The two strategies of a cold approach.

Behave in a way that invites or entices other people to be in your presence, instead of imposing your presence on people that otherwise wouldn't want to be there. -Tish- LTR of Musicgoon.

I want to talk about two schools of thought regarding cold approach:

All humans need to feel like they are wanted. we see younger and new guys that want to jump headfirst into relationships. Older guys that are tired of managing a soft harem, even the OLTR type of guy want some sort of mate. One can only rawdog rando's for so long before they yearn for something more meaningful. Getting repeat business and reliable sex is a respite from being on the prowl every single day.

Do you consider yourself a guy thats on the prowl? You are the predator, women are the prey? Or do you want a girl to suppliment your already thriving life?

A guy with a goal of picking up women, flips a power dynamic. These guys are asserting dominace over a woman to get her to agree with the guy for ,"more". Because at that moment, she's only giving guys something nice to look at. Predator/prey makes the woman the prize. Its a halfway point between effective game and simping. You are in her frame trying to anticipate her next move.

I recently went out with my oltr. I talked to 25 different women. I asked: Imagine if you're with your girlfriends and a good friend of yours says to you ,"I was at a bar and this really awesome guy picked me up". What comes to your mind when you hear that? All 25 women stated that this sounds like some guy tricked her or is pulling some shady shit.

I then asked these women ,"What if it was the same situation and your girlfriend said to you ,"Oh My gawd! I just met the hottest most amazing guy last night! I really was drawn to him! What would you think about this second scenario"? The general anser was ,"Aww. I'd be so happy for her".

There are two standard methods of meeting women. Pickup is you going to a woman and trying to sell yourself. You are qualifying yourself to a woman.

Attraction is the opposite. Women come to you and try to qualify themselves to you.

Does pickup work? Sure! It can be done right and you will be mostly successful.

However attraction is far superior. You might be saying ,"This shit is stupid Musicgoon. Why shouldn't I go out and practice my game"?

You should practice your game bro. Adjust your focus.

Attraction saves you time. You aren't taking chunks out of your day to cold approach. You're focused on your mission, your enjoyment and leisure.

Attraction increases your retention rates. You want to get laid once or have repeats with the women of your choice. The first time with someone new is always a bit uncalibrated and it gets better as you learn each other.

Attraction is genuine. New guy please read these next sentences: Don't fucking larp. You arent Chad Thundercock. Chances are your personality is incongruent with the character you made up. You're not a emmy winning actor and women will see this glaring discrepancy from miles away. In other words, you're going to look like a creepy piece of shit. Attraction is you being the ever-improving best version of yourself and women liking what they see.

Attraction is good for your frame. You don't have to worry about acting like someone else. You'll know yourself so you'll be more at ease. Also you're confidence will skyrocket because girls will like you for who you are instead of who you're trying to be.

With pickup things can get very stressful. It's a game of input and response. She says something, you respond. If she does something unpredictable you scan your memory banks for the corect thing to say. The correct way to act. Thats fucking exhausting.

Anyways, you either get my point or are probably exhausted reading by now and are ready to say ,"Fuck Musicgoon. He's a fucking assmunch". Well I'm not going to leave you gentlemen without some practical advice.

So lets dive into some of the ways that you can transition from pickup to attraction.

The first exercise would be to read the sidebar in a different way. The sidebar is tools. We as guys focus on the literal part of the sidebar.

Have you ever seen guys on manosphere forums that state ,"The redpill law states_____". Well congrats Lew the Lemming, you just flushed your autonomy and personality down the toilet! You need to embrace your individuality for attraction.

Read the sidebar again and think about context: What is the underlying message and how can I relate that to myself?

A man that really knows himself is very attractive to women. He knows what he wants, he knows his strengths and he can laugh at himself for his mistakes and shortcomings.

Next tip: When someone shows strong attraction to the person they want, that makes them more attactive.

Ex: So handsome ol' Musicgoon was at a rock festival. He was having fun rocking the fuck out when a girl approached him over by the beer tent. She wasn't his Type. A bit too skinny and with a short purple pageboy haircut. Also, she had a peculiar shaped nose. She locked eyes with Musicgoon and said ,"Damn you're super hot! With those muscles and tattoos.... mmm hmm! I told myself, I want to climb that tree"!

So picky Musicgoon changed his mind after he felt thouroghly desired. He thought ,"Dayuuum! This chick is fucking hot! She's definely going to get this"!

This gentleman, is bold overt flirting. It's knowing yourself and you value. This cuts through the bullshit and says, "I like you and I'm telling you what I want". It shows that you understand yourself.

Lets go back to pickup... When you do pick-up, you zero in on a target or a set. You focus you time and energy on one group or one girl. This is acutely myopic. In other words, you don't diversify your options. Think of pickup as really short bursts of oneitis and attraction as a game of spinning plates. You are engaging multiple people in the immediate area. Heres an example:

Musicgoon goes to a bar. Theres a short line to get in. He notices a couple walking two pugs. he stops and asks if he can pet their dogs. He spends some time interacting with the dogs and briefly talks to the couple. He learns that the couple is new to the area. He chats and then says have a great night. He hops in the bar line and sees two cute blond girls in front of him. He listens and stands back. The girls are saying how cute the dogs are. Musicgoon asks them if they got a chance to pet them? The blonds say no. He talks about the dogs and the couple and tells a story about his daughters chiweenie. Then, he pulls back as to not overstay his welcome. (start a chat, make your presence known and move on).

Musicgoon talks to a girl at the bar with a crazy looking banzai tattoo. He talks to the girl for a while, touches her tattoos, gets his drink and walks away. He talks to another girl that looks like Natalie Dormer. He asks her if shes ever heard that before. Her boyfrend comes up to see his girl talking to Musicgoon. Musicgoon greets him ,"whats uo bro", and gives the guy fistbump". He asks the guy if hes ever heard of Natalie Dormer? The two guys talk about Game of Thrones. He makes his presence known and he walks away. The couple with the pugs come into the bar. Musicgoon walks to the cute blonds he met and puts his hands on their shoulders.

"Hey ladies! You get your chance! The dogs are in the bar. Let's go pet them! He grabs the girls by the hands and leads them to the dogs. And he walks away. In a few short minutes he's talked to the majority of the bar and now has carte blanche to go talk to anyone for any reason. And people see Musicgoon making people smile. His social proof and presence are off the charts and he has taken up space in the bar. This is very attractive. Musicgoon now has multiple irons in the fire.

This is how you spin plates in a social situation. Brief fun conversations, then walk away. Make yourself known to everyone around you.

Another tip: You need get a woman to invest in you. Women aren't interested in the journey. don't bore them with your career talk or dry shit. What they want to hear is ideas of a romantic future. You are paint her a mental picture. Here's another story:

Musicgoon is at a quiet coffee shop. He starts talking to a cute redhead. He gets her engaged in the conversation and laughing. They get into the subject of photography. Musicgoon asks ,"Have you ever heard of the International Balloon Fiesta in NM? "Its one of the most photographed events in the world".

Musicgoon tells a story of walking through field filled with hot air baloons. He talks about a night glow where all of the hot air balloons light up the the night sky.

"It really feels completely surreal and beautiful", Musicgoon says. Musicgoon shows pictures of the event from google. "I think it would be magical to go there next year when it happens.

Now notice the words in that last sentence: "Magical", as a word, brings out strong emotions in women. Now Musicgoon didn't invite her. He didnt make any promises. Women love the idea of something romantic. Solipsism makes her insert herself into that story. You start the story and she places herself in as one of the leading roles.

Start this journey off by knowing youself and being honest about what you want. And know that attraction is a slower pace, but yields better connections and passionate sex.