How to be comfortable being alone?

BurnerTRPask · 2016-07-27T14:21:03+00:00

Get a hobby you enjoy.

look4wolfpack · 2016-07-27T14:45:24+00:00

There are really only two theories here.

Create a continuum of loneliness, at one end you're surrounded by engaged and connected people. On the other end you're alone in the void of space. Create markers at every stage of the continuum so that you can always work toward the 'less alone' end. Such as distractions (i.e. movies), places you can go to be around people even if you aren't engaging them (i.e. gym, restaurant, theater) so on and so forth.
Accept that loneliness is the default state of life and that you can't run from it. Engage loneliness and stop being afraid of it. Don't distract yourself, meditate in the void of space. Neutralize the stimuli by process of building a resistance, like you would with poison. A little more every day until your body develops an immunity.

Mudpielol · 2016-07-27T14:26:41+00:00

Edit: Find some activities you enjoy that you can do alone.

Read. Watch movies. Play video games. Listen to music or practice an playing an instrument. Learn to cook. Brew some alcohol. Get a telescope and watch the night sky.

Possibilities are endless.

BusterVadge · 2016-07-27T14:48:43+00:00

Use your alone time to cultivate a hobby that's fun and improves who you are as a person.

I'm alone a lot, and I hike, meditate, and do internet marketing. All three of those hobbies take up a lot of my free time and improve my life more than just sitting around doing nothing.

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2016-07-27T14:49:27+00:00

When you're hanging out with friends, you're doing so out of co-dependence. What goals do you have for yourself? Financial, educational, physical goals? You're not working on those goals when you're with your friends. Think about those goals. It's the little things you do every day that add up to progress.

Splyced · 2016-07-27T16:37:26+00:00

Socialize online, read, explore new topics, listen to podcasts, exercise, cook, organize your life, make yourself better.

AFPJ · 2016-07-27T16:54:02+00:00

Instead of trying to improve your weaknesses, cater to your strengths. People are a great hobby, perhaps one of the best and most useful hobbies too. Throw BBQs, arrange meet ups, people whom you help meet others will be indebted to you - they are often the people who are extraordinarily gifted in solitary pursuits such as engineering, medicine, etc

SexySmexxy · 2016-07-28T12:01:19+00:00

If you have enough friends then there really isn't an issue.

So either make more friends or deal with your loneliness.

There's 7 billion people here, you can probably find 50 or so who actually want to hang out with you.

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frerri · 2016-07-27T14:27:18+00:00

Lol. A great post on this just hit the main sub. Spend more time there.

Certifiedfamilylaw · 2016-07-27T16:21:20+00:00

Dude there is literally a post on the main sub speaking directly to this

intradasting350 · 2016-07-27T16:44:25+00:00

It is obvious that you lack hobbies.

Title	How to be comfortable being alone?
Author	Dustinationn
Upvotes	0
Comments	11
Date	July 27, 2016 2:14 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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