Gonna keep this short and sweet. Newly(three weeks) pilled ,former alpha/oak who degenerated slowly into beta in my late 20's. Married 5 years with a 2 year old daughter.

Wife stays home to look after her while I work. In good shape physically- Long blond hair and attractive. Upon discovering this forum , I found that I was somewhat instinctively doing dread, to varying degrees.

Things are getting much better! Taking control back slowly, Mostly- she just eagerly hands over the wheel to me. I am damn confident that I can sort this, now I am better informed. She has started acting rather giggly and flirty around me.

On to the main issue. A reoccurring shit test.

I work till 8pm on most days, we generally try to save the evening meal till then and both eat together -It is something we have always done. I get back from work, she is cooking tea - she shouts for help in a shrewish and biting tone. It is the tone, Rather than the request. She has done this test several times over the last few weeks.

Eg1) Shrewish request to Help cook. I spoke up and told her I would not be spoken to like that after a long day at work, then went to help. We ate in silence, I STFU, And after eating she took the plates in and came and sat on my knee.

Eg2) Same shrewish request. I ignored her, She began shrewing more and more,becoming argumentative,Ignored her and went upstairs. Came down to tea sat waiting for me. She rubbed my shoulders after - without my request.

Eg3) Same shrewish request. Ignored her,went upstairs as previous. She was sat eating her tea when I came back. My food was still in the oven(turned off) and she informed me it was burned.

I went into the kitchen and turned the oven back on -telling her I liked it well done - sat back down and stfu, went back five mins later and sorted my food out.

These are just three examples of a reoccurring event, It seems a little pathetic as i write this down - But due to her tone and me just getting back from work - it feels like a power-play.

To prevent more escalating versions of this silly and pathetic struggle, I took action.

I made a cleaning chart last week -outlying what we would both be responsible for each day. It was my idea, she agreed. We sat and agreed on the list together - It is so far working well. She has the lions share of the cleaning- as I agreed with her, as she is at home.

I added cooking responsibility to this chart - Informing her I would cook tea Two nights a week with no help from her(My days off). And she would be responsible for the Days when I was working late with no help from me.

She pouted and sulked, and began to argue. I just stfu and ignored her, she went to bed in a huff, Ignored her. The following morning, I added the cooking rota to the chart and then got in the shower.

While I was in the shower she walked into the bathroom and Dramatically pulled back the curtain. Without missing a beat I just said "Whatsup" She replied with "Nothing, I just wanted to look at my sexy man" And she kissed me. Overall It seems to have worked- My goal was to prevent this test from taking place again, and stop her silly behavior. When I realized that this test was repeating over and over, I took steps to just nip it in the bud.

Did I approach this the right way? What could I have done differently?