Most men are already trying hard or working hard and are confident. All of these have no guarantee that they will secure a partner nor give any type of progress in anything.

And this is why I hate the comment advice men get and it's always a long list of the same thing such as

• working out -work on confidence -social skills -etc

To give an example I was artistic and a class clown and to this day people that went to high school with still remember me as the people person

Yet there were guys who had less social skills who still got girls and that is perfectly fine

In my own personal opinion I was probably the closest thing that we could think of as a man who was comfortable in his skin while still being me at around age 17 and 18

I was literally at the best mental capacity of my life but that didn't bring all of the things most people say it would bring especially in the terms of romance

If it is true that girls just love The confident guy who's comfortable in his skin or whatever then most guys wouldn't struggle because most guys are already confident and in their skin.

To give another example while half of my class we're having heart complications giving speeches it was one of the few things I excel that. That took a lot of bravery and confidence but there's no guarantee that a girl was going to see that or recognize it and even further be attracted to it.

That being said those same guy should be allowed to not be comfortable and should be allowed to be normal and open and be vulnerable without having all their other traits question