Why does it seem like everyone’s first response is telling people to seek professional help?

a-man-from-earth · 2022-09-04T21:49:04+00:00

We as a group need to be more supportive and more sensitive to what people are going through!

That also means you need to show more tact and openness to the people who answer here. It seems you're fishing for a specific kind of answer, and are quite dismissive when you don't get what you expect. If that's how you're going to handle this discussion, then we will shut it down. So please, let's be positive.

mgtowolf · 2022-09-04T02:31:19+00:00

Plus not everyone can afford it. Plus some therapists suck and will make things worse for men seeking help. One "therapist" I saw for a while kept trying to make me blame myself and my behavior for the abuse a psycho bitch ex heaped on me. Oh she did that, what did you do to make her act like that? etc etc. Dude was a moron.

Complex_Experience83 · 2022-09-04T12:58:01+00:00

I recently read a post from a therapist where she talked about not wanting to gate keep the mental health space. She provides tons of free tools to use to help yourself and your friends and family.

There are things that need professional help, but that doesn't mean non "professional" people cant help you. Sometimes all we need is for someone to listen and say "i hear you" "you are not alone" "How can I support you?". It requires a level of emotional intelligence that shouldn't be assumed, but doesn't require someone be a LCC. IMO counselors can only do so much. They can offer tools and provide confidentiality, but you may only see them once a week? once a month? Who do you call when you're struggling during the week or late a night? I know many struggle with supportive friends and thats a real tragedy. but just because someone isnt a counselor doesn't mean they are useless.

I'm a part of a mens group in my area. One of our members is a breakthrough coach. the rest of us are just doing our best to be emotionally intelligent and supportive people. We've learned all kinds of ways to communicate and support each other. Its not a replacement for "professional help" but it is so incredibly valuable.

I encourage every man to find brothers that want to go deeper, be vulnerable, and support each other to do that. Fuck the masculine stereotype that we must me strong and hide our feelings for fear of being "gay". For me, its life or death to be open, honest, and vulnerable with a group of men and it has brought so much into my life to be open with the close friends in my life, none of which are "professional counselors"

the barriers to counseling should keep someone from being open and honest with their friends and family.

michaelpaoli · 2022-09-04T03:49:02+00:00

Why

You should seek professional help with that question.

;-)

Arguesovereverythin · 2022-09-04T04:03:35+00:00

You can ask people in Reddit to help you diagnose a tumor. It's possible to find someone that can do it. But it would be better to see a doctor.

Depression can be life threatening. It needs to be treated seriously.

PineappleScanner · 2022-09-04T00:39:02+00:00

Because trauma and mental health issues have really deep roots, deeper than even the victims realize. The average joe can’t really do more than listen and say “I’m sorry, that sounds really hard”

A trained professional is often the only person who can give an individual the insight they need to untangle the mess.

Trying to “fix” someone’s trauma/mental health issues has a good chance of making it worse.

We’re social creatures, supportive friends/family/groups are essential to the process, but not the only part.

Source: Grew up in abusive household, suffered from suicidal depression and anxiety, looked to friends and the internet for advice, only got worse until I found a good therapist

Edit: Yeah therapists can’t be there 24/7, and they aren’t meant to be. A therapist isn’t there to “fix” problems. A therapist is there to slowly help an individual expose their unhealthy thought patterns and behaviors, so the individual can work to change it. It’s a very long term, and sometimes painful process. One session a week is about the shortest possible increment you can get without diminishing returns imo.

no_user_ID_found · 2022-09-04T08:00:42+00:00

Because in Europe professional help is affordable.

Iceman_Hottie · 2022-09-04T14:21:39+00:00

Most professionals are at least vaguely competent, and will try to truly help. Psychological issues are very complex and trickle down into many things.

Another part of this response stems from legalese, so as not to get targeted for malicious prosecution. Its not necessarily about winning a case, but using the judicial process as punishment and providing a cheaper settlement. To most people even the settlement will be devastating, so the settlement will be extremely tempting if not the only option. Some people are assholes.

Title	Why does it seem like everyone’s first response is telling people to seek professional help?
Author	bitchboy69420blaze
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Date	September 3, 2022 10:52 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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