39(M) Moved out leaving wife and 5 year old son behind.

BonafideZulu · 2022-06-13T04:29:32+00:00

I hope (for your sake) you’ve finalized your divorce, and are just now moving out. If not, move back, immediately. If so, stay strong brother. Look to the future, embrace your new freedoms. You can rebuild. You can still be a father, despite the distance and hardships. Be there for him.

pegleg_legal · 2022-06-13T09:46:47+00:00

Glad she's facilitating. Gotta stay connected with that youngin. Tough to do what you've got to do but you can and will.

tyyyy110 · 2022-06-13T04:14:53+00:00

Wow...im sending you all the strong positive vibes ✨I have bc you're gonna need dude!

Gattsama · 2022-06-13T06:07:26+00:00

Sorry you are going through all this, don't know your story or why you had to move 1700 miles away, but hoping for the best. You are going to hear people say don't leave the marital house (if you want to keep it) or your child without a parenting plan in place (if you want 50/50). But each state and situation is different. Whatever yours may be know this: men can and do cry, it's weak to cry for 'no reason' or when you need to be strong or lead; but it's 100% ok and even good for the soul to cry when it's safe and you can take stock of your emotions. IMHO a strong man is a man that knows when to cry, he has control of his emotions but does not suppress them.

Good luck brother...

azwildcat74 · 2022-06-13T14:30:29+00:00

As someone who works in the transportation industry I would caution you to rethink your timing on all of this!

You're about to take on a job where the norm is 70 hour weeks and that will be your baseline for support of your ex-family going forward. I would STRONGLY advise you to divorce and then start the new career rather than the other way around...

The_Pink_Bull · 2022-06-17T05:27:53+00:00

My dad was maybe that distance away, and not a part of my life. We have no relationship, he checked in on me once a month by phone. I don’t know you, but I’d say move back and take any job, work at Taco Bell if you have to, and be there, in person, for that child. IT WILL make a difference.

Title	39(M) Moved out leaving wife and 5 year old son behind.
Author	Seanw59
Upvotes	7
Comments	21
Date	June 13, 2022 2:19 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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