I remember being a 20 year old man bitter at the quality of girls I was pulling. Looking back I cringe at how stupid and entitled I was. I was a 145 lb asian college student with shitty facial hair and little going on in my life. I was a student, had friends, and did sports, but just smoked weed and partied. I didn't even get attention from girls at parties 90% of the time cause why would I? I was skinny and underdeveloped and dressed like shit.

If you don't get girls right now, that might not be your fault. You might be poor due to circumstance, you might've had shit parents, you might've been born short and haven't excelled elsewhere. We all have our gifts and our curses. Some seem blessed with nothing but gifts and that might not be fair, but hard work always pays off.

Visualize and experiment and try to paint the picture of the man you want to become. Obviously that man is someone who gets girls or you wouldn't be here, so keep that in mind. For example, and I'm fully welcoming you to steal my thunder here, it would be literally impossible for a man to not get laid who's 185 lb of lean muscle, semi retired owning one or two rental properties, working part time as a bartender. He's made himself attractive, he's made himself wealthy, he's made himself well connected and skilled, he's given himself freedom and he puts himself in an environment where dozens of beautiful women will come to him for a conversation on a nightly basis. He's made himself attractive and given himself a catwalk to walk on. I think that's the key

That's who I'm working to become(a barebones version of it.) You can become all that in 5 years if you tried. And the quality of girl you attract will improve on the way there. Now, if you're 5'2, I know telling you to become 185 lb is like telling me to become 245 lb at 5'10. Gifts and curses, you might need to go the extra mile in the gym if you know what I'm saying, and no one will fault you. Moral of the story, paint a picture in your head of the man you want to become and keep in mind that you want that man to get girls. Make that picture a reality

Some people might wanna go to thailand as an expat. Some people might want to be a top dog lawyer. Some a charter boat owner and captain or business owner, whatever your thing is, paint your future and make it a reality

And don't base your entire future around girls. I want that reality because it offers me freedom(my number one value and if it wasn't, being a bartender wouldn't be as "glorious"), connections, a fun environment, and an industry I'm passionate about (real estate.) The girls were a work in