were gaming eventually go your separate ways. In this v…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 10:13 PM
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lol. "So what you're saying, Dr. Peterson, is that all categorization is useless?"
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 09:42 PM
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The responses I would need would fill a spectrum, not two boxes. Which is why the broad categorization more useful. Shit test, congruence test, fitness test....all can be reduced to attempts to infringe on my frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 07:32 PM
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The point of this post is that the distinction IS necessary because you DON'T handle them all the same way. You handle them all with congruence.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 07:12 PM
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I align my response with my objective.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 07:04 PM
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One of my favorite days of the year. These little experiments that you can only observe in a corporate cube farm...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 06:16 PM
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You're losing me here. So I'll restate and maybe we can get on the same page. I understand Stone's post to be "Shit tests mean this very specific thing, stop lumping other shit in with them." My rebuttal is "Compliance test, shit test, fitness test, call it all what you want. If you handle them all the same way, this distinction is unnecessary." Your Deida quotes seem to me to contradict Stone's post, too. So I'm having trouble following where you are going with your replies to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:31 PM
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What I get from stone is that he's saying it's DIRECTLY sexual in nature. I'm thinking specifically of the "Hey get me a pop" test. /u/BluepillProfessor put this in his book & podcast as the example of a shit test. It might be ultimately sexual in nature, in that wife may find me less attractive if I continue to fail this test. But there's not typically any escalation involved in that instance. I'd respond in a similar way to this test to my wife as I would to anyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:11 PM
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Sounds like unnecessary distinction. I think it's /u/weakandsensitive who says this in OYS often - once a person has a solid frame, there's no such thing as shit tests. Just something outside your frame. That is a more elegant solution.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:03 PM
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A good rule-of-thumb: If this isn't escalating, fucking, or otherwise building and releasing sexual tension, then it's not a shit test. Not sure I can go along with you here. Bosses shit test. Other men shit test. Moms shit test. Daughters shit test. You pass them all the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 04:23 PM
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I’ve considered having flower’s delivered to her office just for the spectacle and to stir up the henhouse. Where I work, the security desk sits out front and deliveries can't go past. So all throughout V-Day, the security guard pages women on the intercom to let them know they received a delivery. Probably calls 6-8 womens names an hour. It's like a 10 hour long 'The Bachelor' elimination scene. Just women waiting to hear their names called, and coming back to their desks with flowers, more rel…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 02:43 PM
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If you take one thing from the post, the ShouldeRok should be it. I had my "Never again" moment last year around this time. I pushed myself to a 1 rep press PR and that was the tipping point. For the next 6 weeks, I couldn't push or pull without pain. Was basically impingement and muscle spasms. I lost 2 months of training, and had to start so light when I could get back to it that I basically cost myself a year's worth of gains. Finally now I'm at the strength levels I had last year before I go…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 02:31 PM
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If you don't have rotator cuff or labrum damage, this is good news. I'd bet on regular old shoulder impingement. It's pretty common for lifters. If your PT is the type who works with athletes or crossfitters, you will probably get good treatment. If they're the type who work with old people having joint replacements and office workers with carpal tunnel, don't bother. Regardless of the quality of your PT, look into impingement yourself - nobody is going to care about this as much as you do. And …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 10:30 PM
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Why did you send this text in the first place? This sounds like a validation hunt....ie, the only reason you send is to get a response from her. Use text to convey logistics. Save shit like this for face to face. If it's important, it will come up when you are together. If not, don't waste your time texting about it.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 07:21 PM
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When I hear the 'in front of the kids' thing, I just think hurt ego. Like, "I don't want my son to think someone thinks I'm worthless". Your kids aren't the judge of you, either. Maybe you've got a different thought process on it. I just think that if you're worthless, your kid will figure it out. And if you aren't worthless, mom's bitching alone won't convince them that you are. To me, my kids seeing dad not give a fuck is more valuable than seeing him put mom in her place over some words I did…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 05:05 PM
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Rowing machine & elliptical won't help you be "ready" to lift. Just bite the bullet and get started. A solid third of the guys who post here started in a similar position fitness wise as you. Start lifting. Figure out your diet. "Cardio" is mostly self-flagellation. You don't need it to lose fat and look better.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 04:21 PM
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And I am doing a shit job expressing that. So, I’m pretty sure she called me out for being an autistic fuck, which I am. Meh. You don't need to congratulate her for doing something that every female mammal in the history of planet is built to do. Just be a good captain.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 04:17 PM
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Loosing fat despite no cardio... Imagine that!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 04:02 PM
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Well you do your thing if you think it's important. A lot of guys whose opinions I respect here have a different take on it than me. Someone said in another thread that "The thing about boundaries is that you have to constantly enforce them". The more boundaries you have, the more work it is for YOU. So don't let anyone, like me, be the decider of what is important to you. But IMO, If your wife is fighting leadership, she probably doesn't quite trust you to lead. I'd treat those like shit tests.…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 02:57 PM
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It sucks, but I usually know it's my own fault when it happens. Fortunately my work stuff is flexible enough that I can get a solid nap in during the day if I need to.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 02:35 PM
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If it seems insane then you're doing it wrong too.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 02:34 PM
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I'm just speaking to my personal experience here. I have a coffee at around 4:00 (before workout) most days. And then I have a Coke Zero with dinner, usually around 7-730. And I sleep OK. But if I have a Coke Zero and a snack after dinner or something, that's what fucks me up.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 02:23 PM
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Put in more work studying boundaries – setting and defending, and list out a few specific to me (I have a list of generic ones). I've noticed that I'm on the more forgiving end of this boundary thing, so my approach might not appeal to everyone, but what are these boundaries that you find so important? I don't see boundary crossing happening much in my day to day life. If I were to list out boundaries, it would be lying, infidelity, property crimes, and physical assault. (And I mean actual physi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 03:49 AM
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Couple of things I'd note: Unless you are competing, 1RMs are of no use. And if you are competing, only do them in competition. Heavy singles, great. Heavy, but have something left in the tank. But a max max....it's just an ego stroke and fodder for story-telling. If you can trust that your work-out weights going up means you are getting stronger, you'll save yourself a ton of trouble. Seriously...use a rep max conversion chart if you must tell somebody "how muchya bench". It's not accurate, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 03:26 AM
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RE: your back..../u/peggedbyowlette posted this a few weeks back and the book recommendation coincided with another lifter whose stuff I read pointing to Dr. Stuart McGill so I've been digging into his stuff over the last month. I don't agree with Pegged's recommendation to ditch compound exercises. Just the opposite. And McGill seems to agree with me - the whole point of that gift of injury book is rehabbing a world class powerlifter to competition form. But the McGill Big 3 are legit. Especial…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 11:13 PM
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It's a combination of wanting to be liked That's the thing about being a nice guy. You want to be liked, but the best you get is just not being disliked. /u/Persaeus & /u/man_in_the_world say it here too. Mrs. Rez316 wants the guy who doesn't need to be liked.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 10:37 PM
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No response works great for me. Not everybody needs to be a stand up comic. A Clint Eastwood-ish persona works pretty well if that's you. Just eye contact ("I heard you talking, but that stupid shit doesn't even warrant a reply") and back to my food.
/r/askMRP13/02/18 10:05 PM
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Your conversation was a puke. You need to remember the old add "Right now I feel" in front of everything your wife says "Right now I feel broken, like I never want to have sex again" Stop engaging the meaning of her words. All she's doing is telling you how she feels. You can't logic her out of her feelings, and the more you try the more it's obvious to her that you don't get it
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 09:43 PM
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Nice! This is the first pic I've seen of yours that looks notably different. Good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 06:57 PM
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I was doing 5/3/1, but the recommended starting weights were too light and I was progressing too slowly. You seem confused. Do you understand the 531 program, or did you just DL an app?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 06:55 PM
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A major problem I’m having is insomnia. If I’m not getting sex and I’m off porn, it fucks with my mind and I’m chemically off balance. I can’t sleep. It was a problem this past week. I have bouts of insomnia. Causes for me are usually: Overtraining in the weight room Drinking before bed Caffeine within 2 hours of bedtime Too much clothes or too little. For me, I usually fall asleep for 2 hours and then wake up and can't get back to sleep. Especially when I have more than 1 drink before bed. Mela…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 05:58 PM
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I never got back to that old thread with you...by the time I figured out where I wanted to go, the thread was kind of dead. You seem to get sucked to the two poles - you're either on the blue pill end, explaining yourself to your wife and catering to her words, or you're angry and pulling away with your anger. It's almost like you've got to psych yourself up with anger at her for not giving you what you want in order to get yoursellf to push away from the blue pill-ish pole. Anyway, you seem to …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 05:16 PM
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Just watch the PragerU videos centered on the family and male/female dynamic. That's basically TradCon - pretending BetaBux is Alpha.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 02:54 AM
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Trad-Con isn't politics. It's the marriage/church/kids/patriarchal dad/sahm arrangement. 21st century larping of the imagined 1950s. Is he harder on men, or do men take his words harder? Or does he just know his audience? JP just isn't talking to women....I think it's that simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 02:33 AM
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JP's definition of sacrifice is not a call to martyrdom. It's simply 'to negotiate with the future' - give up something in the present to make way for a better future for yourself. He goes on further to say to make your future better in a way that improves the future of your family, and also for the betterment of society. But it always starts with the individual - the individual making his own future better. I don't see much difference between this and your concept of the male burden of performa…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 01:20 AM
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So, get bigger, while getting in better cardiovascular shape, all while competing at a high level of martial arts? It's hard enough being 40 (me) or 45 and training to compete at a level that is satisfying. If you're splitting your effort between what you need to do to improve at your sport and what would make you look better, they are almost certainly going to be working against each other. "Keep the goal the goal" sounds basic, but it's tough sometimes. I'm a competitive athlete, too. I do Hig…
/r/askMRP11/02/18 11:20 PM
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You are focusing on the wrong thing is my point. 13% is low enough to look great if there's thick muscle on your frame....whereas if you lean down to 8% and you aren't yoked you just look like Haile Gebrselassie. "Sidebar and lift", not "sidebar and weight watchers"
/r/askMRP11/02/18 04:09 PM
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Dad sent you here in the hope you'd escape oneitis. He knows exactly what Italy will entail for her. Join a gym.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 08:41 PM
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If you're 13% and think you dont look good enough you're probably lacking muscle mass.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 08:34 PM
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Sounds like you're trying to maximize the points you can score with how she wronged you now. You're gaming out how you can "win". Pay attention to what /u/hystericalbonding said about you resenting your wife. I see that too. Fuck some of her married and single friends would kill to have a husband like me, they’ve even said so. What do you think you deserve as a reward for this being true?
/r/askMRP09/02/18 08:16 PM
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She brings value Read your post history. I don't see many examples of this. any chance a half-hearted slap is her way of trying to push you into killing the puppy?
/r/askMRP09/02/18 06:49 PM
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Early on, don't listen to your "boundaries". You don't have frame, and you don't know the difference between being a man and being a butt hurt bitch. If you're still in "What is a shit test" mode, this is you. If something feels like it is a violation of "boundaries", most likely it's just you being butthurt. Look at your boundary - why is it there? To protect your ego usually. Once you're a solid man with a solid frame, you can re-assess and be confident in the boundaries you choose. There are …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 08:35 PM
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Doesn't need it. He's got an army of Russian Bots at his beck and call.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 07:03 PM
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With regard to 'life is suffering', his point is more along the lines of the stoic's. Things going right isn't the natural state of order, so quit despairing when things go wrong. When they go right, enjoy it. And be prepared for when they go wrong again. That's what life is. The more you stick to his work - his lectures, his books - the better. I find his interviews that are about 'himself' to be getting old and repetitive, and his embrace of the fanboi to be insufferable. But his finished prod…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 06:55 PM
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Peterson's got nothing to do with RP, except to the extent his audience and the RP audience overlap. He's got quite a lot of content I haven't seen or read, but I don't think he's ever discussed the idea of "Red Pill" as done here. The lectures he put out there - his Maps of Meaning class, his personality class, and his ongoing dive into to the Old Testament I find far more interesting than his Tweets and his political conflicts. I don't understand why guys like Rollo expend so much effort shitt…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 06:33 PM
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So this could be an own my shit and replace the old knob for a new one. Ding. EDIT 1: Change from being willing to jump through retarded hoops in perpetuity to work around little problems. Rather, fix the problem. It's a mindset that will seriously improve your life. EDIT 2: Regardless of whether it's OYS or not, treat it like a shit test. Even if your failure to fix the problem inconveniences her, you aren't obligated to make it up to her. WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 08:32 PM
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Plenty of no pussy getting beta bodybuilders out there too.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 07:41 PM
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Be honest - Am I right about the feminist thing?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 04:15 PM
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The work is the part that is hard. You can't avoid the hard part by getting really really good at the parts that you like doing. In fact, the better you get at the other stuff, the more glaring the low spots become. The exercise, the buying nice clothes, owning your finances, etc. All you needed to embrace those aspects of mrp was permission to do them, or confirmation that you are going in the right direction. That stuff is all easy for you, because the beta man already recognizes their utility…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 02:23 PM
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Your record for identifying the actual problem is piss poor. You flat out aren't doing the work. You are doing everything but the part that is hard for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 02:52 AM
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You are full of shit, and wasting everyone's time. 4500 words to explain your 7th run through the anger phase? Know why you're still in the same place? Becuase you aren't doing THIS. You aren't doing mrp. You are doing this other thing, because this other thing is what you want to be the solution. It is not the fucking solution, dumbass. And yet you keep doing it, and rationalizing that it is something it isnt with thousands of words on mrp. Guys here are patient with you because you've been pos…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 01:56 AM
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I can't help thinking back to this post of his months ago. I suspect he's a Joss Whedon feminist ally type who wants the pussy that RP purportedly bestows upon its followers. He can't reject his feminist ally identity, and thus can't buy in to the less feminism friendly parts here.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 09:00 PM
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Ha. He's had about 7 of those moments.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 08:42 PM
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"Guys who aren't like me are losers"
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 04:43 PM
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How does gambling on MMA differ from fantasy football?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 04:01 PM
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No shit. Watch the game, don't watch the game. Don't use the decision you make either way to buttress your identity.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 02:24 PM
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I usually just deadpan the first sentence of your BP example. Delivered right, it's hamster Red Bull.
/r/askMRP03/02/18 06:54 PM
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I see it as "You owe me sympathy for bearing the burden of adulting." I think this is more inner game and attitude about life than projecting frame. Stop feeling sorry for yourself for the burdens you bear. Address them, embrace them, or endure them.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 04:59 PM
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In any other aspect of life, recognizing patterns in others behavior is a next level skill. But do it with regard to your wife, and the turbo alphas come out to call you a faggot. "If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. " Sun Tzu - faggot with no frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 01:57 PM
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I spoke up and told her I would not be spoken to like that after a long day at work, First, get the fuck over your "long day". You sound like a woman. Second, this is such a common Noob fail it makes me wonder if it's in the readings somewhere. Telling someone how you will be spoken to is a weak move for men with sore egos. If you're being talked to that way, it's because bitch ass men get talked to like bitch asses.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 01:28 PM
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I don't martial arts, but I watched John Wick so I'm pretty sure I'm good.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 01:13 PM
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I think you just mean Grace then. Grace is 30 x 135 c&j for time.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 01:12 AM
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Sounds like a Thruster, only you start with the bar on the floor instead of racked in a front squat?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 11:41 PM
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What is a grace kelly?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 08:34 PM
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Good for you if it works. Are you always bulking/cutting, or do you ever try and just stick at a maintenance level?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 07:32 PM
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Why do you think this sub generally recommends against Marriage Counseling? Why do you think this sub generally recommends against tracking sex frequency? Can you state the reason why this sub thinks they are bad ideas? You are right that you are a wreck. Everyone here tells you the same thing, but you insist that it doesn't apply to you. Follow /u/Tebulus advice and see a shrink without your wife. The whole process here is about changing your mindset. You're treating it like a checklist you can…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 07:17 PM
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My plan is to go on a short bulk to build back up some muscle and strength and then go at another brief cut in about 8-12 weeks. Does this work for you? Are you making progress or just bouncing back and forth between lighter and heavier? Curious because I see lots of bulk/cut stories in OYS every week, and I rarely see guys who get what they want out of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 05:14 PM
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Probably not. As you age, your recovery suffers. You're going to have to pursue one over the other. Life is a series of trade-offs. Nowhere is this more apparent than for the aging fitness enthusiast. Is kickboxing a big thing for you, or are you just fucking around? If it's actually important to you, why not lift to supplement your kickboxing? Be a stronger kickboxer, do a low volume strength routine - heavyish 2x5s on the big 4 maybe. Something that leaves you feeling stronger when you're done…
/r/askMRP29/01/18 05:53 PM
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That’s not me in their frame, IMO. Your reply here confirms exactly what he says IMO.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 03:31 AM
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I'm riding the hormonal wave. All the more important to be the rock. Just the tone of your post here sounds like you're happy with the wave being high now. You are following. "Phew, we get to be happy again". Don't pretend this is just pregnancy. You "found RP 4 months ago". Not typically something a married guy finds unprompted. You're in marriage counseling. You take pride in your caretaking ("Patriarch"). There's a lot going on here. Can you confirm you've read the sidebar books?
/r/askMRP27/01/18 03:05 AM
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I don't know running, or running shoes. However I've got a close relative who owns a running specialty store. She'll watch you walk and say "Oh, you need the Brooks so and so". I can tell her "My foot hurts here when I run", and she'll say "Pick any of these 4 shoes." And she's always right. Obviously this doesn't help you any, except to say that if something like that exists near you it might be worth looking into if this achilles been nagging for a while. If you're putting on weight, it might …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/18 02:22 AM
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Its such a fucking waste of time. Yup.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/18 11:10 PM
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I think he posted a picture a while back. Not bad, not great. Looks like a crossfitter.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 09:18 PM
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Not "What were you doing when she said I hate you" Does she actually not like you? Did she hate you before she got pregnant? Do you have a clue as to why? I'm well aware of how nutty women, especially pregnant ones, can be. And her hating you for no reason isn't outside the realm of possibility. But we need to kind of establish if she's a psychopath who hates you for an awkward joke, or if there's a little more to it. Because all you've given us here is that you don't do home repairs in a timely…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 09:02 PM
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I will be surprised though if she will not try to use this incident as a lever to try to break my frame of being sexual with her. A guy with abundance isn't bothered by rejections. She rejects you, smirk and wink. All good, wifey. When you go from unable to handle being rejected to the point where her rejections no longer bother you, she'll start wondering why. Get better at initiating. Handle rejection like a guy who has options. Are you out chatting up women in your day to day life? Get a phon…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 02:41 PM
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"I fucked up". Meh, that's life. Sometimes you fall down. Just learn something from it. MRP says keep pushing until you get a hard no - I'm assuming this is why you kept at after she said no? Your problem is that you don't know what her "hard no" sounds like. The phrase "hard no" makes it sound like there should be some violent edge to the "no". Not really. It's just her saying, however she phrases it, "I don't want sex". Whereas soft no is things like "we can't do this right now, I need to star…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 02:16 PM
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Probably goes without saying but Rollo Tomassi. Might have to dig a little as he doesn't have his own channel, but you can find some good interviews & conversations.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 03:19 AM
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/shows self out
/r/askMRP25/01/18 11:27 PM
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She had said she was going to get some boudoir photos taking for me for an anniversary present. ...and fucked the photographer
/r/askMRP25/01/18 07:10 PM
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I told her that if she ever falsely accuses me of that, and I spend my 72 hours behind bars, our marriage is over. I will not be held hostage to anyone with that kind of threat. Don't ever threaten me with that bull shit again. This is adequate, as long as you mean it. You threatening to go to the church elders is weak. You're ceding authority to them. You're the authority in your frame, and you set the consequences within your frame. Anything outside of that doesn't concern you. If it's just bl…
/r/askMRP25/01/18 04:20 PM
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achilles tendinitis You run a lot - what's your shoe situation? Do you have that dialed in, or do you just kind of wear whatever?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 02:38 PM
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Too much focus on BF% sometimes, not enough on muscle mass. At 5'11" / 168. I think you're barking up the wrong tree if you want to look better. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oWcpweTuXs Jump forward to 8:54 5'11, 194 @ 11.4% Now jump forward to 11:19 6'1, 240 @ 15.4% Which looks better? If you watch the whole video,the 1 or 2 guys with BF% under 13% look quite underwhelming. Bigger bang for YOUR buck adding muscle. Where as 6'1 / 240 guy in the video would get a bigger bang by shedding a few …
/r/askMRP25/01/18 02:06 PM
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I have stopped whining and complaining completely. Not just to my wife but in general. That feels good. The worst I think was that I was whining not only externally, but also internally. Huge step in controlling your frame. Good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 08:58 PM
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Actually, the worst she could do would be to cook for you and sabotage it with high calorie additional ingredients and not tell you. Your reply makes it sound like you're thinking you gain from what I propose. If you approach it as "worth a shot, could save me time", I'm not sure how well this works. Frame it as I think it would be great if you cooked for me. Here's what cooking for me entails. (this is your thought process, not a script). This is something she gets to do for you, if she can han…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 08:29 PM
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It's an arrow to have in your quiver. Not something I'd deploy early on. If the only goal is body recomposition, then most can get away without cardio. This is my point. Approaching fat loss from a practical perspective, eating with a purpose is all that matters in the beginning. You don't even need an ideal diet - just compliance to something not terrible. Spend the first few months really cranking on your diet until it's dialed in and automatic. (This all assumes you lift already). This will g…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 08:01 PM
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I think HIIT is at best marginally effective. Mostly just serves to make the participant feel a certain way. Maybe an option for certain already fit people. Otherwise, most people can get 85+% of the way to their goal without it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 06:45 PM
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Your doctor is an idiot. And he's setting you up to fail. Find a new one.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 06:16 PM
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That's just a really extreme number of calories to cut. A guy your size would lose weight on ~2300 cals pretty easily. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3e3qc4/you_are_what_you_eat/
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 05:46 PM
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take your meaning that 500 of 1850 is a lot more than someone starting with a 2800 average TDEE. Yep. A decent step sometimes is just squaring away your macros and hitting your calculated TDEE for a bit. If your diet was shit before, that, plus IF can be a big enough change for fat to continue falling off. If what you are doing is working, don't let me shit on it. I just can't imagine going hard on that few calories can work long term.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 05:32 PM
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The play by play once they got to the apartment is exactly how I imagine things to go for someone who just read Bang.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 05:06 PM
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Which is why you both need to grow up and start solving your own problems. You, the man, need to lead here.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 04:55 PM
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I'm gonna take a stab here and say that your wife hates your mom because you rely too much on your mom and defer to her. It reminds your wife that you aren't a man. She can't defer to you (which she resents) because you defer to your mom (which she really resents). Your mom being around makes her feel like she married a little boy.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 04:35 PM
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but when trying to persuade her about something there's no value in needlessly provoking her. So are you trying to persuade her about politics here? Or is this just the example? There's almost no upside to talking politics with your wife. Attempting to persuade is basically DEERing. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that for the first year of your MAP, cutting national politics out of your day to day life would be quite productive. EDIT: Also - 1600 calories at 295 lbs. How did you get to that nu…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 04:04 PM
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Cutting on 1350 calories/day (500 deficit), using 16:8 intermittent fasting. Realised my shitty diet is mostly carbs, so trying to rectify my macros, but protein is expensive. 30% deficit seems pretty extreme. How much weight do you think you need to lose?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 03:49 PM
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I am still maintaining my schedule. I am still cooking meals meals for myself. She hates that I cook my own meals. "This is how I show my love." and "Why can't I cook for you?". This could be a chance for you to lead. Not sure where you're at with your calorie counting, but once you kind of have it down and have a pattern to what you eat, you can delegate the cooking part to her. Set out the food you want - I need 12 oz of chicken, this much seasoning, and half of this sweet potato, cooked like …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 03:32 PM
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It's not that I think it doesn't "work", I just think it's unnecessary. I lost an average of about 2 lbs a week for 4 months on a 10% caloric deficit diet. I was lifting as well, but was doing that before the diet change. Adding HIIT on top of that would have been counter-productive. Max out the easy gains before you start taking special measures. Especially for fat guys. Fat guys need to focus on nailing down their diet and managing it long term.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 03:10 PM
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That's the best way to go on the dbs as long as they are long enough that you can pile on all the weight you need.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 03:51 AM
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I think most can get to ~ 15% bf without cardio. Just strength training and basic calorie and macro management. After that you might have to step your game up. HIIT for weight loss is stupid and for masochists. You're better off walking if you're fat.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 03:34 AM
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So your goal is to have a wife that initiates? Is that a goal? Or just a benchmark you would use for progress? Could you be happy if your sex life was great, and your wife responded enthusiastically to your initiations, but didn't initiate herself? Any answer you have is fine. You determine what is and isn't success. A lot of that desire to have your wife initiate comes from the validation that she wants you, and that makes you good enough, or attractive enough. If you need that validation, you'…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 09:25 PM
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Walt Whitman did that. Spent about 15 seconds wondering if it was true that the 19th century poet also led a double life.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 08:21 PM
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I have now incorporated some dumbbell presses, but I need heavier dumbbells than 50lbs. Likely not the solution. You can get better at pressing without doing DB presses. Do more dips. Do more bb presses - Medium weight- like 70%. Practice the movement. Get better at not leaking tension, groove an efficient bar path. Clean the bar to your shoulders instead of taking it from a rack. (I don't know why this works, but it adds 10% for me) Address shoulder mobility issues. Sounds like you're starting …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 06:19 PM
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For the last week I have been focusing on calling her out on things in both a serious, and teasing tone depending on the situation. What type of things are you calling out? Probably need more info, but I tend to think that obsessing over correcting little behaviors like not replacing the toilet paper or leaving mugs on the coffee table has more of a negative impact on you. Also, the teasing tone is probably not the way to go. Snark and passive-aggressiveness are not tools of positive leadership.…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 05:13 PM
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I realize that her initiating sex and blowjobs is the ultimate barometer, Barometer of what?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 04:37 PM
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At some kid event Don't make this shit the center of your life. You remain the priority. Don't teach them that chasing their events around the region, spending thousands (of dollars and hours) on dance or baseball is all you have going on.
/r/askMRP23/01/18 11:09 AM
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I'm mostly referring to this: Fact: Spinning plates will always give you greater sexual pleasure than monogamy How would you know this?
/r/askMRP22/01/18 05:26 PM
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As interesting as that post might be, /u/Red-Curious pulled it all out of his ass. Maybe I missed the post where RC tells us what he learned from his past infidelity, but if I recall correctly, he has no actual experience in the matter. If I'm wrong, I'll apologize. So while it might sound good, it's just theorizing from someone who sees no limit to the breadth of his expertise. I've not cheated on my wife nor spun plates. And as a consequence of this, I do my best to abstain from telling others…
/r/askMRP22/01/18 05:13 PM
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Girls often refer to me as a real life Ken. Note that you're not "Real life Don Draper" Ken is beta. You're a handsome provider. Find some edge. What do you do for hobbies?
/r/askMRP22/01/18 01:59 PM
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Handle yourself before you go trying to change your wife. The fact that you're bitching means you're still in scorekeeping mode. Get to the point where you can oys without comparing how much shit you own to how much shit other people own. Nobody cares. Deal with your life on the terms it presents to you. If you give your wife the boot, fine. But you won't have fewer "chores" to do with her gone.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 03:46 AM
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I guess seeing somebody squat 6 plates gets the panties wet. Judging by the quality of pussy showing up to watch PL meets and other strength sports, I'm gonna challenge that assertion. Unless you're looking to fuck female shot putters. Seriously though....if they notice you, it's more because you walk around like you own the place and the deference the other men give you than it is about the weight you move.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 09:41 PM
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Guess I should have included /s
/r/askMRP20/01/18 09:25 PM
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What are you doing when she asks? I always took these shit tests - which they are - as a signal that I was being lazy. It's your wife's hamster saying "Why the fuck isn't this loser doing something?". It's like being asked to hold your wife's purse. If you are in position to be asked to hold her purse, you've failed. Like, why are you tagging along with a woman at the mall? Don't you have better things to do? Hold the purse, and don't let it happen again. Be scarce, and be busy when you're home.…
/r/askMRP20/01/18 11:45 AM
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Lots of dudes here get caught up in the planning phase. Or the reading phrase. Or the rumination phase. Don't do it. Jump right into the doing phase. Slow down there bud. Don't wanna go back pain Rambo.
/r/askMRP20/01/18 11:29 AM
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The point I took away from the story was not that Kobe wouldn't allow himself to be outworked. It's that Kobe wasn't going to let JW think that he could possibly be outworked. It was psychological warfare. JW had the Razor's Edge approach with the basketball. "I will work harder". Kobe was next level gamesmanship - "I'm gonna make this kid think I'm invincible so he might as well not even try." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DIwTheKgE9g
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/18 07:58 PM
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/u/man_in_the_world linked to this in an askMRP thread recently. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6daorr/anger_your_best_diagnostic_tool/ Applies, I think. Stop thinking about why "She" makes you mad. Focus on what makes you mad, and what that says about you. Follow the anger - usually it leads to a misshapen piece of your ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/18 05:11 PM
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Yesterday she openly admitted she married me because I wanted to marry, and she wanted to be married. (She: Hon, why have you married me? Me: Because of your tits and ass. And why did you marry me? She: I wanted to get married). This is pretty much consistent with her behaviour of past 10 years. First of all, this is a shit test. She brought it up? Then she fully intended for you to reciprocate the question. She sees the new confidence in you and wanted to knock you down a peg. Women rewrite his…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 04:35 PM
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405 isn't a lot for guys like them It was heavy for him at one point. How do you think he got there? 20 years of slow, controlled reps of 185, then show up one day and pile on 405? Do you think that maybe, a "Not that heavy" set with 405 would trigger a different physiological response than OP straining with 155? All of these elite bodybuilders have decades of strength training as a base. The programs they did at their peaks don't work for skinnyfat dadbods who didn't touch a weight until they t…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 04:27 PM
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I'm not going to get divorced fucked, cheated on, lose custody of kids and am fairly happy in. Then no. All of that is your ante.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 03:30 PM
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If you want that Jay Cutler body, then Peg is right - avoid all heavy weights.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 03:23 PM
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Don't just grab the app. Spend 2 hours googling it and reading about it. Understand the program. A weight program is more than sets and reps.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 02:59 PM
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You see Jay Cutler now still looking healthy and good in his 40s? He didn't use the uber heavy weights Jay Cutler repping out 405 on incline
/r/askMRP19/01/18 02:52 PM
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Kathy Bates as the sheriff, right?
/r/askMRP19/01/18 01:18 PM
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Seems like he took a bunch of theories about hormones, erogenous zones, and emotional bonding and tried to reverse engineer it into a seduction roadmap. When a guy writes from the voice he uses - lots of prescriptive "You need to", rather than "I do this", I always wonder how much of it has been applied successfully and how much is purely theoretical. Either that, or he's next level good at reading a woman, and dogshit at explaining it.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 04:25 AM
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IMO he's got a ways to go before he's in the right mindset. This is the perfect teed up meatball for him to assert himself and gain a shred of confidence. What are his other options in this situation? "Thanks for the dinner invite mom. Lemme check with my real mom and see if I can come over for dinner." "Oh, ok, wife. I see this frustrates you. I will cancel plans with my parents. I'm sorry, I never should have done something without your permission" The default askMRP answer to "blah blah blah …
/r/askMRP19/01/18 12:47 AM
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Like I said to somebody the other day, you're trying to turn a 180 with a 10 ton ship. We're all captains, sure, but you're not piloting a hydrofoil, man. My take, basically don't implement anything until you get your lifts way way way up from where they and you've had another month or two to internalize this stuff. No way. First of all, "Keeping plans for a dinner with my parents" literally sounds like an example you'd find in WISNIFG. It is basic, basic self respect and control of your life. S…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 12:33 AM
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What part would qualify as Rambo? You're good. When she rages on you about it tomorrow, have your WISNIFG game primed and don't react emotionally
/r/askMRP19/01/18 12:22 AM
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You'll have to expand on this for me. I suspect we're probably just not aligned in our definitions of the word. Admittedly, I'm sure I operate with a less than clinical definitions of "ego" and "self esteem". So I'm open to learning something here. I see self esteem being the degree to which external validation controls your view of yourself. A person with High Self-esteem does not require validation from others to see themselves as worthwhile. Low Self-esteem is a person whose self image depend…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 10:16 PM
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all she can do is say "no" and that's not going to make the state of play any different than what it is right now. It won't result in you fucking her less, that is true. But it will definitely change the state of play. She's going to have to go from simply not initiating to having to reject you. And you're going to have to start dealing with overt rejection.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 08:04 PM
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It's one thing to have to clear it by the wife. As you say, that's pretty standard fare with most guys anymore. It's another to accept the invite, then try and re-schedule for a different weekend so your wife doesn't have to be lonely.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 06:44 PM
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50 yrs old, 6'6" & 248 lbs with >20 years lifting in my rear view mirror. Well that's great and all, but greasing the groove guy read an article, so checkmate.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 06:11 PM
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I agree, a strong back is important. I just don't think it's possible for a guy at your strength level to do 255 lb BB Rows without it being a jerky bent over clean pull.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 06:03 PM
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I doubt you have Low T. You were motivated before. You just "arrived", and the destination isn't what you thought. I was getting sex as often as I wanted, succeeding in my career and was leading my family, in short – I was on a driven path. Sex was your motivation, you got it, and now it's not as motivating. You lost the weight, got hot, and now it's not a mission. You still probably look decent at 195 and you know a month of dieting and lifting you'd be 185 and right near your peak. It would be…
/r/askMRP18/01/18 05:56 PM
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Main Issue - no sex While I’ve managed to steady the ship and have taken control of my life again, we have no sex life and no intimacy – we have barely touched or kissed in months. You list a lot of things in this section that you assume are preventing you from having sex, but the last bullet is all that matters. All the other stuff will help your confidence. But if you achieve them all, sex isn't going to fall into your lap because of it. You have to go out and get it. Start initiating ASAP. Fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 04:04 PM
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Agree - high ego + low self esteem are pretty common, especially among Deltas & Gammas.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 03:21 PM
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Whose frame? I don't know. I don't think it's external. The argument in my head boils down to this (as expressed by /u/weakandsensitive) But ultimately, and I agree with this, is that there's a relationship between fear and ego. We hesitate to embrace things fully because of the potential fear of failure or the shots to the ego which might make others judge us. This applies in our personal lives, our professional lives, everywhere. Why not engage more enthusiastically? Why not focus more energy …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 03:09 PM
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pendaly rows are @ 255. WTF? Why? Is this a thing? Maxing out on BB Rows?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 10:36 PM
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So I told my buddies lets do it, but then wife messaged me day after asking me if I can move this trip to another weekend so that her friend can come visit her while I'm gone. So I sighed, asked my buddies if it could be moved to next weekend, (not so ideal for me either, because I had to ask work for time off) but they couldn't move the date at all. I have a buddy like this. We stopped asking him to go on trips. I'd note that, despite the effort he expended in trying to make all of our golf tri…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 09:58 PM
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I'll buy a guy who can bench more than he squats. Not optimal, but it happens. What I struggle with is the idea that press is your best lift. You're saying you can put weight more over your head than you can pick up off the ground?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 09:25 PM
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All good points, thanks for the feedback. Do you want to move up? Why? No - I know if I did, any next step would severely hinder my ability to be involved in something like coaching. The thing that keeps rattling around in my head is this: I used to be a low effort fat golf shirt wearing couch potato. All of that has changed, except for what I do at work...which is pretend to be busy and hit deadlines well enough that nobody bothers me. Part of me says, "Fuck it, I'm doing what I like and this j…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 07:22 PM
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I find it amusing that somehow "sanctioned" reading material used to seduce your wife is ok. Because kino can't be used in a covert contract. How many dudes on this forum use dread "expecting some pussy"? If you read posts from two years ago, replies are full of interested follow up. The "just guys swapping notes" thing, and the "just a set of tools" thing still applied. It's become rigidly dogmatic around here lately, and comments are full of RP virtue signaling. "Look at me, I get it!" I'm gui…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 05:30 PM
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5LL is like Sex God Method, but for giving Attention.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 04:15 PM
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She already knew her ass was fat. Then why do you feel the need to reiterate? What good comes from verbalizing this? and frankly she has not responded to the dread. Ah, I get it. You're pissy that mrp isn't "working on her" fast enough, so you lashed out thinking you could overtly kick-start some dread? Imagine an actual hamster, running in her wheel. You look in and think "This hamster wheel isn't turning fast enough for me." So what you did here was, you reached into the cage and gave the whee…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 01:53 PM
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The thing that's been on my mind: I've got a solid job . I'm basically an analyst with just enough of a few specific skills to make me unique in my company. The pay is fine, the perks, flexibility, and management are outstanding. My position has all the potential for any growth that I care to grab. Problem - if it's even a problem - is that I don't find any of it engaging enough to pursue any projects outside my assigned responsibilities. I punch the clock and do a solid job. I'm not striving. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 11:29 PM
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Lifting has actually increased the size of my abs, thus making my stomach look bigger. Flatter and wider. Pic Not everyone's body is going to develop to look like Klokov (left). Some guys are gonna take a shape more like Berestov (right). Train hard and rock the shit out of whatever shape your body takes when it's finely tuned. If that means more of a rounded "baby abs" look, so be it. You'll drive yourself crazy chasing something your body just won't do.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 04:39 PM
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Do you even Styrofoam?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 08:57 PM
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Nobody is answering your question the way you want because your premise is bullshit. Your wife isn't your opponent.
/r/askMRP15/01/18 02:21 PM
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If you're mad about something, figure out why it makes you mad rather than wondering why they keep doing this thing that pisses you off. It's you. Get control of your emotions. Look at yourself. If yourself is all you control, then you need to become a master of it.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 12:46 PM
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Your ex sounds like an energy sucking POS, so I'm happy for you that you have been able to escape your former situation. But you are lamenting the fact that she didn't appreciate years of beta dedication to her. After supposedly unplugging and reaching the end game, you seem surprised by this. Maybe the gut punch of it actually happening so close to you makes it feel more real than the stuff you read. Women don't appreciate beta, especially when its provided by a beta....they believe they are en…
/r/askMRP13/01/18 12:16 PM
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Sounds like a woman who wasn't exposed to masculine leadership in her adult life.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 12:25 AM
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That kind of ruins the joke, doesn't it?
/r/askMRP12/01/18 08:30 PM
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I'd disagree to some extent. Don't look for a finish line where you are finally "attractive" before you start escalating sexually. It (escalating) might piss her off, or trigger a harsh rejection. Roll with it - don't fear rejection.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 07:59 PM
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If it's some double switch anti-sarcasm just to fuck with /u/red-sfpplus , then bravo However I suspect this is not the case.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 07:45 PM
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What are your numbers? Squat, Press, DL, etc....?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/18 02:29 PM
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winner
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:31 PM
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I'm skeptical about your excuse for skipping squats.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 10:30 PM
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Good first post. You seem to get it. Are all of your hobbies solo endeavors, or do you have groups you join up with? I'd think if you meet guys around those venues, you'd have better luck finding people who do more than just drink. Surely there's a running club or something nearby.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 10:59 AM
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Tendinitis in elbow/forearm.... Keep your wrist neutral in pulling movements. Excessive wrist flexion in pulling moves causes this. I bet when you strain on a BB row, your wrist goes into flexion. Guys get it doing chin ups and kettlebell snatch too....all from the same dysfunction.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:32 AM
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My W is also very smart and constantly studies me the way a biologist studies a germ in a petri dish. If my form isn't perfect (which is a lot) my W loves calling me out on it. You posted this elsewhere in this week's OYS, but to avoid hijacking someone else's reply thread, I'll reply here. It also applies to what you post here about your wife.. This framing dooms you to failure. She's the authority, and you're performing for her approval. There are a number of ways you can handle something like…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 06:51 PM
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There's a tendency for some guys to try and turn everything into an innuendo, and it comes off as juvenile. Think Michael Scott's "That's what she said". "Be sexual" doesn't mean always making the 'Meat' joke when dinner is being cooked. I don't know if that's you or not, but be attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 03:15 PM
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This is just a running play by play about yourself, with no real value. There's nothing anyone can learn from this, except that you crave high fives from the guys on the internet. Your wife does all the work, FFS. Here's your high five. Nice work, rob.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 03:55 AM
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This post is him trying to convince himself.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 04:57 PM
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Didn't happen. Her little tantrum doesn't shake your frame, and if she brings it up, it's confusing and mildly amusing (very mildly) that it's still on her mind. Next time she makes something you don't like, skip expressing your disgust and just don't eat it.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 03:02 PM
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Are you reading Rational Male yet? You don't mention it in your post. The thing Rational Male established in my mind is how women - wives - act the way my wife did because they are hardwired to. Now, not all things all women do are hard-wired behaviors. I get that. Your wife might actually be gunning to fuck you over, I don't know her. Mine wasn't - she just craved a man who "got it". When she wasn't getting that, she acted how we have come to expect here. Some of the things she did seemed cruel…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 11:36 PM
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Rollo Tomassi has cited that book often. Credits it with beginning his awakening.
/r/askMRP06/01/18 08:22 PM
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Here I think the opinions I've heard here on MRP differs a bit, where some people have the strong opinion that you should not spend time with your wife if she is not having sex with you, and some have the opinion that you should do whatever you feel as long as you are OI and there aren't any covert contracts. I'd say chill on the conditioning via time and attention part. /u/druganswer 's replies here are sidebar worthy. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/50515y/anger_is_spiraling_out_of_co…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 09:38 PM
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I look at her and say "it's fuckin pathetic that you feel the need to get changed like that". How often do you say whiny shit like this? Is it any wonder she's not attracted? Any positive gains you make anywhere else get cancelled out by your bitchiness.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 12:58 PM
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How did you keep your focus on you? When did it feel "natural" for you to skip that paradigm and shift course? Everyone starts from a different point, but I recognize some of my flaws in your post....ie, a lazy validation seeker. You'll have to go a long time before it feels natural. It eventually feels natural when you're confident enough that you set an acceptable standard for yourself, and you consistently meet that standard. Be mindful, and kill the addiction to external validation. How to k…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 11:07 AM
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I've skated by on the bare minimum of effort--as a dad, husband and professional. If you frame what you are doing as "being a better dad" or "being a better husband", you tee up the covert contracts again. Being the "better husband" or "better dad" that "my family deserves"....those all sound like self sacrifice. Those type of things always sapped my energy. It's a drag trying to be better like that. But being a self reliant, congruent, high value man who is pursuing his mission - that gains mom…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 06:18 PM
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Keep in mind that you do not want to become the family plow horse. This becomes true eventually, but if a guy starts off cautious about ever becoming the plow horse, it sets him in a score keeping mindset. Be the plow horse, for a time. For most of the guys that come here, it's going to reveal that they are capable of more than they thought. Once a guy has set the standard, and lived to it for a while, he's in a better place to determine what's important and who gets to stay.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 10:19 PM
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Stone tweeted this out the other day...Alan Thrall bodyfat testing in 2017 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUBnGpe7Gd4 Which led me right on into this one, which is testing for a bunch of people at his gym in 2016 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oWcpweTuXs I found them both interesting....however they shot my conception of bodyfat % all to hell.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 09:25 PM
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Archwinger's post isn't about defining rape for legal purposes. Its about helping men here wrap their heads around the fact that they don't really want a woman to "do her wifely duty" or "honor her vows".
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 01:27 PM
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Inhale, roll shoulders back, hold that position. The imagine-a-string-is-pulling-your-head-up one always makes me feel awkward. Antlers. Just imagine Antlers.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 10:41 PM
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Seems to me there's too much verbal reassurance from you and not enough attraction from her. You scared yourself "going too fast early" as you say, and now you're trying to split the difference with a nice guy approach. All the advice about calling her out on her bullshit hinges on whether or not you have leverage, which you appear to not have. So if you proceed that route, know it's going to blow up in your face....you'll be sucked into a DEER exhibition. I think you still have work to do. The …
/r/askMRP02/01/18 10:32 PM
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I had the vague idea that women could fuck you even if they didn't want to, just to secure their lifestyle but she won't. And this is what you want? Or something you'd accept? Seems to me you just want to "Win". 3 years ago, you started playing a game, and you can't beat the game despite clearing all the levels. You don't seem to have ever hit the turning point where you realize it's about you and not her confirming that you're good enough.
/r/askMRP02/01/18 05:49 PM
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Good. Didn't realize you got banned. Guess maybe I shouldn't give you credit. You learn by doing, not by asking how. Doesn't necessarily mean you shouldn't ask questions. But you learn much better if you act intentionally and get it wrong than if someone tells you what you should do or should've done.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 10:06 PM
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I see it's been a little over a week since you went to ASKmrp to micromanage your thoughts and reactions. Any insight gained from the improved approach?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 09:18 PM
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I want to start FA's 30 DTM in January but I know one of the tasks is to add 100 push ups daily to your routine. Do you lift on days where you mow the lawn, or shovel the sidewalk? I should hope so. It's not going to interrupt your routine unless you do it immediately beforehand. So do it first thing in the morning, or right when you come home from work - whichever is farther from your work-out. Or, you could just do it with your work-out. I do it as a warm-up a lot of the time. 100 push-ups is …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 03:48 PM
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"This ache" is you romanticizing how special you are, how unique and sophisticated your tastes are that nothing satisfies you. I suspect this insight will be wasted.
/r/askMRP27/12/17 02:41 PM
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Guys here will be happy to let you learn from them if you shut the fuck up about what you think about yourself and be open to learning. If you think you're special and none of this applies to you, "Actually, that's not my problem", "Well what if that's not be what I want." Shut up. Shut up and wax the cars, paint the house, paint the fence, sand the floor. You'll find The Meaning in the doing. If you don't want to, or you want us to tell you why you should, then fuck off. Nobody here recruited y…
/r/askMRP26/12/17 10:21 PM
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Now she’s all apologetic and wants to know what made her a nag-a-saurus. I’m not sure how to explain nagging to her. This is an advanced womaning technique to turn men into DEER.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 05:18 PM
3

My 14 year old does everything I do. Everything. He doesn't realize it. Hell, I don't realize it most of the time until someone points it out. And yet, I can't tell him a fucking thing. The moment I tell him something, I'm Charlie Brown's teacher.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 05:14 PM
5

I'd tend toward the Navy number. I'd have guessed 18ish. (add muscle) Yup.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 03:23 PM
4

Haters always come out each time I post my lifting progress
/r/askMRP23/12/17 03:33 PM
4

Something like that
/r/askMRP22/12/17 08:22 PM
2

It's a start.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 06:56 PM
26

Maybe your wife just wants to fuck the archetypal "guy who has tattoos". She thinks it's the tattoos, but it's the alpha she craves.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 06:44 PM
1

It's this simple, /u/RPWolf
/r/askMRP22/12/17 01:19 PM
2

Bet his fedora is dope, though.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 12:56 AM
13

Imagine an Org Chart for the corporation "My Life", with yourself as the CEO. Beneath that, the pieces of your life are VPs reporting to you - friends, career, hobbies, physical health, kids, marriage, etc. Each are a piece of the overall structure of your life. That's a properly ordered, Differentiated Man (you read Dr. Schnarch, right?) However, for you, your Org Chart doesn't look like that. Right now, your "My Life" org chart has "Marriage" in the CEO box, with yourself reporting to that. Yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 10:04 PM
1

I generally don't accept anything as the 'one' truth. This isn't that, either. If you approach this as the one true truth, you'll drive yourself batty trying to reconcile the contradictions.
/r/askMRP20/12/17 04:34 PM
7

I'll elaborate here, /u/resolutions316 . /u/man_in_the_world asks if you're trying to achieve BP goals through RP ends means (EDIT). I don't think so. You're still trying to achieve BP goals through BP ends means . You still want to change your wife (BP), by earning her love (BP). Your OYSing is choreplay. Your metric tracking is a way for you to pretend you're making progress while keeping busy sabotaging real progress. (This thing with the weights last week is such a fantastic parallel, I can …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 03:54 PM
1

I sometimes tease her now that I’m going to be extra gentle because “I know that’s what she really loves”, then go full caveman once she begs for it. Nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 08:07 PM
7

You still haven't bought in here. Couples therapy? WTF. It's your idea, too, isn't it?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 07:18 PM
4

Nailed it. When you have a handle on your ego, you don't feel the need to convince others that you're right. Most arguments fizzle out and die without that fuel....
/r/askMRP19/12/17 02:33 PM
1

Around that 2 year mark, you've been in the flat point of the improvement curve for a while, so guys start gropring around for ways to feel like they leveled up.
/r/askMRP18/12/17 04:39 PM
1

<Thumbs Up>
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 08:09 PM
3

Essentially I set the expectation / boundary that my wife will keep her promises (the handjob she offered) I don't get this....guys here bitch about getting starfish sex, and then also demand starfish sex. Unintended consequence that will result from this "boundary": Wife won't talk about sex with you anymore, because you're going to hold her to every idea that comes out of her mouth. You want a more sexually uninhibited wife? Let her be fanciful. Understand this: If your wife says "Don't come h…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 07:54 PM
1

I read over on the TRP sub comments like "Need money? If you're in shape, go be a personal trainer. Easy money" Then I read about guys here hiring personal trainers. Fuck. Those guys are fine, if you're paying them to be accountability partners. Anything beyond that is a crapshoot. If you need to learn the PL movements, find a PL coach.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 02:43 PM
1

How much protein per day?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 04:52 AM
2

You need muscle mass, brother. Brutal honesty - even if you shed down to even something absurd like 7% bf, you'd still not look great. At best, you'd look like a 800m runner. If that's what you want, YDY. But then get to running, you know what I mean? Half miler physiques aren't built in the weight room. (FYI: They're built on the road and in the soybean fields.) A skinnyfat novice like you needs to teach his body to build muscle. You need to build a better base of strength. You get that from th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 04:30 AM
14

Don't track. It inhibits any chance of abundance mentality. Learn the difference between (A) "Dick is hard and I want to fuck" vs. (B) "I haven't had sex in 3 days and I don't like that". Mode A has a far higher likelihood of payoff. Like, my wife rarely says no when I initiate in this mode. When I operated from Mode B, I'd mostly end up with that cliche initiate before bedtime sex, where we're both tired and sex is below average. Tracking the numbers sets you permanently in Mode B, because you'…
/r/askMRP14/12/17 04:56 PM
2

More likely, it's related to you being the needy type who wants to say things like "For me closeness equals sex, so if you aren't attracted to me, we just cant be that close" Your whole post is that of a guy who thinks his wife can force herself to be attracted to you. She won't. She couldn't if she wanted to. Work the program. Until you become a tingle generator, no amount of comfort is going to make her want to fuck you.
/r/askMRP12/12/17 04:08 PM
1

She doesn't feel close because she doesn't feel attracted to you. To a woman, "feel close" means gina tingles. You don't give them.
/r/askMRP12/12/17 03:49 PM
1

Strict Overhead Press: 13 reps at 143lb (1 rep below previous PR - disappointing - I had some shoulder pain, I might have to rethink my upper body workout and add in more mobility work or reduce volume) Lacrosse Ball your pec, bis & tris, and foam roll lats, serratus, and teres (armpit to scapula area) BETWEEN sets on upper body days. Make it your rest period. You don't have to do them all between each set, just take your usual rest period - 90 seconds or whatever - and roll your pecs after one …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 03:05 PM
1

All of the answers here are in the doing. Also, don't be "roughly familiar" with the sidebar. Become fluent.
/r/askMRP06/12/17 03:46 AM
3

but is that the permanent solution? Get there first. Then do it for a year. Then check in with new you and see what he thinks.
/r/askMRP05/12/17 06:45 PM
15

This should be posted over in askMRP, not here. Nothing says "I am the prize" like having a woman who has to pay extra to hang on to you. Realize that her out earning you means you don't have to worry about most of the downsides of a divorce. If she's got as much or more skin in the game, you've got more leverage than you think. Step 1 is live like you would if you only had your paycheck so you aren't dependant on her to keep up the lifestyle you have. Your frame is "I don't need your money." If…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 03:35 PM
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