What to Say When Asking a Father to Marry His Daughter

SBIII · 2022-03-19T18:49:32+00:00

"What is your refund policy?"

PutABabyInThat · 2022-03-19T20:50:09+00:00

red pill lens

You're in his frame.

It's a formality not a sales pitch.

Red-Nerd13 · 2022-03-20T01:14:09+00:00

When I asked my FOL I didn't ask for his permission. I asked for his blessing. I was very intentional about that distinction. It's a formality at this point.

ice_walker · 2022-03-19T19:05:06+00:00

Dude, I swear, no chic can blow like your daughter. Cool If I marry her?

Redpillbrigade17 · 2022-03-19T20:10:57+00:00

You’re overthinking it. Makes me wonder if you’re ready.

nikfury69 · 2022-03-20T11:29:30+00:00

Its respectful, and he should appreciate it. Concur with above, its for his blessing, not his permission. And he should appreciate the difference.

Try a neutral location, something he like. say for coffee. And he's your guest, so your treat. Keep it brief.

Good luck with the marriage.

AcademicDumbass · 2022-03-19T19:43:22+00:00

Doesn’t see how simple it is to have a conversation with another man about marrying his daughter; thinks he’s ready to get married.

Can’t wait to read your first OYS post in two years.

cavemanben · 2022-03-19T20:28:40+00:00

I'd avoid posting in this sub if you are Christian, the super impressive, totally not compensating for their own self doubt uber Chads will tear you apart if you ask or say anything.

May want to direct this question to r/RPChristians.

But the advice here is probably right on the money. Just talk to him, there's nothing special you really need to say. If you can't think of how to approach this, you may not be ready to be her husband and leader.

adeptintact · 2022-03-20T01:13:03+00:00

I think it depends on your girlfriend's relationship with her father. My wife would talk shit about him often and he wasn't around much. However, when he was around she liked him.

I see him as a beta who I myself don't respect much. Thus, I didn't ask him for any type of blessing or shit like that from him. He ended up chipping in for part of the wedding which was nice of him.

I say only do it if he was important to your girlfriend. Otherwise, I don't think it's an alpha move to do. You do what you want to do.

ganjamonsta · 2022-03-20T00:43:47+00:00

It was pretty easy for me as my wife and I were together for over five years before marriage and had lived together most of that time. Her father and I were close enough that he’d call me when he came to town before he called her. It helped that we were very much alike (probably part of why she’s attracted to me).

The night I talked to him about it, we were all at the bar he owned (my wife was there, but I talked to him away from her). Basically, I caught him on his way to the kitchen and said, “hey hold on a second. I’m planning to ask (wife’s name) to marry me, and I would like your blessing.”

His first words were “about time” and he gave me his blessing.

The whole asking for his blessing thing is a show of respect. You can marry her without it, but if you did propose to my daughter without showing some goddamned respect, I’d think you were a little man. If you’re worried that her father would be unfavorable during the conversation, then you’ve got bigger issues to figure out.

khalabrakis · 2022-03-20T16:22:18+00:00

I never asked.

KHVu · 2022-03-19T22:19:34+00:00

Why bother asking when YOU can just do it if that’s what YOU want.

wakawakabrah · 2022-03-30T12:05:19+00:00

why are you asking. If he says no will it matter?

If not then do everyone a favour and stop pretending

KaiPecos · 2022-03-25T12:54:55+00:00

It's a sign of respect to the dad that you want to have his little girl. But you should not be asking him; you need to tell him that you want to marry his girl. If he has any reservations, then he will let you know then. Telling him is a sign of understanding social structure and presenting your masculine confidence, which hopefully will convince him that this is a good idea.

Title	What to Say When Asking a Father to Marry His Daughter
Author	youngzari
Upvotes	1
Comments	27
Date	March 19, 2022 6:11 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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