The Hero's Journey is the core of an attractive emotional experience for women

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The primary value and most attractive thing about the archetypal alpha is the he generate a fun, safe, transcendent emotional experience. On the surface, it looks like women are primarily interested in things like money, looks, status, and power, but those peripheral indicators are attractive not as ends in themselves but because they subconsciously indicate to women that the man is an alpha and therefore can create awesome emotional experiences, both now and in the future. Women want adventures, not things. Humans are never satisfied and want to constantly dive into the unknown to find something better than what we currently have. As George Bernard Shaw famously said, “A man’s reach should exceed his grasp, or what’s a heaven for?” Mens’ attraction to women is primarily physical, but womens’ attraction is mental. She wants somebody who can take her on an emotionally and intellectually stimulating adventure that she cannot go on herself.

The structure of the ideal emotional experience for human beings is the Hero’s Journey, which generally comprises the following key elements: the Hero 1) ventures into the unknown, 2) defeats a challenge or obstacle (including other people), 3) obtains some attractive resource, and 4) brings the resource back to share with the tribe. According to the mythology expert Joseph Campbell: “A hero ventures forth from the world of common day into a region of supernatural wonder: fabulous forces are there encountered and a decisive victory is won: the hero comes back from this mysterious adventure with the power to bestow boons on his fellow man.” Because humans evolved to feel most engaged when pursuing the Hero’s Journey, Campbell argued that the Hero’s Journey is the substructure of almost all popular world myths, religions, and fictional stories. George Lucas used the Hero’s Journey as the basis of the Star Wars films, and artists like Stanley Kubrick, Arthur C. Clarke and Christopher Vogler, the producer responsible for Disney movies like Aladdin and the Lion King, have also admitted to using this formula.

For our evolutionary ancestors, the most important thing a man could do was to venture into the unknown, defeat challengers, and obtain resources for himself and his tribe. Humans literally evolved to hunt, whether animals or more abstract goals like women, money, or success. You are probably reading this book right now because you want to succeed at hunting women. If you just wanted sex, you could save a lot of time and money by buying a prostitute, but you do not just care about sex – you want the thrill of conquest. Women did not evolve to hunt themselves, but rather assist men and vicariously experience the thrill of hunting, including when the man hunts women. Even if your Hero’s Journey is just finishing college or getting a promotion at your accounting job, women feel attracted to that adventure on a deep, biological level.

Because the Hero’s Journey is the basis of an ideal emotional experience, I return to it often in this book. You should incorporate the elements of the Hero’s Journey in every emotional experience you create for women, including when planning a date, crafting a conversation, or doing almost anything else. The more elements of the Hero’s Journey in your emotional experience, the more her mind and emotions will be stimulated. Whenever the novelty and positive emotions of a particular adventure wear off (for example, the challenge or the resource you were chasing is gone), you must take decisive action to change the adventure to keep the interaction emotionally appealing and resonant. This comes with practice; you yourself will “feel” the emotions draining out of an interaction and you will know when you need to make a change. Women are dopamine junkies and the moment the dopamine runs out she will go look for it somewhere else.

The Hero’s Journey is emotionally appealing because it is based on core elements of human psychology. First, humans are attracted to transcendence – in the ideal Hero’s Journey the Hero leaves the “ordinary world” and enters the supernatural world, where familiar laws and order do not apply and he is faced with novelty and challenges. Therefore, when a woman enters your emotional experience she should feel like she is transcending her normal reality. You should take her places and create experiences for you she cannot normally experience because you are more interesting, smarter, and transgressive than her.

Transcendence is based on the idea that “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.” Women would rather give up guaranteed fun for the possibility of better fun in the transcendent unknown. What actually happens on the other side of the fence does not even really matter or need to be that great - it is the act of jumping over the fence in hopes of something better that stimulates her emotions. Your adventure with women should be a perpetual crossing of the fence, and whenever you feel like an emotional experience is getting stale, you need to just move to the next thing, whether it be the next conversational topic, bar, or activity. Sometimes on dates I take women to three different mediocre bars, we have a drink at each place, and then we go back to my house. None of the bars were even that great, but just the act of going new places stimulates her emotions.

As of the writing of this book one of the most popular exclusive nightclubs in New York City is a place called 1Oak. 1Oak is very hard to get into, even for beautiful women. But within 1Oak there is a secret room that is even harder to get into. Every time women find out about the secret room in 1Oak, they immediately lose interest in the regular part of the nightclub and instead became obsessed with getting into the secret room, no matter how much fun they were having in the regular party. Getting into the secret room is like a mini-Hero’s Journey: it is a challenge to get into, it is the unknown, and there is a valuable resource inside (a DJ and dancing). There is nothing special about the secret room – it is just different people dancing to the same corny nightclub music – but the very act of jumping the fence excited them.

It may sound exhausting to need to constantly “transcend” with women, but the reality is that you should already be transcending in your own life. You should constantly be seeking novel and exciting emotional experiences for yourself, so all you are really doing is bringing the woman along on an adventure you were going to be on anyway.

Second, our brains release most of our dopamine during the pursuit of the thing we want, rather than after we get the thing want. In other words, humans prefer the journey over the destination, the adventure over the spoils of war. As the famous comedian and cocaine addict Artie Lange once said, “the most fun part of doing cocaine is the drive to your dealer’s house.” For the same reasons, humans evolved to want to tackle large challenges on the way to the things they want. On some primal level, humans even feel like if there is no challenge the thing was not that valuable in the first place.

All fun involves a challenge, whether it be playing against somebody in a competitive game, a conversation that challenges your beliefs and taxes your intellectual abilities, a travel adventure, doing something that scares you (like skydiving), consuming some kind of art like a book or movie that makes you think, etc…. As the psychologist Jordan Peterson says, a challenge is most emotionally meaningful when it lays right on the border of “order” and “chaos” – too much order and the challenge is boring and too easy; and too much chaos you are too in the unknown and overwhelmed with anxiety and difficulty. When you interact with women, you will FEEL whether the challenge is in this sweet spot; and you must intensify or change the challenge when it is getting boring, and to lessen the challenge when it is getting to difficulty.

The most important challenge, however, is you. The most valuable thing for a woman is not this or that thing, but rather access to a man that can generate future awesome emotional experiences. She should feel like you have access to all the money, parties, and cool things in the world, but to get to those things she needs to “win” you over, which she can never completely do. The woman should feel a little anxiety around you because she must feel like if she blows it her emotional experience will be permanently shittier. I explain how to be challenging in the next chapter.

Third, the Hero’s Journey is attractive because it involves some valuable resource that one can only obtain from the transcendent world. Therefore, your challenge must have end goal in mind; women do not get enjoy being challenged for no reason. But the end goal should be more than just material things – it should be something higher and spiritual; often the attractive resource is a change in the hero himself. Many men think that they can win womens’ favor with money, fancy dinners, and nice cars, but those things are a dime a dozen. Any fat, corny real estate agent can buy her that stuff. What is much more valuable to women is a life-changing conversation, an interesting adventure around the city, or just being inspired and motivated by somebody who is better than her and who she aspires to be.

But the most important resource of all, however, is the feeling of pursuing the Hero’s Journey itself. Super Mario Brothers was a popular video game because learning how to beat the game was fun, not because you actually get to the fuck the Princess when you beat the game. What turns women on the most is the ability to feel the alpha male’s confidence, calm, enthusiasm, positivity, and joy as he conquers the adventure. Although she needs to feel like there is a pot of gold at the end of the journey, it is the journey itself which brings her the pleasure, and once she reaches the end she will completely forget about the pot of gold.

Finally, the Hero’s Journey is attractive because humans enjoy engaging in reciprocal transactions. Humans evolved to live in tribes so we could work together on projects and exchange resources based on our contributions. In a healthy relationship, each party gives their fair share given their role in the dominance hierarchy, and is rewarded proportionately for their contributions by the alpha male. And the best way to form an emotional connection with somebody is to engage in reciprocal transactions with them over many cycles so their subconscious mind starts to see you as a trusted partner. In an ideal adventure with a woman, you provide the leadership and the physical and emotional muscle, she helps you, and you both share the resources brought back from the adventure.

I know an extremely rich guy who, on paper, had everything women supposedly wanted – he was tall, good looking, rich, and had a lot of high status friends, including celebrities and famous DJs. He would throw giant parties with tons of alcohol, snacks, drugs, and whatever else women wanted. But unfortunately this guy was boring as hell – he was timid, awkward, and he was afraid of being edgy or making conversations interesting. He owned a really cool tech company but did not want talk about what he did with women because he did not want to look like a nerd.

Even though this man had everything on God’s green earth that men think women want, women would constantly get bored and flake on him. Drinking champagne on a yacht sounds like fun, but after about 20 minutes the women would get restless and start looking for the next adventure. Even though I did not have all the cool stuff this guy had, I regularly stole women away from his parties because I could create a better emotional experience. Most women, even dumb materialistic whores, would leave a yacht with cocaine and champagne to go have a deep conversation about spirituality or relationships, explore a weird part of town, or just be in the presence of a confident, joyful man and not a fucking pussy.

One time this guy had a huge party at his fancy condo and a street thug showed up and started threatening people, acting creepy towards girls, and generally ruining the party. The rich guy was too afraid to confront him so the thug hung around for like 30 minutes until some girl tricked him into leaving. After the thug left, the women at the party lost a lot of respect and attraction for the rich guy because they were disturbed on a deep, psychological level. What good is all the champagne and cocaine in the world if the alpha male cannot protect her from the evil monster from the unknown? Women would rather eat McDonald’s in a dingy apartment with a man who makes her feel safe than drink champagne in a mansion with a fucking pussy.

Of course, women DO like things money, nice cars, and fancy dinners. Everybody likes those things. And given the choice, most women would choose a guy with BOTH material things and an adventure. But the excitement and positive emotions generated by the Hero’s Journey are much stronger than the fun of material things, and women evolved to choose a confident, dominant man with no material things on a fun adventure over a rich guy with a boring adventure. Studies have even shown this. Nevertheless, some women have addictions to lower pleasures like drugs, partying, and a lavish lifestyle, and are forced to be with inferior guys to feed these addictions. There are many beautiful women who date and have sex with ugly losers just because they are addicted to stupid things. Instead of hating those women, you should feel bad for them – their addictions have forced them into accepting a substandard emotional experience.

If you find that a woman is only interested in hanging out with you if you are taking her to fancy dinners and crazy parties, and not when you are doing regular things, she is probably not emotionally invested in you and she is just using you for material things. A woman who is emotionally invested in you wants to be part of your emotional experience all the time, even when there are no material things involved. In fact, spending a bunch of money on women is unattractive because it subconsciously indicates the man is not really enjoying himself and he is doing all this stuff to supplicate to her. The best dates you will have are the ones where you do something simple that you genuinely enjoy and spend very little money on hem. Again, you may be able to have sex with women by impressing her with material things, but it is generally not a good use of your time.

A few final points. First, women are not attracted to real adventures, but rather the appearance and positive FEELINGS of an adventure. Real adventures involve stretches where you may be bored, anxious, angry, depressed, or experience other negative emotions, but women are not interested in that. You can be on the most fun adventure in the world, but if you constantly project feelings of anxiety, depression, and timidity, the woman will not be attracted to you or the adventure. Conversely, a man can be doing relatively unimpressive things and still generate these emotions if he feels confident and joyful to the woman. Women are often attracted to losers like drug dealers, aspiring rappers, and party promoters because they project the emotion that they are on some fun adventure, when in reality their lives suck. An accountant or sales representative usually an objectively superior life than a drug dealer, but he often does not project a viscerally fun emotional experience women can vicariously enjoy, so they are not as attracted.

Second, womens’ desire for adventure is a subconscious impulse, not a conscious, rational decision. Even if a womans’ rational brain hates a man, she will feel a jolt of attraction and positive emotion when she sees him joyfully knock down challenges on the way to the things he wants. I have seen many women bemoan the fact they find street guys who carry guns attractive because they know it makes no rational sense for a smart, educated, professional woman to be attracted to a piece of shit who carries a gun he will almost certainly never use. But her subconscious mind cannot help but fantasize about the guy moving through the world and gunning down his enemies as he seeks the things he wants. This is also why people are fascinated with serial killers and love movies about gangsters like Scarface and Goodfellas. Our rational brain knows those guys are terrible human beings who almost always meet a horrible demise, but we cannot help but imagine ourselves living their life: not giving a fuck, breaking all the rules, killing our enemies, getting whatever we want, going on insane, dangerous adventures, and having a ton of fun.

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