16 year old needing advice

midnightreider · 2018-06-22T21:02:00+00:00

Here’s some advice from my own life experience. You look and sound exactly like I did when I was 16. Stick to the gym man, seriously. I fell on and off for awhile and looked the same muscle wise except with a little bit of flab. It’s a bad look. You’ll naturally fill in a little over the next few years, and if you keep lifting you’ll get to man size without the flab. As far as other advice, you’re doing great finding this at a young age. Im 22 now, so I’m just a bit further down the tracks. Stick to your principles, and learn from older men. Talk to them when you have the opportunity. They’re not going to think, “oh this guys just a kid, little faggot” Oftentimes they like to talk about their youth and lessons learned. They will give you tidbits of advice they had to learn the hard way. Don’t buy into subcultures. For example, the American fraternity and party scene is run all over Instagram and social media, and a ton of young guys think college is about going nuts. Every year i see freshmen wearing “frat” clothes and doing obscenely stupid and obnoxious things thinking they’ll look cool. Older fraternity guys shit all the fuck over them. (Not knocking fraternities at all here, i think they’re awesome) The lesson here is to create your own identity and tastes, and that will come from your friendships and activities. Pick them wisely since these years are formative and shitty friends will make it easy to cause bad habits that will take years to get over. For example, my high school friends I went to college with all got into smoking weed all the time. I did too, and I’ve developed habits of laziness and complacency that are hard as fuck to break sometimes. Lastly, women. I was a virgin until I was 18, and very easily could’ve lost my virginity at 16 if I wasn’t so oblivious. I guarantee there are girls eyeing you with your current physique. There were many eyeing me and i didn’t have a clue till later when their friends asked why i never made moves after their hints. Your best bet for meeting girls will be mutual friends. Make friends with a gay guy; he’s going to be friends with tons of girls. The girls will trust their gay friend and thusly trust you, and if he’s cool he’s going to throw all the women he knows at you. Get involved in sports and groups of people who go out and do things since there are likely to be girls to meet and notice how interesting your life will be. Above all else, be cool, have some wit, and don’t worry about the ladies since they will come as your life becomes more fulfilling/interesting. You’ve got it by the balls right now man.

Pane502 · 2018-06-22T19:48:38+00:00

Since when has 5'9 been considered short? Brah, you just need to work on inner game.. it's the first puzzle piece you will work on and the last one you will solve (if at all). Stoicism, new experiences, skills, etc..

TonytheNetworker · 2018-06-22T20:22:35+00:00

You'll be ok. I'm a similar height to you and once I started working out in the gym hardcore and losing weight height became less important. I still get a little self-conscious about it because girls expectations are so fucking ridiculous but with decent looks, great clothes, hygiene on point, and game it gets so much easier.

Blackhawk2479 · 2018-06-22T20:30:36+00:00

If I had had your body at 16 my life would’ve been very different.

5’9” is pretty average and I think you look great considering you’ve probably still got some growing to do.

You’re gonna be playing on easy mode when you’re in your twenties - stop worrying.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2018-06-22T19:56:21+00:00

If you're not on steroids you're not going to get that "stocky" look you're imagining. It looks like you're killing it at the gym. High school is easy son, get the grades , be sociable, be in shape, join a club/sport as long as it doesn't impede anything and it'll all come together.

talexanderc · 2018-06-22T20:10:08+00:00

Give it another 10 years. You're competing with guys much older than you right now

mysteryspoN · 2018-06-22T23:44:32+00:00

Bro I'm at same space and level as you. Just finished my gcses and been pulling girls this summer. Girls are willing to do whatever now it seems (cos exams are over); just be confident. P.S ur body looks good no homo dude

FiftyShadesOfSwole · 2018-06-22T19:52:03+00:00

Go play sports.

iamarr0gant · 2018-06-22T21:04:24+00:00

Hey man I am 16 as well and around similar height. If you’re looking to chat a bit more in depth just shoot me PM. The way I think about trp is that it is a massive advantage if leveraged correctly.

2ndLion · 2018-06-22T23:40:06+00:00

Keep lifting. Work and study enough. Read books. Don't worry about things you can't change. And have fun.

ChadsLeftNut · 2018-06-22T20:24:17+00:00

My friend was 5'9 when he was 16, hit a growth spurt during high school and is now 6'2. But regardless, I am 5'8 and 175 lbs at 13% bf, being "too stocky" has never been an issue

room_303 · 2018-06-23T16:01:57+00:00

Doing weights too early can stunt your height.

Title	16 year old needing advice
Author	anonymous6578
Upvotes	8
Comments	29
Date	June 22, 2018 7:35 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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