[Research paper] Men experience more emotional pain during breakups

NBAYOUNGBOY38__4KT · 2022-02-23T03:44:42+00:00

When my ex and I broke up it took me about a year to be fully over her and I never dated ever within that year (and still haven’t but that’s just cause I’m not looking) but a week after we broke up she was already in another relationship…with one of my best friends.

DaLordOfDarkness · 2022-02-23T03:42:25+00:00

I heard of it, and barely anyone give pity to the male.

his_purple_majesty · 2022-02-23T04:31:42+00:00

My breakup from my 10 year long relationship was excruciating. It just destroyed me.

Rhum-runner · 2022-02-23T03:02:25+00:00

I would argue this is true due to men being most likely to be dumped/divorced by their partner.

pentalana · 2022-02-23T04:48:34+00:00

Because women can easily monkey-branch to the next dick to help them get over the previous one.

manbro7 · 2022-02-23T03:40:18+00:00

You feel responsible for every single thing, even her own bad behaviour. Ur mistake could be a level 10, her reaction and the stress could be level 80. These drove me to break-up. Reflects the research.

Since she could never forgive the way I did, Im pretty certain I was with her cause of love while she was with me for her own self-interests like attention or loneliness. That's why she'll immediately find a new partner for her self interests while I'll have to grieve the whole thing and heal from the stress too

Kettellkorn · 2022-02-23T05:45:29+00:00

I went through my fair share of breakups. One thing I noticed was how dull and long lasting breakups were for me.

I also remember breaking up with someone incredibly toxic, I removed her being distraught for like a week, and I was distraught for about 9 months.

offtable · 2022-02-23T06:33:48+00:00

Because women break up with you waaaay before it actually happens.

Magical-Hummus · 2022-02-23T09:54:56+00:00

Considering the amount of effort needed to do pre-relationship and during-relationship it is imaginable.

__pulsar · 2022-02-23T16:44:58+00:00

No shit. I saw so many guys get heartbroken in high school especially. The trope that women want to settle down but men just want to play the field is completely backwards in most cases.

It makes sense though that women would get over breakups quicker than men. They have other men chasing after them, while men have to do the chasing. Most women (especially attractive ones) have multiple men pursuing them at any given time. When a relationship ends they don't have to seek attention. It comes right to them.

Men have to pick themselves up and put a lot of time and effort into meeting more women. (There are exceptions on both sides, of course.) Many of them end up staying home and stewing for weeks or even months before they finally work up the energy to meet someone else.

And remember, if your girl tells you she wants to see other people or that it's time for a break, 9/10 times she's already moved on to a different guy. Even if she didn't cheat on you physically, she has a guy that she intends to hook up with once you're broken up. Don't waste your time pleading for her to reconsider. She has already moved on and you'll just come off as pathetic. The best thing you can do is remain calm, tell her you agree with the breakup because you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you, and then try to lead your best life from there.

zobeast26 · 2022-02-23T03:24:12+00:00

My theory has always been that woman get hit hardest immediately following the breakup. But they also recover much faster. And tend to have a new partner fairly fast following the breakup. Men on the other hand do progressively worse as time goes by after the breakup. Or at least that’s what I’ve personally experienced.

Intelligent_Set3936 · 2022-02-23T09:57:01+00:00

Im not surprised at all

MarineJP · 2022-02-23T16:20:05+00:00

My problem with this information is that since each person subjectively approaches their pain it is impossible for a true scale to exist.

Feministsareincels · 2022-02-24T06:38:55+00:00

Always better to not get into relationships

pappo4ever · 2022-02-24T09:36:18+00:00

You don't tell. Women recover after days, sometimes after hours. We men take years to recover, if ever.

qianxiaonai · 2022-02-23T10:01:37+00:00

But their pain doesn't count? Ho ho. My 3 year old shows off "but I didn't cry though".

Dikki93 · 2022-02-23T16:37:55+00:00

Not all tbh, its just a question and it's not been worded in an insensitive way.

I would answer the question myself but others have done a much beter job at that.

Title	[Research paper] Men experience more emotional pain during breakups
Author	EricAllonde
Upvotes	276
Comments	48
Date	February 23, 2022 2:36 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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