I've done a 'round table discussion' with a kickass group of guys who have all done a tonne of cold approaching and gotten laid from it. In it we cover a bunch of things including:

  • How to start approaching
  • Does approaching make you a better man?
  • Cold approach vs Tinder

It's an awesome discussion with some funny stories thrown in there. Without watching, the main takeaways from talking to pretty experienced guys are:

  • You need to play the number's game. All the little things you can do with body language, jokes, saying lines or the tonality of your voice don't really matter. YOU need to go out there, try a bunch of things and see what works for you.
  • At the end of the day, approaching isn't as scary as it seems. Most girls are pretty nice and the worst case scenario is that a girl is a bitch. The more you do it, the easier it gets and you realise that even after negative reactions, the world keeps turning.
  • You can make all the excuses in the world, you can waste your time mentally masturbating, but at the end of the day you can't think yourself out of taking action. If you want to get laid - approaching is one of the best ways to do that.
  • Even if you're not at the point where you look good, START NOW. There's almost no reason not to start now. Even if you're not ready, approaching now will help you: build momentum, get used to rejection, work on your approach anxiety and very importantly, it makes you feel like a man. It feels really fucking good knowing that you're doing something a majority of men can't do.
  • Sometimes it's not glamorous, you'll get nervous, you'll have days where you don't want to, you'll have periods where you'll do a bunch of approaches with no success. Sometimes it sucks but that's part of the process. If you never quit, you'll eventually find success.

If you haven't got the point, these guys and I advocate approaching. So if it's something you struggle with or have been thinking about, give the video a watch here.

- Andy