Something feels off about the guy my mom has been aggressively pushing my way as a potential husband. He’s an electrical engineer, has helped me understand my current job in software engineering better, has sent holiday gifts and attempts to offer to fly me out to visit him.

But there are little things that I’m not sure is my anxiety or serious foreshadowing:

  1. He tells my mom everything I tell him. I told him I’m not interested in pursuing a long distance relationship. Cue my mom telling me to reconsider how far I’m willing to go for a good man.
  2. He doesn’t respect my boundaries - in following that I told him I’m not interested like that he calls his boss while we’re talking and introduces me as his girlfriend. I told him I’m not interested in gifts and he asks my mom to send it anyway.
  3. I think he wants us citizenship badly. The way the system works here, the easiest method to becoming a legal immigrant is to marry or come thru family.

What are your thoughts?