What should we expect from a HVM?

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2021-09-26T20:56:37+00:00

Stability in all forms. They should be mentally, emotionally, financially, sexually, and physically stable. This doesn't mean they are void of mental illness (I see this a lot here and other places), it means they have handled those properly so they function in a relationship.
They should have their own beliefs, but open and understanding to others that may differ (as long as these beliefs do not harm anyone).
They should fit their partners needs, and wants.
They should not judge past endeavors. Such as where you came from, what happened to you out of your control, mistake (true mistakes), etc.
They should be able to know when an ordeal is not for them. I see it so often here, women say he wasn't HV because we aren't together. A man not being your HVM doesn't void him being HV. A HVM will know when a woman isn't for him. And yes not every HVM is right for each HVW. For example a HVM may want kids, and a HVW may not. Is he now LV? no he just isn't for you.
He is aware of racism, misogynoir, misogyny, sexism, colorism, and many other negative occurrence in the world. And if ignorance befalls upon him he is willing and very open to learn about it.
He communicates well, making sure to vocalize his point even if that points may not be met with others agreement.
He is aware of ordeals that are worth fighting over, and worth not fighting over (and I do not mean physical violence).

I have much more but I am watching my K-drama, and want to start cooking dinner.

TheNightWitch · 2021-09-26T21:18:24+00:00

He lives well in the world, and within his means, and he is endeavoring to make his future a good one. His home is nicely furnished and clean, and he takes pride in it. Doesn’t matter the make or year of his car; it’s washed and vacuumed and tidy. He is not hugely concerned with what his material possessions suggest to other people about him, because he recognizes that is a LV mindset.

He’s got plans and he breaks them down into manageable steps then does those steps. Financial goals, career goals - he is planning.

He has nothing to prove to other people. He competes only with himself, and that lets him be gracious to people less secure.

None of his friends are LV. He doesn’t have the time or energy to waste like that. He doesn’t have a bunch of exes actively in his life.

He doesn’t spend what he doesn’t have, and he is honest and genial about what he can, and cannot, afford.

He is very comfortable in his own skin, confident in his values, and prizes good character in himself and those he surrounds himself with.

cantsextihavebills · 2021-09-28T13:36:30+00:00

He's considerate. Honestly it's just that.

He considers his finances, and yours. He considers his needs, and your needs

He can consider his environment and clean it. Consider his appetite and cook himself a meal. Consider his goals and work to achieve them. Is considerate enough to check up on you. To hug you. Not to pressure you. He considers social issues. He considers your future together.

At the risk of sounding redundant- he's considerate.

Just being considerate.

Title	What should we expect from a HVM?
Author	meezapizza
Upvotes	88
Comments	7
Date	September 26, 2021 8:44 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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