MRA, if I'm married, and my wife wants her tubes tied...does she need my permission?

blueyb · 2012-05-30T20:39:27+00:00

I don't know for sure what the legal answer is.

The way it should be, however, is: no, no person should need anyone else's permission for something like this. No man should need a wive's permission for a vasectomy, no woman should need her husband's for getting her tubes tied.

If your spouse does this, and you don't want to stay married to that person, feel free to divorce them. But no one should ever have any say so over their spouse in these matters.

hardwarequestions · 2012-05-30T20:15:42+00:00

I've heard of doctors requiring the husband to be present at the consultation and such.

You must note this is at the discretion of the doctor. Not all require a husbands permission, just like not all require a wife's permission for a vasectomy.

Also, this is done by doctors to try and avoid lawsuits more than anything.

2012-05-31T01:25:56+00:00

No, absolutely not. It's her body and she can get her tubes tied if she wants to.

oneiorosgrip · 2012-05-31T04:20:25+00:00

Legally, I hope not. Ethically and morally? No, but it's mean of either sex to not discuss with the spouse a big decision like that, if for no other reason than disclosure. You should be at least told if your wife's tubes are being tied. Your wife should at least told if you are going to have a vasectomy. It's not because you have any business whatsoever dictating each other's health choices or forcing continued fertility upon each other, but because you are partners, and partners at minimum let each other know what's going on.

Personally, I wouldn't freak out over the procedure. It's reversible, and safe. As for the consequences/potential in it... you sure as shit don't pregnancy to occur if the two of you aren't in agreement regarding whether or not you want that right now. In a case like that, it's better to go with putting off pregnancy until the two of you are on the same page about it.

onetimeuser111 · 2012-05-30T23:18:39+00:00

There is no legal requirement in any state requiring spousal permission for tubal ligation or vasectomy. However, both men and women have reported individual doctors deciding to implement spousal permission requirements or that spouses attend informative appointments. The doctors may have good intentions, but many patients feel it is an invasion of privacy. If anyone comes accross a doctor requiring this, I would say find another doctor.

My friends who have had vasectomies have never come across this requirement, but I have read about some men that have, and I have seen some doctors websites that mention it.

CrawdaddyJoe · 2012-05-31T06:56:44+00:00

No; nor do you need her consent for a vasectomy. People own their own bodies.

aarghj · 2012-05-31T19:01:32+00:00

Nope. She does not need your permission to do a medical procedure on her own body. It's her body.

How would you feel if you wanted a vasectomy and she said no? Tough cookies on this one, mister. Equal rights is equal rights.

HexCodeHarry · 2012-05-30T23:43:22+00:00

I would think not.

T-rex_with_a_gun · 2012-05-30T19:51:43+00:00

If she does.. You can be sure there will be feminist parades.. Civil disobedience.. Just mad protesting.

A man not getting his vasectomy? Well it's kinda unfair that he can just do that...

Title	MRA, if I'm married, and my wife wants her tubes tied...does she need my permission?
Author	T-rex_with_a_gun
Upvotes	6
Comments	21
Date	May 30, 2012 7:45 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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