Hey everyone,

I recently had a nasty experience with a guy I was seeing, he verbally attacked me at an event with all our mutual friends and it really affected me. I have obviously cut contact but I’m feeling a bit low, I lowered my standards for this person and it bit me in the ass of course.

I have depression so I was wondering how you gals maintain your standards with mental health issues as I tend to go towards limerance as an escape. Is it better to just abstain until I have beat depression somewhat?

I had a mutual friend tell me that she was surprised to learn that men treated me so poorly when we were discussing dating. Obviously everyone has been treated poorly but I feel I just keep attracting the same over & over, and it’s embarrassing that other people can see that.

My close friend has just gotten into another relationship, and she seems to have very little problem attracting people that treat her with respect. There are some exceptions as she has a LVM that harassed her for years that she entertained. I know it’s selfish and jealous of me to think it, but I find myself wondering why she gets the happy ending and I don’t. Our standards have not been that different over the years and we have both made similar mistakes (casual sex, fwb, etc). Im beyond happy for her but I find it confusing that she attracts multiple LTR and I do not, considering we have similar patterns when it comes to dating. No hate to her but I would even say both of our standards have been quite low, yet it seems to always work out for her.

I’m sorry that this post doesn’t make much sense I just needed to rant and hopefully get some support. I am in therapy and have been for years so I am getting professional help for some issues.

Thank you x