Paradoxically, it seems it’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.

49rows · 2010-01-21T04:50:44+00:00

Not sure how this is a paradox

A_for_Anonymous · 2010-01-21T05:16:59+00:00

a woman is as likely to be considered extremely ugly as extremely beautiful, and the majority of women have been rated about “medium.” The chart looks normalized, even though it’s just the unfiltered opinions of our male users. … Given the popular wisdom that Hollywood, the Internet, and Photoshop have created unrealistic expectations of how a woman should look, I found the fairness and, well, realism, of this gray arc kind of heartening.

Oh, I've been given so much shit about this from feminists.

As you can see from the gray line, women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh.

Who's the product of a shallow and superficial patriarchy that only values women for their exterior now, bitch?

The foundations of the feminism fantasy world just keep crumbling down and down.

kru5h · 2010-01-21T14:38:27+00:00

This should be an Onion headline, "Women complain that men's standards are too high, making it impossible for most women to get attractive, single, well-paid men."

That was always the problem with the "Shallowness" argument anyway: You can't call somebody shallow for limiting your access to high-status people. There's always somebody willing to date you, if you don't want to date them, then you can't call others shallow when they won't date you.

hamstertamer · 2010-01-21T07:04:00+00:00

not a paradox at all.

2010-01-21T15:19:34+00:00

so who's going to post this to /r/feminisms?

nolsen01 · 2010-01-21T21:30:34+00:00

Actually, any research or statistics that portray women in a less than flattering light is probably wrong. Didn't you know that?

rsho · 2010-01-21T04:28:12+00:00

Spooky.

GDSM · 2010-01-22T05:50:39+00:00

1) The "average" girl on the right looks way above average to me, I assume if this is based on user ratings it's more because the photo isn't so hot than the girl.

2) This quote was really strange:

But with the basic ratings so out-of-whack, the two curves together suggest some strange possibilities for the female thought process, the most salient of which is that the average-looking woman has convinced herself that the vast majority of males aren’t good enough for her, but she then goes right out and messages them anyway.

Wouldn't it be at least as plausible that the average-looking woman has convinced herself that she's not good enough for even average males, and that's why she messages the "below average" (actually above average) males? Just because you think someone is below average, doesn't mean you think they're not too good for you.

nexes300 · 2010-01-21T05:31:58+00:00

Maybe guys are just uglier!

reddeb · 2010-01-21T05:43:40+00:00

I think we have to keep in mind the source as well, it's okcupid.

I'm a 42 year-old hot redhead milf. (can I call myself that? well I just did...) And even though I wrote out clearly in my profile I wouldn't go out with guys younger than around 35/36 and that I only date MEN, the majority of men to write me could hardly be called men, they were boys and I was continually asked out by women. I switched out my pics and put up photos that were the dullest I could find. Didn't matter. Tons of flirty emails from 23-28 year-olds begging me to give them a chance. Girls swearing if they could change my mind about women. They had the magic pussy that would do it.

It's okcupid. It has the mentality of high school.

Title	Paradoxically, it seems it’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.
Author	thugesquire
Upvotes	76
Comments	28
Date	January 21, 2010 2:27 AM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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