How do you view arbitrary numbers when it comes to what’s “high” and “low” from past sexual partners?

techr0nin · 2022-06-09T01:46:20+00:00

The actual number is just a proxy for her past sexual behavior. What I am looking for in an LTR partner is a woman with high standards that takes dating seriously and does not engage in casual sex.

trippingfingers · 2022-06-09T01:35:37+00:00

It's all bullshit and the deeper you look into it the more it rots your brain. Just be the person you want to be, be with the person you want to be with, and don't reduce anyone to a set of numbers.

JournalistOld · 2022-06-09T01:42:08+00:00

It isn't arbitrary, people are completely missusing the idea arbitrary when they talk about peoples number. It's just away for the people who fuck to little or to much to calm their anxiety.

People shouldn't feel bad over their lay count but if you think there isn't something to what is high and low you're delusional.

Flightlessbirbz · 2022-06-09T01:57:20+00:00

There is no set number, it’s very much relative to age, and you’re never really going to know someone’s number unless they choose to share, so obsessing about things like “is 7 too many?!” is juvenile and pointless imo. Now I won’t lie, if someone shared with me that they’d been with let’s say 50 or 100 people, I’d see it as a warning that we probably don’t view sex the same way. But there are still gray areas. Like 20 partners at age 25 is a lot, but at 40? Not necessarily. That’s why generally speaking, I believe in “don’t ask, don’t tell” on this. I would avoid a guy with a reputation for sleeping around in recent history, but I really do not care what someone did in college.

LiftSushiDallas · 2022-06-09T01:41:42+00:00

I don't think about it at all. My man has an objectively "high" number but he's with me and he's clean. I don't have any "retroactive jealousy" or any jealousy period, and don't fear his cheating on me.

My man knows my exact number (yes, the TRUE number) and he decided to be with me, so the number was acceptable to him. He cares about how I treat him, not what an N of X should "mean."

stats135 · 2022-06-09T01:47:29+00:00

You are operating in black and white thinking here. Most things operate on a sliding scale. There is a lot of different ways to treat women that exist between wife for life and whore.

In addition, age certainly has to play a role as the older we get, the more of life we will have lived / experienced. So to hold a 30 year old to the same standard of a 18 year old seems odd.

The issue here is that it being older just makes it worse. Sure technically being 30 yo instead of an 18 yo makes a higher n count seem more reasonable, but then she's 30 you old. Having 12 less of her prime years, basically counter acts any and every positive here.

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Patrickstarho · 2022-06-09T02:16:49+00:00

When you cheat yourself, you fail in those moments You know, you crash, and when you really put the time in and Whether people see it, or whether people know it or not You know, it always come to light

Coolio_Street_Racer · 2022-06-09T02:16:53+00:00

I don't need a virgin SO. I don't want a SO who has been passed around.

If she was with mostly respectable guys and didn't have much sex outside of a relationship. It's good enough for me.

All in all though prob less than 5 partners at the most. If she is really a great match

Title	How do you view arbitrary numbers when it comes to what’s “high” and “low” from past sexual partners?
Author	Consistent_Builder66
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	June 9, 2022 1:33 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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