Should I try to self discover more?

anothergoodbook · 2022-09-22T01:06:34+00:00

I don’t think it’s a bad thing to be happy and feel like your cup is full. However I can definitely see where your husband is coming from. Now that my kids are older and don’t really need me, I find myself with more free time. Having things I already do has helped with the transition.

arthuriduss · 2022-09-22T01:39:48+00:00

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being content with where you are, you’re living my dream! But if you are looking to explore a bit, I can recommend a couple of things.

This may not be for everyone, but I love gaming. It gets a negative reputation and many people think it’s only a male hobby, but I absolutely love to unwind for a bit and play The Sims, Stardew Valley, or Animal Crossing on my switch. All you need is a console (I play games on my computer and Nintendo Switch) and you’re good to go.

If that isn’t your thing, working out is such a rewarding hobby that betters your mind as well as your body. Once you find a gym you’re comfortable at and start going regularly, it becomes one of the best parts of the day.

cohost3 · 2022-09-22T04:02:10+00:00

I think men sometimes misunderstand female hobbies. Thats because our hobbies are not usually seen as hobbies. I see going out for coffee or watching drama shows as a hobby.

I watch YouTube videos about fan theories just like my husband watches YouTube videos about mechanics. I research the best latte spots and go their to chat with friends just like men go to the shooting range.

If nothing interests you, chances are you already have a female hobby that you didn’t know was a hobby.

Edit: Do you cook or bake for your family? That’s another female hobby! When your nest is empty your meals can start becoming more lavish lol.

Candle_Playful · 2022-09-22T03:40:10+00:00

I love my son and am happy with him and keeping my house and man happy, too. I work selectively as a professional house cleaner so that keeps me fit, make some money, etc. I love my plants, trying new cleaning tactics, reading, slowly learning how to cook more things.

Maybe sewing nice things for yourself would be fun? I got even better at my cleaning because it was necessary for my sanity with a new baby lol

MiracleMorni · 2022-09-22T09:15:19+00:00

First of all it is totally beautiful that you feel that way. So no you don’t have to worry. In terms of finding hobbies if you feel this can be interesting: I can recommend reflecting on what you used to love doing as a child, e.g. drawing, ballet, anything. If you still don’t find this helps you can also always improve in the area of housewifing and mothering. Read books or watch videos on how to raise better kids or how to bake nice and healthy treats :)

aslanhatessmeagol · 2022-09-22T12:21:09+00:00

No it is not bad. He asked because he cares about you. Just tell him you are happy with what you are doing.

He probably thought you were stressed and that's good he asked you that.

Teacup000 · 2022-09-22T01:41:16+00:00

Hmm...I think the best thing might be to tell him that you appreciate his love and support, and that you'll tell him if you need his help, but right now you're okay.

If you really want to get a hobby, maybe start with baking or reading something that interests you. Libraries often have storytimes for babies, so you could check out something when you and baby are up for an outing!

NamelessOneHere · 2022-09-22T18:09:26+00:00

I think you sound very happy and content! However, I do think you could start to slowly work on making some new friends. And I think that as your baby turns into a toddler, your family will benefit from a bit of a bigger social circle.

I'm saying this as a super shy person myself. I homeschool my kids, which means I really needed to build a community for them. But even if your kids go to daycare and school, they'll benefit from having a sense of shared community.

Having hobbies does make it easier to make friends, too.

NafeliDoritos · 2022-09-22T01:06:01+00:00

The mother’s instinct and psychology is to raise the children and take care of the husband, and you will surely be happy in this life, and the instinct of the man is to bring more money and make you in the best condition and feel safe with him. But if you feel bored, you can practice some hobbies at home, and if it is outside the house, you should know that care is the most important and priority for children

minnemjeff · 2022-09-22T04:48:23+00:00

Yeah just do it more

AutoModerator · 2022-09-22T00:46:31+00:00

Title: Should I try to self discover more?

Full text: I wasn’t too sure where else to post this & not get completely shit on for it. So here it goes.

I married the first man that I was ever with. We’ve been married for almost 7 years & things are great. We just had our first child in June.

The way I see him interact with our daughter makes me want to improve myself. I want to be better & do better. He is a wonderful dad & husband.

I’m a SAHM. My husband said that he wants me to find a hobby. He’s worried that I’m not spending enough time on myself. He doesn’t want me to be lost once our daughter gets older & does her own thing.

My question is, is it bad that I’m completely happy doing what I’m already doing? My cup is so full (in a good way) with being a wife & mother. My home & family is everything to me.

When I think of hobbies, nothing really interests me. I like plants. 🪴 Yeah, having some friends would be nice but true friends are hard to find. I don’t know too many other women that I can relate to if I’m being honest.

I’m perfectly content raising babies & taking care of my husband. Is that bad? Should I have more goals? It’s just got me thinking really hard.

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Title	Should I try to self discover more?
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Date	September 22, 2022 12:46 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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