Hey TRP. Long time member, and a small time men's coach here. Been doing this for 10 years and have helped many men unwind themselves from their blue pill mindsets to become more successful and confident in life. One of the hardest thing any man who stumbles upon the Red Pill will have to deal with is the motherfucking motherfucker of all stages, and that is the Anger Phase. It is the most difficult, and longest stage you will go through as a man on his Red Pill Journey.

Why?

There are a number of reasons, but the most enlightening of them all is this harsh reality. YOU ARE STILL BLUE PILLED. If you have animosity towards women, or this "All women are bitches and sluts" type of thought process, it's ONLY BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT THE MAN WOMEN DESIRE, you're an 80%'er and therefore still a Blue Pilled crab. You are on one side of the playground where the playground equipment is crowded, run down, and there is a lot of trash on the ground because city services doesn't bother to come clean it up. A dude who gets women and finds himself successful in life and relationships doesn't have this mentality. Women are a POSITIVE EXPERIENCE for him, as men who are very successful with women ENJOY THEIR COMPANY because those women work hard to make his life better. The "all women are sluts" mentality doesn't even cross his mind because when you have abundance and choices, you have a completely different experience with women than dudes who have to rummage through the trash. Those men get to enjoy the experiences of how far a woman will go to please him, and the last thing it does is anger him. This is the difference between dudes who read the articles and memorize the buzz-words, and those who do the work to internalize it.

Something so many dudes don't understand is, HYPERGAMY ISN'T PERSONAL. It's not about you. Just like everything else about women as individuals, it's all about THEM. Hypergamy is just a process of human nature, and it DOESN'T MEAN YOU CAN'T BE THE DESIRED OUTCOME OF A WOMAN'S HYPERGAMY. HYPERGAMY isn't your enemy. In reality, it's a tool you can use to hone in on the desires of women and optimize your time to become those things... which many men find line up with what they want for themselves as well. And the best news is that you don't even need to reach the pinnacle of existence as a man to keep a harem of beautiful women knocking on your door and blowing up your phone.

Now as for how you get past the anger phase? It's simple, but incredibly difficult. You have to gain some self awareness and find out where you're at in the pecking order. Acknowledge you aren't what women want and then shut the fuck up about it, and about women, and get to work. The work will move you past the anger phase as you become more attractive.

I'll give you an example. When I was 18, I weighed 120lbs. I couldn't bench press 90 lbs when I joined the military. I occasionally got laid, simply because I was funny and charming, and I lived in a college town next to a party house so convenience was on my side too. But this happened rarely, and I had to work my ass off to get women to warm up to me.

Cut to me now at 32. Been in the military for a long time, and while in I started lifting. I've got a 300lb bench press, 365lb ass to grass pause squat, and a 465lb dead lift. I weigh 205 lbs and I'm covered in tattoos. Simply being big and strong compared to when I was 18 has allowed me to see what the other side of the playground is like. Women bump into me at bars to try and start conversation. They write their phone numbers on napkins and place it in front of me when I'm out eating dinner. They let me get away with saying inappropriate stuff to them. They do all the hard work for me.

How can I be angry with women who go out of their way to be nice to me, to give me their attention, their desire, their passion? And that's the point. That's what separates most men who stumble upon the Red Pill from those who live it. The Red Pill will set you free, but it's a motherfucker to get there.

You have to do the work to get past the anger phase. Acknowledging you're not what women want, BUT ONE DAY YOU CAN BE, that's the ticket to leaving all that anger and frustration behind. Lifting, social skills, grooming, dressing better, being ambitious (not even necessarily successful as Will Smith illustrates). Stop holding onto your blue pill anger and hate. It's weak. And it will NEVER make you feel better.